Molten Mastery – Wax Play Appreciation

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Indulge in your senses.

Close your eyes and imagine the thick rivulets of wax sliding over the mounds and curves of your skin, set hard in the cool air that hovers around you.

 

Ever been interested in the sensations of hot and cold?

 

Ever enjoyed hot hot showers or perhaps the allure of stone massages?

 

Perhaps Wax play is for you dearest.

 

Wax play is the art of pouring, dripping and playing with fetsih wax on the human body. Either stand alone or in conjunction with being tied up, flogged, or as part of a scene. Wax in itself is a beautiful material and comes in many different colours and temperatures.

 

To begin our divulge into this art form we must first impart how important it is to only use fetish candles that are specific to fetish play. You mustn’t use candles that can be bought from convenience store or hardware stores as they will have unpredictable burning temperatures, be mixed with chemicals that will have unstable burning properties and have a higher risk of causing lasting damage to skin.

 

Candles used in wax play will be made out of two different types of materials. Soy or paraffin or a combination of the two. Never use Beeswax candles. These will burn too hot for human skin to handle and cause burns to the skin that will need emergency attention.

 

When preparing for any wax play always ensure that your space is clear and clean to play. Remove any flammable materials in case your candles were to knock over to ensure there are no fire hazards. In the event that something was to catch on fire or the wax was too hot for the skin, also ensure that there are precautions to put out the fire and a damp cloth to remove hot wax from the body and burn gel. Just in case. Safety first.

 

Next, place matting, sheeting or padding down for ease of cleaning up. Wax play can get messy. Another reason why it is so scrumptiously fun. For this reason, do not attempt it on the carpets.

 

Now, our choice of tools. You may choose to drip the wax from the candles, or melt and pour the wax from a wax melting pot with a small scoop/ladle. This is called flooding. Scooping larger amounts of liquid wax can be visually stunning but don’t forget it will also be more intense with heat, so ensure that the skin is prepped and that you have built up to this step. You are not going all out on a whim, this is an art form to be worked up to.

 

Start by picking a comfortable spot to lie or sit down and begin by negotiating the scene. Discuss what will be happening, any hard or soft limits, that there may be. Warm up the areas of skin by using massage candles (typically hot oil that won’t have a burning temperature but still feels oh so good) or some light impact play. This will warm up the skin and get it ready for the heat of the wax that is about to be indulged in. Temperature play on cold and skin that isn’t ready can be dangerous and can be a risk for the “bottom” or the person that is receiving it.

 

Both for dripping and pouring wax, there are different techniques that can be used that will change the way that the wax will both the temperature and the feel on the skin. The closer you spill the wax to the ski, the hotter it will feel,the more immediate it will come and the smoother it will linger. The further away, the cooler it will be as it will have more opportunity to intertwine with the air around it. The more anticipation there will be, as there will be more time for the wax to fall from where it is being spilled from. Depending on the height of the fall will also affect the impact of the wax on the skin and in particular how messy it may be. This can cause some absolutely magnificent splashwork that cannot be replicated, one of a kind artwork and artfeel.

 

Cleaning up can be part of the fun of wax play. To make taking wax off easier, rub moisturiser or oil onto the skin beforehand. Peel off wax in larger chunks, or incorporate blunt (or if you’re game and it is your kink a sharp knife) to scrape off the wax. Ice will help the wax harden and help to remove it and add a cool element to your temperature play.

 

  • Some tips and tricks to remember:

  • Tie up hair to keep it out of the wax

  • Shave or keep wax away from body hair

  • Do not put wax into the belly button as it is very hard to ensure that it is completely cleaned out.

  • Always keep wax away from the face

  • Take lots of photos (with permission) to remember how much fun it is and to show the person what a lovely canvas they make.

 

At your service,

Tiffany

Oh Zone Adult Store Caringbah Sales Assistant, Educator and Wax Play Devotee

What’s the Difference Between a Kink and Fetish?

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With the rising popularity of BDSM, people are becoming more comfortable talking about kinks and fetishes. Though casual conversation of BDSM helps bring awareness and promotes sexual expression, we tend to throw around the terms ‘kink’ and ‘fetish’ around, thinking they’re the same. And while these two terms are used almost interchangeably, they actually hold their own definitions and differences. By knowing the differences between the two, next time you’re having a kinky chat with your partner, you’ll know what you’re talking about. So, what are the differences between a ‘kink’ and a ‘fetish’?

 

What is a fetish?

In general, a fetish is a sexual obsession to a specific body part or object, not inherently sexual in nature. For example, someone may have a foot fetish or shoe fetish, neither being sexual objects. A fetish is essential to an individual’s sexual identity, meaning their fetish must be incorporated into their sex lives.

 

What is a kink?

A kink is a broader term than a fetish. When an individual has a kink, it means they’re attracted to a variety of sexual interests that go beyond vanilla sex. This includes BDSM, impact play, and roleplaying. Essentially, kinks are beyond conventional sex acts, and include but aren’t limited to:

 

  • Bondage
  • Spanking
  • Strap-on sex
  • Fisting
  • Male Chastity
  • Furry
  • Voyeurism
  • Foot Worship
  • FemDom
  • Ageplay

 

So if you thought sex in doggy style was kinky, think again. When it comes to kinky sex, it’s all about adventuring outside “normal” sex.

 

What are the differences between ‘fetish’ and ‘kink’?

Though they share similarities, having a kink and fetish are two different things. You may find that they overlap, and that’s because it’s true. When it comes to kinks and fetishes, there is a grey area between the two – no one said sex was black and white!

 

The best way to understand the differences is to think of it like this: all fetishes are kinks, but not all kinks are fetishes. For example, someone’s kink could be seeing their partner in high heels while having sex, but this can also be another person’s fetish.

 

  • Fetishes are psychological

The main difference between a kink and fetish is the psychological connection someone has with their fetish. Someone with a kink can have a sexual experience without performing any sexual acts that are outside of mainstream sex. In other words, they’re able to have sex in the missionary position, for example, and receive sexual pleasure and gratification. Whereas, someone with a fetish is psychologically and sexually dependent on a specific act or object. A fetishist will not be able to become aroused without their fetish; they’re psychologically dependent on it for sexual pleasure.

 

  • Most fetishes develop from early life

Like we said above, fetishes are connected to an individual’s psychological state. Now, having a fetish doesn’t mean someone is unhealthy or mentally unstable. However, it’s believed that fetishism develops from childhood experiences.

 

If someone has a fetish for a specific object, they had a strong sexual connection with that object during childhood. The desire of a particular object is developed through reinforcement. If they received sexual gratification from leather pants or shoes during childhood, for example, the behavior will continue to develop sexually in their adult years. Whereas an individual’s kinks can develop through sexual experimentation, etc.

 

  • Kinks are not necessary for sexual pleasure

Unlike fetishes, people who have kinks can have them for a variety of reasons. If someone is engaging in spanking, S&M, or role-playing, it doesn’t necessarily mean they become aroused from it. For many people, kinks allow them to release or gain control and experiment with role reversal. That’s what creates the arousal. The act itself isn’t necessarily providing sexual pleasure; rather it’s the emotional release they experience while performing it.

 

  • Fetishists cannot be aroused without their fetish

If your partner has a foot fetish that you can’t stand, the odds are you two aren’t going to last long. Fetishes aren’t kinks. A person with a fetish isn’t able to become aroused unless they incorporate their fetish into sex. Many people assume that a fetish is something that can be “dropped” but unless the person attends therapy to overcome their fetish, they’re not going to change.

 

  • Kinks are subjective

The term fetish is pretty defined, not leaving much room for interpretation. However, when it comes to ‘kink,’ it’s very broad. In reality, there are no defining factors that make someone kinky. The mainstream community decided that S&M, bondage, and spanking are kinks; however, what’s considered “normal sex” is a social construct. Kinks are subjective as they’re sexual behaviors that don’t fall under a social norm.

 

Though kinks and fetishes share many similarities, there are also clear differences. If you were wondering which category you fall under, by knowing what each term means, you’ll have a clearer picture of where you stand.

 

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Cracking The Whip With BDSM Crops

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BDSM play with crops can be incredibly fun and exhilarating. Dominants and submissives can use the BDSM crop for its beautiful swooshing sound, power, punishments, sensory play and pony play. This article will look into what a BDSM crop is and how to use it for the first time.

What Does A BDSM Crop Look Like?

The handle of a BDSM crop should be long and sturdy which makes it easier to control. Most BDSM crops are made with leather. The leather material is used for a secure and comfortable grip. The tip of a crop is made up of a hard leather in the shape of a “tag”. The average length of the handle of a leather crop is 26 inches and the length of the leather tip is 8 inches. The width of the crop is around 2.5 inches which makes it better for use. The shaft of a crop can be made up of metal, timber, plastic and other materials. Now and again, riding crops have a handle in the shape of a penis so that you can use it as a sex toy too.  Now that is a pretty kinky thought!

The Beautiful Sound Of A BDSM Crop

While a few people go for rigid and heavier riding crops, most people want to settle on shafts that will bend to give that extra speed when being used. The more the shaft will bend the quicker it will fly and the louder the “swoosh” will be as it slices through. It is a sound that is quite a turn on both for the dominant and the submissive in the roleplaying scene.

Dominants Use BDSM Crops For Power

During sex many people want to dominate, command and control their submissive partner with power. The dominant may want to tell their submissive what to do and when to do it. Using a BDSM crop as a prop to direct and point out what the submissive should be doing can be incredibly sexy. The person holding the BDSM crop will visually establish who the dominant partner is in the power play sex scene.

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Dominants Can Use BDSM Crops For Punishment

BDSM crops are one of the bestselling punishment devices used during discipline play. Riding crops frequently change in thickness and can likewise be designed with metal studs or spikes for intense and painful sensations. Some practice is required to ensure that punishment play is performed so that every slap with the crop is carefully controlled so that people do not accidently hurt their partner.

A good beginner’s trick to test a riding crop is to lie someone’s hand flat, firmly hit the flat base of the BDSM crop on the hand. It will send a surge of light pain from the confident slap, and a rush of endorphins will surge through the receiver’s body. Their body will produce a small amount of natural painkillers. It is up to you to work out how much pain to inflict or endure. Get them begging on their knees for sex, or if they have done something wrong, punish them in bed!

BDSM Crops Can Be Used For Sensory Play

The BDSM crop is a product which can be used for sensory play. The dominant can also use the crop to whip different areas of the submissive’s body like the buttocks for a stringing pain or it can be used as gentle as a feather to tenderly tickle them under the arms for tickle play.

BDSM Crops Can Be Used With Other Products

In BDSM play crops, paddles and slappers are very popular and often used in conjunction with bondage gear like restraints and gags. Watch a porn DVD or read a naughty book then play out your sexual desires! Take it a little further and get your partner to dress up in a costume and take him or her over your knee for punishment.

BDSM Crops Can Be Used For Pony Play

Have you ever seen a jockey on a horse using something which looks like a whip, it actually is a BDSM crop. BDSM crops are also used in the bedroom for pony play.

In Conclusion

These are just some of the diverse ways it can used for making BDSM roleplay that much more interesting. Using BDSM crops can enhance your sexual enjoyment if that is the type of sexual play you fantasize about. If you are new to BDSM crops, it is recommended that you talk to your partner and see if they also secretly desire some BDSM play in the bedroom. The truth is there are a lot of people who get sexually turned on by their dominant using a BDSM crop on them. You will find that disciplining a lover will have them craving for more.Save

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Dominant Nature Of BDSM In Primates

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There are reasons why women like being handcuffed, bound and gagged. It goes back as far as time itself when women were dominated by Alpha Males. Then in more modern times dominant religions, societies and groups raped, pillaged and plundered villages. Let’s have a look into the background as to how people and primates sexual lifestyles relate to each other.

Female Mammals And The Method Of Conception

Female mammals can have a regular period of sexual openness and fertility where they are able to have intercourse with numerous males. In some cases the female monkey is sexually assaulted by the contenders that she does not want. Any one of the sexual partners could have been the father to the subsequent newborn monkey baby. This depends on which sperm reaches and fertilises the ovary first.

Rape was used by people within dominant religions, societies or groups like the Vikings and Mongolians as a conception method. It was hypothesized that monkey’s also used it as a method of conception. Rape as a method of conception is truly outdated and is a crime.

Can Female Monkeys Really Orgasm?

In 1996, a book titled “Human Sexual Response” by William H. Masters and Virginia E. Johnson, it acknowledged that women experienced orgasms. It was speculated that the female orgasm was one of the reasons why women were aroused by having sex with men. In the mid 1970’s it was generally accepted by primatologists, that the non-human female primates did not encounter orgasm. Primatologists later examined the sexual physiology of wild female gorillas and monkeys, who found that orgasms within these female primates happened commonly. M Small wrote in her book Female Choices, Sexual Behaviour of Female Primates:

‘Non-human primate females commonly experience multiple orgasms during sex’

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To settle the civil argument lab based researchers placed female monkeys from the Macaca Mulatta species into lower leg cuffs and canine restraints. To force the monkey to orgasm, they stimulated it’s clitoris and used an instrument that mimicked a monkey’s penis into the animal’s vagina. They watched the monkeys experience climax. Three stages were noted, the first stage of clitoral and vaginal incitement. The second stage where the monkey snorts, calls and made surprised facial expressions. The last stage after climax where the female tries to get away. These discoveries are documented in the Burton, F D (1970).  It has been found that when the female reaches orgasm it helps to the male monkey ejaculate.

People And Primates With Sexually Dimorphic Features

People and primates (including lemurs, monkeys and apes) can have sexually dimorphic features that are not attributed to their gender. These features can include different colourings, markings, sizes and behaviours that influence sex drive, arousal and levels of testosterone.

How Testosterone Impacts Sexual Arousal

At the first stage of the menstrual cycle a woman’s testosterone levels increase. When they ovulate their testosterone reaches its highest levels and during the last portion of the cycle their testosterone levels fall. Both men and women with high levels of testosterone are noted to have higher sex drives. Furthermore, it also appears that women who are within their fertile stages have higher sex drives. It is hypothesised that women with higher levels of testosterone are more interested in Alpha Males. In the case that your female lover loves being dominated in the bedroom she may have higher levels of testosterone.

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With all of this in mind, the female climax originates before speech was ever invented. Our ancient female monkeys demonstrated how they were able to build up orgasms in response to physical stimulation. These days women may enjoy participating in primitive like sex through BDSM play where both participants in the sexual activity are aware of all the risks involved and partake in a safe environment.  They may enjoy using restraints like handcuffs and Japanese bondage rope. Or they may like sensory deprivation by using blindfolds, masks and hoods.

Outside of the bedroom your lover may act as a dominant person in a social setting. But when the tables are turned and you are back in the privacy of your bedroom, he or she may love being a submissive who is bound and controlled by restraints and dominated by their lover.  As it turns out what a person is interested in kinky sex can be completely different to what they are interested in their day to day life.

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Servicing Mz Cherry With Leather Restraints

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I​ ​couldn’t​ ​begin​ ​to​ ​relay​ ​how​ ​everything​ ​changed​ ​that​ ​night.​ ​As​ ​I​ ​surveyed​ ​my​ ​surroundings​ ​with ease,​ ​there​ ​was​ ​a​ ​sense​ ​of​ ​calm​ ​in​ ​the​ ​night​ ​and​ ​nothing​ ​but​ ​the​ ​gentle​ ​hum​ ​of​ ​the​ ​central​ ​air conditioning​ ​broke​ ​the​ ​silence.​ ​It​ ​was​ ​almost​ ​palpable;​ ​the​ ​stillness​ ​was​ ​eerie,​ ​even.​ ​It​ ​was​ ​in that​ ​moment​ ​that​ ​the​ ​alarm​ ​sounded,​ ​and​ ​a​ ​man​ ​-​ ​wait,​ ​no,​ ​was​ ​it​ ​a​ ​woman?​ ​Entered​ ​through the​ ​doors.

He​ ​-​ ​She​ ​-​ ​came​ ​up​ ​to​ ​me,​ ​with​ ​long​ ​curly​ ​brown​ ​hair​ ​and​ ​feminine​ ​yet​ ​somehow​ ​masculine​ ​blue eyes​ ​and​ ​spoke​ ​softly;​ ​“Do​ ​you​ ​know​ ​anything​ ​about​ ​BDSM?”​ ​He​ ​-​ ​She​ ​-​ ​They,​ ​cocked​ ​a​ ​hand on​ ​their​ ​hip​ ​and​ ​tilted​ ​their​ ​head​ ​to​ ​the​ ​side,​ ​quizzically.

I,​ ​completely​ ​taken​ ​aback​ ​by​ ​the​ ​abruptness​ ​of​ ​the​ ​situation,​ ​somewhat​ ​bemused,​ ​simply answered​ ​“Yes.​ ​What​ ​would​ ​you​ ​like​ ​to​ ​know?”

It​ ​was​ ​those​ ​two​ ​questions​ ​that​ ​set​ ​the​ ​tone​ ​for​ ​the​ ​night​ ​and​ ​a​ ​journey​ ​into​ ​self-exploration, boundaries​ ​and​ ​knowledge​ ​were​ ​about​ ​to​ ​take​ ​place.

“Well,​ ​first​ ​things​ ​first,​ ​my​ ​name​ ​is​ ​Mz​ ​Cherry,​ ​that’s​ ​right.​ ​Mz​ ​with​ ​a​ ​M​ ​and​ ​a​ ​Z​ ​“,​ ​Mz​ ​Cherry said,​ ​as​ ​he​ ​-​ ​she,​ ​held​ ​out​ ​a​ ​limp​ ​but​ ​surprisingly​ ​large​ ​hand.​ ​I​ ​shook​ ​the​ ​hand​ ​and​ ​said​ ​“I’m Andre.​ ​Usually​ ​you​ ​put​ ​a​ ​little​ ​hyphen​ ​on​ ​the​ ​E​ ​but​ ​my​ ​mom​ ​was​ ​lazy.”

As​ ​Mz​ ​Cherry​ ​laughed​ ​I​ ​noticed​ ​that​ ​he​ ​-​ ​she​ ​-​ ​nay,​ ​he,​ ​had​ ​a​ ​sizeable​ ​Adam’s​ ​apple.​ ​My​ ​initial curiosity​ ​returned​ ​to​ ​what​ ​Mz​ ​Cherry,​ ​a​ ​frail​ ​but​ ​very​ ​tall​ ​and​ ​lanky​ ​man,​ ​could​ ​have​ ​to​ ​say​ ​about BDSM.

“Well​ ​I’m​ ​a​ ​submissive,​ ​you​ ​see,​ ​and​ ​I​ ​have​ ​a​ ​regular​ ​partner​ ​that​ ​I​ ​play​ ​with​ ​-​ ​oh,​ ​he’s​ ​just​ ​such a​ ​doll,​ ​and​ ​I​ ​wanted​ ​to​ ​get​ ​him​ ​something​ ​for​ ​his​ ​birthday​ ​that​ ​says,​ ​I’m​ ​his​ ​property​ ​and​ ​he​ ​-” Mz​ ​Cherry​ ​bent​ ​down​ ​at​ ​this​ ​part​ ​and​ ​whispered​ ​“owns​ me.”

I​ ​knew​ ​then,​ ​exactly​ ​what​ ​to​ ​give​ ​Mz​ ​Cherry.​ ​I​ ​led​ ​her​ ​to​ ​the​ ​BDSM​ ​wall​ ​and​ ​pointed​ ​out​ ​a​ ​dog collar​ ​and​ ​leash.​ ​“Nothing​ ​says​ ​ownership​ ​like​ ​a​ ​Dominatrix​ ​and​ ​his​ ​dog”​ ​I​ ​remarked.

“It’s​ ​just​ ​too​ ​mainstream”,​ ​Mz​ ​Cherry​ ​pulled​ ​a​ ​face.​ ​“​ ​Why,​ ​every​ ​Tom,​ ​Dick​ ​and​ ​Harry​ ​is​ ​out there​ ​walking​ ​their​ ​submissive​ ​on​ ​a​ ​dog​ ​collar​ ​and​ ​leash.​ ​I’m​ ​his​ ​and​ ​only​ ​his​ ​and​ ​I​ ​need​ ​him​ ​to know​ ​that.”

I​ ​knew​ ​that​ ​belonging,​ ​and​ ​feeling​ ​like​ ​you​ ​belong,​ ​or​ ​that​ ​you’re​ ​someone’s​ ​property​ ​was​ ​one​ ​of the​ ​main​ ​kinks​ ​of​ ​BDSM.​ ​I​ ​picked​ ​up​ ​a​ ​leather​ ​pair​ ​of​ ​hand-cuffs​ ​with​ ​little​ ​padlocks​ ​on​ ​them.​ ​I held​ ​them​ ​up​ ​to​ ​Mz​ ​Cherry​ ​triumphantly.​ ​“This​ ​is​ ​what​ ​you​ ​need.​ ​He​ ​can​ ​lock​ ​your​ ​hand​ ​cuffs and​ ​keep​ ​the​ ​key​ ​with​ ​him,​ ​and​ ​he’s​ ​the​ ​only​ ​one​ ​with​ ​keys.”

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Mz​ ​Cherry​ ​beamed.​ ​He​ ​flicked​ ​his​ ​hair​ ​and​ ​held​ ​onto​ ​the​ ​hand-cuffs​ ​with​ ​his​ ​red​ ​press-on​ ​nails. Then​ ​he​ ​pined​ ​“But​ ​I​ ​want​ ​something​ ​extra!”

“And​ ​why​ ​shouldn’t​ ​you?”​ ​I​ ​asked.​ ​I​ ​held​ ​up​ ​a​ ​whip​ ​from​ ​Hell’s​ ​Couture,​ ​60cm​ ​in​ ​length​ ​with​ ​a metal​ ​handle.​ ​“This”​ ​I​ ​said​ ​“So​ ​he​ ​can​ ​punish​ ​you​ ​when​ ​you​ ​need​ ​to​ ​be​ ​punished”.​ ​At​ ​this​ ​point Mz​ ​Cherry​ ​was​ ​positively​ ​ecstatic.

“Just​ ​be​ ​careful”​ ​I​ ​said​ ​“These​ ​whips​ ​can​ ​hurt​ ​quite​ ​a​ ​bit.”

“Oh,​ ​honey​ ​child,​ ​I​ ​like​ ​to​ ​get​ ​rough!”​ ​Mz​ ​Cherry​ ​exclaimed​ ​as​ ​he​ ​lifted​ ​up​ ​his​ ​sleeves​ ​to​ ​reveal welts​ ​and​ ​bruises​ ​along​ ​his​ ​arms,​ ​including​ ​several​ ​scratch​ ​marks.

“Wow,​ ​you​ ​certainly​ ​do.​ ​I​ ​just​ ​hope​ ​you​ ​guys​ ​have​ ​a​ ​safe​ ​word,​ ​while​ ​it’s​ ​important​ ​to​ ​push​ ​limits and​ ​boundaries​ ​in​ ​BDSM​ ​play,​ ​it’s​ ​also​ ​important​ ​to​ ​make​ ​sure​ ​the​ ​acts​ ​are​ consensual​ ​and safe​ ​for​ ​the​ ​couple.”​ ​I​ ​said.

“My​ ​safe​ ​word​ ​is​ ​‘peaches’”​ ​Mz​ ​Cherry​ ​said​ ​as​ ​he​ ​giggled.​ ​Satisfied​ ​that​ ​Mz​ ​Cherry​ ​was​ ​safe,​ ​I led​ ​him​ ​to​ ​the​ ​piece​ ​de​ ​resistance.​ ​I​ ​picked​ ​up​ ​a​ ​white​ ​box​ ​and​ ​showed​ ​Mz​ ​Cherry​ ​the​ ​label.

“This,​ ​is​ ​our​ ​Fetish​ ​Fantasy​ ​Series​ ​Rope​ ​Cuff​ ​&​ ​Tether​ ​Set.​ ​It​ ​comes​ ​with​ ​wrist​ ​cuffs,​ ​ankle​ ​cuffs and​ ​four​ ​rope​ ​tethers.​ ​It​ ​also​ ​has​ ​a​ ​free​ ​mask​ ​inside​ ​so​ ​you​ ​can​ ​feel​ ​absolutely​ ​helpless​ ​to​ ​your dominatrix,​ ​and​ ​give​ ​in​ ​to​ ​your​ ​sensations.”

Mz​ ​Cherry’s​ ​eyes​ ​lit​ ​up​ ​like​ ​when​ ​you​ ​hit​ ​three​ ​cherries​ ​at​ ​the​ ​pokies.​ ​“I​ ​love​ ​this!”​ ​Mz​ ​Cherry exclaimed.​ ​“And​ ​I​ ​know​ ​he’ll​ ​love​ ​this​ ​too.”

I​ ​knew​ ​then​ ​that​ ​we​ ​had​ ​satisfied​ ​three​ ​separate​ ​sexual​ ​themes​ ​of​ ​BDSM:​ ​giving​ ​and​ ​receiving pain,​ ​physical​ ​restriction​ ​and​ ​psychological​ ​humiliation.​ ​It​ ​was​ ​interesting​ ​to​ ​note​ ​that​ ​Mz​ ​Cherry himself​ ​was​ ​representative​ ​of​ ​BDSM​ ​sub-culture​ ​by​ ​resisting​ ​gender​ ​conformity.​ ​BDSM practitioners​ ​can​ ​often​ ​gender​ ​switch,​ ​take​ ​on​ ​a​ ​different​ ​gendered​ ​style​ ​depending​ ​of​ ​the gender​ ​of​ ​their​ ​partner​ ​and​ ​resist​ ​the​ ​idea​ ​that​ ​gender​ ​matters​ ​in​ ​their​ ​play​ ​partner.

As​ ​I​ ​packed​ ​away​ ​Mz​ ​Cherry’s​ ​items​ ​for​ ​him,​ ​I​ ​reflected​ ​on​ ​what​ ​had​ ​taken​ ​place​ ​that​ ​night.​ ​A coming​ ​together​ ​of​ ​knowledge,​ ​sub-cultures,​ ​so-called​ ​perversions​ ​and​ ​the​ ​idea​ ​that​ ​sex​ ​has boundaries​ ​and​ ​limits​ ​that​ ​can​ ​be​ ​pushed​ ​all​ ​under​ ​safe​ ​and​ ​consensual​ ​situations.

About the author: Isaac is a consultant from Oh Zone Adult Lifestyle Centres

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