Top 5 Bestselling Whisper Quiet Vibrators

Quiet sex toys

When you just don’t want to share the love…

Most of us as adults, have lived either with housemates or our family at some stage, or still do. Which is great for not having to pour most of our wages in to someone else’s pocket, but not so great for us ladies who you like to masturbate with the aid of a vibrator. Let’s be honest, some products available will have the other people in the house wondering if you’re mixing a cake, left your electric toothbrush on, or have dragged the edge trimmer in to your room and turned it on for shits and giggles.

So, with that said, here are my top 5 vibrators for discreet use in a household full of people:

#1 Nu Sensuelle Bentlii by Novel Creations

This beautiful product from a company that was founded by a husband and wife team, Barry Brinberg and Thao Luu-Brinberg after their move from Canada to Australia. With extensive collaborative work that goes in to each new product and to quote Thao, from a 2015 LOTL interview:

“There is just no point in creating another rechargeable toy that has the same design as another product.”

The defining features that set the Bentlii apart from other USB rechargeable vibrators, is that she is whisper quiet, velvety smooth, flexible and powerful. Bentlii’s powerful, 15 function dual motors are covered in phthalate free silicone. It is also waterproof and 100% submersible. With an hours usage time on a full charge, the convenience of USB charging and a 1 year warranty, I’m sure that this well designed vibrator will be top of your list too.

G-spot vibrator
Image: Nu Sensuelle Bentlii by Novel Creations

#2 Lola Li by Lady Bonnd

Lady Bonnd took a good look out in to the world of:

“Pink bunnies, purple jelly things and scented vibes and thought – why can’t we see a collection that is fun, simple and sexy?”

So, the collective minds of designers and sex toy experts with over 40 years combined experience, developed a range of sex toys that are safe and sexy without needing a university degree to operate them.

I love that this whimsical looking sex toy has not put form over function. With her sleek curved silicone ears delivering seven intense vibe modes from the dual motors, with just a push of a button, she’ll have you driving headlong down the rabbit hole! As an added bonus, she is also waterproof and USB rechargeable.

Clitoral stimulator
Image: Lola Li by Lady Bonnd

#3 Miss Bi by Fun Factory

Fun Factory, the little ‘two men at one kitchen table’ company started by two university graduates, Dirk Bauer and Michael Pahl in 1996. Fun Factory is now one of the largest manufacturers of sensual silicone sex toys in Europe. But in the face of such growth, the German company’s original philosophy which was to:

“develop sex toys which fulfilled high standards by providing quality and functionality combined with fun and sensuality, and thereby entice women and men to passionately use pulsators, dildos, vibrators and other toys without any misplaced shame”

hasn’t changed.

This little powerhouse is a shining example of German innovation and quality. With all the products from this company still being produced in Germany, it’s no wonder that the dual clitoral and G-spot stimulator ticks all the right boxes. With a looped handle, 2 individual motors in the curved shaft and extension, as well as being thicker at the lower end this little powerhouse is fulfilling in all the right ways.

G-spot Vibrator
Image: Fun Factory Miss Bi

#4 We-Vibe Rave by Standard Innovation

Since 2008 We-Vibe by Canadian company Standard Innovation, have been designing and producing world-leading couples and solo vibrators.  Setting new industry standards for ergonomic design and high performance while remaining eco-friendly and body safe. Not content with following trends, their in-house design team are constantly exploring new technology as well as consulting sexuality experts and consumers from all over the world.

We-Vibe Rave is a G-spot stimulator with a difference. Its asymmetrical shape helps you effortlessly find your G-spot and its ergonomic handle allows you to apply the perfect amount of pressure. She also is, like all We-Vibe products, made from body-safe silicone, is USB rechargeable and splash proof, making cleaning her a breeze. So, take a firm hold of Rave and let her use her pleasure edges to tip you over yours.

G-spot vibrator with mobile
Image: We-Vibe Rave

#5 Sasha by Jil

Parent company, Shots American LLC, supply a multitude of other marvellous quality products ranges like Ouch! Whose line is focused on stylish, yet durable fetish equipment like cuffs and collars; Mjuze who have an extensive range of velvety touch couples and solo toys; and Hiky whose products combine the vibration and vacuum stimulation.

But the newest jewel in the Shots crown is Jil, a range that is as flexible as it is impressively powerful. The stand-out for those who love the power of a wand massager is the Sasha. This seamless beauty is perfect for solo or partner play, with the two 10-speed motors providing satisfying vaginal and clitoral stimulation. Yes, you heard that right! A wand with an insertable end! Her ergonomic controls allow you control her with one hand… even in the bath, since she is also fully submersible!

Body wand
Image: Sasha by Jil

Author: Mia is a consultant from Oh Zone Adult Lifestyle Centres

Coming To Terms With My Endometriosis

Endometriosis

Since puberty I have, as many other women have, lived with a condition called endometriosis which not only affects the time around my period, but also the way I approach sex and conceive children.

What is endometriosis I hear you ask?

It is a condition linked to retrograde menstruation, where some of the menstrual fluid flows back in to the fallopian tubes instead of being discharged through the vagina. According to Better Health Victoria, almost all women experience retrograde menstruation, but only about 10% of women go on to develop endometriosis, where the endometrium cells contained in the menstrual fluid leak in to the abdominal cavity and attach to wherever they land.

Endometriosis diagram
Image: Endometriosis

How I was diagnosed with endometriosis

It’s not an easy thing to have to deal with, intense pain without any explanation, especially at 12 years old. After enduring years of painful periods and being told that:

‘all girls get pain at that time of month’

I insisted that my mum book me an appointment with our local GP to see if he could shed some light on why I seemed to be in so much pain.

After several visits to the GP and gynaecologist, as well as numerous ultrasounds and blood tests, they came up with a diagnosis of suspected endometriosis. But I would need laparoscopic surgery to confirm the diagnosis. Yay! More pain… It was also awkward as a 15 year old girl to talk to an old man wearing coke bottle glasses and bow tie about periods.

There were plus sides to the surgery though. If it was endometriosis, they would remove all of the adhesions that they could see, so that means there would be no more struggling with bowel movements and a reduction of pain during my periods and ovulation. What I didn’t know pre-op was all of the info related to women’s sexual lifestyles, sex and my ability to conceive children, which I never thought to ask. I was a 15 year old virgin after all.

Ladies and gentlemen, this all took place in the land before time… or at least Wi-Fi. Information wasn’t as accessible as it is these days. The only information that I had was the A4 leaflet that I had been given by my GYN which basically explained what it was that I had and to pretty much not worry because surgery and the pill would probably make it go away.

Endometriosis and how it affects my sexuality and having children

The surgery went off without a hitch and in my post-op consultation with the gynaecologist; he confirmed the diagnosis and gave me all of the information about how it would affect my sex life and reproduction later in life. I kind of did the teenage thing and tuned out not really paying any attention to it. After all, I was 15 and not sexually active.

There were only 2 things that stuck with me from that conversation: One was, due to the severity of my condition, I would only have a 5% chance of conceiving naturally; the other was that sex might be a little painful.

It was almost 10 years later when I got married and started thinking about having kids, that I wished I had paid more attention to the good doc. Thankfully, there was much more information that was readily available on the internet, so I jumped on and started doing some Dr. Google research…

This time it was like information overload. The only answers that this gave me though, was what I already knew: It was going to be difficult to get pregnant naturally and that having a baby would most likely get rid of my endometriosis. With some further research I had found that edometriosis’s global forum for news and information reported:

“The myth that pregnancy cures endometriosis is slowly disappearing. The reality is that pregnancy — like hormonal drug treatments — may temporarily suppress the symptoms of endometriosis but does not eradicate the disease itself. Therefore, symptoms usually recur after the birth of the child.”

So, I did what I could to put off having the baby making conversation with my (then) husband to the point where it became one of the main reasons for our separation a few years later. And for the next 8 years, that’s how I continued to approach my sexual relationships, believing that my chances of getting pregnant naturally were that low that I could not get pregnant. Not the safest, I know, but it was what I was comfortable not having to talk to people about what was going on. Then all of a sudden I met someone that I had an immediate connection with and the universe said ‘here’s your 5% chance’ and I found out that I was pregnant after a few dates. Something that I never thought would be possible.

So, my advice to all ladies who have a medical condition that makes it difficult to conceive children, don’t give up there may not be much of a chance, but there is still a chance. Also, based on personal experience, it is vitally important to have an in depth conversation with your OBGYN, GP or mental healthcare provider about how to explain your condition to your partner and how to express your feelings in regards to how it affects your mental state.

Author: Mia is a consultant from Oh Zone Adult Lifestyle Centres

Glass Dildos Changed My Life

Woman who loves glass dildos

Let me first start off by saying I like so many others am a huge enthusiast of anything sex toy related that is capable of bringing immense pleasure with very little risk or down side in return. With this being said, the truth being known and a tiny amount of unwarranted paranoia too I decided to do some homework on adult glass products particularly dildos, and get to the bottom of just why this particular material is hailed by so many as a more luxurious and an all around safe option.

How Do You Keep Glass Dildos Clean?

Personally, one of the main attractions to a glass sex toy has got to be hygiene. Glass sex toys have a major advantage on silicone or any other material as far as their level of cleanliness goes. They are extremely simple to sterilise and you can do so by washing them in boiling hot water, using a detergent or a proper glass sex toy cleaner. Being the most hypoallergenic material glass is able to be used by people with all types of skin even extra sensitive etc.

Glass dildo
Image: Glass double ended dildo

Is A Glass Dildo 100% Shatter Proof?

To answer this question and put your mind completely to rest (perhaps mine at the same time too), YES! Providing your glass sex toy is one made up of borosilicate glass you will be guaranteed maximum safety with use. Borosilicate is not like your ordinary glass, in fact it is built to withstand heat, bumps, and even a certain amount of dropping depending on the height. It is also able to hold hot and cold temperatures for an extra-long amount of time. Changing the temperature of your glass dildo can and will change the whole sensation you get from the sex toy making you experience two different types of pleasure from two different elements.

The Best And Safest Way To Heat A Glass Dildo

There’s a few different theories on how you correctly heat an adult glass toy, however this is an act simply done by using hot water straight from the tap. There’s no gimmicks or act to it just hold or safely place your toy on a small tray or plate and run hot water evenly over it for a couple minutes. Never ever use a microwave, even though it won’t break the sex toy it will unevenly distribute the heat leaving your toy with some dangerous hot spots. If you wish to make your toy cold to give off a different sensation then do the same act of running it under water but make it cold of course. Do not be tempted to freeze your glass sex toy as it will stick to you once attempting to use it.

Glass sex toy
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You Can Use A Glass Dildo For Life

Another massive added bonus is the fact that glass toys never ever perish. Yes, you read that right. A good borosilicate glass sex toy will be your friend for life. Unlike rival sex toy materials glass cannot be effected by outside aspects such as lubricants or body fluids. It’s even made to withstand a certain amount of accidental drops and bounces.

Do Your Homework On Glass Dildo Brands

Just like any good or reputable brand glass sex toys are not totally exempt to knock offs. Yes, there are in fact better grades of glass just like there are silicone. The greatest grade being low expansion borosilicate. This glass is guaranteed maximum safety and is in fact the hardest, most durable porous glass out there to date. It is more expensive but as we all know you undoubtedly pay for quality. There are thousands of glass sex toys out there on the market and the majority of them go under the label of Pyrex, however this is not always the case so it is extremely important you keep diligent and go for glass sex toys that are either fully clear or have colour embedded deep within them instead of painted externally, this will ensure you have a quality product that is not a knock off.

Now, with all of this in mind let’s take you to the last and final point of just why glass sex toys, particularly dildos, are such an incredible option and just why you need to add one into your adult toy collection today!

One of the most recommended product ranges of glass dildos is designed by Pipedream Products and is named Icicles. They are made with incredible textures for all experience levels . They are a good place to start. You really can’t go past their products especially if you are a beginner or intermediate user.

Why Does A Glass Dildo Offer More Pleasure When Compared To Other Sex Toys?

There a couple of different reasons why I feel glass gives a more unique pleasure. In fact, a ribbed glass sex toy can offer you one of the most delicious orgasms when used correctly. Glass has a feel which is solid enough to justify security but light enough to hold with comfort. A ribbed glass sex toy makes every single motion intensified giving you a full feeling but is also vagina friendly at the same time. There are so many beautiful variations of shapes or types of glass sex toys from twisted, curved, bumped, etc. They are crafted to cater to anyone and everyone. You can achieve incredible climaxing through simple thrusting motions or you can get creative. Being so durable you’re safe to explore your limits and embed yourself in total pleasure. I recommend a nice hot bath with some pretty candles, to relax and soften your muscles before you play. This will also create a temperature contrast with yourself and the toy.

So let’s weigh it up, not only are glass dildos aesthetically appealing (They almost remind me of a princess sex toy with their ultra-femininity) but they require very little maintenance and after care, provide incredible pleasure and complete safety. Oh and let’s not forget the fact that you do indeed have them for life.

I think it’s safe to say if you haven’t yet explored the world of glass play after reading this today you may just have a change of mind. Glass dildos have an amazing array of benefits that can not be missed!

Channelle xo

Author: Channelle is a consultant from Oh Zone Adult Lifestyle Centres

VIP Interview With Abigail Vasquez Lead Designer Of Bait’D Designs LLC

Sensory play necklace

Bait’D Designs create specially made jewelry and accessories that empower women by encouraging sensuality, sexual transformation and self-expression. Bait’D Designs takes the world of possibilities and fantasy, gift wrapping them into the one concept. The product designs are modern and controversial incorporating the ideas of BDSM, kink and fetish into the final product. The products give women the ability to secretly wear naughty items with their day to day wear, out to adult events or even privately in the comfort of their own homes.

With Bait’D Designs you will always be prepared to be spontaneously kinky no matter where you are. Bait’D Designs are popularly known for their BDSM inspired bracelets, earrings, necklaces and accessories. Most of their products are not only fashionable but also functional. Their earrings are designed as nipple clamps, their bracelets can be paired up with restraint devices and their necklaces are designed as BDSM collars and whips. In the heat of the moment you will never be left empty handed.

Their products are made with luxurious metals like 14K gold, gold plated, sterling silver, polished copper and steel. Their products also incorporate materials like suede, leather, satin rope and silk. The materials that are used are incredibly important within the world of BDSM as a sensory experience. The feeling of cold metal against the skin can feel medical, surgical and restrictive. The metal will naturally warm up to the body’s temperature. Whereas the tightness of a product can bring feelings of security, domination and control. The natural scent of the material can be an amazing turn on.

Bait’D Designs was created and founded in 2015 by Heather Huttner with Abigail Vasquez as the lead designer. This is a VIP interview with Abigail Vasquez.

Head designer of Bait'D Designs
Image: Abigail Vasquez

Tell me about you

My name is Abigail (Abbie) Vasquez, I am the lead designer for Bait’D Designs LLC and my area of expertise is industrial design. All things product design and how a person interacts with an item.

What inspires you?

I gain inspiration from the strangest of things, a movies that have nothing to do with what I’m working on, music that pushes me out of my normal headspace, fiction that transports my mind somewhere. I find my best ideas happen when I am not thinking about what I am working on. For example, I was stressed out working on a concept that was going to be due for client review and I had nothing to show at that point in time. I went out to go see the movie “Straight Outta Compton” and the moment I left the theater, I had a spark of an idea that I rushed home to get sketched and put together for review.

What inspired the creation of Bait’D Designs?

Bait’D is the brain child of Heather Huttner. She created the company in early 2015 when she noticed that there was not an industry filling the space between sex toys and jewelry. Not every person wants to wear their bondage belt in public but how amazing it could be it it was pretty enough that you would want to and could be “ready” at any point in time. She wanted to give women the opportunity to be spontaneously kinky if you wanted to be. I came on the team in June of 2015 leading the development of product for the brand.

Whip necklace
Image: Bait’D Designs The Collar

Define the style of Bait’D Designs.

Bait’D Designs style is polished and covert. Essentially:

“Hiding in plain sight”

How does Bait’D Designs empower women to embrace their sexuality through kink and BDSM jewelry?

We want to encourage women to further explore their sexuality by taking the “seediness”out of BDSM and alternative sexuality. If a women is interested in flogging, she may already have or have access to a flogger but a woman who my just be starting out may find a flogger necklace to be less intimidating than a leather flogger and can experiment at home quietly or in her car the next time her and her partner are feeling frisky.

Why do the perceptions of BDSM, fetish and kink play need to be changed?

Maybe not “Changed” as further include lightness into the perception. We do not want “50 Shades of Grey” to be the only reference that comes to mind when someone says BDSM or kink. I don’t want the vision of women in pain and not enjoying themselves to be the idea that comes to mind for women who are curious or their partners who are curious but don’t know how to start the conversation. The great thing about KINK, FETISH and BDSM is that it supports and encourages open communication and trust. That is what I rather people think of when they think of BDSM.

How does Bait’D Designs change the perceptions of BDSM, fetish and kink play?

That it is not just for the bedroom, it is not just for being bedroom walls, it’s not just when it’s thoroughly planned out. That kink can be impromptu as well.

BDSM earrings
Image: Bait’D Designs The Bite

How can people feel empowered with confident and body positivity expressing their sexuality through fashion?

I find that a lot of women I know, use their fashion as an mode of self expression. And these women range in all degrees of confidence and body positivity. I do not believe what is worn on the outside of you can make an insecure woman confident. But I do believe is can be the nudge a normally confident woman needs to feel like a sexual animal and a goddess. Sometimes, our clothes, nails, hair, kicks, and accessories are just the nudges or the expression of what we already feel.

Wearing different jewelry can inspire different feelings in people. What feelings do people experience when they wear Bait’D Designs?

I have watched a woman adopted a very “power” stance when she puts on The Whip as she plans out what she wants to do with the jewelry. But more often than anything I see emotional or social walls come down when someone interacts with the items. The accessory equivalent to a glass of wine.

How would you recommend people wear Bait’D Design’s jewelry with day to day wear?

The same as you would with any of your other favorite items. Some items are more demure than others. Some make bigger statements. The Ring handcuffs look amazing with fall attire. The Female is beautiful with a little black dress.

Nine tails necklace
Image: Bait’D Designs The Whip

What is the design process for the creation of Bait’D jewelry?

The design process is pretty extensive and depends greatly per piece. Generally it starts with an idea that Heather, myself or a member of our design team has… we then explore the idea via sketches and think thought any problems that we may have in advance. We make a CAD model to further visualize the design. If we are able to, we will create a 3D print with our in house 3D printer or if it’s something tiny and more detailed, I may send it out to a 3d printing company. When we have the model done, we wear it, feel it, break it, and see what other problems we can prevent. We will then create a secondary model that will be as close to actual materials. If we still like the design we will then start having a conversation with the chosen manufacturer about making the item and following it closely thought that process until completion when the order is in our shop and ready for sell. We do a lot of usability testing as well, watching how strangers interact with the item, how a finish product is touched, or how it changes over time. There is no expectation that a product will remain the same over its lifetime.

What is your favourite part of the design process?

The start with the sketching and thing thought the ideas. I do love 3D modeling as well. However if I could donate the manufacturing process to someone else… I would so gladly. lol

Is there anything you would like to add?

Design is wear my heart is, fashion I am still learning but we have big ambitions and I look forward to seeing us grow!

Tragic Story Of The Man Child

Woman fixing relationships

You can call me “Misses Fix it”. I stayed in bad relationships constantly trying to fix something that was already broken, but here I am trying to understand what put me in that situation to begin with.

After being recently single for the past few months I have become aware of the types of men I seem to attract. After making a joke out of it to a few friends and work colleges I decided to use Google to find out if this actually is a thing or if it’s all in my head.

I was googling as to why I always seem to attract the same kind of men, even to the point where I can guess exactly the type of guys who have “swiped right” on Tinder. I was very against Tinder but after some pressuring from friends I decided to give it a go. It has actually become a game to me to see how many I’ve guessed correctly (I know this isn’t the specific use of Tinder but hey it’s fun).

I attracted heavily tattooed, muscles on muscles with a criminal history. The bigger the bad boy the more they seem to be drawn to me. Maybe I attract other types of guys but these ones seem to be more hesitant in approaching me or starting a conversation.

Now, I am not saying that all tattooed men, or men with muscles are bad, I am saying that if there is a bad one in the bunch (or multiple) they have their high beams on me. For example;

  • Man-child number one: A self-confessed bad boy, heavily tattooed with tattoos on the face, a serial liar and all his ex’s are apparently crazy.
  • Man-child number two: Again heavily tattooed, rides a motorbike, a self-confessed bad boy, very quick to over sexualise me, got rather angry and resulted in name calling when I did not match his sexualised talk and “brushed him off” nicely of course.
  • Man-child number three: Gym junkie, seemed normal, lots of muscles, pictures at the beach, decided early on after “hey” that I was in fact a piece of meat only…

I think you get the picture…

Man with tattoes
Image: Tattooed man

Beauty is in the eye of the beholder

Beauty is in the eye of the beholder, and not everyone is attractive to the whole world, but when it comes to dating judgment initially is always based upon looks. It doesn’t matter if that person has substance; personality or a sense of humour, all that matters first is the level of attractiveness.

In fact, after a recent study found that 50% of people preference to faces were rather unique. Whom we find attractive is strongly influenced on our life experiences. Basically the study is saying that;

“If you were to rate faces [for attractiveness] and I were to rate the same faces, we would agree about 50% of the time”

Says study author Jeremy Wilmer, an assistant professor of psychology at Wellesley College whose new research was published Thursday in the journal Current Biology.

The whole point of the study was to understand why we find certain people attractive and others not; do life experiences and our view on life alter the way we define people. Prior research has found that we compare characteristics from positive people in lives with new people we meet and we automatically see them as attractive. Basically, who you find attractive is less about the demographics in which you grew up and more about your life experiences and your own unique journey through life.

Beauty really is in the eye of the beholder.

The truth is that you don’t ATTRACT the wrong men, you ACCEPT the wrong men

And then it hit me… I was so blinded by all the wrong ones that I never let myself dive deeper for the nice guys. The ones who aren’t up front and show pony like. The ones that stand back in the shadows of mystery and wait for the others to go first… the gentleman. This could be the real difference between bad guys and good men.

Dating isn’t about committing straight away, it’s about getting to know someone and being able to walk away if they don’t treat you right. The truth is you’re going to attract lots of men, and most likely 95% of those men are going to be the wrong men. But you don’t have to accept them.

I crave stability, I crave normalcy, and I crave unconditional love and support… wouldn’t anyone?

It’s your job as a self-respecting woman is to leave and walk away if you’re not being treated correctly, it’s your job for your own dignity to put yourself first and don’t let someone else dictate the happiness in your life. There is no point in beating yourself up…. That’s going to get you nowhere!

Stop investing your time, emotions and life in men who refuse to give you the love, security and consistency that you deserve.  It is actually your fault that you attract these men, would you like to know why?

Because you think that your chemistry is powerful enough to change your broken relationship.

Save yourself the days, weeks, months, years of heartbreak and pain! Stop accepting anything less then what you KNOW you deserve.

It all starts with you!

Remember who you are, remember what you deserve and remember to learn to love and need yourself again. Once you realise this you will stop accepting and fixing because you will finally know that while you’re fixing someone else you will be destroying yourself.

Always thank the wrong man, because of that man you have realised your self-worth, because of that man you have realised you need to start to change yourself. He highlighted to you what you needed in order to fix yourself, to find your true happiness and what you truly deserve.

The wrong man always leads to meeting the right man, because you are strong enough and smart enough to know who is right for you.

Morgan x

Author: Morgan is a consultant from Oh Zone Adult Lifestyle Centres