The A-Z Of A Cuckolding Lifestyle!

A cuckold lifestyle is not for everyone.   

Many men find the thought of their wife becoming an adulteress threatening of their relationship, that it is a breach of their marriage vows allowing their HotWife to fulfill her sexual needs whilst often insisting that he not only remain faithful, but often also in chastity to be had only when she deems it right.  Relinquishing one’s power both sexually and in lifestyle can be daunting and challenging.  However, those that live a cuckold lifestyle enjoy the relinquishing of the responsibility of satisfying an often insatiable women.

Some cuckold lifestyles are extreme and will incorporate bondage, discipline, humiliation and sadism to varying degrees.  But domination is in all cuckold relationships, and the HotWife will control just how much and what will be allowed.  There is some specific terminology used in cuckolding society and here is an A-Z glossary for cuckolds.

Glossary And Definitions For Cuckolds


The HotWife that is in a relationship or married that has an affair or affairs with other men.


A cuckold is often bound in order to further his training.  When the HotWife begins to have affairs in front of her partner he is often bound so that he cannot participate in or stop the actions.


The husband or partner of an adulteress who is an object of derision and humiliation.


The HotWife will dominate her partner or husband in all matters of sexuality that may spill over to everyday life as well.

Erotic Power Play

Used when first entering the cuckolding lifestyle and that power is given to the adulteress.


A HotWife often not only dominates her partner sexually but may also incorporate domination in other facets of lifestyle.

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During punishment and humiliation exercises a HotWife often feminizes her partner by making him take on female characteristics including clothing and make-up.


CBT and Chastity play are commonly used during cuckolding sessions.


Is a woman in a relationship who is free to have sexual relationships with other men and women.

Internal Enslavement

When the cuckold is ordered by his HotWife to do something – like stand in a corner – without being bound  and will remain in that position until he is released of that command.

Junior Top

A HotWife during feminization training have the man she is having an affair with top the cuckold.


When incorporating male chastity in a cuckold relationship the adulteress becomes the keyholder.


Is a person that totally becomes absorbed in the lifestyle of a particular fetish like cuckolding.


The HotSpouse when incorporating bdsm and chastity play in a cuckold relationship becomes the mistress.


The cuckold must negotiate with his HotWife when or if he be allowed to participate in any sexual activities.  This will also apply to other everyday lifestyle actions.  Negotiations can take place at different intervals of the relationship.


The cuckold must be obedient to his HotWife at all times.


If the cuckold misbehaves, is disobedient or does not please the HotWife he will be punished.  Punishments should already have been determined in the negotiation.


The same as facesitting but may incorporate the use of a chair for the comfort of the HotSpouse.


The cuckold must have respect for his partner at all times.


A cuckold is there to serve his HotWife and please her.

Total Power Exchange

Where all decisions are made by the HotWife and there is no longer any negotiation.  The HotWife has turned into a full blown mistress.

Urethral Chastity

Often used by the HotWife to punish the cuckold by inserting a solid pee stopper  so that he cannot urinate.

Voice Training

The HotWife may train the cuckold to talk a certain way during feminization or at other times in a particular manner when serving her.


A term used for newbies when they first try cuckolding until they become familiar and comfortable.


An electronic prod often used by the HotSpouse when the cuckold has been misbehaving badly.

So there are a few simple terms that are often used in cuckolding society.

Make Camping Sex A Hot Reality

Camping sex

Easter is just around the corner, and for many that means egg hunts and family gatherings but for many (myself included) Easter means camping! The merciless summer heat has died down (somewhat) and the school holiday crowds have retreated back into suburbia. I can’t help it, the minute March/April rolls around I get an unavoidable urge to pitch a tent and head out into nature. I have been camping my whole life, my first trip was when I was 3 months old (my dad fancied himself an adventurer) and I spent most of my childhood camping. As a teen I would drag my friends out, now my husband and my dog happily come along.

There are millions of camping hack listicle’s on the internet but I have never found one that gives tips and advice for the sometimes tricky art of having sex when exploring the great outdoors. I am here to change that. Please find below a collection of camping sex tips and tricks:

The bed

No matter your camping style (rough and tumble or glamping princess) the bed is one of the most important camping tools you will take with you, and not only for sex. It is hard to have fun camping (in or out of your clothes) if you have a sore back and didn’t sleep a wink. Whatever your preference; there is something for you. If you are a swag or tent camper, buy a size with enough room for you both. Also consider head clearance, you don’t want to be halfway through the deed when you discover you can’t do that move because there isn’t room. Get the double sleeping bag, the nicer air mattress, whatever you are planning on using think about how it will behave during sex.

The space

Campsites are crowded, whether you are paying for a powered site in a park or are hiking into the great unknown, no matter how remote or empty you think it will be expect some guests.  With this in mind it doesn’t mean that stops anything at all, just remember tent walls aren’t real walls and caravans and buses can squeak a lot with some rocking. Be courteous to others (no screaming sessions during the daylight hours… or at all)

If you are finding the campsite a little too restrictive (I’ve never been a fan of an audience) pack a daypack and head to a trail, a remote beach or somewhere a little more quiet for the day and go at it the way god intended,  out in nature. Sex in public has never been more secretive and convenient!

The cleanliness

This is the biggest complaint I hear about camping sex “I feel gross and I don’t want to do it”. I totally get that, I love camping but there is a level of dirt and mess you have to accept and for some that is a total turn off. If that is you or your camping mate, pay attention to the site you have booked, does it have good showers and toilets, are you near a river or beach that you can use to get and feel clean, if this is important to you make these things a priority when booking. If you’re like me and don’t mind as much, my tip is to take baby wipes with you, good for pre and post clean up, you keep a bin inside your tent or swag and no one is any the wiser. Baby wipes are a must for any camping trip but especially the sexy ones.

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Image: Couple on a road trip

Adult toys

I camp to disconnect from technology, unless that technology makes me orgasm; I am not interested in disconnecting from that kind of tech! You can totally bring your toys on your camping trip but remember to think about 3 things:


Charge your rechargeables and put new batteries in your battery operated adult toys (also carry with you extra).


Like I said, there is a lot of dirt camping, make sure you keep your adult toys in a dry clean spot, not only for the ick factor but dirt and sand can get into the inner workings of your adult toys and break them. ☹


To save any embarrassment at the amenities block tomorrow morning make sure you bring your anti-bacterial adult toy cleaner with you camping if you are bringing adult toys. That way you won’t need water and they will be spick and span for their next use.

I took a remote control bullet with us on our last camping trip and I can say that for the first time ever, I actually enjoyed hiking. 😊


Camping is meant to be relaxing but if you have seen a couple pitch a tent together, you understand how it can be anything but. Go into camping with the right attitude, make it about connecting with your partner and nature, don’t pick at her for freaking out about bugs, and don’t be shitty at him for not knowing how to light a fire. For the best and sexiest camping trips be kind and have fun, which puts anyone in the mood.

Author: Jamie is a consultant from Oh Zone Adult Lifestyle Centres

Bad Boys Vs Good Men

Bad boys vs good men

Disaster is your middle name when it comes to relationships and your romantic passions often end exactly that way. Time and time again you ask yourself why these “attractions of deprivation” feel just like true love. We don’t get taught about the ways which love can hurt us, only that it is a beautiful and life-altering mystery to find. Our gifts are exactly just that, our most profound intimate gifts, but in the wrong hands they are our greatest downfall, but with every heartbreak comes a silver lining.

There is always that one type, you know that kind that stops you dead in your tracks, the type that makes your heart skip a beat and the type that makes you do and say the silliest things. You are literally “weak at the knees” they trigger our insecurities but yet we long for them, how does this happen?

Unresolved issues from childhood and adolescence

We often have unresolved hurts that began in our childhood or teenage years whatever form they manifest be it betrayal, hurt, or abuse. Unconsciously our mind seeks to heal from these traumas in the manipulation of our intimate partners. We are attracted to people who can wound us in the same way but then our consciousness tries to “fix it” by changing the outcome of the original event; this means we can finally break free of our feelings of unworthiness and distrust.

The myth of lost love

Deep in our core of being is a craving for healing, and the answer to this healing is our “myth of lost love” each of us steps out into the world of the unknown. These experiences we face feel like deep loss and betrayal because everything we read and was told as an infant was that love was miraculous, enchanted and profound. Instead, we create this “myth of lost love” to explain why our hurt occurred. Like any powerful myth, our myth of lost love shapes how we come to understand our life, and within that how our love works. There are two aspects to this myth one being it articulates how the world is unsafe, and what we should do about that, and it helps us to create our own walls and barriers in order for us to protect ourselves. The second part is more destructive in its ways and teaches us to hurt ourselves before someone hurts us, in the way of feeling as though it’s always our fault, or that we are unlovable or unworthy of love.

We become our most vulnerable, needy self and our rebellious qualities tell us that we are to blame for our loss of love. Most of us will stubbornly remain loyal to these ideologies, even when we find someone who awakens the unconscious memory of lost love.

The most heartbreaking yet hopeful part is that those qualities we are ashamed of are the ones that can best attract the love we need.

These are our core gifts.

If wise meant easy then we would all be hopelessly and zealously in love. But instead, wilding compelling is what attractions of deprivation can be described as. Our core gifts are not like talents or strengths they are instead our areas of deepest sensitivity and feeling and are a part of our most passionate, creative and loving self. Like most gifts, people take advantage of them and the intensity of them can make us behave irrationally. Our gifts are empowering but we need to recognise how to use them correctly then we can truly understand the deep storyline of our lives.

Fear of abandonment in relationships

Fear of abandonment is one of humanity’s greatest fears, but we keep falling for these types of people who attract deprivation because on some level winning our partner’s love, approval or care is our greatest need. The relationship triggers a sense of neediness and longing that robs our sense of balance and leaves us to feel inadequate, so much pain is caused and we thrive on it. Like with gambling every small reward is intensified and these are the most sneaky and seductive attractions we can come across, the thrill of the chase. It is very similar to what happens in love addiction.

  • Have you ever been irrational about someone who wasn’t available, or wasn’t good for you?
  • Have you ever devoted way too much time trying to teach someone to treat you right?
  • Have you ever felt anxious for the affection of someone who sometimes treated you wonderfully, and other times badly?
Addicted to trying to fix people
Image: Fear Of Abandonment

The great secret to finding love

We need to change these attractions for our own mental and physical health; the great secret to finding love lies in choosing only attractions of inspiration. It is so insightfully simple yet some of us take decades to get to this point if at all.

There is a warmth and easiness in these relationships, but the trick is accepting our partner’s care and not trying to win it. In a relationship, a partner should challenge us to be better, but ultimately they love us for who we are. These attractions are fuelled by a real sense of well-being, and the attractions often unfold slowly and get wealthier as time goes on. These relationships take work but make us feel love, not desperation, they are the type of love to build your life around and are the ones that deserve our greatest gifts and most intimate self.

Without attractions of inspiration, all love will weaken and revert to a smaller defensive and wounded version of us. We resemble that of elastic bands; we shrink to a small and comfortable size unless we are held to superior development by powers outside ourselves. Such as a relationship of inspiration this is where we can magnify to a size we never thought was possible, but with everything, there are rules to adhere too.

Questions you need to ask yourself:

  • Are you motivated by your partner’s (mostly) consistent care and approval?
  • Are you motivated by your partner’s goodness and graciousness?
  • Is your love powered by admiration for the kind of person your partner is?
  • Are you and your partner willing to do the hard work of soothing the relationship’s areas of limitation?

This is the kind of love that can sustain a future, treasure it, and celebrate it. This is your attraction of inspiration.

The most important part to all of this is that most of us are actually hardwired to desire people who can inspire us, value us and are available. We can be deeply attracted to inspiring relationships, not just negative ones. Or at least on some level we can choose the healthier love, but as with everything beautiful and inspiring they can come with their own unique challenges.

Morgan x

Author: Morgan is a consultant from Oh Zone Adult Lifestyle Centres

VIP Interview With Jaiden Lillith Escort, BDSM Professional And Lifestyle Switch

Lifestyle switch

Jaiden Lillith is a gentleman, lady, escort, professional Dom/me, educator and a Shibari artist. A BDSM switch who delves into the world of both feminine and masculine sexual identities, the name Jaiden Lillith is divided into two worlds with Master Jaiden and Mistress Lillith. With an open mind and sex-positive views on life, they enjoy the idea of exploring and experimenting with all the facets of a person’s sexuality while placing an important emphasis on the beauty of connection in all the possible ways.

Jaiden can be found in Sydney at Temple 22 or in Melbourne at Fetish House and can be booked for private sessions, lessons and public performances. Jaiden is a sadist, inflicting pain and humiliation for pleasure with experiences that are indepth, seductive, subtle, theatrical and exotic. Jaiden has a large selection of BDSM toys to choose from ranging from crops, whips, ropes, restraint systems and so much more. Most importantly Jaiden Lillith is in complete control of all encounters with years of experiences and knowledge that has been gained from training with the best within the BDSM, fetish and kink community. All professional business is handled with complete discretion.

This is a VIP interview with Jaiden Lillith which explores Jaiden’s inspirations, gender fluidity, BDSM play, shibari and exploring the world of people’s sexual lifestyles.

BDSM master and mistress
Image: Jaiden Lillith at Temple22

Tell me about yourself

My name is Jaiden Lillith, I am an escort, BDSM professional and lifestyle switch, kink educator, Shibari performer and musician.

What inspired you to become a professional BDSM practitioner, performer and educator?

I’ve always been inspired to connect with others and create a unique intimate space in art as a musician, creator and performer, to be able to deeply affect others and to take people on a journey. I’m also a very sexual, passionate and sensual person with a love of pushing boundaries and exploring the edges of the human mind, psychology and desire. Sex work and BDSM have given me the opportunity bring those passions together and to deeply affect, explore and enter people’s minds and bodies on a very intimate level.

In terms of education I love imparting knowledge to people and helping them on their journeys. I get a deep satisfaction from seeing others take the knowledge and becoming proficient with it – their victories feel like my victories. I also feel like I’m corrupting the world, which makes me happy, haha!

What inspires you?

Everything! Talking to my fellow practitioners about their own experiences as well as having the honour to witness them work and play is definitely something that inspires me on a day to day basis.

“Nothing is true, everything is permitted.”

I first read this in William S Burrough’s “Naked Lunch”, itself a great inspiration to me with its mixture of surreality, alien sexuality and evocative language. This quote to me embodies our essential freedom of self and also the responsibilities inherent in that – that we are the creators of our own destinies and are free to explore the possibilities – the only barriers in many instances are only those of our own creation. That always inspired me to seek out alternate means of existence, of connection, of sexuality and ways of thinking – of stepping outside of the codes of morality by majority and the cultural norms.

The same transcendent feeling I get from experiencing great art, and especially the visceral and dynamic nature of music is something I try to bring to my sessions. Jung and Nietzsche have also shaped my philosophies and attitudes with their writings on the subconscious and power dynamics respectively, which gives a lot of meaning to what I do. There is an amazing quote from Dune by Frank Herbert which is something that I think of often.

 “I must not fear. Fear is the mind-killer. Fear is the little death that brings total obliteration. I will face my fear. I will permit it to pass over me and through me. And when it has gone past I will turn the inner eye to see its path. Where the fear has gone there will be nothing. Only I will remain.”

I think there is a lot of bravery involved in submission, and I have respect and empathy for those who choose to truly submit, and honor their trust and gift with the utmost care and compassion, even and especially within the most extreme of sessions.

What is it like being gender fluid mistress and master?

There are different energies and headspaces inherent in whether I am Mistress Lillith, Master Jaiden or Sai Jaiden Lillith, drawing varying amounts of feminine and masculine embodiment – but all of my faces are true, they are aspects that I can bring to the fore as opposed to masks that I wear, like my own spirit animals that I can call upon for their strengths, my others.

There is a history within many ancient cultures of those existing outside the binary norms of gender and identity taking a shaman-like or spiritual role in their society and I like to think that in some way I am a part of that tradition. Being an outsider frees you from many of the societal constraints that identifying with a binary can make you feel compelled to do which is liberating but can also be isolating.

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How does being Gender Fluid benefit affect your BDSM practices?

It gives me a range of interactions and experiences as well as a play partner/client base which I wouldn’t find as otherwise. As someone who has found submission as well as dominance in both masculine and feminine oriented roles, I can draw on from many different perspectives with an understanding of how energy flows in different configurations.

I see a lot of feminisation clients who wouldn’t be interested in a CIS presenting male or aren’t interested in that kind of interaction with a female. They choose me because they can see that I understand in a way that many practitioners don’t from an experiential sense. There are also those who don’t want a hyper-masculine master interaction, but find something enticing and seductive in a biological male who embodies many feminine aspects. Those who feel themselves to be more fluid or identifying as a gender other than they were assigned at birth also find an immediate sense of identification and rapport with me.

In terms of play, my stance, affect, voice, bearing, the way I touch, the way I hurt, it all changes between those selves. It’s not a series of small things that I do consciously, but it’s more that when I inhabit those personas it changes the way I do things.

In a more practical sense, it means I have at least two, if not three entire wardrobes of clothing to maintain….

How did you gain skills for BDSM, shibari and kink play?

I’m an intuitive person and I pick things up very quickly. I’m a big believer in experiencing things first hand – as a switch I’ve experienced the delights and power of submission and I’ve found that that has given me some of the best insights into how I choose to engage. Play parties, learning with people and growing with them personally, on the job experience, training sessions and skill exchanges with other BDSM professionals.

Being an empath, I’m very sensitive to the emotions of others and this helps me to create connective sessions and to keep things safe. I began shibari as a rope bottom, and experiencing the intoxication of subspace was crucial to me in understanding the potential of the rope, and having found that space I love leading others into it and enjoying the energies from the top side of things. I was very lucky to have begun my rope journey with an incredible female rigger, whose style greatly influenced and still influences my shibari.

Attending workshops and being trained by places such as Sydney Rope Dojo, Studio Kink and intensive workshops with international shibari practitioners such as Nawashi Kanna and Osada Steve have also provided me with a swift growth in my shibari skills. I’ve also been lucky to have been friends with, worked with and have drawn on the knowledge of some of the great professional and lifestyle dominants in our local scene such as Tallula Darling, Artemisia DeVine, Penelope Dreadful, Domina V and Mistress Tokyo. There have also been a lot of transferrable mental skills from creative aspects such as being a performer and a musician and composer in terms of creating and holding a space.

I am always learning, always growing.

Model in shibari ropes
Image: Jaiden Lillith and AmirahKitsune at Inversion

What are your favourite memories from working as a BDSM practitioner?

My best memories as a BDSM practitioner are those sessions which take people deep, and leave them (and me) strongly affected. Being with them laughing, crying, holding them, that sense of aftermath is beautiful. Stroking the head of a man who was so affected by their experience that they were thanking me in tears as I stroked their head. Those so affected by the rope that they just lay in my lap smiling for a good long while after the session ended. The face of a man who upon opening their eyes in front of a mirror, was deeply and beautifully affected to find a feminized self-staring back at him. A hardcore interrogation session where all of my electro toys were and a large number of medical implements were used, and a person who embraced their role with gusto so that we had an amazingly fun experience together. An interrogation/sexual training/shibari session where the person who entered the room shy and feeling guilt about their kinks was by the end gleefully lost in abandon. All these moments and more are some of my most treasured memories.

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Image: Jaiden Lillith With Bondage Ropes

Performance highlights would be performing at OzKinkFest – it was an amazing experience to be alongside such great performers and artists like Avalon, Mistress Tokyo and more. I also pushed myself and my rope bottom to the limits during the performance, which is always an intoxicating feeling.

I think the workshops at OzKinkFest have to be the highlight of my educational career so far, especially the Genitorture workshop. It was delightful running through free flowing mini sessions, and the class cheering on as I made my workshop partner electrocute herself on the anus by making her press the button of the shock device was great! That also ranks as one of her favourite memories, by the way.

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Image: Jaiden Lillith and AmirahKitsune OzKinkFest

What do you find satisfying about being in sex work and being a professional dominant?

In both, it is sharing the moments of vulnerability and making a deep connection with them. Being a professional dominant allows me to explore the inner workings of people. It is a privilege having them open up to me, finding their personal blueprints and the road to their desires, the frisson between what they think they need and what they actually need.

Finding that moment of vulnerability, seeing the look of surrender and the intensity of the sensations and feelings, the satisfaction of unlocking someone’s authentic self and helping them find that moment of release. Feeling like I’ve helped someone overcome their own barriers.

Being able to witness and hold people in these incredibly cathartic moments, walking them through these intense experiences, getting to unleash my sadist, parts of myself which could manifest in negative ways but within these contexts are positive is incredibly liberating and affirming.

You are known for your shibari work, what do you find satisfying about shibari?

I love the ropes! They provide a tool of sensual/sadistic/sexual connection that is so versatile. You can wrap someone entirely, embracing their entire being with the ropes. It’s something that you can put together in so many different ways, from the simplest floor ties to the most complex suspensions – I love being able to free form with the rope, being able to flow with them. There is something very personal to me about layering rope, about taking someone deeper and deeper into bondage. With rope I can control an entire body, what it feels, how it looks, what shapes it is making. I am always holding them. It is wonderful and intoxicating.

Escort in bondage ropes
Image: Jaiden Lillith and AmirahKitsune at Rope Chill

What have you found that people need to do to be happy with their sexual lifestyles and sexuality?

I think people definitely need to be open minded and open hearted, being open to new experiences is one of the best ways to grow as a person. Being honest and authentic with yourself and others – if something doesn’t cause harm to another person, or irrecoverable harm to yourself then I believe that exploring both sexual/kink worlds and your own sexuality is a great way to be happy and comfortable in your own skin. There is nothing more damaging than hiding a part of yourself, and feeling alone and isolated with that feeling. There is nothing more liberating than being authentically true to yourself, and finding those who not only accept but revel in the same. Society has a way of imposing norms and expectations that don’t always line up with the true self that people are.

Within this freedom though, boundaries become ever more important – finding and standing by what feels ok to you and what feels like it is having a negative impact on your wellbeing, and being able to communicate this clearly and honestly – and respecting those boundaries and needs in others.

An awareness that there are behaviours and ways of thinking which are unacceptable and unhealthy in the everyday world which can be extremely hot and liberating in the kink/sexual world – when it is in a defined boundary and space. Things like consensual non-consent, sexism, role play scenarios can all be deliciously fun and even healing in some situations. It’s only when something imposes negative harm on another that it becomes a problem that you need to address and work through.

What services do you provide?

So many! Haha, my most popular ones would have to be shibari, forced-bi, feminisation, role play, CBT/Genitorture, electroplay, sexual training, and cuckolding.

Visiting my website Fields of Lillith which provides a comprehensive list of such.

I also am a full service escort, providing companionship and intimacies of all kinds from conversation, cuddles, massages to sex.

Where can people find you?

I mainly session through Temple 22, although I do work with other independent workers for doubles sessions like cuckolding, as well as outcalls. I do travel to QLD and VIC as well – in Melbourne I tend to session from Fetish House.

Is there any questions or information you would like to add?

Jaiden Lillith is also an event organiser and promoter for the Sanctuary BDSM club in Sydney, as well as the vocalist and co-writer for the Industrial Electronic band Z(Cluster)

A Taste Of Vergil’s Very Bad Dragon

Sexual fantasy of a bad dragon

Look, I don’t get the whole eggplant thing. When people started sending me eggplants with a question mark on Grindr, I was the boy that responded with – “Nah, no salads for me thanks”. I just didn’t get it, and to be honest – I still don’t. So when I was approached to review a Bad Dragon sex toy called the Vergil, which very much looked like an eggplant, I had mixed feelings.

I was absolutely excited to get the chance to experience a Bad Dragon toy as I’d heard a lot about their company. In fact, I’d been on their website to look longingly at their products which I’d heard nothing but good things about. Yet, the fact that it reminded me of an eggplant…  still confused me. I pride myself on my open mindedness though, and remembering all the things I’d heard about Bad Dragon from my fellow co-workers and from my fellow fantasy freak friends who I play Dungeons and Dragons with, I was intrigued.

Bad Dragon’s Fantasy Dildos

Bad Dragon is a sex toy company that makes awesome looking dildos and sex toys that are absolutely out of this world. There’s nothing like them. A quick research on their products states that every single Bad Dragon sex toy is handmade from platinum cured silicone – the highest quality grade of silicone that you can get.

If you’re a fan of dragons, all things fantasy related and you have a desire to have your ass munched on by a dragon’s tongue – like my co-worker – then Bad Dragon toys will happily lick your ass till kingdom come. I was also kind of hoping for the prestige of having the ability for when someone sent me an eggplant on Grindr, that I’d be able to turn around and send them a photo of mine and say ‘Thanks, but I already have one’. All this had crossed my mind before the product even arrived. So in my head I had built up this amazing fantasy of my new toy and I was eager to wrap my legs around it.

Experimenting With Bad Dragon’s Vergil

Unfortunately, like all good packages, it arrived whilst I was at work – so I was stuck imagining me using it for the rest of the day. Undeterred however, I tore off the clear bag that it came in and was lovingly holding it throughout the day. It was squishy. I loved the feeling that it held between my hands and with each gentle squeeze I’d stare longingly at it – absolutely intrigued. I’ve got to say – I’ve held a lot of dicks and dildos in my lifetime, but I hadn’t felt anything like this.

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Image: Bad Dragon Vergil

Being told it was a body safe silicone blew me away. I’d felt silicone toys and whilst they were awesome, they were often firm and squishy. My Bad Dragon was a squishy silicone. Initially, I’d been a bit deterred by the size, but given how much flex and squishiness was in this toy – I felt pretty confident that I’d be able to fit it.

Bad Dragon is known for their fantasy sex toys but they are also known for hole stretching. They also offer three different levels of firmness from soft, medium to firm. The soft, from the three density testers that they gave me – felt absolutely amazing. The firm disc was a little hard but it was still softer than what I was generally accustomed to when it came to other silicone toys. And like goldilocks in the bear’s house, the medium density was just the perfect amount of squish with a shape holding ability.

It was cute. I’ll admit it. The detail was simply amazing and it didn’t seem like a run of the mill kind of dildo that you’d get at your local dick store. There was something different about it. Unique. I know that the sex toy is handmade – but this whole unique idea made it that much more intimate. It’s kind of like how every guy has a dick, but each dick (might be very very similar) but they each have their own look and personality. Maybe I liked it because it reminded me of this analogy. Right. Down to business.

I stripped off. Lubed up and spread. One of the issues that I have with silicone sex toys is that when you go to lube them up, some of them can be quite grabby and have a little resistance. I’m not quite sure why – but I didn’t experience this issue with the Bad Dragon. Maybe it’s the type of silicone that they use, maybe my other ‘silicone’ toys just aren’t proper silicone – I’m not sure. What I am sure is that there was very little drag for this toy.

I was right to be worried about the size though it did take some working to get in, however once it was in the silicone did a wonderful job of remaining comfortable. There was enough firmness to keep it in, but not overly so that it was tearing me to pieces. This eggplant is quite filling – even though I received mine in one of the smaller sizes – getting over that hump in the middle was a challenge and I’m certainly grateful for the give in the silicone that the Vergil has.

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There’s a delightful little pointed tip on the end of this one, which I learned was to stimulate the prostate (or G-spot). Whilst it wasn’t angled perfectly for me, I did notice it clawing its way across the walls which added a little extra to this dildo than something that was purely straight. Sure, it might not have been just right for my body, but it’ll be sure to hit some people’s spots just right.

When I’m doing anal play – I always make sure that I’m clean and body ready – the small hole in the tip (reminiscent of the urethra of a dick) looks great, it adds that sensual touch that you might need – but I can see that you will need to pay special attention here when cleaning. You can definitely tell that Bad Dragon go that touch extra to ensure that their dildos are absolutely perfect.

Whilst I might not be completely converted to the idea of eggplants, I do like my eggplant dildo having used and enjoyed it several times whilst writing this review. I love the fact that I don’t necessarily need to ensure that he’s hidden every time someone comes into my room and it now sits proudly on my shelf as one of my first reach to toys when I need some filling. Thanks Bad Dragon!

Author: Stephen Smith – BA Of Social Sciences, M.Ed