Is OF Worth It: Consumer Edition

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Alright I know I talk about OnlyFans a lot, it’s what I do though, so my life is a whole lot of OnlyFans and Onlyfans related thoughts, I do not have enough braincells to think about more things… So, you get more OnlyFans blogs.

So, this one’s a little different, it’s not for my people thinking of being content creators, this is the people who are on the fence about subscribing to OnlyFans, wondering if it’s worth the money and my favourite sentence “why would I pay when I can get it on Pornhub for free?”. Which is a completely fair argument, but I have a great argument for the opposition, so let’s go.

 

Of course, we’re going to go through the obvious part first, which is interactions with your creators:
OnlyFans: This is the jobs of these people, they need to keep on their hustle and keep your attention, they will respond, they’ll be interested in your day, in your feedback, interested in your requests and open to trying new things for you. They really want you to be happy and content with what you’re getting from them. We really do care about making sure that your however much per month is getting you premium stuff that you’re happy with!
Big Corporation Porn: These people also have a job, but it is to create the porn, they get paid whether they respond to your comments or not, occasionally they will but it’s never sincere or personalised.

 

Customisation is a huge part of why people love OnlyFans as much as they do and why it has absolutely blown up, there’s nothing better than getting exactly what you want out of your porn.
OnlyFans: all you have to do is message us, tell us what you’re into and what you’d love to see, anything you can’t find on the internet you’re almost certain to find an OnlyFans creator who will be more than happy to create the scene or scenario for. Occasionally this does come at an extra fee, but personally if my subs are long standing and loyal it’s usually pretty cheap or free. It’s a small price to pay to get content that is custom tailored to your needs!
Big Coporation Porn: I mean, you can try your best, but it always takes a lot of searching and deep diving through porn sites to try find exactly what I’m after, and if you’ve only got a limited time to beat your shmeat that’s not always a super viable option, so sometimes you just go with the first video you see.

 

Now one of the most important points to make in my opinionis that when you pay for OnlyFans you know that you are watching content that’s fully consented to.
OnlyFans: Has an incredibly strict sign up process, you need multiple forms of ID, photos of you, photos of you with your ID, it’s insane and I’m thankful, it guarantees that your creators are of legal age and consenting to the process. These creators are doing it because they want to, because they’ve chosen to do it as a side hustle or job. Once the creator no longer wants certain posts or even their whole account taken down, they can do that, there’s no arguing, there’s no lawsuits, it’s just removed at your will.
Big Corporation Porn: There are prime examples with a simple google search of how loose these sites are with uploading content, there have been minors, videos of assaults, people not being able to have their content down, people tied into contracts, people manipulated into filming. It’s crazy to me that about anything can end up on the sight so easily, but it can take years to have it taken down, and even not at all. There are people that have been fighting certain sites for years over having videos of their assaults taken down and they can’t. Not knowing who has consented, who was manipulated, and if what you’re watching is even legal is a big deterrent for me in using large porn sites, so if a $10 a month fee can take out that guessing game, I am more than happy to do that.

 

Overall, it, to me, from a consumer standpoint, is a far more ethical and healthy way of consuming porn. It’s awesome to know that you’re supporting sex workers and getting content from people who love what they do, and that if they choose not to do it one day they won’t have to argue their way out of it. There are even some creators who have free pages and only charge for the totally X-Rated videos and pictures that they post, which is a good option for those who cannot fathom spending $10+ per month, you’re still getting some content without having to lock into paying money every month.

 

So, is OnlyFans worth it as a consumer? Absolutely! It’s the best way to get porn you love and that the porn stars love creating!

 

Georgia is a consultant at the oh zone adult stores.

Hitting On Women, A Guide

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So we all love going out and trying to find someone, whether that be a romantic partner (or partners, am I right?), or just a cute little one night stand. But with COVID-19 and the constantly growing and evolving of dating apps, we all might be a bit out of touch with how to hit on each other, keep it appropriate, and make sure everyone is comfortable. It can sometimes be a super fine line between having a good flirt and a laugh and being called the harasser of the day in the group chat. I’m going to go through a few “safe bet boundaries” where you can safely bet that it’ll come across creepy if you cross them.

Cat calling:


You’ll get the occasional woman who says they love being cat called and that it let’s them know they look good that day. But I can tell you right now the majority of women purely feel uncomfortable in this situation, it’s not fun to have people yelling at you from a car in any circumstance, but being yelled at purely to be objectified? It’s not gonna get you laid… As much as you think it might the chances are super unlikely. There’s something about men yelling out of a car window at me that just makes my blood boil, and the amount of times I’ve heard them yell out “she’s a bitch bro” after not responding or giving them the finger. Don’t be that guy.

Grabbing a Woman’s Ass:


Look, I really wish this was common sense but the number of times this has happened to me is simply unbelievable. I don’t particularly want to be grabbed anywhere without being asked first… Especially not my ass. This is a certified way to get hit in most regards. It shows a clear lack of respect for the person you’re grabbing, and honestly, I don’t know why people think that they have a right to do this.

Starting Up A Conversation:


This one is all dependant on how you deal with it honestly. If a girl’s busy doing something, probably not the best way to go about it (I’m talking to you: dudes who hit on women in the middle of a gym sesh, just trying to do their job, have headphones on.). If someone looks like they DO NOT want to be interrupted just ignore the urge to chat, you’ll probably not get a great response anyway due to taking them away from what they were doing. However, if you do go for it be mindful to respect their boundaries and take no for an answer if that’s what you’re presented with.  There’s only a few things worse than having a man not take no for an answer, and while you may think it’s cute and showing “persistence” this isn’t a job interview, persistence isn’t always good in the situation… A lot of women I know will start to feel incredibly unsafe in this situation and will not find your persistence charming at all.

AT HER JOB:


I just really want to make sure this gets through everyone’s head… We are there to do our jobs, we are being nice to you because customer service is what we get paid to do, we are not here to flirt with you or be flirted with, unless you have the CLEAREST of signals just let us work in peace, please!  Maybe we sell sex toys but we are not there for you to live out your fantasies on us.

Social Media:


This is all so dependant on how you go about it, for example: hearing someone’s name once while you’re shopping at their place of work and then proceeding to find all of their social media’s, their phone number, and messaging them 3 times, not getting a response, messaging another 4 times, and then messaging over 20 times through other socials and then finally finding their phone number and messaging them via that when you don’t get a response is not the way to go about it. Yes, I am speaking from personal experience here, it just makes us very uncomfy, and even unsafe in our own work place sometimes, it’s not fun or flattering.

I’m not saying don’t ever try to flirt with a woman, but honestly almost any of these methods are going to get you a swift no or a pissed of look. Just learn how to read the room, don’t assume a lady is enjoying the conversation and interaction just because you are, that’s not how it works.

It can be a weird and difficult field to go through, but honestly as long as you’re respectful of women and boundaries it isn’t too much to handle! Best bet, compliments (not about tits and ass), be respectful, be nice, take no for an answer if need be, and just don’t be a dick, plain and simple.

 

Happy flirting!

My OnlyFans Experience

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Another OnlyFans article? By the same person? What a crazy idea, it’s almost like my life is work and then sexy work!

I’ve been an OnlyFans creator for about 6 months now, did I start due to the pandemic? No, I started because I made an impulse buy of lingerie that was way out of my budget and decided I’d make the lingerie pay for itself, which is incredibly on brand for me as a person.

When I started I had about 2 toys and a few sets of lingerie, and took your standard nude selfies that you’d send to your tinder matches or your boyfriend; let me tell you how I’ve stepped up my game to keep my fans coming back 😉

Tech:

One of the first things I bought for my photos was a ringlight, it’s only small and I will be upgrading in the new year. Believe it or not LIGHTING IS EVERYTHING, this will change your photos in ways you won’t believe. Having a ringlight means you can choose where the light is coming from and how it will hit you, meaning you can choose exactly how your body looks on camera.
I also bought LED strip lights, being able to change the background colour of my shots is so fun and different, it can give the same outfit a tonne of different vibes with the click of a button. It also removes the need to have a ceiling light on, which removes having light shining directly down on you which isn’t flattering on anyone. They’re also super cheap which is awesome considering how much money you’ll make off them.

You need to get good at adding photos, removing shadows from where you don’t want them, fixing the lighting, removing blemishes if you want to (I find that my audience likes the more natural vibe because it makes it feel more realistic, but that’s just my boys).

Interactions:

Not everyone realises this when they start but you do need to be in touch with your subscribers, they’re not there just for the porn and the photos, as men always say “you can get that for free”. These fans usually love feeling connected to you so you need to be interacting with them, responding to your DM’s, doing deals for your top paying subs, gifts every now and again. Just keep in touch with them, make sure they feel special, after all they are paying for your content and bills.

Keep your personality:

My content isn’t always super serious and sexy, sometimes it’s me dancing around, having a laugh, just looking cute.
I once made $150 by telling people to tip me if they thought I was “smexilicious”, I posted it as a joke and they came through, maybe because they love to pay me, more than likely because I’m having fun with my content.
Occasionally I post photos of me with my car because I like my car, I love feeling like someone from The Fast & The Furious.
It’s just important to keep your content you, it’s what sets you apart from everyone else!

Outfits:

My outfits are usually mostly black, I used the same lingerie over and over again, but now I have that many I can rotate through them and no one realises I’ve worn them before. My go to is usually bodysuits because they flatter my body nicely and they’re easy to switch out of because I take a month’s worth of content in one night most times.
Recently, however, I have started leaning into lighter coloured two pieces, I have braces and glasses so leaning into the teen category really does boost my numbers sometimes, and it’s just a nice change from constantly being all black everything!

Conversations:

If you can’t hold a conversation there’s really no point, these guys want a connection as stated above. Being able to check in and tell them how your day’s been, ask them how there’s has been, talk about stuff like you know them is going to get you so far.
If these guys are sending you DM’s and getting one word responses or left on read constantly they really aren’t going to be happy, afterall they are paying a certain amount every month to be a part of this and it’s not all about the content.

 

I think the most important thing I’ve learnt so far is to keep doing new things, keep switching it up so that everyone’s having fun (including me!!), it’s work and it can be tiring sometimes; but as long as you’re enjoying it and keeping them happy it will be one of the easier jobs you can do.
I always have an extra bit of income (how much extra I have that week is dependant on how hard I hustle), and have an excuse to be hot and have a good old fashioned orgasm. 😉

Better sex for 2021

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Welcome to a sexy 2021 my friends!

 

After swiping left on 2020, most of us are ready for a new chapter, a new story or a new beginning to be found in the year 2021. Although New Years may have been quiet, and that Resolutions are more often than not bothersome to say the least, why not invest your new lease on life on Sex and Intimacy!

 

Here are some sure fire ways to kick this year into the sexiest yet. These are for everyone to enjoy, whether you are single, in a relationship, celebrating love or lust from afar or experimenting.

 

  1. Work on Intimacy in and out of the bedroom.

Intimacy is not simply touch and does not simply occur in the bedroom during sexual acts. One of the biggest roots of Intimacy is simply being kind to yourself and our partners. Especially after the year we have just had. Be kind. Share in compliments. Share in treats or little gifts. Small non sexual touching can also improve and heighten intimacy as well. Learn your own, and your partner’s love languages to improve, spark and deepen intimacy.

 

The deeper your connection is, the more intense your sexual bond will be.

 

Try these Intimacy tips

  • Take the Love Languages Quiz https://www.5lovelanguages.com/quizzes/ to see how you best express and accept love/intimacy

  • Write or say an intimate gratitude daily to yourself and/or a loved one “I love my smile” “I am grateful for your kisses each morning”

  • Be intentional in your touch when you say hello.

  • Bring your loved one a coffee

  • Invite them on a netflix date

 

  1. Figure out what feels good to you and do more of that.

Sex and intimacy is not always about shared pleasure. Sometimes it is important to know what you like first, either solo or together. Take this opportunity for self sexploration and lots of it. Learn how your own pleasure works, your own body. Encourage your partner to do the same. Do it alone. Do it together. Mutual masturbation can be lots of fun and very informative. Use your fingers, try some toys, experiment with lubricants and stimulants as you play.

 

Try these Feel good Tips

  • Try warming or chilling lubricants

  • Experiment with arousal oils or lubricants

  • Visit us in store for recommendations of sex toys to use.

  • Try mutual masturbation.

 

  1. Talk more with your partner or yourself regarding sexual yes’ nos and maybes.

When was the last time you thought about what you liked during sex? Have you ever done a quiz? Or written them down? How about talking them through with your partner? It can be quite a turn on not to mention an eye opener and can lead to some wondrous and arousing sexual exploits you may have never thought possible. You can easily make your own or find simple or very comprehensive ones online that can range from everyday exploits to BDSM

 

  1. Be open to teaching and learning

There is a lot that we may not know or understand in the world and the same can be said for sex and pleasure. What better way to find out than to learn. In a world with technology at our fingertips there is a lot of advice, blogs, podcasts and tutorials to explore for the open minded. Studios such as Studio Kink in Sydney offer classes both in person and online for Shibari (rope tying), impact, submissive training and events. Podcasts such as Missionary to Madame offer wonderful advice and insight into relationships sex. Books are also in the form of hard copy, e books and audio books that come with inspiring how to’s such as the The Ultimate Guide to Fellatio and the Ultimate Guide to Cunnulingus by Violet Blue which combines phenomenal how to’s with scantilising short stories.

 

  1. Stop Focusing on ORGASMS and focus on PLEASURE and what feels good. Orgasms will come. (Pun well intended)

 

SOmething I believe in and can’t promote more is Mindful Sex or Mindfu Masturbation. I like to envision it as the art of being present in the moment of pleasure, of what feels good rather than judging sex as the moment orgasm is achieved. There is too much pressure these days on achieving orgasm and as such, a dramatic decrease in people being able to have them.

All of these points 1-4 aid in realising your pleasure and assist in bettering your sex life. In being in the moment and experiencing pleasure rather trying to rush to the end and only defining sex by whether or not a orgasm happened you will experience a much more vibrant sex life that will be unrivaled to the years before hand.

 

So this year, in 2021, sit back, relax, connect, and indulge in feeling good and feeling pleasure, the connection and the orgasms will follow, and when they do, they will bring in a new year worth talking about.

 

At Your Service,

Tiffany

 

AdultlifestyleCentre Adult Shop Sales Consultant, Educator and Pleasure Defender.

Sex Toy Materials vs Lube

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Going into buying sex toys can be scary enough if you’ve never gone into a sex shop (it shouldn’t be, all workers at the best adult shops in Sydney are amazing, helpful, open minded, and just want you to have good orgasms), and then when faced with all the choices of lubes it can be overwhelming, not knowing what’s safe with what is another hurdle, so here are the common materials and what they can be used with, with the added bonus of how they should be stored and cleaned!

You would be amazed what are the most popular sex toys in Australia!

Silicone – smooth, no real smell or taste, some with a silky finish. Medical grade silicone is body-safe and is 100% hypoallergenic with no latex or phthalate.
Lubes: safe with water-based, oil-based, and hybrid lubes. (Extremely high quality is safe with silicone lube, Colours triple density dongs are safe.)
Cleaning: 100% silicone can be boiled, others should be washed with a toy cleaner!

Glass – most are made from the same glass as Pyrex, they are heat resistant and shatterproof. They are smooth and sturdy and perfect for temperature play. Glass is incredibly skin safe but be sure to check for cracks and fractures before each used!
Lube: Glass is safe with all lubes.
Cleaning: Can be washed with toy cleaner and water, or even thrown in the dishwasher, or boiled.

Plastic – most commonly made with ABS (the same material as LEGO), used for it’s cheap production value, these toys may be blended with latex. These are hard with no distinct smell or taste. Generally a skin safe material but could be blended with phthalates and latex, which are common allergens and harmful to skin.
Lubes: safe to use with all lube types
Cleaning: can be cleaned with sex toy cleaner, anti-bacterial soap and water, or through boiling.

PVC – man made plastic, can be hard or more flexible, has an intense plastic smell and more often than not contains phthalates and latex so isn’t the most body-safe option in the world.
Lubes: this material should be used with water-based lubes only, as oil and silicone can melt the material.
Cleaning: rigid PVC is non-porous and very easy to clean, flexible PVC can be porous so may be harder to clean. Store these toys away from other materials and preferably in their own casing to avoid chemical reactions and damage to toys.

TPE – the material used to create Real Feel, Cyberskin, Softskin, or Ultraskin. Frequently used for male masturbators. Realistically fleshlike, warms to the touch, incredibly flexible, due to it’s softness it isn’t a great option for vibrators as it can weaken vibrations. Can tend to have a rubbery smell and taste. TPE is non-toxic but is porous so it’s prone to bacterial growth, and can be mixed with product softeners which can be allergens.
Lubes: use water-based only with this material.
Cleaning: as this is a porous material it can be hard to clean, best to use just water and a toy cleaner.
This should be kept away from other toys in storage to be on the safe side. Any discolouration can be a sign of growing mould in the pores of the material, so throw it away. These toys should be replaced every 5 months.

Metal – usually made from medical grade stainless steel, they can occasionally be mixed with other metals (such as nickel WHICH SOME PEOPLE ARE ALLERGIC TO), so be sure to check this. These toys are rigid and smooth but perfect for temperature play, higher densities are good for weighted and pressure play.
Lubes: all lubes are safe to be used with metal! 😊
Cleaning: this is a non-porous material which makes cleaning a breeze, toy cleaner, soap, dishwasher, or boiling all work.

Wood – if made correctly these toys are beautifully smooth with a non-toxic resin coating to prevent splinters. The weight and look will depend on what kind of wood was used to create the toy. If made correctly these toys are super body safe and environmentally friendly. Some manufacturers use scrap wood which is great for conserving rainforests.
Lubes: wood is safe with all lubes, due to it’s smooth finish you only need a small amount.
Cleaning: best washed with just water to prolong life, be sure to check for any damage before and after each use.

Rubber – one of the cheapest materials, will be flexible with a very strong rubber smell and chemical taste. To ensure body safety it is strongly recommended to use a condom with rubber toys as they often contain phthalates which can be harmful to the skin. (They have produced body safe rubber recently but it is not widespread).
Lubes: best used with just water-based, however if using a condom with rubber silicone is okay to be used.
Cleaning: best washed with soap and water and stored away from other materials, just to avoid chemical reaction with other toys.

 

My personal favourite lube is the Wicked Hybrid as it’s super vagina friendly and can be used with most toy materials out there, it has the benefits of the longevity and silkiness of a silicone lube, but the easy cleanup of a water-based!