Prince Albert And The Policeman’s Nightstick

Man Masturbating With His Urethra

This is a complete guide which will explain what are Penis Wands, Prince’s Wands, Electro Sex Wands and Catheters. It will also explain to you 11 important tips to use your penis wand and urethral sex toy safely.

What is A Penis Wand?

A Penis Wand is a type of urethral sex toy which is often made from surgical stainless steel which is inserted into the urethra for sexual pleasure. Sex Toys which are made with surgical steel are 100% body safe. They are typically used by men but can also be used by women for urethral play. Women who want to use Penis Wands should go for the shorter versions which are made for their body type.

What is A Prince’s Wand?

A Prince’s Wand is the most popular penis plug, it consists of a tube which is made with a hollow centre with a threaded cap on one end which can be taken off when the man needs to ejaculate or urinate. The Prince’s Wand is inserted into the urethra and the stem is inserted through the man’s Prince Albert piercing. The stem is used to hold the Prince’s Wand in position to keep the man’s hand free for masturbation. It is said that the Princes Wand looks like a policeman’s nightstick. These Surgical Steel Sex Toys are popular among men who enjoy having fun with Urethral Play, to use them correctly one needs to take precision measurements of their penis and urethra tract when both limp and erect. Prince’s Wands come in 3 unique designs that include Standard, Pinless Wands and Ringed Wands. Each bearing its own unique features and characteristics.

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What Is A Electro Sex Wand?

Electro Sex Wands are commonly made with Surgical Stainless which allow them to be used as an electric conductor for electro play. To use, connect one lead cable to the external section of your Electro Sex Wand. The Electro Sex Wand is capable of sending pleasure waves throughout your penis, allowing you to climax without necessarily having to touch the glans.

What Is A Urethral Wand?

Urethral Wands are similar to Penis Plugs but they are much longer. They are used for deep insertion into the urethra all the way up to the bladder. Urethral Wands are available to be bought in Kits so that you can work your way up to a bigger size. Some Urethral Wands send vibrations through the wearer’s body for extra stimulation when they are tapped on with a finger.

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What Is A Catheter?

Another type of urethral sex toy is a Catheter which is frequently inserted right up into the bladder and is used for medical play. Catheters are made with plastic or latex. Catheters are often designed so that they ergonomically curve with the shape of the urethra.

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11 Tips To Follow For Safe Urethral Play

  1. Don’t take drugs that can numb the sensations. Numbing your urethra or penis is hazardous to your health as you won’t be able to tell when you are in pain or discomfort.
  2. It is recommended to not use a water-based lubricant as they can dry up incredibly quickly. You will need to find a lubricant that is sterile like SuperSlyde which is silicone-based and can be used for long term wear or Surgilube. Don’t ever use a personal lubricant which has additives like nonoxynol-9 oil or flavours, these additives may aggravate the bladder. You should not use oil-based lubricats as they are hard to expel from the Urethra.
  3. Make sure your Urethral Sex Toy is sterilized and cleaned before and after each use. You should use anti-bacterial sex toy cleaner to hygienically clean your sex toy.
  4. Urinate before and after using a Penis Plug or Urethral Sex Toy. This serves to clean out anything foreign particles or bacteria which helps to prevent damage or infection.
  5. If you experience any discomfort or ‘spotting’ immediately see your Doctor to have a check-up.
  6. If you want to do some ‘buddy’ or shared urethral play be cautious to ensure that everything is ultra-sterile and that your lover has no infections or other ailments that you may be able to catch.
  7. If you have a Cum Thru Penis Plug ensure that no fluid goes into the Urethral Sex Toy, fluid should only be coming out of the Penis Plug.
  8. In the event that you let go of your Urethral Sound or Penis Plug and it inserts itself deeper inside the urethra. Relax – do not get tense – as the urethra should naturally expel any foreign object.
  9. After you used Urethral Sex Toys your urethra will be susceptible to infection. If you are having sex after or during urethral play please use a condom.
  10. On the off chance that you come across a Urethral Sex Toy which is sharp edges, scratches or manufacturing defaults you should not use the product as it can cause harm to your body. Rather than taking your chances, you should throw it away and invest in a higher quality product.
  11. When using Urethral Sex Toys do not tense up. The urethra contains many nerve endings that give incredible sensations when stimulated with the plugs.




Andrew is right into the Fet Lifestyle and enjoys BDSM. He has written about these subjects in many arena's and is an expert at Shibari. He shares his knowledge by working with Adultsmart a sex toy store. Enjoy the descriptive and educational articles he has written.

Men Orgasming From The Inside Out!

Hot Couple Orgasming From The Inside Out

Penis Plugs and Surgical Steel Sex Toys are becoming more and more popular. They can be found in physical and online sex toy stores. One of the largest suppliers and brands of Penis Plugs and Surgical Steel Sex Toys is Hell’s Couture. Their products are sold by Adultsmart and The Cock Ring Shop who both ship their products internationally using DHL.

Penis plugs is a type of urethral sex toy which is used by men and women to explore their bodies using new techniques and methods to masturbate and reach orgasm. A lot of people within the BDSM and fetish community use Penis Plugs for medical play.

What Do Penis Plugs Feel Like?

When I first inserted a Penis Plug, it stimulated the tip of my penis from the inside, giving me a pleasurable feeling that felt AMAZING. I used a Cum Thru Penis Plug which allowed me to ejaculate whilst it was being worn. Since then, I habe used it multiple times which felt equally amazing as the first time. Now, I have a larger range of Urethral Sex Toys to mix things up so my lover doesn’t get bored. I would recommend a Penis Plug to any and every man out there.

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What Does Urethral Sounding Feel Like?

I trained my body so that I was able to insert longer, textured and wider Urethral Sex Toys. Training my body to adapt to different sizes made the experience more bearable then my initial experience. The urethral sound slid in easily, since it was able to reach a longer area I was able to experience more sensations at the one time. When the Urethral Sound was fully inserted the curved tip stimulated my bladder giving my whole body a new sensation I had never experienced before. I moved the Urethral Sound in and out. I then begin to masturbate with my penis for even more pleasure whilst always ensuring that my Urethral Sound was topped up with more lubricant. I alternated between masturbation and “in & out” play until I came. Once again, I experienced a long sweet orgasm.

It took me some time before I got used to the Urethral Sex Toy but I can positively say I enjoy using them especially outdoors where no one else has any idea that I am wearing it underneath my pants. I can now use Urethral Sex Toys for extended periods of time as I have gotten used to them. Honestly speaking, I can’t decide which is better from the other as they both give different but exquisite sensations. It is important to note that Urethral Sex Toys should not be worn for long periods of time.

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Preparation Steps


Even though it was new, I sterilized the Penis Plug by leaving it in boiling water for more than 5 minutes. Afterwards, I wiped it with clean piece of cloth with alcohol making sure my hands and body were clean at all times. It is important to guarantee safety by using spotless, disinfected Penis Plugs. Always remember to clean both your Penis Plugs and your body before you attempt to insert a Penis Plug. Ask your partner to clean their hands or even make sure they use surgical gloves if they would like to help you masturbate with the Urethral Sex Toy. Never insert anything into the urethra if you have infections, you should seek medical treatment from a professional first.


Furthermore, remember to lubricant. You will require a good and germ free lube for this. Place a lubricant on the entry to the urethra and on the Urethral Sex Toy before you begin insertion. I originally decided to go with KY Jelly which is a sterile lubricant for ease of insertion. I now know however that water-based lubricants dry up quickly. I now use Superslyde which is a silicone-based lubricant that feels silky smooth and does not dry up. Whatever you do, don’t use saliva as a lubricant!

Relax & Take It Slowly

Before I started the process, I made sure I was in a relaxed environment. Since it was the first time for me, I made sure I was fully comfortable before I began inserting the tip of the Penis Plug in my urethra. It is important to insert the plugs when your penis is still soft and not erect.

I also had the instructions in mind to go slowly as urethral play should be carefully done as the area is delicate. If you are stressed, your urethral muscles will physically work against it and they will attempt to push the plug out or block it from going any further. Try to oppose this urge by relaxing as much as possible. It is best to just allow the weight of the Penis Plug to naturally push it into the urethra by itself. Gravity will assist here, so it is best to keep the penis perpendicular during insertion. Do not force the Penis Plug inside.


There are two ways you can masturbate.

  1. You can hold the Penis Plug and move inside and outside of your urethra.
  2. You can hold the Penis Plug in place whilst you masturbate. Try with mild strokes and observe how it feels like.

Couples Play

If you would like another person to make the insertion, this is where you would invite your lover to help you. Hold your penis with one hand while the other inserts the Penis Plug or Urethral Sound.

At first the sensation was new, strange and slightly painful at the point of entry but I slowly started to get used to it. After slowly and repeatedly taking it in and out I started feeling new sensations all over my dick from the urethral play. I also realized that the Penis Plug was going in deeper and deeper as time passed. The sweet sensations were coming from both in and out of my penis. I didn’t last long the first time but I remembered to remove the plug before I had a long sweet orgasm.

Practice Keeping The Penis Plug in Place

The male urethral muscles will keep pushing the plug out. As a beginner it’s important to practice on how to keep the Penis Plug in place. Getting a Penis Plug with a thin shoulder will assist as it provides a good hold inside the urethra. There is a large range of Penis Plug types to buy at sex toy stores so you will be able to find a product which works for you.



Andrew is right into the Fet Lifestyle and enjoys BDSM. He has written about these subjects in many arena's and is an expert at Shibari. He shares his knowledge by working with Adultsmart a sex toy store. Enjoy the descriptive and educational articles he has written.

Kinbaku: The Art Of Japanese Rope Bondage

Beautiful Half-Naked Woman In Rope Restraints

While the use of ropes in the BDSM world is nothing new, a practice of rope tying focusing on both restraint and beauty has been increasing in popularity. With classes and evenings put on at local clubs and parties exploring this specific type of rope play. Kinbaku, originating from Japan has well and truly made its way to the west and it has everyone very interested. In the following I will explain Kinbaku and its origins, discuss the rope types preferred by Kinbaku enthusiast and show you some introductory techniques to get you started.

What Is Kinbaku?

Kinbaku or Kinbaku-bi means “The Beauty of Tight Binding” and it is a Japanese style of BDSM or bondage that uses thin rope to tie people up while also creating visually intricate patterns. This means that many different lengths of rope are required to achieve the desired look. Couple this with the need for knot knowledge and Kinbaku becomes something that requires a bit of investigation and a lot of practice.

Kinbaku is also sometimes called Shibari however there is a difference between the two. Shibari refers to a purely artistic use of the rope play that is much more focused on the overall look of the ropes on the body. Shibari isn’t considered sexual. Kinbaku while also being about the visual does focus more on the restraint aspect of the rope in both the physical and mental realm. However if you walk into an Oh Zone Adult Lifestyle Centre and ask about either Kinbaku or Shibari we will know what you are referring to as the terms are becoming increasingly interchangeable.

Kinbaku in one form or another has been around for a very long time and first came to notice during the late Edo period of Japan (1600’s – 1860’s). It is thought the practice originated with Seiv Lto who is known as the father of Kinbaku. He drew inspiration for the practice from Hojojutsu (a form of martial arts that employs rope as restraints) as well as Kabuki Theatre and Wood carvings. Kinbaku’s popularity increased in Japan during the 1950’s when adult magazines began publishing the practice and soon after live shows followed allowing people to experience Kinbaku in person. Now when Kinbaku made its way to the west it began to influence BDSM practices here. It is highly likely that BDSM fans have come across Kinbaku at one stage. Kinbaku is now regularly used in tandem with other bondage practices creating a plethora of different types and fusions.

Rope Types

Now while it may seem like you can just grab some rope from the nearest garden shed or hardware store and get started but this really isn’t the case. Rope isn’t just rope in Kinbaku it is your tool, it is your artwork so picking the correct type is always important. Traditionally a loose laid, three strand jute ropes used. The Japanese called this Asanawa which is translated as “hemp rope.” Hemp was the first fibre used, however generally it is considered to refer to a range of natural fibre ropes rather than a specific type. And while traditionalists will still use this type we now have a range of ropes made from both synthetic and natural products that will work well.

Natural Fibre Ropes

The reason why this rope was and is till used has to do with the flexibility of the fibres. They bend with the body but can still hold tension. The natural fibres create friction which not only helps to hold the knots together but also creates an interesting sensation against the skin.

Silk Ropes

Typically manufactured in the traditional style (loose laid 3 strand) silk ropes offer a softer alternative against the skin.

Synthetic Ropes

Again designed similarly, they offer another alternative. Generally smoother than natural fibre, synthetic ropes are a good alternative for those wanting something a little more rough than silk but not as course as natural.

The general rule with choosing rope is to consider what you are planning to do with it especially with regards to length. Kinbaku can use up a long length of rope up quickly because of the tying styles. It is also important to think of who and where it is going. The wrists and ankles are likely to be less sensitive than thigh skin. Flexibility is also important in the rope, it gives greater control of tightness and resistance while still allowing movement.

Basic Techniques

The basic two knots that you need to know are:

The Bowline Knot

The Bowline will not slip and is suitable for single limb bondage and suspension.

The Square (or Reef) Knot

The square knot is one worth knowing, it can be used for just about anything. The square knot is important to know because it doesn’t slip meaning that it can tolerate movement and the struggling of the captive.

Once you have mastered these two knots jump into some research to learn different variations and styles of those knots as well as other tying techniques that build on either the square or bowline knots.

Below are some images of a glimpse into the popular BDSM restraint system Japanese Rope Bondage:

Shibari And Kinbaku Rope Bondage Model
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Man Attached To An O-Ring With Rope Restraints
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Woman Tied Up In Kinbaku Restraints
Photo: Female Model In Kinbaku

About The Author: Jamie is a consultant from Oh Zone Adult Lifestyle Centres




Andrew is right into the Fet Lifestyle and enjoys BDSM. He has written about these subjects in many arena's and is an expert at Shibari. He shares his knowledge by working with Adultsmart a sex toy store. Enjoy the descriptive and educational articles he has written.

Using Penis Plugs Safely!

Penis Plug Safety

Surfing the Net For Urethral Inserts

Browsing through internet sites for urethral plugs you will come across a multitude of styles, lengths and diameters and it can be quite daunting trying choose one – especially if you are a newbie.  Is it best to get a solid plug or a  hollow one that will allow you to pee thru it or cum whilst wearing it.  Perhaps the desired result is the exact opposite and you want a cum stopper plug that will impede the ability to ejaculate.  Each man is going to desire a different sensation and there is a insert that will help in achieving it.


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A tiny scratch or metal shard could have devastating effects when inserted into the urethra.  Start at the tip which is the first portion that will be inserted and work your way fully along the whole insertable shaft.  Take your time and do this each time you use them, it really is important.

When used correctly these providers of urethral sensations can give you great joy and sexual satisfaction but when used incorrectly can also provide extreme pain and suffering.  I know which one I choose so before using any Penis Plug, you should take time and read through some penis plug resource and information sites. This is very important especially because you will understand what should and shouldn’t be done. You should take this seriously especially if it is the first time you are using the device.

When you read these guides a lot of it will be common sense but trust me, you want to make sure that there is nothing you have missed out on about how to use them, how to care for them and what you may expect to experience.   The last thing you want is make a dramatic trip to the Emergency Room instead of experiencing the fabled ‘inside out’ cumming experience.

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So you have read up on how to use the plug and what to expect.  Next thing on the agenda is to sterilize it.  As it is going into the Urethra the plug must be completely free of any germs or bacteria and the best way to do this is place it in a pot of boiling water for 3-5 minutes.  This will ensure that your plug will come out squeaky clean.  Allow it to cool down and before use add some antibacterial personal lubricant.

If you do not happen to have a pot of boiling water available antibacterial sex toy wipes should do the trick or a liquid sterilizer like Methylated Spirit will suffice.  DO NOT use bleach or other cleanser that will cause you paid or discomfort.  Remember the urethra will absorb liquids and, seriously, you don’t want bleach going into your system.

After sterilization of your plug penis, it is recommended that the plug is wiped with alcohol swabs. Note that alcohol swabs alone might not guarantee the highest level of sterilization. You should not only pay attention to the plug, but also the penis. Using water and an anti-bacterial soap, wash your penis and hands. For extra caution, you may want to use gloves just to safeguard yourself. Don’t be in a rush, take your time and be cautious because it is very important.

To protect your organ from any injuries, use a sterile lubricant to smooth the walls so that the plug penis can slide in smoothly. While the lubricant helps in ensuring that the plug slides into place with ease and comfort, there a sterile formula ensures that you are guarded from any germs during this process. Be warned that non sterile lubricants should never be used, neither should you use saliva. It is just a matter of caution and ensuring that you don’t mess up your moment of joy by picking up an infection.

Finally, after use the penis plug, take time to sterilize the plug before storage. Keep it in a locked cabinet, free from children access. Resist the temptation of using the plug without having to sterilize it in future, assuming that they are still safe for use. Finally, don’t ever share a penis plug with anyone unless you are ready to share the infections as well.

So hopefully this has helped you out in your urethral sex toy journey!




Andrew is right into the Fet Lifestyle and enjoys BDSM. He has written about these subjects in many arena's and is an expert at Shibari. He shares his knowledge by working with Adultsmart a sex toy store. Enjoy the descriptive and educational articles he has written.

Servicing Mz Cherry With Leather Restraints

Brunette On Bed With Handcuffs

I​ ​couldn’t​ ​begin​ ​to​ ​relay​ ​how​ ​everything​ ​changed​ ​that​ ​night.​ ​As​ ​I​ ​surveyed​ ​my​ ​surroundings​ ​with ease,​ ​there​ ​was​ ​a​ ​sense​ ​of​ ​calm​ ​in​ ​the​ ​night​ ​and​ ​nothing​ ​but​ ​the​ ​gentle​ ​hum​ ​of​ ​the​ ​central​ ​air conditioning​ ​broke​ ​the​ ​silence.​ ​It​ ​was​ ​almost​ ​palpable;​ ​the​ ​stillness​ ​was​ ​eerie,​ ​even.​ ​It​ ​was​ ​in that​ ​moment​ ​that​ ​the​ ​alarm​ ​sounded,​ ​and​ ​a​ ​man​ ​-​ ​wait,​ ​no,​ ​was​ ​it​ ​a​ ​woman?​ ​Entered​ ​through the​ ​doors.

He​ ​-​ ​She​ ​-​ ​came​ ​up​ ​to​ ​me,​ ​with​ ​long​ ​curly​ ​brown​ ​hair​ ​and​ ​feminine​ ​yet​ ​somehow​ ​masculine​ ​blue eyes​ ​and​ ​spoke​ ​softly;​ ​“Do​ ​you​ ​know​ ​anything​ ​about​ ​BDSM?”​ ​He​ ​-​ ​She​ ​-​ ​They,​ ​cocked​ ​a​ ​hand on​ ​their​ ​hip​ ​and​ ​tilted​ ​their​ ​head​ ​to​ ​the​ ​side,​ ​quizzically.

I,​ ​completely​ ​taken​ ​aback​ ​by​ ​the​ ​abruptness​ ​of​ ​the​ ​situation,​ ​somewhat​ ​bemused,​ ​simply answered​ ​“Yes.​ ​What​ ​would​ ​you​ ​like​ ​to​ ​know?”

It​ ​was​ ​those​ ​two​ ​questions​ ​that​ ​set​ ​the​ ​tone​ ​for​ ​the​ ​night​ ​and​ ​a​ ​journey​ ​into​ ​self-exploration, boundaries​ ​and​ ​knowledge​ ​were​ ​about​ ​to​ ​take​ ​place.

“Well,​ ​first​ ​things​ ​first,​ ​my​ ​name​ ​is​ ​Mz​ ​Cherry,​ ​that’s​ ​right.​ ​Mz​ ​with​ ​a​ ​M​ ​and​ ​a​ ​Z​ ​“,​ ​Mz​ ​Cherry said,​ ​as​ ​he​ ​-​ ​she,​ ​held​ ​out​ ​a​ ​limp​ ​but​ ​surprisingly​ ​large​ ​hand.​ ​I​ ​shook​ ​the​ ​hand​ ​and​ ​said​ ​“I’m Andre.​ ​Usually​ ​you​ ​put​ ​a​ ​little​ ​hyphen​ ​on​ ​the​ ​E​ ​but​ ​my​ ​mom​ ​was​ ​lazy.”

As​ ​Mz​ ​Cherry​ ​laughed​ ​I​ ​noticed​ ​that​ ​he​ ​-​ ​she​ ​-​ ​nay,​ ​he,​ ​had​ ​a​ ​sizeable​ ​Adam’s​ ​apple.​ ​My​ ​initial curiosity​ ​returned​ ​to​ ​what​ ​Mz​ ​Cherry,​ ​a​ ​frail​ ​but​ ​very​ ​tall​ ​and​ ​lanky​ ​man,​ ​could​ ​have​ ​to​ ​say​ ​about BDSM.

“Well​ ​I’m​ ​a​ ​submissive,​ ​you​ ​see,​ ​and​ ​I​ ​have​ ​a​ ​regular​ ​partner​ ​that​ ​I​ ​play​ ​with​ ​-​ ​oh,​ ​he’s​ ​just​ ​such a​ ​doll,​ ​and​ ​I​ ​wanted​ ​to​ ​get​ ​him​ ​something​ ​for​ ​his​ ​birthday​ ​that​ ​says,​ ​I’m​ ​his​ ​property​ ​and​ ​he​ ​-” Mz​ ​Cherry​ ​bent​ ​down​ ​at​ ​this​ ​part​ ​and​ ​whispered​ ​“owns​ me.”

I​ ​knew​ ​then,​ ​exactly​ ​what​ ​to​ ​give​ ​Mz​ ​Cherry.​ ​I​ ​led​ ​her​ ​to​ ​the​ ​BDSM​ ​wall​ ​and​ ​pointed​ ​out​ ​a​ ​dog collar​ ​and​ ​leash.​ ​“Nothing​ ​says​ ​ownership​ ​like​ ​a​ ​Dominatrix​ ​and​ ​his​ ​dog”​ ​I​ ​remarked.

“It’s​ ​just​ ​too​ ​mainstream”,​ ​Mz​ ​Cherry​ ​pulled​ ​a​ ​face.​ ​“​ ​Why,​ ​every​ ​Tom,​ ​Dick​ ​and​ ​Harry​ ​is​ ​out there​ ​walking​ ​their​ ​submissive​ ​on​ ​a​ ​dog​ ​collar​ ​and​ ​leash.​ ​I’m​ ​his​ ​and​ ​only​ ​his​ ​and​ ​I​ ​need​ ​him​ ​to know​ ​that.”

I​ ​knew​ ​that​ ​belonging,​ ​and​ ​feeling​ ​like​ ​you​ ​belong,​ ​or​ ​that​ ​you’re​ ​someone’s​ ​property​ ​was​ ​one​ ​of the​ ​main​ ​kinks​ ​of​ ​BDSM.​ ​I​ ​picked​ ​up​ ​a​ ​leather​ ​pair​ ​of​ ​hand-cuffs​ ​with​ ​little​ ​padlocks​ ​on​ ​them.​ ​I held​ ​them​ ​up​ ​to​ ​Mz​ ​Cherry​ ​triumphantly.​ ​“This​ ​is​ ​what​ ​you​ ​need.​ ​He​ ​can​ ​lock​ ​your​ ​hand​ ​cuffs and​ ​keep​ ​the​ ​key​ ​with​ ​him,​ ​and​ ​he’s​ ​the​ ​only​ ​one​ ​with​ ​keys.”

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Mz​ ​Cherry​ ​beamed.​ ​He​ ​flicked​ ​his​ ​hair​ ​and​ ​held​ ​onto​ ​the​ ​hand-cuffs​ ​with​ ​his​ ​red​ ​press-on​ ​nails. Then​ ​he​ ​pined​ ​“But​ ​I​ ​want​ ​something​ ​extra!”

“And​ ​why​ ​shouldn’t​ ​you?”​ ​I​ ​asked.​ ​I​ ​held​ ​up​ ​a​ ​whip​ ​from​ ​Hell’s​ ​Couture,​ ​60cm​ ​in​ ​length​ ​with​ ​a metal​ ​handle.​ ​“This”​ ​I​ ​said​ ​“So​ ​he​ ​can​ ​punish​ ​you​ ​when​ ​you​ ​need​ ​to​ ​be​ ​punished”.​ ​At​ ​this​ ​point Mz​ ​Cherry​ ​was​ ​positively​ ​ecstatic.

“Just​ ​be​ ​careful”​ ​I​ ​said​ ​“These​ ​whips​ ​can​ ​hurt​ ​quite​ ​a​ ​bit.”

“Oh,​ ​honey​ ​child,​ ​I​ ​like​ ​to​ ​get​ ​rough!”​ ​Mz​ ​Cherry​ ​exclaimed​ ​as​ ​he​ ​lifted​ ​up​ ​his​ ​sleeves​ ​to​ ​reveal welts​ ​and​ ​bruises​ ​along​ ​his​ ​arms,​ ​including​ ​several​ ​scratch​ ​marks.

“Wow,​ ​you​ ​certainly​ ​do.​ ​I​ ​just​ ​hope​ ​you​ ​guys​ ​have​ ​a​ ​safe​ ​word,​ ​while​ ​it’s​ ​important​ ​to​ ​push​ ​limits and​ ​boundaries​ ​in​ ​BDSM​ ​play,​ ​it’s​ ​also​ ​important​ ​to​ ​make​ ​sure​ ​the​ ​acts​ ​are​ consensual​ ​and safe​ ​for​ ​the​ ​couple.”​ ​I​ ​said.

“My​ ​safe​ ​word​ ​is​ ​‘peaches’”​ ​Mz​ ​Cherry​ ​said​ ​as​ ​he​ ​giggled.​ ​Satisfied​ ​that​ ​Mz​ ​Cherry​ ​was​ ​safe,​ ​I led​ ​him​ ​to​ ​the​ ​piece​ ​de​ ​resistance.​ ​I​ ​picked​ ​up​ ​a​ ​white​ ​box​ ​and​ ​showed​ ​Mz​ ​Cherry​ ​the​ ​label.

“This,​ ​is​ ​our​ ​Fetish​ ​Fantasy​ ​Series​ ​Rope​ ​Cuff​ ​&​ ​Tether​ ​Set.​ ​It​ ​comes​ ​with​ ​wrist​ ​cuffs,​ ​ankle​ ​cuffs and​ ​four​ ​rope​ ​tethers.​ ​It​ ​also​ ​has​ ​a​ ​free​ ​mask​ ​inside​ ​so​ ​you​ ​can​ ​feel​ ​absolutely​ ​helpless​ ​to​ ​your dominatrix,​ ​and​ ​give​ ​in​ ​to​ ​your​ ​sensations.”

Mz​ ​Cherry’s​ ​eyes​ ​lit​ ​up​ ​like​ ​when​ ​you​ ​hit​ ​three​ ​cherries​ ​at​ ​the​ ​pokies.​ ​“I​ ​love​ ​this!”​ ​Mz​ ​Cherry exclaimed.​ ​“And​ ​I​ ​know​ ​he’ll​ ​love​ ​this​ ​too.”

I​ ​knew​ ​then​ ​that​ ​we​ ​had​ ​satisfied​ ​three​ ​separate​ ​sexual​ ​themes​ ​of​ ​BDSM:​ ​giving​ ​and​ ​receiving pain,​ ​physical​ ​restriction​ ​and​ ​psychological​ ​humiliation.​ ​It​ ​was​ ​interesting​ ​to​ ​note​ ​that​ ​Mz​ ​Cherry himself​ ​was​ ​representative​ ​of​ ​BDSM​ ​sub-culture​ ​by​ ​resisting​ ​gender​ ​conformity.​ ​BDSM practitioners​ ​can​ ​often​ ​gender​ ​switch,​ ​take​ ​on​ ​a​ ​different​ ​gendered​ ​style​ ​depending​ ​of​ ​the gender​ ​of​ ​their​ ​partner​ ​and​ ​resist​ ​the​ ​idea​ ​that​ ​gender​ ​matters​ ​in​ ​their​ ​play​ ​partner.

As​ ​I​ ​packed​ ​away​ ​Mz​ ​Cherry’s​ ​items​ ​for​ ​him,​ ​I​ ​reflected​ ​on​ ​what​ ​had​ ​taken​ ​place​ ​that​ ​night.​ ​A coming​ ​together​ ​of​ ​knowledge,​ ​sub-cultures,​ ​so-called​ ​perversions​ ​and​ ​the​ ​idea​ ​that​ ​sex​ ​has boundaries​ ​and​ ​limits​ ​that​ ​can​ ​be​ ​pushed​ ​all​ ​under​ ​safe​ ​and​ ​consensual​ ​situations.

About the author: Isaac is a consultant from Oh Zone Adult Lifestyle Centres


Andrew is right into the Fet Lifestyle and enjoys BDSM. He has written about these subjects in many arena's and is an expert at Shibari. He shares his knowledge by working with Adultsmart a sex toy store. Enjoy the descriptive and educational articles he has written.