My Secret Fetishes

To start off with My Secret Fetishes, let’s look at the word Fetish.  Fetish is derived from the Portuguese word for Charm or Spell.  Fetishes range from completely common to very uncommon.  Today, I’m going to cover My Secret Fetishes and the more common ones.


It’s actually a common taboo subject which involves a non-monogamous couple (Generally married) that choose to partner swap with other couples or invite another person into the bedroom, a lot of people who engage in swinging do so for the extra spice in their love life and to add a bit more into the relationship, the massive hurdle to get over is jealousy, self confidence and fear, a lot of couples actually tend to get closer after this as they see their partner in a new way and gain more self confidence by feeling sexy and what not. It’s reported that 75% of all Swinging relationships are brought up first and instigated by the male partner.

Swinging has become a huge international lifestyle since the emergence of the internet and even earlier to the 60’s and even has dedicated clubs to it where people can go and swap partners, there is also private chat rooms and online apps that even cater to this lifestyle. According to research done by the Kinsey Institute 2-4% of Married couples are considered swingers.   (With that number likely being higher due to people staying private)

Foot Fetish

This fetish is actually the most common fetish for a non sexual part of a humans body, many people you know or have seen on TV indulge in this for instance Pharrell Williams and Quentin Tarentino (IF YOU HAVEN’T SEEN ANY OF HIS MOVIES) for some this fetish is downright disgusting for others it’s the only way they can orgasm is indulging, for a foot fetishist there are different things that attract them to certain feet, whether that be length of toes, size, arch, jewelry, manicured or not and even sensory (smell,sight,touch)

Researchers think that foot fetishism (and the increase in it) occurred due to rise in STI’s and Illnesses which they’ve actually studied throughout the ages and seen the prevalence during rises of sickness such as AIDS in the 80’s as it was considered a safe sex alternative.  (The earliest to date foot fetish article ever found is from the year 1220) .  They think that foot fetishes are caused by feet and genitals being close in the brain but i’d argue against that as it’s a partialism fetish which also includes, butt, breasts and even naval.

I think it’s just a common one of My Secret Fetishes, for exact statistical data there hasn’t been enough research but it is known as the number one non sexual part of the body as being praised and i can refer to a article by Cosmo that read that 25% of women had some sort of foot fetish involvement on them from a partner.  It’s much more prevalent in males than females.

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Wax Play

What fun wax play is! I tried it for the very first time yesterday so I’d like to go in depth with it.  Just a word of warning, since you are literally playing with fire be very careful, it’s actually pretty easy to set fire to anything and wax can give third degree burns if not checked properly or using the incorrect candles. Before using the wax on the subject always check it’s temperature by putting a little bit on the back of your hand or arm as to see how hot it is, as you don’t want to kill the mood and possibly your sub. ( Being actually burnt can turn a lot of fun into a hostile event) test every candle this way as they are all made up of different chemicals so some burn at a much higher temperature than others and some don’t get too hot at all so be sure to choose the right candle for yourself and your partner.

Also keep in mind that depending how your partner is restrained or not (maybe even blindfolded) they will have different levels of heightened sensations, which will make the wax feel hotter or even cooler than it actually is. When applied to hairy areas i have found trying to get the wax off after about as hard as trying to comb chocolate pudding out of a shag rug, so be prepared for that haha, you can use a credit card or similar items to take the wax off but if it is in a sensitive area (i.e genitals) a nice warm shower will help unlodge any bothersome wax that just wants to be close to you. Wax Play is one of the easiest fetishes to get into.

Suggestions For Wax Play

  • Hold the candle higher than you normally would and it will land at a cooler temperature due to the fact that it has time to cool down mid air.
  • Make sure you’re using the right candles, so ones without irritants or added chemicals especially metal based ones or super shiny ones, they generally have acrylic in it which is not skin friendly.
  • There are many ways to do wax play and i’m sure you know it’s a form of temperature play in the BDSM scene, these can range from just using it with a candle or to even melting in a pot, if you are using a pot be super careful and make sure that it has all evenly temperatures , the way to achieve this is by stirring the pot continually.
  • When choosing the right place to start on your partner with the wax make sure you pick a good spot, by good spot i mean one that isn’t flammable (hairy) and make sure you don’t do the face or direct on piercings as the caked wax is very hard to get off especially around piercings and can cause annoying infections.
  • Parrafin candles are generally the way to go because they have a low melt temperature and are much more likely to be fun first time around, as i’m more of the jump in the deep end type guy i tried really really really hot ikea candles right on my jiggly bits and it was the most insane feeling, i loved it.

If you haven’t tried it Wax Play would suggest it. At Oh Zone Penrith we even stock some soy candles in our shops that retail for $24.99 and they can be used as a body massage oil once poured onto the sub.

JimmyJane actually carry a range of candles as well for beginners. This one has a few scents in it which is awesome, smells can bring around new arousal, so for instance I hate the smell of strong vanilla but if someone poured melted caramel on me i’d be turned on like a light switch.  With all that said it comes down to tolerance on what you want/what you can handle.  Some might think that Soy and Parrafin aren’t hot enough so they might like to increase and go with a beeswax candle which has a way higher melting point. The cool thing also about wax play is you can make beautiful works of art on your subs body with multi colored candles or even by melting down the child safe non toxic crayons to make awesome colors and works of art 😀 I hope you try it out if you haven’t because it was truly mesmerizing.

Author:  Nick is a consultant from Oh Zone Adult Lifestyle Centres


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