My OnlyFans Experience

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Another OnlyFans article? By the same person? What a crazy idea, it’s almost like my life is work and then sexy work!

I’ve been an OnlyFans creator for about 6 months now, did I start due to the pandemic? No, I started because I made an impulse buy of lingerie that was way out of my budget and decided I’d make the lingerie pay for itself, which is incredibly on brand for me as a person.

When I started I had about 2 toys and a few sets of lingerie, and took your standard nude selfies that you’d send to your tinder matches or your boyfriend; let me tell you how I’ve stepped up my game to keep my fans coming back 😉

Tech:

One of the first things I bought for my photos was a ringlight, it’s only small and I will be upgrading in the new year. Believe it or not LIGHTING IS EVERYTHING, this will change your photos in ways you won’t believe. Having a ringlight means you can choose where the light is coming from and how it will hit you, meaning you can choose exactly how your body looks on camera.
I also bought LED strip lights, being able to change the background colour of my shots is so fun and different, it can give the same outfit a tonne of different vibes with the click of a button. It also removes the need to have a ceiling light on, which removes having light shining directly down on you which isn’t flattering on anyone. They’re also super cheap which is awesome considering how much money you’ll make off them.

You need to get good at adding photos, removing shadows from where you don’t want them, fixing the lighting, removing blemishes if you want to (I find that my audience likes the more natural vibe because it makes it feel more realistic, but that’s just my boys).

Interactions:

Not everyone realises this when they start but you do need to be in touch with your subscribers, they’re not there just for the porn and the photos, as men always say “you can get that for free”. These fans usually love feeling connected to you so you need to be interacting with them, responding to your DM’s, doing deals for your top paying subs, gifts every now and again. Just keep in touch with them, make sure they feel special, after all they are paying for your content and bills.

Keep your personality:

My content isn’t always super serious and sexy, sometimes it’s me dancing around, having a laugh, just looking cute.
I once made $150 by telling people to tip me if they thought I was “smexilicious”, I posted it as a joke and they came through, maybe because they love to pay me, more than likely because I’m having fun with my content.
Occasionally I post photos of me with my car because I like my car, I love feeling like someone from The Fast & The Furious.
It’s just important to keep your content you, it’s what sets you apart from everyone else!

Outfits:

My outfits are usually mostly black, I used the same lingerie over and over again, but now I have that many I can rotate through them and no one realises I’ve worn them before. My go to is usually bodysuits because they flatter my body nicely and they’re easy to switch out of because I take a month’s worth of content in one night most times.
Recently, however, I have started leaning into lighter coloured two pieces, I have braces and glasses so leaning into the teen category really does boost my numbers sometimes, and it’s just a nice change from constantly being all black everything!

Conversations:

If you can’t hold a conversation there’s really no point, these guys want a connection as stated above. Being able to check in and tell them how your day’s been, ask them how there’s has been, talk about stuff like you know them is going to get you so far.
If these guys are sending you DM’s and getting one word responses or left on read constantly they really aren’t going to be happy, afterall they are paying a certain amount every month to be a part of this and it’s not all about the content.

 

I think the most important thing I’ve learnt so far is to keep doing new things, keep switching it up so that everyone’s having fun (including me!!), it’s work and it can be tiring sometimes; but as long as you’re enjoying it and keeping them happy it will be one of the easier jobs you can do.
I always have an extra bit of income (how much extra I have that week is dependant on how hard I hustle), and have an excuse to be hot and have a good old fashioned orgasm. 😉

Stay Safe by Sexting This Holiday Season

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We all need a lot more affection in our lives in the age of a pandemic. It’s been a trying time for everyone to find ways to feel human again. A sense of touch, smell, and sound of a sexual partner in crime has been taken away from those who are single and ready to mingle. In today’s world, we are to stay at a minimum of six feet away from everyone who is not in our own household. The scent of the perfume is harder to get a whiff of when farther away. Masks are worn in public, while adding a sense of mystery to one’s appearance, also muffle the sound of a sexy voice. How is a sexual single who may have been more sexually active pre-pandemic to get their needs met in this scenario? Well, one sure bet to stay safe and sexy while at home is sexting.

 

This is about staying safe, being considerate of others but still finding alternative ways to get off. As it’s vital to stay isolated as much as possible it’s equally as vital to feel connected every day. We are more sexually repressed now than we have ever been in decades past. Even when the world was more sexually inhibited in the 30s, 40s, and 50s there was no stay at home order in place in those eras. This is a very new thing for humankind to go through while still trying to have somewhat of a life. Especially a sexual one!

What Are Sexting Ice-Breakers?

 

Just like approaching a woman in a bar, it can be tricky for the naturally more shy/introverted man to think of the right things to say. With sexting, a lot of the stress of having a good conversation starter is off the table. There is no small talk necessary, you’re in a space where you get to focus on having your sexual desires met at a distance.  When you sext it’s about establishing what your kink factor is before anything else. Not asking someone “How was your day?”.  Here are a few sexting icebreakers below to help you get the party started via your smartphone.

Are you Vanilla/Hardcore?

What are you wearing?

Guess what I’m wearing right now…

What’s your fetish?

Do you like being bad/good?

How wild are you on a scale of 1-10?

Are you into group sex?

 

Finding out what your kinks/desires are is half the fun of sexting. The other half of the fun is finding out what the women are on into the receiving end of these sext messages.  It’s the easiest conversation starter, to ask/tell a woman you are sexting with what you may be into/are open to knowing more about before hooking up. Maybe you are more Vanilla but curious to know more about what a hardcore sexting exchange might be like. It’s good to mix things up and you will find sexting is really about uncovering what really drives you and turns you on.

Where To Start?

 

A long-standing, reputable, and fun place that caters to the sexting community is Arousr. There’s no better place to start sexting than to do so anonymously. This way you don’t have to worry about saying the wrong thing to someone in your inner circle that might lead to awkward social gatherings or gossip when things do eventually open again. Discretion is key when it comes to sexting. When you are not required to reveal your identity it adds an extra little bit of freedom to go wild. You never have to worry about a chat host holding what you say against you. They are there to cater to your sexual needs and desires, whatever those may be.

Yes, you can always text people you know for free. If the texting you do now led to hot steamy sexting you wouldn’t be here reading this blog. In life, we tend to get what we pay for. Sometimes the hottest woman you know may simply not be into sexting or actually be terrible at it. When you use platforms tailored around feeding sexual desires you’ll find a lot less trouble, hassle, and headache, all while maintaining your anonymity. Feeling secure and safe in a sexual environment is what we all need to have an enjoyable experience.

Final Thoughts On Sexting

This year was a tragic one for many but it’s also a teachable moment. One thing we know is that if we want good things in life we must invest in them. That does not exclude our sex lives. Waiting for things to open to be flirty and reach sexual pleasure is not realistic nor is it healthy, both mentally and physically. It’s enough to make anyone go stir crazy being stuck inside with no place to safely go.

It’s very healthy to seek out ways to express yourself through the written word and can also be quite cathartic. It’s sexy, safe and it is a lot of fun when you have an open-minded woman on the other end to enjoy sexual banter with. Now is the best possible time to step outside of your comfort zones and try something new. Sexting is safe, stimulating, and much more personal than streaming porn or Netflix all day.

About the Author

 

I’m Femme Fatale, writer, and Sexpert. I have a vast knowledge and affinity for Fetish culture as a former Fetish model. You can find me every week writing for Arousr. My favorite fetish is Domination.

 

 

 

 

Easy Steps to Succeed at Online Dating

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It comes as no surprise that in the Digital Age, where people can reach each other in the blink of an eye, more and more individuals are being overwhelmed by loneliness. It’s common knowledge that we start realizing how fragile we are and perceive your loneliness more acutely in the crowd. For this reason, more people now start to view online dating as a viable alternative to real-life dating. Indeed, virtual dating offers you the possibility of finding a potential match or at least reaching out to like-minded people who can keep you company online and help dispel your boredom. That being said, you shouldn’t treat online dating as a panacea. You should note that finding the type of partner that’s right for you might take a little effort and patience. You need to do some research, try to hook your potential match’s attention, and build communication that hopefully will lead to a relationship. Below are some simple tips that will help orient yourself to the way online dating works and its subtleties.

  1. Pick the right website 

There are lots of online dating sites and applications that promise they can quickly help you find the idea match. But in reality, a good many users end up being frustrated and distrustful of dating services altogether. Not to commit a similar mistake, we highly recommend picking time-tested, safe, and reliable dating sites that have proved their worth and matchmaking potential. You can also familiarize yourself with the Megahookup reviews, which provide a detailed overview of the best dating sites, to find the best service that can satisfy your dating needs. 

Though as an unsophisticated online dater you may find yourself tempted to use many sites at the same time. But we advise you against succumbing to this temptation. It’s not a secret that a good majority of popular dating sites charge fees for the services rendered. So, unless you want to end up spending a fortune on your match-searching quest, stick with one reliable option. 

  1. Carefully select your profile pictures

As online daters confess, they often find themselves repelled by other users’ profile pictures. It would be meaningless to deny the huge importance of the first impression which, as you know, is difficult to undo. So, you need to take care to construct your profile in the way such that other daters can form the best impression about you. Opt for something neutral, but at the same time effective. Steer clear of posting the photos featuring naked torso, weapons, or killed animals not to appear distasteful, immoral, or lacking originality. 

  1. Do research 

Being successful in the world of online dating isn’t limited to constructing an effective and eye-catching profile. The lion’s share of work you need to do lies in sifting through and evaluating the profiles of potential candidates. Not only will it help you to decide what type of daters attract you more, but also get used to using the website and orient yourself to the options available. That being said, don’t aim to look through hundreds of profiles on a daily basis. We suggest limiting yourself to a manageable number of candidates to be able to make a carefully weighed decision as to which candidate to communicate and, possibly, build a relationship with.   

  1. Add in humor 

If you do a quick research, you’ll find out that a sense of humor is something the vast majority of daters are looking for in their partners. So, it’s a good idea to show your ability to appreciate and produce humor whenever you’re dropping a line to a potential match or messaging back to the person you liked. There is a common opinion that women are better at producing humor, meaning they tend to laugh more at the jokes thrown by men, whereas their male counterparts like to look funny and produce humor. 

  1. Take it to the real world 

Online communication can be fun and exciting. But it’s unlikely that the reason why you decided signing up for a dating site was to find a long-term pen pal. So, one day you’ll want to meet up for a drink. Don’t let groundless fears and stereotypes ruin the pleasure you may get from your first date. It’s not considered uncommon anymore to meet your significant other online. By the way, statistics show that more than 17 percent of marriages now start through online dating. With this in mind, you should take the initiative and ask the person you’ve been chatting with to take your relationship to the next level. 

Reasons To Use Dating Sites For Adults

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You’ve probably thought about joining a dating website or two in order to meet someone who will meet your sexual needs and desires. Nowadays, finding a place like this is not that difficult. There are so many of them out there that your head will probably start spinning once you start searching. Tell me, what are you even waiting for? Why don’t start searching right now?

I know one thing that could be stopping you. After hearing a bit about these sites, you are either worried that they don’t work, or you believe that you need to put in an effort into actually taking someone out for multiple dates before you two end up in bed. I understand your concerns but, as you can see at https://www.datingcop.com, there are those online places that function in a different way.

There are those night bars and clubs where people all come for the same reason, aren’t there? We have all been there at some point in our lives. You get all ready, you go there, meet a person of interest and you two spend the night together, without ever having exchanged your numbers. If you are one of those who likes to exchange numbers, that’s fine too. Although, I bet you received quite a few fake ones.

That’s all nice and does the trick, but it’s getting a bit tired, isn’t it? Do you really have to go to a place like that whenever you feel like having a mind-blowing, meaningless one night stand? You have to chat those people up at a bar and, at the end of the night, nobody can even guarantee you that you’ll succeed and take someone to bed. But, you have to take that risk.

Or, do you? I want you to imagine a combination of the online dating sites we have mentioned above and these hookup bars and clubs. What do you get? The answer is quite clear. You get online hookup websites, or, as they are also called, dating sites for adults and here are a few reasons why people like them.

No-Strings-Attached Sex

The absolutely biggest reason why people join these sites is because they want to get laid. The best part is, everyone there has that same intention, so there’s no need for you to worry about overstepping the line or doing something similar. If we’re being completely honest, most regular dating sites serve almost the same purpose, but there’s one crucial difference.

When you join a traditional dating site, you will definitely come across those individuals who are looking for a meaningful relationship and that can make “getting laid” a bit difficult. That’s not the case with the places known as sites for adults, because they are specialized in connecting people for sex. If you are one of those romantic souls, you might want to consider a different approach. If, however, you want no-strings-attached sex, then these places are made for you.

It’s All So Easy

There is something else that attracts people to these places. The simplicity of it all makes the whole process rather appealing. When I say that things are easy on these sites, I have two things in mind. For starters, using the services will be easy and then, finding DTF people will be easy too. As I have already mentioned, everyone is there with the same intention – to get laid.

Time Is Not An Obstacle

We are all living in a fast paced world and finding people ready to give us what we need at the exact time we need it can be a bit difficult. Even when you are in a serious relationship, it might be difficult to find the time to go out on a date with the person you are committed to. Now, when you are single, things get even more difficult and especially sex-wise.

It doesn’t have to be that way, though. Time isn’t an obstacle when online dating sites for adults are in question. You can get horny in the middle of the night, find someone on a website like this in no time and schedule a sex-date for the very next day. Time will only be an excuse and definitely not a real obstacle.

7 Things You Need To Know About the Online Sex Toy Industry

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There’s never been a better time to start playing with sex toys. By now, old taboos regarding sexuality and its exploration are almost completely gone. Sex toys are just as common as online dating these days, so there’s nothing to be ashamed of.

 

However, sex toys are nothing new really, it’s just the perception of them that’s changing. Ancient Greeks used what were basically dildo breadsticks (olisbokollikes) to have some naughty fun. At several points in history, vibrators were even used as a cure for hysteria or to relieve muscle pain. 

 

They were one of the first domestic appliances to be electrified. Of course, discretion dictated they be called “personal massagers.” There are plenty of other interesting facts regarding sex toys that we won’t go into here, but you get the idea. Exploring your sexuality with sex toys dates much further back than society dares to admit.

 

As we’ve already said, old taboos are almost completely gone, meaning some of the stigmas still remain. However, as time passes, people seem more and more willing to reject taboos and be more open-minded about the self and the world. 

 

The same goes for the sex toy industry, which has been largely destigmatized. That has led to immense profit for businesses whose goal is to provide the tools necessary for total sexual liberation. Here are seven facts about the online sex toy industry to help you understand it better.

Fact 1 – Everyone Plays in Some Manner

 

Or almost everyone. While sex-related taboos are slowly but surely disappearing, many people still prefer not to talk about their sex toy experiences. Whether it’s due to leftover social stigma or fear of ridicule, it’s hard to say. But the truth is that using sex toys is still not discussed openly enough. (At least not in front of friends and family.)

 

However, regardless of what people claim (or not), the sales numbers don’t lie. Sex toy industry rakes in a whopping $15 billion annually in the US alone. Estimates claim that this market segment will surpass $50 billion by 2020.

 

If the sales figures and projections don’t convince you, this might — 44% of women between the ages of eighteen and sixty have used a sex toy at least once. Most of them were in a relationship at the time, which just goes to show how pervasive sex toys are. Married women are especially likely to introduce toys into their sex life.

 

It’s not just women, though — 42% of men admit to buying a sex toy at one point or another. However, sex toys for men are still somewhat taboo, at least more so than toys for women. That’s why 70% of men say they’d like to be able to buy toys without embarrassment. Whatever society thinks, though, won’t change the fact that the famous Fleshlight sold 400,000 units in 2016. 

 

What all this shows is that more or less everyone plays with sex toys. People enjoy and will keep enjoying sex toys regardless of how much stigma there is.

 

Fact 2 – Do-it-yourself Sex Toys Are a Definite Thing

 

So what happens when people don’t have access to sex toys? They begin to sexualize common household objects, of course. This just shows how strong our urge to explore our own sexuality is.

 

Now, there’s a world of pleasure to be derived from objects found around the house. No one can deny that. Electric toothbrushes, cucumbers, ice cubes, bathtub faucets, belts, and pearl necklaces are only some of the most popular household toys. Don’t forget that there’s plenty of fetishes out there, and different items around the house satisfy various needs.

 

But there’s also no denying that nothing is as safe and valuable as professionally-made sex toys. Non-porous materials such as silicone are far safer and less bacteria-ridden than food or wood. That’s why do-it-yourself sex toys are the real deal, and why you can buy a kit to make your own. Do-it-yourself vibrators are more common than ever, so it might be the right time to brainstorm some cool designs.

 

Fact 3 – Not All Sex Toys Are Made Equal

 

Some go into your vagina, others into your anus. Some you’ll penetrate, and some will penetrate you. But that’s not where the differences between various sex toys end.

 

One of the most important considerations, and quite a serious one at that, is the material the toy is made out of. Indeed, not all sex toys are made equal, and you should know what to avoid.

 

At the top of the list of materials to avoid is jelly. Jelly sex toys contain phthalates in an excessive amount, which is potentially hazardous for your health. Phthalates are chemical compounds that give sex toys (and various other commodities) their flexibility. However, they’re highly toxic and can lead to sterility and even cancer.

 

Jelly is smooth, bendable, and incredibly cheap to make or buy. For the reasons above, however, you must make sure to ask about phthalates before buying.

 

Plastic sex toys are almost as cheap but without the phthalates. That doesn’t mean you shouldn’t check if there aren’t any, though. 

 

The point of plastic is to be hard, rigid, and easy to clean afterward. All of that makes it a perfect material for vibrators.

 

Next up is silicone, the current sex toy industry standard. Softer than plastic, non-porous (unlike jelly), and highly durable, silicone sex toys are a safe bet. Stick to water-based lubricants to avoid damage to your silicone sex toy, and it might even last a lifetime.

 

Glass and metal are top-notch sex toy materials, perfect for temperature play. They also look far more elegant and stylish than all the others and are completely tasteless and odorless.

 

As you can see, you have plenty of choices when it comes to sex toys. It’s crucial to make an informed decision to avoid phthalates, but other than that, everything goes.

 

Fact 4 – Competition Drives Innovation

 

Where there’s money, there’s also competition, and we’ve already established that the sex toy industry is a booming one. It’s also very fierce competition at that, and one that customers are benefiting the most from.

 

As with any other industry out there, competition breeds innovation. And innovation in the sex toy industry has been marvelous indeed. We’ve come a long way from basic, manually-operated tools to intelligent sex robots. Imagine having a sex toy that has the capacity to listen to your body and deliver just the right kind of pleasure.

 

However, the competition and advances in tech should not discourage you from trying your hand at making sex toys. There’s plenty of room to make a business out of it and prosper. A lot of people are looking for the next best design or a unique sex toy to try out. There are already more than hundreds, if not thousands, of custom dildo designs out there, so why not make one yourself?

 

What awaits us in the future of this industry? We already have the kinds of sex toys that were unimaginable only decades ago. Who knows, you might be the brain behind the next Fleshlight!

 

Fact 5 – Sex Toy Shops Are Embracing Uniqueness

 

With almost all stigma gone, there’s nothing stopping sex toy businesses from becoming reputable brands with loyal customer bases. Sex toy shops are embracing that which makes them stand out and relying on their uniqueness.

 

That means that sex toy shops are on equal footing with other businesses, regardless of what they do. Just like any other business, sex toy shops can now take up a unique identity of their own and use it to gain traction among customers.

 

For example, take a look at Bad Dragon — it’s all about incredible, unique designs and textures that add an artistic touch to your sex toy adventure. Its toys even have cum holes! As for ElectraStim, it’s all in the name. This company’s products focus on electro-stimulation to give you the ride of your life.

 

Medical Toys makes “playing doctor” an adult-only activity. Kitten Cream features butt plugs with furry tails — you even get ears for increased roleplay value. As for the Twisted Monk… well, we hope you’re into bondage.

 

Each and every one of these sex toy stores has taken on an identity that attracts specific customers. That’s just an example of all that’s going on in the sex toy industry —  there’s plenty more to come.

 

Fact 6 – Successful Online Sex Toy Shops Are Titans of the Industry

 

Sex toy stores have been dominating the market for a long time, that is until the advent of the internet. Unfortunately for them, they can’t hold a candle to successful online sex toy shops. Online sex toy shops have the ability to reach audiences like never before, and far more discreetly.

 

If you’re new to the sex toy scene and are wondering who those titans are, you need not look further. Here are some of the biggest players in the sex toy industry with an online presence:

 

  • SheVibe
  • The Pleasure Chest
  • Good Vibrations
  • Smitten Kitten
  • Babeland
  • LoveHoney
  • Lelo
  • Lovense
  • Amazon
  • Geeky Sex Toys
  • Etsy.

 

Even if you’re not a user of sex toys, you probably know of Amazon or Etsy at least. It just shows how profitable the sex toy market is when giants such as Amazon have taken notice.

 

The rest of the online sex toy shops on the list are all worth exploring. Each of them has some unique and interesting products to browse. 

 

Fact 7 – The Sex Toy Industry Shows No Signs of Slowing Down

 

As we’ve previously mentioned, the online business format has done wonders for the sex toy industry. There have never been more websites that serve every sexual fetish and every niche desire people might have. Sexual exploration and experimentation have never been easier and more readily available. Don’t expect this train to slow down any time soon.

 

What’s even better is that the sex toy industry has an interesting ability to outlive harsh economic conditions. No matter how hard life is at any given moment, people find ways to have some naughty sex. And now, there will always be companies that are willing to provide the tools that make it so naughty.

 

Conclusion

 

The sex toy industry has gone through an incredible boom, and it has no intention of slowing down. What’s even more impressive, besides the enormous effect it’s had on the economy, is the sexual revolution that this industry enables. Now more than ever, sex toys are paving the way to greater personal sexual liberation and awareness.

 

And that’s exactly what we need as a society. We need individuals who are not ashamed of who they are or what their sexual preferences entail. Explore your literal and metaphorical depths without fear or shame or doubt. We’re all human and we’re naturally very, very, curious.