Mutual Masturbation

Masturbation has long been proven to be an effective tool in our arsenal for self care, self exploration and all things considered.  Mutual Masturbation is very safe sex alternative.

 

Recently with social media, gaining trends and more positive discussion and open sexuality; masturbation is rising above the stigma that has unfairly surrounded it in the past decades. And so it should be, Masturbation is amazing.

 

A very under-rated facet of masturbation that does not get anywhere near enough of the spotlight is Mutual Masturbation.

 

When we think of mutual masturbation what first pops to head is long distance relationships, sharing that erotic phone call or scandalous skype/Facetime video call in nothing but your very intimate of wears. Or at least that is what most people thought of when I asked them as I went to write this article.

 

True.

 

These forms of mutual masturbation are very mutual and very sexy, hot and heedy. I love them, I love the ability that it brings to long distance relationships, or even not to long distance ones. Out for the night? Send something sexy and masturbate together. The principle of finding each other simultaneously arousing enough to bring you pleasure and climax even though you’re apart- bellissimo.

 

There are even more and more toys that are tailored to making the most of long distance masturbation like Lovense, Kiroo and We Vibe.

 

But that was not the type of Mutual Masturbation I am referring to. The type that definitely should be explored more, talked about more and definitely used more. Mutual Masturbation in real life involves more than one person enjoying themselves, together in the same room. It may sound like an oxymoron, but trust me, it isn’t. If anything, it may be one of the most intimate things you can do with your partner(s). It is watching your play partner giving themselves pleasure, while you give yourself pleasure, and they watch you.

Let’s start by looking at why this is such an intimate mode of sexual exploration. Yes, sexual intercourse is very intimate, it is the joining of your bodies, it is creating connection. When we masturbate however, we masturbate usually with thoughts or stimuli that turn us on. These can be various such as porn, videos, stories, memories, fantasies, dreams. How often can you say though, that the object of your arousal is in front of you, a breath away, watching you pleasure yourself, watching you get aroused by their presence?

Intimate right?

Mutual Masturbation also brings out that tiny little piece of us that some may be curious about Voyeurism and exhibitionism but without the crowded audience or public. Voyeurism is the act of watching others participating in sexual exploits, Exhibitionism is enjoying being watched.

Mutual masturbation is a brilliant avenue to learn about your play partner and for them to learn about you too. What better way to learn what a person likes, how they get off, what their spots are, how they like being caressed, then to actually see them doing so. To make matters even sexier, you can hear it too. No need to hold back, using your words to help tell the story, can only enhance your experience. Expressing gratitude at the sight, the sound, the enjoyment of the moment or the sight of certain things either of you are doing may be enough to tip you over the edge.

 

This can also be a wonderful foray into using toys. Have you been nervous about using toys during sex? Using toys during mutual masturbation may be the key. This is your time to showcase your tips and tricks, heck, if you wanted to, you could even request your play partner to use something. The reason this is a good and neutral ground to try out incorporating toys can be numerous. Some partners may feel intimidated by the use of toys in their usual repertoire, using toys during mutual masturbation will highlight the pleasure but also highlight that that pleasure is not taking away from the connection and the intimacy with your play partner. It is an extension. If you have been worried about the logistics, this is also a trial run in how you can figure out how to best incorporate the toys into your routine.

 

And just think, how sexy is it to say or hear “Oh I wish I could taste you while using this toy.” or “I want to feel you inside me while using this”. I can definitely see how a person would feel aroused at these prospects. Again, it is a beautiful and exciting notion that toys are an extension of our sexual intimacy, they are not replacements.

Mutual Masturbation doesn’t need to end here though, it can be part one, the first course. You don’t simply need to strictly never touch each other, that is the beauty of this. It may evolve organically into sharing the touch, sharing an orgasm, together, helping each other orgasm. Who says you can’t kiss while you share this intimate experience? There are no rules, you make them yourself. This is a type of exploration that demands more positive discussion.

 

This being said, it can be very daunting to expose yourself during your most private pleasures, even to your closest person. If you would like to try mutual masturbation but your play partner is hesitant, do not be disheartened. Take it slow, try broaching the subject such as would you like to watch me masturbate (or cum). You could try watching porn/videos together, reading salacious stories together and inviting them to show you what they like. Like all acts, consent is important, but it can also take time. Remember, we are coming out of an era where masturbation was still taught as bad, so for many people, masturbation was a private act and when they masturbated, they kept it private so that they would not be reprimanded or judged. Being public about masturbation, even in your relationship may be a big step for some people. Be kind. Be open. Be understanding. Show them this article, and let’s start the conversation and bring masturbation and mutual masturbation out of the darkness.

 

At your Service,

Tiffany

OhZone Sales Consultant, Educator and Promoter of Masturbation

The art of using a dildo for maximum pleasure

Dildos are abundantly available in attractive varieties and there is an art to using a dildo for maximum pleasure. Not many people experiment and discover these exciting ways of enjoying them. This blog brings out some simple tricks to make your dildo playtime utterly satisfying.

Dildos in India  come in sleek steel, colourful silicone, and shining glass. These are just the tip of the iceberg. There are so many fascinating varieties that remain unexplored. Perhaps you’ve purchased one and are excitedly ready to embark on a pleasure ride, full of breath-taking orgasms. Even if you’re a pro, there are always new tricks to learn to keep your playtime amazing and not fall back to a dull routine. Perhaps you have discovered that imitating sex doesn’t activate your G-spot or take you to the moon. We’ll provide you with the thrill-inducing movements to carry out, making your masturbation session a carnival of pleasure.

Before it begins

Set the mood

Changing the ambience influences your mood. If you’ve tried closing the blinds, turning off the lights, and lighting a few candles, you may have noticed the soothing environment enhancing the sensual vibes. The same applies when you are chasing the sexual high flying solo. Dim the lights, light a candle, put on some sexy music, and lose yourself to sexual ecstasy.

 Choose the right dildo

The only important consideration while picking a dildo is, it should suit your needs and desires. If you enjoy intense stimulation, select a hard glass, steel or wooden dildo available in attractive designs. If you desire an extra sensation from the movements, go for the vibrating dildos. If you fantasize about being stretched, go for a larger or inflatable dildo.

Studies have given out fascinating insights about the dildos. Most dildos sold are about the average size of a man’s penis. It suggests that the average size is what most people are looking for. If nerve tingling stimulation is what excites you, choose a rabbit style vibrator.

Never forget the warm-up

Before you get the intimate act started, you might need to warm up first. Initiate manual masturbation, have an orgasm or two. Use your fingers for deep satisfaction.

If there is not enough natural lubrication produced, there are always lubes to grab. Lubes benefit you in unimaginable ways. They increase arousal, sexual pleasure, and physical comfort. 

 The extremely pleasurable dildo techniques include:

 Deep thrusting

This technique of passionately pleasuring yourself is exactly how it sounds. Deep thrusting along the entire length of your pleasure centres provides arousing stimulations. A textured dildo will generate sensations that are intense and fulfilling.

For serious thrusting, pick a toy with a core that’s firm enough not to bend, it doesn’t have to always be rigid. Overly soft dildos make this action difficult. If you find the heavily textured toys overwhelming, opt for a smoother or curved dildo to have comfortable rides.

 Short and shallow

Most of the sensitive nerve endings that generate and circulate the thrills exist in the first one-third of your vagina. You don’t have to go all the way in to get those exhilarating sensations. Short and rapid strokes can be a slick tactic to get you on a sexual high. The action won’t barrage your cervix or butt, but it’ll be easier on your wrists.

Just because your dildo is seven inches long doesn’t mean it has to go all the way in. The extra shaft length is to get a better grasp on the dildo.

 Rock it out

Just because your dildo is shaped straight doesn’t mean you don’t have to be creative in trying new things. In this technique of rocking your dildo, you move it back and forth at an angle so that its tip is applying pressure at the bottom of your opening. If you are lying on your back on the bed, the dildo should be pointing towards the bed when you carry on the movements.

You’ll experience rousing sensations similar to that of thrusting. The technique also works its magic by providing the ultimate stimulation. Rocking works best with dildos made of silicone or with curved toys intended for dual clitoral, anal, and vaginal stimulation.

 Keep it turning

This turning technique sends out twisters of pleasure. It involves turning them around after being inserted. Most dildos work for this motion, there shouldn’t be a sharp angle that makes you uncomfortable.

 Milk the g-spot

To milk your G-spot partnering with your dildo, you’ll have to drag the top part of the dildo across your G-spot while pulling it outward. You then push the dildo against the top part of your vagina or butt as you slide it back in. To incite riveting sensations, use rigid toys made from glass, wood, or metal. There are also special dildos with a curve particularly meant for G-spot stimulation.

The surprising thing is, this technique can be similarly utilized to stimulate the prostate.

 Filling feeling

You can freely enjoy your dildo without any kind of motion. You can choose one that’s comfortable when inserted. Keep it there and focus on stimulating your erogenous zones to have a fantastic orgasm. The toy has the power to enhance your orgasm even if it remains inserted comfortably in your vagina or butt.

 

Dildos that transform your nights into pleasure fests,  have a spectacular collection of dildos that get you hooked for a steamy sexual thrill. Get dildos  and experience body-shaking, toe twirling, and screaming orgasms.

Impress and Satisfy Your Partner with These Oral Sex Techniques

When it comes to intercourse, oral sex techniques are quite important and essential. It creates the perfect mood for exciting and enjoyable sex. Each person is stimulated differently and the same technique may not work on different women or men. However, when it comes to oral sex techniques the fun is in exploring the possibilities. Some methods can open a whole new level of satisfaction for your partner and make them want to grab you and just make you moan their name.

No matter what type of relationship you are into, how good you are at giving head speaks volumes. If you want to create a good impression on the other person, it is always advisable to learn some mind-blowing techniques.

Techniques to Satisfy Your Girl

 

Let’s start with men as understanding female oral sex is a little more complicated. The different parts like the vulva, labia, and clitoris may confuse you but do not worry, we have got you covered.

The build-up

When it comes to oral sex for women, you can get her wet even without touching her down there. The key is patience, women like to take it nice and slow. Start with her neck as it is one of the most sensitive areas on a woman’s body. Kiss her in the neck gently and softly nibble her neck and ears.

While your mouth is busy kissing her neck passionately, use your hand to cup her breasts and stimulate her nipples. This step is crucial when it comes to any type of sexual activity. Breasts are probably the second most sensitive area on a woman’s body after her clitoris. You can either massage her tits gently or just brush her nipples with your fingers.

Next, you will want to reach down there with your fingers. Keep her panties in and brush her vagina with your fingers. By now, you will be able to feel her wet over her panties. Slide the cloth to one side so that you can touch her and move your fingers softly towards her clitoris. You may still want to continue with the kisses as oral stimulation is necessary.

When you finally take off her panties, don’t try to finger her immediately. Rub her clitoris with your thumb and you can even stroke it gently with your fingers. When you feel her moaning or breathing heavily it is time to enter her. Slowing starts with one finger and depending on how she reacts to it you may move on to inserting fingers.

The Oral Sex

It is important to understand that for women, orgasm can be achieved in two ways. The first is through the clitoris and the second is through the G-spot. Most women enjoy clitoral orgasm more than the G-spot orgasm. During oral sex, the former is easier to achieve, and lucky for you it’s more pleasurable for your girl.

A common notion about men is that they do not know where the clitoris is, this has been proven to be true in several cases. The clitoris is the small protruding portion over the vagina.

1). Using the tongue and the clitoris:This technique is the easiest but is quite effective. This mainly includes stroking the clitoris gently with your tongue. Start slowly as you will need to build up the speed gradually. The main thing about this technique is to locate the clitoris accurately. Once you are sure about that, proceed to wet your tongue with your saliva and start licking her. You can also gently kiss her clitoris and suck it.

 

2). Tongue and vagina: The best part about female oral sex is that there is a lot of space for experimentation and exploration. The tongue can do a lot for women and using it tactfully is the best thing you can do for her. Extend your tongue and enter her vagina and watch her go crazy.

Use your fingers to gently rub the clitoris while you use your tongue to enter her vagina and go in and out. This movement is capable of creating a powerful orgasm and a magical experience for your girl.

 

3). Tongue and finger: The tongue and finger combination create the best orgasm for women if used properly. Start with licking her clitoris gently with your tongue, make sure you start slow and nice. While your mouth is busy with that, use your finger to enter her vagina. Don’t forget the dirty talk and choking.

However, make sure you know that your girl enjoys it. You can also use the finger and tongue interchangeably. The in and out motion of the finger inside her creates a stimulation for the G-spot while the tongue stimulates the clitoris. Build up the speed gradually to give her the most incredible orgasm.

 

4). Tongue and nose: Very few people remember to include the nose while giving a girl head. Yes, you heard it right, the nose can be quite a useful portion if used properly. While you are using your tongue to fuck her vagina, use your nose to rub the clitoris.

The best way to do this is to drag the nose from the bottom of her vagina to the top. Do this and watch your girl go crazy over you. Since this move is done by very few, it becomes quite an impressive thing, and it tells your girl that you are enjoying yourself as much as she is.

 

5). Don’t forget her mouth: When it comes to women, the overall experience counts. For a great experience, try to include more of her senses while you are down there eating her out. The mouth can create quite a stimulation in the exciting process. Just do this simple move to drive your girl crazy.

After you have fingered her or before, make her suck your fingers and get them wet. This shows your girl who is in charge. If she likes to be the submissive female, then use this opportunity to fulfil her sexual desires. Choke her gently, this creates a sensation of pleasure as well as kissing her occasionally while you are giving her head.

 

Techniques to Satisfy Your Man

 

For men, it’s less about the foreplay and more about the hand job and blowjob. However, the most important part is to remember to not use your teeth. Women! Do not use your teeth while sucking his cock. This is not only painful for him but is extremely embarrassing for you. It instantly gives away that you have zero experience and failing to satisfy his needs may cause him to drift away from you.

It is not difficult to make your man cum as long as you use the correct techniques. Unlike women, oral sex for men is comparatively easier and the orgasm is also quick. Therefore, you will not have to work too much to make him fall head over heels for you.

What men want: Now, my ladies! Remember that men like to feel in charge while you are giving head. The best way to start with the blow job is to sit on your knees while he stands. However, it is essential to remember your boundaries. If it is your first time, you will most likely gag very often and may even throw up. So, talk to him beforehand about it and ask him to be gentle with you. Once you get that hang of it, there is no stopping him from moaning and screaming your name. Here are some quick and easy step-by-step instructions to understand the science of blowjobs.

1). Wet it out: The first step is to make sure that you wet his penis, skilling this step will make the whole process extremely painful for your guy. The foreskin does create a lot of friction if it is dry. Usually, the penis itself secretes precum which is enough to make him wet. However, the easiest way to achieve that perfect lubricated effect is to use your spit.

Yes! While you are still giving him a hand job and have not yet started sucking his dick, use your spit to wet him. You can take some on your palm or directly spit on his cock. While you are giving him that hand job, it is incredibly sexy to maintain eye contact. Do not forget to kiss him and make it a personal affair for the both of you.

2). Open wide: No, we are not talking about your legs, not yet. This has to do with your mouth, open your mouth wide and use your lips to suck his dick. Create a kind of vacuum within your mouth that mimics a vagina and gives him immense pleasure.

As mentioned earlier make sure you avoid your teeth. You can also occasionally use your hand along with your mouth while giving him head. If you feel your mouth and jaws getting tired from all that hard work, you can quickly switch to a hand job for a couple of minutes.

3). Use the tip wisely: The tip of the penis is probably the most sensitive area of his dick, so if you want to show him some good time, pay special attention to this pink area on his cock. Use your hands to stroke his dick gently and wise your tongue to lick the tip of the penis.

Another good way to include that portion into the process is to use your mouth to suck only the tip. You can also kiss it as you normally would. While you are on your knees during this whole process, do not forget to look up at night from time to time. This will make him go wild.

4). Don’t forget the balls: When it comes to oral sex for men, many girls forget the balls. This is quite an important portion that needs to be stimulated along with the dick. The process to do that is quite similar. You can start by licking his balls while you are still giving him a hand job.

Then slowly move on to sucking on his balls, one at a time. Switch between the balls and the dick to make him go crazy. You can also tease him and use your hands to play with his calls before starting the blowjob.

5). Be a good girl: During oral sex as well as sex in total, men like to play the boss and expect the dominant one. So let him be the man and try to understand what he wants from you. A very common move is holding the hair or your ponytail.

When you are down on your knees giving his head, it is natural for several men to hold the head of the girl to control the motion. Occasionally they like to thrust their duck inside you, mad love to hear the girl choke and gag on the dick.

Be careful

In some rare cases, oral sex may also lead to some sexually transmitted diseases, therefore stay safe when you are engaging in the act of oral sex with your partner. The above techniques are commonly used by several people and have been deemed efficient by many. Be it your girl or your man, do not forget to communicate with them during the whole process, because understanding each other is essential.

There may be some boundaries for your partner, understand what they want and what they do not before you try out anything new. Make sure they feel safe and consent is extremely important. Respecting your partner’s boundaries is sexier than anything else. It is also a well-known fact that you will get better with time, so do not be too rough on yourself. Make sure you stay in practice!

Tips for Men to Increase Their Confidence around Women

There are countless men out there who are looking to improve their Confidence around Women and their dating lives. Whether they’re in the process of coming out of a bad relationship or not yet comfortable with themselves, men must understand what makes women tick.

Women want men with confidence. This might seem like a stereotype, but it’s true. If a woman thinks you’re too afraid to approach someone or that your body language is submissive to her, she’ll be turned off.

Here are some tips men can use to become more confident around women

  1. Don’t “Sales Pitch.”

Women aren’t interested in hearing a sales pitch. They’re not at the bar to buy something; they’re at the bar to meet someone. If you open with an unsolicited sales pitch, your date will be turned off instantly. Your conversation will be much more pleasant if you connect on something casual.

  1. Avoid the “I’m Alone” Fallacy

Women like men who are confident because that means they can take care of themselves. But there’s a difference between being assertive and overbearing. Don’t walk around with the attitude that you’re better than everyone else.

  1. Read Her Body Language

Women are attracted to men who understand what their body language means. If you’re unsure if she’s interested, watch her body language. If she seems turned off or agitated, use the “broken record” technique. This is when you simply repeat your statement over and over again in a light-hearted and humorous way.

  1. Be Yourself

That means you don’t pretend to be someone you aren’t. If you’re a bit shy at first, show her that you’re a bit different. Girls aren’t attracted to men who are exactly like them; they like dating people different from them.

  1. Keep Your Sense of Humor

Women love guys who know how to laugh with them. Avoid using sarcastic jokes, as women often find that offensive. Instead, make light-hearted jokes that show you’re comfortable in your own skin.

  1. Avoid “Drama.”

When a man starts talking about the drama he’s had in his past relationships, women are turned off. They want a man who is in the present moment and who enjoys life.

  1. Be Proactive

Women are used to men leading the show. If you’re proactive, you’ll show her that you can take charge in social situations. You don’t need to be overbearing about it; just make a suggestion and take action.

  1. Practice using a doll

Yes, we’re talking about using love dolls. Why would you do such a thing? You’re trying to give yourself a confidence boost when you’re in the bedroom with a woman. If you don’t have much experience in the bedroom, it can feel like the world is closing in on you.

Performance anxiety is a real thing, and the only way you avoid it is through practice. Practicing your lovemaking skills on a doll will boost your ability, and that will make you feel more confident around women. You won’t shy away from talking to a woman because you’ll know that if you get her in the sack, that you’ll be able to satisfy her every need.

There you have it, follow these tips, and you’re sure to be a hit with the ladies. But, above all else, enjoy the process of meeting new women and use every opportunity you get to make a connection with someone new.

Technical Intimacy

tech pleasures

We have possibly never been more cut off from the rest of the world than we are now and many of are toying with technical intimacy. This is a bold statement that I make, of course we have! Before we had ships and planes. Because now- we have technology.

Technology gives us the power of moving countries, time and space in a matter of moments. It gives us the power of being able to continue to interact with loved ones whether it is from our own homes to theirs in the same state, or overseas. And during this pandemic that counts for A LOT.

But do you know what else technology has radicalised for us during this “unprecedented” time? Insanely safe, zero proximity sex.

Yes. I did say that. And yes, that baffles the mind. But while we have been on lock down, the business behind industries such as interactive pornography, camgirls, onlyfans and online adult toy shopping have boomed! In fact there has been a rise, and why wouldn’t there be? Even beloved places of teaching “Studio Kink”  took to the internet to assist with keeping kinksters educated during the pandemic in their chosen tutelage of Shibari.

Technical Intimacy

Although interactive sex is only the beginning. Combine cam girling or interactive porn with products such as Kiroo and the experience is taken to the next level. If you haven’t heard of Kiroo, basically you can feel everything that is happening on one end of the toy (for example the Pearl – an innovative straight vibe) and indulge in it in real time on the other toy (in this case, the Onyx – an innovative masturbator)

Toys like these are fantastic for long distance relationships, bringing couples closer and being able to feel like they are having wonderfully hot and intimate moments as close together as they are apart no matter where they are in the world.

We Vibe is another company that boasts a long luxurious line of app controlled toys that are able to be controlled from around the globe no matter where you are provided you have a signal. Bringing you closer to your loved ones, which I am sure we can all agree is something we are more than thankful for during isolation.

Lovense

But then a new challenger arrived, Lovense.

Lovense, similarly had a luxurious line of gorgeous toys that were app controlled same as we vibe. They also had toys that simulated the feel of sex in real time even when you were apart like the Kiroo.

But where the Lovense differed to all those before it is it’s app features.

Lovense, at the time of writing this is one of the only apps that provides the option for people to use a “group play” function during play. Yep – a group function. This enables users of the lovense app to have up to 100 people in a “room” at a time, sharing vibrations and altogether having a good time.

Yes, that’s amazing.

I have heard many people come in and say, “oh wow, yeah an app controlled toy sounds great if you had someone who you could share it with.”

I get it, we are in a period of life where it is harder to find people right now, we have restrictions, and even when the restrictions are lessened, are we always willing to risk bodily fluid exchanges with strangers? It’s a fine line. SO meeting someone new can put a bit of a damper on things.

Lovense has that covered too. On their website Lovense has chat rooms where you can talk to others and join parties under pseudonyms or your lovense account and join large parties or set up some one on one vibe time. But, yes, be careful of bots. They are usually the ones with the repetitive bad sentence structure and as always, never EVER give away personal information or financial information online. Safe cyber play friends.

These functions are so popular that Lovense has just finished hosting their 3rd successful International Digital Orgy! On May 22nd at Midnight Eastern Time for 24hrs registered participants who were 18years or older could log into their Lovense account and share in the vibes that were sent through any use of the hashtag #lovense and #lovenseorgy as well as 15 others that were announced on the day. Completely anonymous, no faces shown just waves of pleasure, tuning in when you could. I mean – a whole 24 hours? That would be a marathon.

This was a wonderful movement to not only bring people together safely during isolation but also a unique way to celebrate Maturbation in May. If you were lucky enough to participate in this year’s Lovense Orgy let us know how you liked it, if you’d like to try next year, stock up on Lovense toys before next year and get some practice in.  It could be the future of sex.

So if you’re looking for something a little new, looking for a little play, without the physical proximity, why not try one of our long distance toys and pop on an anonymous forum? Talk to our wonderful sales consultants and educators to find the best fit and type of play for you and have a look at Wevibe, Kiroo and Lovense. Safely of course. Maybe we should be adding Long distance toy hookups to our online profiles.

At your Service,

Tiffany

OhZone Sales Consultant, Educator and Online Playmate