Review: Mystery-Vibe Crescendo

Mystery-Vibe Crescendo Bendable Vibrator

There’s a new sex toy in town and it’s called the Crescendo by Mystery Vibe. The fact it arrives in store in what is simply a plain black luxury box with ‘mystery vibe” in tiny writing is enough to make me utterly intrigued. Now I hadn’t previously heard about Mystery-Vibe Crescendo, but a little research lets me know there has been a buzz around this toy for some time.

The company ‘Mystery Vibe” are British and their aim is to make innovative sex toys that go some way towards moving the industry away from the stigma that still exists today unfortunately. This can only be a good thing. They have advertised their products in mainstream forums previously unattended by adult industry companies. They choose colours and designs that are minimalist and modern and they try to avoid the clichés of what many still associate with “sex toys” but at the same time create toys that actually do the job. They are not unique in this but they have done a good job. The teal toy I am reviewing ticks those boxes. I am particularly in love with the included black padded satin storage bag that rolls up with a big ribbon.

 

Mystery-Vibe Crescendo Bendable Vibrator
Sex Toy: Mystery-Vibe Crescendo

 

Mystery-Vibe Crescendo was successfully crowd funded and purports to be the most innovative sex toy ever. It makes other claims too, that it will fit absolutely any one’s body. And that it vibrates anyway you want it too. It was only last week that I reviewed the We-Vibe Sync so I am already in love with one sex toy that also has infinite choices in vibrations and can be adjusted to fit. Mystery-Vibe Crescendo does even more.

Firstly, it hasn’t got one motor or two like the Sync. It doesn’t even have 3, like say the G vibe…..it has an unbelievable 6 motors, yes you read right… 6 motors in one toy! I have never heard of that before.

It uses Bluetooth technology and has an app like the We-vibe that can control the toys motors individually. The app is far more advanced than the We-Vibe. I am not tech savvy, but it seems like you can get it play to music, just like We-Vibe Sync. Here though, is the thing that is most interesting of all about this sex toy and it is not really advertised on the website. You probably won’t believe it when I tell you. The Mystery-Vibe Crescendo can gauge temperature changes inside you and your body’s contractions.

 

Mystery-Vibe Crescendo Mobile Application
Sex Toy Application: Mystery-Vibe Crescendo

 

Mystery-Vibe Crescendo is almost 7 inches long, slightly tapered and just over an inch at its widest end. It has two flexible fins at this end. It is made of TPR silicone. The outer material of Crescendo is 100% premium body-safe certified silicone. As you can imagine, quality and safety is of paramount importance Mystery-Vibe Crescendo as they do not use any porous material. To clean, you can use anti-bacterial sex toy cleaner before and after use or use some warm soapy water.

Fortunately though the sex toy uses innovative induction charging. You don’t have to plug it in or even line it up with magnets, you simply lay it on the disk shaped base that comes in the box. This means it is 100% waterproof. The waterproof aspect isn’t only good for hygiene, it obviously means you can use this toy in the bath or spa if you like.

Mystery-Vibe Crescendo is fully bendable, and because it is longer than the Sync It is one of the most truly versatile toys I have come across. You can turn it into a g-vibe, a rabbit, a masturbator, or a prostate massager. It really does hold it’s position and remains relatively hard. I imagined its bend-ability would mean it was a bit squishy, but it isn’t. It retains the rigidity necessary. I should mention the toy can’t be moved sideways. I don’t know how the toy would withstand multiple manipulations and uses over time, but I haven’t been able to find anything on line to indicate that it might be an issue. The fins are a great touch and could be used in a multitude of ways for more dispersed vibrations.

Mystery-Vibe Crescendo can be operated by the buttons placed on either edge, one side has arrow up and down for intensity and the other side the different modes. Mystery-Vibe Crescendo recommend to use the application as an add on:

“For solo play, we recommend the App as a sofa activity where you add or remove Vibes on Crescendo at your leisure. Then you can leave the phone behind and enjoy Crescendo without any distractions. For partner play, you or your partner can use the app as a remote-control while playing with Crescendo.”

I do love the way the vibrations can literally crescendo or undulate up and down the toy. It is impressively versatile and I want to love it.  It is amazing for pattern lovers. I have to say though, the biggest disappointment for me are the quality of the vibrations, and I don’t think they are strong enough. They are a bit buzzy too. I am slightly worried I am being overly critical. I think the fact it has six motors is preventing me from assessing its overall merits fairly. If I didn’t know about the motors in advance I wonder if I would think the same. I have just compared it to the Sync and also the G-Kii, which is probably the nearest product we have to the Crescendo in store currently. The Crescendo wins hands down over them both when it comes to fitting anyone’s shape but I think its vibrations are the least impressive of the 3.

I like what they are trying to do with the Mystery-Vibe Crescendo. The very fact that I am finding it quite difficult to assess is because there is something very different about it. I would be really interested to hear what others think.

 

About the Author: Emily is a consultant from Oh Zone Adult Lifestyle Centres

 

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PJ Weir was employed at the Gay Exchange for over a decade and was a regular contributor to the blog. He is a gay activist and an advocate for same sex marriage. PJ is proud of his aboriginal descent and has remained in a long term relationship with his partner Darren. PJ left work in late 2014 as his mother fell ill. He has moved to Queensland where he has become her full time carer. Unfortunately the iconic Gay Exchange, Sydney's first all gay adult store closed down in June of 2017 as the building was taken over by the State Transit Authority to build the new rail.

A Real Coming Out Story

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I had known I was gay since I was only 11 years old. When you are just 11 years old, you are just a child and you are vulnerable to other people’s opinions. My family had a lot of negative opinions about being gay. I was raised in an over protective, christian and overly religious home environment. My family had told me being gay was a sin, it wasn’t okay to be gay. Even though I heard a lot of bad thing’s when I was growing up, I always knew how I truly felt on the inside. I always felt that the only thing that was going to make me truly happy is to be who I am and to act how I felt. I wasn’t going to listen to other peoples opinions, judgements or expectations. How they felt about being gay were reflections of who they were. What they said were not reflections of my spirit or who I was as a person. I wasn’t going to choose to listen to them, I was going to do what makes me happy. Being gay is apart of my identity whether they liked it or not. I was tired of being constantly scared that one of my family members would find out that I was gay.

I decided to come out to my family. When I came out to my family, life became a living hell for me. The worst thing I could think of happened and my parents kicked me out of my home. I was excommunicated and my family abandoned me. My brothers and sister’s were not allowed to talk to me, I had nobody. Recently, I made a big decision. I decided to change my lifestyle, try to be the best version of myself and follow my dreams. One of my dreams is to study fashion online. My parents are against men studying fashion because they believe it a women’s line of work. As I said before, I’m going to study fashion regardless of someone’s opinion.

 

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Drag Queen: With & Without Makeup

 

My second dream, is to become a drag queen. I want to dress up and put on a full face of drag queen make up. When I become a drag queen, I will truly become a part of myself, I can express myself as much as I want. Due to how I have been raised, I am scared of how other people would think of me if I dress up in drag publicly. I am scared of the judgment not just from other people but also from other drag queens themselves. To be judged by other drag queens is probably a bit of a stretch because we are all expressing ourselves in the same way. I personally believe that I can become an amazing drag queen as I know my own personal strength. These days, I always do my own make up and put my wig on in the bathroom so I don’t get caught by anybody. I snapchat my drag queen look everyone online. I know there are going to be people who will bully me but I do it anyway.

I have moved back home and I hide my make up in my bedroom. I hide it because I have always been scared of my parents finding it. They can never trust us kids. My parent’s constantly go through our stuff to make sure that “we are who they want us to be”. I find shopping for make up quite difficult because of not knowing enough information about it. I always shop and choose my favourite high-end makeup brands like Kat Von D and Anastasia Beverly Hills which I recommend.

Sadly, due to how I’ve grown up I currently have a constant fear of being hurt from being who I want to be. From physical and mental abuse, I had to take an AVO out against my step father.  He had hit me before and also uses derogatory against me. I am much smarter than to just listen to the bad thing’s I have heard, I’m not going to sit down and listen to him. One day, I will be who I want to be.

 

By Madj a consultant from Oh Zone Adult Lifestyle Centre

PJ Weir was employed at the Gay Exchange for over a decade and was a regular contributor to the blog. He is a gay activist and an advocate for same sex marriage. PJ is proud of his aboriginal descent and has remained in a long term relationship with his partner Darren. PJ left work in late 2014 as his mother fell ill. He has moved to Queensland where he has become her full time carer. Unfortunately the iconic Gay Exchange, Sydney's first all gay adult store closed down in June of 2017 as the building was taken over by the State Transit Authority to build the new rail.

8 Reasons To Be A Gay Top!

I love seeing my man submissive and effeminate!  This is why I prefer being a top.   You cannot believe that look on my partner’s face when I am the one making love to him!  I love to monitor his face and see how he enjoy the pleasure I give him.  Being a top/pitcher makes me feel virile, manly and aggressive. I love hearing him moan and squeal in ecstasy as I plow his ass, and I especially love the look on his face when I first insert my dick into his ass and start thrusting. I love seeing him relax so that I can “work on him”! I love cumming all over his face and chest; and mmm, he enjoys being the “chick”!

 

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  • Sense of control:

Being a top enables me to be in control, and I really love being in control of the situation when I am making love to my partner. It means you can get what you want and pleasure yourself really well. Also, sometimes my gay bottom might try getting naughty and pull some mess by taking the condom off even when we have agreed to use one that day and I may not know. Being a bottom, he cannot pull it off without me knowing or seeing what is happening.

  • I get to control the insertion:

Being a top lets me be in control of the whole process of insertion; I get to decide how much I want to get into him! I get to control the amount of pleasure I give him so that when he is about to cum, I can control my own and we explode together!

  • Gives a better hip control:

Being a top enables me to control the movement of my hips such that I give him pleasure in bits and build it up slowly. Being a pitcher enables me to move my hips the way I want because I am not lying down therefore not restrained in any way.

  • I love being the “worker”:

I really love doing most of the work during my bedroom session with my “catcher’ partner. I enjoy being the “slave” that is doing most of the physical work and watch as my catcher receives the pleasure. I love seeing my man swallow my cum when I cum all over his face and mouth!

  • Having my dick inside him really feels great!

Being a pitcher makes me feel so good, especially when I get to insert my member into his ass. I really love to feel myself inside somebody, I mean, my catcher; he has the softest ass in the world
and I cannot exchange it for any other! Being a top also feels more masculine.

  • My partner loves it:

He loves to see and feel me being on top and I love making him happy! He also says he prefers this because he believes I am more experienced in this position that he is; and ooh, he loves acting the chick in our relationship and bedroom!

  • A whole economy of`degradation:

Anyone who is gay out there knows that it being gay includes a whole`economy of degradation in which bottoms are often referred to as bitches, cocksuckers, sissy or faggot in the bedroom. When I realized I was gay, some of these stereotypes made me fear being a bottom. But I am a top because being a top is natural for me, I often use the mentioned terminologies above on my catcher because he loves them, not because I discriminate on bottoms!

  • Being a Top is Easy:

It is difficult to be a bottom. Being a bottom requires extra work. Consider the “self-upkeep,” the man-scaping, the eating regimen confinements. I’s a great deal to get ready for only a couple of minutes of delight. At that point there is additionally a level of torment that numerous must first overcome until the experience is charming (which one may contend makes bottoms more manly or masculine than tops; there would be more bottoms if their dynamic partners weren’t such sissies and could take the torment. Consider that.) So next time you request that he hop on top, recollect that he’s now done significantly more work than you have—now it’s your turn!

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PJ Weir was employed at the Gay Exchange for over a decade and was a regular contributor to the blog. He is a gay activist and an advocate for same sex marriage. PJ is proud of his aboriginal descent and has remained in a long term relationship with his partner Darren. PJ left work in late 2014 as his mother fell ill. He has moved to Queensland where he has become her full time carer. Unfortunately the iconic Gay Exchange, Sydney's first all gay adult store closed down in June of 2017 as the building was taken over by the State Transit Authority to build the new rail.

Planning the Best LGBTQ Wedding!

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The American society is transforming fast. The political landscape appears to be shifting in favor of same-sex relationships and gay marriages, yet gay partners cannot claim to have reached the promised land yet. Holding a successful and legally-recognized best gay wedding still poses very unique challenges to same-sex couples Currently, there still exists a myriad of questions and issues that same-sex couples face during the planning of their wedding which are not simply a worry for heterosexual couples. They include the following

Deciding on Who to Invite to Your Wedding

Among the most taunting challenges gay couples address when making a decision on who to invite to their wedding is which among their family members and friends will be supportive of their wedding and marriage. According to Bernadette C. Smith – the founder and president of 14 Stories, a Boston- and New York-based gay-wedding-planning company – some people won’t mind if their uncle or nephew is in a gay relationship but will consider a marriage resulting from the same a tandem too far! Therefore, you need to do a good evaluation of who should really attend this happiest-day-of-your-lives event.

 

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Legal and Social Barriers

As at present, sexual orientation is still not recognized by anti-discrimination laws in about 29 US states. This means that a country club or florist in Texas can refuse to plan a wedding for an LGBT couple because they are gay or transgendered without breaking any anti-discrimination law. More subtle discrimination could include not returning emails or your phone calls, or a venue becoming booked all of a sudden just because the owner has realized that it is a same-sex couple making a booking for their wedding. Therefore, unless it is a hired wedding-planner doing it for you, as same-sex couples, you must always come out to each and every vendor, venue-owner or photographer you contact so that you are aware of any reservations that they may have against a same-sex wedding. Smith advises gay couples to try as much as possible to look out for gay-owned businesses for your wedding services. These vendors speak “your language”, understand your culture and will obviously be more than glad to do a good job for one of their own flock!

Is a Pre-Nuptual Agreement necessary?

Maybe, maybe not. A pre-nuputial agreement is more beneficial to the wealthier spouse, but it can generally help you navigate the tax waters just in case you divorce. Since the Federal Government does not recognize gay marriage as yet, yours is technically a state marriage. So you should take steps that will avoid transfer taxes in case of split-up.

What about incorporating Religion into Our Wedding Ceremony?.

Many faiths are obviously anti-gay, but others welcome gay relationships and marriages. A former Catholic priest, Fr Anthony Adams – who performs wedding ceremonies for same-sex couples in New York – advices God-loving gay couples who want to wed in church to be creative by reinventing the usual symbolic words and gestures to suit your own spirituality. For instance, you may get a marriage officiator from another faith altogether and come up with your own customized vows but with a skew towards the normal religious ones.  A fairly standard text could also be used i.e. the officiator talks about what God’s marriage covenant means, but only for the man and wife part! Even Jewish customs could be tweaked to suit gay couples. For example, have two glasses broken for two Jewish lesbians wedding! What about the man to break the glass if you decide to use one glass? The couple take turns to break the glass together!

Can You Look Beyond the “Bride and Groom” Tradition

It is true that the wedding industry has been traditionally overly bride-focused, i.e. we hear of the bridal party; contracts and forms refer to the bride and groom; while wedding attendees sit on either the bride’s side or groom’s side. As a gay couple, it is up to you to decide how to break these traditions. For instance, let it be your personal choice what you choose as your wedding dress. If you are two brides, you can choose to wear two dresses, two suits or a suit for one and a dress for the other. If you are two grooms and want to wear full black suits, or one of you wears a white tux and the other a black one, who cares? It is your wedding and you are at liberty to choose whatever you want! Since the bride walked down the aisle traditionally, a wedding with two brides or two grooms can be a headache. To avoid the question of who is the bride and who is not, you can just walk down the aisle hand-in-hand, or if space allows, just use two aisles!

What about Post-Wedding Decisions like Honeymoon?

Gay marriages are still illegal in some US states and most nations across the world, so deciding on your honeymoon’s destination can get really complicated. Traveling together as a married couple internationally or in some states in the US will mostly be illegal. This means that you will have to carry with you some extra paperwork that will prove your relationship in case of any medical emergency for example.  This obviously will cost you thousands of dollars in attorney fees.

Couples taking each other’s name or creating a new name together will also find legal barriers hectic. For example, you may get legally wed in New York but on getting back to Texas, your name change will not be valid by just presenting your marriage license. You have to go through another legal process via the Texas court system to effect a change of name, obviously more costly and time-consuming. Your challenges are more complicated if you have children involved, resulting to extra paperwork, legal fees, second-parent-adoption issues to address,.

In conclusion, and as you can see for yourself, planning the best gay wedding is not a walk in the park. All these and other issues will always be there, but you need to stay true to who you really are. Do not subscribe to a low-profile boring wedding if you are not a low-profile boring couple. Your wedding is a once-in-a-lifetime experience, let it be really fun and express who you are. You have no apologies for being who you are!

 

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PJ Weir was employed at the Gay Exchange for over a decade and was a regular contributor to the blog. He is a gay activist and an advocate for same sex marriage. PJ is proud of his aboriginal descent and has remained in a long term relationship with his partner Darren. PJ left work in late 2014 as his mother fell ill. He has moved to Queensland where he has become her full time carer. Unfortunately the iconic Gay Exchange, Sydney's first all gay adult store closed down in June of 2017 as the building was taken over by the State Transit Authority to build the new rail.

Building Rapport in Gay Relationships

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There is a widespread but erroneous belief that people in gay relationships have an easier time with their relationships compared to those in heterosexual relationships. And while that notion stretches the truth a bit too far, it is not surprising to see why people would think so. For centuries, it has been believed that the only reason why men and women have trouble with communication in relationships is because their thought processes are different and they are biologically wired to effectively communicate and respond to situations differently. Women tend to use nonverbal cues and their actions are often led by emotional responses. Men on the other hand, are natural problem solvers who like to face problems logically, and so approach issues with less emotion. And while it is true that the fact that people in same sex relationships have an easier time agreeing on certain things in their relationships, they might also experience greater hurdles in their relationship, especially if communication is poor.

One of the most difficult aspects of this kind of relationship is deciding when to go public with your relationship. If you are in a committed one, there will always be some trouble between partners if one of them is reluctant to go public or worse yet, if they still haven’t come out of the closet. Being in a relationship such as the latter can be very challenging, but not completely if there is effective communication. To begin with, if you are the partner in the relationship who chooses to stay mum about his/her sexual orientation, it is imperative to discuss your fears with your partner openly; whether that be fear of becoming ostracized, a religious family or the fact that you haven’t completely accepted or realized where you want to be. By sharing your most intimate thoughts and feelings, you’re able to help your partner understand that it’s not about you not caring about them but that you need more time to get acquainted to your new-found status or find the right time to come out.

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On the other hand, caring about someone who is still afraid of being who they are can be very challenging. By understanding that they are not at the same level as you and may be having trouble with themselves, you are able to sympathize and offer your support where necessary. You should always put yourself in their shoes and remember what it was like for you before you got to where you are. If you had immediate support from friends and family, don’t think of the matter as trivial. Not everyone has the opportunity to get accepted as easily as you did. Don’t push your partner to come out or worse still; try to manipulate them into doing so. Doing this will only damage their trust in you and you may end up losing them entirely. People like to be comfortable when trying to commit to a relationship and to effectively communicate is a must. Most importantly, don’t enter into a relationship with someone who is still in the closet if you are not able to handle it. Also, make sure that you define the relationship and your expectations before getting emotionally involved.

For those people who have already come out and are enjoying their relationship, communication has to be a two way street. Both partners should be involved in making decisions which affect the relationship. You cannot expect to have it easy just because you are in a same sex relationship. For starters, make sure you have your own personal interests and hobbies in a Gay Exchange. This way, you have something interesting to discus with your partner at the end of every day. No matter how much you love your partner, it is never a good idea to make them the center of your whole world. Surround yourself with people who care about you and love you and do things that are interesting. Just like in heterosexual relationships, every person needs to have some time to themselves.

Another aspect of communication that people in both gay and retro relationships fail in is listening. Being able to listen to your partner is probably the only thing that is more important than actually expressing yourself. Whether they are calling you out on behavior from you that they don’t like, complaining about their boss or job or whatever else, they should always feel like they can talk to you. The only reason why people fail in listening is because they confuse “listening” with “help me”.

Sometimes, he/she just wants to let out steam and know that someone is on their side, no matter how ridiculous or whiny they sound. So, just sit there and actively listen. Remember, your partner isn’t stupid, so just sitting there, newspaper in hand and nodding your head isn’t going to cut it. It may actually hurt their feelings. Instead, pay attention, show your support and give your unbiased opinion. If you feel like they are asking for your help but are unsure, always ask if there is anything you can do to help. Half the time, they don’t really want any help; they just want you to be there to talk to.

Last, if you’re in an argument, don’t always be in it to win it. Your partner might let you win some arguments, but they are not always going to want to. In time, they might get fed up with it. Apologize when you are wrong and be willing to find middle ground in cases where neither one of you is willing to back down.  Additionally, keep in mind that communication transcends word of mouth. Sometimes, that long hug will make your partner feel much better about a bad situation than a conversation. When you’re lost for words, non-verbal cues will do the trick just as easily. Always remind your partner how much you love them with little gestures and a whisper about your feelings now and then. We’re not saying that you should be sappy, but don’t be afraid to let your emotions show.

A gay relationship like all relationships needs to be fueled by trust and understanding; both of which can only be achieved by open communication.

 

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PJ Weir was employed at the Gay Exchange for over a decade and was a regular contributor to the blog. He is a gay activist and an advocate for same sex marriage. PJ is proud of his aboriginal descent and has remained in a long term relationship with his partner Darren. PJ left work in late 2014 as his mother fell ill. He has moved to Queensland where he has become her full time carer. Unfortunately the iconic Gay Exchange, Sydney's first all gay adult store closed down in June of 2017 as the building was taken over by the State Transit Authority to build the new rail.