Better sex for 2021

2021 sex

Welcome to a sexy 2021 my friends!

 

After swiping left on 2020, most of us are ready for a new chapter, a new story or a new beginning to be found in the year 2021. Although New Years may have been quiet, and that Resolutions are more often than not bothersome to say the least, why not invest your new lease on life on Sex and Intimacy!

 

Here are some sure fire ways to kick this year into the sexiest yet. These are for everyone to enjoy, whether you are single, in a relationship, celebrating love or lust from afar or experimenting.

 

  1. Work on Intimacy in and out of the bedroom.

Intimacy is not simply touch and does not simply occur in the bedroom during sexual acts. One of the biggest roots of Intimacy is simply being kind to yourself and our partners. Especially after the year we have just had. Be kind. Share in compliments. Share in treats or little gifts. Small non sexual touching can also improve and heighten intimacy as well. Learn your own, and your partner’s love languages to improve, spark and deepen intimacy.

 

The deeper your connection is, the more intense your sexual bond will be.

 

Try these Intimacy tips

  • Take the Love Languages Quiz https://www.5lovelanguages.com/quizzes/ to see how you best express and accept love/intimacy

  • Write or say an intimate gratitude daily to yourself and/or a loved one “I love my smile” “I am grateful for your kisses each morning”

  • Be intentional in your touch when you say hello.

  • Bring your loved one a coffee

  • Invite them on a netflix date

 

  1. Figure out what feels good to you and do more of that.

Sex and intimacy is not always about shared pleasure. Sometimes it is important to know what you like first, either solo or together. Take this opportunity for self sexploration and lots of it. Learn how your own pleasure works, your own body. Encourage your partner to do the same. Do it alone. Do it together. Mutual masturbation can be lots of fun and very informative. Use your fingers, try some toys, experiment with lubricants and stimulants as you play.

 

Try these Feel good Tips

  • Try warming or chilling lubricants

  • Experiment with arousal oils or lubricants

  • Visit us in store for recommendations of sex toys to use.

  • Try mutual masturbation.

 

  1. Talk more with your partner or yourself regarding sexual yes’ nos and maybes.

When was the last time you thought about what you liked during sex? Have you ever done a quiz? Or written them down? How about talking them through with your partner? It can be quite a turn on not to mention an eye opener and can lead to some wondrous and arousing sexual exploits you may have never thought possible. You can easily make your own or find simple or very comprehensive ones online that can range from everyday exploits to BDSM

 

  1. Be open to teaching and learning

There is a lot that we may not know or understand in the world and the same can be said for sex and pleasure. What better way to find out than to learn. In a world with technology at our fingertips there is a lot of advice, blogs, podcasts and tutorials to explore for the open minded. Studios such as Studio Kink in Sydney offer classes both in person and online for Shibari (rope tying), impact, submissive training and events. Podcasts such as Missionary to Madame offer wonderful advice and insight into relationships sex. Books are also in the form of hard copy, e books and audio books that come with inspiring how to’s such as the The Ultimate Guide to Fellatio and the Ultimate Guide to Cunnulingus by Violet Blue which combines phenomenal how to’s with scantilising short stories.

 

  1. Stop Focusing on ORGASMS and focus on PLEASURE and what feels good. Orgasms will come. (Pun well intended)

 

SOmething I believe in and can’t promote more is Mindful Sex or Mindfu Masturbation. I like to envision it as the art of being present in the moment of pleasure, of what feels good rather than judging sex as the moment orgasm is achieved. There is too much pressure these days on achieving orgasm and as such, a dramatic decrease in people being able to have them.

All of these points 1-4 aid in realising your pleasure and assist in bettering your sex life. In being in the moment and experiencing pleasure rather trying to rush to the end and only defining sex by whether or not a orgasm happened you will experience a much more vibrant sex life that will be unrivaled to the years before hand.

 

So this year, in 2021, sit back, relax, connect, and indulge in feeling good and feeling pleasure, the connection and the orgasms will follow, and when they do, they will bring in a new year worth talking about.

 

At Your Service,

Tiffany

 

AdultlifestyleCentre Adult Shop Sales Consultant, Educator and Pleasure Defender.

Adult Games – Why They are Good for You

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We have heard all about how sex is a valuable part of our lives and our relationships. There are so many studies proving that a healthy sex life leads to a healthy life in general. Further on, we understand how important it is for our romantic relationships. It’s 2020, and I’m pretty sure that nobody has any doubts anymore about the significance of sexual intercourse. Here’s some additional info on that.

What Happens You Are Alone?

Okay, we get it already – we need to have a partner and we need to fulfill our sexual desires. But, what happens when you can’t? What happens when you don’t have anyone to get freaky with? Does that mean that you should just let all the tension build up and then relieve yourself only and only when you find someone who’s DTF?

Well, that would be a bummer, wouldn’t it? Imagine yourself walking around with a boner, while everyone is looking at you and making calculations about how long it’s been since you last got laid. And, ladies, you’re not safe either. I’ve got some news for you. Every time you get horny and think that nobody can notice it, the truth is – everybody can notice it.

Thank God for masturbation, am I right? It could save you a lot of embarrassment. With a myriad of adult content out there, it’s even easier for you to get down to business when you are alone. And, hey, some people like to watch porn with their partner and pick up new skills together. Even though that’s not what we’re talking about today, that’s certainly one way to go.

Here’s why that might be a good idea: https://www.huffpost.com/entry/5-reasons-why-watching-po_b_2766968

Why Adult Games Are Good For You?

As I have mentioned above, we’re not going to talk about watching porn with your significant other. Or, others… it’s a free world. In fact, we’re not even going to talk about watching porn. Today, our topic is adult games and their role in your life. If you haven’t tried these out by now, I suggest you do, IMMEDIATELY. Wait, no, you should read this first. So, keep it in your pants for a while longer.

There’s an obvious reason why adult games are good for us. Is it really necessary for me to explain this? Let me put it simply. You’re horny – you need something to help you please yourself. So, you find an adult sex game, build your character and fulfill all your desires – even the hidden ones – through that character. While “on-screen you” is getting greasy, the “real-life you” is getting down to business as well.

But, this reason above is more an answer to the question of “how adult games can help you”, then to the question of “why they are good for you”. So, let me give you a couple of simple, straightforward and truthful reasons for engaging in these games. Here we go.

Say Goodbye To Stress

Sexual tension is not the only thing that needs to be relieved. Are you getting stressed out with something day after day? Well, this might sound silly to you, but I suggest you find a private space, visit Sex Games HQ and find the game that will help you blow your load and blow some steam off. You’ll start releasing serotonin and your stress will be washed away.

Say Hello To New Skills

If you have been trying to up your game, there’s no better way to do it than by playing adult sex games and experimenting with your character. You can try a few things out and get some great tips and tricks. Both men and women want to be great in bed, and that’s impossible if you do all the same things every single time. And can you think of a more fun way to improve than by playing sex games?

Being Single Is No Longer That Lonely

As I have already mentioned, when you are single, you need to find a way to please yourself without anyone’s help. And that’s exactly what these games offer you. However, that’s not all. When you start playing them, you can join some communities and get in touch with like-minded adults who have similar preferences. Hey, who knows what might happen.

Self Care – Masturbation

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Self care is often brought up in the world today. Are we taking care of ourselves? Eating properly? Sleeping? Meditating, being mindful, stressing less.

Would it surprise you to hear that Masturbating is another important aspect of our self care! There are many benefits to masturbating that I intend to outline below.

Masturbating and sex releases a range of neuro chemicals into our brains and our bodies, making us happier.

Dopamine is a chemical that is released to give a “feel good” boost.  Dopamine is also great for blood flow, digestion, executive functioning, heart and kidney function, memory and focus, mood and emotions, motor control, pain processing, pancreatic function and insulin regulation, pleasure and reward seeking behavior, sleep, stress response
Endorphins– endorphins are a chemical released that assists with stress relief and combating pain.
Prolactin is a chemical that allows us to feel satisfaction.
Oxytocin-  this amazing chemical helps balance out cortisol which is a stress hormone.
Serotonin – This wonderful chemical also plays a part in leaving you happy, calm and helps to regulate mood.
 
Essentially, by boosting your orgasms and neurochemicals as an effect of masturbation- you boost your mood. That is some very important self care.

Due to the effect that the neuro-chemicals have on us it is no wonder that masturbating and experiencing an orgasm help to reduce stress and frustration. Even without orgasm, drawing attention to your body during masturbation can be known to push any external stressors in your mind out so that you can simply focus on the sensations of your pleasure.
Masturbation can also help with focus. The chemicals released can help create a calm and focused state of being and has been known to improve productivity in real life.Struggling to sleep? Masturbating is a  form of exercise, utilizing muscles, focus and brain power. After an orgasm the parasympathetic nerves begin to relax and calms the body, assisting in restlessness and sleep and some studies have shown that it can improve sleep quality as well.During masturbation our blood pumps fasting, traveling the body and heating us up. Increase in blood flow has been shown to have many benefits for the body and also for our immunity. This doesn’t mean that Masturbating can kick the common cold in the butt, but ongoing masturbation can help positively promote good immune health. Increased blood flow is good for your heart health and taking steps to keeping your heart healthy. good blood flow has also been shown to have an affect on our skin, the more blood pumping, the better the benefits for our skin health.For CIS men; masturbation assists in many ways. Regular masturbation has been shown to have a positive effect on the prostate and in some cases, decrease the likelihood of prostate cancer. Masturbating and orgasm flushes out the internal tubing, keeping the tubes cleaner and in better working order. Masturbating has also shown to assist in building harder erections over time and also prolonging orgasm. To prolong orgasms, experiment with “edging” a technique where you bring yourself close to orgasm before slowing down, or backing off, before edging again. Over time, this edging effect will build the ability to last longer.For Cis women masturbation can assist with preventing urinary tract infections and cervical infections. Because of the wonderful endorphins that are released as well as the overall effect orgasm have on the pelvic floor, masturbation can assist with both preventing and helping reduce period pain and cramping.For everyone, masturbation is great exercise for your pelvic floor.  This is helpful for all kinds of things, it means that your anatomy will keep shape, be stronger and age better as you grow.The last but certainly not least benefit is knowing your own body. Knowing your own pleasure, your turn ons and what you don’t like. This can be used alone or with a partner but it helps you to be more aware of your own body, and really isn’t that what self care is all about?

(Note: Cis refers to people who at birth are categorized as male or female in relation to their anatomy)

Couples Sex Toys

Having worked in an Adult store for some time now, we get asked numerous “interesting questions” on a daily basis. One of the most frequent questions wold possibly be what is out there for couples?

Well let me tell you the possibilities are endless, with a huge range of toys that include the use or remotes, WiFi, downloading an AP to VR. We-vibe has a full range of toys that make use of a remote and the AP, these toys allow the couple to share in the pleasure from anywhere in the world, from vibrators (the Rave and Nova), to smaller couples toys like the sync and chorus (these toys can actually be used during sex as well). The we-Vibe range also include but plugs for both sexes and a wide range of small vibes for use on the clitoris.
Other brands like NU Sensuelle and Frederic’s of Hollywood also make internal eggs as well as panty vibes that can be controlled remotely. The NU range of toys have a great strong vibrating and as apposed to most other brands out there , most of their toys are completely submersible, and this makes for great couples play in the shower or bath.
Some other options are the more expensive but very much worth it Kiiroo range of couples toys. The most populat would be the couples set that includes a g-spot vibrator for her and a masturbator or stroker for him, these toys can be paired using Bluetooth or by downloading the AP, this way the toys are able to control each other (again from anywhere in the world).
Don’t forget about the Fleshlight stroker, this seemingly singles only toy has a great spot in the bedroom for couples, it is great for use during foreplay or even if you guys were thinking about a threesome (but the other party is not really up for it as yet).
To be honest with you, I cant think of a toy or a range of toys that are not suitable for couples play, from the entry level to the more extreme (like sex machines), there is a place for all toys in the couples bedroom.
All toys mentioned above are available online at www.adultsmart.com.au or in store at all 3 OH Zone sites in Kogarah, Caringbah or Penrith.

Yes, You MAY: Celebrating National Mastubation Month During Quarantine

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The world is in disarray. We’re locked inside our homes, we can’t see loved ones, and there’s a potentially deadly virus infecting countless people across the world. However, one glistening beacon of hope continues to shine; National Masturbation Month! Yes! The month of May has cum! Pun DEFINITELY intended. Although not everyone knows about it, most of us celebrate it, and everyone enjoys it! And, during these times of trouble and self isolation, your hand can become your best friend! Here are some tips to make your you time just a bit more fun, and to help you celebrate the most enjoyable national celebration nobody knows about!

 

**Please Note** This article will be filled with terrible euphemisms about masturbating. Sorry in advance.

 

Lube

This one might be obvious, but no matter what’s in your pants, lube can take your self guided tour to another level! Your local sex shop should have a spanning array of options for you to choose from, and if you’re going solo and turning on the sprinklers without a toy or in the shower, some silicone lube (check out SuperSlyde!) will do you wonders. However, if you’re using a toy to invest in bitcoin, some water based lube (check out Pjur Aqua) will be your new best friend. However, there are of course countless lubes with funky features to make your time scratching Yoda behind the ears just a bit more interesting. Warming, cooling, buzzing, and tingling lubes all exist, so ask your local sex shop consultant to help you find what you need!

 

Switch It Up!

Has debugging the hard-drive gotten a bit mundane? Do you do the same routine to visit the safety deposit box every night? Simply don’t! Try a different hand, a different technique, try it in the shower! Try it on the floor, try it by yourself, do it for an hour! Pardon the rhyme, but just do something to switch up your routine. Hell! Pick up a toy from your local sex shop and discover a whole new world of pleasure! There’s plenty of toys that are great value for money, and a previous article I wrote about just that can be found here! Take your time finding what can improve your experience taming the shrew, and find what makes your time most enjoyable!

 

Porn

Now, porn isn’t for everyone, and that’s okay! If you’re not the kind of person that pairs your time drafting a blog post with some erotic media, skip ahead to the next paragraph! If you do enjoy your time Finding Nemo with some special movies, don’t be afraid to branch out to genres you haven’t tried yet. If you don’t like it, click along, if you do, you’ve expanded your sexual horizons, and what’s not to love about that! Similarly, if you’re willing to spend a few dollars, there are plenty of websites where you can get custom content tailored to EXACTLY what you want! Check out sites like OnlyFans for that sort of deal!

 

Make A Night Of It!

Light some candles. Put on some slow, sexy music. Have a bath, bubbles of course, and get into something comfortable. Put on your preferred media, or none at all, and take your time with yourself. Lone Rangering can be just as sexy as the actual act of sex, so have a nice night in, and enjoy your Keynoting in Cupertino just a little bit more.

 

Partner Up

If you’re with a partner, you may be defaulting to your usual routine of some half-assed foreplay, average sex, and then sleeping. Spice things up! Suggest some mutual masturbation, and get to Auditioning for Finger Puppets with someone special! There’s no reason sex needs to be the only thing you can do with a partner, and for those not in the immediate vicinity of their loved ones, this can be the only option, but that’s no reason it can’t be a good time! 

 

In Conclusion

There’s no reason hacking the home network needs to be a boring affair. With the world wide web at your disposal, there’s nothing stopping you from having a fantastic time by your lonesome. Make minding the gap a fun time, and be sure to take your time preparing your monologue next time you get the chance. Have fun, and happy National Masturbation Month.

 

Here are some final euphemisms I didn’t find space for in the article, if you’re interested:

  • Taking a selfie at the bean
  • Shaking hands with the milkman
  • Practicing the trumpet
  • Meeting with the small council
  • Badgering the witness
  • Rocking the Casbah

 

Enjoy!

 

Big Dawg is a consultant at the Oh Zone Adult Stores!

How to make masturbation even better

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Let’s not even try to pretend that we aren’t all sitting at home and masturbating our quarantine loneliness away. Admittedly, this is a great way to pass the time, especially if you’re single and alone at home right now, but what if you could make self-pleasure even better? Here we have collected a few ways on how to increase your pleasure through various means, from getting virtually realistic with VRporn to improving your techniques with online sex courses.

 

Try some new toys

 

When you masturbate, do you keep doing the same movements over and over because you know they work and you never bother to experiment? That’s a common theme, but you never know what you might like until you actually try it! 

 

Sex toys have been a blessing in the modern world, but there are so many to choose from that it can get a little overwhelming so we just stick to that one vibrator we’ve had for the last 10 years and never try anything new. 

 

If that’s the case, you’ve really been missing out! Maybe you’re the type of person who can only orgasm vaginally but never actually used a dildo, or what if you can feel 10x more if you combine anal play with your clitoral vibrator but you’ve never even thought of trying that? So why not browse for some new toys and have a little fun, it won’t hurt to try (unless you want it to, of course!). 

 

Get realistic with VR porn

 

Porn is a great way to get yourself in the mood for masturbation and now during lockdown, visits to porn websites have increased substantially! Now we’re sure you’ve seen it all before, but have you ever tried virtual reality porn

 

Yes, you do need a gadget in order to watch VR porn, but you can get really cheap ones like the Google Cardboard and trust us, it’s really worth the investment! Have you ever been on a virtual reality roller coaster ride? Even though you know you’re not actually moving, you still feel like you are and it really gives you an adrenaline rush because your brain can’t tell the difference. Same with VR porn, it will feel like you’re actually there and with the help of some sex toys, this is as close to real sex as it gets right now and it’s highly interactive. 

 

Explore your sexuality and improve your skills

 

You certainly don’t need a partner to experience sexual pleasure, so don’t hold back! Explore your own sexuality in any way you like, without fear or judgement. If you don’t know what you like and don’t like, then how is your partner supposed to know? Often we just expect the other person to do all the work, but it’s time to take your sexuality into your own hands (literally!). 

 

Not sure where to start? There are lots of amazing sex classes that can help you, whether online or in-person. Many people live a life disconnected from their sex organs. This disconnect results in numbness, which is one of the main reasons why people don’t feel pleasure and don’t feel satisfied with their sex life. The majority of people simply don’t know how to change their situation, and so they end up giving up on their pleasure altogether. By getting some guidance, you can reconnect with yourself as well as discover some new techniques that you may not have considered before. What you discover may also help you in your future relationships too, and not just in solo-play.

 

Change the mood

 

Why not treat yourself? Set aside 1-2 hours of self-pleasure time one evening and become present with yourself. Turn off your phone and just dedicate this time to self-pleasure. If you’ve never done this before, it can really be a game-changer. Dim the lights, light some candles, put on your favourite music and dive deep into slow and sensual pleasure. 

 

Not in a romantic mood? Then take out your black light, throw on some neon colours and do a sexy striptease for yourself in the mirror! Don’t forget to turn your camera on…

 

Or get some rope and tie yourself up to the bed. Why keep all the good stuff for when you’re having sex with your partner when you can do it all on your own too?

 

Involve other people

 

Masturbation doesn’t mean you have to be alone. If you have a partner, try involving them. You may both get a lot of pleasure either from participating in the action or just observing from a distance. 

 

Are you in a long-distance relationship? Try guiding each other over the phone or via video chat. Give them something to look forward to when you next see them!