Sex Toy Materials vs Lube

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Going into buying sex toys can be scary enough if you’ve never gone into a sex shop (it shouldn’t be, all workers at the best adult shops in Sydney are amazing, helpful, open minded, and just want you to have good orgasms), and then when faced with all the choices of lubes it can be overwhelming, not knowing what’s safe with what is another hurdle, so here are the common materials and what they can be used with, with the added bonus of how they should be stored and cleaned!

You would be amazed what are the most popular sex toys in Australia!

Silicone – smooth, no real smell or taste, some with a silky finish. Medical grade silicone is body-safe and is 100% hypoallergenic with no latex or phthalate.
Lubes: safe with water-based, oil-based, and hybrid lubes. (Extremely high quality is safe with silicone lube, Colours triple density dongs are safe.)
Cleaning: 100% silicone can be boiled, others should be washed with a toy cleaner!

Glass – most are made from the same glass as Pyrex, they are heat resistant and shatterproof. They are smooth and sturdy and perfect for temperature play. Glass is incredibly skin safe but be sure to check for cracks and fractures before each used!
Lube: Glass is safe with all lubes.
Cleaning: Can be washed with toy cleaner and water, or even thrown in the dishwasher, or boiled.

Plastic – most commonly made with ABS (the same material as LEGO), used for it’s cheap production value, these toys may be blended with latex. These are hard with no distinct smell or taste. Generally a skin safe material but could be blended with phthalates and latex, which are common allergens and harmful to skin.
Lubes: safe to use with all lube types
Cleaning: can be cleaned with sex toy cleaner, anti-bacterial soap and water, or through boiling.

PVC – man made plastic, can be hard or more flexible, has an intense plastic smell and more often than not contains phthalates and latex so isn’t the most body-safe option in the world.
Lubes: this material should be used with water-based lubes only, as oil and silicone can melt the material.
Cleaning: rigid PVC is non-porous and very easy to clean, flexible PVC can be porous so may be harder to clean. Store these toys away from other materials and preferably in their own casing to avoid chemical reactions and damage to toys.

TPE – the material used to create Real Feel, Cyberskin, Softskin, or Ultraskin. Frequently used for male masturbators. Realistically fleshlike, warms to the touch, incredibly flexible, due to it’s softness it isn’t a great option for vibrators as it can weaken vibrations. Can tend to have a rubbery smell and taste. TPE is non-toxic but is porous so it’s prone to bacterial growth, and can be mixed with product softeners which can be allergens.
Lubes: use water-based only with this material.
Cleaning: as this is a porous material it can be hard to clean, best to use just water and a toy cleaner.
This should be kept away from other toys in storage to be on the safe side. Any discolouration can be a sign of growing mould in the pores of the material, so throw it away. These toys should be replaced every 5 months.

Metal – usually made from medical grade stainless steel, they can occasionally be mixed with other metals (such as nickel WHICH SOME PEOPLE ARE ALLERGIC TO), so be sure to check this. These toys are rigid and smooth but perfect for temperature play, higher densities are good for weighted and pressure play.
Lubes: all lubes are safe to be used with metal! 😊
Cleaning: this is a non-porous material which makes cleaning a breeze, toy cleaner, soap, dishwasher, or boiling all work.

Wood – if made correctly these toys are beautifully smooth with a non-toxic resin coating to prevent splinters. The weight and look will depend on what kind of wood was used to create the toy. If made correctly these toys are super body safe and environmentally friendly. Some manufacturers use scrap wood which is great for conserving rainforests.
Lubes: wood is safe with all lubes, due to it’s smooth finish you only need a small amount.
Cleaning: best washed with just water to prolong life, be sure to check for any damage before and after each use.

Rubber – one of the cheapest materials, will be flexible with a very strong rubber smell and chemical taste. To ensure body safety it is strongly recommended to use a condom with rubber toys as they often contain phthalates which can be harmful to the skin. (They have produced body safe rubber recently but it is not widespread).
Lubes: best used with just water-based, however if using a condom with rubber silicone is okay to be used.
Cleaning: best washed with soap and water and stored away from other materials, just to avoid chemical reaction with other toys.

 

My personal favourite lube is the Wicked Hybrid as it’s super vagina friendly and can be used with most toy materials out there, it has the benefits of the longevity and silkiness of a silicone lube, but the easy cleanup of a water-based!

Dealing with an unusual sex drive

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Now, I know there are other women out there who, like myself, who have no idea what they want or desire sexually. Sometimes its crazy and you can’t even look at your significant other without mentally undressing them and jumping their bones as soon as the opportunity arises. But also, at other times when the opportunity presents itself, its just shrugged off like meh. But then other times you might really want it but then you also kind of don’t at the same time. Well, I’m here to tell you, you’re not alone.

To some, yes this may sound crazy, but it can be really frustrating.

I have been dealing with these kinds of issues through my entire sexually active life. It’s almost like there’s a little gremlin in your head pushing all the wrong buttons at the most inconvenient of times. And this can sometimes really ruin the mood, especially if you have made all the moves to hint that you are up for it but then all of a sudden, it’s gone and your partner is left extremely confused.

I’ve had partners in the past who I had never confided in about these feelings as they where never willing to talk or communicate about much sexual stuff. To them it was “sex is sex”. So, let me tell you, COMMUNICATION IS KEY! If they don’t know how you feel or what you want, then you’ll never be satisfied or content with the sex you have with them and it may even be the other way around, how will you know what they want if they don’t communicate it with you.

When I first met my current partner, of course like any relationship at the start, every time you’re with them you want to go at it like rabbits but that doesn’t last forever and if you’re like me, that period is even shorter again. So naturally, we grew out of that stage, but we still went at it a fair amount, it never just stopped and for some reason that amazed me, especially because I was very rarely up for sex as it was. Surely enough we moved in together, my sex drive went back to its normal wacky self, but he naturally has a high sex drive. This is where the communication started where I had never had it before. All he wanted was to please me, that’s what got him off, he wanted to know exactly what I wanted, where I wanted it and how long I wanted it for! I was absolutely blown away (no pun intended).

I’d never experienced a man, so hell bent on pleasing me. At this point I somewhat started to open to him about what I wanted but was still too shy to completely lay out what I thought was wrong with me as I though it may affect our relationship and how he saw me.

Turns out I should have told him straight up, like I said communication is key 100%. We got further into our relationship and he would occasionally ask questions like “You don’t seem like you want it, what’s wrong?” or “Are you still into me?”. When these questions started becoming more frequent and concerning, it made me realise that not only was this affecting me, but he was slowly noticing more and more that something wasn’t quite right, and it was starting to affect him too. So, we sat down and spoke about it all and I mean ALL, there was emotions, tears and feelings being released like nothing else. He comforted me and made me feel okay with who I am and these feelings I had that made me feel not normal.

The fact that I had finally spoken to him and opened up about how I felt helped not only our sex life but also helped our relationship. He now knows that if I seem a bit off chances are, I’m not up for it and he will realise that rather than going just ahead with it.

 

  • COMMUNICATION!   Always remember that this should be your first thought. Like I said earlier, how will either of you know how you feel or what you want if you don’t discuss and understand each other.
  • I found that sex toys really helped me cope with what I was dealing with. For example, if I really didn’t feel like doing anything but he was raring to go. Pull out the toy and go to town! I enjoyed and was more than happy to help him because I knew he was enjoying it and I was still helping him. At other times I wouldn’t have felt like physically doing the deed but for some reason I felt comfortable using toys. Let me tell you, men are more than happy to watch that! You can still enjoy each other’s company in a different and possibly more personal way.
  • Watching porn together.  Now I know this one may be a bit of a grey area as some couples don’t agree on watching porn at all. But if you’re open to it and they want to get down and dirty but you’re just not sure, ask them to watch porn with you beforehand. You may find you where in the mood for it you just didn’t know yet.
  • Physical foreplay. If you know what turns you on and you know what might get you in the mood, hell even if you don’t know but you want to do the deed, try some foreplay, go with the flow, and see where it goes. Tell him where to go, guide him and tell him what feels good.
  • Being relaxed. Always be sure that you are comfortable and relaxed with your significant other and environment when getting freaky. At the end of the day, its your body. They may be your partner but if you’re not comfortable, NO MEANS NO and they need to respect that and vice versa.

Kaylah and Oh Zone Adult Store consultant.

5 Ways To Tease Your Partner In Bed

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The best way to add a little spiciness to your sex life and increase sexual tension is to be playful with your partner. To be playful, you need to take the initiative and use the power of seduction by teasing them in various ways. Teasing is all about amping up the atmosphere so that you become an unattainable object of desire what’s end up in passion between you and your partner.

 

Teasing is a way of foreplay that builds a closer relationship and intimate bonding. Those consequently lead to a happier sex life. Does it sound like the kind of relationship that you and your partner want to have? If you want to use teasing as your secret weapon, get inspired on how to start!

 

1.  Foreplay Starts Outside of the Bedroom

 

One way to spice things up is to show your partner that you are in a flirty mood before you end up in the bedroom. You can try sexting and teasing your partner through the messages, so when they stand at the door, the only thing they’d want to do would be to pounce on you.

 

You can start flirting even during a casual kitchen conversation. Showing interest by the sheer body language or mimics can be an incredible turn-on for both of you. You can do foreplay in a slightly roundabout way, like a true flirting professional. Using euphemisms, innuendos, and suggestive remarks can add even more chemistry between you!

 

2.  Use Sex Toys

 

You can find plenty of types of sex toys that can not only enrich your sex life but can also be a great way to initiate foreplay. You can find a wide variety of toys on the internet, starting with realistic sex dolls and ending with handcuffs, flavored lubes, or remote-controlled vibratorsthat plenty of couples claim to use regularly in bed.

 

Vibrators are a great way to try something new in your sex life. They can be used during oral sex or intercourse, but you can also play with them on your own to tease your partner and set the right atmosphere.

 

3.  Talk About It

 

Communication is the key to success, and if you want to have a happy sex life, you should be able to openly talk about physical intimacy with your partner. Discussing boundaries is crucial in a healthy relationship and directing the other person towards the kind of stimulation that you like the most. It should never be embarrassing for you to talk about sex candidly, as it gives you nothing beyond greater satisfaction and a stronger bond.

 

However, you can also use the power of words when you’re flirting and want to seduce your partner. Have you ever had a wild dream about your partner? Or maybe you fantasize about things your partner would do to you? Tell them about it! A happy sex life should be free of judgment and be all about common understanding.

 

4.  Use Eye Contact

 

Eyes are one of the most seductive parts of your body. Sometimes one long glance deep in the eyes can do more than simply stripping in front of the other person. You can do that unexpectedly, smile in a flirty way, and be sure that the tension between the two of you would rise.

 

5.  Discover The Sensitive Body Parts

 

We all have points on our bodies that are much more sensitive to touch than the others. You can discover those places on your partner’s body map, which can be an intimate experience from which the both of you can benefit. After all, it’s going to turn you on even more while seeing their reactions and shivers all over the body.

 

For most people, the sensitive body parts are the back of the neck and spine. Be delicate, and touch your partner there with slow moves. Touch their wrist and head, and see which parts evoke the strongest reactions. All of the places where the nerves are allocated can give them better sensations. You might not even know where your own sensitive body parts are, so it’s a great way to understand your body better and have even better sexual experiences.

 

Conclusions

 

One of the secrets to a long-lasting happy relationship is keeping it active and fun. Teasing is one of the best ways to do so. It builds an attraction between two people, increases mutual desire, and makes your relationship more spontaneous. Moreover, it’s much more than just luring your partner into the bedroom – it’s about the emotions and tensions between a couple, even in a long-term relationship.

 

Remember that those tips are only an inspiration, and each person has their own turn-ons. Not everybody is a fan of sex toys, so don’t feel rejected if your partner doesn’t find it playful. Use your imagination, as you know best what your partner appreciates the most in you and what made them fall in love with you.

Exploring Anal Vibrators & Their Popularity

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Designed solely for anal stimulation, anal vibrators are much smaller and slimmer than their vaginal counterparts. You can recognize one by their overall shape and size, as they measure about four to six inches in length and about one inch in diameter.  Many come with a flared base and may feature ribbing, beading, or curved designs to enhance pleasure.  Many of the latest models include stimulation modes for rotation, vibration, and pulsation. The speed of each mode can be adjusted, so you can start off slow and then ramp it up to match what your body needs.

 

Which Type Do I Need?

 

As a beginner, we recommend that you try exploring your anal area with your fingers first. This will give you some time to get used to the intense sensations that this kind of stimulation creates.  Once you’ve done this, it’s time to move on to vibrating anal probes, which is the first type available.

 

  1. Vibrating Anal Probes: these are a fantastic option for beginners due to their size. Similar to the length of a finger, these are smaller than butt plugs or vibrating beads, but still offer the vibrating features that please. Their narrow build is easier to maneuver, allowing beginners to slide the anal vibrator effortlessly.

 

  1. Vibrating Butt Plugs: while anal probes are a ton of fun solo or with a partner, they require quite a bit of attention and manual use. If you’re looking for a toy that can be left inside to vibrate, while you divert your attention onto other acts of pleasure, a vibrating butt plug is the perfect fit. These are to be left inside to vibrate, while you fulfill your other fantasies. Perfect for roleplay or for individuals who enjoy multiple points of sensation. These are often made out of silicone, TPR or glass and can come with fun designs.

 

  1. Vibrating Beads/Balls: this type of anal vibrator will look like it has a string of balls or beads fastened along its length. They come with a retrievable cord or hoop that allows one to insert and pull as desired. These come with various vibration modes, speeds, and sizes. However, it is only recommended that you purchase larger beaded/balled anal vibrators once you’ve become a master at other anal sex toys, as these can be a little more difficult to use.

 

 

 

How Anal Play Has Become Popular & What Are Its Benefits?

 

In the past few decades, the laws and religious perspectives surrounding gender, sexuality, and anal sex have changed drastically. So much so, that the acceptance of this type of sexual pleasure is becoming more normalized for women and for men. Actually, most guys don’t realize that getting a prostate massage during sex can give them the most intense kind of orgasms. As a result, the stigma and taboo-nature of anal sex is fading away as more men, women, and non-binary individuals choose to seek out new ways of exploring their sexuality and desires.

 

The Benefits of Anal Vibrators

 

  1. The pleasure you experience from anal play is unlike any you’ve had before. Yes, traditional orgasms can be mind-blowing, but anal orgasms can leave you feeling on top of the world. This is because your backdoor is filled with hundreds of sensitive nerve endings that feel fantastic when stimulated.

 

  1. They are extremely safe for all kinds of anal play. No matter what your sexual orientation, gender, or kinks are, anal vibrators can fit in no matter what you desire.  They are versatile and can be worn during vaginal penetration, worn out in public, worn during submissive play, and used to massage the prostate gland in men for earth-shattering male orgasms.

 

  1. They can be used to stretch you out. Looking to prime yourself for bigger things and more adventurous experiences? Anal vibrators can be used as a way to work yourself up to take on your partner or bigger toys.

 

  1. Anal vibrators can indirectly stimulate the G-spot. If you find that direct stimulation on your G-spot is a bit too much, anal vibrators can combine the pleasurable sensations of anal play with a less intesense stimulation of the G-spot, all at once. Plus, if you’re using a butt plug, male partners will be able to feel the subtle pressure the plug puts against the penis during vaginal penetration – adding a whole new element of fun.

 

  1. They let individuals explore various fantasies and kinks without the fear of pregnancy.

 

If you’re planning on jumping into the wonderful world of anal vibrators, make sure to grab yourself plenty of lube to protect yourself from injury and to make it a pleasurable experience. Also remember to always build up slowly, use the tip of the vibrator at first, and always clean the vibrator correctly after use!

The 6 Types of Customers in an Adult Store

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Working at Oh Zone adult stores for a few months now I feel like I’ve met every kind of customer possible, all the different reactions you could get to the kind of products we sell. So I thought why not compile a little list of the 6 different categories I’ve discovered so far, you can read along and check yourself, your friends, or your partner(s) off as you go, I know which I am!

 

Young Kids in for a Laugh

We get it, sex it funny when you’re young, when the craziest thing you’ve done is finger Jess in a park, sex toys seem out of this world hilarious. But honestly this is the easiest way to have your local adult store worker roll their eyes when they see you next time. A little giggle here and there is fine, but we need to be cautious and remember that other people do shop here and while you guys may think it’s this weird thing, another person may be into it and your laughs genuinely could be hurtful. Sex shops are fun but remember we’re in adult stores because we’re adults everybody.

Shy Couples

Honestly I love shy couples, you can try to chat and help as much as you like, but they get nervous or embarrassed and it’s quite sweet to watch. The things you’re looking at buying in these stores are very intimate and not everyone is comfortable enough to have that conversation with a stranger. I usually try to joke around in this case to break the ice but if that fails I leave them to it, either they’ll figure it out themselves or finally break and ask a few questions and either is fine by me. My favourite thing is the breakthrough moment, you won’t always get it but if you tread carefully but bond with them JUST enough they’ll open up and have these amazing conversations with you… And I just love that moment, it’s special.

The Open Partner With a Shy Partner

Probably the funniest combo I’ll ever see (THIS GOES FOR FRIENDS TOO). When one person is too shy to say a word, while going red as a tomato and the other just goes straight into it without a second thought. You can always tell the shy one would rather be anywhere else but here, but the outgoing one will tell you the ins and outs of what they like, what they don’t like, what they’re looking for, what they’ve already tried, all while the shy one stands there absolutely mortified! It’s almost as if they’ll go into far more detail than necessary just to really get under the shy one’s skin. It’s a fun dynamic and a really common to be honest. (Two out going partners/friends are HILARIOUS most of the time and very down for a joke, but there’s something about the comical amount of embarrassment that make this pairing one of my favourites.)

The Vanillas

My sweet cherubs, I really do love them, bless their cotton socks. It’s amazing to watch their eyes widen each turn they make into the store, each new product a total mystery to them. They’re sweet because they’ll usually ask the most questions out of everyone because most things in the store are a whole new world to them, no idea that there were so many kinds of sex toys with so many functions that go SO MANY PLACES.

This is where we usually take a lap and give a brief tour while getting to know the customers, “what do you like”, “what would you like to try”, “what did we come in here looking for” all the things that will help us crack down on the best options for the newbies.

The “Not Here To Mess Around”

These people come barrelling through the door, they have a list, they know names, styles, colours, everything you could think of. There’s no time to chat, no time for questions they came here for their particular thing/s and they need it now! These guys are the easiest people to deal with… Mostly because they’re in and then bam they’re gone, you’ve barely got time to put all their items through before they’re leaving again. They know what they’re after and I respect them for that/

The Regulars

My all time favourites, my regulars! These are the people I see once a week, once every two weeks, maybe more! I know the ins and outs of they’re sex lives, we keep updated on each others lives, they bring in their other friends, partners, aunts etc, we’re basically friends at this point… Friends that only catch up in the local sex shop haha.

Being regulars you can usually ask “how was the xyz” you bought last time, “how’s the fight going that you had with your boyfriend/girlfriend”, “how was the toy you got as a surprise for your anniversary?” and it’s fun getting the little updates and reviews, especially when they’re good because it’s just nice to know that you’re helping them to some degree!