When it comes to intercourse, oral sex is quite important and essential. It creates the perfect mood for exciting and enjoyable sex. Each person is stimulated differently and the same technique may not work on different women or men. However, when it comes to oral sex the fun is in exploring the possibilities. Some methods can open a whole new level of satisfaction for your partner and make them want to grab you and just make you moan their name.
No matter what type of relationship you are into, how good you are at giving head speaks volumes. If you want to create a good impression on the other person, it is always advisable to learn some mind-blowing techniques.
Techniques to Satisfy Your Girl
Let’s start with men as understanding female oral sex is a little more complicated. The different parts like the vulva, labia, and clitoris may confuse you but do not worry, we have got you covered.
When it comes to oral sex for women, you can get her wet even without touching her down there. The key is patience, women like to take it nice and slow. Start with her neck as it is one of the most sensitive areas on a woman’s body. Kiss her in the neck gently and softly nibble her neck and ears.
While your mouth is busy kissing her neck passionately, use your hand to cup her breasts and stimulate her nipples. This step is crucial when it comes to any type of sexual activity. Breasts are probably the second most sensitive area on a woman’s body after her clitoris. You can either massage her tits gently or just brush her nipples with your fingers.
Next, you will want to reach down there with your fingers. Keep her panties in and brush her vagina with your fingers. By now, you will be able to feel her wet over her panties. Slide the cloth to one side so that you can touch her and move your fingers softly towards her clitoris. You may still want to continue with the kisses as oral stimulation is necessary.
When you finally take off her panties, don’t try to finger her immediately. Rub her clitoris with your thumb and you can even stroke it gently with your fingers. When you feel her moaning or breathing heavily it is time to enter her. Slowing starts with one finger and depending on how she reacts to it you may move on to inserting fingers.
The Oral Sex
It is important to understand that for women, orgasm can be achieved in two ways. The first is through the clitoris and the second is through the G-spot. Most women enjoy clitoral orgasm more than the G-spot orgasm. During oral sex, the former is easier to achieve, and lucky for you it’s more pleasurable for your girl.
A common notion about men is that they do not know where the clitoris is, this has been proven to be true in several cases. The clitoris is the small protruding portion over the vagina.
1). Using the tongue and the clitoris:
This technique is the easiest but is quite effective. This mainly includes stroking the clitoris gently with your tongue. Start slowly as you will need to build up the speed gradually. The main thing about this technique is to locate the clitoris accurately. Once you are sure about that, proceed to wet your tongue with your saliva and start licking her. You can also gently kiss her clitoris and suck it.
2). Tongue and vagina:
The best part about female oral sex is that there is a lot of space for experimentation and exploration. The tongue can do a lot for women and using it tactfully is the best thing you can do for her. Extend your tongue and enter her vagina and watch her go crazy.
Use your fingers to gently rub the clitoris while you use your tongue to enter her vagina and go in and out. This movement is capable of creating a powerful orgasm and a magical experience for your girl.
3). Tongue and finger:
The tongue and finger combination create the best orgasm for women if used properly. Start with licking her clitoris gently with your tongue, make sure you start slow and nice. While your mouth is busy with that, use your finger to enter her vagina. Don’t forget the dirty talk and choking.
However, make sure you know that your girl enjoys it. You can also use the finger and tongue interchangeably. The in and out motion of the finger inside her creates a stimulation for the G-spot while the tongue stimulates the clitoris. Build up the speed gradually to give her the most incredible orgasm.
4). Tongue and nose:
Very few people remember to include the nose while giving a girl head. Yes, you heard it right, the nose can be quite a useful portion if used properly. While you are using your tongue to fuck her vagina, use your nose to rub the clitoris.
The best way to do this is to drag the nose from the bottom of her vagina to the top. Do this and watch your girl go crazy over you. Since this move is done by very few, it becomes quite an impressive thing, and it tells your girl that you are enjoying yourself as much as she is.
5). Don’t forget her mouth:
When it comes to women, the overall experience counts. For a great experience, try to include more of her senses while you are down there eating her out. The mouth can create quite a stimulation in the exciting process. Just do this simple move to drive your girl crazy.
After you have fingered her or before, make her suck your fingers and get them wet. This shows your girl who is in charge. If she likes to be the submissive female, then use this opportunity to fulfil her sexual desires. Choke her gently, this creates a sensation of pleasure as well as kissing her occasionally while you are giving her head.
Techniques to Satisfy Your Man
For men, it’s less about the foreplay and more about the hand job and blowjob. However, the most important part is to remember to not use your teeth. Women! Do not use your teeth while sucking his cock. This is not only painful for him but is extremely embarrassing for you. It instantly gives away that you have zero experience and failing to satisfy his needs may cause him to drift away from you.
It is not difficult to make your man cum as long as you use the correct techniques. Unlike women, oral sex for men is comparatively easier and the orgasm is also quick. Therefore, you will not have to work too much to make him fall head over heels for you.
What men want:
Now, my ladies! Remember that men like to feel in charge while you are giving head. The best way to start with the blow job is to sit on your knees while he stands. However, it is essential to remember your boundaries. If it is your first time, you will most likely gag very often and may even throw up. So, talk to him beforehand about it and ask him to be gentle with you. Once you get that hang of it, there is no stopping him from moaning and screaming your name. Here are some quick and easy step-by-step instructions to understand the science of blowjobs.
1). Wet it out:
The first step is to make sure that you wet his penis, skilling this step will make the whole process extremely painful for your guy. The foreskin does create a lot of friction if it is dry. Usually, the penis itself secretes precum which is enough to make him wet. However, the easiest way to achieve that perfect lubricated effect is to use your spit.
Yes! While you are still giving him a hand job and have not yet started sucking his dick, use your spit to wet him. You can take some on your palm or directly spit on his cock. While you are giving him that hand job, it is incredibly sexy to maintain eye contact. Do not forget to kiss him and make it a personal affair for the both of you.
2). Open wide:
No, we are not talking about your legs, not yet. This has to do with your mouth, open your mouth wide and use your lips to suck his dick. Create a kind of vacuum within your mouth that mimics a vagina and gives him immense pleasure.
As mentioned earlier make sure you avoid your teeth. You can also occasionally use your hand along with your mouth while giving him head. If you feel your mouth and jaws getting tired from all that hard work, you can quickly switch to a hand job for a couple of minutes.
3). Use the tip wisely:
The tip of the penis is probably the most sensitive area of his dick, so if you want to show him some good time, pay special attention to this pink area on his cock. Use your hands to stroke his dick gently and wise your tongue to lick the tip of the penis.
Another good way to include that portion into the process is to use your mouth to suck only the tip. You can also kiss it as you normally would. While you are on your knees during this whole process, do not forget to look up at night from time to time. This will make him go wild.
4). Don’t forget the balls:
When it comes to oral sex for men, many girls forget the balls. This is quite an important portion that needs to be stimulated along with the dick. The process to do that is quite similar. You can start by licking his balls while you are still giving him a hand job.
Then slowly move on to sucking on his balls, one at a time. Switch between the balls and the dick to make him go crazy. You can also tease him and use your hands to play with his calls before starting the blowjob.
5). Be a good girl:
During oral sex as well as sex in total, men like to play the boss and expect the dominant one. So let him be the man and try to understand what he wants from you. A very common move is holding the hair or your ponytail.
When you are down on your knees giving his head, it is natural for several men to hold the head of the girl to control the motion. Occasionally they like to thrust their duck inside you, mad love to hear the girl choke and gag on the dick.
In some rare cases, oral sex may also lead to some sexually transmitted diseases, therefore stay safe when you are engaging in the act of oral sex with your partner. The above techniques are commonly used by several people and have been deemed efficient by many. Be it your girl or your man, do not forget to communicate with them during the whole process, because understanding each other is essential.
There may be some boundaries for your partner, understand what they want and what they do not before you try out anything new. Make sure they feel safe and consent is extremely important. Respecting your partner’s boundaries is sexier than anything else. It is also a well-known fact that you will get better with time, so do not be too rough on yourself. Make sure you stay in practice!
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