Ask Oz November 2022: Your Questions Answered

ASK OZ November 2022 – Condom Worries? Let us take those fears anyway with all the useful information you might need.

Ask Oz November 2022

Hey Oz:  What do I do when the condom breaks?

A.  If a condom breaks during sex, the first step is to stop and evaluate the situation. When still inside the vagina, take it out to prevent irritation or infection. If the condom broke after ejaculation, head to the bathroom and try to flush out any semen that remains.

Emergency after sex contraception, like the morning after pill, can prevent unwanted pregnancy. It is important to react quickly, as emergency contraception works best within the first five days and most effective within 24 hours.

If you are unsure of your partner then get tested for STDs afterwards – generally after 7 days. To prevent condoms from breaking in future, be sure to use the correct size.  Store them properly makin sure you use them before their expiry date.

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Here are 10 tips to be Condom Safe

1. Always use a condom

This is the most important tip. Use a condom every time you have sex, even if you or your partner is on birth control or doesn’t have any STI symptoms.

2. Use the right size

Condoms come in different sizes, so make sure you choose the right size. A condom that’s too small or too big can break or slip off.

3. Check the expiration date

Always check the expiration date of the condom before using it. Expired condoms may be less effective and more likely to break.

4. Open the package carefully

Use your fingers to tear the package, don’t use your teeth or any sharp object. Be careful not to damage the condom when opening it.

5. Use water-based lubricant

Using a water-based lubricant can reduce the risk of condom breakage. Don’t use oil-based products like lotion or Vaseline, as they can weaken the condom.

6. Put the condom on correctly

Make sure you know how to put on a condom correctly. Pinch the tip of the condom to leave some space for semen, then unroll the condom all the way down the shaft of the penis.

7. Keep it on during sex

Keep the condom on during the entire sex act, from start to finish. If the condom comes off or breaks during sex, stop immediately and put on a new one.

8. Use a new condom for every act

Use a new condom for every act of sex, whether it’s vaginal, anal, or oral. Don’t reuse condoms or use the same condom for different types of sex.

9. Dispose of used condoms properly

Wrap the used condom in tissue or toilet paper and throw it in the trash. Don’t flush condoms down the toilet, as they can clog pipes.

10. Get tested regularly

Getting tested regularly for STIs is important, even if you use condoms every time you have sex. Some STIs can be asymptomatic, so it’s important to get tested to stay safe and protect your partner.

Hey Oz:  My girlfriend say to me that size does not matter, but I really think it does.  I am just shy of 5 inches erect.  What can I do to satisfy her more?

A.  It’s important to understand that penis size is not the only factor in a satisfying sexual experience.  Your girlfriend is right on that point. Communication and intimacy are key to a fulfilling sex life.

Try talking openly with your partner about their desires and what they enjoy during sex.

Kenneth Play, a self-proclaimed sex hacker, suggests creating a pleasure menu for your partner as a tool to improve communication during sex.

Try different sex positions and techniques to discover what feels good for both you and your partner. Remember that everyone’s body is different and there is no one “ideal” penis size. If you continue to feel insecure, consider seeking therapy or counseling to work through your feelings and improve your confidence.

Tips on How to improve your sex life irrelevant of Penis Size 

• Communication.  Open communication is essential for a healthy and satisfying sexual relationship. Talk to your partner about your concerns and feelings. You may find that your partner doesn’t care about penis size and is more interested in other aspects of intimacy.
• Foreplay.  Engage in plenty of foreplay, including kissing, touching, and exploring each other’s bodies. This can help build intimacy and increase arousal, which can lead to a more satisfying sexual experience.
• Experiment. Try different positions and techniques to find what works best for you and your partner. Don’t be afraid to explore new things together, as this can help you both discover what feels good and enhances intimacy.
• Use sex toys. Consider incorporating sex toys into your intimate encounters. This can add variety and excitement to your sex life and help both partners achieve greater pleasure.
• Practice relaxation techniques. Anxiety and stress can interfere with sexual performance and satisfaction. Practice relaxation techniques like deep breathing, meditation, or yoga to help reduce stress and anxiety.
• Seek professional help. If concerns about penis size or performance continue to affect your relationship, consider seeking help from a sex therapist or counselor. They can provide you with support and guidance on how to improve intimacy and overcome insecurities.

Hey Oz:  I am a male in his 30’s and I cannot stop masturbating.  I think about it all day and at a minimum masturbate at least 3 times a day.  Do I have a problem?

A.  If you feel that your masturbation habits are interfering with your daily life or causing distress, it may be worth seeking professional help.

Excessive masturbation or masturbation addiction can be a sign of compulsive sexual behavior, also known as hypersexuality or sex addiction. This condition can be treated with therapy, medication, and lifestyle changes.

It’s important to remember that there is no “normal” frequency of masturbation, as it varies from person to person.  If you feel that your habits are negatively impacting your life, reaching out to a therapist or medical professional can help you understand and address the underlying issue.

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