What I’m about to tell you is going to blow your mind. It’s going to redefine your understanding of sex and pleasure and it’s going to completely change your bedroom routine. I had a mind-blowing orgasm. And my orgasm was that fucking good that I’m absolutely compelled to tell you about it.
Working in the sex industry both in a retail porn store, as a sexual consultant, and as a sex education teacher to young gay men – I’ve heard it all. But one thing that keeps coming up is just how much importance we place on our cocks and the idea of penetrative sexual activity. When you’re young, horny and driven by hormones you have an insatiable need to stick your dick in whatever kind of hole you can find, or have your hole filled with whatever hard thing you can get your ass cheeks on. Your body, your mind, and your dick (or hole) demand that sexual release. And why should you think anything else? Both pornography and popular culture are continually driven to two points – the moment when there is penetration and the moment of ejaculation. Penetration seemingly always provides him/her with a climax within minutes, and from there we wait for his money shot. Real sex doesn’t work like that, and when it doesn’t, many young people feel that they’re not good enough in bed, that they’re doing something wrong or that there’s something wrong with them. So often this begins a cycle of sexual performance issues and other concerns.
We need to change that. Sex isn’t about putting pressure on ourselves, or sexual partners. It’s about pleasure, enjoyment and fun. Mutual pleasure, mutual enjoyment and mutual fun (unless you’re going solo in which case be as selfish as you need to be!!) But what if we took the focus away from the cock and subsequently away from penetration, what if we focused on the body? What if we slowed the whole twelve and a half minutes of furious thrusting (with alternating sensuality and gentleness) to an afternoon of sexual enjoyment and pleasure? Yes, there’s a place for quickie sex, and it’s a fantastic way to while away a few minutes in the car when you’ve turned up early, but let’s hold that thought and picture the following.
His hands tied to the bedpost, his ankles connected to a spreader bar. He’s wearing a blindfold and he can’t see you. He can hear you, he can smell you – but he just can’t see you as you approach with your bdsm crop. This – is sensory play. The idea that the ENTIRE body is a play toy for your amusement. A tickle here, a soft tongue there, a toy somewhere else. Bringing him to close to climax but never quite allowing for that release. Sensory play breaks the routine of foreplay kissing, oral sex, hand job, sticking it in, moaning and then climaxing. Sensory play has the potential to turn routine sex into something exciting and unexpected. Put simply, sensory play is about the involvement of the body’s five senses; smell, touch, hear, see and taste.
Wartenberg Sensory Wheel
One of the most sensual aspects of sensory play involves sight. We all like sex in the dark. It’s kind of comforting (they can’t see whatever flaws that you might think that you have), and it generally fits into our routines well. However, there’s another thing about sex in the dark that we don’t often consider. Due to the lack of light, our body has to make sense of what’s happening through the other senses. It automatically increases the sense of touch, taste, smell, and hearing to make up for the loss of sight and by knowing this you can take full advantage of the body’s responses. Sensory play can be as simple as using a blindfold, or it can be as complex as wearing a blindfold,having them tied up and using a variety of toys (Waternberg wheels, ice, body wands, forks, spoons, feathers, a dressing gown belt, a leather belt, a shoelace – the total bdsm package) to provide stimulation from the tips of their ears, to the bottom of their feet.
So how do you do sensory play? Sensory play can be as much or as little as you want it to be. Sight play is often the easiest sense to play with because it only involves a blindfold. But consider how various scenes and situations can place emphasis, or highlight the body’s other senses. For sight play, you can use things around the house such as the utensils mentioned above that you can get from the kitchen. Or you can use a variety of implements and tools that create a range of sensations from pleasurable to painful. Once they’re blindfolded, once they’re restrained, they are yours to do with what you will (with consent!).
In this way, by taking the pressure of intercourse, and focusing on the body together you’re not only increasing the level of intimacy between the people involved (can be more than two), but you’re also allowing the body to use its senses to heighten the level of enjoyment and pleasure. Combine this with some edging play and a couple of sensual hours and I guarantee that you’ll be soon experiencing an orgasm like you never have before. So think about this, think about allowing your entire body to be used as a play toy – and simply relax and let go. Focus on the next touch, where it’s going to come from, what it’s going to be. And you’ll quickly discover just how in the moment your body, and mind, can be. I don’t need to go in the specific details of what you can and can’t do – that’s entirely up to your own imaginations. But what I will tell you, ladies and gentlemen is that by following some of these little points is you’ll be well on your way to having the best damn orgasm that you can remember.
Singapore has grown into one of the most modern metropolitan cities on the globe offering endless options for cuisine, culture, pleasure, and entertainment. The women of Singapore are also some of the most stunning babes on the planet. If you are seeking an alternative to escorts while in Singapore with a hottie that isn’t going to watch the clock or charge you by the hour, sugar dating may be just what you’re looking for. Often called the Tinder for older guys, SecretBenefits.comprovides a platform where young women seek out older men to pamper them and maybe help with a couple of bills. In exchange, these sugar babies provide their daddies with companionship and intimacy. You don’t need to be rich, you just have to be a gentleman that likes to treat a woman right.
You may already be familiar with sugar dating to a degree, but today, there are many facets that make up the diverse sugar world. In other words, this is not your daddy’s sugar dating.
Since online dating blasted off, it’s rapidly taken the place of traditional newspaper personals, dating agencies, or even a friend hooking you up with some chick they know. The web has allowed sugar daddy dating to go global and open up to all walks of life. For instance, younger men are choosing to live the sugar baby life, as much as powerful women are choosing to act as sugar mummies. The age gap that might come to mind is also closing in. Economic and societal trends are encouraging younger sugar daddies as well as older sugar babies, respectively in their 30’s and 40’s, to look towards sugar dating for a less inhibited and modern relationship experience.
As expected, there are agreements of all sorts and varying degrees, but the general consensus is one acts as the benefactor (the sugar daddy), and the other person acts as a dependent (the sugar baby). It could be a date for the night, a casual relationship where you might see each other when possible, or even a live-in relationship. It could be agreed upon as an ultra discreet experience or even a wide open, glitzy, cameras in your face, arm candy type of relationship. The possibilities are endless.
Let’s also get the elephant out of the room. Intimacy and sex are up not necessarily involved, and it should not be assumed. Sometimes, there is no physical intimacy involved at all when sugar dating. Again, anything is possible.
So how do you coast into Singapore and find yourself a sugar baby in the big city? Here are the top tips for landing yourself that sugar baby you always wanted, but never knew exactly how to get:
Be a Gentleman
It’s no wonder why this would be an important trait to have. It seems like it would be a given, but a lot of guys get lost sometimes along the way, and they need that reminder. In other words, do what your mamma told you. Not only will you get further when you are aware and respectful of the woman you are interested in, but you will have a better experience all around. This naturally makes a woman feel comfortable and more likely to join you the next time you come calling.
Be Honest About What You Want
It’s generally understood among those dating in the sugar world that honesty with your desires is the best policy. This is especially true with what you are looking for in a companion. What you want with your sugar baby should not be a mystery. This will help attract the kind of woman you really want as well as allow for a much more carefree and enjoyable time while you are together.
Be Open to What They Want
As you can imagine, there are countless reasons why women look to sugar daddy dating. Because of that, pay attention to what your potential sugar baby is looking for. It could be anything which includes, but is not limited to, financial support, all expense paid dates, mentorship, intimacy, travel, industry connections, nice gifts, a one-time date, or a long-term relationship. Just remember, fulfilling desires and needs is an upfront and 2-way street when it comes to sugar dating.
Be Aware of Your Surroundings
The more you understand the way people live, think, and love in Singapore will go a long way. The Lion City definitely has a diverse, multi-ethnic society, and showing off a little knowledge of local customs and cuisine will impress. Perhaps even some Malay or Mandarin under your belt won’t hurt either. If you know your way around the city and know a couple of hot spots, even better. It’s a simple gesture to show you care and are in tune with your surroundings; this will in turn signal to your young companion that you may be in tune with all departments of life and love.
Erotic Stories
Relax and Enjoy Yourself
Sugar dating gives you the opportunity to skip the regular relationship hurdles and get right to having the time of your life. This is your chance to be yourself and enjoy every moment with your new sugar baby at your side. Please, just don’t forget to loosen up and smile. You deserve it. Take full advantage of what life in Singapore has to offer with your sugar baby. After all, we only live once!
Final Step: Find a Reputable and Active Sugar Dating Site
Making this all happen is best achieved using a solid sugar daddy dating site that provides an easy and active user experience. Most prefer to use sugar dating sites with a free and easy sign-up, no monthly charges, respect for discretion, and a responsive customer support team. It’s always recommended to do your due diligence and explore your options. A recommended sugar daddy dating website to get started with is Secret Benefits. They provide an excellent platform to check out the sugar dating scene and make your next trip to Singapore a memorable one!
How did we make the leap from scary faced blow up dolls with semi-realistic vaginas to life-sized, hyper realistic fantasy dolls? I seriously couldn’t believe that we were going to be getting one of these dolls in store to sell.
Pipedream have a history of bringing the latest developments in the adult toy industry to market at a competitive price and their Ultimate Fantasy Dolls are no exception, with their stainless steel posable skeleton, life-like FantaFlesh outer skin and realistic hand, feet and facial details.
Carmen stands at 165cm and weighs a decent 36kg. With a 32 C/D bust, XS/S waist & hips and she takes a size 7 shoe, she is petite, but still curvy.
Unboxing the beautiful Carmen
She comes securely packaged so that she arrives in perfect condition. The only assembly that you will need to do is attaching her head to her body and placing the wig on.
They have thought of almost everything when it comes to the use, care and maintenance. Accessories packed with her include:
1x 4 oz. Moist Body Lotion
1x 4 oz.Refresh Toy Cleaner
2x 1.05 oz.Fanta Flesh Revive Renewal Powder
1x Cleansing Irrigator
1x USB Heating Wand
1x Lingerie Set
1x Pair White Cotton Gloves
1x TPE Material Strip/Repair Tube
1x Set Replacement Press-on Nails
Playing with Carmen
You have the choice of any of Carmen’s 3 openings for sex play. Pipedream recommend the use of a good quality water-based lubricant, such as the Moist Body Lotion that is included in the accessories pack. This will mean that you will be able to optimize the glide while playing with her oral, vaginal or anal canal.
Carmen’s skeletal structure is made from stainless steel, so she is durable, but since her joints are not designed to bear weight, it is best to prop her up or support her torso with soft furniture or pillows during play in positions such as doggy-style.
She can also accompany you into the shower since her body is built to withstand some moisture, but she is not suitable to be immersed fully in water or any other liquid since her head is not waterproof. So, no chucking her in to the pool!
For a more lifelike experience, use your USB warming stick to warm up the canal that you would like to use, remembering to not leave it in for more than 10 minutes at a time. Don’t forget to remove the heating wand before enjoying her warm opening.
Keeping Carmen Clean
To prolong Carmen’s life, it is important that she be cleaned well after use and dried before storing away.
To clean her canals after use, first use the irrigator provided along with a mild antibacterial soap solution to flush, then continue to flush with clean water until all of the soap has been washed out. Leave her to dry and then dust her canals, inside and out, with Revive Renewal Powder.
Like any true lady, Carmen needs to be pampered to stay lookin at her best and the best way to do that is to use a gentle antimicrobial soap and water solution on a lint-free cloth. This works for both spot cleaning and and overall clean. Remembering that you will need to let her air dry completely before lightly dusting with Revive Renewal Powder to keep her Fanta Skin in a silky soft, stain free condition.
It won’t happen overnight, but it will happen. Carmen’s hair needs to be maintained in the same way that ours does. You can do this by using a gentle shampoo and conditioner to clean the hair of her wig, don’t forget that you cannot immerse her head, face or neck in water, so remove the wig before washing. Let it air dry before brushing with a wide tooth comb.
Clothing, Makeup and ALL Things Girly
Colour transfer from clothing and printed products such as newspapers are a real thing and can permanently mark Carmen’s skin. To avoid this happening, make sure that you dress her in colourfast light clothing and do not lay or sit her on anything with ink or oil-based pigments.
You can also adjust her makeup if it is not to your liking. Simply remove the existing subtle makeup with a little mineral oil on a soft, lint-free cloth. When reapplying new makeup, make sure that it is not medicated or enhanced.
If you would love to put footwear on Carmen, they will need to be flat if she is standing up. But if she is laying down, then feel free to pop on a nice pair of heels. Don’t forget though that they will need to be removed for storage.
Putting Carmen to Bed
It is recommended that Carmen is stored in an upright position, with all limbs fairly straight. Although she will need to be repositioned every now and then if she is being stored away for a longer period of time.
It is also best to not store her with any of her joints resting up against hard surfaces and as always, given her size and weight, be careful to not pull sharply on her joints, drop her or allow her joints to knock against hard, sharp surfaces.
Realistic Sex Doll
Final Thoughts…
I must admit that I was really sceptical about how realistic these dolls would be. They looked spectacular in the pictures, but we all know about photoshopping and Instagram filters. Especially those of us who have used dating apps! She is scarily realistic and fills that gap in the market between plastic blow up dolls and us real women… and let’s face it, she’s probably less trouble than most of us women.
As someone who just swoons over art, or anything with creative capabilities, this just sends my heart into a flutter!
I’m all about wonderful and fulfilling things to do in order to create meaning, purpose, happiness and this is nothing short of brilliant.
One iconic spin of this creative genius is the Yves Klein series where women became paintbrushes literally, and created art with their bodies. This was a performance piece titled “Anthropometries of the Blue Period”, 1962 Galerie International d’Art Contemporain, Paris, France. His “Anthropometries” series were radical and controversial because painting women’s bodies in paint and then instructing them to render there body as you would a paintbrush and create not only an installation piece but also a powerful work of art with the human body is mind-blowing and unheard of especially during that era.
But if that got your senses going forget the chocolate body paint or Nutella, and experience the seduction in covering your body in organic and sensual paint and taking your lover to ecstasy while documenting it on canvas.
Yes, you read that right! I want you to cover you and your partner’s body in paint and have sex on top of a canvas while your bodies create a masterpiece to hang on your wall which will truly be the most intimate artwork you will own.
Nude Art
Making love and creating art have a lot of things in common especially passion and hard work, so why wouldn’t you want a memento to keep and be proud of every time you walk past it, because making love is hard work and we all deserve a trophy for that. there are many kits you can buy online or make yourself all you need is;
plastic tarp or large plastic drop sheet so you don’t make too much mess, body safe paint (organic is best), a sheet of canvas, your body and your lovers, and for those of you who are all about aftercare a loofah and some sensual body wash.
Taking an erotic dance and creating art with it is relatively new, although the naked body has been presented on canvas for 1000’s of years through art. Even back to your cave paintings, nudity has always and will always be a major influence within the art world. Each and every artwork is unique and vivacious, each shows personality and unity and every time you create one it was ooze tantalising escapades of you and your partners mood and desires.
the body during sex is very honest and thus it makes the perfect paintbrush, how more authentic can you get? you may create an erotic masterpiece that is full of explosion or a soft an gentle piece with small passionate movements.
a bit of a history lesson for you:
the history of nude art has been a recurring theme especially in classical art mostly in the renaissance and neoclassical periods. the visual representation of the naked body is seen in many different forms be it sculptor, painting, photography, film, installation the list goes on. from this we can learn about the different aspects of sex within a society or era, it gives you an idea about fertility, beauty, national identity, morality and gender ideals.
the naked body has always been a principal subject for art, so no wonder throughout all the years we have witnessed such a wide range and influence where the naked body can not only be objectified but also appreciated.
in ancient Greece the naked body was often depicted in symbolic ways, it was seen as a metaphor for often multifaceted and complex concepts.
take the roman goddess Venus she encompasses all things to do with love, beauty, sex, fertility and prosperity, and in the later classical tradition of the west Venus embodied love and sexuality.
in ancient Rome she embodied love, beauty, enticement, seduction, and in Latin orthography her name is derived from the noun Venus which means sexual love and sexual desire.
so why don’t you bring out your inner goddess, and bring your sexual desires out in the name of history and the evolution of the naked body in art. create an erotic and exciting master piece just for you and your lover and leave it all on the canvas in a time lapse of your moments of passion.
Erotic Artistry
get messy with your and don’t forget to keep the passions going in the clean up after.
Adultsmart community lifestyle blog is proud to have Mika a world famous dominatrix with us for a VIP interview today. She is a half Korean/American FemDom that we are lucky enough to have explain the in’s and out’s of being a dominatrix.
I have to ask the obvious question – how did FemDom start for you?
That is usually a good starting place, haha. I actually got started in this industry as a non-nude, tease cam model. It was here that My natural personality and tease-y cam style attracted a lot of submissive men who then told Me about FemDom and what it was. I knew it was perfect for Me and got started immediately and never looked back.
You’re proudly half-Korean. Does your cultural background influence the work that you do, and how do you go about bringing awareness and acceptance of your culture?
I am, yes. Fortunately, as a clip producer and cam model, I have a large audience with which to spread awareness and proper education. However, unfortunately, there are many negative stereotypes that surround Asian culture especially within a fetish environment that I do stand up against.
First and foremost, I do have to clarify that I am, in fact, a Dominant Woman for real and not just “acting” like one. I am not sure if this comes from the stereotype that most Asian women are submissive or if this is something Dommes of all backgrounds deal with, but it is a very common question for Me.
I also use My content to combat negative stereotypes. For example, I have several Coersed Bi clips that feature Asian males with large dick sizes. This shows My subs that there are plenty of Asian males with great dick sizes that are even bigger than them! This point, especially, is very fun to tap into.
Additionally, one fetish, in particular, I refuse to engage in is Racial Humiliation. I truly believe that by not participating in this fetish, can help contribute to these negative stereotypes going away (or, at the very least, not keeping them alive) – not just for Asian culture but for all cultures.
I do have a Twitter thread for fun, to feature Korean-pop songs I enjoy entitled, “Playlist of an Empress”. Although not insanely popular, it is something I have fun updating from time to time to share this aspect of My culture. You can check it out here:
Twitter Account Mika
I absolutely love how you mention elements of consent and negotiation on your FAQ, you acknowledge that it’s important to find exactly what works for the relationship between you and your sub. What kind of things erode that relationship, and how do you go about handling that?
Yes, absolutely. I think the #1 erosion to a Domme/sub relationship, at least in My experience, is when a submissive comes to the Domme only interested in serving his own fetishes as oppose to actually wanting to serve.
The other common misconception that I find erodes a relationship are those subs that ask Me what it is really like to be My slave, implying that there is a one-size-fits-all. And, there’s not. The relationship I have with each one of My slaves is unique and certainly not an over night process.
For these reasons, in order to handle these issues, I did create a slave school that acts as online slave training for those interested in being My slave. It can be found at SayYestoEmpress.com
Reading through various interviews – the word authenticity and honesty keep coming up. You also mention how it comes naturally to you and that you enjoy it. Do you feel that it’s these qualities that make you respected and successful in what you do, and what other qualities are important in this?
Haha, I suppose that’s true. I think, in this industry, most of the Dommes really create distance and separation between themselves and their subs. I certainly understand this, as there are truly some bad apples out there.
However, I agree that one thing that makes Me stand out is that I do offer a genuine, honest, real and authentic relationship to those submissives that want to take their submission beyond simply a fantasy via being My slave.
I don’t necessary think My way is better than others, of course. Each Woman and Domme is unique with Her own style and She should do what works best for Her and Her well being and enjoyment. This could be different for each Domme so it’s tough to pin-point a magical formula that guarantees success for every Domme. If I had to try to put a magic formula into words though, it would be for each Domme to just do what is fun for Her.
You mention the distinction between Domming for fun and pleasure as opposed to sexual enjoyment. How do you negotiate that within yourself and balance what you find pleasurable/arousing to the work that you do? Are they two completely separate things?
For Me, they are totally separate. I am not turned on at all by submissive men nor with any of the Domination that I do. Rather, My Domination and what submissive men do for Me I find very fun, amusing and entertaining.
As well, I enjoy the sexual separation. I think it ensures I remain completely in control of My subs 100% of the time.
What’s one of the misconceptions about FemDomme that you’d like people to be aware of?
One misconception that I personally struggle with is that many submissives view Dommes as some kind of bad, evil person. I hear over and over how bad some of their experiences are interacting with Dommes (and vice versa, really) have furthered this belief. This gets further complicated with those submissives that have fetishes they feel they’d rather not have in the first place.
So, I suppose I’d like people to be aware that not all Dommes are horrible just like not all subs are horrible. You are responsible for your own interactions. In other words, your experience with FemDom can completely change depending on who you serve and interact with.
What’s a moment in your FemDomme career that has really shaped and influenced who you are, and how you do it?
It was the moment I changed My name from “Princess” to “Empress”. This was a direct reflection of My evolution as a Domme, from someone new to FemDom, to who I am today in FemDom.
This was sparked by the close relationships I had developed with My slaves. Their relationship really inspired and encouraged Me to simply be Myself fully as oppose to trying to figure out what other subs would like or buy. It made a huge impact on Me, My FemDom style and success.
What’s one mistake/learning experience that you keep with you?
I once created a custom FemDom clip that I wasn’t too thrilled about… but I agreed to it because I had never tried it before and it paid well. I also put this clip up for re-sale in My clip store but I told Myself that I wouldn’t do anything like this again. Sure enough, it wasn’t something I enjoyed.
A few months later, I was on interacting with a trial slave that I just felt really strange about and, for Me, there was a clear disconnect. Somewhere in the conversation, I had asked him what his favorite clip was that I created. Turns out, his favorite was that custom clip I didn’t care for. LOL!
It was here that I learned that I have to only put out content that I enjoy to attract the right submissives to Me.
What is your favorite fetish?
I enjoy most FemDom fetishes and believe I can find a way to make almost anything fun for Me. However, if I had to pick a favorite, it would certainly be Mind Fuck. It is here I can truly challenge submissives to be more of service as well as get extremely creative in My clips.
I highly recommend My clip entitled Good Boy Reward to dive right in! It can be found here:
Mika Good Boy Reward
You’ve mentioned that FemDomming for you is not a performance, which allows you to better handle yourself. Are there any draining aspects to being a FemDomme and how do you cope with that?
No. This job is pretty much 24/7 and not something, at least for Me, that I can turn easily on and off. Therefore, I feel that it would actually be extremely draining if all of this was an act, haha.
Financial Domming. I really want to understand it. I get dominating, I get submission and I understand what people get out of that. I also get the idea that Financial Domming is NOT necessarily about taking all of their money and that it is about control. Can you explain this fetish to me, and what a sub and Domme get out of this?
For My style of Financial Domination with My slaves, I use it an important foundation of submission to Me.
They are using something (money) that could have benefited themselves and instead chose for it to benefit Me. There is hardly a greater form of submission in My opinion.
With My slaves, W/we go over budgeting together (which is also apart of the SayYesToEmpress.com e-course) to ensure their money is used most effectively to sustain themselves and their life goals as well as their servitude to Me.
You offer a dick rating service – what can people expect from submitting their dick to you?
I do, haha, almost by necessity as there are so many submissives interested in My thoughts about their “package”. I offer 2 dick ratings, a basic one or a premium one. The basic one is My rating and a few comments. The premium one includes My rating with a more in-depth explanation.
The ratings, along with many other items, are available on My store: EmpressMika.com/store
You also run DommeSource.com. What is this and how does this benefit the FemDom community?
I do, yes.
Back when I started in FemDom, there weren’t really any resources to turn to so that inspired Me to create DommeSource. It is the ultimate resource site for both online Dommes and subs.
It’s my hope that it helps newer Dommes get started as well as newer subs to have a better idea of what submission is. I also hope it helps bridge the gap between Dommes and subs so that the right subs can find the right Domme.
VIP Interview Mika
Final words and thoughts on FemDomme that you’d like people to know?
FemDom is getting more and more popular! 🙂 I’m happy to see more and more people trying it out and invite you to do the same if you haven’t already.
Thanks for having Me!
If you want more details about Mika why not check her out at her website –
