Why You Really Need A Dildo

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Sex should be enjoyable, fun, creative, versatile and mind blowing. So, instead of relying on traditional sex, expand your horizons by exploring your body with a sex toy like a dildo. This article will go into depth about everything you have ever needed to know about dildos.

Where does the word dildo originate?

The beginnings of the word dildo is quite baffling. Interestingly enough, the dildo is widely recognized to have originated from the word diletto which is an Italian word for:

“a lady’s pleasure”

When were dildos first invented?

Dildos were one of the first sex toys types created. They were found as far back as 29, 000 BC in Hohle Fels Cave near Ulm in Germany. As science and technology has advanced over the years, almost every kind of adult lifestyle product that we use has been improved in some way but the humble Dildo has remained one of the most effective and reliable sex toys available.

What is a dildo?

A dildo is a type of sex toy with a phallic or non-phallic shape that is used to provide pleasurable stimulation to women and men. Dildos come in a large range of different shapes, colours, textures, sizes and materials. They range in sizes from as tiny as a finger to much larger than a human’s fist! The large range ensures that the fetishes and fantasies of a wide consumer preference is catered for.

Dual density dildo
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Metal dildo
Image: Chrome Crescent Double Ended Dildo

Who can use a dildo?

There is nothing wrong with dildo play, dildos have been used for thousands of years by women and men of all sexualities. However, men can only use a dildo for anal play if it is made with a base.

What erogenous zones does the dildo stimulate?

A dildo can provide pleasure to a woman’s g-spot and a-spot, it can also provide pleasure to a man’s p-spot. Since dildos are made with varied shapes and sizes, they can reach spots that the average penis cannot which can give you an unbelievable pleasurable experience. Dildos can be used during mutual masturbation and foreplay to massage along different parts of the body including the clitoris, penis and scrotum.

Strap-on and harness compatible dildos can be worn around the waist and used on a lover for a penetrative experience. There are also dual ended dildos that can be used to pleasure the vagina and anus at the same time, some of them can be used by two people at the same time in a “see-saw” movement.

What materials are dildos made with?

Dildos can be made with an assortment of materials like silicone, surgical steel, glass, stone, wood, ABS hard plastic, TPE, TPR, genuine feel rubber and jelly. Unlike men, these sex toys always stay as hard as the material that they are made from. All these different kinds of materials have their own advantages and disadvantages. The best dildo material for you will depend on your own individual preferences. Sometimes it can take a bit of experimentation to find out what you really like.

Companies like Doc Johnson and Tantus have made dildo’s that have dual density layers which provide the feeling of realistic sex. Dildos with dual layers often have a hard inner layer of silicone and a soft outer layer of silicone. They are said to feel absolutely amazing especially when paired with a sex toys unique design and textures.

You can also find companies like BS Atelier in Madrid, LAID from Norway and Fun Factory in Germany who make their products from body safe and non-porous materials like pure silicone, glass and metal. To top that off, Fun Factory sex toys are made with even more functions including rolling massage balls.

Are dildos made with body safe materials?

When dildos were originally produced they were made with rubber and jelly that contained phthalates which are toxic to the body. Phthalates is a type of chemical used to make hard material soft, clear and flexible. With the knowledge that these materials were made with harsh chemicals, most adult lifestyle companies decided to only use materials that are body safe. But you will need to check whether the product you are planning on purchasing is body safe.

Are dildos safe?

Yes, dildos are definitely safe to use. There is no medical evidence to prove that dildos are harmful or have serious side effects to a person. The only thing we can guarantee you though, is that you will be addicted to them. The amount of pleasure obtained from these gadgets is unimaginable.

Why do some people like phallic dildos and some people like non-phallic dildos?

Some people love using a phallic dildos to replicate the feeling of realistic sex with a man whereas some people love the pleasurable stimulation of the ergonomic design of a non-phallic dildo that can be used for pinpoint stimulation.

Why are dildos not classified as a vibrator?

Dildos are generally used through the manual movement of a person’s hand, body or waist. They are not made with electrical features like added vibrations or pulsations which are features that are found in vibrators.

What are suction cups and harnesses used for on a dildo?

The main two features which are sort after when purchasing a dildo is whether it has a strong suction cup or whether it is harness compatible. A suction cup allows a person to use the sex toy for hands free stimulation, as it can be attached to a hard surface like tiles or inside a bathtub so that a person can use it as if it were a real erect penis. Whilst a dildo which is made to be compatible with a harness normally has a flat base which can be placed securely into a harness. A dildo with a harness allows a lover to wear it around their waist so that they are able to use it as if it were a part of their body for penetrative stimulation.

Where can I buy dildos?

Dildos can be bought by or for a person who loves the feeling of penetrative sex. If you are shy and a reserved person walking in to a sex shop and looking for a dildo can be a hard task. We would recommend you purchase a dildo at a sex toy shop online. This is the best option if you want a bit of privacy.

If you are buying a dildo made from a silicone mix it is advised that you go into an physical sex toy store so you can see whether the material has any manufacturing defaults like bubbles within the material.

How do you use a dildo?

Dildos actually do not come with instructions. The designers of these sex toys naturally assume that everyone understands how to be able use a dildo properly. But for first timers, it can be quite difficult especially if you do not know what to do! Here you will find some steps that you can follow to make your first time experience enjoyable:

Be prepared

The first thing you should do when using a dildo is be prepared so that you will be able to enjoy the experience. To do this you will need to:

  • Have your room set up so that you are comfortable.
  • Ensure the dildos you are using is clean.
  • Ensure that the dildo and personal lubricant is in an easy to access location.

Lubricate

If you are a woman you may need to use additional lubricant since they may not be able to produce enough natural lubrication for the experience. It is recommended to invest in a sex toy friendly lubricant like water-based lubricant.

If you are a man you will need to use lubricant as the anus does not produce natural lubrication. The anus will also soak up most of the lubricant so you will need to use plenty and relubricate well before it dries out. It is recommended that men invest in an anal lubricant that is specially made.

Relax

But you can’t just force the dildo in! You have to start somewhere and start slowly. Just like sex with a partner, your body should be ready and relaxed. Using a dildo is about experiencing a personal type of pleasure that is controlled by the user. Burn some aromatic candles, put some mood music on, lie back and relax. You can begin by naturally arousing yourself through masturbating or engaging in foreplay with a lover. When you are ready it will slide in gently almost on its own.

Slow and steady wins the race

Slowly slip a dildo inside, leave the dildo there for a moment and feel it gently stretch your body. When you are ready, control the speed and depth of the thrust to start off slowly and gradually increase it according to the amount of pleasure that you would like to experience. You will need to experiment to find what works for you.

Clean up afterwards

Sex toys need to be taken cleaned and taken care of.  It is recommended to use some antibacterial sex toy cleaner, mild soap and warm water to clean your dildo. Dry it thoroughly and store it in a dark place.

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Jennifer works marketing at Adultsmart an online sex toy shop. She has a non-judgemental approach to sex, sex toys and sexuality. Her favorite saying is if it feels good and right and is not illegal then why not!

An Ultimate Guide To LELO’s Bestselling Vibrators

Bestselling LELO sex toys

With the varying qualities of sex toy makers currently around I think it is important to focus on companies that are doing it right, both with the toys they make and or the way they operate their business. LELO seemed like the obvious first choice as LELO are incredibly famous for their luxury sex toys.

Whenever I am talking to a customer about LELO, I always refer to them as the Ferrari of the sex toy world; LELO is where luxury and quality come to meet. Founded in 2003 by industrial designers Eric Kalen, Carl Magnuson and engineer Filip Sedic, the original LELO team consisted of 10 people (they now employ over 600 people around the world) they started the business with the key idea of making high quality beautiful sex toys with considered design and usability. LELO tries to make sex toys that aren’t just about getting the job done; they want you to enjoy the doing… And they have succeeded.

I own a LELO and I can honestly say I didn’t “get” (get as in understand how they could be pleasurable) vibrators until I got my LELO. Strong vibrations, ergonomic to use and thoughtful design are the key features that keep people coming back to LELO time and time again. Across all of the LELO’s I have encountered, I have found there to never be a shortage of strength and power coming from any of these toys. But not only are the vibrations strong, they make sense. Sometimes when using a toy it can feel like one setting is too weak while the next is too strong, this is never an issue I have run into any of the LELO’s I own or have tested, it actually feels like they get me. I am also a huge fan of the designs for their toys overall for two reasons. Firstly I love how ergonomic they feel to work with, the buttons aren’t in a difficult spot and the length of the toy is right for the job it was designed for. There are constantly little touches of innovation and thoughtful design like the loop ring handle on some models whilst other toys have thoughtful and pleasurable angles. Secondly I like how these toys do not attempt to recreate anatomy (detailed penis type designs) instead they opt for a minimalistic and classic design look that also allows them to be much more inclusive than other toy brands who focus on realism (think about it, why would a lesbian want a realistic looking penis toy? They generally don’t and LELO knows this).

Another reason to love LELO? They practice what they preach. They are a company that has strong ethics and understand that to be a part of this community (the “sex community” for lack of a better term) they need to participate. They are the main sponsors behind the Amber Rose SlutWalk an annual day long march and festival that:

“aims to impact and uplift, while shifting the paradigm of rape culture. The event provides a safe, all-inclusive space to entertain, educate, and empower.” – Quote from The Amber Rose SlutWalk’s website

They carry inclusive products for every different kind of person (men, woman, members of the trans community etc.), they also run an extremely informative blog that contains, sexual health information, tips and tricks, featured erotic stories (from both straight and queer authors) plus they are always looking for new opportunities to become more involved.

Ok so now we are all on the same page, LELO = awesome! So I am going to give you some recommendations of my favourite LELO sex toys so you can become part of the revolution.

My Favourite LELO Sex Toys

Rabbit vibrator by LELO
Image: LELO Soraya

LELO Soraya

LELO Soraya is damn near one of the best sex toys on the market anywhere. Made from medical grade silicone and ABS plastic (two great materials for your toy as they are non-porous and easy to sterilise). The Soraya has 8 different pleasure modes and was designed to be a dual action sex toy. This means that the shaft and clitoris stimulator have two different motors in them meaning they can run independently of each other and they aren’t sharing the strength of one motor head, they each have their own. I own a Soraya and for my money I don’t think there is a better vibrator out there. This is the perfect toy as an “ol’ faithful” she will never let you down and will always leave you smiling.

Clitoral sucker by LELO
Image: LELO Sona Cruise

LELO Sona Cruise

The Sona Cruise claims to work a little different to other suckers. It uses sonic waves that more completely and effectively stimulate the clitoris and bring more powerful orgasms. It is a waterproof silicone and ABS toy that is rechargeable and one of LELO’s more affordable toys. I love suckers! And I was so excited for LELO’s version that hit the market before Christmas last year. I actually purchased this for my best friend as a Christmas present and she gives it the big thumbs up.

Prostate massager by LELO
Image: LELO Loki Wave

LELO Loki Wave

I originally put this on the list as a male toy (the Loki Wave is the second version of the Loki prostate massager) however after looking at the specs and having a close look at the tester I am calling the Loki Wave the perfect couple’s toy. Yes it is designed for prostate, the waving motion will simulate the prostate perfectly and the second smaller shaft is meant as a vibe for the balls and taint but because this toy is made from medical grade silicone it could be properly cleaned and used by a female partner as a rabbit style vibe with the wave function being employed to work the G-spot.

Gold vibrator by LELO
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LELO Inez

This is a 24-karat gold plated vibrator. It retails for $15 000. Why? Because sometimes everyone needs some luxury.

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Jennifer works marketing at Adultsmart an online sex toy shop. She has a non-judgemental approach to sex, sex toys and sexuality. Her favorite saying is if it feels good and right and is not illegal then why not!

Men Orgasming From The Inside Out!

Hot Couple Orgasming From The Inside Out

Penis Plugs and Surgical Steel Sex Toys are becoming more and more popular. They can be found in physical and online sex toy stores. One of the largest suppliers and brands of Penis Plugs and Surgical Steel Sex Toys is Hell’s Couture. Penis plugs are a type of urethral sex toy used by men and women to explore their bodies using techniques and methods to masturbate and reach orgasm. A lot of people within the BDSM and fetish community use Penis Plugs for medical play.

What Do Penis Plugs Feel Like?

When I first inserted a Penis Plug, it stimulated the tip of my penis from the inside, giving me a pleasurable feeling that felt AMAZING. I used a Cum Thru Penis Plug which allowed me to ejaculate whilst it was being worn. Since then, I have used it multiple times which felt as equally amazing as the first time. Now, I have a larger range of Urethral Sex Toys to mix things up, so my lover doesn’t get bored. I would recommend a Penis Plug to any and every man out there.

Penis Plug For Mens Masturbation
Sex Toy: Jets Solid Penis Plug

What Does Urethral Sounding Feel Like?

I trained my body so that I was able to insert longer, textured and wider Urethral Sex Toys. Training my body to adapt to different sizes made the experience more bearable than my initial experiences. The urethral sound slid in easily, since it was able to reach a longer area I was able to experience more sensations at the one time. When the Urethral Sound was fully inserted the curved tip stimulated my bladder giving my whole body a new sensation I had never experienced before. I moved the Urethral Sound in and out. I then begin to masturbate with my penis for even more pleasure whilst always ensuring that my Urethral Sound was topped up with more lubricant. I alternated between masturbation and “in & out” play until I came. Once again, I experienced a long sweet orgasm.

It took me some time before I got used to the Urethral Sex Toy but I can positively say I enjoy using them especially outdoors where no one else has any idea that I am wearing it underneath my pants. I can now use Urethral Sex Toys for extended periods of time as I have gotten used to them. Honestly speaking, I can’t decide which is better from the other as they both give different but exquisite sensations. It is important to note that Urethral Sex Toys should not be worn for long periods of time.

Urethral Sex Toy That's Extremely Long
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Preparation Steps

Sterilize

Even though it was new, I sterilized the Penis Plug by leaving it in boiling water for more than 5 minutes. Afterwards, I wiped it with clean piece of cloth with alcohol making sure my hands and body were clean at all times. It is important to guarantee safety by using spotless, disinfected Penis Plugs. Always remember to clean both your Penis Plugs and your body before you attempt to insert a Penis Plug. Ask your partner to clean their hands or even make sure they use surgical gloves if they would like to help you masturbate with the Urethral Sex Toy. Never insert anything into the urethra if you have infections, you should seek medical treatment from a professional first.

Lubricate

Furthermore, remember to lubricant. You will require a good and germ free lube for this. Place a lubricant on the entry to the urethra and on the Urethral Sex Toy before you begin insertion. I originally decided to go with KY Jelly which is a sterile lubricant for ease of insertion. I now know however that water-based lubricants dry up quickly. I now use Superslyde which is a silicone-based lubricant that feels silky smooth and does not dry up. Whatever you do, don’t use saliva as a lubricant!

Relax & Take It Slowly

Before I started the process, I made sure I was in a relaxed environment. Since it was the first time for me, I made sure I was fully comfortable before I began inserting the tip of the Penis Plug in my urethra. It is important to insert the plugs when your penis is still soft and not erect.

I also had the instructions in mind to go slowly as urethral play should be carefully done as the area is delicate. If you are stressed, your urethral muscles will physically work against it and they will attempt to push the plug out or block it from going any further. Try to oppose this urge by relaxing as much as possible. It is best to just allow the weight of the Penis Plug to naturally push it into the urethra by itself. Gravity will assist here, so it is best to keep the penis perpendicular during insertion. Do not force the Penis Plug inside.

Masturbation

There are two ways you can masturbate.

  1. You can hold the Penis Plug and move inside and outside of your urethra.
  2. You can hold the Penis Plug in place whilst you masturbate. Try with mild strokes and observe how it feels like.

Couples Play

If you would like another person to make the insertion, this is where you would invite your lover to help you. Hold your penis with one hand while the other inserts the Penis Plug or Urethral Sound.

At first the sensation was new, strange and slightly painful at the point of entry but I slowly started to get used to it. After slowly and repeatedly taking it in and out I started feeling new sensations all over my dick from the urethral play. I also realized that the Penis Plug was going in deeper and deeper as time passed. The sweet sensations were coming from both in and out of my penis. I didn’t last long the first time but I remembered to remove the plug before I had a long sweet orgasm.

Practice Keeping The Penis Plug in Place

The male urethral muscles will keep pushing the plug out. As a beginner it’s important to practice on how to keep the Penis Plug in place. Getting a Penis Plug with a thin shoulder will assist as it provides a good hold inside the urethra. There is a large range of Penis Plug types to buy at sex toy stores so you will be able to find a product which works for you.

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Andrew is right into the Fet Lifestyle and enjoys BDSM. He has written about these subjects in many arena’s and is an expert at Shibari. He shares his knowledge by working with Adultsmart a sex toy store. Enjoy the descriptive and educational articles he has written.

Joy N More Waterproof Vibrator Sale – 50% OFF!

Joy N More vibrators and kegel balls are a bestselling brand of sex toys in Asia manufactured by ABC Feelings Corporation.  The point of difference is that they are 100% completely waterproof and having been checked up to depths of 2 metres.  They are seamless and made from 100% body safe medical grade silicone allowing the user to feel safe with their use.

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Being seamless and smooth also means more hygienic as it makes them easier to clean and no nasty bacteria can hide in any grooves or nooks.  They are beautifully and ergonomically designed that will please even the most experienced of pleasure product users.  The range caters for most and consists of –

Rabbit Vibrator
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Joy 1 – The Waterproof Rabbit massager is the perfect tool to use after a hard day’s work.  Run yourself a bath with some scented candle and relax.  The grab hold of your trusty rabbit that will allow you to find your magic G-Spot whilst having your clit stimulated.  With two powerful motors it is enough to satisfy anyone and allow yourself to gush away the tensions of the day.

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Joy 2 – The body of this vibrator is streamlined with smooth and soft medical grade silicone.  There is a slight curve in the shaft with a bump that will allow you to easily find your G-Spot and have it massaged with the deep and rumbly vibrations this pleasure object gives.  8 separate vibrations modes gives the user plenty of choice.  This is an exceptionally nice vibrator and would be an excellent choice as a gift for a lover.

Joy N More Wand
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Joy 3 – Smooth and delicate with a lovely gentle ‘S’ shape that is perfect for G-Spot or P-Spot simulations.  It is a must for those seeking sensual pleasures and the seamless surface makes it perfect when entering or removing.  This baby can rock your world and is a thing of erotic beauty.  It is also semi pliable giving the opportunity to reach your magic spot and adding comfort to the whole occasion.

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Joy 4 – When you want to be in control find Joy with the fully bendable silicone sex toys that will reach any pleasure zone you desire.  You can tailor it to your unique anatomy allowing you to have adult toy sex in any position you wish.  Run time is up to four hours of continuous use so there will be no need to charge it every other day.

G-Spot Stimulator
P-Spot Stimulator

Joy 5 – Is the perfect vibrator for those seeking to target the G-Spot or the P-Spot.  Seriously bendable so that you can target your most sensitive zones making it the perfect sex toy choice for any man, woman or couple.  The magic and joy that this pleasure object can bring is only limited by the desire of the user.

 

The Joy N More Collection of adult toys are premium and having one or all in your sex toys box is a must.

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Rick is the owner of the Adultsmart, an online sex toy shop that stocks over 13,000 products. He has been involved in the adult lifestyle industry for more than 25 years. Rick is an active sex blogger who provides a wealth of information and experience. He is an advocate of equality for gender and sexuality.

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The Adult Lifestyle Centre in Kogarah Is extremely accessible and I found some great adult gags at the store. The good thing about Adult Lifestyle Centre’s is that they are a great way to find some great men’s sex toys. Mens sex toys are something that can definitely make you feel like a stronger man. The BDSM sex toy options are something that I think people can grow to understand, and will definitely get turned on by. I think when you find a ball gag that both members of a relationship enjoy, this is something that you need to pay attention to and continue to try. I think it is really cool that the company highlights the fact that they are a handicapped accessible store. Many people forget that everyone in society craves a certain amount of sex. I think sex is something that cultures universally enjoy and I think the best stores are going to do everything possible to reach out to all customers.

I found the right kind of lubricant, one that keeps things sizzling in the bedroom. I know you can certainly find a number of lubricant that will work no matter what the size of a man’s penis is. It does not matter how tight a woman’s vagina is, if you use the correct lubricant you will be able to have sex slowly and effortlessly. Couples sex toys are something that can be used to prove that both people in the relationship know how to share. If I can find something that I can share with my spouse, it certainly means that life can be a lot more fun. The purpose of these sex toys allows us to be extremely fun in the bedroom. I think users that watch these different discrete videos are going to have a lot of fun.

 

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I think it certainly makes sense to use many of these toys and bondage items in order to make a tape of a love making session. The love making session can be more entertaining if I bring in something like anal beads or the right dildos. The Adult Lifestyle Centre Kogarah is something that can make a couple feel more comfortable about a relationship. I am aware that you can gain more confidence because of the toys and devices that are available. Cock rings and other items can help a number of people with erectile dysfunction. The lasso style cock ring that can be found in the store is something that I know people can enjoy. I think the lasso style cock ring would definitely be a good change of pace. I believe a good vibrator can bring a fair amount of balance to a relationship and a sex life. I think the vibrator can definitely loosen things up as and learn about the top spots and places where a lover can have an orgasms. The right vibrator from the store can definitely give you an orgasm. Orgasms are very important with a sexual relationship.

It is indeed extremely helpful that the company offers lubricated condoms in the store. It can be very helpful that the condoms are very easy to find. I think it can be helpful for a sex shop’s image to verify that they care about safety. The company is able to prove detractors wrong by proving not to be reckless. I hope everyone is able to find the right amount of condoms that are needed as the range is vast. I think that the condoms have the right kind of sensitivity to please all parties involved. I was personally pleased with the Lifestyles SKYN. I think the goal is to feel like a user does not have a condom on, and the objective appears to be met. The Playboy Condoms are something that can make users satisfied as well. I like the name Playboy when it comes to a condoms, it really seems to fit a certain lifestyle.

I think I really like the promotions where a certain amount of battery powered sex toys can be purchased and then you get entered in the free adult DVD exchange. The DVD exchange is pretty straight forward. I also think it is cool that the store also caters to older couples that want to try to keep that burning flame of love alive. Based upon my experience, I know something great can be found at Adult Lifestyle Centre Kogarah.

 

Jennifer works marketing at Adultsmart an online sex toy shop. She has a non-judgemental approach to sex, sex toys and sexuality. Her favorite saying is if it feels good and right and is not illegal then why not!