Wax Play Guide

Wax play is a form of temperature play. It is a practice often associated with BDSM. It can be as gentle or painful as you like.  It does involve fire so it is probably best not to attempt it without thinking about a few things first. It generally takes the form of either dripping or ladling hot wax from a pot or a candle onto another person or even painting it on. Here are a few tips and pointers to ensure nobody gets more hurt than they actually want to.


Photo: Red Candle Melting on Woman

There are three types of wax, Beeswax, which should never be used, as it has a melting temperature of about 70 c and will hurt like hell.

Parrafin, which melts at about 54 c, is the best wax to use if you are planning on making a habit of wax play as you can add mineral oil to cool it or use stearine to make it hotter. Paraffin wax also slightly reddens the skin and is very easy to remove.

Then there is soy, this wax burns at the lowest temperature, so is great for beginners but can be a bit sticky. It is a very soft wax though so it is very hard to make tapered candles from. Soy is a good choice for anyone with sensitive skin as it is much less likely to cause irritation.

Wax dripped from a tapered end will be hotter than wax dripped from a pillar candle or votive as the melted wax has more time to cool down. Some people say that coloured candles are hotter than white ones, this isn’t technically the case, the same type of wax burns at the same temperature whatever the colour, but darker colours retain the heat for longer so take longer to cool down.

You should never use metallic candles, they contain poisonous particles and not only burn but scar too. The same goes for scented candles. Some people are attracted to using them because you can the massage with them, but if that is your aim then Adultsmart sell massage candles specifically made for this purpose, such as ‘sSin in a Tin” and a range by Karmasutra.

White household candles are fine to start with as long as you are sure they are paraffin, candles without ingredients listed on them should be avoided and as with most things, you get what you pay for.

It is a unique sensation and not for everyone, there are submissives out there capable of taking the pain of a flogging who can’t take wax play and likewise, those who generally can’t take pain who get a real taste for it, so this isn’t something you should just surprise someone with. Even for those who like pain, start gently because you don’t want the pain to result in burns or scars. The best way is to drip some wax on the inside of the arm first to test. The height that you drip from will change the temperature, the more distance between the wax and the body the cooler. The candles you buy in adult stores advise 36 inches, BDSM enthusiasts seem to favour 18 inches. It has to be the right height not to splatter too as that can be very painful. It goes without saying that different areas of the body are more sensitive than others and the face should always be avoided. Another thing is that wax that pools will take much longer to cool so be extremely wary of the belly button or small of the back. Piercings can be a problem too as sliding hot wax along with a metal conductor and a tiny hole doesn’t mix well. Always start with only one candle, a double layer of wax will take twice as long to cool. You can always place your hand over the cooling wax before you apply second layers, this is also a nice way to connect.  If the pain of the wax is just too much but one of you is really into it, you could wrap your partner in cling wrap or mix it up with a bit of mummification and apply it over the thin cotton bandage.  Rotate the candle so it burns evenly and you don’t get the horrible black soot affecting the aesthetics of your wax work.


Photo: Wax and Temperature Play


It is best to tie back the hair and shave if possible, removing wax from body hair is simply not sexy. If you can’t do that then coating the hair with silicone lube before hand will help and be sure to wash off all body products as the alcohol in them can react badly to hot wax.   Have some cold water on hand and make sure you clear a good space. Probably best to have some burn cream on hand too before you start.

Wax is very messy so it is always best to be prepared and lay down a sheet, the dye in candles is impossible to remove from somethings. If wax does get on furniture or carpets just cover the area with kitchen paper and iron over it the wax will soak into the paper.  Removing the wax from the body can be part of the play, compressing and stretching the skin will help and some people like to combine it with knife play. (probably best to start off with a butter knife) Using fingernails or a comb can feel pretty good too.  For some the satisfaction comes from lifting it off in a sheet, especially if making moulds of body parts, and as I mentioned before paraffin candles are best for that.  Softer wax is harder to remove but you can cool it down with ice cubes. Speaking of which, the human body can initially only feel differences in temperature and doesn’t distinguish between hot or cold, I read an amusing story about a blindfolded sub trying to blow out an ice cube.

If wax art is your thing then use kids crayons, they are non-toxic and melt at a good temperature, they aren’t 100% wax though so leave a sticky residue and may not be good for very sensitive skins.

Temperature play lends itself marvellously to other sensation play, Hoods and blindfolds, ice cubes, Wartenberg wheels, your imagination is really all that is stopping you.  We sell several brands of candles designed specifically for wax play in our Oh Zone stores, come down and give it a go. Click the link to see our range of massage candles.

About the author: Emily is a consultant from Oh Zone Adult Lifestyle Centres




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