Molten Mastery – Wax Play Appreciation

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Indulge in your senses.

Close your eyes and imagine the thick rivulets of wax sliding over the mounds and curves of your skin, set hard in the cool air that hovers around you.

 

Ever been interested in the sensations of hot and cold?

 

Ever enjoyed hot hot showers or perhaps the allure of stone massages?

 

Perhaps Wax play is for you dearest.

 

Wax play is the art of pouring, dripping and playing with fetsih wax on the human body. Either stand alone or in conjunction with being tied up, flogged, or as part of a scene. Wax in itself is a beautiful material and comes in many different colours and temperatures.

 

To begin our divulge into this art form we must first impart how important it is to only use fetish candles that are specific to fetish play. You mustn’t use candles that can be bought from convenience store or hardware stores as they will have unpredictable burning temperatures, be mixed with chemicals that will have unstable burning properties and have a higher risk of causing lasting damage to skin.

 

Candles used in wax play will be made out of two different types of materials. Soy or paraffin or a combination of the two. Never use Beeswax candles. These will burn too hot for human skin to handle and cause burns to the skin that will need emergency attention.

 

When preparing for any wax play always ensure that your space is clear and clean to play. Remove any flammable materials in case your candles were to knock over to ensure there are no fire hazards. In the event that something was to catch on fire or the wax was too hot for the skin, also ensure that there are precautions to put out the fire and a damp cloth to remove hot wax from the body and burn gel. Just in case. Safety first.

 

Next, place matting, sheeting or padding down for ease of cleaning up. Wax play can get messy. Another reason why it is so scrumptiously fun. For this reason, do not attempt it on the carpets.

 

Now, our choice of tools. You may choose to drip the wax from the candles, or melt and pour the wax from a wax melting pot with a small scoop/ladle. This is called flooding. Scooping larger amounts of liquid wax can be visually stunning but don’t forget it will also be more intense with heat, so ensure that the skin is prepped and that you have built up to this step. You are not going all out on a whim, this is an art form to be worked up to.

 

Start by picking a comfortable spot to lie or sit down and begin by negotiating the scene. Discuss what will be happening, any hard or soft limits, that there may be. Warm up the areas of skin by using massage candles (typically hot oil that won’t have a burning temperature but still feels oh so good) or some light impact play. This will warm up the skin and get it ready for the heat of the wax that is about to be indulged in. Temperature play on cold and skin that isn’t ready can be dangerous and can be a risk for the “bottom” or the person that is receiving it.

 

Both for dripping and pouring wax, there are different techniques that can be used that will change the way that the wax will both the temperature and the feel on the skin. The closer you spill the wax to the ski, the hotter it will feel,the more immediate it will come and the smoother it will linger. The further away, the cooler it will be as it will have more opportunity to intertwine with the air around it. The more anticipation there will be, as there will be more time for the wax to fall from where it is being spilled from. Depending on the height of the fall will also affect the impact of the wax on the skin and in particular how messy it may be. This can cause some absolutely magnificent splashwork that cannot be replicated, one of a kind artwork and artfeel.

 

Cleaning up can be part of the fun of wax play. To make taking wax off easier, rub moisturiser or oil onto the skin beforehand. Peel off wax in larger chunks, or incorporate blunt (or if you’re game and it is your kink a sharp knife) to scrape off the wax. Ice will help the wax harden and help to remove it and add a cool element to your temperature play.

 

  • Some tips and tricks to remember:

  • Tie up hair to keep it out of the wax

  • Shave or keep wax away from body hair

  • Do not put wax into the belly button as it is very hard to ensure that it is completely cleaned out.

  • Always keep wax away from the face

  • Take lots of photos (with permission) to remember how much fun it is and to show the person what a lovely canvas they make.

 

At your service,

Tiffany

Oh Zone Adult Store Caringbah Sales Assistant, Educator and Wax Play Devotee

BDSM Dating 101: What to Look for in a Master

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A successful BDSM relationship truly depends on the people involved. Though your attention is focused on sexual activities, you should focus on finding the right partner and also being a good partner. And that’s easier said than done. If you’re interested in exploring master online dating, then you should know what to look for in a master. That way, you’ll choose a partner who will provide you with a safe and fun S&M experience. Here are eight qualities to look for when finding a master.

 

They focus on aftercare

Many people make the mistake of assuming the most important part of an S&M relationship are the sessions themselves. That’s not true. The most important part of an S&M relationship, aside from communication, is aftercare. These sessions take a physical and emotional toll on both master and slave; aftercare is crucial to process the experience and wind down. A good master is someone who values aftercare and sees the importance in it. If a master doesn’t appreciate or invest in aftercare, they’re not concerned about the emotional and mental health of either person.

 

Honesty

Without honesty, your S&M relationship won’t last. In any relationship, honesty is a must. Your master needs to be completely honest and open with you and vice versa. Nothing should be hidden from you; you both need to be open books. He should be able to discuss his previous relationships and answer any questions you have. If he’s hiding information or blaming the failings of his past relationships on his exes, that’s a huge red flag. Before anything, honesty needs to be a foundation in your relationship.

 

They have experience with S&M

Of course, you may meet a master that’s relatively new in the community, and that doesn’t mean they’re going to be bad. But this does mean they lack experience. And if you’re new in the community, it’s always a good idea to start off with someone who has some experience under their belt and a positive reputation. With an experienced master, you’ll be able to learn the rules and techniques that new masters may not know.

 

There’s vanilla chemistry

If you want to have a good S&M relationship, there needs to be basic chemistry between you two. If you’re not attracted to them as a person, then how can you allow them to be your master? He also needs to like you as well. You don’t need to be in love with each other, but you need to like each other. You’re entering a very intense dynamic, and if you’re not interested in them as a person, it will be a problem.

 

They have limits

If a master tells you they don’t have a safeword or they don’t have any personal boundaries, run. Everyone in BDSM needs to have personal boundaries and limitations. BDSM isn’t the wild west where you can do whatever you want to someone else. This doesn’t mean the boundaries are static; with time they can change. However, everyone has their limits. A good master understands this and respects their slaves physical and emotional boundaries.

 

They’re interested in self-development

In BDSM relationships, both people need to be interested in self-development. That’s the only way you can progress and become a better slave/master. A good master is interested in self-development and is constantly working on themselves. He wants to learn from his mistakes and be the best master possible for his slave. That is the type of master you want, someone who wants to be the best they can be for the relationship.

 

You share the same life pattern

Having chemistry is essential, but you need more than that for a successful S&M relationship. You and your master also need to have the same lifestyle. If he’s working nights and you’re working days, there’s a conflicting schedule. If he’s very social, but you’re more of a homebody, that could become a problem. Finding a master with a similar lifestyle will make things easier to manage. Considering how everyone’s schedule is very busy today, this is more important than you think.

 

They have empathy

Your master needs to be good at reading and understanding you. With time, your master should be able to predict your responses to specific acts. Of course, communication is an essential element of empathy. They not only should understand and sense how you feel, but they need to communicate these thoughts with you. If you’re sensing a master lacks empathy, run. If they lack empathy, they could cause physical and emotional harm to you.

 

Finding a master isn’t hard, but you want to find the right master for you. Take your time and find a master who has these qualities. It may take some time, but patience pays off.

 

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VIP Interview With Sir Dominic A BDSM Master At Temple 22

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Sir Dominic is a BDSM Dominant/Master At Temple 22, with over 15 years of private and professional experience, he is the professional you need to see if you want to experience the true feeling of what it is like to be sexually dominated. His highly sort after skill set allows his female and couples clients to explore all types of kinky fantasies including dominance and submission, role-plays, forced orgasm or orgasm denial, scenes of humiliation or degradation, nipple play, bondage scenes and so much more! He is sought out by novice and experienced Dominants and Couples for his BDSM and sexuality coaching services, providing a plethora of knowledge and skills so they can engage in safe, ethical and consensual BDSM practices. In fact, there is a lot of good science behind the benefits of BDSM, which explains what he and his clients get out of it.

Sir Dominic works alongside Temple 22 to provide an environment that is tailored to your interests, desires, and needs. Temple 22 is one of the finest BDSM establishments located in the city of Sydney. If Sir Dominic has caught your eye, your next step is to simply ask him what you are looking for and what you would like to experience. Sir Dominic will tell you everything you ever needed to know. This is a VIP Interview With Sir Dominic A BDSM Master At Temple 22.

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Tell me about yourself

My name is Sir Dominic. I’m a professional BDSM Dominant/Master offering experiences for women and couple’s at Temple 22 – Australia’s premiere 5 Star BDSM establishment. Also, I coach and train people of any gender or sexual orientation in BDSM (Psychology of, Dominance, Skills such as flogging etc) and offer Life Coaching style services for people who want to invest in their own well-being.

When and how did your interest in BDSM and Kink Play begin? (What inspired you?)

Over 20 years ago I stumbled upon an event called ‘The Hellfire Club’ in Sydney, Australia. Little did I know at the time, that it was a Fetish/BDSM party! I walked in and instantly it felt like ‘home’. There were people of all different ages, kinks and persuasions – I connected instantly with the vibe and fun kinky play, and more-so with the inclusivity and the non-judgemental aspect of it all. Once I understood more about the dynamics of Dominance and Submission, I just knew with every cell of my body that I’m a Dominant as this archetype is what spoke directly to my personality type and my desire for sexual self-expression.

What are your favourite quotes the inspire you?

“Intimacy is based on shared vulnerability…nothing deepens intimacy like the experiences that we share when we feel flayed, with our skins off, scared and vulnerable, and our partner is there with us, willing to share in the scary stuff.” -Dossie Easton & Catherine A. Liszt

“In a world that is unfair and often arbitrary and cruel, the ability to escape into the timelessness of our erotic relationships is priceless; a system where excellence and goodness are rewarded and correction and punishment are given with trust and affection is an added bonus.” – Laura Antoniou

“The master in the art of living makes little distinction between his work and his play, his labor and his leisure, his mind and his body, his education and his recreation, his love and his religion. He hardly knows which is which. He simply pursues his vision of excellence at whatever he does, leaving others to decide whether he is working or playing. To him, he is always doing both” – James Michener

These first two quotes sum up perfectly what happens during the BDSM power exchange experience between two consenting adults. These quotes inspire me as it gives form to what happens and is communicated in kinky play. As it has been said ‘Actions speak louder than words’ and the actions in highly-charged BDSM play, rarely can be faked unlike words in our everyday life and interactions. When I play with a submissive, their raw, true self is on display and this state of being, for at least a few moments, is the most honest communication about themselves they can ever express. It’s a level of honesty that rarely can be communicated through words and this is the basis of what intimacy is also for me.

The third quote perfectly summaries my orientation to the art, lifestyle, and energy that is BDSM/kinky play and my life overall. It inspires me to embrace it from every angle and achieve not just a ‘flow’ state in play, but a ‘flow’ state in all aspects of my life – as my energy and presence in play is a direct reflection of my life as a whole.

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How did you learn the skills of BDSM and Kink Play?

It’s a combination of trial and error, seeking out more experienced mentors, a hell of a lot of research and learning of specific skillsets. As a professional, I’m faced with a wide variety of people and I incorporate a lot of varied skills in my play and sessions that one wouldn’t automatically think is important to being a practioner of professional BDSM. I utilise a combination of NLP, conversational hypnosis, sex healing and other counselling and coaching related modalities in my play as the aim of play, to me, is to ensure that the client/play partner has a fantastic experience in every way – from the psychological/emotional to the physical experience. Essentially, to ensure this experience, the holistic framework I apply raises the self-esteem and self-confidence of my client/play partner.  My intuition is also an essential ‘skill’ that I constantly push myself to hone in and listen to what it’s telling me about the play, my client/partner and what we are both experiencing during the play.

What is the importance of coaching and mentoring in BDSM?

I can’t emphasise the importance of seeking out coaching/mentoring in this lifestyle and skillset – but, I will try! The most important skill set to learn is ‘communication’ as the vast majority of success and failure of a play session can be traced back to the depth of, or lack of, communication between the consenting adults that are engaging in this type of play. People aren’t born with the ability to communicate adequately and we learn it over time, but, the communication required to bring out the best in a BDSM experience is very specific and by learning this skillset alone, let alone the rest of the skills for example how to flog, tie-up and lead a submissive etc, will propel a dominant a long way in their journey while ensuring their partners are treated in a safe and ethical way.

What are your favourite memories from working as a Sir/Master?

I’m unable to disclose any particular experience as even without mentioning names, I consider it a break of the trust that has been placed in me as a professional. But, I will say this – A lot of my clients come to see me as they have had this burning desire to explore BDSM but haven’t yet found an appropriately safe and experienced person to explore it with. So, when they finally take the plunge and experience it in a safe, sane and consensual way, they go through a remarkable and profound positive change as they experience a feeling of fulfilment that is only derived from expressing their true sexual self. To me, being aligned with your true sexual self is an important cornerstone to living an authentic life and being able to facilitate that for someone is why I do what I do.

What is it like working for Temple 22?

It’s been an amazing experience all round as the facilities and attention to detail is second to none. I feel very fortunate to work under the guidance of Mistress Ruben and this is priceless to me. She is one of Australia’s most experienced Dominatrixes and is an incredible woman let alone an incredible Mistress. She willingly imparts her invaluable knowledge to her staff to ensure that the clients receive the best experience and foster’s a team atmosphere that is rarely seen in this industry. The refined establishment she has given birth to perfectly encapsulates the BDSM experience with its atmosphere, equipment and highly-skilled staff.

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What is the difference between the way people act in your space than when they are not?

As a professional, I don’t interact with my clients outside of Temple 22 except for some email communication so I can’t say with absolute confidence how they act outside of that, but in saying that, I feel they show me who they really are when they in play as I said earlier in this interview, ‘Actions speak louder than words’.

What is your favourite part of the BDSM sessions?

Honestly? All of it! It’s a real journey that starts with communication with the client. I’m a people person and getting to know the intricacies of their personality before the session starts, allows me to craft the best experience for them. Once the play starts, I’m completely in a ‘flow’ state and the client and I are still communicating but both verbally and non-verbally. I’m hyper-aware of everything but not thinking about anything specifically – this is quite hard to explain with words as this active meditation I’m experiencing is intangible and unique to me as a Dominant playing in the way I do. I enjoy ‘sensual domination’ a lot – this is where the client and I weave sensuality and the more forceful/rougher aspects of BDSM/power-exchange together.

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What are the advantages of exploring BDSM play?

The most obvious advantages of exploring kink, fetishes, and BDSM that came to mind is that it’s fun and feels good! It keeps boredom, monotony, and complacency out of the bedroom. All too often we hear of stories where relationships have ended due to a lack-lustre sex life as there wasn’t much in the way of any activities that are fun and feel good, while deepened and strengthened the bond between partners or lovers.

Relationships are all about communication – verbal and non-verbal and the active exploration of BDSM teaches us better negotiation and communication skills. It teaches us how to articulate and pursue our desires while allowing us to learn about limits, boundaries, and trust. Relationships are essentially empty without trust and communication and these activities constantly reinforce trust and conscious communication between the participants. All of this leads to far greater levels of intimacy with your lover(s) or partner(s).

I’ve been responsible for facilitating many women’s and couple’s first BDSM experiences – the feedback I get is that they feel more self-confident, they have greater self-esteem and invite more ‘pleasure’ into their lives.

How are people able to understand themselves better when they participate in BDSM and Fetish Play?

BDSM gives you a better sense of perspective about your core self and people in general through fun, sexual exploration. You explore the effect of power and/or the lack of it has on your psyche, different sensations and the limits and breadth of your body, mind and emotions. All of this leads, in essence, to be more in touch with your authentic self. BDSM also encourages you to completely accept yourself and this is a fundamental pillar or mental health and well-being. You gain a realistic understanding and appreciation of one’s strengths and weaknesses – this leads to them acknowledging their unique worth with a compassionate attitude towards themselves.

When someone enjoys great BDSM play for the first time, they have an embodied understanding of the importance of pleasure. They are able to perceive their lives before and after they allowed themselves to experience this level of pleasure that is stemming from their unique sexual self-expression. They come to viscerally understand that pleasure brings about happiness. This coupled with self-acceptance, gives them the tools that they need to control their happiness in the little time they have to themselves outside the pressures of work, their family and other responsibilities. We dedicate so much time and energy into just achieving and surviving in our current society, so, to understand what can give them authentic sexual self-expression in the little time they have to experience pleasure, allows them to achieve a greater work/life balance while ensuring they don’t experience the unhealthy effects of sexually repressing themselves. This is liberating and allows them to experience fuller and more meaningful lives while having a lot of fun!

What services do you provide?

I offer BDSM coaching, sessions and workshops for couples and women. I specialise in BDSM skills, life and sexuality coaching services. If you are new to BDSM and would like to explore it and the experience, I have written a detailed BDSM First Timers Guide.

Be sure to read a detailed list of Sir Dominic’s BDSM session services on his website and book a BDSM session with Sir Dominic through Temple 22 or phone 02 9331 4418. Temple 22 is conveniently located next to Hyde Park in Darlinghurst, Sydney.

For my coaching services, or you have any questions and/or would like to speak to me please do so through my website at http://sirdominic.com.au – I look forward to hearing from you!Save

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My Bondage Slave!

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I’m a patient man. The trip took 43 minutes. I timed it from the moment the door latched shut. The elevator lazily climbed towards the 65th floor and snaked its way back down. I wanted coffee. It had been a long afternoon, and my work was only half done. It was break time.  I lined up at the café and waited for my coffee before sitting down beside a rain streaked window. It was a piercingly cold day and my trench coat was fully done up.  I smiled out the window for no one realized what was beneath this coat. It was amusing what could be kept hidden by mere appearances. My reflection was the only thing that smiled back. Few things were noticed in such a busy city.  Having finished my coffee I began the trek back to my work passing by a street florist. He was a lazy and fat man and he’d forgotten to take the thorns off the roses. I argued with him over the price, he offered to trim one and I refused but bought it anyway. The transaction complete I continued on, mildly irritated. It was uneventful, the elevator had several people on the way up – but they disembarked one by one the higher we went up.

I was now alone. I stepped out of the elevator and headed to my room, carefully sliding my security card into the key slot and slowly opening the door.  My Work, my Bondage Slave was where I’d left it, in the middle of the room facing the door tightly strapped to one of the metal chairs by her hands and legs with a thin bondage rope.  She couldn’t move. Nor, I suspect would she, having being told not to. She was surprisingly obedient despite her ferocious attitude. Her legs were spread open revealing her hairless pussy. She had a perfect cunt. It was tight and young. Inviting lips that were still taut and ready to seductively caress. My cock twitched with the thought and I pushed it out of my mind. It was not the time for that. Yet!!

The wand was where I’d left it. Strapped to her thigh and pressing against her exposed clit. She moved cocking her head in an unspoken question. She must have felt the breeze of the door being opened. For there was no way she could see or hear me enter with her blindfold and blocked ears. I smiled and flicked the switch back on. The wand throbbed to life, the intense vibration rubbing against her clit and she tried to squeeze her legs shut. She failed, miserably. She let slip a little gasp and her tits trembled from the effort. Her breathing increased and her tits lunged forward and back hypnotically beckoning me to them. Arching forwards she threw her head back and exposed the leather bondage collar that I found on qwant around her neck, marking her as mine.

I carefully undid the buttons of my trench coat and let it fall to the floor. My body smelt of leather from the harness around my chest. The metal ID tag naming me as master, felt cool on my skin. I walked towards my work, lifted her chin up and kissed her. The afternoon was about to beginHer lips against mine was electric. I slowly traced the rose stem against the side of her chest, ensuring that the thorns dug into her skin. She reacted by biting my lip. I pulled away and dropped the rose– maybe she wasn’t so obedient after all.

 

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The Bondage Slave

 

 

I pushed the chair back and her body tensed with fear as she struggled to regain her balance. It was no use though – she was tied tightly to the chair. It was feeding time for my bondage slave. I pulled her chair forward, the wand still vibrating against her clit and leaned the chair against my body. Her face was buried in my crotch. I pulled down my leather jock and my thick cock pressed against her cheek. I squeezed her cheeks tightly with a hand and she opened her mouth. I wasted no time, balancing the chair with one hand I pulled her head over my dick with the other. She choked and her body trembled as she gagged. I pulled her off my dick, her saliva coating it with a glistening residue. She licked her lips and struggled against her sex restraints again.  I adjusted the body wand, increasing its speed and she stopped struggling. Pulling her again over my cock I felt the constriction as it went deep down her throat, her throat muscles contracting against the thickness of my cock. I stroked her neck and squeezed, I could feel my cock in her throat. It was a pleasant feeling. I held my pose and moved her chair back and forth forcing her to take it as she gurgled, gagged and moaned. Her body twitching against my cock in her throat and the intense vibrations on her clit – I could tell she was happy. I could tell she was close.

Her breathing had increased, and her moans were vibrating around my dick. I wanted her to come with my cock down her throat. I released my grip on her head and reached down to her pussy – I turned down the wand again to a soft buzz and started tracing my finger against her wetness, she shuddered at the touch and gurgled some more. One finger went in, followed by another, she strained again against the restraints her hunger and desperation increased and was mimicked by her renewed interest in my cock. I slid my wet fingers inside her cunt, slowly. She was still warm, it had been a long afternoon. Then I threw caution to the wind and finger fucked her hard and fast – making sure I lifted one finger for her g-spot which I knew she loved. It didn’t take long.  Her body started pulsing, her pussy tried to clamp down on my fingers and saliva was starting to drip down my balls as she rapidly started losing control of her body. It came quickly. It started with a strangled cry and she let out a loud prolonged moan and took my cock to the hilt and held onto it like a life raft. Her whole body trembled as she came and her throat, pulsing as she gasped for air, almost caused me to lose my game. She flopped within her bondage chair as the powerful shudders swept over her. Her saliva swept down my cock and dribbled from her mouth as the shudders left her almost paralyzed.

It took a while to pass and as the shudders drew to a close, she released her life grip on my cock and I pushed her chair back to the ground and turned off the wand. Her chest heaving I traced my wet fingers around her nipples, I lent down and kissed them, licking up the residue I’d left behind. I took off her blindfold and ear blocks, and rammed my fingers down her throat. I took her blindfold off and she looked carefully into my eyes as I said, ‘Now for round two.’

She was already panting but I wasn’t finished. She was getting more. I quickly pulled loose the bondage knots that bound the chair, and she collapsed forward. She was much smaller than my 6 foot three frame, barely coming up to my chest. She was easy to carry to over to the bed. Almost too easy.  I fell on her, concealing her frame as we kissed.  Pinning her arms above her head as she squirmed, arching her tits against my chest. She was as insatiable as I.  Pretty soon her kisses became more intense as arousal overtook her body’s fatigue and I released her arms allowing her to explore my body.   She was ready once again.

Our tongues swirling as her nails dug fiercely into my back as she gripped my leather chest harness. The pain intensified my hunger.  I traced a tongue from her lips and down to her neck my hand groping her breast and my other hand tracing small circles on her inner thigh. She scratched her nails down the middle of my back – she knew I hated that. The movement annoyed me and I grabbed her wrists and used the ropes dangling from her wrists to tie her to the headboard.

She lay there – still and unsure – watching me. I gave her a smile, as I crouched down, biting her neck and ear. My hands focus was on her thigh, teasingly circling and causing her to squirm like a mermaid out of water. I gripped her cunt and swirled my thumb around her clit in short circular motions as I took one of her breasts into my mouth suckling fiercely.   She barely had time to squirm before her legs opened wider and I slipped my fingers back into her pussy, my thumb continuing to circle slowly.   I sucked her tit, my teeth wrapping around her hardening nipple as I alternated between biting and sweeping circles with my tongue. She arched into me again and I moved lower. Her wet pussy was in front of my face, her clit exposed and devoid of its hood and I went to work. Using long broad strokes of my tongue I caressed her inner thigh, edging with each stroke closer to the prize until at last I arrived and was rewarded with a long moan. I reached up, as I tongued her clit, and held her down by holding onto her tits. My tongue strokes became longer as I continued to lick her clit, down one side and up the other. Her taste was in my mouth and I grabbed her by the waist and pulled her towards me – smothering my face with her juicy cunt – warmth enveloped me. I knew what she liked – and I worked her clit with my tongue. She continued to moan and her muscles started to tense – with her heavy breathing I knew she was close again. I stroked her a few more times until she was just on the edge. Then I stopped. Her pleasure was my control. And I wasn’t ready!!!