2020 Best Gay Sex Positions

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Are you ready to find out the best gay positions you can replicate with your partner to have a very good and intense sexual experience together. These are some of the best 2020 positions.

Daddy and Daddy

Gay version of the straight “dad and mom”, the two men face each other and whoever is penetrated gets their legs around their partner. With this position, the two can exchange many kisses, caresses and look each other in the eye, which makes the moment much more special.

Pile driver

This is certainly one of the most pleasant positions! Similar to “Daddy and Daddy”, the passive stands with his legs raised while the active penetrates him from above. The penetration gets even deeper and the angle stimulates the passive prostate.If you want delicious anal penetration, face-to-face contact and the opportunity to kiss your partner during sex, this position is ideal, as it allows all this type of contact, making sex much more pleasurable for you. both, given the level of intimacy.

Shells

It is perfect for couples who like to snuggle up right after sex. They lie together on the bed, facing the same side, and the asset penetrates from behind. Penetration is easier because the muscles of the pelvic region are relaxed. The active boy, while penetrating, can masturbate his partner guaranteeing maximum pleasure. A sexual position that both will enjoy.

Spider man

Ideal for the situation where the asset has an upward curved penis. The liability is suspended by pressing one wall with the back and the other with the feet. The asset is in front of you, penetrating from the bottom up

69

There would be no way to leave the classic 69 off that list. The idea is to encourage the partner in every way possible while he strives to give back. Lying down, each one has their face in the other’s groin, having oral sex.

Bite and Blow

One of the men lies with his hips on the edge of the bed, while the partner comes in front of him and penetrates him. To make things even better, whoever is penetrating can bend over to have oral sex on their partner.

Perfect soulmates

Also known as “Perfect Fit”, this position is super romantic and allows many kisses and caresses. One sits while the other sits facing him, on top, and surrounds him with his arms and legs.

Electric drill

The penetration is much deeper in this position! The passive stands with his leg raised while the active penetrates him from the front. In this way, the asset is very free to control the movements

Bulldog

Another classic position that could not be left out of the list! In it, the active is behind, penetrating and embracing the companion, guaranteeing a lot of pleasure to both.

Big tiger

Penetration is very simple and the two partners are close together. The liability lies on its stomach and the asset comes over the top and penetrates it.

This is a classic and infallible position in anal sex, a kind of puppy, but lying down. To perform it, the active boy must have strong arms to be able to move during penetration, while the passive must raise his chair slightly. To ensure the comfort of those who are penetrated, it is best to place a pillow at the level of the abdomen, so it is not necessary to force the cervical, obtaining a much more intense pleasure.

Leg wrench

A variation of the “Piledriver” , in this pleasurable position, the passive wraps the legs around the partner as he penetrates him. The two are very close and the passive manages to control the intensity of the movements.

Legs in the air

It can be done on a chair. While the active is seated, the partner goes over the top with legs raised. The penetration is very deep and the two can look each other in the eye and exchange affection during the relationship.

We hope that this article has proven very useful and that it has given you and your gay partner a lot of new ideas to spice up your sex life in a very fun and safe way.

Technology And Sex: SexTech!

Many people think that the consumption of pornography and the use of sex toys are the dregs of humanity and the most vulgar of pleasures. It’s dirty, its filthy, it should be behind closed doors, and it should never be spoken about. I hate to break it to you, but, the world owes pornography, and indeed the adult Industry, a lot. When it comes to advancements of technology, you’ll often find that the porn and adult industry are at the forefront of technology. E-Commerce websites, Online Streaming (1994), webcams (1995), a demand for Increased Bandwidth and internet speed and even the VCR are just a few examples of what the world owes the pornography industry. With an increase in accessibility combined with the breaking down of social taboos and the normalisation of sex and pleasure it’s little wonder that Pornhub chews through 147 gigabytes a second every single day. But why is the sex industry of the forefront of technology when we still struggle to embrace sex without having to hide it, and what are the benefits of sex tech?

SexTech is an increasingly common word being used to describe the rise of technology within sex toys. At it’s core SexTech refers to the idea and philosophy that tech is being used to enhance and innovate areas of human sexuality, and the sexual experience. Think contraception apps, we-vibe connectivity apps, Elvie Vaginal ‘fit bits’, sex robots, vibrators and even Artificial Intelligence designed to simulate/replace/replicate intimacy. But it does go further, those are some of the more obvious and more visible things when it comes to technology and sex. Some of the things that we don’t consider are media reports on sexual assault, the #metoo movement, the Gender Equality Movement,  – all of which are being bolstered by technologies from reporting tools and anonymous style apps, to the prolific use of social media, to their visibility on media platforms every single day of the week. In this regard, SexTech is a term that is starting to see more use with each passing day and becoming increasingly important as we acknowledge and interact with it. At the end of the day we simply cannot escape the idea that sex and sexuality (and/or the lack thereof) is at the heart of everything that we do as people. It’s defaulted into us from a young age and for the majority of individuals it becomes an inseparable and unique part of our personality and our identity. It has the power to structure our relationships, lives, personal identity, and even our own happiness.
So why the big deal about tech?  Interconnectedness and cosmopolitanism are becoming increasingly prevalent – the power of the smartphone in your pocket today exceeds the computing power that put humanity on the moon. Technology is becoming increasingly inseparable to our day to day lives, we use it to make our lives easier, so why wouldn’t we be using it for sex and pleasure? Technology is becoming a significant part of sex and the sex industry, and as we continue to break down the barriers and hidden nature of sex, it’s only going to become more viable, more prevalent and increasingly interconnected. Sex tech and the breaking down of the taboo nature of sex and pleasure work in conjunction with each other. The more we talk about sex, the more technology will jump on the bandwagon. The more technology jumps on the bandwagon, the more we will talk about sex. This cycle will eventually see the continued and increased normalisation of ideologies surrounding sex and pleasure, the likes of which have never been seen before.
Indeed, the newest realms of sextechs is seeing the prominence of groups previously seen as invisible – with events, technology, gear and toys now being created for people with disabilities, the ageing population, trans people and everyone(1) in between. Previously, such toys and gear were made for the general population because of the business viability. It made sense in terms of business profitability to market toys to a broad spectrum of people in order to increase your market share. Sex was not open, pleasure was not discussed. Now, within an increasingly e-commerce market, the ability to ship products across the globe, the increasing percentage of people with internet access (55% in 2018), and our willingness to embrace pleasure and gear, it now makes sense to create products for the purpose of equitable access to pleasure vs profit margins and market shares.
Such groups, previously ignore or dismissed, are now seeing an increased access to technology allowing them to offer their own insights and to help with the development of products and services that best suit their needs and desires. It’s not all happiness and roses though. Recently there was great concern at the actions of the Consumer Electronics Show which initially awarded a group of women an honouree title in the Robotics and Drone category for their Ose ‘Personal Massager’. Its use of micro-robotics to aid in providing blended orgasms was seen as innovative and inclusive. That is, until the Consumer Technology Association (CTA which owns, and produces the CES event) stepped in to strip them of their award on the basis that the entry was deemed to be disqualified because it did not meet their rules Standards. CTA referred to a rule which stipulated that entries seen to be ‘immoral, obscene, indecent, profane, or not keeping with” the organisations image will be disqualified. I’m not going to go too into depth on the issues here, largely that this statement implies that women’s sexual wellness products are deemed to be indecent, but it does show that the tech industry still has some work to do when it comes to mixing technology with sex. There’s hope though.
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Japanese Robotics companies are spearheading the use of sex robots and Pleasure AI to advance technologies in robotics research, computer sciences and Artificial Intelligence mechanics and systems. Phones are increasingly becoming connected to our sex toys and the idea of pleasure. The more we embrace SexTech, the more powerful and cost effective it will become.

Sex Is Fun!

Sex is fun!

It’s pleasurable, we do it with ourselves and others because we want to and we enjoy it. It feels good. But what happens when you’re not enjoying it? What happens when your sex drive seems to have taken a nose dive and something that you once enjoyed has become a bit of chore? With Valentines Day coming up, we’re going to go through a few reasons as to why you might not be enjoying sex and how you can navigate through them. I’m going to say navigate through them as opposed to fixing things, because the term fixing things implies that something is broken – when it comes to a lower sex drive, or when you’re not enjoying sex as much as you think you should be – there are actually a variety of reasons that can be present here and none of them imply brokenness. The truth of the matter is that your sex drive is determined by a variety of factors and it’s in a continual state of change depending on what is going on in your life and surroundings, as well as your physical and mental health. Regardless of whether your sexual dissatisfaction is long term, or short term its important to remember that your perfectly normal. With that in mind – lets go through some reasons as to why you might not be enjoying sex.

Note: This article contains information that may be triggering to those who have experienced sexual trauma or assault

You’re engaging, or being engaged in sexual activity before you’ve had time to become aroused.  Perhaps some sex secrets unveiled has turned you on.

Your mind and body may move at different speeds when it comes to becoming aroused, and the preparation of your mind and body is paramount to enjoyment. Foreplay is an activity that is designed to get the blood flowing throughout the body and in particular to the genitals. This blood flow increases arousal, and helps with lubrication, as well as the ability to climax during sexual activity. The issue here is something i’ve discussed in previous articles – many people equate the idea that sex equals intercourse. Foreplay is just as much sex and intimacy as intercourse, and it helps in taking the pressure off the idea that there’s only one outcome to sex – penetration/intercourse. Foreplay does not have to lead to this, and when you remember this, and acknowledge that, you may find yourself able to free your mind up and enjoy foreplay and the pleasure that that brings.

You’re not mentally or emotionally ready to have sex.

Sex and enjoyment is about context. If you’re stressed or anxious and a partner attempts to initiate sex – in most cases you will not be able to access the feelings of desire, and pleasure easily. For this reason it’s important to communicate how you’re feeling to your partner. Some people find sex and pleasure as a way of coping with stress, anxiety and moving past the day to day stresses of life, others might have trouble navigating through this.

Anxiety about your body or appearance.

Sex feels good but it is incredibly vulnerable. You’re naked, with a sexual partner, and during that moment your insecurities might rear their head. Anxiety about your body, appearance is the one of the biggest enemies to desire and pleasure. It’s difficult to believe that someone else will find pleasure in your body when you’re struggling. Again, this is about communication with your sexual partner. Identify those vulnerabilities and talk about them. If you feel that you can’t talk about them, then you may need to address them in other ways. Self-doubt is one of the biggest pleasure killers around.

Discomfort around previous sexual experiences.

Sex is an incredibly vulnerable moment. And when someone has broken that trust before, it can set in motion a chain reaction of feelings, and thoughts and can be quite triggering in some situations. Whether you’re navigating through previous trauma, or if you’re worried about your level of sexual experience in comparison to your partners – these thoughts and feelings will usually creep up before, during or even after sex – making enjoyment quite difficult. Communicating with your partner about your concerns, or seeking professional help when it comes to trauma or abuse is one way of moving a step forward.

You’re not comfortable around your partner

Sex involves a multitude of layers around intimacy. If you’re not able to be fully comfortable with your sexual partner, then chances are you’re going to have a hard time enjoying the experience. This may involve sitting down with your partner, and telling them what’s going on, or seeking professional help.

You have a shame, stigma or fear about your sexual needs, wants or kinks.

I mentioned a little earlier that sex doesn’t necessarily have to involve intercourse. Sex and sexuality exists on a wide, far reaching spectrum and every individual person has different needs, wants, kinks and even desires. Opening up to your sexual partner creates a certain vulnerability, and it can be intimidating – especially when it involves kink. Ultimately, the advice is pretty straight forward. If it’s about a need, kink or sexual want that you can’t live without – then you need to tell your partner or find someone that you can tell. Bottling up a safe, sane and consensual sexual need or kink is going to do you more harm than good because ultimately, you’ll continually find yourself being sexually dissatisfied causing both yourself, and your partner frustration and confusion. Honesty, openness and freedom is paramount to this one.

You’re on medication that profoundly impacts your sex drive.

Depression medication can kill your sex drive as well as a variety of over the counter medications. If you’re on prescription medication and experiencing a drop in your sex drive, it might be worth speaking to your medical professional about that. Especially when it comes to antidepressants, there are a range of different options that you may be able to use.

You have a medical condition that makes sex painful.

This can be quite common and can very quickly put a stop to the enjoyment of sex. There are a variety of medical conditions that can cause pain, dryness or even irritation after sexual intercourse. This might include skin conditions, autoimmune disorders, excess nerves, endometriosis and vaginismus. Men might also experience this with an overly curved dick, foreskin issues and anal fissures. This list is not exhaustive, and if you do not know why you are experiencing pain – see your doctor to find some answers. When you anticipate pain during or after intercourse, your body’s natural response will be to ignore arousal.

You may be trying to use positions that just don’t work for you

You might be experiencing pain or discomfort and this might not always be a medical condition. Sometimes, a position just might not work for you due to your partners size, or penile curvature. Dr Ingber, MD,  a Board-certified in Urology and Female Pelvic Medicine & Reconstructive Surgery at the Center for Specialized Women’s Health makes the following suggestion – If you’ve seen a medical professional and still don’t have a clear answer – then it might be wise to try different positions, lubricant, or even use toys to try and overcome the issue.

You’re not prioritizing sleeping, eating well or exercise.

There’s a connection between physical, mental, emotional, and sexual health. If you’re neglecting on of those pillars, you might find the others crumble a little bit. It’s important to take care of these pillars as trying to engage with sex when your body, brain or emotions aren’t quite aligned can be quite difficult and even stressful. Rest up before playing.

Drinking too little water

Fun Fact – dehydration can not only lower your libido, but it can actually make sex painful. Not drinking enough water can cause headaches, fatigue, and irritability which will absolutely hinder you getting in the mood. Lack of water can also create dry irritated skin which can potentially lead to pain during sex. There’s also studies out there which have linked dehydration to erectile dysfunction – so make sure to keep your water intake steady.

Stress

Stress is an absolute buzzkill. Worrying about finances, life, work, family, partners, car repairs and a multitude of other worries will kill your sex life. Mental energy plays an important role during the enjoyment of sex, and it can be easily distracted. If it’s paying attention to other things as opposed to your own body and pleasure, you’ll quickly find yourself not in the moment and definitely not enjoying yourself.

As you can see – there’s a variety of reasons that your libido might be low and some of these are the best sex secrets. It’s important to address medical concerns as quickly as possible, be open and honest with your partner and self about these issues. Acknowledgement, honesty and openness are the first steps to reclaiming your sex life, your own pleasure. Until next time. . .

Sex Education – Male Refractory Period Review!

I love sex. It’s great, it’s fun, it’s intimate, there’s touching, there’s dick, there are mouths and i can go on and on and on about the joys of sex. But – there’s a little secret about sex that unknowingly places a lot of pressure on guys. In university – there was a dude i took home. We’ll call him Dave. Dave wasn’t going to be a forever boy, we both knew that Dave was a fuck boy and there was just some physical sexual attraction that we needed to sweat out. And so we did. Once. Twice. Three times. By the third time, i was almost shooting dry and it was taking a bit of the edge off, but five minutes later – Dave was hard again. And. . . again. Five ejaculations over the course of the afternoon, i don’t even know if i came the last time – but Dave did. He came every single time, and five minutes later he was fucking hard again. Don’t get me wrong, Dave was fun, he was hot, and i enjoyed it. The first time. The second time. Maybe even a little the third time – but then i was done. I was dusted. My dick, my body had had enough. Dave – hadn’t.

Porn might have convinced you at some stage that men are like the little energizer bunnies, they keep going and going and going – but realistically, scientifically, everyone is different. What I’m talking about is the male refractory period – or in layman’s terms, the time between orgasms. After ejaculation, your brain floods your body with hormones and neural signals that tells your body you need to relax, especially the penis – this is why (for the most part) a lot of men will begin to lose their erection shortly after ejaculation. It happens, it’s natural, biologically the body understands that he’s shot his load and that he might have had a chance to achieve reproduction. That’s it. It’s science as to why some guys can keep going, and some just can’t. After ejaculation the males dopamine and testosterone levels drop, while the body is flooded with serotonin and prolactin. The more prolactin produced, the longer it will take for his refractory period to expire. Some guys, like Dave, don’t produce a lot of prolactin, or maybe i just made him extremely horny and aroused – we’ll never know. But what we do know is that there was a difference between our refractory periods and though i was quite stressed at the time for the failing of my body, now i know that it’s all pretty normal.
Aside from our bodies, the Refractory Period is also affected by other factors such as stress, energy levels, drug and alcohol use, and even arousal levels.  Young men in their late teens and early twenties may only need a few minutes, while 30-40 year olds may need an hour or so. So how does this cause stress? Well, it comes to the old adage of when mates are sitting around the table telling each other how much sex they’ve had this week, how many times they banged their partner the night before. The truth is remarkably simple – if you’re happy then that’s all that matters. You shouldn’t try keeping up with the Jones’s (or Dave. Goddamn Dave) you should be going at your own pace. Sure, if you’re experiencing confidence issues, or if you are having problems – here are two changes that you can help you to decrease your male refractory period.

1. Diet

Diet goes a long way to looking after your body. I’m not talking about being athletic, or built, or going to the gym 12 times a day to check out that trainer you’re lusting after. I’m talking about taking care of what you’re putting into your body. If you’re putting in a lot of sugar, high fat/fried/fast food items, then your body is not going to be performing as well, you’ll be stressing it out, and it’ll be working overdrive. This can ultimately affect your energy levels – all of which can affect your refractory period. Alcohol and drug use (recreational and prescription) can also affect your body – so make sure you’re checking these out and making considerations or seeking the advice of a medical professional as to what you’re using.
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2. Arousal

Arousal goes a long way to directly affecting the refractory period. When you’re banging away for a quick fuck and orgasm within a few minutes – you’ve essentially given the body a quick fix. It has no need to be aroused again. But spend an afternoon away frolicking in the bedroom, foreplay – to the point that your dick is dripping and you’re not sure whether you can take anymore and you just desperately need that release – well that high level of arousal is continually pumping hormones into your body which can wash out everything else. Ultimately, a long session of foreplay, teasing, edging, or period of play where you’re not getting release can drastically reduce your refractory period. Plus – it feels great!

Erotic Fiction Or Fact?

The best kind of erotic stories are one that’s based on the truth. Now i’m not guaranteeing that everything in this story is fact, but what i’m suggesting is that there were certain events that led to this story. . . Here goes.

A chance encounter while shopping reconnected me with an old friend. In the past we had a friend’s with benefits kind of relationship. And to be honest I had some experience as a slightly older boy having turned 18 a while ago and she had none. But jump forward 12 years and here we are catching up over a coffee, chatting about people and places from our past and it didn’t take long for one of us to mention our more personal adventures.

It was then that I learnt I was her first, it was news to me and I took the opportunity to give a cheeky compliment that she made all the right moves and seemed to know what she was doing, a natural.

Fast forward to a few days after our catch up and I receive a text from her, she quite openly asked during our coffee date if I was tempted to go off with her to some private place and relive some of those benefits we shared before or was she alone in that thought? I replied that the more we spoke about old times the more it crept into my mind – and i left it open to flirt.

In the days that followed we continued to exchange texts that where getting more and more on the subject of reconnecting sexually. One night the phone goes off again and it’s a simple but exciting question on my screen. “what do you want to do to me?” and to tell the truth I was shook, I didn’t know how to answer, was she expecting some descriptive play by play of a sexual encounter? Or was I expected to reply in a way that I can’t even begin to understand?

For the first time in many years I felt nervous, and decided to reply with a bit of a dodge “I want to fulfill your desires, whatever you want I will do”. If her first question didn’t make me feel nervous enough her next text had me completely questioning my self-image as a experienced sexual being, she began to describe how she wanted me to tie her hands above her head, kiss & bite her as I removed her clothes, and I thought well this isn’t anything new to me, all things I had done before. But that’s were my experience ended and I began to realized she had become a lot more experienced in exploring herself sexually than I.

The following texts all described how she will want me to choke her, spank her if she does not give the desired response, call her names & use all manner of devices on her, she ended out stating “I want you to completely dominate me” Not knowing what to say I responded with a joke “my safe word is keep going” to witch I was told safe words are useless when she is gauged.

I was both excited and nervous, she was defiantly requesting a kind of play I had never done. And I was running though my head, how do I go about this? How do I completely dominate someone and be in total control of another’s body, and that’s when I realized, she is the one who is in control here. She had outlined exactly what she wanted and I was putting all my thoughts and effort into how to successfully do this to her satisfaction. I had become so obsessed with making sure she was satisfied I didn’t even care if I enjoyed it. I felt like I was the slave here not her.

This was the first time my confidence as a dominant sexual being was challenged. She had told me that when we first had sex I was her first. But now I felt like I was the new one, nervous and scared of getting it wrong. And so I did what a lot of people would do, I completely hid my worries from her and acted like it was nothing new, not wanting her to know that this was new ground for me. Fake it till I make it I had decided.

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And so came the day when she invited me around. By this point there was no beating around the bush in how she spoke to me. “bring something to restrain me, and plenty of toys to fuck me with”

For a moment I considered the irony, she is the one completely in control of this situation in which I am to play the part of the one in control and boy had the tables turned from all those years ago where I was the one who knew what they were doing. A very new road lay ahead of me as I drove to her house, bag of toys sitting in the seat next to me, trying to compose myself and squash my clear nervous excitement. I received one final text before I arrived “the door is unlocked, I’m waiting”…..