My Very First Secret Trip To A Nude Beach

It was a while ago, but let me tell you about My Very First Secret Trip To A Nude Beach.

I like clothes, used to sell them; and often be seen wearing them. There is a feeling of comfort and protection in clothing, and for me I see it as a way of self-expression and exploration.

I like being nude, was born nude; am often nude and if you’re unlucky, you may see it. It gives me a feeling of freedom and openness when I am nude. It is a way of self-expression and exploration.

I Like Wearing Clothes and I Like Being Nude

You needed to know these two things about me before I start my story.  For some the desire to go nude, let alone go nude in public around other people, who are also nude, seems damn near insane. But that’s what I did.

My husband and I were sitting on the couch together, talking about things husbands and wives talk about.  Phone bills, other people, etc. when an idea literally popped into my head.

I turned to him quickly and said, “do you wanna go to a nude beach tomorrow?”

Almost as surprised by the question was his simple reply, “Yeah”.

Side note: My husband is a very nude dude.

I love the beach, my husband however doesn’t. He figures in the travel time, the traffic, the crowds, and the cost of parking (if you can get it), a beach day can turn into a pain in the arse.

For me the payoff of being in the ocean makes it worth it, but not for him. So when he said yes to my nude beach plan, I was happy.  It seemed like I had planned a beach trip that he would enjoy.

But I quickly had to ask myself, would I?

Trip To A Nude Beach

While my husband was a very nude dude, I have had quite a different relationship with my naked body. As a child I always wanted to be nude but as most children learn early that is not “ok” so I dressed as I was told.

As a teenager, I grew big boobs overnight that got me a lot of attention.  Caused me a lot of pain and changed my body into something I was meant to like (big boobs are awesome! Everyone wants them) to something that I didn’t recognise. Getting in the shower and staring down at these massive balloons on my chest, covered in stretch marks and veins.

Couldn’t help but think, no this isn’t what they are meant to look like!

I spent most of my teenage years mad at my body for not turning into the nude image I had in my head. As an adult plus size woman I have to be honest in saying this relationship has only recently started to improve

Why now?

I don’t really know, maybe age?

But I’m going with it. And going with it is exactly how this chubby girl found herself pulling up in the carpark of Cobblers Beach the next morning. My husband was eager  To him this experience was exactly what he had been looking for, a chance to feel open and free… me on the other hand, I was sweating.

This seemed like such a good idea when I suggested it, but as I walked down the rocky path towards the hidden cove I was cursing myself out.

“this is dumb turn back!” said my brain, “your giant gross titties will freak out all the nice people and they will run like that scene from jaws!!!”

I tend to get somewhat overdramatic when I am nervous.

As we rounded the corner we began seeing people, naked people.  The second I saw that I was calm. Forgetting for a second that at a nude beach, everyone was nude and there is something very equalising in that. No matter what the body looks like, there is an undeniable vulnerability in being nude with others. It’s a,

“we are all in this together”

type of thing that helped me forget my hang ups and start paying attention to what was happening around me.

Happening around me were a bunch of smiling nude people who seem really happy and relaxed. What will surprise you the most about a nude beach is how normal it is. People were snorkelling, others were sun bathing and many were just enjoying a swim. All in various stages of undress, some still fully clothed, hanging out with their nude friends.

Trip To A Nude Beach
Image: Nudists

We picked our spot and dropped our clothes.  Well the husband did.  I thought topless was enough for my first visit. Walking away from our area I was expecting people to look at my pale chuddy self and recoil. They didn’t even notice, or if they did, I didn’t notice them noticing me.

We spent a few hours swimming, reading in the sun, exploring the rock pools , watching people fish.  I can honestly say it was the best day at the beach I’ve ever had. It was odd to me that as a chubby girl I felt more comfortable on a nude beach than a normal one.  But it is true!

It felt more accepting and less about how you look and more about how you feel. I felt empowered, and a little sunburnt.

It Was Not His Hang Up – It Was Mine

The husband was in his element and I think he realised that the beach wasn’t the issue. It was that we kept going to places he couldn’t be comfortable.  For him being able to be nude and unjudged was a very big thing.  It changed the beach from this pain in the arse thing his wife likes, to do to something we can do together.

But the real question is would I go back?

My answer…

Why wouldn’t I?

Author: Jamie is a consultant from Adult Lifestyle Centres

If You’re Going to Send Nudes, Here Are 4 Rules to Follow

Many of us have received the oh-so-famous message ‘send nudes.’ Though the phrase is now the stuff of legends (and memes), it does show how popular sharing nude photography is.

With online communication, sexting and sending nude photos have become a natural and healthy part of our sex lives. After all, it’s incredibly hot and can quickly ignite your imagination about the sender. Not to mention the powerful confidence boost when you feel sexy in those carefully curated photos.

But before you grab your phone to snap that pic, you need to realise that it’s not just a case of taking a picture and hitting send. Nudes require finesse, so they are actually flattering. You also have to be careful because you’re sharing a potentially compromising image of yourself. And, of course, as with everything sexual, boundaries and consent is a must. 

Sending nudes can be exciting, but you need to understand 100% what you’re doing. Here are some of the rules that can help you keep things fun. 

Consent Is Everything

Before you send a nude, you have to ensure that the recipient is entirely on board. People often think that receiving nudes ‘for free’ will make anyone, especially men, feel thrilled. And while some people will count it as their lucky day, others might just feel uncomfortable.

That’s not what you’re aiming for, right?

What’s more, without consent, you’re essentially sending them unsolicited pornography, which can be illegal in some places. 

Getting consent is important, but you also need to make sure that you’re comfortable sending nudes. If you’re not ready or don’t want to do it, don’t feel pressured into it. The same applies if you’re feeling uncertain about the person you’re sending them to. If in doubt, don’t do it.

Yes, nudes are hot, but only when both parties are actually hooked on the idea. If you aren’t sure about them, you can find plenty of other ways to spicy up your evening, whether it’s a free live sex chat or good ol’ Netflix and chill.

Sending Nudes
Royalty Free Pexel – Valeria Boltneva

Understand the Risks

Sending nudes comes with a certain level of risk. Once a nude photo is out of your hands, you have no control over what happens to it. The person you send it to could easily forward it to other people, post it online or even threaten to do so unless you give them something in return.

This is known as sextortion, and it’s a real problem. 

If you’re going to send nudes, you need to be aware of those risks so you can think twice before you send that hit button. Think about whether you really trust the recipient not to share the photo and keep it safe from third parties. Of course, it’s impossible to predict what someone will do.  There are enough stories of vindictive exes that post revenge porn. Still, you can avoid sending it to strangers or people who already have a shady reputation.

Keep Your Anonymity 

Unfortunately, you can’t guarantee that your nudes won’t be leaked. When that happens, the easiest way to get away from the whole fiasco is to deny that you’re the person in the picture. So here is the rule – always make sure that you aren’t recognisable.

The first step, keep your face away from the picture. You can crop it out or cover it with a sticker, but to keep the nude pretty, you should use some clever angles. For example, you could go just for a booty shot or a sharp angle on your cleavage.

Send Nudes

Still, even if your face isn’t in the photo, there is the risk of someone recognising your body. It could be from something as superficial as a mole or as telling as a scar or some other distinguishing feature. 

Moreover, don’t forget about your surroundings. After all, what is the point of cropping out your face when your room in the background will scream it’s you? To avoid that, you can go for close-ups of your body, but even then, check whether any objects could give you away.

Use Protection

Just like with sex, you need to use protection when sending nudes. That means using a secure messaging app that encrypts your messages and photos. WhatsApp and Signal are two popular options that offer end-to-end encryption.

This means that only the person you’re sending the message to can read it, not even the company that owns the app. 

Using an encrypted messaging app is the best way to protect your nudes from being intercepted or hacked. But even then, there’s always a risk that someone could find a way to access your phone gallery. To avoid that, you need to use a strong password for your phone, and even then, you should store your nudes in a separate folder that also is password protected.

Sending Nudes Can Be Sexy And Fun

Sending nudes can be a fun and sexy experience, but in order to keep it that way, you have to follow some rules. Another rule that is almost as important is anonymity. That means hiding your face and making sure that no one can recognise you in the photo.

You can keep things even safer by using a secure messaging app and storing your photos on a password-protected device.

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