Sexual Health And Education For Intellectually Disabled!

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We’ve discussed before the inadequacy of Young Adults accessibility to information regarding sex, sexuality, sexual health and education. We’ve discussed before how the education system shifts responsibility to the parents, where the parents shift the responsibility to the education system. Often, what’s left is small under funded by the government organisations which are left to fill in the gaps. But they’re not working. What remains is a system of peer based discussion, access to pornography, and a befuddling conversation with parents, teachers and what’s mandatory teaching in the school Physical Education classes. It’s clear, report after report, that young adults are vulnerable in terms of the lack of information that’s given to them when it comes to sexual health and education. The thing is that sexuality is an important part of humanity, humans are one of the few species on the planet which has sexual relationships for pleasure as opposed to solely reproductive purposes. Concepts such as pleasure, consent, masturbation, and sexual experimentation are often left behind when it comes to sexual health and education. More so when the young adult has an intellectual disability. People forget that individuals with intellectual disabilities have the same capacity to experience the same spectrum of sexual behaviour as those without intellectual disabilities. We’re talking about concepts such as sexual thoughts, sexual attitudes, feelings, desires, fantasies – all of which can be experienced by individuals irrespective of their intellectual capabilities. If the reports are indicating that mainstream young adults are not receiving adequate information regarding sexual health and education – then how it is the support mechanisms for those with Intellectual disabilities?

What is an Intellectual Disability?

There are many misconceptions when it comes to Intellectual Disabilities (I.D) – as many people categorise it to individuals which are incapable of self-support. This is incorrect and people with I.D can still be functioning individuals within society. Intellectual Disability is a term which describes a reduced capability to grasp and understand new and complex information. Essentially, I.D can be defined as ‘difficulty learning or understanding things’ (Survey of Disability, Ageing, and Carers). It is, for the most part, further characterised by an IQ below 70, and is associated with minor to significant difficulty with daily living which includes things like communication, safety, and self-care. Disabilities within the spectrum include; FXS, Down Syndrome, Developmental Delays, PWS, FASD and can be present from before birth, or brought on during birth and as a result of other environmental factors from birth. Australian statistics indicate that in 2012 2.9% of Australians (668,100) had an intellectual disability, which signified an increase from 2009 which saw 2.6% of the population diagnosed or 565,000 people. It is inevitable with the growing population rate that there will be a continued increase to people having intellectual disabilities. Breaking this down further from the 2012 results, 567,000 individuals with I.D needed assistance with at least one activity throughout their daily life and as a result needed either a carer, or family member close by.

What does this have to do with sexual health and education though? What’s frightening is that these statistics aren’t the scary ones. Reports vary wildly but research suggests that one in six women will survive a rape or attempted rape encounter but for women with an ID, that number jumps considerably. One in four women with ID whom has been referred to a GP for birth control has reported a sexually violent incident. Other research and reports claim that the number is actually higher – reporting that almost half of individuals with I.D will or have experienced at least ten incidents of sexual abuse in their lifetime. This number can be considerably skewed by the research demonstrated by a 2015 Study published in the Journal of Sexual Research. This study concluded that women with ID have great difficulty/simply don’t associate pleasure with sex and rather will willingly play a passive role which sees them far more inclined in directing pleasure to the penis of their sexual partner forsaking their own pleasure. Furthermore, after sexual activity they are far more likely to exhibit feelings of depression and guilt. Where the Journal of Adolescent Health reports that 10% of women will experience an STD, the numbers jump in comparison to a cognitively impaired female with the percentage sitting at roughly 26%.

 

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It’s clear that not only is there a significant increase in instances of sexual abuse, but also greater risk of early pregnancy and STD’s with individuals who had an I.D. The question is why? Now, many people will automatically assume or blame the individual because they feel that they can’t control their feelings, emotions or behaviours. Whilst this is true to a certain extent the World Health Organisation (WHO) identifies different primary contributing factors. WHO, as well as other reports on I.D all identify that adolescents and adults who are classified as having an I.D are far more likely to be excluded from Sex Education Programmes.’ (WHO, report). WHO in its report, doesn’t identify specifically on this trend in much detail, it has been speculated elsewhere as to the reasoning’s behind this thinking. These include:

  • The perceived desexualisation and application of Asexuality towards individuals with ID at the hands of other people, IE educators, carers etc.
  • The reluctance of parents exposing children with ID to talks of a sexual nature out of protection, or out of desexualisation.
  • The mentality that carers view an I.D individuals sexuality as something that is feared and needs to be controlled.
  • Misconception of Medical Professionals who perceive people with I.D not to be sexually active which results in a profound failure to offer sexual and reproductive health information and services.

Indeed, in the United Nations Convention on the Right so Persons with Disabilities (CRPD), the report notes that even though in many countries there are legal prohibitions, there are still many cases of forced and/or involuntary sterilization used to prevent the reproduction of some people with Intellectual Disabilities and that this sterilization is almost exclusively confined to women. Sex education and accessibility to sexual health information is an important process in the development of positive experiences of sex and relationships that occur with individuals with I.D. Further from this, appropriate relationship behaviours also need to be taught to people with I.D so that they are better able to identify inappropriate behaviour and respond accordingly. Often, people with I.D miss out on the opportunity to mix with other people socially and as such will struggle to develop a relationship with someone else. Reasons for this include;

  • A lack of privacy. Having a carer around constantly.
  • Dependancy on others for daily living
  • Lack of confidence
  • Profound lack of social development due to being excluded from mainstream classes young
  • Limited social experience

What this can result in is inappropriate sexual expression and behaviour and therefore it is clear that any individual with an intellectual disability will need additional support during their teens and developmental years in order to develop coping and behavioural mechanisms to support their exploration of their sexuality and develop relationship skills.

It’s therefore clear that people with an intellectual disability can no longer be excluded from sexual health and information courses. Indeed, people with I.D may need further education when it comes to health and sexuality which entails an education which includes:

  • Teaching individuals that people with disabilities can have sex lives and sexual relationships
  • Cover issues that may be associated with their particular disability that is delivered in an age appropriate manner.
  • Teaches and explains social rules which include differences between public and private behaviours.
  • Is delivered and taught in a way that works with an individuals level of understanding.

It is an important process for parents and carers to go through as well. Carers need to understand appropriate ways in which they can allow the individual under their care to flourish in social relationships which may or may not be of a sexual nature. The educational process needs to facilitated by schooling, parents, and peers in order for it to be effective teaching. Many of the issues are derived from misconceptions regarding people with I.D and this is where social awareness regarding I.D will come into play. It’s a delicate balance that needs to be approached from multiple angles in order to correct this oversight in society.

Adult Lifestyle Centres proudly support and cater for persons with physical and mental disabilities.

 

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The Remarkable Bendable Vibrator

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The Je Joue G-Kii is a dual motor vibrator designed for finding the G-Spot and clitoral stimulation simultaneously or separately. The Je Joue G-Kii has the wonderful feature of a bendable spine built into the neck of the device, allowing the user to customise the placement of both ends.

Yes, that’s right, this vibrator can be bent through five different positions with a locking mechanism to ensure it stays in place. It starts off as a curved vibrator and can be bent into a position like the letter “C”, resembling a larger We-Vibe Sync. The mechanism is operated by a locking button along the side of the vibrator. When pushing the button, the vibrator initially feels as though it will not move but a gentle rock releases the lock and allows you to bend the spine. Releasing the button locks the sex toy into that position and whilst there is some movement, it is marginal. A card included in the box instructs the user on how to adjust the toy.

The Je Joue G-Kii vibrator has a flattened bulbous shape at the bottom of the vibe where the control buttons and magnetic charging connection are located, thinning out along the neck to the tip of the vibe that has a smaller rounded shape synonymous with toys designed for intense g-spotting. The wider base allows for easy handling and the long neck and well-shaped head allow for that precise g-spot finding. The shape is similar to the Je Joue Uma. In the hand, the vibrator has a luxurious feel and exudes quality.

Operation is by a plus and minus button to control the intensity of the vibrations with a function button nestled between them. The plus and minus buttons also function as the charging connection with the included magnetic charger – which happens to be colour matched to the toy! The Je Joue G-Kii has two motors, one in each end of the device, which allows for varied uses and positions. The buttons can be a little hard to push, requiring more force than other vibrators I’ve used. However, this definitely has it’s positives as there’s no way you’re bumping past your favourite strength or pattern.

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There are five power levels and six different functions available to choose from, with the power levels able to be adjusted whilst using the patterns. The Je Joue G-Kii has powerful vibrations at both ends, so much so that if the internal vibration is turned off at one end, the vibrations easily transfer along the toy to the other end. To turn on you hold the “+” button for three seconds. Click plus or minus to adjust the power level and hold “–“ for three seconds to turn off. Two hours of charge will give two hours of pleasure time, though with the vibrations as nice as they are I doubt you would need that long in one session! The vibrations lean more on the rumbly side and have a pulsating quality to them. Although the vibrations are powerful and strong, I doubt a power queen would feel there is enough power for them. Another plus for the Je Joue G-Kii is how quiet the motors are. Even at full speed, this pleasure toy – and it is all about pleasure – is super quiet and very discreet.

The Je Joue G-Kii is a delightful vibrator is right at home pleasuring you in a bath or shower thanks to the quality construction and overall finish. The material is 100% waterproof and bath friendly and is made with 100% body-safe silicone. There are no seams and the silicone is soft and a little squishy, reminiscent of the Tenga Iroha. Je Joue G-Kii is available in black, fuschia, lilac and purple.

The outer box is colour matched to the vibrator. Inside is the signature Je Joue black box containing the G-Kii, a colour-matched magnetic charger and an instruction booklet. Amazingly, the booklet contains information about the G-Spot, where to find it, and how to stimulate it. Useful information for those new to exploring their g-spot.

The Je Joue G-Kii is a great vibrator for g-spotting and even more amazing with the ability to bend the toy into a deep ‘c’ so that you can obtain simultaneous clitoral and G-Spot stimulation, also allowing you to rock the vibrator back and forth to hit your g-spot perfectly. The strength and quality of the vibrations are on point making the Je Joue G-Kii a great g-spot vibe. Highly recommended for those starting out with G-Spot pleasure and for those more experienced and after something more personalised and targeted.  Of course the Je Joue G-Kii makes a wonderful vibrator, whether finding out where your clitoris or G-Spot is located.

 

About the Author: Alicia is a consultant from Oh Zone Adult Lifestyle Centres

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WIN $1000 Worth of Sex Toys

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Oh Zone Adult Lifestyle Centres love celebrating the seasonal holidays and Christmas is no exception. Who doesn’t love presents and happiness? If you are pessimistic don’t answer that, it was rhetorical.

For our annual Christmas celebration, the kind folks at Oh Zone Adult Lifestyle Centres are giving out a MASSIVE $1000 gift box. It is filled to the brim of some of our most loved sex toys and sexual health products. Who ever win’s this raffle will be smiling ear to ear for the rest of their live’s with the selection that is in this box. Sexually experiment and self love to your hearts content. Share the passion with your loved one this Christmas or you can keep it all to yourself.

Just from looking into the Christmas Raffle box, I can see what appears to be a We-Vibe Plus 4, an Nu Sensuelle sex toy, SuperSlyde Lurbication, Wildfire Massage Oil, an Ovo Sex Toy, a rabbit vibrator, an original Fleshlight and a Fun Factory massager just to name a few. You can definitely visit the stores to double check what is in there! These sex toy and sexual health brands are amazing!

The XXXMAS Raffle Ticket Prices are:

  • 1 Ticket = $2
  • 3 Tickets = $5
  • 7 Tickets = $10
  • 50 Tickets = $50

To top that off if you join the Oh Zone Christmas Raffle Draw event and turn up to any Oh Zone Adult Lifestyle Centre on December the 22nd at 4:00pm you will received a free gift when you arrive. And to add to the fun, you will also get 10% off any purchase made that afternoon. If you invite a friend to the event and they attend you both will receive another 5% off! This means you will have a total of 15% off any purchase.

Steps to Join Oh Zone Christmas Raffle Draw on Facebook:

  • Log into Facebook.
  • Go to the Oh Zone Adult Lifestyle Centre Caringbah’s Facebook page.
  • Click the Event tab.
  • Click “OhZone Christmas Raffle Draw”.
  • Click on the button going, to see you are attending.

*You must screenshot and show staff upon arrival that you have clicked attending, as well as show a screenshot that you have invited your friend to the event for this to apply.

 

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Photo: Christmas Raffle Prize

 

Our Oh Zone stores are located in Caringbah, Kogarah, Sydney and Penrith. We have a large range of products including cock rings, dildos, mens sex toys, vibrators, bullets, kegel balls, BDSM equipment, surgical steel products, couples sex toy, strapless dildos, disability friendly product’s and much more! Our consultants are super lovely and we do our best to make your customer service experience the best it can possibly be. We tailor our sex toy and sexual health product advice to suit your needs. If you would like to see what type of information we can offer, simply have a look at the reviews and articles on the blog as they are written by our consultants. We do our best to make you feel comfortable whilst leaving with something that you need the most. Come in to Oh Zone Adult Lifestyle Centres and say hi! Have a browse around to see what we have to offer!

When you come into the Oh Zone Adult Lifestyle Centre, there are a couple of questions you can ask yourself including:

  • Do you have sexual problems which make your sexual lifestyle difficult?
  • What type of orgasm would you like to experience?
  • What type of orgasm do you prefer?
  • What type of sex toy do you prefer?
  • If you are in a relationship, how would you like sex to be enhanced?

Our staff can answer questions like:

  • Warranty
  • Waterproof options
  • Cleaning options
  • Body safety
  • Product quietness
  • Advice on products that may help sexual issues

We can also help you test out the sex toys in store hygienically by wearing gloves.

Oh Zone Adult Lifestyle Centre in Kogarah is disability accessible and is also a warehouse sex toy store. All the Oh Zone Adult Lifestyle Centre’s are LGBTQI friendly and safe zones. We also operate the Adult Smart website to get packages delivered to your door without disclosing to others whats inside it! We do our best to provide fast shipping by Australia Post or DHL International Shipping Services.

We hope to see you there for our fabulous Christmas raffle and bring your festive Christmas spirit to!

Can Dakimakura (Hug Pillows) Be Comforting?

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I was struck by a video made by The School of Life called “The Importance of Soft Toys”. The video had outlined that the majority of people grew up forming an attachment to a soft toy. We found that we may hug them when we go to sleep or seek comfort from the soft toy when we may have needed it the most. School Of Life suggested that the soft toy looks after its owner. In a sense that we go to the soft toy when we were stressed or when we needed to feel safe. We may have found ourselves that we spoke to the soft toy about our problems or feelings. In response, we gave the soft toy words to speak back to use in a form that was loving and soft rather than the harsher reality of how we may think about ourselves or what others have said. With the soft toy we form an emotional attachment and see it at as a security object. When we grow up to become an adult some people carry these self-talk and mindful skills to their real lives and let go of the soft toy.

With this in mind, I had thought Dakimakura (Hug Pillows). Dakimakura as the name suggest is a type of pillow that is life size. On the pillow is a 2d print out of the person’s favourite anime character, pornography star, famous actor or person. They are known to have on one side of the pillow there is a fully clothed character then when you turn it over to the other side you may find that it has an image of them slowly undressing or are fully naked in a sexually alluring manner. They are known as a Dakimakura in Japan or a hug pillow in English. Like a normal pillow they are very hug-able and super soft to fall into especially if you buy one that is made with higher quality materials. You are able to change the pillow case, so you can have a different Dakimakura for any day of the week. There are also pillows that are made like sex dolls for sexual intercourse, so you are able to have intimate relationships with the pillow. The great thing about hugging a pillow is that, it will generally hold your warmth so you can fall asleep more soundly with the thought of someone being there with you as you fall asleep.

 

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Dakimakura can be slightly different from getting an anime collection of books, DVDs, bed sheets, shower curtains, collectable figurines and anime boob mouse pads. Some people just love having on in their anime collection as a collector’s item! Thought some Dakimakura are looked at as girlfriends, their dream anime wife that they have fantasized about being romantically involved with who may eventually marry the pillow. Some people also take their Dakimakura out on journeys whether it’s on the train, to the supermarket or even to bars. The interesting thing is that, many people who own a Dakimakura also have short term or long-term partners who accept the pillow in their life.

This leads me to the notion that some people use Dakimakura as a relationship aid for when they are not romantically involved with someone. Like most TV shows, movies, sex dolls and even pornography most things made are pretty unrealistic in nature. You can find an anime character that will suit your personal tastes. They come in all body sizes, shapes and builds. They can have different haircuts, eye colours, skin tones, groin sizes and breast sizes! Just as how different people are, anime characters are even more so as they can be exaggerated! Anime characters can also have a full assemble of personality traits from someone who is a crazy, loud mouthed, happy go lucky, intense character to others who are angry yet protective or ones who are plain sweet. When it comes to anime, the sky is the limit. If you couldn’t think of having someone more perfect, you are able to adapt your sexual fantasies in your own mind to change to how you wish the ideal relationship would be. The Dakimakura will be able to self-talk to you just how you may have always needed someone to. Maybe this is why some people love Dakimakura.

Author: Elaine is a blogger from Oh Zone Adult Lifestyle Centres & Adult Smart Online

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The Mimikaki Ear Cleaning Fetish

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There is a salon in Japan, Tokyo called “Mimikaki” dedicated for the only purpose of cleaning paying customer’s ears.There are both men and women who go in there to get their ear wax orifices cleaned out by the professional ear cleaners who are sometimes dressed up in traditional kimono’s or surgically clean outfits.

The Mimikaki Ear Cleaning Fetish is actually seen as something common in Asian cultures, in particularly Japan. The fetish can be seen as being a intimate or romantic venture between two people. In Japan, parents use a bamboo ear picker called the “Mimikaki“. The Bamboo ear picker has a tiny spoon on one side and a fluffy head on the other. Normally, the mother sits in a sieza position with their child’s head resting comfortably on their lap whilst she cleans the child’s ear. Hitome Kobayashi from Showa University School of Medicine explains:

“Many Japanese grew up having their ears cleaned by their mothers, and associate it with pleasant feelings of maternal closeness.”

Growing up with a comforting child hood memory of safety as a parent take cares of a vulnerable part of our bodies. They may find themselves continuing this tradition into adult hood with their lovers slowly sometimes even unconsciously developing The Mimikaki Ear Cleaning Fetish. Couple’s can find that they bond over the event as you are taking care of the other person and can use this time to talk with each other. Some people may also find themselves accidentally cleaning their partner’s ears!

 

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Photo: The Mimikaki Ear Cleaning Fetish

 

Some people find that their ears is an extra sensitive area on their bodies. Especially since the ears are an area that we virtually do not touch. When they clean them with q-tips the nerves are stimulated sending various pleasure signals through their body giving them a sense of pleasure and relief. The sensations experienced can be quite addictive with people coming back claiming that it is like receiving an orgasm. So you can see why people would love to re-experience The Mimikaki Ear Cleaning.

People develop two different types of ear wax including:

  • Dry and sugary with colours that are pale, tans and grey
  • Heavy wax that can feel wet or sticky with colours of yellow and orange

Naturally, our bodies are made to push out useless materials from our bodies similar to when a splinter gets lodged in our skin and slowly pushes out to the surface. A similar thing happens to useless and dried up ear wax. Though this type of ear wax normally washes away when you are having a shower. The ear wax that is unsightly can lightly be cleaned.

Your body produces wax in your ear to prevent water, dust or dirt traveling up into your ear canal whilst it moisturises the area. When a person uses a q-tip to clean the ear wax, the q-tip can actually move the ear wax further deeper into your ear causing hearing problems. Over cleaning your ears can attribute to infections, so make sure you do it in moderation! If The Mimikaki Ear Cleaning Fetish is something you may be interested in following, you should definitely seek advice from a doctor to ask what are the best and safest methods to clean out your ears. One you have gained knowledge from the internet and from your doctor on the safest techiques, you can begin The Mimikaki Ear Cleaning Fetish journey.

If you are thinking of getting your lover into The Mimikaki Ear Cleaning Fetish, you can demonstrate the technique on yourself first to show them what it is like. Although cleaning your ears can be done for purely visual reason’s, some people do get a lot of pleasure from cleaning their own ears which can be a little bit of a fun addition to add every so often to your morning routine.

 

About the Author: Elaine is a blogger from Adult Smart Online and Oh Zone Adult Lifestyle Centres.

 

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