Experts Tips In Breaking The Fear Bubble In Trying Anal Sex For The First Time

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Whenever sex topics are talked about, almost everyone is willing to share their first time in bed. However, take in mind that most people often refer to vagina and penis penetration. For some, anal play or anal sex is still taboo, and only a few individuals are open with their anal play engagement.

 

But did you know that heterosexual anal intercourse is not an uncommon sexual activity? Women and men with ages ranging from 25-44 had experienced anal intercourse. In numbers, 35% of women and 44% of men engage with the said activity.

 

Yet, even with the numbers are increasing over recent years, some are still afraid of trying anal play for the first time. A lot of speculation and fears lead them to overthink how the entire experience will go. If you’re reading this, you might be interested in anal sex. Read on and let the experts clear your thoughts about anal sex. Maybe, after reading the article, you might find yourself relieved and excited to try it out with your partner.

Anal Sex Is For All

Contrary to what you hear or think, anal sex is definitely for everyone. Whatever gender orientation you have, you can enjoy anal sex with your partner. And one good thing with anal play is everyone has anuses, so you can either receive or get one, depending on your heart’s content.

 

You might be wondering how a woman can treat her partner (women to women or women to men scenario) during an anal play. You might be thinking that it’s kind of impossible before. However, these days, it’s easier than ever.

 

Thanks to many types of sex toys, it can now be done. Popularly referred to as pegging,  women can now treat their partners, either men or women, with an anal play through this sexual activity. Women can wear a strap-on dildo and penetrate the anus of their partners.

 

What’s even better is that the entire anal play can be improvised to add intensity to the experience using other sex toys. Moreover, couples can also share stimulation by using a strapless dildo. With this, the female partner can have her clit stimulated while pouncing her partner through their anus.

 

But all of these strange yet sexy sexual repertoire might come off a bit awkward for beginners, and we would like to break that awkwardness. Now, let’s read on what sex and relationship experts have to say about how a couple or an individual can break through the fear of anal sex.

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According to sex educator and CannaSexual founder, Ashley Manta, our anus, made up of the sphincter and the rectum, are teeming with nerve-endings that, when stretched and filled in, give off a fantastic feeling. Feeling ecstatic yet? Hold on for a while. As per Luna Matatas, a sex and pleasure educator, you can’t directly dive into the whole anal play right away. Foreplay is a must.

 

That’s why treating your partner with a pleasure oral sex stimulator and other sex toys can be a great way to heat things up. It’s best to go slow and steady first. However, if you and your partner are already utilizing sex toys during intercourse, it can be a good start to introduce sex toys designed for anal play.

 

Certified sex therapist and a licensed psychologist, Rachel Needle, Psy.D  advise couples to always communicate with their partner. If your partner is having fears and doubt with anal sex, try to take things slowly. If you’re on the side of the relationship who does have more experience, discuss this new sexual activity and make sure both of you are on the same page.

 

Use lubricant as more lubrication means better and enjoyable anal sex. Remember that unlike the vagina, the anus doesn’t produce its lubrication. That’s why many women are naturally scared of what’s getting in there. You can also use water or silicone-based condoms.

 

Don’t hesitate to use anal sex toys. It’s highly suggested, and you don’t necessarily need to insert it to your anus right away. A little vibration can add a lot of new stimulation in the area. It can help you get acquainted with the new and strange sensation, as per sexologist Jill McDevitt.

 

Like masturbation, you can also introduce anal play on your own. This is best advised for individuals interested in trying new things on their own before trying it with someone else. It gives an individual a sense of freedom-, the liberty to experiment with new things on your body.  According to Alicia Sinclair, a sex expert and the woman behind b-Vibe,  that’s not a bad thing to do. It’s only natural that you want to explore the intricacies of your body by yourself.

 

Learn your most comfortable position. Whatever you read on any sex magazines or hear advice from friends, you always need to learn what position you and your partner are most comfortable with. If you are on the receiving end, it’s easiest to be on your back or stomach. Take it from Dr. Zhana Vrangalova, an NYU professor of human sexuality and also a LELO sexpert. However, comfort differs from one person to another, so take the time to figure out your most preferred position.

 

And to give you peace of mind, anal sex won’t stretch you out. If this factor scares you, don’t be. As per assistant clinical professor, Alyssa Dweck, MD at Mount Sinai School of Medicine, your anus will bounce back to normal after it accommodates a penis or sex toy entry. Thus, don’t worry about incontinence and enjoy the experience.

Takeaway

Anal sex or anal play has become a trendy sexual repertoire, so it’s not surprising that individuals and couples engaging with the activity are increasing. However, there are still individuals who are afraid of doing it. However, proper research, preparation, and communication with your partner can lead to enjoyable anal sex. These experts’ advice and tips can significantly help anyone interested in exploring their behind and enjoy the experience.

 

Author’s bio:

Belinda is a 42-year-old married mother of three who lives in Naples, Florida. While staying at home to raise her children, she began to write articles and blogs for various outlets. She was raised in a strict, Christian home, but has since found more peace with a more spiritual approach to life and health. A strong believer in natural and alternative medicine, energy healing, and total wellness, she stumbled on the health benefits of the female orgasm quite by accident. Since then, she has often written pieces that help inform others about the benefits she discovered. Belinda also enjoys taking care of her home and family, and often jokes that she is a bit of a Stepford wife… with a wild side. In her free time, she loves to spend time at the beach with her family, host parties and BBQ’s, and work outside in one of her many flower gardens.

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6 Interesting Facts about Pegging

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These days, we see a lot of pegging personals and pegging dating sites, which means only one thing – heterosexual men are enjoying anal sex with their girlfriends. Pegging allows them to experience the role of a woman during anal sex and they find this very exciting. Also, this type of sex provides women with a chance to see what it’s like to be a man. In fact, pegging or strap-on sex is one of the most popular sex trends these days and heterosexual men are the ones who are enjoying it the most. With that in mind, we are going to talk about 6 interesting facts about pegging.

 

What Is Pegging?

 

The name “pegging” might sound confusing, especially to men who are used to traditional intercourse, but the definition of pegging is actually very simple. Pegging is a type of sex during which a woman penetrates a man’s anus with a strap-on dildo. Lesbian couples also enjoy pegging, but believe it or not, it’s more popular among heterosexual couples.

 

Why Men Love It So Much?

 

You probably know that women have something that is called a G-Spot, right? It is a spot inside their vagina that, when stimulated, makes them cum. Well, men have this too. It’s an erogenous zone called the “p-spot” and it is located inside the rectum. By touching the p-spot, a person stimulates the prostate gland, which allows them to have more intense orgasms. Stimulating the prostate gland with a strap-on dildo is easy and that is why men love pegging so much.

 

Pegging Helps Lovers To Experience Each Other’s Roles In Bed

 

Most men and women don’t know what it’s like for the other person during sex. Pegging allows them to change the roles and experience sex from their lover’s perspective. This is one of the main reasons why strap-on sex is so popular these days. When she straps on a dildo, a woman gets to experience the excitement of thrusting and dominating her boyfriend. On the other hand, a man gets to see what it’s like to be penetrated. This type of sex helps lovers understand each other better during sex and that is why men and women enjoy pegging.

 

It Makes Men Better At Anal Sex

 

Most men are trying their best to make anal sex pleasurable for women, but to be honest, this is a very difficult task. It requires a lot of lube, a perfect technique, and patience. Most women would agree that horny men don’t bother with these three things during anal sex. However, when a guy tries pegging, he gets to see what anal sex is like for a woman, which things feel good and which don’t.

 

Best Positions For Pegging

 

Considering that most straight men are not used to being penetrated, finding the most comfortable position is very important. These days, doggy style is the most popular position for pegging, but that doesn’t mean it’s the best for strap-on sex. Therefore, here are the three best positions for pegging.

 

Doggy Style

 

We know we said that doggy style is not the best position for pegging, but it’s one of the best. It deserves a spot on our list because it is perfect for beginners. This position allows a man to control how deep the dildo goes. Also, a woman can easily play with the man’s anus.

 

Face-To-Face Missionary

 

This is undoubtedly the most intimate position. In a face-to-face missionary, man and woman can explore each other’s bodies during sex. Also, this position allows a woman to see her lover’s face during intercourse meaning she can see when he is enjoying himself and when he is in pain. One of the best things about this position is the fact that a man’s penis is easily accessible. It is literally up for grabs.

 

Cowboy

 

The cowboy position is on this list for the same reason as doggy style. It allows a man to control penetration during sex. The man does all the work here, while a woman can simply enjoy the show and play with his penis.

 

Pegging Doesn’t Make You Are Gay Or Bisexual

 

In today’s society, pegging is still a bit of a taboo. Most heterosexual men think that putting things in your butt makes you gay simply because that is what gay men do. However, this is not true. You don’t have to question your masculinity just because you like to play with your own anus. As we said, a man’s anus is full of nerve endings and stimulating the prostate can help a man experience intense orgasms. If a man wants to enjoy some anal play, that doesn’t make him gay or bisexual. It just means that he knows how to pleasure himself.

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Butt Plugs For Beginners!

My boyfriend has always been really experimental when it comes to being intimate. Recently he threw out the idea of trying something very different for me. I was unsure about where he was going with the whole conversation because last time I ended up covered in sundae toppings. However, this time he asked if I would ever be willing to allow anal play. I was always taught that was a no-go type of zone. Yet, many of my friends have stated just how great it was and that the orgasms are much stronger and tend to last a lot longer.

He brought up the fact that I had never done anal that I could possibly try starting out with a butt plug that is made for beginners, to help me to get accustomed to what it would feel like to actually have him in there. I did a lot of research on the types of butt plugs and what is best for a beginner, how to get prepared for one, and so much more. I had researched so much that I was actually starting to get scared about what I had been reading.

The first thing that I did after that point was go into my local adult toy store and ask questions. The sales person was really thorough with all the answers to my questions and I was led back into a room that contained so many adult toys, it could have almost been a warehouse of dildos. I was led to a section that contained butt plugs. The first thing I noticed is that they ranged in sizes. From tiny no more than 1 inch around to huge more than 5 inches around. They had beginner packages that contained a numbing agent, lubricant and the butt plug, and there were even some that just came by itself. There were oddities when it came to butt plugs such as some that had tails or spikes, some that vibrated, and some that were waterproof and made of glass.

Finally, I took a chance and found a small, jelly type of butt plug that I would be able to practice with. It was small and blue. It was no more than 2 inches around. I also purchased a water-based lubricant and I purchased a numbing lube as well called AnalEase. I will not lie I was overly nervous about anything going in that area as there have been stories about things that happen that are not the most hygienic.

So according to the websites that I read, it is best to use the bathroom and then shower before using a butt plug. I decided to follow the protocol and I made sure that I was looking the best that I could for this experience. My boyfriend, being the great guy that he is made sure that I stayed calm for the whole experience. The first thing was to apply the AnalEase which is a lubricant that is used to numb the nerves for use of anal toys. It has to be inserted with a finger which was quite awkward. It numbs you just enough to where it will not hurt, but not enough that you cannot feel the sensations from the nerves.

The feelings of his fingers in my hind end was an odd experience to start with. It took a few minutes but I had really begun to relax and allow the sensations to take over. He then removed his fingers and applied my water-based lubricant to the toy and a little to my butt. I then felt him press the butt plug against my rectum. There was a lot of pressure at first, but he went slowly enough to allow me to adjust to the sensations that I was experiencing. Eventually the butt plug had been inserted and I stayed still for a moment to allow my body to be completely adjusted before any other types of pleasure could happen.

Eventually, the sensations of the butt plug moving with other movements allowed for some intense pleasure during intercourse and even foreplay. Just bumping the butt plug allowed for there to be increased sensations from the nerve endings in my rectum. It was if my whole body was on fire from the orgasms that I was having. When we had finished with our session, the removal of the butt plug was also very easy. Although I was overly sensitive when it was removed. The pressure of having it in me for an extended amount of time did cause a bit of soreness afterwards. That is one thing that they do not prepare anyone who uses a butt plug for. There will be soreness after it is used, especially if it is your first time ever having anything in that area.

You will want to be sure that after you are done playing with the butt plug that you clean it thoroughly otherwise you could end up with an infection. You will want to use warm water and a toy cleaner, which is best, but if not be sure to use a soft soap that will not destroy the plastic or jelly material of the butt plug. You also want to let it air dry because using a towel can leave lint and fuzz on the toy. Once you have cleaned and dried it, be sure to store it in a place or package that will keep it clean. I have a small plastic container that I put mine in.

Butt plugs now a favorite

After using a butt plug for the first time, it has become a favorite toy for me and my boyfriend, especially when we have enough time to really enjoy the experience. I have moved up in size now and eventually I hope to keep moving up in size. It is a unique experience that everyone should try at least once.

Gay Anal Virgin Made For My Personal Pleasure!

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Three years ago, I used to listen to one of the local community radio stations. This particular night was different from every other night. A deeply masculine and soothing voice spoke “I am a married man secretly searching for an experienced mature gay man for a massage. I am an anal virgin made for your personal pleasure.”  I was instantly turned on by his offer. Plus it was free, so why not?  He continued “If you are interested in popping my tight cherry, contact the radio station for more details.” I hurriedly contacted the radio station who told me to meet him at the local docks in New York.

That night, I arrived at the docks and looked for him. The radio station told me to look for a man wearing a gay colour coded handkerchief in his right pocket of his jeans. I walked down the docks and looked for the man. I saw him first and watched him from a distance. He had short blonde hair with a fringe, his muscular body was perfectly outlined through his tight white shirt and tattoos covered his arms. Our eyes met for the first time, he smiled through his beard and adjusted his shirt in hopes that I would be the lucky candidate he had asked for.

I walked up to him and we spoke for a long time. I found out that he worked on the docks and frequently traveled out of New York. He had been married for five years but fantasized about his previous sexual encounters with his childhood friends. The sexual experimentation with his friends went no further than peeking at each other’s penises. Ever since then he had countless sexual thoughts of experiencing anal sex with a gay man for the first time. He appeared uncertain about what he was doing, he was so timid and almost powerless.

Since he was a beginner, I did not want to rush him. I decided to invite him over to my house for a drink and personal massage to see if he would like things to progress. I have worked professionally as a part time masseuse for the past couple of years and I had found that it is an extremely pleasant, nonthreatening approach to become more acquainted with somebody. We drove over to my place.

I gave him a cold beer and we chatted for some time until he was relaxed. At that point, I led him downstairs to where the massage table was. I instructed him to undress while I retrieved the oil and towels from another room. When I got back, there he was on the table, absolutely stripped and spread out like a smorgasbord. I took a gander at his ass knowing nobody had ever been in there before. I salivated.

I gave him one of my best and most sensual massages that I possibly could. He began to moan with every stroke. He rolled over onto his back and he placed his hard erection into my hand. I made him spread his legs with my free hand and plunged my mouth onto his cock. I slowly licked, slurped and drooled my way down to his rosebud.

I became harder knowing nobody had ever rimmed him before. I began to do my specialty, he lifted his legs lifted off the table which allowed me to get my tongue into his sweet asshole. He was squirmed and groaned in absolute delight as I twisted and moved his ass checks down into my face, almost like a dog in heat. When he was overwhelmed and could scarcely talk, I slid my tongue right into his rose bud and moved his body back and forth. I stroked his cock until he was about to cum. I quickly placed his cock down my throat and he came in immense spurts down my throat which I was pleased to swallow. As he rested, he groaned with relief.

I was in sweats and my shirt was soaked through. As he got dressed, he told me that nothing he had ever experienced before compared to the massage. He noted down on my calendar the times he was available. As he exited my house, he swore he’d be back.

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Early the following week I got a call from him. His wife was going away, he needed to come over and see me once more. He asked “Would it be okay if I spend the night? I’d truly love to.” I of course said yes.

On Thursday, he appeared at my doorstep. He gave me a big embrace and laid a sweet kiss on my cheek. We talked for some time, this time he appeared to be exceptionally eager so I took him down the stairs for another massage. When I got him downstairs it was obvious he wasn’t there for another massage, if his erect cock was any guide.

I ate him out again until he was on the verge of moaning. I peeled my garments off while I went down on him. I placed some SuperSlyde lubricant onto my fingers and inserted them inside. I began to finger him, moving them in and out. He groaned as his ass tightened around my fingers. I slowed down, moved my mouth to his ear and said “Do you want me to top you?” I inhaled into his ear. “Would you like to get fucked by a man?”

“Hell yeah!” he replied. I was hard as stone from listening to him groan and his words simply made me harder. I got the lube and rubbed it on my cock. I moved up on the table and settled between his legs. I pulled at his hips until he was up on his knees with his face still on the table. I gazed down into his totally gaping ass. His hole was a bit red and swollen from the fingering I’d effectively done. It almost sparkled in the low light with the lube I’d placed there. It looked like heaven’s door to me and he moved his hips forward and backward. His gape opened and closed as if it were winking at me. It opened and shut automatically as he knew what was about to happen to him. I grasped my cock at the base and swiveled my hips forward. The tip of my cock touched the wet entrance and simply kissed his gaped ass.

“Alright, I’m going to slide in. Push out, as if you’re taking a dump.” I said.

He kindly pushed out and when I saw his little gape open, I quickly began to squeeze the tip in knowing this would be his very first gay anal experience. At first I felt the resistance, but it began to give way which gave me a chance to slide it further into him. His little gap was only able to tolerate the head of my prick. When I popped it further inside, he snorted like he’d been punched. I halted totally still for a minute and he began to move his hips once more. He backed into me and pushed a couple of inches of me into his cherry butt. He whimpered a bit under his breath. His back was completely covered in sweat, the inches that he inserted had inspired him to push even deeper back onto my cock.

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I was completely inside of him, my balls were tight against his ring and my pubes scratched up against his butt cheeks. He groaned and gasped for a moment or two. I kept still and absorbed the mind boggling warmth and tight hold of his virginity. I ran my hands up his sides and down his spine which calmed and unwound him to get him prepared for more. I was going to ride his virgin ass hard, however I needed him to be completely invested so that he could always remember the hot and steamy moments of his first time.

I stayed still until he began to move under me. Then I slid myself out by only an inch and inserted it once more deeply inside. I rested as his hot ass grasped onto my hard cock. After every two breaths, I would move out and then back in. He groaned even louder and snorted each time I thrusted into his virgin cheeks. Each time I would go as deep as possible, with a throaty snort I rammed my cock right up into his pelvis. He began to move his butt once again into me and countered my strokes. His back broke out in shivers.

I was delicate with him but I used incredible power. I needed him to realize that it was a man in his rear end, that his virginity had been taken and there was no retreating. He angled his bum up into my groin with a full stroke and made a higher pitched groan. He did it again and made a little snort when it bottom. He was somewhat freer now, his virgin gape took me in more easily and it was beginning to feel great. The floods of joy were beginning for him and I knew the time had come to turn up the power a bit.

I lifted him up a little on the following stroke. This time I massaged my cock over his prostate. He made a startled sound. He moved once again into me and I pushed somewhat harder back in. His head swung to the side, his eyes were shut however his mouth was open and a little dribble spilled out the side of his lips which wet the sheets. I went into him quicker and harder this time. His body quivered under the blow, yet he continued to groan.

I thrusted in hard, his head lifted off the table somewhat and he groaned louder. I reached around his waist and held onto his prick which was rock hard. It spilled out with pre-cum. I massaged his pre-cum everywhere on his cock head and stroked it with a tight grasp. He intensely shivered as he yanked his head back hard when I pummeled into him.

After a few more hard strokes, I hauled my cock out of him. He grunted as I dragged him off the table and I pushed him down over it. I kicked his lower legs apart and slid into his rosebud with one hard stroke. I continued to stretch around and jerk his throbbing prick. I used his own pre-cum as lube. I fucked his butt for the following 20 minutes, blending short hard thrusts and long moderate strokes. He adored every moment.

At long last, his groans got louder and higher pitched. He thrusted back into me harder on every stroke. His head was going here and there on every stroke. I fucked harder into him, his prick swelled significantly harder and it knew it wouldn’t be much longer. I wasn’t too far away myself, I could feel my nuts tighten and the humming sensation that lets you know it will be a huge load.

All of a sudden he was there. I extended my body over him, I beat my hips into him and jacked him hard. With a profound snort, his prick spasmed in my grasp. He raised his head back. He spurted and spurted all of his seed over my massage table. His rosebud held me inside as firmly as it had when we’d initially begun. He discharged cum out everywhere on the table, his entire body writhed like a snake and his ass spasmed on my cock.

I beat two more strokes into the tight grip his ass had on me. I held myself hard and deep inside. I hammered out a hot and substantial load into his virgin ass. I shivered and gasped. It felt sweat and smooth. My cock pulsated in him as his ass drained out the last drops of my cum. I held him tight in my arms, one hand placed on his chest and the other cupped his balls. I lay forward over his back and simply inhaled into his neck for a minute. I rubbed my facial hair against his delicate skin for a minute.

He turned his head and looked at me. He wore a grin of a sexually fulfilled man – a bit timid, however extremely fulfilled.

That was the story of how a man of the docks lost his cherry for the very first time.