Winter is somewhat of a difficult time of year for me. I feel almost selfish discussing this topic knowing that friends in parts of the world such as Sweden and Germany would scoff hearing me complain about 12 degree Celsius days. Nonetheless, once the mercury drops below 20 degrees, I cannot help but turn into a winey, whingey, depressed shadow of a human. So, before I go into a deep dark hole of despair brought on by the cold weather, I feel it is a healthy step to take to focus on the positives of this time of year. Here’s my list of winter pros that I searched high and low to come up with:
Sleep and more specifically sleep next to someone
Sleeping and sleeping next to someone is much more enjoyable in these cold dreary months. Gone are the days of my single life and never have I been more grateful to go to bed with a beautiful man every night as I do now. As you could imagine, sharing your bed with a man in those hot summer months is only good for one thing. Attempting to snuggle and sleep close to one another is a sticky, sweaty nightmare! With the arrival of these cold days, I can’t wait to get close to him if only so my frozen feet defrost. Provided he doesn’t steal the blankets in the middle of the night, winter nights are blissful these days.
More opportunities for sex and intimacy
Times otherwise spent going to the beach and having a beer at the pub are now occupied by snuggling up next to the fire with a glass of red. Romantic right? When the cold draws you away from outdoor activities, see it as an opportunity to get cuddled up in bed, warm up with your favourite sex toys that you haven’t used in a while or whip out the rope with your partner for some bondage next to the fire. Try out some bondage roleplay ideas for the bedroom to. It is sure to heat things up inside and is a sexy way to keep yourself entertained for an afternoon.
Self-love and inquiry
Winter is a great time to be getting to know yourself by retreating inward. Withdrawing from the world is necessary every once and a while, with quiet time on our own a way of coming back to ourselves. Our busy lifestyles mean that we rarely take an opportunity to check in with ourselves and what matters to us. Winter time is a great time to go inward and give ourselves some much needed tender loving care. Having a bath, getting a massage, journaling, reflecting on our dreams and desires or even just being still are perfect experiences to give ourselves this time of the year.
Eating delicious foods
My appetite seems to sky rocket in winter so nourishing myself with warm and scrumptious meals in winter is the ultimate in self-care. My justification of eating a whole heap more in the cold months of the year is that the amount of shivering I do has to burn some extra calories. Am I right?! Some people may see having a larger appetite as a bad thing but I see it as an excuse to stay in and cook myself something incredible to eat. Treat yo’self I say!
Slowing the f**k down
Slowing down for me in winter means saying no to social engagements I’m not a hell yes to. It means doing some light stretching or yoga instead of climbing a mountain. Finding a healthy balance for yin and yang energy in my life is important, with winter a very yin time for me. Yin energy is all about the feminine and diving into this can be very healing for the feminine parts of me that I may have neglected in my faster paced, doing masculine energy. We need healthy balance in our lives otherwise our overall health and wellbeing can be affected.
As you may or may not notice, I’m really beginning to dig the bottom of the barrel now for some pros of winter-especially because I’m shivering from the draft and my chocolate has run out. For this reason, the best thing I can come up with for these cold months is to escape!! Winter is a perfect time of year for a tropical getaway to a location where swimming at the beach isn’t a near-death sentence. For years, I did what I could to get myself to Asia or Europe for a holiday just to avoid waking up in a place where my breath can’t be seen fogging out of my mouth and it was fantastic.
I’ve almost forgotten what it is like to be in such weather hence my attempts at consoling myself by writing this article. With nothing to do but stick it out, I think I’ll just spend the remainder of winter time snuggled up inside next to the fire, drinking wine, getting tied up and journaling. Doesn’t sound like the worst way to spend two months if you think about it? See you on the other side… who knows you might even buy naughty bondage restraints and ropes this winter!
Author: Stephanie Curtis, Sexologist
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