4 Toxic Ways Facebook Is Hurting Your Love Life

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Admit it, we all have that one friend who just splashed their relationship all over Facebook, Instagram or Twitter. Using social media to air all of their ‘dirty laundry’ or, even worse, we may be the ones spamming our friends with posts about our spouse.

I’m not old-fashioned, or anti-social media. In fact, I spend much of my free time at home just scrolling through my Insta and FB feeds for entertainment. But unlike some other people, I feel as though there are some things that shouldn’t be splashed on the internet for the whole world to see.

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Answer me this, if you’re a serial Facebook spammer… how would you feel if your significant other called all of their friends and your friends to tell them that you ‘didn’t take the garbage out’ or that you were ‘useless at everything’? Unless you’re a narcissist, you have to agree that it would hurt, even just a little bit. ‘It’s just harmless venting. It’s not that bad’ – Yes it is and here’s why:

It blocks or breaks down communication in a relationship

It has the other person watching everything that they say just in case it ends up splashed all over social media. People aren’t stupid (…well, the majority anyway) we all know that passive aggressive post about all the beer in the fridge being drunk and not replaced or the house is a mess, is about your SO. Come on!

It makes everyone feel super uncomfortable knowing things that happen behind closed doors

Especially if they have to spend time with your spouse or both of you. Call or message your bestie and have a vent, because the rest of us don’t need to see it.

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It also puts unnecessary pressure on the relationship

The constant sickly ‘kissy kissy boo boo’ and ‘Bae is so good to me, we’re so in love’ posts are just as bad. **News flash** These inevitably turn in to the above type of posts when the honeymoon period is over and you take off those rose-coloured glasses. It’s all flash, no substance.

I love to see photos of happy couples celebrating relationship milestones and read the affirming messages that go along with those pics. But everyone over the age of 16 will probably agree with me when I say – Nobody cares that your boyfriend/girlfriend just sent you a heart emoji text message.

It feeds mental health issues and insecurities

When you go from every post being about how much you’re in love in those first few months, to settling in to a long-term relationship where you have to negotiate the day to day stuff, then you might start to feel insecure about your relationship. Especially if you suffer from a mental health issue like anxiety or depression and have built a reliance on that continual public affirmation.

That constant craving for the ‘honeymoon period’ public affirmation may mean that you develop the inability to move past that point in a relationship. Keeping you in that perpetual cycle of love and heartbreak.

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If you’re an attention seeking narcissist then, by all means, keep going with your public showboating. But if you’re normal human being, keep your relationship private. It’s not about how many likes you get from friends and family or how ‘open’ you are about your relationship on social media. Actions speak louder than words. A relationship (as well as all of its issues) is based on open communication and trust.

So, use social media wisely. Think before you post.

Author: Mia is a consultant from Oh Zone Adult Lifestyle Centres

Jennifer works marketing at Adultsmart an online sex toy shop. She has a non-judgemental approach to sex, sex toys and sexuality. Her favorite saying is if it feels good and right and is not illegal then why not!

Cum Again? Biohacking Multiple Orgasms For Men!

Male multiple orgasm

Despite men and women being on par on various playing fields, orgasms are not one of them. According to the Australian Study of Health and Relationships survey of more than 20,000 Australians between the ages of 16 and 69, only 66% of women had an orgasm during their last sexual encounter as opposed to 92% of men. That might seem like a win for the men until it was revealed that women apparently have the monopoly on multiple orgasms. Regardless of popular belief, it is by no means impossible for a man to have multiple orgasms.  All it takes is some practice, which, in itself is rather enjoyable. The main thing is to grasp that an orgasm and ejaculation do not need to go hand-in-hand. Here’s how to go about it.

Focus on your breathing and flex your PC muscle

Breathing can go a long way in expanding your sexual awareness. To be able to have orgasms without cumming, you should breathe deeply, focusing on how your breathing pattern changes as you experience various sexual responses like getting turned on, your sexual excitement building in intensity and finally having an orgasm and ejaculating. In case you didn’t know what your PC muscle is, it’s the muscle that you use to stop the flow of urine when you pee and it plays a huge role in your ability to have multiple orgasms. Start by locating your PC muscle and get well-acquainted with it. A sure-fire way to success is to learn how to do Kegel exercises which involves you squeezing and releasing your muscles in the same fashion women do to keep their vaginas in tip-top shape. This technique can also be used for men who want enlightened sex.

Practice, practice, practice

If you want to be able to have multiple orgasms when having sex with a partner you need to be able to do it while masturbating first. As with everything else in life, practice makes perfect, and this is one instance where practicing won’t feel like a chore. You can masturbate as you normally would, either free-hand or by using a specialized male sex toy. What is important is to take note of things such as your physical reaction when you get extremely turned on. Do you start getting a tingling sensation when you stroke harder and faster? If you are you can take it as a sign that you are about to blow your load, which is also known as the point of no return. Being familiar with this sensation will help you to learn how to prevent ejaculation.

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Perfect the S.T.A.B method

Since you are making a concerted effort to masturbate more regularly, you may as well practice a method known as S.T.A.B which will enable you to have an orgasm without ejaculating.  While the method may sound rather ominous it is fairly simple and involves the following:

Squeeze

Squeeze your newly-discovered PC muscles as hard as you can right when you are about to orgasm. The best way to describe the movement is to imagine performing a very intense Kegel. Hold the squeeze for as long as you can. You will slowly feel yourself relax.

Think

Thinking seems like such a simple thing to do until you have to actively do it. The only thing you need to think about is to not cum. It may seem easier than what it is in reality but after a few practice rounds you will find yourself doing it with greater ease each and every time.

Avoid

Avoidance goes hand-in-hand with thinking. No one knows your body better than you do, especially after all the self-pleasuring you have been indulging in lately while trying to perfect the art of multiple orgasms.  This is the point where you need to divert your attention as much as possible and focus on something that does not turn you on.  Also, try to avoid stroking the head of your penis and turn down the intensity of your strokes without stopping altogether.

Breathe

Once again focus on your breathing. Take slow, deep breaths to slow your heart rate while continuing to pleasure yourself. If you were having sex with a partner you would continue thrusting. Keep at it until you orgasm, without cumming. As soon as your orgasm finishes you will be ready (and more than willing) to start all over again.

Now that you have mastered the basics of multiple orgasms, you can continue to practice until you feel like you have achieved your goals. You may take longer to master multiples with more intricate positions including anal but in time you will be a pro at it especilly if you use men’s masturbators and strokers. Not only will your ability to have multiple orgasms be the talk of the town (women talk more about their sexual escapades than we would like to give them credit for) but you will also be able to truly understand the intense pleasure of finally lasting more than one round in bed. Why not have all of the benefits of orgasming for men multiple times!

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Revolutionary Sex Toy GIVEAWAY – Value $299 – Womanizer InsideOut!

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Adultsmart has teamed up with Womanizer to bring to you the latest giveaway, we have a Womanizer InsideOut up for grabs for one of our lucky readers! For your chance to win check out all the different ways you can enter the competition! Remember, you have to be in it to win it!

What’s prizes are up for grabs?

1 x Womanizer InsideOut

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How do I enter the competition?

Here is a list of the different ways you can enter the competition!

Each action, like and share counts as 1 entry into the competition for your chance to BE A WINNER!!!!

Other ways to enter the competition

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Who can enter the competition?

You must be over 18 years of age to enter. The competition is open to people worldwide.

When does the competition begin?

The competition begins on the 14th of June.

When does the competition close?

Entries close on the 20th of August and the draw will be conducted on the 21st of August. The winner will be contacted via email to arrange delivery.

About Womanizer

Womanizer’s mission is simple:

“Orgasming is a human right.”

Their sex toys are focused on making products for every type of woman and is designed to work with all different sizes and types of bodies. Making new and improved products freely available helps break down any stigmas associating with sexuality. Their products have become so popular, that they are now available all over the world in well over 30 different countries. With their offices found in Germany, Berlin, San Francisco and Hong Kong.

Oral sex toy range by Womanizer
Image: The Womanizer 2Go, the Womanizer Pro, the Womanizer +Size, the Womanizer Starlet and the Womanizer InsideOut

About the Womanizer InsideOut

Womanizer are famously well known for developing patented Pleasure Air Technology. This new technology does not use direct skin to skin contact which avoids overstimulation. The Womanizer InsideOut is different from all of their other sex toys, this one is made with a clitoral stimulator that has 12 levels of intensity and a G-spot vibrator that has 12 levels of vibration. Use the InsideOut to experience blended orgasms. The levels can be controlled independently so that the experience can be adapted to fit a person’s mood.

How to use a Womanizer with Pleasure Air Technology

If you are new to the experience, you can experiment with the stimulation of the pleasure waves. Place the tip of the Womanizer on the palm of your hand or on a finger. The Womanizer may sound loud at first but once it is placed into contact with the body, it becomes much quieter.

To use the clitoral stimulator there are four steps you must follow:

  • Part the labia apart so that the clitoris is freely accessible.
  • Place the head of the Womanizer clitoral sucker just above the clitoris.
  • Use slight pressure to create the desired amount of suction.
  • Take your time to indulge in pleasure.

Features of the Womanizer InsideOut

Pleasure Air Technology

The Womanizer InsideOut is an oral sex toy that uses Pleasure Air Technology. It does not directly contact the clitoris but uses soft pressure that sucks on the clitoris.

Vibrator

Ergonomically designed with a shaft to provide pinpoint pleasure to the G-spot with the power of intense and permeating vibrations.

Last for 2 hours of continuous play

With 2 hours of battery life, the Womanizer InsideOut can be used multiple times for multiple orgasms without the need to recharge.

100% waterproof

Take the Womanizer InsideOut into the shower or bath as it is 100% waterproof.  This features also makes it incredibly easy to wash the sex toy with minimal effort. Just use some warm water with sex toy cleaner or antibacterial soap.

12 functions of vibration and suction

The clitoral stimulator has 12 functions and the G-spot vibrator has 12 functions. The stimulator and the vibrator can be operated separately.

Silent mode

The Womanizer InsideOut runs incredibly quietly when it is being used.

2 different sized heads

Since there are different sized clitorises and vulvas, Womanizer always include 2 different sized heads to choose from. This is so women can always choose what works for them without the need to buy additional products.

USB rechargeable

You don’t need to worry about buying new batteries either! The Womanizer InsideOut is fully rechargeable with a USB charging port. The charging time only takes around 90 minutes.

Body safe materials

Rest assured the Womanizer InsideOut is made with the highest quality materials including ABS and silicone. The silicone is hypoallergenic and medical grade.

Light in weight

If you wish to use the Womanizer InsideOut for long periods of time, you can! The Womanizer weighs in at just 240 g so that you will never get tired. For more information, read a product review on the Womanizer InsideOut.

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Sexpert is our resident full time sex blogger. Having successfully owned and managed a number of blogs relating to women’s lifestyle, she easily blended into her role as chief blogger of the Adultsmart Blog. She is in a long term relationship with her boyfriend. She also runs Good Girl Guide, a sexual lifestyle blog.

A Womanizer Inside And Out

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Today, I will be reviewing one of my favorite brand’s new adult toys, InsideOut. In my opinion, Womanizer is one of the best clitoral stimulators on the market. It’s not my favorite brand name but they do make pretty impressive adult toys. Womanizer is a German company owned by a couple that was determined to help out woman all over the world experience an orgasm and they have definitely done so.

Womanizer’s Pleasure Air Technology

All of their toys are made with Pleasure Air Technology, which means when you place the adult toy on the clitoris it feels like it’s being sucked on. If you are more sensitive down there you don’t even need to have direct contact for the toy to stimulate you, if you hover it over the top it will still do the job and it will avoid overstimulation. This is Womanizer’s first insertable toy, so I had to review it as soon as I noticed it in our Oh Zone Adult Lifestyle Centres!!

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Image: Womanizer InsideOut

Packaging

Womanizer usually has really nice packaging but they have seriously outdone themselves with this one. Not sure if it’s because black is my colour but from the inside to the outside, the packaging is perfect.

When you open your new sexy, black Womanizer InsideOut you will find a fancy silk, black storage bag, an information manual, a second silicone head of a different size, your charging cord and something I’m super impressed that they have included that not many other companies give you unless it’s all in one piece is the wall dock for your cord!! For someone like me who has a million toys that I only dream I could charge all at the same time, this is a blessing.

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Charging

I recommend that every time you purchase a new rechargeable toy, it is always best that you let it charge up completely before using it for the first time. To charge you must connect your dock to a wall socket and connect your charging cord to the dock.

NOTE: Always use the same dock and charging cord when charging your toy to avoid ruining the motor.

After you have set up your dock allow the other end of the cord to attach to the end of your toy like a magnet with the two magnetic ports. Now, when I first charged up our tester toy in one of our shops it threw me off a little when I couldn’t find a light indicating that the toy was charging. After some research, I found that the charging light is in the nozzle of the clit stimulator. The light will blink red meaning it’s charging and then change to a still green light when completely charged. It takes 90 minutes to completely charge and you should get up to 2 hours of play time depending on which settings you are using throughout.

InsideOut

The Womanizer InsideOut is surprisingly just as light and quiet as their other products. This toy is made out of body safe silicone, from the insertable side to the handle which makes it really nice and soft to touch.

NOTE: No using silicone lubricant with this or any of the other Womanizer products.

There are 4 buttons on your handle, two + and two – buttons. The bottom + button has a second ring around it indicating that the two lower buttons are to increase and decrease the external stimulator. Both motors have 12 different levels of intensity, another blessing. I am personally not a fan of pattern settings, so the toys that only offer speed are usually my personal favorites.

Now, I do not own this toy so this review is based on me opening up and having a feel of our tester. I think that the shape is well designed and I love that the insertable side is nice and flexible. If you’re up for it I think the InsideOut could possibly work as an anal toy as well. It is curved nicely for great G-spot stimulation and the external side is just as strong as all of their other products. The only downside I found was that the vibrations weren’t very powerful on the internal side, you could mostly feel it at the tip rather than spread out from the bottom to the tip but I guess it vibrates where it matters.

I love Womanizer because they are realistic when it comes to the design of their toy specifically made for a woman, they know and understand that all woman don’t have the same shaped vaginas!!! So, if you find that the external side of the toy isn’t doing much for you, try swapping the head with the other one that they have included until you work out which sized head works best for your needs.

Waterproof and cleaning

Just like all of Womanizer’s other products this one is 100% waterproof, which means you can use this toy in the bath or shower. Unlike their other products though this one has no holes when it comes to charging so there’s no need to stress about water seeping in anywhere with this one.

Waterproof also means no stress when it comes to cleaning. Give your toy a spray down with some adult toy cleaner and after letting it sit for a few minutes wash it down with some warm water.

Warranty

Again, just like all of their other products, Womanizer offers a 2-year manufacturing warranty.

Author: Elliana is a consultant from Oh Zone Adult Lifestyle Centres

Jennifer works marketing at Adultsmart an online sex toy shop. She has a non-judgemental approach to sex, sex toys and sexuality. Her favorite saying is if it feels good and right and is not illegal then why not!

Going Beast Mode With Breast Worship

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Did you know just how incredible breast really are? Most of the population are already averred multi taskers but did you know that breast were also absolute beasts at multi-tasking!

What happens to the breasts during sexual arousal

During sex your breasts go into full beast mode and are bomb multi-taskers let me tell you how, they may just change your whole view that breasts can only be visually amazing.

During the throws of passion and penetration your breasts actually increase in size, approximately 20-25% to put a figure on it. Basically, they swell in anticipation of orgasm… say hello to a natural boob job, just when you thought you were at your max sexiness.

As does your areolas! Not only will you see a visible change in your breast size but also the size of the areola which eventually gives you erect nipples. Your breasts also become more firm and well-shaped just when you thought your body couldn’t get any better your body turns it up and turns it on.

Increased sensitivity is your best friend, trust me. When you become aroused your breasts become super sensitive, every little touch gets ramped up when you’re aroused and guess what those tiny goose bumps don’t mean your breasts are cold it means they are actually turned on!

Your breasts are like little or not so little antennas and send signals to your brain, when your breasts are touched or fondled with they send those signals to the brain to release oxytocin in abundance! For those of you who don’t know or haven’t read the 100’s of blogs on our site that speak about oxytocin which is popularly known as the “love hormone”, this is what helps you and your partner bond better during sex, and also a few other cool things which I’ll talk about in just a bit! So really it doesn’t matter about the size of your breast you have them to thank for the increased attraction your partner now has for you. If you want even bigger breasts or nipples, you can grow in size with breast pumps.

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Your breast create a natural perfume, yes you read that correctly! During sex your breasts release some scented sweet pheromones. The only downfall is that you won’t be able to consciously smell it yourself, but your partner definitely will and they will feel more attracted to you in the process.

They are the bodies chameleon, they actually change colour, don’t get freaked out though they won’t turn purple or green, but you might be able to see a pink rash underneath or on the sides while having sex. This is caused because of a mixture of oestrogen and the stimulation of blood vessels. However, they might have a blue tinge to them but that will only be your veins becoming more visible due to arousal.

Sexual confidence, it doesn’t take a rocket scientist to realise that with these changes it can actually make you feel sexier and gives you a confidence boost. That’s why they call it sex appeal.

They bridge the gap, literally! There is an actual neurological link between the stimulation of your nipples and clitoris. Even more incentive for your partner to be multitasking or you to play with your breasts while they are exploring other parts of your body.

A kinky fetish for breasts and bodily fluids

Now for something a little different for all those fetish lovers, have you ever noticed that the breast secretes liquid, does it turn you or your partner on? Since we have all just learnt about just how much goes on with breast during sex and the fact that sexual arousal releases a hormone called oxytocin are you also aware that this is the same hormone that is released during breast feeding.

Because of this oxytocin surge, sometimes during sex women’s breasts will either leak or squirt breast milk, while being aroused, experiencing orgasm or by squeezing or stimulating the breasts- your vagina isn’t the only body part that can squirt. This is nothing to be embarrassed about, it is completely normal but if it does bother you just keep a towel handy.

For some this is a huge turn on and a fetish within itself many people have a fetish for body fluids and within that realm of fluids is breast milk.

I think everyone has been curious about the taste of breast milk at least once in their lives lactophilia is an attraction to a lactating breast and breast milk, throughout evolution breasts have been a symbol of fertility, sexuality and nourishment there is something about breasts that men and women throughout the ages have found so incredibly desirable.

What is erotic lactation?

Erotic lactation is being sexually aroused by the thought of, viewing or participating in breastfeeding.  For some it’s drinking of the milk that their fetish lies, for others it can be watching a woman lactate or the art of the breast milk squirting out of the breasts. There is no umbrella rule for lactation play, even the exact part that is arousing is different for all but one thing that is constant is the fact that involves the breasts and the liquid that comes from them.

The difference between breast worship and a lactation fetish

Many people are sexually attracted towards breasts but there is a difference between breast worship and lactation fetish, an example is the difference between someone who is attracted to buttocks and loving anal sex compared to someone who is aroused by someone defecating and the idea of defecation.

The reasons why people are attracted to and turned on by different fetishes are all individually different but there are several factors that can explain an erotic curiosity in breast milk. One thing that is certain is that anything and everything should always be done by two consenting adults it doesn’t matter if they are in a platonic, romantic or a kinky BDSM relationship, not every person has the same kinks or fetish’s, and some don’t even know it’s a kink of fetish for them until it happens.

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Author: Morgan is a consultant from Oh Zone Adult Lifestyle Centres

Although relatively young Morgan has lived a life filled with experiences that have made her grow as a person. She has completed and is a product and interior designer who is a strong believer in equality between sexes and speaks out against violence. Working in the adult industry has allowed her to grow as a person and come out of her emotional and sexual shell.