Tips for a Pleasurable Quickie

Quickie Sex

Sometimes you want to do it so badly, but your tight schedules don’t permit it. Most times, you wouldn’t take no for an answer until you’ve gone under the sheets with your partner. Sex has evolved beyond the regular ‘bedroom’ thing. It is now an activity that is done anywhere, anytime, and anyhow. Sex creates that connection between you and your partner regardless of the time spent. Even if you are rushing out to work, a few seconds of intense pleasure can be achieved. How does this happen? Quickies, of course. 

Because of quickies’ nature, partners may ditch penetration and settle for fingering and oral sex, but it’s all for the same goal – pleasure, that is. Whatever form a quickie takes, you can make the best out of it as you’ll do in traditional sex. What do you want out of sex? Can you achieve it in a few minutes? Yes, you can. This article shares quick tips to help you achieve a pleasurable quickie. 

Here are tips to help you have a satisfying quickie:

Consider an appropriate location.

Where is the most appropriate location to have a quickie? Well, you can do it anywhere except for the bedroom. The whole idea of quickies means that both partners are in a hurry yet want to explore simultaneously. Your location ensures that you mix things up and add freaky moves to your pleasure. Well, a sex couch allows you to try as many sex styles as possible, even more than you think. Sex on a couch increases intense passion such that your partner deletes the thoughts of moving to the bedroom. Most of the sex couches available online are designed so that partners can explore as many positions as they want. 

Wear the right clothes

In planned sex, your partner takes their time to undress you because that’s where the intimacy starts. For quickies, things are different. Your partner doesn’t want to spend the whole day undressing you. Even if they love to see you wear those colorful panties they bought for you, it may not be necessary during a quickie. Why not wear a mini skirt without panties? Or wear a loose one? A g string is perfect too. Your dress ensures easy passage just in case there’s an urgent need to thrust in and out. Leave out the tight jeans – this isn’t sexy at all. Trust me, by the time your partner forcefully gets out the skinny jeans from your body; they’re already tired. It would be best if you didn’t risk that. 

Lube up

Since there’s no foreplay, the chances are that you may not get wet within a few seconds. If you want to go down pretty fast, you shouldn’t forget a lubricant. Most people have time to masturbate before a quickie, and that’s fine. If you didn’t plan for one and your partner asks for it, quickly get a lube to reduce friction and the pressure down there. And hey, you should have a pack of lube in your bag most of the time (if not all the time) because you may never know when you’ll be called upon. 

Know the best positions

There are some sex positions specially reserved for quickies. With these positions, two minutes feels like forever. However, don’t feel too pressured to try out all the styles at the same time. Simply do what works for you at the moment and wait for another opportunity to unleash your skills. If you haven’t thought of an appropriate position, consider the following styles: the hot seat, fast doggy, heir to the throne, face race, the elevator, sneak-a-peak, etc. And yes, you can decide to keep it 100% oral. 

 

While romance is an excellent choice, you shouldn’t beat back the idea of having a quickie occasionally. To improve your sex life, don’t fold your arms and wait for full-blown sex when you can have it in bits. What would an ideal quickie set up be for you? What’s the weirdest thing you’ve done during quick sex? Would you mind sharing with a friend?

6 Couples Sex Toys Which Will Transform Your Love Life

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So the time has come where you have decided to step things up in the bedroom, whether it is to heighten your own personal pleasures or you and your partner want to explore your sexual connection through trying out some new things. Many couples find themselves at a point where the idea of introducing sex toys and accessories is somewhat intimidating however; we have put a sensual list of sex toys together to help you feel more comfortable and get excited for the surge of intriguing pleasures that come with adding a little spice into your love life.

Evolving in the bedroom is an exciting commitment which can boost your own understanding of how you would like to receive or experience pleasure as well as opening up an adventurous side to your relationship. So let’s get saucy with this list of six couples toys which will transform your love life and bedroom into a boudoir of heightened arousal and sensual connection.

1: GOOD VIBRATIONS

 

The stimulating sensation of a vibrator and introducing it into the bedroom can certainly spice up your sexual experiences; whether you are focusing on yourself or bringing it into your relationship. It is recommended to start small when introducing sex toys into your boudoir therefore opting for a sleek and sensual bullet vibrator or perhaps even a vibrating cock ring for your male partner; you are bound to experience heightened external and even internal climaxes. The vibrator is designed to stimulate the clitoris and with so many various types on the market, from the design to the materials they are made from; it is best to do some research and see what you and your partner feel comfortable with and what types of vibrators will intrigue you both the most. Remember, this is all in the name of experimenting and exploring one another so there is no need to shy away from what could potentially bring you both closer in pleasure.

2: ALL ABOUT THE DOWN UNDER

 

For those who enjoy oral sex but tend to have limited experiences in the bedroom due to a partner not being quite comfortable with the idea or perhaps not entirely experienced enough to pleasure you down under; then looking into the oral sex stimulators and simulators is an exciting new avenue to embark on in the bedroom. With almost any sex toy imaginable on the market, it is no wonder that now you can find a toy that helps simulate the experience of oral sex whilst keeping within the boundaries of your partner. Although the real deal will always be the best deal, especially as it is all about connecting and exploring your partner and their sexual desires, there is no harm in finding alternatives that work for you both. Oral sex is always better with a partner but at least going down under can be a pleasurable solo experience too.

3: WET ‘N WILD

 

So you and your partner have booked a weekend getaway and of course, you booked the lodge with a private hot tub. There is something so sensual about getting sexy in water, whether in a swimming pool or Jacuzzi but if you have already been there you will know that sometimes the water can actually limit the experience and how it feels. Adding silicone into saucy mix will not only keep you wet where it counts most but it will certainly keep you and your partner going for longer. As silicone lube is hypoallergenic, using it will provide a silky smooth application, perfectly suited for those who tend to be a bit more sensitive at the naughty bits.

4: A SEXUAL BOND(AGE)

 

So you might have heard the term bondage or perhaps BDSM, which for beginners, can be somewhat intimidating. This is why we recommend starting out with a light tough and a little restrain. Grab yourself and your partner a funky or sexy leather pair of hand cuffs and experiment with tying one another up. Most handcuffs are adjustable, so you can pick and choose how tight you may want it or feel comfortable with. This is a great way to push one another boundaries, tease and tantalize your way to a climax whilst strengthening your bond, so to speak.

5: GETTING UP, CLOSE AND COMFY

 

Up until this point, some of you might have already tried out one of the sex toys we have recommended or perhaps you are not quite there in the relationship to introduce vibrators and cock rings. Why not try out a little interior decorating with a twist in the bedroom by bringing in a sexy chair or couch. If you are not quite sure how to go about choosing the right chair or perhaps you are interested in finding out a bit more of the various types and how they can be used to spice up your love life, then see these reviews for some of the top rated chairs and couches. You can use them to encourage different sex positions, experience other forms of climaxes as you maneuver your body around and on some sensual furniture.

6: FUN FROM BEHIND

For the couples who have reached ultimate comfort levels with one another or who are keen to push their boundaries to the backdoor; getting up close and personal with anal sex is a great way to take your love life and sexual relationship to the next level. There are a variety of anal sex toys available for personal desire or for couples who want to add a bit of vibrating thrill to their anal pleasures. From beginner or entry level prostate massaging vibrators to the more advanced anal plugs or beads. Find out what works for your comfort level and of course, what feels good because at the end of the day; exploring can only lead to new discoveries.

 

Some of the above mentioned sex toys can seem a bit out of your comfort zone or perhaps you are intrigued but you are not sure how to get your partner on board. Why not start with a little research, just like reading this article, and get yourself excited first. See what tickles your fancy, consider what yours and your partners’ comfort levels are and engage in an open discussion about how you both are ready to take your love life and transform it into the fantasy you’ve both desired.

Experts Tips In Breaking The Fear Bubble In Trying Anal Sex For The First Time

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Whenever sex topics are talked about, almost everyone is willing to share their first time in bed. However, take in mind that most people often refer to vagina and penis penetration. For some, anal play or anal sex is still taboo, and only a few individuals are open with their anal play engagement.

 

But did you know that heterosexual anal intercourse is not an uncommon sexual activity? Women and men with ages ranging from 25-44 had experienced anal intercourse. In numbers, 35% of women and 44% of men engage with the said activity.

 

Yet, even with the numbers are increasing over recent years, some are still afraid of trying anal play for the first time. A lot of speculation and fears lead them to overthink how the entire experience will go. If you’re reading this, you might be interested in anal sex. Read on and let the experts clear your thoughts about anal sex. Maybe, after reading the article, you might find yourself relieved and excited to try it out with your partner.

Anal Sex Is For All

Contrary to what you hear or think, anal sex is definitely for everyone. Whatever gender orientation you have, you can enjoy anal sex with your partner. And one good thing with anal play is everyone has anuses, so you can either receive or get one, depending on your heart’s content.

 

You might be wondering how a woman can treat her partner (women to women or women to men scenario) during an anal play. You might be thinking that it’s kind of impossible before. However, these days, it’s easier than ever.

 

Thanks to many types of sex toys, it can now be done. Popularly referred to as pegging,  women can now treat their partners, either men or women, with an anal play through this sexual activity. Women can wear a strap-on dildo and penetrate the anus of their partners.

 

What’s even better is that the entire anal play can be improvised to add intensity to the experience using other sex toys. Moreover, couples can also share stimulation by using a strapless dildo. With this, the female partner can have her clit stimulated while pouncing her partner through their anus.

 

But all of these strange yet sexy sexual repertoire might come off a bit awkward for beginners, and we would like to break that awkwardness. Now, let’s read on what sex and relationship experts have to say about how a couple or an individual can break through the fear of anal sex.

Read What Experts About To Say…

According to sex educator and CannaSexual founder, Ashley Manta, our anus, made up of the sphincter and the rectum, are teeming with nerve-endings that, when stretched and filled in, give off a fantastic feeling. Feeling ecstatic yet? Hold on for a while. As per Luna Matatas, a sex and pleasure educator, you can’t directly dive into the whole anal play right away. Foreplay is a must.

 

That’s why treating your partner with a pleasure oral sex stimulator and other sex toys can be a great way to heat things up. It’s best to go slow and steady first. However, if you and your partner are already utilizing sex toys during intercourse, it can be a good start to introduce sex toys designed for anal play.

 

Certified sex therapist and a licensed psychologist, Rachel Needle, Psy.D  advise couples to always communicate with their partner. If your partner is having fears and doubt with anal sex, try to take things slowly. If you’re on the side of the relationship who does have more experience, discuss this new sexual activity and make sure both of you are on the same page.

 

Use lubricant as more lubrication means better and enjoyable anal sex. Remember that unlike the vagina, the anus doesn’t produce its lubrication. That’s why many women are naturally scared of what’s getting in there. You can also use water or silicone-based condoms.

 

Don’t hesitate to use anal sex toys. It’s highly suggested, and you don’t necessarily need to insert it to your anus right away. A little vibration can add a lot of new stimulation in the area. It can help you get acquainted with the new and strange sensation, as per sexologist Jill McDevitt.

 

Like masturbation, you can also introduce anal play on your own. This is best advised for individuals interested in trying new things on their own before trying it with someone else. It gives an individual a sense of freedom-, the liberty to experiment with new things on your body.  According to Alicia Sinclair, a sex expert and the woman behind b-Vibe,  that’s not a bad thing to do. It’s only natural that you want to explore the intricacies of your body by yourself.

 

Learn your most comfortable position. Whatever you read on any sex magazines or hear advice from friends, you always need to learn what position you and your partner are most comfortable with. If you are on the receiving end, it’s easiest to be on your back or stomach. Take it from Dr. Zhana Vrangalova, an NYU professor of human sexuality and also a LELO sexpert. However, comfort differs from one person to another, so take the time to figure out your most preferred position.

 

And to give you peace of mind, anal sex won’t stretch you out. If this factor scares you, don’t be. As per assistant clinical professor, Alyssa Dweck, MD at Mount Sinai School of Medicine, your anus will bounce back to normal after it accommodates a penis or sex toy entry. Thus, don’t worry about incontinence and enjoy the experience.

Takeaway

Anal sex or anal play has become a trendy sexual repertoire, so it’s not surprising that individuals and couples engaging with the activity are increasing. However, there are still individuals who are afraid of doing it. However, proper research, preparation, and communication with your partner can lead to enjoyable anal sex. These experts’ advice and tips can significantly help anyone interested in exploring their behind and enjoy the experience.

 

Author’s bio:

Belinda is a 42-year-old married mother of three who lives in Naples, Florida. While staying at home to raise her children, she began to write articles and blogs for various outlets. She was raised in a strict, Christian home, but has since found more peace with a more spiritual approach to life and health. A strong believer in natural and alternative medicine, energy healing, and total wellness, she stumbled on the health benefits of the female orgasm quite by accident. Since then, she has often written pieces that help inform others about the benefits she discovered. Belinda also enjoys taking care of her home and family, and often jokes that she is a bit of a Stepford wife… with a wild side. In her free time, she loves to spend time at the beach with her family, host parties and BBQ’s, and work outside in one of her many flower gardens.

101 Menstrual Sex For Men!

Menstruation 101

From puberty until menopause, the menstrual cycle is a fact of life for every woman. However, the monthly visit from Aunt Flo needn’t put a dampener on your sex life. In a nutshell, all aspects of a fantastic sexual encounter can be enjoyed all month long.

 

Education

Men typically don’t really understand menstruation, and while their high school sexual education probably had a lot to do with that, there’s also a huge stigma surrounding the menstrual cycle. However this is slowly changing, as the male dominated world begins to listen to others (we’re looking at you Scotland, ready to offer free tampons and pads to women of all ages, we salute you!)

Talk to your partner about having sex while on your period. Let them know that you don’t think it needs to interrupt your sex life, and that while bleeding once a month may seem completely odd to a man, it is in fact a natural, and essential, part of life. Demystify it for them. In saying that, if either one of you are uneasy with sexual encounters during that time, the usual rules of consent apply, and no pressure should be applied.

 

Preparation

As with any sexual activity, menstrual sex should be clean and hygienic. Take a shower first, both of you, and really, you could even start things off together in the shower. If showering together, maybe give her a minute or so before or after you join to look after her intimates.

Lay a towel down on your bed. It’s far easier to clean than having to change the sheets. Strongly suggest against white towels here.

 

Intimacy

Above any of the below options the easiest, and possibly nicest, is simply to be intimate together. Kisses, cuddling, hand grips of wanton lust, even dry humping through clothes, are all amazing choices to kick things off with, or even be the all and everything. Sex doesn’t necessitate penetration, nor should it be the end all and be all of sexual activity.

 

Handiwork

Hands can touch, tickle and stroke every inch of a body. Gentle strokes along a back, a heavy hand gripping hips, not to forget breasts and their wondrous punctuation, nipples. And of course, the clitoris. Educate yourself by checking out the biology of a woman’s sexual organs, and you’ll find that the clitoris (the external part) is miles from her vaginal opening. Keep your focus here, she’ll probably prefer it anyway.

 

Oral Sex

Cunnilingus is always on the table. Even at ‘that time of the month’. As mentioned above, the clitoris is a perfectly safe distance from any possible flow. You could even relish her labia majora, her outer lips, or should you both feel comfortable enough, even her inner lips, the labia minora.

Listen to her directions, if you can hear through her thighs pressed against your ears. Devour her, savour her, let her know you’re man enough to handle a little potential blood. Worship all that a woman is and let her know how amazing and gorgeous she is to you, with nothing but your tongue.

 

Penetrative Sex

A period most definitely doesn’t mean that penetrative sex is off the table. It just takes a little preparation. Both of you shower beforehand, lay down a towel, and enjoy the extra lubrication nature has provided this week.

If the bleeding really is a concern for either of you, there are heaps of ways around this. The most common one is to keep sex within the constrains of a shower. Shower sex is great as the clean up is far easier, regardless of the time of month, and that rushing water is such an aphrodesiac.

However if having sex in the shower, make sure you use silicone based lube, as it’s far more resistant to washing away. Look to fantastic brands like Super Slyde or Pjur Original.  Somehow, despite all that water, shower sex can really dry a vagina out, so lube is always a great idea.

To avoid being one of the nearly quarter million Americans admitted to emergency every year from falling in the shower, maybe invest in some Sex In The Shower suction cup handles and footrests. Nothing will kill the mood quicker than a concussion. Trust me.

If you much prefer to lay down in your bed for sex, as mentioned above, a non white towel will be your best friend. On top of this, you could look at wearing a sponge. Working women live by them so they can work all month long, and given the texture of a sponge, most people would never suspect that one is being worn.

Condoms should always be used to prevent the spread of STIs, especially since a menstruating woman is more susceptible to STIs, but if the man is wearing one simply to not get blood on his penis, it offers no protection from the blood that absolutely will gather on his scrotum.

It should also be noted that period sex should not be used as contraception. Sperm can live for up to five days inside of the uterus, and should you have light periods or have intercourse towards the end of your cycle, it is still possible to fall pregnant.

 

Solo Play

As mentioned above, the clitoris and labia are all fair game during menstruation. Using an insertable sex toy also follows along previous guides. If looking for self love in the shower, look no further than a completely waterproof and submersible toy like the Fun Factory Stronic G. Although if you’re going to use a good quality silicone lube, look towards a 100% silicone toy by Evolved or Adam & Eve, as their toys are silicone lube friendly.

In the bedroom, you can always roll a condom over your favourite insertable toy to ease cleaning. Although using an antibacterial toy cleaner will do the trick just as well, something you should be using before and after every toy use regardless of the timing.

 

Menstruation need not be the killer of a sex life. Be safe, be hygenic, and with a little preparation, you can enjoy a healthy sex life all month long.

7 Cunnilingus Secrets To Make A Woman Cum!

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Polishing the floorboards, munching carpet, eating out, – whatever you want to call it, cunnilingus is a key aspect of lesbian sex… to be fair, any sex involving a vagina!  Cunnilingus can be defined as oral stimulation of the vulva or clitoris. Easy peasy. Or not…It is a well known fact that turning on a female as opposed to turning on a male can be a much tougher task, generally speaking that is. Cunnilingus can be a daunting task for some or a turn on for others but definitely a crucial aspect of achieving orgasm with most women. Good Cunnilingus is an essential tool for anybody to have in their… box. We all know that no vagina is the same but do not fear! I have a few basic tips to help you get well on your way to being a cryptologic Cunnilinguist. (I totally just made up that word and am so proud).

Look before you eat

You totally wouldn’t attempt to eat your dinner without at least glancing at your plate before putting food on your fork, or glancing at your fork before placing it in your mouth… nor would you attempt to piece together a puzzle in the dark – so why go down on your lady before you get a decent look? Sure, in scenarios where it may be a one time thing, or at the beginning of the relationship getting a decent look may be awkward, but you can get around this by making the situation LESS awkward. Brownie points for telling her that her pink canoe looks pretty! So how are you supposed to do your thing and do it well if you can’t even see first where everything is situated.

Converse

How does she like it? Where does she like it? Does she like direct clitoral stimulation? Dual stimulation? All I know is, the more you know, the better you’re going to provide! Discuss what feels good and don’t be ashamed or afraid to say what doesn’t! Communication is key when it comes to consent and pleasure.

Listen to the cues

It’s not just the act but also being present and completely in tune with your partners responses and cues. As previously mentioned, listen if your partner gives you direction, and when to never, ever stop.

Use your hands

Just because it’s called oral sex, doesn’t mean you can’t use your hands! Some women need dual stimulation to orgasm, some like the teasing aspect, some women need G Spot stimulation…. again, COMMUNICATE!

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Communite non-verbally

Ask her to hold your hand or head and tap, squeeze, or loosen the pressure when you like something, don’t like something or what more of it. You can develop your own types of non verbal communication, to make Cunnilingus that much easier.

Remember

Sometimes you have performed Cunnilingus that many times it should come naturally. It is most important to remember, what she likes. When you have time, write down the moves that have worked best. Before you have Cunnilingus you can read the list and build open your skill set.

Don’t be ashamed to bring tools!

Sex furniture or items such as the ‘Wedge’ by Liberator, are described as a serving platter for your meal… It literally is just that. It props up your butt so you can have easier access and maneuver other wonderful toys whilst you go to town  (I won’t go into detail as this is going to occur in a review to come from Amy). Bring along a versatile vibrator, like the Lelo Mona 2. Mona can produce amazing G Spot orgasms in one hand while your tongue focuses on the clitoris. Combined with the wedge, you’ll be able to have much more freedom. Buy some flavoured lube! Flavoured lube is both fun and one of the best inventions of all time. Like coffee flavours? Try Wicked’s Mocha Java lubricant. Like sour? Try ID’s sour watermelon lubricant. Like sweet? Try Wet Stuffs caramel flavoured lubricant. There is literally a flavour for everyone. So pick away and enthusiastically eat (lick, please) your partner.

A willing giver, paired with a few of the tips previously mentioned, will be sure to graduate as high achieving cryptologic cunnilinguist. Be sure to also check out the complete guide on deep throating.

Author: Chloe is a consultant from Oh Zone Adult Lifestyle Centres