Pick a Mattress to Suit Your Sex Life

You know how it goes. You meet that person. Maybe you take them out, or you pick them up at a bar. Wherever you find them, you meet them and you just know: this works. Pretty soon you both know it. You’re into them, they’re into you, one thing leads to another and…oh wait.

 

You don’t bring people home right now. Your bed…it just doesn’t work for sex. It’s too lumpy or too smelly or you sink into it and so things always get awkward. So you go to their place, or maybe you get a room. You make it work. But, still, it’d be really nice to be able to take them back to your place.

Factors to Consider

If your current mattress doesn’t work well for sex, there are a few things you should consider when figuring out what is wrong with it and what you’d like to see in bed made for those intimate moments.

 

  • The Bounce Factor. Bouncy mattresses have a rebound effect, which helps couples maintain a consistent rhythm and so can enhance the sexual experience. Bounce is usually in opposition to motion isolation, which aims to reduce the effects of motion across the surface of the mattress.

  • Responsiveness. A responsive mattress adjusts to your body’s movements quickly, always providing support and stability. Less responsive mattresses will adjust slower and you may feel like you are gradually sinking into them, slowly changing position as you do so.

  • Noise. Some people like mattresses that squeak with every thrust, but most people prefer a quieter bed for sex. Anything with metal parts inside, like springs and coils, runs more of a risk of being noisy than beds made solely from foam or latex.

  • How it Conforms. Some mattresses conform to your body as you lie on them. Depending on the person, this can enhance or diminish sexual pleasure. The opposite of a bed that conforms is one that is smooth or even slick. This can make it difficult to find a consistent rhythm during sex.

  • Temperature. A mattress can retain quite a bit of heat from your body. This can make sex quite uncomfortable, especially if you both end up overheating. Since sexual encounters generate a lot of heat, it’s important that your mattress is temperature neutral and doesn’t absorb that heat into itself.

 

In addition to these factors that specifically pertain to sex, you should also consider a mattress’ price, how comfortable it is for you and your partner, how durable it is, and how other customers have reviewed or rated it. Take all of these things into consideration to make sure you get the best mattress for sexual activity and for sleep.

Mattress Types and Sex

The best mattress for you and your partner to have sex on will depend on two people: you and your partner. Different beds work better for different couples, depending on their sexual preferences and personal choices.

 

The best way to know if a mattress will work for you is to try it out. Many companies now allow you to return the mattress and get your money back within a certain number of days. That means you can buy a mattress, sleep on it, have sex on it, and still get a refund if it doesn’t work. Here are some of the most popular types of mattresses and the pros and cons of each of them, when it comes to sex.

Innerspring Mattresses

These beds have comfort layers made up of polyfoam, memory foam, or other materials. These layers surround coiled springs, which provide structure for the mattress. They are what most people think of first when they think of a mattress.

Pros

  • These mattresses are among the most bouncy available.

  • Innerspring mattresses are highly responsive.

  • These beds do not retain body heat very much, if at all.

  • Innerspring beds tend to cost less than other types of beds.

Cons

  • Innerspring mattresses can be noisier than other beds. While you may notice this less with a new mattress, over time the bed can get louder.

  • Some innerspring beds are less comfortable than other mattresses. Since you need to sleep on the bed to, this is an important consideration.

Latex Mattresses

Latex can be extracted from rubber trees or produced synthetically. To make a mattress, it is then mixed with other agents to create a soft, pliable surface for sleeping. Latex mattresses may contain layers of other materials, like memory foam or polyfoam.

Pros

  • These beds are very, very quiet, even silent.

  • Latex mattresses conform to your body easily, often relieving pressure points otherwise aggravated during sexual activity.

Cons

  • Latex offers very little in the way of bounce.

  • Latex is slightly more responsive than most memory foam beds, but is not responsive at all when compared to innerspring or hybrid mattresses.

  • Latex may get too warm for some people.

  • Latex mattresses usually have an above-average cost.

Foam

Foam beds are made from polyfoam or memory foam. They may come with special infusions, like gel or copper, in the foam, too. They are designed to conform to and support your body while you sleep.

Pros

  • Foam beds are nearly silent.

  • Foam will give your body the support it needs, alleviating places that are painful during sex.

  • Foam beds can be relatively inexpensive.

Cons

  • Foam beds are not bouncy.

  • Foam offers little in the way of responsiveness.

  • Foam retains more heat than other types of mattresses.

 

Other options for mattresses include hybrid beds (a blend of innerspring and foam and/or latex), airbeds, and water beds. However, the ones listed here are the most common types of beds you’ll run into when you go mattress shopping. Remember to try a bed before you buy it, and to let your partner try it, too!

 

The best sex mattress

You don’t have to be afraid to bring her home anymore! When you have a new mattress that’s great for both sex and sleeping, you’ll feel confident that she’ll be comfortable all night long.

 

Up Your Sex Game with Frequent Masturbation

Masturbating Man

Modern-day Australian men are masturbating more than ever before according to a survey conducted by popular online sex toy brand, Lovehoney. It was also established that as many as 21% of men masturbate with a sex toy at least once a week.  Being called a wanker is hardly the insult it used to be especially considering the numerous benefits regular masturbation has, especially as far as boosting your sex life is concerned. By becoming more familiar with the nitty-gritty details of wanking, you will not only be more inclined to polish your pole more regularly but you will also be privy to a whole host of interesting and exciting benefits.

Benefits of masturbation

If you have ever felt even remotely guilty about cranking your shank, don’t.  Frequent masturbation is far more beneficial than anyone has ever imagined. Not only is yanking on the old chain a great stress reliever but it has also been revealed by sex toy brand Tenga that men who masturbate weekly are 10% more confident in their own sexual abilities.  Research further found that men who masturbate more than twice a week are also as much as 12% happier with the intensity of their orgasms.  If these statistics don’t impress you, maybe the fact that no one can fall pregnant or contract a STD from masturbation will. You also don’t need to make awkward late-night trips to the pharmacy or department store for a packet of condoms if the only action you are getting is from your own hand.  Masturbation will always help you relax, make you sleep better and encourage you to be more experimental in the bedroom.

How much masturbation is too much?

If you see yourself as just a ‘regular guy’ chances are you have asked yourself more than once whether you masturbate too much. While pulling wire for 8 hours a day can leave you in severe physical discomfort and may also be severely frowned upon (and illegal) if engaged in publicly, there is no rulebook that determines how often you are allowed to masturbate. As long as your frequent spanking of the monkey does not affect your life adversely in any way, you should be good to go. If you do, however, start noticing that you are staying away from work and withdrawing from your family and friends because of your new-found hobby it is probably best that you put the lube and porn videos away and try to find a real-life sex partner instead.

How to make the most of your masturbation

Masturbation has evolved tremendously over the last few decades.  Long gone are the days where a quick early-morning session in your room or bathroom with a crumpled up Playboy magazine was the norm.  Today, thanks to a plethora of sex movies, books, toys and general loss of inhibitions, men are masturbating more often (and more vigorously) than ever before. Fleshlights, lubes, shower strokers and ball suckers are all the rage right now and can turn any mediocre wanking session into a mind-blowing, self-sexing session.  What you think about while masturbating can also contribute greatly to the overall intensity of your orgasm. According to an article published in Cosmopolitan magazine, 69% of Aussie blokes fantasize about their current partner. A whopping 58% of men also admitted to periodically thinking about an ex while masturbating. In third place, with 57% of men listing it as a wanking inspiration, is good old porn.

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Wanking Benefits

What to avoid during masturbation

It comes highly recommended that you refrain from engaging in any dubious masturbation practices that involve toothpaste, heat rub, superglue or freshly-baked apple pie as you will more than likely end up in the ER with very hard-to-explain injuries. It is generally also not a good idea to masturbate in public, at work and at home with other people in the same room. If you still live with your parents you should also avoid wanking on their marital bed as being caught in the act might cause you to be disowned, regardless of how old you are. If you are suddenly overcome with a bout of horneyniss while in an unsuitable domicile, you should try imagining yourself in a rather unfortunate sexual position with a very undesirable partner. Nothing kills the urge to orgasm quite as fast as picturing your best friend’s grandmother in full BDSM kit.

Whether you are a frequent wanker or an occasional one, chances are you could benefit from a few extra masturbating sessions a week. Next time you are online searching for some quality porn order a few sex toys while you add it, put your lube in the fridge and prepare yourself for more frequent self-sexing that will lower your blood pressure, improve your sleep and boost your sex game significantly.

Gentleman’s Guide: Sex On The First Date

Sex on a first date

To many guys, sex on a first date seems like it will only happen with a big amount of luck. And all because they don’t know how to seduce girls, and occasional success is just a matter of chance. However, there’s the good news: you can easily make your companion want sex on the first date. You just need to approach this process more consciously.

You probably don’t even suspect that there are several critical moments your success depends on. And knowing how to act in these moments and a small change of behavior can completely change the course of seduction from long (and annoying) courtship to sex in a couple of seconds. Use these 4 rules to seduce beautiful women.

When you don’t need to put in any effort

Sometimes it happens that you go on a date and see that the girl actively supporting your desire to drag her into bed by touching and hugging you or showing other signs that she’s interested in you. Such moments scare the hell out of some guys, so they start acting incorrectly.

Even a small interest at the beginning of the first date can lead to sex. All you need is to take advantage of this and be more active and decisive. Just imagine that this girl is your old friend. If she’s interested in you, then she’ll easily accept (and support) your courtship. This approach will work.

Seize the moment

Let’s say you got caught in the rain, and it happens so that you’re not far from your home. You should take advantage of the moment and invite her to your place for a cup of tea. For example, the same thing works if it’s already too late, and you’re a couple of minutes away from your home.

Let’s say you asked her out on a date in the evening, she wanted to go home early, but you persuaded her to stay, promising to call her a cab. Keep the promise. But before making a call, say “Let’s go to my place! It may take a while until the cab arrives, so why wait for it outside?” That’s what we call “taking advantage of the moment”. If you manage to get into a similar situation and use it (and such situations happen pretty often – you just need to spot them), then it will be easier to get sex on a first date.

“3 in 1”

For some reason, most guys are guided by the principle of “one date – one place”. Usually, after spending a few hours in a café or restaurant, they take girls for a short walk, and that’s all. Here’s how you can make a few adjustments to your plan and get her into your bed. If you visit more than one spot with her during the date, both of you will have a feeling that you already had a few dates. After all, the main barrier that prevents a girl from agreeing to sex on a first date is a lack of trust.

When you visit several places at once, she’ll begin to perceive you as someone she knows well. It’s better to take her to at least three different spots. But you can make it “4 in 1” or “5 in 1” if you want. It all depends on what kind of places you take her to, and how tired both of you become in all of them.

Try to make it so that the next place contrasts with the previous one. For example, if you were engaged in something active in the first one, than the second spot should be relaxing, and so on. And the last place should be near your house (plan ahead).

Keep a conversation going and listen to her carefully

To establish an emotional connection with the girl, show her your true self, tell interesting stories with a smile on your face. Let her know that you’re a cheerful person. Thus, you strengthen confidence, and the more she trusts you, the more she will open to you in return. In the end, this leads to a feeling of deep connection, which makes your companion more liberated in your company.

Every time the girl tells you something about herself, you must remain silent and listen. If you’ve never been particularly interested in the thoughts of women, with whom you went on a date before, then you’ve missed a lot. If you like this girl, she’ll help you seduce her. She’ll give you a couple of tips you can use to make her want to have sex with you.

Why sex on a first date is so important

So what is the reason for such a rush? Why not wait? After all, there’s still so much time ahead. The fact is that sexual desire, as well as any food product, has a shelf life, which is pretty short. It’s like a carton of milk: if you don’t drink it in time, the milk will turn sour, and you’ll have to throw it away. Aside from that, women usually treat men according to 1 of 3 categories that they will fit into:

  • Lover
  • Sponsor
  • Friend

And, as a rule, the longer the process of seduction lasts, the less chance you have to get into the first category, and the higher the risk of ending up in the third one.

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Image: Couples first date sex

Bottom line

No matter whom you’re dating – nuns, MILFs, or Russian girls for marriage – these tips will work. Remember the main thing: even if you fail to make your companion want to have sex with you, there’s no reason to give up. With experience, you’ll learn to feel what exactly you must do or say to achieve what you want. Just act more decisively and quickly – your determination to succeed will increase your chances dramatically. Most importantly, always bring a condom with you so that you are always covered!

Edging 101: What To Do and How To Get Started

Man kissing his girlfriend

“When you are pulling against the restraints… when your back is arched and your hips are writhing… when your mouth is open in a silent scream of tortured rapture… you will know that my work has begun”. – Pleasure Torture

Edging or orgasm control can be achieved through masturbation or help from a partner. We have partnered up with Bait’D Designs BDSM, Sex, and Jewelry Blog to teach you how to get started edging for your first time.

What is Edging?

During sex, BDSM, and kinks, achieving orgasms is not the only thing that can bring you or your partner pleasure. Edging is a popular method that involves controlling orgasms by bringing you or your partner to the brink of orgasm, and then right before it happens, you back away. Then you repeat this process over and over again, building up your sexual energy until you or your partner finally allow you to achieve an orgasm. The sexual energy building up to an orgasm can be similar to the sexual energy you build from celibacy. You can repeat the edging process multiple times to intensify you or your partner’s orgasm. For men, this exercise can increase the volume of ejaculation and force of ejaculation. This can be effective especially for men who suffer from premature ejaculation. Other popular terms that can describe the act of edging are peaking, surfing, or riding the edge.

Edging For Women

Edging for women is a difficult process to master. You want to focus on getting her to approach an orgasm, but don’t let it actually happen. Some people find it beneficial for the women to alert their partner when they are getting close to an orgasm so that their partner knows when to back off. When men typically hear that their women is about to ‘cum’, their usual instinct is to go harder, but in the case of edging, this requires some discipline from both participants. It is important to remember that as you are edging a woman, the smallest change can make a huge impact. Sometimes change will make a women lose the build up to an orgasm, or it may bring her over the edge. Losing an orgasm will send her into the refractory period, and then you will have to start over to build up that orgasm again. Staying consistent is key and the lighter touch, the better. In fact, 70% of women who like edging say lighter touches help to reduce the pressure when climax is near. Everyone is different so what works for one women may not work for another.

If you are going in solo you will also need to have some discipline as well. Our natural instinct is to keep going when something feels good, so you will need to be able to slow down and prevent yourself from orgasm, especially since you know your body best.

There are a variety of methods you can use to perform edging on a woman, but the easiest would be with the external clit (or clitoris). You can perform edging on your lady partner by rubbing, licking, and other movements. For a more advanced way to edge a women, you can try G-spot stimulation. The G-spot orgasm is harder to control because you are dealing with the sensitivity of the vagina walls, as well as vulva stimulation. It is recommended that you start out with a vibrator or dildo instead to stay more consistent in this area if you are just starting to learn how to edge.

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Image: Dom

Edging For Men

Benefits for edging men include increased testosterone levels, lasting longer during sex, and self-discipline. Edging for men also helps to minimize or overcome premature ejaculation when done properly and consistently. During the edging process you are training the brain to be comfortable achieving a high level of sexual pleasure without ejaculating. Much like edging for a women, edging a man also follows the same principles. The giver and receiver must be disciplined and not get over excited during this process.

Edging for a man can occur with a hand job, blow job, vibrating cock ring, or whatever tickles your fancy. Let your imagination explore the possibilities. It is recommended that edging is done without the use of porn for a more controlled environment.

For men, there is also a popular ballooning technique that is similar to the edging, but a lot of men who have done it feel it is better than edging. Ballooning begins by masturbating and gently rubbing the sensitive part of the penis until full erection is achieved. Continue to stimulate and then just before ejaculation, you slow down the stimulation. At this time, you should incorporate medium Kegels exercises as you inhale, and then release the Kegels as you exhale. You should increase the intensity of the Kegels upon every inhale, and repeat this process just like you are doing reps in the gym. During intercourse, this technique can also provide a stimulating effect for the women.

Edging As A Dominant

Edging is often used as a way for a dominant to take control of their submissive by using erotic denial as control. Some masters allow their slave to masturbate without orgasm. Masters will usually give their slaves tasks and will tell a slave how many times during the day they should take themselves to the edge of orgasm and stop. The slave learns that their orgasms are owned by their master and practices control and discipline. The master can also incorporate punishments when they orgasm. Beyond edging, orgasm control for a dominant or master can also mean not allowing your slave/submissive to stop cumming until they beg you to stop.

It’s always beneficial to spice up your sexual routine. Now you know the basics, so get out there and experience edging for yourself! Whether you are going in solo, edging your partner, or receiving, the benefits from edging will help enhance you and your partner’s sex life for the better.

6 Sure Fire Tantra Methods!

Half Naked Couple In Bed Photo

My 25 years on this earth have led me to many conclusions and realisations, the most relevant right now being that sex is one of the most exciting topics of conversation. I don’t know if it’s the people I seem to attract into my life or my own willingness to turn any conversation into one about sex but I end up talking about it all the time (Working in an Adult Store and studying Sexology, it’s expected with the territory too I guess!!).

I notice how so many men and women light up when given the space to discuss one of the most intimate areas of their lives. It fills me with so much joy when I have people come into an Oh Zone Adult Lifestyle Centres shy and nervous initially and then leave talking explicitly about sex and not wanting to stop.

Sex and the overt representation of sexuality is everywhere in our lives, from advertising and social media to pornography and films. Despite this, there is a lack of frank conversation about sexuality meaning many people have a warped perception of what healthy sexuality looks and feels like. One of the concerns with society’s widespread unwillingness to discuss sexuality is that when it comes to developing healthy sexual relationships, many people are unsure of how to speak of sex with the people they’re actually having it with.

I know of many people who struggle to talk openly with their intimate partners about sex sometimes resulting in unhealthy consequences. The repercussions of leaving things unspoken with our intimate partners can result in unnecessary conflicts, physical and emotional trauma and general unfulfilling sex lives.

We miss out on accessing the potential of our capacity to feel exquisite pleasure because we struggle to ask for what we like and we remain silent when something doesn’t feel good.

I recall a time a couple of years ago when I was being intimate with a new lover and he asked what it was I wanted. I remember freezing in fear and had no idea how to put what felt good for my body in words. I think I ended up saying something along the lines of “what you’re doing” just because I was so mortified that I didn’t know how to ask for what I desired.

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Photo: Romantic Couple Having Breakfast In Bed

Throwing myself in the deep end shortly after this experience, I discovered the world of Tantra and Conscious Sexuality which provided me with some tools I needed to communicate clearly with my intimate partners. I’ve including the following tips that if applied, have the potential to lead to greater levels of intimacy, connection and pleasure in your sexual relationships:

1. Be Open To Talk About Sex

Speaking of any discomforts you may have around talking about sex is an excellent first step. Let your partner know that you would like to be more open discussing sex and acknowledge the fact that it may be a difficult conversation to begin for the both of you. Express the importance of opening this conversation and speak with honesty.

2. Use Explicit Words

If the thought of even speaking words associated with sex makes you cringe, I recommend trying this exercise with your partner. Jump in the deep end and throw explicit words at one another. It may go something like this “Cock, pussy, lick, anal, orgasm, cum, wet, squirt.” Think of this as the ultimate “ice-breaker.” Come up with as many words as you can that you identify as sexual and get used to saying them to each other. In little to no time, it will be a breeze to say what you need without shame or embarrassment. Make it fun and playful because sex is supposed to be!

3. Take Ownership Of Your Feelings

Stay away from blame and take ownership of how you feel. Instead of “You’re really bad in bed and you need to change” turn it into “I am feeling like there is so much more I want to experience sexually and I would love to try this with you next time.”

4. Try The Palm Exercise

Take in turns tickling each other’s palms with your fingers and make adjustments that will lead to a more pleasurable experience. “May I have a softer touch?” “Can you move your finger faster/slower?” “Can you give the top right hand corner more attention?” Becoming used to asking for what you need in a non-sexual activity will translate to greater comfort and ease asking for what we desire sexually.

5. Invest In Adult Lifestyle Products

Invest in sex toys for couples to make your lifestyle easier.

6. Get To Know Your Body

Last but certainly not least, get to know your own body and what feels pleasurable to you. I cannot express the importance of this enough!! If you don’t know what feels good to your body, how can you expect that you can communicate clearly to your partner? Sex can be a hit or miss and expecting your partner to know everything that turns you on is a lot of pressure.

When talking about sex with your partner/s becomes easeful, the possibilities to explore sexuality and sexual expression are endless. You can try different things, express fantasies and desires and get to know your partner more deeply…in more ways than one!! You can also talk about what is Tantra Sex and how to incorporate into your lifestyle.

Author: Stephanie Curtis- BA NursingSave

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