Fear Of The Word: Sex And Censorship

Uncomfortable sex talk

Why does everyone have an opinion on what you should and shouldn’t do when you’re growing a tiny human? Bombarding you with unsolicited advice and horror stories. Constantly reminding you that you’re brutally ill-equipped to deal with the said tiny human. In one of these conversations where one of my mum friends was talking about the gender of my baby, who coincidentally is a boy, told me emphatically that I should not call his penis a penis and that I needed to call it pee pee or his little thingy… but why?

Thinking about the conversation later in the day when I was absentmindedly playing games on my phone, I kind of wondered why I needed to use soft fluffy names for my child’s genitals instead of just calling them what they are?

Is it potentially damaging to my child, knowing what genitals are actually called? Will it turn them into a psychologically damaged young adult? Will it cause them to be more promiscuous as they enter puberty? Or will it simply just be another word in their vocabulary?

The more that I think and read about it, the consensus seems to be that in this age of sexual (and sexual abuse) awareness, a child who knows what their genitals are called and can be more specific and less ashamed about discussing such things, seems to be the best way to go.

Just an observation…

In retrospect, what I have found while working for the Oh! Zone Adult Lifestyle Centre, is that the majority of my customers, some of whom are in their 30’s and 40’s are still not sure what to call their or their partner’s genitals when asked questions about what type of product that they’re interested in. What follows is usually a great game of charades where it seems like I’m participating in a Harry Potter skit where ‘he who must not be named’ is code for a penis.

Look, I grew up in a very conservative middle class household where I didn’t get the ‘birds and the bees’ talk until I was 20 and WAY past needing it. I also went to a Catholic high school where in year 8 or 9, they taught us sexual education by proclaiming that abstinence was the best way to stop diseases or getting pregnant, not to mention, my PDHPE teacher was also my uncle… Funny, I know.

But what I remember most was how awkward my mother was when talking about sex and genitals during our ‘chat’. Now imagine how uncomfortable she got when I told her that my new career path was in the adult product industry. I’m literally laugh crying at the thought.

All those stories…

So, that mum friend that I mentioned earlier regaled her story of how she discovered that her son was now old enough to masturbate. I’m paraphrasing, but the story (after a few wines) went a little like this:

‘OMG! I have to tell you something! It’s soooo embarrassing! I can’t even say it out loud…’

‘Ok what is it?’

‘It’s, oh my gosh I… it’s like the worst thing I’ve ever had to see. It’s so embarrassing’

‘What is it?!’

‘Well, the other night I went in to kiss the boys goodnight. So I opened the door and Mr. 13 was lying in bed with his butt in the air and I could her the sheets rustling. So I turned on the light and I saw him… I saw him playing with his… his, you know, his thing’

‘And? …’

‘I didn’t know what to do, so I grabbed the covers and pulled them off the bed. OMG! He started yelling and I screamed and started crying and ran out of the room slamming the door on my way out!’

‘So… you’re telling me that you caught him wanking?’

‘YES! Oh my god! It was so bad! I didn’t think that we’d have to have THAT talk with him for another few years. I’m scarred for life now!’

‘Did you sit him down and have the talk?’

‘NO! I said to [hubby] that there is no way that I can talk to him about that! He would have to do that. I can’t even look him in the eyes right now and it’s been like, 2 weeks’

I’m no psychologist, but I would think that having your mum not only walk in on you masturbating, but to have her react the way she did, would cause more emotional and psychological damage.

Parent sex talk cartoon
Image: Sex talk cartoon

Why should we project our denial about sexuality and what we are too embarrassed to say out loud on to our children?

And that is my argument. Obviously, there is a need to censor some content or conversations, but overall isn’t it a healthy thing that kids know and understand bodily functions?

What happens if, heaven forbid, your child was inappropriately touched by another person and they needed to explain to you, a medical professional or a law enforcement officer what happened and all they had in their vocabulary was ‘down there’ or ‘that part’? The embarrassment and shame about their genitals that you have taught them is normal now becomes a detriment to their well-being and psychological development.

Like I said, I’m not a medical professional, but in my opinion it is better for kids to be raised with a healthy knowledge of their bodies so that, as adolescents and adults they can make informed decision about their sexuality without shame or embarrassment.

Author: Mia is a consultant from Oh Zone Adult Lifestyle Centres

Jennifer works marketing at Adultsmart an online sex toy shop. She has a non-judgemental approach to sex, sex toys and sexuality. Her favorite saying is if it feels good and right and is not illegal then why not!

A Fun Cup For Your Fun Factory

Fun Factory Fun Cup celebration

Exactly two years ago to the month (insert X-Files theme song), Adultsmart published an article on vaginal odours and menstrual cups. The article I wrote began with this bold statement:

 “If you have a vagina, or you know someone who has a vagina, you/your friend with a vagina, NEEDS a menstrual cup. Or, let me start with a less bold statement – you/your friend with a vagina needs to consider not using tampons”.

It’s been two years and by God I stand by my proclamation.

When I first got my period, I jumped straight to using tampons for convenience. My mum used them and she said that they were easy, comfortable, you could swim with them in and basically everybody uses them. For years I suffered from extreme discomfort during menstruation with severe vaginal itchiness, dryness and hotness. As I got older, things got worse and it became impossible for me to self-lubricate during sex. My vagina was a hot mess, literally, and it took me years to piece together that tampons were the problem.

When you Google “side effects of using tampons” a number of alarming words and sentiments are scattered through the results page, such as; severe irritation, made with harsh chemicals, increases risk in serious diseases, linked to cancer, can cause vaginal infections and so on. It makes me question, why are tampons so highly recommended over other menstrual products with ZERO side effects, which have better consequences for the environment?

What if I told you that you could buy just ONE product to use while on your period, that you would not have to replace for years to come.

Cue, the menstrual cup.

Menstrual cups have been around for 80 odd years, but the truth of their excellence has been lost in the current throw-away society, which has consumers purchasing one use items that are designed to be used once and then tossed away. Menstrual cups are a small, typically flexible silicone cup, that fits up inside the vagina to catch menstrual blood and are designed to be reused for many years.

Benefits of using menstrual cups

  • ZERO discomfort or vaginal irritation during use (if made from high quality medical grade silicone)
  • Can be worn safely for up to 12 hours
  • They cost less than tampons in the long run: one cup can cost you anywhere between $30-$60 (depending on the brand) and can last you up to ten years. The cost of tampons could be broken down to (based on my menstrual… abilities?) = 1 tampon every 4-5 hours x 4 tampons per day x around 7 days of a menstrual period, equals around 28 tampons per cycle. Times 28 tampons by the average amount of menstrual periods in a lifetime (456 periods), that equals 12,768 tampons. At around 32 tampons per box, that’s 399 boxes of tampons. Times that by the average fee of a box of tampons, which is around AUD$8.00, that’s $3,192 in just one person’s life time. JUST ON TAMPONS.
  • They don’t end up in landfill or in our oceans
  • Little to no odour as the menstrual blood is not exposed to oxygen due to the suction of the menstrual cup on the vaginal walls
  • Sexual intercourse is possible, and less messy
  • Great for people who define themselves as non-binary
  • Perfect for travel
  • Easy to use

There’re many menstrual cup companies which are available to use around the world. I started with Australian made and owned ‘JuJu Cup’, which was great, until I tried the Fun Factory Fun Cup. It’s no secret that I love Fun Factory. I have written many a review on Fun Factory’s expertise and capabilities in sex toy manufacturing, but I was genuinely impressed to see them take on the task of creating a cutting-edge menstrual cup. And they’ve done it.

Watch this short promotional video to see the cups in use! Not literally, get your head outta’ the gutter!

The Fun Cup comes in two sizes. Genius. Not every vagina is the same size or bleeds the same amount of blood, duh. So Fun Factory have created the ‘A’ cup and the ‘B’ cup.

Fun Factory Fun Cup
Image: Fun Factory Fun Cup Sizes

The A cup is smaller in size and holds 20ml of blood while the B cup is larger and can hold up to 30ml of blood. Fun Factory recommends the A cup for people with a lighter flow, or for people who haven’t given birth, while the B cup would suit a heavier flow and for people who have given birth. I know what you’re thinking… What if I buy the A cup but it’s not suited to my flow or is the wrong size ergonomically for my body? Well that’s the genius thing. Fun Factory has created three options: The A + A kit, where you get two A cups, the B + B kit, two B cups, and the Explore kit, where you can get one of each cup size. GENIUS.

I happily use the A cup as my cup of choice during menstruation. I was hoping to be able to use the B cup, as I do have a heavier flow, though the size wasn’t quite right for my body (okay Fun Factory, you were right). But that’s the great thing about the size kit – you know 100% when buying it that one of those cups will fit your body and work best for your period. For me, on a bad first day, I can wear the A cup for around 4 hours before needing to empty it. But from usually the second day onwards, I can go all day or all night before needing to change my cup. I wake up in the morning, empty the cup, rinse, put it back in and can leave it until I go to bed. Care free. ALL DAY.

Fun Factory’s Fun Cups are made with the same non-porous, hypoallergenic, medical-grade silicone that Fun Factory uses for their sex toys. You can totally tell when you hold the cups in your hands that they’re made from top quality materials. They’re flexible, but sturdy enough to bend and pop back into shape in your vagina.

To insert, you bend the cup into different shapes to easily insert it into your vagina, though the three most popular folds are shown in the below image. The more you play around with your Fun Cup, the quicker you’ll realise what method is easiest for you to quickly and seamlessly insert your cup. I personally prefer the C-fold.

Fun Factory Fun Cup diagram
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Once you’ve inserted your cup as far as you can comfortably insert it, for it to be correctly inserted you should be able to feel when you run your fingers around the base of the cup that the cup is popped out all the way and suctioned completely to the walls of your vagina. If there are some folds or the cup hasn’t quite popped out right, you can fix it by using the sturdy base of the cup to twist and shuffle the cup around to encourage it to pop out.

What’s great about the Fun Cup is that the bottom of the cup is made from hard, firm silicone which is easy to hold onto inside your vagina to twist the cup into place or to use it to remove the cup. My JuJu cup had a long string-like piece of silicone, similar to the image above but thinner, which when you pulled would stretch out like an elastic band. Once, in the early days when I was trying to remove my cup, I pulled the silicone string and it stretched out and then flicked back up into my vagina like a cruel, unforgiving slingshot. Thankfully, the Fun Cup’s solid base does not stretch out and is a great base to hold onto to remove the cup. It also stops before turning into the flexible cup so there is no accidental grabbing of the cup leading to over-spilling when trying to remove it.

Tips and tricks to securing your Fun Cup

  • Lubricate the circular rim of the cup and it will slide straight in and pop into shape perfect, first go
  • Pinch from the bottom of the cup when inserting the cup so that you can propel it into your vagina and allow it to pop into shape without your fingers being in the way
  • Twist and shuffle into place, rather than removing the cup and re-inserting
  • According to Fun Factory, the fun cup A holds FOUR TIMES the amount of blood a tampon does, allowing for the coolest thing (in my opinion), which is being able to easily measure how much you bleed in an average cycle and what the average consistency and colour of your menstrual blood is; which is actually pretty useful information if you ever need to see a doctor about suspected menstrual abnormalities.

Once you want to empty your menstrual cup, you squeeze and pull from that little anchor point at the bottom and pull the cup out. You can pour the blood into the toilet bowl, or ceremoniously dump it if that’s more your style, and then flush it away. All you need to do to keep your cup clean while on your period, rinse with water or wipe with toilet paper before re-inserting.

Once your period has finished, it’s highly recommended that you boil your cup in water to correctly clean it. In the Fun Factory video, it shows you somebody doing this over the stove in a pot… I’m super lazy, or super-efficient depending how you look at it, and have a dedicated ‘period cup’ which I pour boiling water into from the kettle and let the cup sit in that for around 2-3 minutes before storing it in the antimicrobial bag that comes with the Fun Cup’s. The antimicrobial bag means that you can keep the cup on you at all times in a safe and clean bag, ensuring the cup is ready to be used whenever you need it.

One of my FAVOURITE features of the Fun Cup is that it’s opaque (non-transparent). My JuJu cup is made from a see-through silicone, which after two years is looking a bit… grotesque. The colour is now a sort of dull-yellow, whilst cleaned correctly after every period, the stains still remain. My Fun Cup appears to have never been used, even when I pull it straight out of my vagina. The blood seems to not adhere to the silicone, somehow, like those sprays you use to keep your new shoes clean, when rinsed the blood comes straight off.

On top of being better for your body and better for the environment, Fun Factory also markets the Fun Cup as being a great product for anybody who menstruates, not just cis-gendered women. The Fun Cup’s packaging is non-gendered, and the colours of the cups are also androgynous. But not only that, the Fun Cup allows menstruators to live with their period in an easi-ER fashion.

Making the switch from tampons to a menstrual cup like the Fun Cup, could save 12,768 of your tampons from going into the ocean or into land fill. When you think about how many people globally are menstruating, that’s a lot of tampons, and your small switch to a Fun Cup, can make a big difference to the environment. Overall, I was super happy with the design and ergonomics of the Fun Cup and had no troubles in using the A cup. Whilst I did try to conquer the B cup, the B cup conquered me, granted, it is recommended for use in people who have had children. The Fun Cup is easy to insert, easy to remove and easy to clean and I can say that I have more than happily made the switch from my beloved first menstrual cup. The only downside of a Fun Cup, is that it makes you one of those annoying friends who constantly tries to force their friends and family into purchasing one also.

Author: Chloe is a consultant from Oh Zone Adult Lifestyle Centres

Jennifer works marketing at Adultsmart an online sex toy shop. She has a non-judgemental approach to sex, sex toys and sexuality. Her favorite saying is if it feels good and right and is not illegal then why not!

Why It’s OK To Be A Bad Bitch

Independent bad gal

I find myself questioning this notion a lot lately for various reasons, why or if I should change my wicked ways.

Having recently entered a new relationship there are so many bad bitch traits I am yet to break, and almost like a rebellious teenager when relationship rules are imposed on me I push, kick and fight back. I forget that there are two people, two sets of feelings, two hearts. I’m too independent, self-reliant and a whole year prior of singledom has well set me back and completely impaired me as far as having the skills to be in a relationship.

Woman smoking
Image: I am a bad girl

You see in twenty eighteen your modern day women are no longer solely dependent on our male counterpart for survival, sexual gratification, or really even general validation. In fact, over the last decade, we have seen the rise of a more self-sufficient, equipped and unapologetically bad ass women who have decided to take life by the proverbial balls and not only do everything a man can do (aside from pee standing up) but also to a degree excel above our fellow man in many areas at the same time.

Bad girl with a gun
Image: Bad girl

WHEN IT’S DEEP WITHIN YOU

Now putting all of that aside for some of us being bad is inevitable. For example, I was always a smart student at school, excelled academically and for the most part had a fairly normal well-rounded childhood. My mother was a solo parent, she was and still continues to be a prime example of the middle class working superhero who did everything in her power to provide the most stable and sound upbringing for myself and my sibling. She is my best friend, confidant, and someone I’m proud to say I can truly depend on, however as unbreakable as our bond and love for one another is our differences in personality and overall preferences are undeniable.

In fact, the chosen path I have taken is a gigantic contrast from her life at the very same age.

Not to say that either of us is right or wrong, but I myself have always been drawn to an element of danger, while my mother thrived on routine and a certain amount of predictability.

To say I suffered from the curse of being impulsive would be an understatement.

When faced with the wrong side of the tracks, particularly with men you could almost describe me as a moth to a flame. What makes it all the more fascinating is the fact that I didn’t grow up with a rough upbringing, nor did I have a parent who wasn’t diligent or caring.

Nevertheless, I could still never successfully curb my bad bitch ways.

Mae West bad bitch quote
Image: Bad bitch

REFLECTION

Let me take you to my teenagehood. Yes, those wonderful profound years of ”innocence” being tainted and boundaries being tested.

My teenage years were what could only be described as the first chapter of a remarkably colorful broken down novel filled with dark and sometimes beautiful pages. The not so desirable moments were for the most part self-inflicted, but at the time they also set a precedent for the person I am today.

You see I never blended with kids my own age, nor did I connect mentally or feel like I belonged with a white picket fence society. To say I made a conscious choice to be bad would be in my opinion wrong, I truly believe no matter the circumstance or situation there is a part of my core that would go against conforming to normality. Yes, I made my share of bad decisions and plenty of them don’t get me wrong. Sure, they helped shape me to the women I am today. But at some point I also decided to stop fighting who I am too.

Albeit I had a pretty incredible childhood/teenagehood you could at the same time call it unconventional or perhaps dysfunctional. Being a straight A student could never prevent me from dropping out at 15, and having a perfect role model mother couldn’t stop me from choosing the total wrong side of the tracks. At high school and the tender age of 14 I watched my peers talk about boys and bottles with no experience on both subjects but a hell of a lot of curiosity to try. Meanwhile I was already well on my way to being a seasoned binge drinker and surrounded myself with boys (I say boys because even though they were considerably older than me they still had a childlike mentality.) In life I’m a firm believer you design your happiness or even the latter.

With that I became the pioneer of my own destruction in many ways. I took teenage angst to a whole other level, and despite having a wonderful family dynamic I completely pushed back.

At age fifteen my mommy, my role model, my rock decided she had enough and kicked me out of home. Now you may think fifteen is too young to fend for one’s self. Bare in mind at that age I had already dropped out of high school and was fulltime doing a hairdressing apprenticeship at a local salon (I wasn’t exaggerating when I said I was not your average teen).

By sixteen I was running my own household, living alone and working fulltime still hairdressing. I had adopted a whole host of other bad girl ways, and at the same time began to harbour a resentment for men which helped lead me to the art of not only manipulating the opposite sex but using my beauty as a weapon. Your probably wondering how on earth a 16 year old can know how to wield there appearance as a weapon and looking back I cannot pin point a particular moment I realised the power of the female form but I do know that when I found it I held onto it for dear life and have struggled with relinquishing it ever since.

Devil woman with horns
Image: Devil woman

THE CORE OF IT ALL

Now we’ve got to the root of all my wicked ways (no pun intended guys). At the risk of sounding like an ultra-feminist I can honestly say I detest double standards. Yes, this world is riddled with them especially as a women. I’ve always had the attitude that if a man can do it why can’t a women.

As naive as this may sound vie sat at the end of many heated discussions (Lets just call them that) with the opposite sex including my partner, And there is not a single person on this planet that could ever persuade me that women don’t have the right to the same rights as men in every single way. I’ve sat at tables where it was frowned upon to have a female in the same room let alone in the same presence of certain people. I stood up to then helped shed light on equality with some of the most chauvinistic sexist men on this planet. You see when it comes to gender inequality I almost revel in showing a man how much I can show him up. Whether it be in a game of chess of just a general game of wit. I think this has served as a fuel for my badness in all reality.

Throughout my life I’ve most definitely had moments of self-doubt. Am I a bad person for being bad? Am I wrong for not suppressing my general urges and attempting a life of wholesomeness? Why can’t I just switch off the games I’ve become so good at and leave behind the fuck girl tendencies? But even if I could would I really want to? They may have cost me some casualties along the way, at the same time being true to myself is more precious than putting on a front and lord knows I’ve never been the type of person to fake happy very well.

BE YOU

Now I’m not promoting promiscuity nor am I saying I condone manipulating or extorting men for self-pleasure, what I will say is: Anybody with integrity and a good heart has the right to wear their true colours on their sleeve for the world to see and experience without shame that they will be judged or that there doing the immoral thing, whether you’re a bad bitch or marsha brady with a picket fence. We are all equals. All one. I’ve attempted the road of purity and flopped big time. Tried to be the super happy over-optimistic human being who ended up all but butchering everyone around me from suppressing natural feelings of anger when actually feeling them.

Pretending to be what someone else deems as good or correct will not change your character or truly make you any better than them or yourself.

After years of fighting myself on and off, using metaphoric band-aids and having mental anguish because I just can’t put on a good front so believable that others believe it, or trick myself into believing it too. I’ve finally realized it’s okay to be me, flaws and all. It’s okay to fuck up and sometimes be what others perceive as selfish. It’s okay to choose aspirations and dreams over people who are short-term, it’s okay to have a fight or flight view on life and hurt when you’re hurt.

None of this makes me any less than you, or you any less than me.

As long as I have integrity behind my actions and no ill feelings behind my words it doesn’t make me a bad human If anything you could say I’m just a bad bitch with good intentions.  It is important to take into consideration that some of these traits can sabotage a relationship.

Channelle xo

Author: Channelle is a consultant from Oh Zone Adult Lifestyle Centres

Jennifer works marketing at Adultsmart an online sex toy shop. She has a non-judgemental approach to sex, sex toys and sexuality. Her favorite saying is if it feels good and right and is not illegal then why not!

Self Help For Heart Break

Binge eating

Breaking up is not the end of the world. The sudden ending of a relationship can be heartbreaking and sometimes soul-destroying. It feels like we will never be able to love again, open up again or even that we are maybe not even worthy of being or feeling loved.

If it wasn’t bad enough that we have been dragged through the emotional ringer, we insist on prolonging our pain by going through all of the things that we could have done that could have saved the relationship. And sometimes we go as far as trying to convince the other person that we are worthy of their affection and attention.

But why? Everyone has different motivations, but it boils down to feeling like we are not a whole person without them. That we have pinned all of our hopes, dreams and happiness on the future that we have imagined with this person. Do we do this because that’s what we see on TV or in the movies? Women pining for the person that has walked out. With elaborate plans to win them back and getting their fairy-tale ending. Here’s the reality check. Life doesn’t work like it does in the movies. Your original expectations of becoming an independent person may be different from the results that are achieved.

But if you take a step back and remove the emotions from the situation, you’ll find that there are benefits, growth and opportunities that can come from a breakup. Here’s 5 crucial steps to get over a break up:

Learn to live without

This is your chance to learn to be a “me” not a “we”. I have friends who are always getting their hearts torn out then run straight into the arms of the next person who shows interest. It’s like a revolving door of rebound relationships. Not realising that the relationships aren’t working because they have no idea of who they are outside of trying to be the “perfect” partner.

You are worth more than what someone else thinks of you. Learn to love choosing what to watch on Netflix, cooking dinner for one (or having ALL the leftovers to eat), going out where and when you want, singing loudly in the shower, and more importantly pleasuring yourself.

What doesn’t kill you makes you stronger

There’s never been a truer word said. Resilience is a life skill that’s not given enough opportunity to develop in my generation and the ones that have come after. It has left us to try and fumble our way through a world that can be extraordinarily cruel, as underequipped adults.

Take this heartbreak and use it as an opportunity to build your resilience to life’s crappy moments. Remember that the empathy that you develop can help you help others that end up in the same situation that you found yourself in.

I’m walking on sunshine

Probably not something that you’d be thinking about straight away, but you’ll find after a little while, you’ll learn to appreciate the light moments. Those giggle-snorting, wetting your pants hilarious moments when your friend tells a joke so bad that it’s funny or that moment when you step outside into the morning sunshine after days of rain.

It’s the light that will help you pull through the dark periods, like the ones at 2am when you’re lying in bed alone with you mind racing around in circles. Wondering what we could have done differently to change enough to fit whatever ideal that our ex may have had in their head.

Perfect

Hey, guess what?! Those trivial things don’t seem to matter so much anymore, do they? Having your heart trampled can help you find some perspective in life. Suddenly realising that not getting X-amount of likes on that Facebook post, having a full social calendar, or wearing makeup because someone made a comment about you looking tired without it.

No more having to spend all of your energy trying to be perfect for someone else. Freeing up mental energy, time and money so that you can do things that remind you that you are perfect, just the way that you are. Time to spend with people who build you up, not use your insecurities to tear you down.

Get back up again

Always wanted to buy that Groupon voucher for a boozy night of painting and vino? Planned that trip overseas, but the ex didn’t want to travel and made you feel guilty for wanting to go with friends instead? Found that beautiful little kitten at the shelter, but the ex only likes dogs? Gone out for dinner and wanted dessert, but the ex looked at you sideways and told you that you were looking a little fat, so you didn’t order it?

Guess what? You can do what you want to do now. Paint naked men, while drinking copious amounts of wine with friends at that art and wine class. Book that overseas trip to the place you wanted to go because you now don’t have to spend every last hour of your annual leave visiting his family interstate. Snuggle on the sofa with your fluffy kitty and order all of the diabetes-inducing sweets that you fancy.

Post-breakup is a time for self-care and self-discovery. Especially at the end of a long term relationship where you may not who you are without the other person. But, take a word from someone who has been there and experienced that, you will pull through and if you can learn to be whole without someone else, then when the time comes to venture into another relationship, you will be a stronger person who knows what you’re looking for and what you need to compliment your life and how you live it. If you are finding it extremely complicated, you may just need to break up with love addiction.

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Image: Men vs women after a breakup

Author: Mia is a consultant from Oh Zone Adult Lifestyle Centres

Jennifer works marketing at Adultsmart an online sex toy shop. She has a non-judgemental approach to sex, sex toys and sexuality. Her favorite saying is if it feels good and right and is not illegal then why not!

A Womanizer Inside And Out

Man who seduces women

Today, I will be reviewing one of my favorite brand’s new adult toys, Inside Out. In my opinion, Womanizer is one of the best clitoral stimulators on the market. It’s not my favorite brand name but they do make pretty impressive adult toys. Womanizer is a German company owned by a couple that was determined to help out woman all over the world experience an orgasm and they have definitely done so. All of their toys are made with Pleasure Air Technology, which means when you place the adult toy on the clitoris it feels like it’s being sucked on. If you are more sensitive down there you don’t even need to have direct contact for the toy to stimulate you, if you hover it over the top it will still do the job and it will avoid overstimulation. This is Womanizer’s first insertable toy, so I had to review it as soon as I noticed it in our Oh Zone Adult Lifestyle Centres!!

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Image: Womanizer Inside Out

Packaging

Womanizer usually has really nice packaging but they have seriously outdone themselves with this one. Not sure if it’s because black is my colour but from the inside to the outside, the packaging is perfect.

When you open your new sexy, black Womanizer Inside Out you will find a fancy silk, black storage bag, an information manual, a second silicone head of a different size, your charging cord and something I’m super impressed that they have included that not many other companies give you unless it’s all in one piece is the wall dock for your cord!! For someone like me who has a million toys that I only dream I could charge all at the same time, this is a blessing.

G-spot sex toy set
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Charging

I recommend that every time you purchase a new rechargeable toy, it is always best that you let it charge up completely before using it for the first time. To charge you must connect your dock to a wall socket and connect your charging cord to the dock.

NOTE: Always use the same dock and charging cord when charging your toy to avoid ruining the motor.

After you have set up your dock allow the other end of the cord to attach to the end of your toy like a magnet with the two magnetic ports. Now, when I first charged up our tester toy in one of our shops it threw me off a little when I couldn’t find a light indicating that the toy was charging. After some research, I found that the charging light is in the nozzle of the clit stimulator. The light will blink red meaning it’s charging and then change to a still green light when completely charged. It takes 90 minutes to completely charge and you should get up to 2 hours of play time depending on which settings you are using throughout.

Inside Out

The Womanizer Inside Out is surprisingly just as light and quiet as their other products. This toy is made out of body safe silicone, from the insertable side to the handle which makes it really nice and soft to touch.

NOTE: No using silicone lubricant with this or any of the other Womanizer products.

There are 4 buttons on your handle, two + and two – buttons. The bottom + button has a second ring around it indicating that the two lower buttons are to increase and decrease the external stimulator. Both motors have 12 different levels of intensity, another blessing. I am personally not a fan of pattern settings, so the toys that only offer speed are usually my personal favorites.

Now, I do not own this toy so this review is based on me opening up and having a feel of our tester. I think that the shape is well designed and I love that the insertable side is nice and flexible. If you’re up for it I think the Inside Out could possibly work as an anal toy as well. It is curved nicely for great G-spot stimulation and the external side is just as strong as all of their other products. The only downside I found was that the vibrations weren’t very powerful on the internal side, you could mostly feel it at the tip rather than spread out from the bottom to the tip but I guess it vibrates where it matters.

I love Womanizer because they are realistic when it comes to the design of their toy specifically made for a woman, they know and understand that all woman don’t have the same shaped vaginas!!! So, if you find that the external side of the toy isn’t doing much for you, try swapping the head with the other one that they have included until you work out which sized head works best for your needs.

Waterproof and Cleaning

Just like all of Womanizer’s other products this one is 100% waterproof, which means you can use this toy in the bath or shower. Unlike their other products though this one has no holes when it comes to charging so there’s no need to stress about water seeping in anywhere with this one.

Waterproof also means no stress when it comes to cleaning. Give your toy a spray down with some adult toy cleaner and after letting it sit for a few minutes wash it down with some warm water.

Warranty

Again, just like all of their other products, Womanizer offers a 2-year manufacturing warranty.

Author: Elliana is a consultant from Oh Zone Adult Lifestyle Centres

Jennifer works marketing at Adultsmart an online sex toy shop. She has a non-judgemental approach to sex, sex toys and sexuality. Her favorite saying is if it feels good and right and is not illegal then why not!