Sensory Play -Getting The Most Of YOUR Orgasmic Experience!

What I’m about to tell you is going to blow your mind. It’s going to redefine your understanding of sex and pleasure and it’s going to completely change your bedroom routine. I had a mind-blowing orgasm. And my orgasm was that fucking good that I’m absolutely compelled to tell you about it.

Working in the sex industry both in a retail porn store, as a sexual consultant, and as a sex education teacher to young gay men – I’ve heard it all. But one thing that keeps coming up is just how much importance we place on our cocks and the idea of penetrative sexual activity. When you’re young, horny and driven by hormones you have an insatiable need to stick your dick in whatever kind of hole you can find, or have your hole filled with whatever hard thing you can get your ass cheeks on. Your body, your mind, and your dick (or hole) demand that sexual release. And why should you think anything else? Both pornography and popular culture are continually driven to two points – the moment when there is penetration and the moment of ejaculation. Penetration seemingly always provides him/her with a climax within minutes, and from there we wait for his money shot. Real sex doesn’t work like that, and when it doesn’t, many young people feel that they’re not good enough in bed, that they’re doing something wrong or that there’s something wrong with them. So often this begins a cycle of sexual performance issues and other concerns.
We need to change that. Sex isn’t about putting pressure on ourselves, or sexual partners. It’s about pleasure, enjoyment and fun. Mutual pleasure, mutual enjoyment and mutual fun (unless you’re going solo in which case be as selfish as you need to be!!) But what if we took the focus away from the cock and subsequently away from penetration, what if we focused on the body? What if we slowed the whole twelve and a half minutes of furious thrusting (with alternating sensuality and gentleness) to an afternoon of sexual enjoyment and pleasure? Yes, there’s a place for quickie sex, and it’s a fantastic way to while away a few minutes in the car when you’ve turned up early, but let’s hold that thought and picture the following.
His hands tied to the bedpost, his ankles connected to a spreader bar. He’s wearing a blindfold and he can’t see you. He can hear you, he can smell you – but he just can’t see you as you approach with your bdsm crop. This – is sensory play. The idea that the ENTIRE body is a play toy for your amusement. A tickle here, a soft tongue there, a toy somewhere else. Bringing him to close to climax but never quite allowing for that release.  Sensory play breaks the routine of foreplay kissing, oral sex, hand job, sticking it in, moaning and then climaxing. Sensory play has the potential to turn routine sex into something exciting and unexpected. Put simply, sensory play is about the involvement of the body’s five senses; smell, touch, hear, see and taste.
BDSM Wartenberg
Wartenberg Sensory Wheel
One of the most sensual aspects of sensory play involves sight. We all like sex in the dark. It’s kind of comforting (they can’t see whatever flaws that you might think that you have), and it generally fits into our routines well. However, there’s another thing about sex in the dark that we don’t often consider. Due to the lack of light, our body has to make sense of what’s happening through the other senses. It automatically increases the sense of touch, taste, smell, and hearing to make up for the loss of sight and by knowing this you can take full advantage of the body’s responses. Sensory play can be as simple as using a blindfold, or it can be as complex as wearing a blindfold,having them tied up and using a variety of toys (Waternberg wheels, ice, body wands, forks, spoons, feathers, a dressing gown belt, a leather belt, a shoelace – the total bdsm package) to provide stimulation from the tips of their ears, to the bottom of their feet.
So how do you do sensory play? Sensory play can be as much or as little as you want it to be. Sight play is often the easiest sense to play with because it only involves a blindfold. But consider how various scenes and situations can place emphasis, or highlight the body’s other senses. For sight play, you can use things around the house such as the utensils mentioned above that you can get from the kitchen. Or you can use a variety of implements and tools that create a range of sensations from pleasurable to painful. Once they’re blindfolded, once they’re restrained, they are yours to do with what you will (with consent!).

In this way, by taking the pressure of intercourse, and focusing on the body together you’re not only increasing the level of intimacy between the people involved (can be more than two), but you’re also allowing the body to use its senses to heighten the level of enjoyment and pleasure. Combine this with some edging play and a couple of sensual hours and I guarantee that you’ll be soon experiencing an orgasm like you never have before. So think about this, think about allowing your entire body to be used as a play toy – and simply relax and let go. Focus on the next touch, where it’s going to come from, what it’s going to be. And you’ll quickly discover just how in the moment your body, and mind, can be. I don’t need to go in the specific details of what you can and can’t do – that’s entirely up to your own imaginations. But what I will tell you, ladies and gentlemen is that by following some of these little points is you’ll be well on your way to having the best damn orgasm that you can remember.

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