Things You Should Try In The Bedroom To Spice Up Your Sex Life

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Is your sex life suffering because family issues and issues with your job are on your mind? Are those aspects of your life fine but the sex is not exciting anymore because you’ve grown comfortable with your partner? If the fire is starting to go out, then you should know there are ways to reignite that fire.

There are many different things you can try to bring the fire back to your sex life. Excite your partner by showing your partner that you learned some new sex tricks. Pick your favorites from the list below and try them the next time you have a romantic night planned.

Take A Picture

This tip is very easy to do thanks to smartphones. Why not have some pictures taken during the climax? No one is suggesting you put these photos online because these photos should be the eyes for you and your romantic partner only.

You can get creative with the photos you take. If you’d rather have video then set up a tripod or place your smartphone where it can see everything and record the romantic encounter.

You should only do this with someone you know you can trust to keep the pictures and videos private.

Read Stories From Other People

There are short stories about sex that you can share with your lover to get them in the mood. If you don’t know about these stories then you should do some research and look for them. There are many more stories out there than the 50 shades series if that isn’t your thing.

This is a category that many different people have published stories. With how many there are available, you should find something that you and your partner will like.

Act Out Your Fantasy

If you want to spice things up then act out your favorite fantasies with your partner. While this may feel weird for people who have never tried it before, you can come up with the characters you want to pretend to be yourself. Pick roles that are different from your everyday life so this feels like a new experience.

If you are going to roleplay, you should include costumes and props to get the full experience. Whatever you want to do and whatever you want to see your partner do, try it all. Maybe you can improvise with costumes and props you already have so you don’t need to spend money.

Don’t Be Calling All The Shots

This has nothing to do with dominating and submissive roles. If you are still using vibrators, let your partner choose the settings before you use them. They also make vibrating panties that the female can wear while out on a date and let the man have the controls to add unpredictability to a date night.

Book A Hotel Room

A change of scenery always helps. Most people always have something they want to do in a hotel room. You could always combine two by roleplaying in a hotel room.

You can let the maids clean up after you leave but it’s more exciting if you two show up on your own. The one that arrives first can set the mood while waiting for their partner to show up.

Play Sex Games

Take turns trying to make each other cum and see who can last the longest. The first one to stop resisting the orgasm is the loser. When the game gets boring, change up the rules and you could end up creating new games.

Kiss Like Teenagers

Sometimes making things exciting doesn’t mean things have to get more intense. Sometimes you want to keep things simple. If there are no flames then you might want to hold off on sex because the forbidden fruit always tastes better.

When you went on dates in your teen years, some of your best memories might be when you were making out with your romantic partner. You could restore the flame and passion by only making out with your partner and not moving things forward.

Tell Your Partner, Where You Want To Be Stimulated

Get some body paint and paint X’s where you want your partner to kiss or bite or do whatever you are into. If the body paint is safe to eat, then your partner can lick it off when you’re done. You could use whipped cream if you don’t have body paint. Just make sure to put towels down beforehand because you do not want to create a mess.

If you are into different things then why not use different symbols instead of X? You could create memories as you experiment with this technique.

Things could always become boring but that doesn’t mean it has to stay that way. The suggestions above are just a few things you can try to make things exciting again. You can also come up with things to try on your own to make your sex life more interesting.

V² (Vulvas and Vaginas)

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An important aspect of everyday living is our health. We see it plastered everywhere. How to lose weight, which new fad diet to adhere to in the new year, the best water to drink, gym routines to follow and new and improved ways to pay attention and take care of our own mental health.

 

But sexual health is important too.

 

And yet it is rarely given as much of the limelight.

 

Sex and sexual health still often holds a stigma around it. It’s dirty. It’s taboo. It’s provocative or of loose morals. But here is the reality; sex is natural. And most people will partake, experiment and enjoy it as part of their everyday lives.

 

Which is one of the reasons awareness of sexual health is so important.

 

So today, let’s talk about Vulvas and Vaginas. How do we keep the Vulva and the Vagina healthy?

 

Here are my 5 tips for a Healthy Vulva and Vagina

 

Keep the Ph Balanced

 

The human body is a fiercely fascinating factory of infinite wisdom and workings. The Vulva and Vagina would you believe is basically self cleaning. It also is home to a host of good bacteria that are PH sensitive. Those bacteria keep your vagina and vulva thriving. This is where you want and need to stay away from scented soaps or bath products, even some of the vaginal marketed products. All you need to clean your vulva is warm water. Anything more than that can wash away the good bacteria that is keeping your vulva safe from nasties outside of your body and leave you open to infection. A very mild soap that is PH neutral, paraben free is safe to use especially after sweat intense activities and sex.

Also-douching-stop! It is not safe to douche your vagina. Again, the bacteria in your vagina is very sensitive and when you douche your vaginal canal you expel all of that bacteria leaving your precious vagina unguarded.

 

When using Lube try and use water based lubricants that are ph neutral, have no parabens or preservatives. Pjur has an outstanding range tailored for women that are just perfect for the vulva and vaginal climate.

 

WHich brings us to flavoured lubricants and sweet treats. We have all read stories or fantasised about the stories involving caramel or whipped cream at one point or another. Perhaps that is just me. Let me let you in on another secret. Sugar is not so great for the vagina or vulva conditions either. It can lead to bacterial infections, or worse, thrush. And nobody has time or patience for that. When selecting sweet treats for playing always select flavoured lubricants that contain high grade artificial sweetener such as sensuva in them. This will ensure that nothing bad will grow down there. Wicked and Jo Lubricants are some of our favourites!

 

Let them breathe.

 

Another important point to be made is that vulvas and vaginas need airflow. Restricting oxygen and airflow stifles the bacteria that we have and you guessed it, they die. We secrete sweat and the conditions down there become not very habitable. This is why leading experts often suggest wearing cotton rich underpants which promote air flow to your nether region, and why even if they aren’t cotton underpants they will often have a little cotton strip sewn into it.

 

The next best thing, other than cotton panties, is being naked. Scientific studies have long proved the benefits for sleeping naked for the body but did you know that it is also very beneficial for your vagina and vulva? Allowing the air to flow to your nether region, helps to regulate temperature, assisting in keeping you cooler as you drift off and stay asleep. The airflow also allows for the prevention of the buildup of bacteria and fungi which prevent infection and balances your PH. The term beauty sleep, is not as far fetched and made up as you may have imagined either. Sleep is when our bodies naturally heal and our cells cycle and repair themselves. The same is said for the vulva and vagina. Without the added piece of underwear stretched tightly against them gives them the unencumbered ability to heal in peace.

 

Use Safe Materials

 

Like ensuring your lubricants are utilising high quality artificial sweeteners over real caramel; making sure other materials you place inside your vagina is also very important. WHen selected toys and condoms pay attention to what they are made of before purchasing and before putting them inside your body.

 

When using vibrators, dongs and toys, try to use non porous, body safe or medical grade materials such as Silicone, stainless steel, surgical steel, glass or approved TPE or TPR. lower grade materials that are not body safe have the potential to break down and off into the body and infect the delicate environment that we have. This not only includes the solid materials but can also include the colour or dyes used in the manufacturing. Check in with our friendly staff to see about the right toys that are safest for your body when visiting our stores.

 

Know your Bits

 

Most of us use the word vulva and vagina interchangeable. Infact, most often we label a woman’s nether region her vagina. So first, a quick anatomy lesson.

 

The Vagina is the canal inside that extends up to the cervix. About 2-2.5cms inside is the G spot. Another 2 cms, when extended and aroused, is the fornix which is a cul de sac shaped pressure plate surrounding the cervix. The Anterior Fornix is better known as the A spot. The Cervix is the ridge shielded within your vagina. To see the cervix, often a speculum is needed and it is suggested that a professional inspect and examine the cervix.

 

The Vulva is the exposed section on the outside of the vagina. At the top is the Pubic mound (mons pubis) which may or may not have pubic hair. Below that is the clitoral head that protects that head of the clitoris. Further down is the urethral opening. The entrance to the Vagina is located underneath this. These are protected by the Inner Lips (labia minora) and Outer lips (labia majora)

 

 

Don’t be afraid to sit down, if you’re feeling adventurous try using a mirror and see if you can find each of the corresponding parts. Feel each part slowly. They should feel for the most part, smooth to the touch. There may be the odd small bump from a hair follicle, pimple or ingrown hair. But make sure to note any bumps and bring them to the attention of a doctor on your next visit.  Maybe you want to get a designer vagina?

 

Testing and Vaccinating

 

Keeping healthy means regular check ups with your doctor or gynecologist. If you are sexually active, the best thing you can do for your vagina and vulva is to get tested regularly. The frequency of how often you get tested for such things as STIs depend on how many sexual partners that you have, how often you have sex, whether you are fluid bonded, what methods of contraception you use and when you were last tested.

 

Many people often don’t like to get tested frequently because of the stigma or the judgment surrounding getting tested frequently. I am here to tell you that if you are made to feel uncomfortable by a physician, leave, seek a second opinion. You are doing the right and responsible thing by being tested. You are in the right. There are many Doctors Surgeries that are pro-sexual testing that will screen you without judgement. Reach out to us if you are having difficulty finding some in the Sydney Area.

 

In 2017 a new system was introduced that replaced the pap smear screening procedures for vagina’s to test for potential cervical cancer. The Cervical Screening Test or CST searches for the presence of HPV and can even detect the very early stages of cells before they have turned cancerous. This medical Advancement allows for testing to occur every 5 years instead of every 2 years.

 

From 2007 a HPV vaccination has been available to young women and men usually between 12 and 13 at school to help prevent HPV and cervical cancer. Other vaccinations such as HepA and HepB are also vital in keeping up to date for your safety and your sexual partners.

 

Vaginas and Vulvas are much like snowflakes, no two are exactly the same and each one is different and unique for their own reasons.  It is a great idea to know your own, know your partners for as much pleasure as health. As I finish I thought I would leave you with a quick word of wisdom on diets and taste. There has long been rumours on things to eat to make a pussy taste better, pineapple, cranberry and other fads. The vulva is only ever going to taste like it is meant to taste, a Vulva. They are not created to taste like flowers or candy or chocolates.

 

That being said, a good and healthy diet can assist in maintaining a better tasting “dessert”. Some sample experiments have been shown that diets rich in fried, high sodium and processed foods will give off a not so nice taste. Whereas diets that are rich in vitamins, fibre, well hydrated and well balanced will make for a much tastier meal (this goes for semen as well.) As a general rule of thumb, if your diet makes your pee or your bowels smell, it’s probably not doing your cum any favours either. Graphic yes. Helpful-very.

 

At your Service,

 

Tiffany,

OhZone Adult Shops Sales Assistant, Educator and Vulva Owner

Better sex for 2021

2021 sex

Welcome to a sexy 2021 my friends!

 

After swiping left on 2020, most of us are ready for a new chapter, a new story or a new beginning to be found in the year 2021. Although New Years may have been quiet, and that Resolutions are more often than not bothersome to say the least, why not invest your new lease on life on Sex and Intimacy!

 

Here are some sure fire ways to kick this year into the sexiest yet. These are for everyone to enjoy, whether you are single, in a relationship, celebrating love or lust from afar or experimenting.

 

  1. Work on Intimacy in and out of the bedroom.

Intimacy is not simply touch and does not simply occur in the bedroom during sexual acts. One of the biggest roots of Intimacy is simply being kind to yourself and our partners. Especially after the year we have just had. Be kind. Share in compliments. Share in treats or little gifts. Small non sexual touching can also improve and heighten intimacy as well. Learn your own, and your partner’s love languages to improve, spark and deepen intimacy.

 

The deeper your connection is, the more intense your sexual bond will be.

 

Try these Intimacy tips

  • Take the Love Languages Quiz https://www.5lovelanguages.com/quizzes/ to see how you best express and accept love/intimacy

  • Write or say an intimate gratitude daily to yourself and/or a loved one “I love my smile” “I am grateful for your kisses each morning”

  • Be intentional in your touch when you say hello.

  • Bring your loved one a coffee

  • Invite them on a netflix date

 

  1. Figure out what feels good to you and do more of that.

Sex and intimacy is not always about shared pleasure. Sometimes it is important to know what you like first, either solo or together. Take this opportunity for self sexploration and lots of it. Learn how your own pleasure works, your own body. Encourage your partner to do the same. Do it alone. Do it together. Mutual masturbation can be lots of fun and very informative. Use your fingers, try some toys, experiment with lubricants and stimulants as you play.

 

Try these Feel good Tips

  • Try warming or chilling lubricants

  • Experiment with arousal oils or lubricants

  • Visit us in store for recommendations of sex toys to use.

  • Try mutual masturbation.

 

  1. Talk more with your partner or yourself regarding sexual yes’ nos and maybes.

When was the last time you thought about what you liked during sex? Have you ever done a quiz? Or written them down? How about talking them through with your partner? It can be quite a turn on not to mention an eye opener and can lead to some wondrous and arousing sexual exploits you may have never thought possible. You can easily make your own or find simple or very comprehensive ones online that can range from everyday exploits to BDSM

 

  1. Be open to teaching and learning

There is a lot that we may not know or understand in the world and the same can be said for sex and pleasure. What better way to find out than to learn. In a world with technology at our fingertips there is a lot of advice, blogs, podcasts and tutorials to explore for the open minded. Studios such as Studio Kink in Sydney offer classes both in person and online for Shibari (rope tying), impact, submissive training and events. Podcasts such as Missionary to Madame offer wonderful advice and insight into relationships sex. Books are also in the form of hard copy, e books and audio books that come with inspiring how to’s such as the The Ultimate Guide to Fellatio and the Ultimate Guide to Cunnulingus by Violet Blue which combines phenomenal how to’s with scantilising short stories.

 

  1. Stop Focusing on ORGASMS and focus on PLEASURE and what feels good. Orgasms will come. (Pun well intended)

 

SOmething I believe in and can’t promote more is Mindful Sex or Mindfu Masturbation. I like to envision it as the art of being present in the moment of pleasure, of what feels good rather than judging sex as the moment orgasm is achieved. There is too much pressure these days on achieving orgasm and as such, a dramatic decrease in people being able to have them.

All of these points 1-4 aid in realising your pleasure and assist in bettering your sex life. In being in the moment and experiencing pleasure rather trying to rush to the end and only defining sex by whether or not a orgasm happened you will experience a much more vibrant sex life that will be unrivaled to the years before hand.

 

So this year, in 2021, sit back, relax, connect, and indulge in feeling good and feeling pleasure, the connection and the orgasms will follow, and when they do, they will bring in a new year worth talking about.

 

At Your Service,

Tiffany

 

AdultlifestyleCentre Adult Shop Sales Consultant, Educator and Pleasure Defender.

Sex Toy Materials vs Lube

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Going into buying sex toys can be scary enough if you’ve never gone into a sex shop (it shouldn’t be, all workers at the best adult shops in Sydney are amazing, helpful, open minded, and just want you to have good orgasms), and then when faced with all the choices of lubes it can be overwhelming, not knowing what’s safe with what is another hurdle, so here are the common materials and what they can be used with, with the added bonus of how they should be stored and cleaned!

You would be amazed what are the most popular sex toys in Australia!

Silicone – smooth, no real smell or taste, some with a silky finish. Medical grade silicone is body-safe and is 100% hypoallergenic with no latex or phthalate.
Lubes: safe with water-based, oil-based, and hybrid lubes. (Extremely high quality is safe with silicone lube, Colours triple density dongs are safe.)
Cleaning: 100% silicone can be boiled, others should be washed with a toy cleaner!

Glass – most are made from the same glass as Pyrex, they are heat resistant and shatterproof. They are smooth and sturdy and perfect for temperature play. Glass is incredibly skin safe but be sure to check for cracks and fractures before each used!
Lube: Glass is safe with all lubes.
Cleaning: Can be washed with toy cleaner and water, or even thrown in the dishwasher, or boiled.

Plastic – most commonly made with ABS (the same material as LEGO), used for it’s cheap production value, these toys may be blended with latex. These are hard with no distinct smell or taste. Generally a skin safe material but could be blended with phthalates and latex, which are common allergens and harmful to skin.
Lubes: safe to use with all lube types
Cleaning: can be cleaned with sex toy cleaner, anti-bacterial soap and water, or through boiling.

PVC – man made plastic, can be hard or more flexible, has an intense plastic smell and more often than not contains phthalates and latex so isn’t the most body-safe option in the world.
Lubes: this material should be used with water-based lubes only, as oil and silicone can melt the material.
Cleaning: rigid PVC is non-porous and very easy to clean, flexible PVC can be porous so may be harder to clean. Store these toys away from other materials and preferably in their own casing to avoid chemical reactions and damage to toys.

TPE – the material used to create Real Feel, Cyberskin, Softskin, or Ultraskin. Frequently used for male masturbators. Realistically fleshlike, warms to the touch, incredibly flexible, due to it’s softness it isn’t a great option for vibrators as it can weaken vibrations. Can tend to have a rubbery smell and taste. TPE is non-toxic but is porous so it’s prone to bacterial growth, and can be mixed with product softeners which can be allergens.
Lubes: use water-based only with this material.
Cleaning: as this is a porous material it can be hard to clean, best to use just water and a toy cleaner.
This should be kept away from other toys in storage to be on the safe side. Any discolouration can be a sign of growing mould in the pores of the material, so throw it away. These toys should be replaced every 5 months.

Metal – usually made from medical grade stainless steel, they can occasionally be mixed with other metals (such as nickel WHICH SOME PEOPLE ARE ALLERGIC TO), so be sure to check this. These toys are rigid and smooth but perfect for temperature play, higher densities are good for weighted and pressure play.
Lubes: all lubes are safe to be used with metal! 😊
Cleaning: this is a non-porous material which makes cleaning a breeze, toy cleaner, soap, dishwasher, or boiling all work.

Wood – if made correctly these toys are beautifully smooth with a non-toxic resin coating to prevent splinters. The weight and look will depend on what kind of wood was used to create the toy. If made correctly these toys are super body safe and environmentally friendly. Some manufacturers use scrap wood which is great for conserving rainforests.
Lubes: wood is safe with all lubes, due to it’s smooth finish you only need a small amount.
Cleaning: best washed with just water to prolong life, be sure to check for any damage before and after each use.

Rubber – one of the cheapest materials, will be flexible with a very strong rubber smell and chemical taste. To ensure body safety it is strongly recommended to use a condom with rubber toys as they often contain phthalates which can be harmful to the skin. (They have produced body safe rubber recently but it is not widespread).
Lubes: best used with just water-based, however if using a condom with rubber silicone is okay to be used.
Cleaning: best washed with soap and water and stored away from other materials, just to avoid chemical reaction with other toys.

 

My personal favourite lube is the Wicked Hybrid as it’s super vagina friendly and can be used with most toy materials out there, it has the benefits of the longevity and silkiness of a silicone lube, but the easy cleanup of a water-based!

Dealing with an unusual sex drive

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Now, I know there are other women out there who, like myself, who have no idea what they want or desire sexually. Sometimes its crazy and you can’t even look at your significant other without mentally undressing them and jumping their bones as soon as the opportunity arises. But also, at other times when the opportunity presents itself, its just shrugged off like meh. But then other times you might really want it but then you also kind of don’t at the same time. Well, I’m here to tell you, you’re not alone.

To some, yes this may sound crazy, but it can be really frustrating.

I have been dealing with these kinds of issues through my entire sexually active life. It’s almost like there’s a little gremlin in your head pushing all the wrong buttons at the most inconvenient of times. And this can sometimes really ruin the mood, especially if you have made all the moves to hint that you are up for it but then all of a sudden, it’s gone and your partner is left extremely confused.

I’ve had partners in the past who I had never confided in about these feelings as they where never willing to talk or communicate about much sexual stuff. To them it was “sex is sex”. So, let me tell you, COMMUNICATION IS KEY! If they don’t know how you feel or what you want, then you’ll never be satisfied or content with the sex you have with them and it may even be the other way around, how will you know what they want if they don’t communicate it with you.

When I first met my current partner, of course like any relationship at the start, every time you’re with them you want to go at it like rabbits but that doesn’t last forever and if you’re like me, that period is even shorter again. So naturally, we grew out of that stage, but we still went at it a fair amount, it never just stopped and for some reason that amazed me, especially because I was very rarely up for sex as it was. Surely enough we moved in together, my sex drive went back to its normal wacky self, but he naturally has a high sex drive. This is where the communication started where I had never had it before. All he wanted was to please me, that’s what got him off, he wanted to know exactly what I wanted, where I wanted it and how long I wanted it for! I was absolutely blown away (no pun intended).

I’d never experienced a man, so hell bent on pleasing me. At this point I somewhat started to open to him about what I wanted but was still too shy to completely lay out what I thought was wrong with me as I though it may affect our relationship and how he saw me.

Turns out I should have told him straight up, like I said communication is key 100%. We got further into our relationship and he would occasionally ask questions like “You don’t seem like you want it, what’s wrong?” or “Are you still into me?”. When these questions started becoming more frequent and concerning, it made me realise that not only was this affecting me, but he was slowly noticing more and more that something wasn’t quite right, and it was starting to affect him too. So, we sat down and spoke about it all and I mean ALL, there was emotions, tears and feelings being released like nothing else. He comforted me and made me feel okay with who I am and these feelings I had that made me feel not normal.

The fact that I had finally spoken to him and opened up about how I felt helped not only our sex life but also helped our relationship. He now knows that if I seem a bit off chances are, I’m not up for it and he will realise that rather than going just ahead with it.

 

  • COMMUNICATION!   Always remember that this should be your first thought. Like I said earlier, how will either of you know how you feel or what you want if you don’t discuss and understand each other.
  • I found that sex toys really helped me cope with what I was dealing with. For example, if I really didn’t feel like doing anything but he was raring to go. Pull out the toy and go to town! I enjoyed and was more than happy to help him because I knew he was enjoying it and I was still helping him. At other times I wouldn’t have felt like physically doing the deed but for some reason I felt comfortable using toys. Let me tell you, men are more than happy to watch that! You can still enjoy each other’s company in a different and possibly more personal way.
  • Watching porn together.  Now I know this one may be a bit of a grey area as some couples don’t agree on watching porn at all. But if you’re open to it and they want to get down and dirty but you’re just not sure, ask them to watch porn with you beforehand. You may find you where in the mood for it you just didn’t know yet.
  • Physical foreplay. If you know what turns you on and you know what might get you in the mood, hell even if you don’t know but you want to do the deed, try some foreplay, go with the flow, and see where it goes. Tell him where to go, guide him and tell him what feels good.
  • Being relaxed. Always be sure that you are comfortable and relaxed with your significant other and environment when getting freaky. At the end of the day, its your body. They may be your partner but if you’re not comfortable, NO MEANS NO and they need to respect that and vice versa.

Kaylah and Oh Zone Adult Store consultant.