Winter’s Remarkable Advantage On Sexual Attraction

Sexy woman in winter

On the off chance that you see your bedroom experiences warming up as the temperatures cool down, it appears you are not the only one. Researchers have found that men were more excited by sexy pictures of ladies amid colder months than they were in the hotter months. This means, men can become more sexually aroused during the winter!

Men Analysed Photos Of Women During The Different Seasons

In a study, 114 men were tested who were aged from 16 years old to 53 year olds. The men had to rate the level of attraction they had towards women. The men submitted their results four times over the span of a year which were organised according to the changing of the season. The men were given two different photos of women to analyse. One displayed their faces whereas the other displayed their bodies wearing swimmers or zoomed in detailed photos of their cleavage.

The final results of the study revealed that the level of sexual attraction that the men felt towards the photos of the women’s faces remained the same throughout the year. Surprisingly, the men’s levels of attraction to the photos of the women’s bodies were rated higher during winter. The months of December, January and February which are the winter months of Europe had the highest levels of attraction when compared with the summer months of June, July and August. The study also produced comparable results on men who had lovers and the results showed that they were also more attracted to their partner during the winter. The study was published in the The Psychology of Human Sexuality.

The Main Differences Between Winter And Summer

There are some main difference between the seasonal changes of winter and summer which may attribute to the results that were gathered. During winter when it is cold, a lot of women wear clothing to keep themselves warm. This means that they can wear layers of clothing that covers the figure of their body. Typically in summer when it is hot, women are more likely to be found wearing less clothing. So rather than wearing bulky jumper and jeans they may wear singlet tops with shorts. This type of clothing can show off their figure. During winter and summer the face tends to be uncovered by pieces of clothing. They may wear hats and sunglasses to shield themselves from the sun or beanies to protect them from the cold, but the face itself generally remains the same.

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Sex Toy Shopping Sales Increase In Winter

Stephen a consultant from Oh Zone Adult Lifestyle Center said “There is a spike in the offers of sex toy from winter going into Spring yet sales drop off amid the late spring months. There are various reasons as to why sales decrease in the harsh elements climate, but it can probably be likened to humans relationships to the weather and the availability of outdoor activities”.

Hormone Changes And Seasonal Effective Disorder

Some people hypothesize that men’s hormone levels also change depending on the climate. If we were also take into consideration that Seasonal Effective Disorder is a diagnosed medical condition where people experience periods of depression during certain seasons. For people who experience Seasonal Effective Disorder the times that they experience depression tends to remain the same each New Year. Most people who experience this disorder have recorded that it occurs during the winter seasons. It is less likely caused during the sunnier seasons of spring and summer. This changes can also have a surprising impact on people’s sexual lifestyles due to the increased levels of tiredness and lethargy experienced.

Birthing Rates In The United Kingdom

In another study in 2015 which was reported by the Independent had analysed the United Kingdom’s birthing rates. The results had found that there were more babies born during September and October than any other months of the year. This means that the women would have conceived the child back in January of the same year or December of the previous year which are during winter.

 

You can masturbate to stay warm this winter like using a body wand through clothes, engaging in temperature play, using warming lubricants, use sex toys that you can wear, use sex toys that heat up or accessories that heat up your sex toy and use waterproof sex toys to use in a hot bath or showers.

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Stephen is a cis-gendered gay male who spends far too much time with his two cats and eating tim tams. A self-identified sex-positive advocate he cares deeply about gender equality, disabilities, sexual education and social issues. Opinionated and bold he isn’t afraid to speak his mind and say what others won’t. With a yearning for knowledge and experience in all things relating to sex, he is a prolific writer that has developed the content for a myriad of informative Sexual Health and Wellness websites.

Stephen’s articles and writings tends to focus on social issues, sexual education, queer issues and all things fetish and absurd. He comes qualified with the completion of a double Bachelor degree in Social Sciences and literature, and a Masters in Education.

Top 4 Lubricant Recommendations For Women In 2017

Woman who needs personal lubricant

As a woman, I understand that it can be a bit of a challenge finding the perfect personal lubricant. There exists so many brands on the market that it is an overwhelming endeavour if you have no idea what exactly you are searching for. The pH balance of a woman’s vagina is very fragile, with caution around what goes in and near there necessary to maintain a healthy balance. For women, especially those that are prone to vaginal infections and thrush, I recommend investing in a good quality lubricant free of nasty ingredients. Your body will thank you for it! I have compiled a list of my favourite personal lubricants that I recommend for women, perfect for a range of needs.

Intimate Earth Hydra & Defense

It is not a coincidence that I have included Intimate Earth Glide first off – This brand is my absolute favourite! Intimate Earth products are made in the USA and include organic ingredients. Both Hydra and Defense are vegan, glycerine and paraben free.

Hydra is a natural plant cellulose with minimal smell and a really nice glide to it. This is a great product for a woman looking for a simple lubricant that can be used for vaginal and anal sex with sex toys.

Defense includes tea tree oil, giving it a stronger fragrance which I personally love. Tea tree oil has natural antibacterial qualities which gives this lubricant a protective quality. The Carrageenan Sea Kelp and Guava Bark Anti-Bacterial extract found in this lubricant is said to be used for anti-yeast infection and HPV protection. Without reading peer-reviewed research, I am reluctant to validate these claims however it is an amazing lubricant for many other reasons including the smooth texture.

I find these lubricants do not go sticky or tacky like many other water based lubricants however the only down side would be that frequent reapplication is necessary.

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JO For Her Agape Water Based Personal Lubricant

Coming in at a very close second place, JO For Her Agape Water Based Personal Lubricant is an incredible product that never lasts long in the Oh Zone Adult Lifestyle Centres due to its popularity. JO Agape is Glycerin, Glycol and Paraben free making it a great option for most women. The formula is on the slightly thin side with a super silky glide. I have found this lubricant to be very long lasting compared to many other water based products on the market. A big thumbs up from me!

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Pjur Woman & Nude

I know that it is a bit of a generalisation but the people of Germany sure know how to make great sex toys and lifestyle products! Pjur is one of the most well know personal lubricant brands, with the Pjur Original Silicone Based Lubricant one of the best sellers in the Oh Zone Adult Lifestyle Centres. Pjur Woman is a tweaked version of the Pjur Original silicone lubricant, with the slightly gentler formula perfect for many women. Silicone lubricant is great for sex and massage however can only be used with glass or steel sex toys. Unlike water based lubricants, your skin does not absorb silicone lubricant therefore it needs to be washed off with soap and water and can stain sheets so be mindful when using it. A study also showed that some women have a higher chance of having a negative reaction to silicone lubricant compared with water-based so be mindful of this when trying it. Silicone lubricant is great but does not suit every woman.

Pjur Woman Nude is a water based lubricant that I have reviewed previously and have only good things to say about. Free of parabens and glycerine, Nude is a perfect accompaniment to your sex drawer. It can be used with most sex toys too. A little bit goes a long way with this fantastic lubricant.

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Wildfire Black All Over Pleasure Oil

Wildfire All Over Pleasure Oils are my favourite multi-purpose massage oils, made in Australia from 100% natural ingredients. The Black bottle take precedence on my bedside drawer, with this oil great to use as lubricant, massage, bath and body oil. The Black contains fragrant essential oils such as Ylang Ylang, Patchouli and Bergamot along with natural aphrodisiacs like Maca and Horny Goat Weed. It is important that if you are using latex condoms, anything oil based will disintegrate the material making them almost useless. Just with silicone lubricant, oil is only to be used with glass or steel toys. Keep this in mind if using Wildfire Oil as lubricant and be mindful that oil will stain the sheets! A hot tip for you – Mix the Wildfire Pleasure Oil with some warm coconut oil to make it go further when using it for massage.

Every woman’s body is unique and will react differently to each of these products. I suggest trying on a small patch of skin first to ascertain if you have any reactions. If during or after use of these products you experience any unusual symptoms, please cease using them. It is definitely not worth pushing through if your body has a negative reaction to any product. Oh and don’t worry gentleman, despite these products being recommended for women, they are perfectly safe for men too!

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Author: Stephanie Curtis- BA Nursing

Meet the newest member to our team of experts. Stephanie Curtis is a sexologist with a huge capacity to care. Involved in spirituality and tantra her articles are professional, articulate and interesting. Enjoy Steph’s writings at the adultsmart sexual wellness and health blog.

VIP Interview With Lisa Clampitt Matchmaker, Author & Relationship Expert

Expert Matchmaker Lisa Clampitt

Lisa Clampitt is an industry leader in the field of matchmaking and has founded Lisa Clampitt Matchmaking as well as the Matchmaking Institute offering high quality services to singles and people who are interested in starting a career in matchmaking. Since 1991 she has dedicated her life to learning everything that is needed to know about relationships, dating and sexuality so that she was able to become one of the best.

Lisa Clampitt Matchmaking offers a variety of services which helps men and women find real love in New York. The services are offered by a range of experts in the field of romance and relationships which will help you connect with a special someone within your area. Qualified candidates are able to have a complimentary consultation. Lisa Clampitt Matchmaking also offers coaching services, one of the main skills they teach is the SWOT Analysis which helps you understand what you want in your relationships. It will help you to understand who you are and the type of people you would like to attract.

The Matchmaking Institute is one of the only accredited schools in the state, licensed by the New York Department of Education. They have worldwide conferences, live training programs, and educational literature. When you become accredited you will be able to have a career on your own schedule and in the comfort of your own home or company so you are able to best support your clients,.

This is a VIP Interview With Lisa Clampitt The Founder & President Of Lisa Clampitt Matchmaking.

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Tell me about yourself

Lisa Clampitt, LMSW, is the founder and president of Lisa Clampitt Matchmaking (formally VIP Life), the founder and president of the Matchmaking Institute, a professional matchmaker and relationship expert for over 20 years, a book author and a New York State Licensed Master of Social Worker since 1991. I was educated at New York University, receiving a BA in Dramatic Literature, and received my graduate degree, a Masters in Social Work, from the University of Michigan.

In 2001 I created VIP Life, Now Lisa Clampitt Matchmaking; a high end personalized matchmaking service creating a bridge into a social network that allows my clients to feel as if “they have a best friend”, to introduce them to other amazing singles.

I founded the Matchmaking Institute in 2003 to set a code of ethics and strict quality standards in the matchmaking industry. It is the first institute offering a Certification in Matchmaking. We offer a professional matchmakers network, matchmaking workshops, yearly world-wide professional conferences providing matchmakers with a group of peers & support and is the only State Licensed matchmaking school in the world.

I have been so lucky to have become a top matchmaking and relationship expert and have had extensive National and international press coverage including ABC’s 20/20, the O’Reilly Factor, Time Magazine, Cosmopolitan Magazine, Forbes.com, Worth Magazine, Crane’s New York, the Wall Street Journal, the New York Times, Reuters and Today in New York among many other media outlets.

I am also the author of two books on matchmaking published in September 2007, Make Me a Match: The 21st Century Guide to Finding and Using a Matchmaker and Matchmaking From Fun to Profit: A Complete Guide to Turning Your Matchmaking Skills into a New Business.

What inspired you to become a matchmaker and create the Matchmaking Institute?

After spending many years as a social worker, I noticed a common thread. There is nothing more powerful than helping people find love. For me, if you have love, you have everything. But finding love can be a struggle – so much so that we put it off until it feels too late.

It became my mission to help people create long-term compatibility by fostering real connections. And when creating that connection, time is our most precious commodity. And the more you have to offer, the more difficult it is to meet that special someone.

That’s why I bring my social work skills to the table so I can honestly listen to you – truly understanding your relationship goals, values, and personality – and match you with someone of equal quality and style.

What inspires you?

The first is a quote from my dad from all his work giving the under privileged a voice in the world through media

“Responsibility Transforms”

And another also from the work my dad did, one of the teens that was interview said

“I am afraid to tell you who I am, because if you don’t like me, I am the only me I got”.

What is it like being a matchmaker?

Being a matchmaker is exciting, inspiring and I feel like I am changing the world by helping people find the tools they need to find and keep a healthy relationship. It has changed my life from and intense and regimented social work career to one where I make my own hours, make great money, meet amazing people and learn and grow personally every single day. Instead of dreading Mondays I can’t wait for Monday to come so I can get to work!

How do you go about picking people who will match up together?

By combining insight on the psychology of relationships along with my own theory on the ethics of matchmaking, you’ll realize it’s about more than attraction and chemistry, it’s about something much more lasting. So I look at a person’s history, both their success as well as obstacles. I see what needs to be tweaked and what can stay in terms of what they want; which of their must haves is healthy and which need to go. Then I find the best possible choice in terms of healthy long term compatibility.

Are you more likely to find that opposites attract or people with similar personality traits?

I think complimentary traits are helpful. For example, my husband is a brilliant scientist and I, by trade, am a social worker. I am high empathy and EQ and he is cerebral and low EQ. So we balance each other out in a wonderful way. We inspire and respect each other’s strength and learn from each other.

What’s involved in becoming a certified Matchmaker?

If someone is serious about becoming a matchmaker and changing their life in so many amazing ways, the key is education. So we have a 12 week online course that is an intensive training on everything from the history of matchmaking, to starting a business, how to find clients, how to match them and how to coach them for success. Students are in a 24/7 support online forum during and after the course for additional support. After the completion, you submit a business plan for review. If accepted, you get your certification.  It’s a pretty thorough course with material from dozens of top matchmakers and coaches around the world so someone get all the key info for success as well as learning what to avoid in terms of mistakes that have ended business in the past.

What certifications does the Matchmaking Institute offer?

We offer one main certification for people who want to enter the business of matchmaking or are already matchmaking but would love to gain key tools to make their business more successful. We also have a yearly Global conference for Love Professionals every April in NYC. This a a conference not to be missed if you are excited to learn more about the psychology and business of love.

What are your favorite success stories?

I have many amazing success stories but I think my favorite is when someone comes to me and they are burned out from dating, or newly divorced and have no clue about the world of dating today. Then inspiriting them and supporting them through the process of finding the right person to create the beginning of the rest of their lives. That is always Thrilling.

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Sexpert is our resident full time sex blogger. Having successfully owned and managed a number of blogs relating to women’s lifestyle, she easily blended into her role as chief blogger of the Adultsmart Blog. She is in a long term relationship with her boyfriend. She also runs Good Girl Guide, a sexual lifestyle blog.

Navigating A Relationship’s Emotional Roller Coaster

Managing your emotions with communication skills

Lately I have been particularly interested in witnessing the ways people behave in intimate relationships. Relationship dynamics fascinate me and seeing how people are with their partners – what works well, what is destructive and where people are thriving- allows me an opportunity to reflect on my own behaviours and values when it comes to the relationships in my life.

Good communication skills, presence, mutual respect, passion & love are just a few of the qualities that are vital in a romantic relationship. I also believe a significant aspect of what makes a relationship healthy & functional is an individual’s willingness to take ownership of the emotions they experience.

Upon a quick google search, I found an emotion to be defined as

“a strong feeling deriving from one’s circumstances, mood, or relationships with others.”

I find this definition encompasses the most important notion I support and that is emotions are our own. They can be affected by others but they ultimately are ours alone to feel.

How To Manage Emotional Projection

Many people go about relationships blaming the occurrence of certain emotions on their partner’s actions.

“She did this and that made me feel angry.”

“He doesn’t put effort into our relationship by making sex romantic with massage oils and sexual health aids!”

“He didn’t want to have sex with me so he made me feel unattractive.”

As well as being a disempowering way to go about life, this kind of behaviour can really cause chaos and disconnection between intimate partners.

It is usual that emotions that don’t feel good are usually the ones we attempt to offload onto our partners however the same can be said for feelings of joy & pleasure. The other day whilst experiencing gratitude for my partner, I told him how happy he makes me. As the words came out of my mouth, I felt my power slipping away with them. It did not feel true and authentic because I know that happiness is of my own making. I feel so much joy and happiness with my man and I love how I feel around him but he does not make me feel anything. Sure, he can behave in a way that triggers certain feelings & emotions within me but they are ultimately my feelings. By believing that he makes me feel a certain way feels dis-empowering for both of us.

Buddha Quote About Anger
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Expressing ones’ emotions without projecting them onto another is not usual practice for many people. It requires a level of self-awareness to feel your emotions and a dedication to step away from projecting them onto someone else-instead expressing them in a non-destructive and healthy way. Some healthy ways of expressing our emotions can involve bashing a pillow and getting out any anger that we may be feeling before communicating to our partner when we’re feeling frustrated or having a good cry, expressing our sadness and pain without blaming them for making us feel that way. When expressing our feelings to our partner, I also recommend speaking your own experience. It may look something like

“When you did this, I felt sadness and frustration”

or

“I felt really insecure when I saw you checking out that man.”

Communicating in this way is taking ownership of our own experiences instead of playing victim to them, whilst also acknowledging the fact that how your partner behaved played a part in how you felt. This brings me to my next point…

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Taking Ownership Of Your Feelings

What I believe is really important to understand is that when I speak of ownership of feelings, I don’t mean to say we can go around doing whatever the hell we want with little regard for the repercussions we may have on our partner. This person we are choosing to be with deserves our utmost respect, love and honouring when making choices in life. If you don’t feel this to be the case then it may be time to reassess your intentions & values in relationship. Actions we take in life that are done in full integrity and alignment may mean our partners do experience emotions that do not feel so great. It is not our job to change that or live in a way where we make choices based on fearing how we feel they may react. The best thing we can do is encourage the most authentic expression of the people we love, allow them the time and space to speak their truth and feel whatever emotions they are feeling-all this without feeling a need to fix anything or take it personally.

Growing up, males are rarely encouraged to feel & express their emotions and females are usually taught that being an emotional person is burdensome or somehow makes them crazy. Letting our partners know that we encourage them to express themselves and feel whatever they are feeling without judging them for it is so important for both men and women in relationships.  I feel it is about time we shift these inauthentic ways of being so that we can feel our feelings and express ourselves in any way we see fit without causing harm to those we love.

Author: Stephanie Curtis- BA Nursing

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Meet the newest member to our team of experts. Stephanie Curtis is a sexologist with a huge capacity to care. Involved in spirituality and tantra her articles are professional, articulate and interesting. Enjoy Steph’s writings at the adultsmart sexual wellness and health blog.

VIP Interview With Josh & Emma The CEOs & Founders Of Geeky Sex Toys

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Geeky Sex Toys is an adult lifestyle company who specialise in the creation of fantasy sex toys. Have you ever wanted a collection of dildos in the shape of your favourite leading Pokemon characters (Pikachu, Bulbasaur, Charmander and Squirtle) because you “Gotta Get Em All’? Have you ever wanted to indulge in Game Of Moan’s Long Shaft or use Sailor Moons magical wand for some extra curricular activities? Geeky Sex Toys has made it or will invent it for your own personal pleasure! The names of their products are extremely funny and are reminiscent of adult movies spin off series which adds to their product themes.

This is a VIP Interview with Josh and Emma the CEOs, founders and product designers of Geeky Sex Toys.

Tell me about yourself

Josh (25yrs) – Emma (24yrs) – Founders, CEO’s and Toy Makers (It’s currently just the 2 of us so we pretty much have all the titles).

We’re from Redcliffe, QLD

We are a young couple who have been in a relationship for a couple of years.

What inspired the creation of Geeky Sex Toys?

It was never really one of those cool epiphany moments. It was more of a

“What do you mean that doesn’t exist?”

moment. We were both extremely naive in the realm of sex toys and on our first venture into an adult store together we both just kind of assumed there would be something in the pop culture realm for us to choose. There wasn’t. So we looked online. Nothing. After our online search for ANY kind of geek themed dildo came up with relatively nothing, we decided to look at Google Trends and Analytics to see if other people were searching for such products. The numbers of people searching were so large we almost didn’t believe it!

It was the day we got back from the adult store and did our google research that the planning began. 4 weeks later we had a couple of working prototypes and a live website. It’s now been almost 15 months since we launched our site.

Pokemoan Dildos By Geeky Sex Toys
Sex Toy: Pokemoan Dildos

What movies, comic books, books, and quotes inspire you?

This is a hard question to answer! We find inspiration everywhere, whether it is a small, obscure character from an unknown sci-fi show or a character that everyone seems to know and love from popular movies or games. What we love is that the ideas are never ending and there are always new toys to create!

What do you love most about geeky pop culture?

I think my favourite aspect of nerd/pop culture is the incredible inclusivity. Everyone is welcome and everyone is safe to just geek out over whatever they want. Nobody is ashamed to be a nerd/geek and we love it! I love the passion that people have over their favourite characters etc. and there is something for everyone to identify with.

Tell me about your product range?

We are continuing to expand our range and have so many new ideas for products. We have a suggestions page on our website where people send through what they would like to see. We receive emails daily from people with a wide number of suggestions. We have created a tally and the most popular suggestions will be made first!

Josh is the brains behind turning an idea into a working product.

Dildo Wand – Sailor Girl by Geeky Sex Toys
Sex Toy: Dildo Wand – Sailor Girl

What materials do you use in the production of your sex toys? Are the materials that are used body safe?

All our products are handmade. A big thing that we like to promote is that we only use 100% body safe silicone. We find a lot of cheap sex toys that companies are selling are not 100% body safe and people are not aware of this.

Are all your products handmade to order?

As it is just the two of us all the orders are handmade to order.

What are your favourite memories from working at Geeky Sex Toys?

Josh and I have loved creating a company together. It was the best feeling when we could quit our day jobs and both work completely on the business. We never thought that our crazy idea would get this big and have such a positive reaction from everyone. We were initially worried about telling our family that we quit our jobs to make dildos for a living. Surprisingly everyone was so supportive and jealous that they hadn’t thought of the idea first.

Have you funny stories about your products?

Our unicorn horn was the first suction cup product that we designed. Josh decided to test it and make sure it would stick on his forehead (of course!). It stuck so well and he thought he was so funny until he pulled it off and he ended up with a big bruise on his head!!! It was purple you could not cover it up with make-up. Now we are seeing videos and photos pop up all over social media of people doing the exact same thing with this product…..so the suction cup definitely does work.

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What are your best sellers?

Our best seller by far is the unicorn horn!!!

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Sexpert is our resident full time sex blogger. Having successfully owned and managed a number of blogs relating to women’s lifestyle, she easily blended into her role as chief blogger of the Adultsmart Blog. She is in a long term relationship with her boyfriend. She also runs Good Girl Guide, a sexual lifestyle blog.

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