Experts Tips In Breaking The Fear Bubble In Trying Anal Sex For The First Time

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Whenever sex topics are talked about, almost everyone is willing to share their first time in bed. However, take in mind that most people often refer to vagina and penis penetration. For some, anal play or anal sex is still taboo, and only a few individuals are open with their anal play engagement.

 

But did you know that heterosexual anal intercourse is not an uncommon sexual activity? Women and men with ages ranging from 25-44 had experienced anal intercourse. In numbers, 35% of women and 44% of men engage with the said activity.

 

Yet, even with the numbers are increasing over recent years, some are still afraid of trying anal play for the first time. A lot of speculation and fears lead them to overthink how the entire experience will go. If you’re reading this, you might be interested in anal sex. Read on and let the experts clear your thoughts about anal sex. Maybe, after reading the article, you might find yourself relieved and excited to try it out with your partner.

Anal Sex Is For All

Contrary to what you hear or think, anal sex is definitely for everyone. Whatever gender orientation you have, you can enjoy anal sex with your partner. And one good thing with anal play is everyone has anuses, so you can either receive or get one, depending on your heart’s content.

 

You might be wondering how a woman can treat her partner (women to women or women to men scenario) during an anal play. You might be thinking that it’s kind of impossible before. However, these days, it’s easier than ever.

 

Thanks to many types of sex toys, it can now be done. Popularly referred to as pegging,  women can now treat their partners, either men or women, with an anal play through this sexual activity. Women can wear a strap-on dildo and penetrate the anus of their partners.

 

What’s even better is that the entire anal play can be improvised to add intensity to the experience using other sex toys. Moreover, couples can also share stimulation by using a strapless dildo. With this, the female partner can have her clit stimulated while pouncing her partner through their anus.

 

But all of these strange yet sexy sexual repertoire might come off a bit awkward for beginners, and we would like to break that awkwardness. Now, let’s read on what sex and relationship experts have to say about how a couple or an individual can break through the fear of anal sex.

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According to sex educator and CannaSexual founder, Ashley Manta, our anus, made up of the sphincter and the rectum, are teeming with nerve-endings that, when stretched and filled in, give off a fantastic feeling. Feeling ecstatic yet? Hold on for a while. As per Luna Matatas, a sex and pleasure educator, you can’t directly dive into the whole anal play right away. Foreplay is a must.

 

That’s why treating your partner with a pleasure oral sex stimulator and other sex toys can be a great way to heat things up. It’s best to go slow and steady first. However, if you and your partner are already utilizing sex toys during intercourse, it can be a good start to introduce sex toys designed for anal play.

 

Certified sex therapist and a licensed psychologist, Rachel Needle, Psy.D  advise couples to always communicate with their partner. If your partner is having fears and doubt with anal sex, try to take things slowly. If you’re on the side of the relationship who does have more experience, discuss this new sexual activity and make sure both of you are on the same page.

 

Use lubricant as more lubrication means better and enjoyable anal sex. Remember that unlike the vagina, the anus doesn’t produce its lubrication. That’s why many women are naturally scared of what’s getting in there. You can also use water or silicone-based condoms.

 

Don’t hesitate to use anal sex toys. It’s highly suggested, and you don’t necessarily need to insert it to your anus right away. A little vibration can add a lot of new stimulation in the area. It can help you get acquainted with the new and strange sensation, as per sexologist Jill McDevitt.

 

Like masturbation, you can also introduce anal play on your own. This is best advised for individuals interested in trying new things on their own before trying it with someone else. It gives an individual a sense of freedom-, the liberty to experiment with new things on your body.  According to Alicia Sinclair, a sex expert and the woman behind b-Vibe,  that’s not a bad thing to do. It’s only natural that you want to explore the intricacies of your body by yourself.

 

Learn your most comfortable position. Whatever you read on any sex magazines or hear advice from friends, you always need to learn what position you and your partner are most comfortable with. If you are on the receiving end, it’s easiest to be on your back or stomach. Take it from Dr. Zhana Vrangalova, an NYU professor of human sexuality and also a LELO sexpert. However, comfort differs from one person to another, so take the time to figure out your most preferred position.

 

And to give you peace of mind, anal sex won’t stretch you out. If this factor scares you, don’t be. As per assistant clinical professor, Alyssa Dweck, MD at Mount Sinai School of Medicine, your anus will bounce back to normal after it accommodates a penis or sex toy entry. Thus, don’t worry about incontinence and enjoy the experience.

Takeaway

Anal sex or anal play has become a trendy sexual repertoire, so it’s not surprising that individuals and couples engaging with the activity are increasing. However, there are still individuals who are afraid of doing it. However, proper research, preparation, and communication with your partner can lead to enjoyable anal sex. These experts’ advice and tips can significantly help anyone interested in exploring their behind and enjoy the experience.

 

Author’s bio:

Belinda is a 42-year-old married mother of three who lives in Naples, Florida. While staying at home to raise her children, she began to write articles and blogs for various outlets. She was raised in a strict, Christian home, but has since found more peace with a more spiritual approach to life and health. A strong believer in natural and alternative medicine, energy healing, and total wellness, she stumbled on the health benefits of the female orgasm quite by accident. Since then, she has often written pieces that help inform others about the benefits she discovered. Belinda also enjoys taking care of her home and family, and often jokes that she is a bit of a Stepford wife… with a wild side. In her free time, she loves to spend time at the beach with her family, host parties and BBQ’s, and work outside in one of her many flower gardens.

Butt Plugs For Beginners!

My boyfriend has always been really experimental when it comes to being intimate. Recently he threw out the idea of trying something very different for me. I was unsure about where he was going with the whole conversation because last time I ended up covered in sundae toppings. However, this time he asked if I would ever be willing to allow anal play. I was always taught that was a no-go type of zone. Yet, many of my friends have stated just how great it was and that the orgasms are much stronger and tend to last a lot longer.

He brought up the fact that I had never done anal that I could possibly try starting out with a butt plug that is made for beginners, to help me to get accustomed to what it would feel like to actually have him in there. I did a lot of research on the types of butt plugs and what is best for a beginner, how to get prepared for one, and so much more. I had researched so much that I was actually starting to get scared about what I had been reading.

The first thing that I did after that point was go into my local adult toy store and ask questions. The sales person was really thorough with all the answers to my questions and I was led back into a room that contained so many adult toys, it could have almost been a warehouse of dildos. I was led to a section that contained butt plugs. The first thing I noticed is that they ranged in sizes. From tiny no more than 1 inch around to huge more than 5 inches around. They had beginner packages that contained a numbing agent, lubricant and the butt plug, and there were even some that just came by itself. There were oddities when it came to butt plugs such as some that had tails or spikes, some that vibrated, and some that were waterproof and made of glass.

Finally, I took a chance and found a small, jelly type of butt plug that I would be able to practice with. It was small and blue. It was no more than 2 inches around. I also purchased a water-based lubricant and I purchased a numbing lube as well called AnalEase. I will not lie I was overly nervous about anything going in that area as there have been stories about things that happen that are not the most hygienic.

So according to the websites that I read, it is best to use the bathroom and then shower before using a butt plug. I decided to follow the protocol and I made sure that I was looking the best that I could for this experience. My boyfriend, being the great guy that he is made sure that I stayed calm for the whole experience. The first thing was to apply the AnalEase which is a lubricant that is used to numb the nerves for use of anal toys. It has to be inserted with a finger which was quite awkward. It numbs you just enough to where it will not hurt, but not enough that you cannot feel the sensations from the nerves.

The feelings of his fingers in my hind end was an odd experience to start with. It took a few minutes but I had really begun to relax and allow the sensations to take over. He then removed his fingers and applied my water-based lubricant to the toy and a little to my butt. I then felt him press the butt plug against my rectum. There was a lot of pressure at first, but he went slowly enough to allow me to adjust to the sensations that I was experiencing. Eventually the butt plug had been inserted and I stayed still for a moment to allow my body to be completely adjusted before any other types of pleasure could happen.

Eventually, the sensations of the butt plug moving with other movements allowed for some intense pleasure during intercourse and even foreplay. Just bumping the butt plug allowed for there to be increased sensations from the nerve endings in my rectum. It was if my whole body was on fire from the orgasms that I was having. When we had finished with our session, the removal of the butt plug was also very easy. Although I was overly sensitive when it was removed. The pressure of having it in me for an extended amount of time did cause a bit of soreness afterwards. That is one thing that they do not prepare anyone who uses a butt plug for. There will be soreness after it is used, especially if it is your first time ever having anything in that area.

You will want to be sure that after you are done playing with the butt plug that you clean it thoroughly otherwise you could end up with an infection. You will want to use warm water and a toy cleaner, which is best, but if not be sure to use a soft soap that will not destroy the plastic or jelly material of the butt plug. You also want to let it air dry because using a towel can leave lint and fuzz on the toy. Once you have cleaned and dried it, be sure to store it in a place or package that will keep it clean. I have a small plastic container that I put mine in.

Butt plugs now a favorite

After using a butt plug for the first time, it has become a favorite toy for me and my boyfriend, especially when we have enough time to really enjoy the experience. I have moved up in size now and eventually I hope to keep moving up in size. It is a unique experience that everyone should try at least once.

Releasing Hot Passion With Katrina

Prostate Massager By Sweetoy

I was introduced to this next sex toy with very few details. I was handed a beautiful light grey tone bag, and told to “Have fun with Sweetoys new Prostate Massager”, I was excited, to say the least. Katrina was provided for review by our friends at Dongguan Sweetoy Co Ltd which is a brand that is made by the manufacturing company Wang Shing Sex Toys Co Ltd. You won’t be disappointed in any products from Sweetoys. This was not going to be my first Sweetoy, but this one was new and different!

What’s In A Name?

I waited till I got home to open and inspect it thoroughly. Upon inspection I was in awe over this beautiful Prostate Massager, a remote was also included “exciting” says my partner glancing at the new sex toy. The bag also contained a small pictographic manual, nothing with a name? Hrmm? What am I supposed to call my new friend? I like to know the names of whom I’m getting intimate with. I searched the sex toy itself. Re looked through the Pictographic manual, it just explained the odd looking forked end to its Massager. I had already guessed how the soft Bident end of the base to this massager worked. It’s a two tine fork almost that runs along the base of this Sweetoy. It’s actually pretty genius; each of the soft silicone ends add the most tantalising sensations to the perineum and scrotum. You simply slide the scrotum in-between the easily spread forked end and let yourself enjoy the incredible sensations this sex toy provides. I could go on about the fun to be had with this sex toy, but I needed to know its name.

I had to email the big bosses to see if someone could offer me an introduction to this sex toy. I had found out that Sweetoys had just recently updated their packaging to display the product’s name in rose gold letters clearly on the front with a classically beautiful black box. The Prostate Massager is carefully placed inside the box in a tray and it also includes a flannelette bag so you can store the sex toy safely away. But to be honest, I was slightly disappointed with the name it was given. This Prostate Massager was called “Katrina”, yes Katrina? It just didn’t make sense, why this name, isn’t Katrina the loudest girl at every party?

I have always enjoyed the names that Sweetoys have come up with in the past. I don’t know why I questioned this one so much, but it did. I started looking into the meanings and origins of the name Katrina. After a little digging, it is a really fitting name for this particular sex toy, perhaps a bit deep but fitting.

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The Features Of Katrina

Katrina is a German name, the fact it is German speaks about this Prostate Massager’s perfect design. From its smooth seamless silicon body to the shape and form it takes with the body during use. Katrina offers approx 3.5 inches of insert-able vibrating pleasure, the ridges along the insertable shaft are ensuring your prostate a good time.

Katrina is said to experience extremes in fortune and spirituality. Fortune hits right on the money. When you first look at Katrina the sleek black silicone is paired with rose gold accents. Yes, you read that right, rose gold accents, this sex toy is next to Tiffany Show Room ready. Even as a man the rose gold and black combo is truly eye catching. It will make any user feel special.

The name Katrina is said to be intuitive, idealistic and versatile, and Katrina the PM is all of those things indeed. Katrina is said to understand the laws of harmony and has a desire for balance. When you insert this sex toy, it’s like a key. Fitting exactly where it’s supposed to. The design and shape of this sex toy ensure your personal pleasure zones are not only engaged but experiencing the real pleasure. The vibration settings take the user on a journey to places of pleasure they might be unfamiliar with, but with this PM they are sure to enjoy it and even want to come back again and again.

Katrina is said to feel incomplete without a someone to share with. Just like the name the PM plays so well with a partner. The remote for one, it’s a great sex toy to hand your partner, giving them total control of the sex toy’s vibrations.

I had no place to question the name sake of this wonderful Prostate Massage Tool. Katrina fits in every way. My partner and I will both have to get comfortable when we invite Katrina into our bed.

Where To Find Katrina

Katrina has not made her debut into the Oh Zone Adult Lifestyle Centres yet, I was very lucky to get a sneak preview. But Katrina is a must for anyone and any couple who incorporate a little anal play into their fun. The remote really adds a fun dynamic for you and your partner.

Keep your eyes open on the Adultsmart website for the availability of the Katrina Prostate Massager from Sweetoy, you don’t want to miss it!

Author: KrizPatrick BA(Hon) Psychology- Human Sexuality

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Anal Play – I Did It My Way!

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Some of my most treasured possessions in my sex toy drawer(s) worthy of being saved in the unlikely event of a house fire include my anal toys. I find these toys to be the most used and loved in my solo and partnered sex life-there are so many different options that each lead to a uniquely pleasurable experience. Butt toys are a great way of experimenting with anal play and are particularly appropriate for those who may have some reluctance with this type of play.

I am proud to admit that 80% of my bootie toy collection consists of Fun Factory products. There are many reasons why I am a huge fan of Fun Factory’s amazing anal product line, their high quality, funky designs and potential for inducing exquisite pleasure being the obvious highlights.

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Fun Factory are a German based sex toy company, producing quirky, playful and amazing quality sex toys at affordable prices. They are made from medical grade silicone which I have found to have its own unique texture. Unlike other brands that have a silky-smooth feel, the silicone that Fun Factory use for their products is slightly textured and grabby. It feels amazing and is great when used with a high-quality water based lubricant such as Pjur Back Door Comfort Water Based Anal Glide. Medical Grade Silicone is a non-porous material which means it’s very hygienic hence great for anal play. With waterproof anal toys, I highly recommend using a foaming toy cleaner such as Wicked Foam n Fresh to keep them spick and span.

Safety is paramount when experimenting with toys and anal play. Unlike a woman’s vagina, the anus and gastrointestinal system is long and there is much larger room for error (To put it simply, you can lose things up there!!). To avoid a trip to the emergency department, it is vital that any toys you are using for anal play have a wide base and solid handle that is easy to hold onto so as to avoid missing toys.

Flexi Felix Anal Beads

To be perfectly honest, I used to have some big judgements of the Flexi Felix Anal Beads. I couldn’t understand what Fun Factory were thinking creating a butt toy with a weird alien head handle (According to Fun Factory, it is actually a beetle head). It freaked me out and I never actually opened the box until a few months of working in the Oh Zone Adult Lifestyle Centres. Well you know the saying “Don’t judge a book by its cover?” This is exactly what I insist customers do when I present them with the Flexi Felix as I believe that once you really check them out, you will agree that they are amazing anal beads!! Their elongated shape means they are really comfortable to insert and remove. This is super important when it comes to any sex toy especially anal beads and means they are perfect for anal bead beginners. Flexi Felix Anal Beads are 32cms in total length and are available in black or pink.

 

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Sex Toy: Fun Factory Bootie Set

Bootie Butt Plugs

The Bootie Butt Plug is a toy I hold near and dear to my heart as it was the first but plug I ever owned-my first introduction to butt toys in fact (I know, a very sweet story…Hold back your tears). Fun Factory have uniquely designed these toys, straying away from the traditional straight plugs and creating a curved plug with a tapered end that is a comfortable and snug fit. The base is intended to sit comfortably between your butt cheeks and is long enough to hold on to with ease. The Bootie plugs are available as singles in small, medium and large or in a box set with all three. The small is perfect for absolute beginners at 7.5cm in length and 2.5cm girth. The medium at 9.3cm length and 3.5cm width is a decent step up for intermediate users and the large at 11.1cm length and 4cm width is perfect for those who are experienced anal play peeps.

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Sex Toy: Fun Factory B Balls

B Balls

What do you get when you combine a Kegel exerciser and butt toy?! The Fun Factory B Balls of course!! The latest addition to my collection, this toy is stepping up to favourite position due to the exquisite pleasure it brings to my life. The B Balls are available in single or double, with each ball featuring a weighted ball within which creates a subtle shaking and vibrating-like sensation when moved around-no batteries required either! The pulsations of this travel through your body, a unique feeling that I am sure both men and women will love just as much as I do. The B Balls are available in Black/Red or Purple/White. The only part of these toys I will fault is the design not being smooth all over. I am not a fan of any sex toys that have cracks or creases, especially anal toys and these do. Prior to use, I would recommend anal douching and giving them a thorough cleaning after use, ensuring to not miss these spots.

 

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Duke Vibrator

Out of all the amazing prostate vibrators available in store, The Fun Factory Duke is my number one seller. It has powerful vibrations with 2 intensities and 3 patterns, an easy to grip handle, is waterproof, includes a removable rechargeable bullet for use without the silicone prostate sleeve and comes with a 2-year warranty for any manufacturing faults. All of this at a really decent price. Now as a female I am sans prostate however I can vouch for these vibes as I have heard nothing but positive feedback.

If you are interested in their products, be sure to check out our Exclusive Interview With Laura Von Der Brelie From Fun Factory. Whether you are an anal play newbie or pro, Fun Factory deliver when it comes to making high quality butt toys available. Come into the Oh Zone Adult Lifestyle Centres and check them out!! If you are looking for an anal play enthusiasts you can meet you match on the Plenty of Fish dating website.

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P-Spot Beyond Pleasure!

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I don’t need to explain to the homosexual readers of this blog the pleasures that come from the prostates involvement in your sexual activities. This article is for the hetero-curious men and couples out there reading. It is about opening up to find pleasure and equality through the prostate.

From the beginning of our sexual explorations and curiosities we learn from what we see, and as the prostate is unseen it is rarely spoken about. Not to mention the “Taboo” associated with anal play. The stigma that men who participate in anal play must be gay.. is too long outdated and is in serious need of a new outlook. The act of a man participating in a prostate orgasm allows for a man to step outside of the societal gender roles and hand the power over to his female partner. Too rarely does a man ever get to experience the receptive part or sex, all too often they take the common role of “Pitching” and leave the “Catching” or receptive aspect of sex to their female partners. This ideology is what I believe to be a huge factor in why the notion of gender roles are as they are currently.

A mutual knowledge of the vulnerability/ the expected role of a woman starts from experiencing two sides of the same coin. In this particular topic, penetration is the coin. For a man who has never experienced penetration on himself, he might intellectually understand the need for the “warm-up” before penetration, however, nothing can demonstrate its importance as well as experiencing it first hand. There’s always a clearer perspective that comes from personal experience.

What Is A Prostate You Ask?

The prostate is a small gland made up of mostly muscle tissue that sits around the base of the bladder. Its main function is to secrete fluids that are mixed with the Semen from the Vas Deference during orgasm. This is the most important piece of information for this article. A man’s prostate is most active at the moment leading to orgasm when pressure is added to the already pulsing Prostate gland creates an even more powerful ejaculate which heightens the feeling of orgasm. This reason alone should be enough to intrigue any man!

Through prostate orgasm, a man is able to reach multiple orgasms… Yes, I said it! A man can have multiple orgasms too! It is not just for the ladies.

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Benefits Beyond Pleasure

When you engage the prostate with massage/added pressure, as I previously said allows for larger ejaculation orgasms. This helps to empty and refresh the prostate. It also encourages blood flow to the pelvic area, this helps to fight impotence. Yes playing with this little gland can help ensure you have healthy erections well into agedness. There is also a ton of research being done currently as to how having a regularly refreshed prostate lowers the potential risk of prostate cancer found so commonly in men. There are many other health benefits of a prostate massage.

How To Engage In Prostate Stimulation?

The prostate can be stimulated by adding pressure to the anatomy of the perineum (the space between the testicles and the anus. However direct contact from inside is always more intimate with greater effects. The prostate can be reached by inserting one finger into the anus approximately 1.5-2 inches tip of the finger pointing to the naval and rolling your finger in a come hither motion. You should feel a squishy marble as you do this, that’s the prostate. Very easy to find. Keep in mind the skin around the anal opening is very sensitive and can tear very easily. EXTRA Lube is necessary. Start with a warm up; caress the outside of the anus (the anus has as many nerve ending as any other erogenous zone). Try stroking the penis, as the penis gets erect the blood flow around the prostate will also increase created a heightened pleasure sense. For more information, read our guide to finding the prostate.

Effects On The Relationship

For hetero-normative couples, it is understandable how “flipping” the roles could potentially have some uncharted territory. But that’s no reason to avoid or judge something. Especially something that has so much potential. Communication is key! You are in this together! Sex is more than just procreation. Sex is also about pleasure and as discussed has countless health benefits. What this will allow or aid in with couples in establishing compassion, empathy and understanding towards each other. It may not eliminate gender based unfairness or sexism, it does have the ability to open equal understanding and dialogue.

If you’re open enough to try a new world of pleasure, just remember to relax, have fun. It’s VERY NORMAL. Millions of men and women worldwide have already found the amazing pleasure to be had from this great pleasure zone. Everyone should want to be on the same page as their partner

Author: KrizPatrick BA(Hon) Psychology – Human SexualitySave

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