My Secret Fetishes – It’s What We Do!

To start off with my secret fetishes, let’s look at the word Fetish.  Fetish is derived from the Portuguese word for Charm or Spell.  Fetishes range from completely common to very uncommon.  Today, I’m going to cover my secret fetishes and the more common ones.


It’s actually a common taboo subject which involves a non-monogamous couple.  What is a swinger?  Generally married couples that choose to partner swap with other couples.  Or invite another person into the bedroom.  A lot of people who engage in swinging do so for the extra spice in their love life and to add a bit more into the relationship.

A massive hurdle is to get over is jealousy, self confidence and fear, a lot of couples actually tend to get closer after this as they see their partner in a new way and gain more self confidence by feeling sexy and what not.

It’s reported that 75% of all Swinging relationships are brought up first and instigated by the male partner.

Swinging has become a huge international lifestyle

Since the emergence of the internet an even earlier to the 60’s.  It even has dedicated clubs to it where people can go and swap partners.  There is also private chat rooms and online apps that even cater to this lifestyle.

According to research done by the Kinsey Institute 2-4% of Married couples are considered swingers.  (With that number likely being higher due to people staying private)

Foot Fetish

This fetish is actually the most common fetish for a non sexual part of a humans body.  Many people you know or have seen on TV indulge in this for instance Pharrell Williams and Quentin Tarentino and his foot fetish.  For some this fetish is downright disgusting.  For others it’s the only way they can orgasm is indulging.

A foot fetishist has different things that attract them to certain feet, whether that be length of toes, size, arch, jewelry, manicured or not and even sensory (smell,sight,touch).

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Rise of The Foot Fetish

Researchers think that foot fetishism (and the increase in it) occurred due to rise in STI’s and Illnesses.  They’ve actually seen that throughout the ages and seen the prevalence during rises of sickness such as AIDS in the 80’s as it was considered a safe sex alternative.

Earliest to date foot fetish article ever found is from the year 1220.  They think that foot fetishes are caused by feet and genitals being close in the brain.  But I’d argue against that as it’s a partialism fetish which also includes, butt, breasts and even naval.

I think it’s just a common one of My Secret Fetishes

For exact statistical data there hasn’t been enough research but it is known as the number one non sexual part of the body. I can refer to a article by Cosmo that read that 25% of women had some sort of foot fetish involvement on them from a partner.

It’s much more prevalent in males than females.

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Wax Play

What fun wax play is!

I tried it for the very first time yesterday so I’d like to go in depth with it.  Just a word of warning, since you are literally playing with fire be very careful, it’s actually pretty easy to set fire to anything.  Wax can give third degree burns if not checked properly or using the incorrect candles.

Wax Play is one of the easiest fetishes to get into.

Safety First

  • Before using the wax on the subject always check it’s temperature by putting a little bit on the back of your hand or arm as to see how hot it is. You don’t want to kill the mood and possibly your sub. Being actually burnt can turn a lot of fun into a hostile event.
  • Test every candle this way as they are all made up of different chemicals so some burn at a much higher temperature than others.
  • Some don’t get too hot at all so be sure to choose the right candle for yourself and your partner.
  • Keep in mind that depending how your partner is restrained or not (maybe even blindfolded) they will have different levels of heightened sensations, which will make the wax feel hotter or even cooler than it actually is.
  • When applied to hairy areas i have found trying to get the wax off after about as hard as trying to comb chocolate pudding out of a shag rug.  Be prepared for that haha.  You can use a credit card or similar items to take the wax off.
  • But if it is in a sensitive area (i.e genitals) a nice warm shower will help unlodge any bothersome wax that just wants to be close to you.

Suggestions For Wax Play

  • Hold the candle higher than you normally would and it will land at a cooler temperature due to the fact that it has time to cool down mid air.
  • Make sure you’re using the right candles, so ones without irritants or added chemicals especially metal based ones or super shiny ones, they generally have acrylic in it which is not skin friendly.
  • There are many ways to do wax play and i’m sure you know it’s a form of temperature play in the BDSM scene, these can range from just using it with a candle or to even melting in a pot, if you are using a pot be super careful and make sure that it has all evenly temperatures , the way to achieve this is by stirring the pot continually.
  • When choosing the right place to start on your partner with the wax make sure you pick a good spot, by good spot i mean one that isn’t flammable (hairy) and make sure you don’t do the face or direct on piercings as the caked wax is very hard to get off especially around piercings and can cause annoying infections.
  • Parrafin candles are generally the way to go because they have a low melt temperature and are much more likely to be fun first time around, as i’m more of the jump in the deep end type guy i tried really really really hot ikea candles right on my jiggly bits and it was the most insane feeling, i loved it.

If you haven’t tried it Wax Play I would suggest it.

At Adultsmart we even stock some soy candles in our shops and they can be used as a body massage oil once poured onto the sub.

JimmyJane actually carry a range of candles as well for beginners.

This one has a few scents in it which is awesome, smells can bring around new arousal, so for instance I hate the smell of strong vanilla but if someone poured melted caramel on me i’d be turned on like a light switch.

With all that said it comes down to tolerance on what you want/what you can handle.  Some might think that Soy and Parrafin aren’t hot enough so they might like to increase and go with a beeswax candle which has a way higher melting point.

A cool thing also about wax play is you can make beautiful works of art on your subs body with multi colored candles or even by melting down the child safe non toxic crayons to make awesome colors and works of art 😀  I hope you try it out if you haven’t because it was truly mesmerizing.

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Get Shocked With This Fetish Fantasy!

Fetish Fantasy Shock Therapy Kit is a new domain for me. I’ve never at any point thought about or wanted to experience electro-sex at any time as I really thought it was something a little too kinky for me!

This sex toy manufacturers is Pipedream Products. True to Pipedream’s quality the sex toy arrives in a handy and hardy box, on the cover it features a woman bravely using the Shock Therapy Kit.

From what I can see, she is obviously by all accounts getting a charge out of it!

What Does the Kit Contain?

  • A digital power control unit (which is a remote control to you and me).
  • 4 adhesive pads.
  • Bi-polar lead wire.
  • Instruction manual.
  • Free love mask.
  • Remote just takes 2 x AAA batteries. This puts me on ease because if it takes only 2 small batteries, it can’t hurt that much right?

Wiring of the Kit and Adhesive Pads 

  • Individual adhesive pads are connected by wires into the remote control.
  • The wires are sufficiently long enough to place on different erogenous zones for your personal pleasure.  Comfortably use the remote without any problems.
  • Adhesive pads are to a great degree sticky! They are not going to tumble off whilst you are having fun with them.
  • You must be mindful so as not to touch them with your fingertips.
  • They have clear plastic covers that can be placed over them to keep them sticky.  Don’t throw them away or lose these!
  • I’m not certain to what extent the adhesive pads will last. I would assume that they would probably last 10 uses, but this is a pure guess!
  • But one of the great things about this product is that when they do need to changed, you can actually buy them separately at an affordable price.
  • This makes them worth the money especially if you absolutely love electrostimulation.
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Digital power control unit displays clear settings

  • When you go through the modes you will discover that there are pre-set modes that work best for different muscles and particular areas of the body.
  • 100 different modes to choose from – so if I were to attempt to tell you all of them to you we could be here for quite a while!
  • Every mode has a clock which turns the device off after around 10 to 15 minutes of use.

The Love Mask

Love mask is made from a shabby material but it was free and it did what it was supposed to do.  Using the love mask helped to deprive my eyesight which helped to enhance the levels of erotic electrostimulation that I felt.  It is a lot of fun especially if you ask your lover to change the modes.

My First Attempt of the Fetish Fantasy Shock Therapy Kit

I first attempted the Fetish Fantasy Shock Therapy Kit with my lover.  I allowed him to place the adhesive pads on my back.  For some reason I expected the experience to feel like a dazzling back rub.

My goodness! I had no idea just how wrong I’d be.

When they describe their product as being shocking they are not mucking around! Although it was powered by 2 x AAA batteries, there was a hell of a ton of force!  On lower settings it felt truly pleasant. But on the higher settings the erotic electrostimulation was strong.

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Generally Clear Instructions

Instruction manual provides generally clear instructions on how to begin to use the product. I think one thing the instruction manual is missing is the locations on where to place the adhesive pads.

I feel that if Pipedream Products were to update their manual with this information, it would help people experience higher levels of pleasure or pain!

Why Do Erotic ElectroStimulation?

I’m certain I read somewhere that erotic electrostimulation increases the levels of collagen and increased levels of collagen can potentially firm up a woman’s breasts.

This is worth an attempt right?

I tested this out and I can’t say the sex toy did anything for my breasts aside from making them move about all over the place.  Although, seeing them move was truly an exciting thing to see.

I genuinely didn’t think erotic electrostimulation would be for me

But if you know where to put the adhesive pads and are able to effectively work out the settings it can make an incredible electro sex toy.  It’s not only for people who like painful pleasure. It can also be incredible for releasing muscle pressures after you’ve had a work out.

I do like that you can put the 4 adhesive pads where ever you like on the body so they don’t all need to be in the one spot.

Fetish Fantasy Shock Therapy Kit is good for beginners

You can effortlessly control the mode yourself.  Can also quickly change it to go down to the lowest setting.

The LCD screen makes it straightforward to use and there is a large range of settings that you can choose from. LCD screen allows you to see the velocity, power and mode.

Fetish Fantasy Shock Therapy Kit was pretty awesome even though I am not sure if I want to explore the BDSM roleplaying scene any further.


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