6 Things Your Mattress Needs To Improve Your Sex!

You need to have sex on a great quality mattress and there’s no way around that. Well, unless you’re good with an ‘okay’ rated sexual experience! We all desire to have that moment that takes us beyond our wildest desires when getting intimate and the bed quality plays a significant role. Surveys done have revealed that majority of the people have sex in bed. This is evidence that you’ll need the perfect mattress if you desire to have the best sex. Of course, other factors also have a hand, but having a good mattress is a great starting point.

Ever had sex on an old mattress, with the springs all worn out? I am certain it was a moment that you wished would come to an end because, instead of pleasure, you get noise and you’re constantly trying to find your balance. Even though sex is rarely on our minds when we’re getting a mattress, it’s high time we put that factor into consideration. They say while getting a mattress, ensure that you consider all your preferences and needs – sex should be on the list!

So which type of mattress would be best to have sex on?

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Image: Couple In Bed

Think Comfortability

When it comes to purchasing a mattress, comfort is among the things that you shouldn’t dare compromise on. Remember that, even without the sex; we spend more than a 1/3 of our lives in bed. So, why not make it comfy? When considering the level of comfort that a mattress offers you’ll need to think of:

  • How comfortable is it to sleep on?
  • Can I comfortably have sex on the bed without straining myself or my partner?

Interestingly, a good comfy mattress has a way of spicing up the moment. It makes you relax and just focus on enjoying yourself. Comfort here refers to three things: your body balance on the mattress, the material texture and if it causes any strain by creating pressure points.

Think Flexibility

An innerspring mattress is perfect for flexibility. We make a lot of maneuvers while having sex. What makes them worthwhile is if they work. An adjustable mattress will make you achieve that. You’ll need to find a mattress that responds to the moves that you make while at the same time giving a slight bounce. To achieve flexibility, you’ll need a bed that’s slightly firm but bouncy and one that responds fast to your movements.

There are some mattress brands that offer flexibility other than the innerspring mattress such as latex foam in comparison with other memory foam mattresses. But don’t focus too much on flexibility and forgetting your sleeping position, find a balance between the two.

Think Noise

Nothing disrupts the perfect intimate moment like a noisy bed. Sex is a discreet affair; it’s not something that you want to announce to your neighbors. However, I must point out that the noise factor varies from couple to couple. A couple with children or living as a large family will prefer discretion, but on the other hand, a couple with no one else around will rarely mind the noise. Generally, a mattress ideal for sex will keep the sounds at a low. After all, sex is an intimate affair and drawing unnecessary attention isn’t such a great idea.

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Think Durability

A good mattress shouldn’t break down because of intense activities on the bed, even in the long term. Sex is probably one of the ways that you can test for a mattresses’ durability. A good mattress should be able to support your weight, that of your partner and any positions you take during sex. A young couple needs to seriously think of durability considering all the energy they have and the frequency of sex. Although a broken mattress during sex can be a sign of a great moment, it’s also an indicator that you may need a new and better mattress.

Think Temperature

We all know just how hot it gets during sex. Not many people will have fun when it’s a ‘hot mess’ and they are all hot and sweaty. You will, therefore, need to get a mattress that will not get too hot and not just because of the sex but also for your everyday sleeping. Gel foam mattresses are an excellent bet when selecting a bed that won’t get too hot. Other than gel foam mattress, other brands are available in the market. Take the time to inquire from the manufacturers if the bed you have has a unique cooling feature or not. You could also go to mattress review sites to find out more information on certain mattresses.

Think Edge Support

An edge support that will collapse when under pressure is definitely not ideal considering that some of the best sex positions require a stable and robust edge. A good mattress, regardless of the sex, should comfortably hold your body weight and pressure without collapsing.

Sex is as good as the mattress you’re on. Every mattress has its benefits and drawbacks, what’s important is to find the one that’s suitable for you. However, the mistake that a lot of us make is going for a particular mattress because it worked for others. An ideal bed is one that corresponds to your specific needs and preferences including your sexual moment. For you to really enjoy that intimate moment, you’ll need the best mattress. So the next time you go mattress shopping, I’m confident that the above considerations will help you to identify the best mattress for you and your sex life!

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My Melting Moments With Japanese Drip Candles

Candle Wax On Womens Shoulder

Many of us know that candles in the bedroom can add a sense of ambience, especially when in the throes of passion. Some people in the BDSM community add another level to this by using candles and their wax in a different way, by using specially made candles for dripping onto our skin. Wax is used as part of sensation and temperature play, it stimulates the senses with different colours, scents, heat, and touch, wherein the wax can be used in sensory focused activities to stimulate the senses.

I went on the hunt for a new set of play candles recently. I decided against the tapered paraffin table candles (way too hot) already in my extensive candle collection and finding the soy wax candles I had were pleasant and warm on the skin but not painful. Painful was what I was after, not that bad kind of pain where you burn your hand cooking but the exciting, and thrilling kind of pain you get from a proper wax play candle. I was after something professional between the two.

About Doc Johnson Japanese Drip Candles

​I found Doc Johnsons Japanese Drip Candle 3 pack, in it, you get 1 tapered candle in each of the 3 colours red, black and purple, a perfect colour combination for creating some beautiful wax artwork on a partner’s body or on yourself.

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Photo: Doc Johnson Japanese Drip Candles

​Buying my candles and getting them home I read the back of the packet “Perfect for pleasure and pain”, “warning for experienced players only” these candles are exactly what I wanted, I couldn’t wait to try them out on a partner. Of course they sat in my room full of BDSM toys and equipment a good few months before I had a bunch of kinky friends over for drinks, suddenly I remembered them sitting in my drawer unused. Among my friends were some very keen kinksters whose hands shot up in excitement when I suggested we have a wax play session before we down too many drinks.

Side note: My rule is if I’ve had too many drinks to legally drive my car I’m too intoxicated to play. This was early in the night and we were still on our first round of drinks. This also goes for obtaining other people’s consent. I especially advise against play with fire and or wax while intoxicated.

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My Experience With The Doc Johnson Japanese Drip Candles

I lit up the red candle first and started out holding the candle about 30-40cm away from her bare skin, the first drop elicited a sharp intake of breath, I held the candle upright to make sure it wouldn’t drip again and asked if she was ok, she said yes just that it was very hot, she has done wax play before and has a high pain tolerance, an indication I think as to how hot the Doc Johnson Drip Candles are. I dripped a nice amount of wax all over her back which would act as a layer of protection for the next round, I used black next and held the candle closer, the closer you hold the candle the hotter the wax is when it drips onto the skin. She said the heat was much nicer after she got used to it and relaxed a little, especially with the initial layer down.

Keep in mind that the darker the candle the slightly hotter it will be, so a black paraffin candle will be slightly hotter to drip than a white paraffin candle, so start with the white if you are new to wax play.

My other friend couldn’t handle the Doc Johnson Drip Candles directly onto her skin, she needed a layer of a soy candle I had which had a much lower burning point before I could drip on any of the Japanese Drip Candles onto her skin. So please be aware that these do burn at a reasonably high temperature as they are paraffin! After I was done with the wax I used a blunt butter knife to scrape it off their backs, which added to the whole sensation play aspect of the experience.

This was just some light fun between friends, but if you want to kick it up a notch why not add some blindfolds or bondage into the mix, after all wax and bondage go hand in hand!

The Doc Johnsons Japanese Drip candle set is made of a non-toxic paraffin wax and are just over 15cm each. These candles are not really for beginners and I advise reading up on wax play safety before going ahead with using them or any other wax or temperature play. For more information, read our wax and temperature play guide.

Author: Erin is a consultant from Oh Zone Adult Lifestyle Centres

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Jennifer works marketing at Adultsmart an online sex toy shop. She has a non-judgemental approach to sex, sex toys and sexuality. Her favorite saying is if it feels good and right and is not illegal then why not!

Revolutionize Sex With Your Primal Instinct

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Through my studies in sexology and explorations in the world of Tantra and finding out what is spiritual sexuality, I have come to view and understand many diverse aspects of human sexuality. Sex is a powerful outlet to connect with different parts of ourselves and allows us to share those parts with others in a beautiful and pleasurable way. From having our need to feel emotionally connected to another human being met to a blissfully ecstatic & orgasmic release, sex allows us to be our most authentic and trues selves if we so desire.

Recently whilst completing an intense training diving into sex and spirituality, I experienced a connection to a part of myself which was incredibly healing and empowering- I refer to this part as my inner animal!!  This primal part of myself is so amazing to connect with and allows me a chance to be completely in tune with my senses and my body.

Today, we human beings spend much of our lives in our minds. We think too much, spend an excessive amount of time being occupied with technology and feel this constant need to experience the world in a logical way. I recall a time not so long ago when I became aware of how disconnected I was from my body. When I tuned in to myself, I realised that I was only really in touch with the feelings in my head, completely switched off from the sensations in the rest of my body. Throughout my life, as with so many people, I was encouraged to think, to analyse and to speak. Apart from incidental times like completing sport and when being in pain, I spent most my life in my head.

Being In Touch With Your Body

It is so clear to me now the need for people to experience more of this life in their body, to feel the subtle sensations that are accessible in every single moment throughout the day. Animals are a great example of this, completely in touch with their bodies, using their senses to guide them in the world. They are present to what is, not worrying about the past and stressing about the future, just living in complete presence of what is.

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How To Embody Your Inner Animal

One of the most exhilarating places to embody your inner animal is when connecting sexually with another. When all your senses are turned on and alive it makes for an extremely fun, pleasurable and energising sexual experience. The most enticing part of sex is how good it feels-what could be better than tuning in and amplifying your senses to increase the pleasure during sexual play? Being out of our minds and completely in our body making love with another is one of the most incredible experiences to have if we dare to step into it.

Approaching sex in an animalistic way can look and feel unique for each person. From roaring, purring or growling in your partner’s ear to crawling on all fours, wrestling or being wild like an animal during foreplay, the possibilities are endless.

Doing this with a partner who you trust and can express yourself freely with is crucial for you to really access that wild animal living inside you. It may feel a bit awkward to start with-not unlike a lion cub finding its roar- but if you really take the time and be courageously vulnerable, you’ll eventually access a primal side of yourself that loves to come out and play!!

One of my favourite ways to connect with my inner animal and my man simultaneously is to wrestle. I highly recommend you trying this one out with a partner if you are both up for an adventure!

Find yourselves a soft floor or mattress with enough space to avoid banging up against anything and ensure any breakables are out of reach. Get on all fours as if you were a lion or tiger (or magical unicorn if that is your thing!) and face your partner. Now depending on how easy it is for you to connect with your wild side, you may or may not want to take some time to close your eyes and connect to yourself. Breathe deeply, notice your heart beating, the energy moving through your body and any sensations that grab your attention. Opening your eyes and bringing a sense of playfulness to the experience, look your partner in the eyes and stare them down as if you are a wolf and they are your prey-ready to devour. Find your growl, express whatever noises want to come out and move around on your hands and knees as if you are stalking them and wanting to catch them. Go wild (with some mindfulness to avoid hurting them of course!) and have fun playing!

Whatever comes next is up to the two of you-sometimes for me it has turned into a hilarious and comical bit of fun where we’re both in hysterics, other times a wild, animalistic lead into amazing sex!! Avoid expectations, enjoy yourselves and use it as an amazing chance to see a different side of yourself and your partner.

Getting in touch with this side of myself has meant I feel more throughout my day to day life and experience more pleasure in my body during sex- purely because I am out of my head and in it. I cannot recommend exploring your inner animal enough-there may be a raging Jaguar roaring inside ready to pounce (or a cute purring kitty cat…only one way to find out!). I also apply these 6 Sure Fire Tantra Methods to my sexual lifestyle to make the experience even better!

Author: Stephanie Curtis- BA Nursing

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Meet the newest member to our team of experts. Stephanie Curtis is a sexologist with a huge capacity to care. Involved in spirituality and tantra her articles are professional, articulate and interesting. Enjoy Steph’s writings at the adultsmart sexual wellness and health blog.

Sharing is Caring with Strap Ons

I’m pretty damn embarrassed to admit to this but today is the day I finally do. So here it goes, my name is Elliana and I can’t hold in a share dildo for the life of me. Yes I know I’m a shocking excuse for a lesbian and I need to purchase some kegel balls ASAP.

I’ve been sleeping with someone for the past few months and lately she’s been asking me to bring out the Fun Factory Sharevibe I’ve had just sitting in my toy drawer for months, she’s been wanting to feel more connected to me and noticed I’ve never even glanced at it when she’s asked me to surprise her with a new toy to use. Honestly, I just hate the way it feels when I’m the dom and being the one having to hold it in, usually I have to wear my Fun Factory Harness with it because my body basically just rejects it every time I slip it in. For a woman with good pelvic floor muscles, the vagina should feel like it’s giving the toy a hug, but see mine doesn’t want anything to do with it, it just pushes it as far away as possible. So every time we’ve tried to have sex with it I’ve had to stop and push it back in about 10 times and it is the most frustrating thing to happen when you’re in the moment, also super embarrassing! We end up giving up every time and I just swap it with a standard dildo. BORING!

So now to the point of my article today. What other options do girls like me have when we can’t hold a share toy in but still want to have some sort of stimulation whilst using a standard strap on?

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Sex Toy: We-Vibe Sync
  1. We-Vibe Sync 

The reason I’ve specified the newest We-Bibe couples toy is because of the adjustments they’ve added into the Sync, all of the older versions don’t have the option of being able to push both sides together and have it stay that way once you’ve inserted it, just like share toys you have to be able to hold the toy in yourself and so the Sync is perfect because it does that job for you no matter what position you get in. The bonus of the We-Vibe Sync is obviously that you get both g-spot and clitoral stimulation, that your partner can be in control of the toy and also this depends on the position that you’re in but sometimes you can get the clitoral side of the toy to push up against the bottom of your dildo so that your partner can get a feel of the vibrations you’re experiencing. See our We-Vibe Sync Review.

 

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Sex Toy: L’Amourose Rosa Rouge Massager
  1. L’amourose Rosa 

Another fantastic toy that will stimulate both your g-spot and clitoris or could be used for anal stimulation is the L’amourose Rosa. Because the toy is longer and curved at the top it is much easier to keep in, the curve pretty much holds it in for you and because it has a flat surface it makes it really easy to move around once inserted. So if you’re a woman who knows it takes a little more length and strong direct vibrations to make your g-spot really sing then I’d definitely recommend using this toy over the We-vibe. See our L’amourose Rosa Review.

 

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Photo: B-Vibe Range

 

  1. B-Vibe 

More of a backdoor kind of gal? B-Vibe has a fantastic range of vibrating butt plugs to choose from whether you’re a beginner or a pro. The reason I’ve chosen this brand is because you have a wireless remote just like you do with the We-vibe, so again your partner can be in control of what vibrations you’ll be feeling so you’ll still feel connected.

Ever had all 3 spots stimulated at the same time? If you haven’t I definitely recommend giving it a go and you can make that happen by combining this toy with the We-Vibe then hand both remotes to your partner and prepare for the fun to begin! See our B-Vibe Review.

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Sex Toy: Nu Sensuelle Pleasure Panty
  1. NU Sensuelle Pleasure Panties 

Maybe you don’t like the share strap ons because you just don’t like insertable toys? Well that’s not a problem because Oh Zone has something for everybody. The Nu Sensuelle pleasure panties are a fantastic and affordable strong and rechargeable bullet set with a remote (also rechargeable). All you have to do is throw those undies on underneath your straps and place your bullet in the under pocket to get the fun started. If you are a person who enjoys butt play as well you could mix this product with the B-Vibe for double stimulation. See our NU Sensuelle Pleasure Panties Review .

I own 3 out of the 4 products I’ve recommended today and enjoyed using all of them with my strap on, so I hope your experience is as great as mine was and you and your partner have some new shared fun

About the author: Elliana is a consultant from Oh Zone Adult Lifestyle Centres

 

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Jennifer works marketing at Adultsmart an online sex toy shop. She has a non-judgemental approach to sex, sex toys and sexuality. Her favorite saying is if it feels good and right and is not illegal then why not!

Review: Romant Couple

Romant Couple Vibrator Photo

We have recently had a huge delivery of Romant Vibrators to the Oh Zone Adult Lifestyle Centres and I have been so excited to check them all out. I now have a naughty secret to share with you all, I hope you are ready for it. I have just recently discovered the Couple by Romant and it is scarily similar to one of my favourite couple sex toys. I’ll let you all figure that out for yourselves when you see the Romant Couple. The best thing is it’s available for a fraction of the price online at Adultsmart and in our Oh Zone Adult Lifestyle Centres!

The Romant Couple comes in a simple white box with a picture of the vibrator on the front, it also provides descriptions of the sex toy. It is not a hard box so unless you are overly sentimental about it, it is not great for vibrator storage. The contents of the box includes a white USB charger, a user manual and of course the vibrator itself!

The Romant Couple is covered in silky soft medical grade silicone and has an ABS core. It loses some points in my opinion due to the fact that it’s not 100% Silicone as ABS is a porous material. However, I think I can excuse this as it’s covered in a layer of silicone. The vibrator measures approximately 6” in length and features a girthier ended dildo with an almost complete bendy ring at the slimmer end which has been made to place an erect penis into for hands-free penetration. The description can be confusing, I think it’s best to check out the picture to get a better idea.

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Sex Toy: Romant Couple – Review

Now you have a visual of the Romant Couple, I can now get straight into telling you the amazing things this toy is capable of. It can be used in the following ways:

  • Vibrating Vaginal or Anal Dildo: The Couple is a perfect size and shape to be used as a vibrating dildo for vaginal or anal penetration. It features textured ridges along the shaft and is slightly curved making it excellent for g-spot stimulation. The vibrations are very powerful and pleasurable however I can tell the difference between them and the more expensive version. They are slightly ticklish as opposed to rumbly. The softness of the silicone means it’s very comfortable and pleasurable to insert in and out of the vagina. The only downfall for using it as a dildo is that the ring is a little bit tricky to use as a handle when using it solo masturbation and the fact that it vibrates strongly in the ring means your hand will be buzzing when using it. You never know, this may appeal to some people, you can think of it as a hand massage!!
  • Thruster Vibrator: When you first see the Couple, the ring appears to be too rigid to fit a penis in however the ends of the ring are bendy enough to accommodate penises of most sizes. Use it with a good quality lubricant like Superslyde, the motion of moving the vibrating ring up and down on you or your partners’ penis will feel exquisite.
  • Double Penetrator: I have grown accustomed to a look of shock and embarrassment from customers in the Oh Zone Adult Lifestyle Centres when I mention this toy is capable of making double penetration happen so I understand it’s not for everyone. But for those who enjoy this sex act, this toy will be a welcome addition to your collection. The penis is placed in the ring with the shaft of the vibrator down the bottom. The penis can then thrust into the vagina while The Couple enter either the woman’s bottom or vagina. Now in all honesty, I haven’t ventured into the double penetration territory with The Couple yet however I see that it is definitely possible and worth a try!
  • Blow Job Chin Rest: You can use it as a blow job chin rest by holding the dildo end, rest your chin on the vibrating ring and away you go. The subtle vibrations can be felt when performing oral on your man which is a very welcome sensation!

Despite some minor differences to the more expensive version which is a direct correlation to the price tag, the Romant Couple is a guaranteed crowd pleaser for couples who would love to spice up their sexual lifestyle with something exciting and adventurous. For those on a budget looking for a multi-purpose vibrator to share with their partner, this toy is for you. I give it my thumbs up!!

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Jennifer works marketing at Adultsmart an online sex toy shop. She has a non-judgemental approach to sex, sex toys and sexuality. Her favorite saying is if it feels good and right and is not illegal then why not!

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