Experts Tips In Breaking The Fear Bubble In Trying Anal Sex For The First Time

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Whenever sex topics are talked about, almost everyone is willing to share their first time in bed. However, take in mind that most people often refer to vagina and penis penetration. For some, anal play or anal sex is still taboo, and only a few individuals are open with their anal play engagement.

 

But did you know that heterosexual anal intercourse is not an uncommon sexual activity? Women and men with ages ranging from 25-44 had experienced anal intercourse. In numbers, 35% of women and 44% of men engage with the said activity.

 

Yet, even with the numbers are increasing over recent years, some are still afraid of trying anal play for the first time. A lot of speculation and fears lead them to overthink how the entire experience will go. If you’re reading this, you might be interested in anal sex. Read on and let the experts clear your thoughts about anal sex. Maybe, after reading the article, you might find yourself relieved and excited to try it out with your partner.

Anal Sex Is For All

Contrary to what you hear or think, anal sex is definitely for everyone. Whatever gender orientation you have, you can enjoy anal sex with your partner. And one good thing with anal play is everyone has anuses, so you can either receive or get one, depending on your heart’s content.

 

You might be wondering how a woman can treat her partner (women to women or women to men scenario) during an anal play. You might be thinking that it’s kind of impossible before. However, these days, it’s easier than ever.

 

Thanks to many types of sex toys, it can now be done. Popularly referred to as pegging,  women can now treat their partners, either men or women, with an anal play through this sexual activity. Women can wear a strap-on dildo and penetrate the anus of their partners.

 

What’s even better is that the entire anal play can be improvised to add intensity to the experience using other sex toys. Moreover, couples can also share stimulation by using a strapless dildo. With this, the female partner can have her clit stimulated while pouncing her partner through their anus.

 

But all of these strange yet sexy sexual repertoire might come off a bit awkward for beginners, and we would like to break that awkwardness. Now, let’s read on what sex and relationship experts have to say about how a couple or an individual can break through the fear of anal sex.

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According to sex educator and CannaSexual founder, Ashley Manta, our anus, made up of the sphincter and the rectum, are teeming with nerve-endings that, when stretched and filled in, give off a fantastic feeling. Feeling ecstatic yet? Hold on for a while. As per Luna Matatas, a sex and pleasure educator, you can’t directly dive into the whole anal play right away. Foreplay is a must.

 

That’s why treating your partner with a pleasure oral sex stimulator and other sex toys can be a great way to heat things up. It’s best to go slow and steady first. However, if you and your partner are already utilizing sex toys during intercourse, it can be a good start to introduce sex toys designed for anal play.

 

Certified sex therapist and a licensed psychologist, Rachel Needle, Psy.D  advise couples to always communicate with their partner. If your partner is having fears and doubt with anal sex, try to take things slowly. If you’re on the side of the relationship who does have more experience, discuss this new sexual activity and make sure both of you are on the same page.

 

Use lubricant as more lubrication means better and enjoyable anal sex. Remember that unlike the vagina, the anus doesn’t produce its lubrication. That’s why many women are naturally scared of what’s getting in there. You can also use water or silicone-based condoms.

 

Don’t hesitate to use anal sex toys. It’s highly suggested, and you don’t necessarily need to insert it to your anus right away. A little vibration can add a lot of new stimulation in the area. It can help you get acquainted with the new and strange sensation, as per sexologist Jill McDevitt.

 

Like masturbation, you can also introduce anal play on your own. This is best advised for individuals interested in trying new things on their own before trying it with someone else. It gives an individual a sense of freedom-, the liberty to experiment with new things on your body.  According to Alicia Sinclair, a sex expert and the woman behind b-Vibe,  that’s not a bad thing to do. It’s only natural that you want to explore the intricacies of your body by yourself.

 

Learn your most comfortable position. Whatever you read on any sex magazines or hear advice from friends, you always need to learn what position you and your partner are most comfortable with. If you are on the receiving end, it’s easiest to be on your back or stomach. Take it from Dr. Zhana Vrangalova, an NYU professor of human sexuality and also a LELO sexpert. However, comfort differs from one person to another, so take the time to figure out your most preferred position.

 

And to give you peace of mind, anal sex won’t stretch you out. If this factor scares you, don’t be. As per assistant clinical professor, Alyssa Dweck, MD at Mount Sinai School of Medicine, your anus will bounce back to normal after it accommodates a penis or sex toy entry. Thus, don’t worry about incontinence and enjoy the experience.

Takeaway

Anal sex or anal play has become a trendy sexual repertoire, so it’s not surprising that individuals and couples engaging with the activity are increasing. However, there are still individuals who are afraid of doing it. However, proper research, preparation, and communication with your partner can lead to enjoyable anal sex. These experts’ advice and tips can significantly help anyone interested in exploring their behind and enjoy the experience.

 

Author’s bio:

Belinda is a 42-year-old married mother of three who lives in Naples, Florida. While staying at home to raise her children, she began to write articles and blogs for various outlets. She was raised in a strict, Christian home, but has since found more peace with a more spiritual approach to life and health. A strong believer in natural and alternative medicine, energy healing, and total wellness, she stumbled on the health benefits of the female orgasm quite by accident. Since then, she has often written pieces that help inform others about the benefits she discovered. Belinda also enjoys taking care of her home and family, and often jokes that she is a bit of a Stepford wife… with a wild side. In her free time, she loves to spend time at the beach with her family, host parties and BBQ’s, and work outside in one of her many flower gardens.

101 Menstrual Sex For Men!

Menstruation 101

From puberty until menopause, the menstrual cycle is a fact of life for every woman. However, the monthly visit from Aunt Flo needn’t put a dampener on your sex life. In a nutshell, all aspects of a fantastic sexual encounter can be enjoyed all month long.

 

Education

Men typically don’t really understand menstruation, and while their high school sexual education probably had a lot to do with that, there’s also a huge stigma surrounding the menstrual cycle. However this is slowly changing, as the male dominated world begins to listen to others (we’re looking at you Scotland, ready to offer free tampons and pads to women of all ages, we salute you!)

Talk to your partner about having sex while on your period. Let them know that you don’t think it needs to interrupt your sex life, and that while bleeding once a month may seem completely odd to a man, it is in fact a natural, and essential, part of life. Demystify it for them. In saying that, if either one of you are uneasy with sexual encounters during that time, the usual rules of consent apply, and no pressure should be applied.

 

Preparation

As with any sexual activity, menstrual sex should be clean and hygienic. Take a shower first, both of you, and really, you could even start things off together in the shower. If showering together, maybe give her a minute or so before or after you join to look after her intimates.

Lay a towel down on your bed. It’s far easier to clean than having to change the sheets. Strongly suggest against white towels here.

 

Intimacy

Above any of the below options the easiest, and possibly nicest, is simply to be intimate together. Kisses, cuddling, hand grips of wanton lust, even dry humping through clothes, are all amazing choices to kick things off with, or even be the all and everything. Sex doesn’t necessitate penetration, nor should it be the end all and be all of sexual activity.

 

Handiwork

Hands can touch, tickle and stroke every inch of a body. Gentle strokes along a back, a heavy hand gripping hips, not to forget breasts and their wondrous punctuation, nipples. And of course, the clitoris. Educate yourself by checking out the biology of a woman’s sexual organs, and you’ll find that the clitoris (the external part) is miles from her vaginal opening. Keep your focus here, she’ll probably prefer it anyway.

 

Oral Sex

Cunnilingus is always on the table. Even at ‘that time of the month’. As mentioned above, the clitoris is a perfectly safe distance from any possible flow. You could even relish her labia majora, her outer lips, or should you both feel comfortable enough, even her inner lips, the labia minora.

Listen to her directions, if you can hear through her thighs pressed against your ears. Devour her, savour her, let her know you’re man enough to handle a little potential blood. Worship all that a woman is and let her know how amazing and gorgeous she is to you, with nothing but your tongue.

 

Penetrative Sex

A period most definitely doesn’t mean that penetrative sex is off the table. It just takes a little preparation. Both of you shower beforehand, lay down a towel, and enjoy the extra lubrication nature has provided this week.

If the bleeding really is a concern for either of you, there are heaps of ways around this. The most common one is to keep sex within the constrains of a shower. Shower sex is great as the clean up is far easier, regardless of the time of month, and that rushing water is such an aphrodesiac.

However if having sex in the shower, make sure you use silicone based lube, as it’s far more resistant to washing away. Look to fantastic brands like Super Slyde or Pjur Original.  Somehow, despite all that water, shower sex can really dry a vagina out, so lube is always a great idea.

To avoid being one of the nearly quarter million Americans admitted to emergency every year from falling in the shower, maybe invest in some Sex In The Shower suction cup handles and footrests. Nothing will kill the mood quicker than a concussion. Trust me.

If you much prefer to lay down in your bed for sex, as mentioned above, a non white towel will be your best friend. On top of this, you could look at wearing a sponge. Working women live by them so they can work all month long, and given the texture of a sponge, most people would never suspect that one is being worn.

Condoms should always be used to prevent the spread of STIs, especially since a menstruating woman is more susceptible to STIs, but if the man is wearing one simply to not get blood on his penis, it offers no protection from the blood that absolutely will gather on his scrotum.

It should also be noted that period sex should not be used as contraception. Sperm can live for up to five days inside of the uterus, and should you have light periods or have intercourse towards the end of your cycle, it is still possible to fall pregnant.

 

Solo Play

As mentioned above, the clitoris and labia are all fair game during menstruation. Using an insertable sex toy also follows along previous guides. If looking for self love in the shower, look no further than a completely waterproof and submersible toy like the Fun Factory Stronic G. Although if you’re going to use a good quality silicone lube, look towards a 100% silicone toy by Evolved or Adam & Eve, as their toys are silicone lube friendly.

In the bedroom, you can always roll a condom over your favourite insertable toy to ease cleaning. Although using an antibacterial toy cleaner will do the trick just as well, something you should be using before and after every toy use regardless of the timing.

 

Menstruation need not be the killer of a sex life. Be safe, be hygenic, and with a little preparation, you can enjoy a healthy sex life all month long.

7 Cunnilingus Secrets To Make A Woman Cum!

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Polishing the floorboards, munching carpet, eating out, – whatever you want to call it, cunnilingus is a key aspect of lesbian sex… to be fair, any sex involving a vagina!  Cunnilingus can be defined as oral stimulation of the vulva or clitoris. Easy peasy. Or not…It is a well known fact that turning on a female as opposed to turning on a male can be a much tougher task, generally speaking that is. Cunnilingus can be a daunting task for some or a turn on for others but definitely a crucial aspect of achieving orgasm with most women. Good Cunnilingus is an essential tool for anybody to have in their… box. We all know that no vagina is the same but do not fear! I have a few basic tips to help you get well on your way to being a cryptologic Cunnilinguist. (I totally just made up that word and am so proud).

Look before you eat

You totally wouldn’t attempt to eat your dinner without at least glancing at your plate before putting food on your fork, or glancing at your fork before placing it in your mouth… nor would you attempt to piece together a puzzle in the dark – so why go down on your lady before you get a decent look? Sure, in scenarios where it may be a one time thing, or at the beginning of the relationship getting a decent look may be awkward, but you can get around this by making the situation LESS awkward. Brownie points for telling her that her pink canoe looks pretty! So how are you supposed to do your thing and do it well if you can’t even see first where everything is situated.

Converse

How does she like it? Where does she like it? Does she like direct clitoral stimulation? Dual stimulation? All I know is, the more you know, the better you’re going to provide! Discuss what feels good and don’t be ashamed or afraid to say what doesn’t! Communication is key when it comes to consent and pleasure.

Listen to the cues

It’s not just the act but also being present and completely in tune with your partners responses and cues. As previously mentioned, listen if your partner gives you direction, and when to never, ever stop.

Use your hands

Just because it’s called oral sex, doesn’t mean you can’t use your hands! Some women need dual stimulation to orgasm, some like the teasing aspect, some women need G Spot stimulation…. again, COMMUNICATE!

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Communite non-verbally

Ask her to hold your hand or head and tap, squeeze, or loosen the pressure when you like something, don’t like something or what more of it. You can develop your own types of non verbal communication, to make Cunnilingus that much easier.

Remember

Sometimes you have performed Cunnilingus that many times it should come naturally. It is most important to remember, what she likes. When you have time, write down the moves that have worked best. Before you have Cunnilingus you can read the list and build open your skill set.

Don’t be ashamed to bring tools!

Sex furniture or items such as the ‘Wedge’ by Liberator, are described as a serving platter for your meal… It literally is just that. It props up your butt so you can have easier access and maneuver other wonderful toys whilst you go to town  (I won’t go into detail as this is going to occur in a review to come from Amy). Bring along a versatile vibrator, like the Lelo Mona 2. Mona can produce amazing G Spot orgasms in one hand while your tongue focuses on the clitoris. Combined with the wedge, you’ll be able to have much more freedom. Buy some flavoured lube! Flavoured lube is both fun and one of the best inventions of all time. Like coffee flavours? Try Wicked’s Mocha Java lubricant. Like sour? Try ID’s sour watermelon lubricant. Like sweet? Try Wet Stuffs caramel flavoured lubricant. There is literally a flavour for everyone. So pick away and enthusiastically eat (lick, please) your partner.

A willing giver, paired with a few of the tips previously mentioned, will be sure to graduate as high achieving cryptologic cunnilinguist. Be sure to also check out the complete guide on deep throating.

Author: Chloe is a consultant from Oh Zone Adult Lifestyle Centres

Rid Yourself From Vaginal Dryness With System Jo!

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We have recently received an assortment of JO Lubricants in the Oh Zone Adult Lifestyle Centres and I am so excited to share about these exquisite products. Finding a quality lubricant for sex  is a bit like finding the perfect lover. Everybody has different tastes and needs. Some people like to mix it up a bit and be with someone different every week (Silicone one week, flavoured the next), others find one lover who fulfills all their desires and stays with them for the rest of their lives (A quality water-based lube). A high quality personal lubricant that suits your body can make all the difference between a good sexual experience and a great one. We are all different and what I love about the JO Lubricant range is that they have a product to suit everyone depending on what your unique needs are. These lubricants are guaranteed to impress.

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JO is a company based in the United States, providing customers with quality lifestyle products. I find it reassuring that JO have a satisfaction guarantee on all their products. This means that if after buying a JO Lubricant you are not happy with the quality of the product, JO will exchange, replace or refund the item. This is just one of many reasons why I believe their lubricants are top of the range and a must try.

Silicone

The JO Silicone-based Premium Personal Lubricant is a silky lube that does not go sticky or tacky no matter how long you use it for. The silicone formula is not absorbed by the skin like water-based lubricants which is how it maintains its smooth glide. This lubricant is paraben, glycol and glycerine free and its thick consistency means only the tiniest amount is required. A bottle of this lubricant is sure to last you a very long time, with hopefully many pleasurable experiences had because of it.

 

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Photo: JO All-in-one Silicone-based Sensual Massage Glide

 

The JO All-in-one Silicone-based Sensual Massage Glide is a 3 in 1 lubricant, perfect for massage, skin conditioning and tattoo brightening. JO claim that 1 drop of this amazing product is as good as 10 drops of massage oil. I can vouch for them on this, a tiny amount goes such a long way and unlike massage oil where constant reapplication is necessary, this stuff lasts forever. This formula is body safe and a perfect all-rounder silicone lubricant.

Silicone lubricants are not compatible with silicone toys but are perfect for use with steel and glass. The JO silicone formulas are very high quality, perfect for sex, anal play, hand jobs & massage. They are 100% latex safe.

Water-based

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Photo: JO For Her Agape Water-Based Personal Lubricant

 

The JO For Her Agape Water-Based Personal Lubricant is my new favourite lube perfect for use with silicone toys. It is paraben, glycerine and glycol free making it a great choice for women, especially those sensitive to these nasties. Cheaper options on the market go sticky and tacky very easily and require you to use a whole heap. A little bit of JO Agape goes a long way making it an economical choice. I believe a high-quality water-based lubricant should be a staple in every woman’s bedroom whether for partnered or solo pleasure. I would recommend this lubricant to woman going through menopause or women who are experiencing vaginal dryness as it has a lovely moisturising quality to it.

Flavours

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Wow the JO flavoured lubricants are by far my favourite flavoured lubes available. When they first came into the Oh Zone stores, I couldn’t stop testing them because they were so delicious (You know, to make sure I knew what I was selling!). Flavoured lubricants are perfect for mixing up oral sex and are very popular with younger people new to this sexual act. Using a flavoured lubricant during oral sex adds a playfulness to the experience. I have found that some other flavoured lubricants available can become a little bit overwhelming and sickly which is a bit of a mood killer. The JO Flavoured lubricants are so tasty and don’t leave you feeling queasy after using them. The Gelato range features delectable flavours that include; Hazelnut Espresso (The greatest in my opinion), Crème Brulee, Salted Caramel, Tiramisu and Mint Chocolate. Some of the fruity flavours include Tropical Passion and Juicy Pineapple. These lubes are sweetened with sucralose-an artificial sweetener-meaning they’re body safe and don’t go sticky. JO have created a recipe booklet for alcoholic beverages, with the flavoured lubricants an ingredient in these delectable cocktails. So as well as being a body safe lubricant for sexual play, they also can be brought out on a Friday night to be added to your favourite drinks. Think a Pineapple Cream Cocktail with coconut milk, lime juice, vodka and JO Juicy Pineapple lubricant…sounds strange but I’m sure you would be excited if you knew how tasty these lubricants are!!

The JO range feature many more amazing products including toy cleaners, clitoral stimulating gels, hygiene products and supplements. Come into the Oh Zone Adult Lifestyle Centres soon or buy online at Adultsmart to find out how quickly we operate and deliver your products safely to your front door. Try these lubricants out for yourself, you won’t be disappointed!

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Complete Guide on Deep Throating

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Deep throat, it can make some people nervous and others rise to the challenge and reign victorious. Since the infamous film broke back in 1972, more and more people each year are warming their throats to the idea that they could do this themselves and even go as far to research tactics to tackle the dreaded gag reflex. For the lucky few who don’t have a gag reflex, gifted souls that you are it makes this act very easy but for those of us that gag and are more sensitive, I have compiled some tactics, tips and products that can assist and make the experience fun and pleasurable.

The pharyngeal reflex is a contraction of the throat, usually when an object is pressed or touched against the roof at the back of the throat or the end of the tongue near the tonsils. This reflex is to prevent choking and I find that many people that have hyper-sensitive reflex generally due to a conditioned response brought on by a traumatic experience previous or acute anxiety. For those on the other end of the spectrum, about 1 in 3 people are found to be lacking or not have the response reflex at all.

Historically not much has been mentioned about deep fellatio until the 70s, Deep Throat the film broke in 1972, an American pornographic film dubbed the ‘forefront of the Golden Age of Porn’. Starring Linda Lovelace and Harry Reems as the Doctor with a story line based on a woman born with an unusual birth defect giving her the ability to perform remarkable fellatio, which the Doctor solves with an unorthodox solution.

It was released at a time where the war was being waged by counterculture and sexual liberation was rising up against a belligerent establishment. This film now considered a cult porn classic, set the bar for other film production companies, directors, writers and of course the actors to up their game. Since 1972, we have seen some big names break specialising in the art of deep throat.

New age actors like Ice La Fox, Lacey Duvalle, Sasha  Grey, Belladonna, Sean Cody’s Curtis and the fiery Gianna Michaels (pictured in order below) who’ve gained notoriety and have even won awards for best oral scenes over the years.

 

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I have seen some of these actors in all their glory and have found they all use similar techniques, most will force an object (fingers or sex toys) to trigger the gag or pharyngeal reflex/spasm to relax the throat and make it easier before performing deep fellatio. This is quite extreme and not advised, but I will say that watching these performers just makes me realise why they have won countless awards throughout the years, their sexual abilities are out of this world! I remember watching Sasha Grey once in a gang bang with about ten men and she went deep one after the other, I was in absolute awe of her abilities… I was well, gobsmacked! Whether this scares you or slightly interests you, there is no denying those that achieve this and more have an outstanding ability.

There are products that we at Oh Zone Adult Lifestyle Centres do stock to assist those with difficulty in performing deep throat/ fellatio but have that desire to go deep and explore. These product are compact and discreet sprays and creams for those that want to venture deeper into extreme sexual activity and oral foreplay. Sprays will generally have an anesthetic agent to numb the area topically to make it easier to go deep, creams work as lubrication or a coating agent in delightful flavours to accommodate those who may have resistance or allergies to anesthetics or alcohol which are used in sprays.

GoodHead Deep Throat Spray by Doc Johnson

59ml/ 2 fl.oz spray bottle, containing anesthetic to ease the throat. This product is available in four flavours – Mystical Mint, Sexy Cinnamon, Sweet Strawberry and Wild Cherry.

 

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SUCK IT Deep Throat Spray by Master Series

Suck It spray contains active ingredient Benzocaine anesthetic to ease the throat for deeper pleasure. Available in cooling mint flavour, instructions indicate to wait 5 minutes for this product to take full effect.

 

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Sensuva Deeply Love You Throat Relaxer

A more natural alternative, this product doesn’t indicate any anesthetics however it does contain alcohol to assist in relaxing the throat and making it easier to go that extra mile. Available in Cinnamon Roll, Butter Rum, Chocolate Coconut, Chocolate Mint and Salted Caramel.

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Sensuva Lic-olicious Throat Coating Oral Delight Cream

A lusciously thick oral cream containing natural oils and silicone to help it all go down. These creams don’t contain anesthetic however still very effective! This cream can be used all over the body, nipples, neck and genitals. Not advised as a vaginal lubricant though but still worth every penny! Available in delicious flavours – Cotton Candy, Watermelon, Cinnabun, Blueberry Muffin, Salted Caramel and Mocha Cappuccino.

 

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Image: Sensuva Lic-olicious Throat Coating Oral Delight Cream

Practice always makes perfect when it comes to a difficult task like fellatio, especially hardcore foreplay like deep throating. Remember to always take your time, relax and enjoy, learn from the professionals and grab yourself a little something to help it go down!

 

About the author: Bree is a consultant from Oh Zone Adult Lifestyle Centres

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