Phthalates: What You REALLY Need To Know!

Toxic chemicals and infertility

Phthalates are used all over the world. Phthalate esters are toxic chemicals added to make products more malleable. Research has shown that they can actually be harmful to the human body since they can give off toxins that can react to skin and hormones in the body. This has a proven negative effect on fertility.

Toxic materials
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It is in just about everything that is manufactured from sex toys to cosmetics, engine oils to disposable gloves. Interesting enough it is against the law to sell children’s toys that contain phthalates. The reason being children may put them in their mouth. Well, I don’t know about everybody, however, I do know sex toys can go in the mouth as well as in other orifices we have.

So why not ban toxic materials in sex toys?

Unfortunately, there is little research available on the effects of phthalates in sex toys. The sex toy industry is not highly regulated. You see on the back of most packaging, sex toys are often labelled as:

“Sold as a novelty item”.

Meaning it is a gag gift. This is a huge loop hole that needs to be closed. I believe this is because of the shame associated with the product. To a certain extent we still hide our sex toys and our sexual preferences. Thus resulting in a catch 22 situation.  Because of our “shame” and “embarrassment” some sex toy makers take advantage of this and continue to use materials that are potentially dangerous. Granted we have come a long way however we still have a long way to go. Consumers must be protected when it comes to our sexual health. Embarrassment or false taboos should not stop consumers getting the information they need and quality checks being done on sex toys.  It is not illegal to sell toys made with phthalates.

Manufacturers have become aware over the years that we don’t want it any more. The popularity of these sex toys has been decreasing. However to be safe stay away from jelly like, vinyl or PVC toys. If you do have toys made with phthalates place a condom over the toy. To wash simply use toy cleaner or mild soap and water. Only use water based lubes on these products.

Body safe sex toy materials

Now, let me talk to you about sex toy materials that are considered to be body safe.

Silicone

Adult products made from silicone are considered to be latex free and phthalate-free sex toys . They are odourless and have no taste. Many silicone toys are waterproof, despite having batteries or rechargeable insides. This means you can take them into the shower knowing they are safe. The only drawback is you can not use them with silicone based lubes.

Silicone is considered to be one of the safest materials on the market. It is non porous, this means it will not collect dirt or bacteria inside the material. Silicone is used in medical instruments all over the world.

One drawback is that silicone toys can attract dust and hairs very easily, I recommend keeping your toys in a plastic bag or a toy case. Personally, I buy 100% cotton pillow cases to store mine in. 1 pillow case for 1 toy. It works.

If your toy is 100% silicone you can actually boil it on the stove or wash it in your dishwasher to keep it crystal clean. If your toy is not 100% silicone please use sex toy cleaner or soap and water in the shower.

Silicone should feel smooth have no smell or taste. If your toy is 100% silicone, it is 100% skin safe. I buy silicone for peace of mind and the luxury feel.

Glass

I find glass to be one of the cleanest toys around. Most glass sex toys are made out of borosilicate glass.  Basically, like nannas Pyrex baking dishes. When purchasing glass look for a toy with no joins. Glass should be poured in 1 piece. This helps the toy from breaking when dropped.  Glass is smooth and hardy. It can be used in temperature play.  To warm put it in hot water, to cool put it in ice. Please don’t overheat or freeze as this may cause injury to the user. Glass is safe and has no side effects. Please always keep your glass stored in a bag. If your glass toy gets scratched not only will it feel nasty and become a dangerous toy to use the germs can breed in the scratches. Glass is non porous and can be boiled, put it in a dishwasher or use some sex toy cleaner. Any of these options are good. The good news is that you can use any lubes with glass.

Metal

Easily one of the more recognisable and hardy toys. Metal toys are usually made with medical grade stainless steel. You can tell by the quality of the finish. Look for toys that are seamless and are in good condition. Keep your metal toys in material bags. This not only keeps them clean, this stops them from getting scratched. This could result in injury. Be aware of some toys that are combined with nickel. Usually, you can tell as they have some discoloration. Some people are allergic and this can cause a nasty reaction. Metal toys are safe, have no smell or taste and are very easy to clean. To clean they can be boiled, placed in a dishwasher or simply washed and sprayed with some sex toy cleaner. Metal toys are very safe for personal use and last forever. The good news is that you can use any lubricant with metal toys. Like glass, metal can be used in temperature play.

Wood

“Wood?” I hear your question.  Whilst not the first material you think of when it comes to sex toys, there are a few I have seen and they are impressive. These toys actually have the same feel as glass toys. Smooth and cold. Depending on what wood is used the toy can vary in weight.  The toys are finished off with a coat of non-toxic resin. So they are safe to use.  To clean use water only. You do not want to break down the resin as this will break down the toy. Look for seamless toys that have a high quality finish. You can use any lube with wood.

Real feel

Real feel materials are often referred to as Cyberskin, soft skin or ultra-skin. Most masturbators are made of this as well as cock extensions and cock rings. The material is thermoplastic elastomer (TPE). It has a very soft dense feel and can hold warmth once it has been heated. You can heat these toys by putting in hot water or simply by using the products.

These materials are very flesh like and are soft and very flexible. Due to the soft dense like material any vibrations that accompany the toy are usually weak. Whilst TPE has been claimed as a safe material, it is porous. You should watch out for any colour change. This can mean mould is growing on your toy and should be discarded immediately. Due to the personal nature of the toys TPE toys should be changed every couple of months or so. You can only use water based lubricants on TPE. Silicone and oils will break your toy down and leave it feeling sticky and dirty.

I hope this list helps you pick out body safe products the next time you go sex toy shopping!

Author: Leonie is a consultant from Oh Zone Adult Lifestyle Centres

Jennifer works marketing at Adultsmart an online sex toy shop. She has a non-judgemental approach to sex, sex toys and sexuality. Her favorite saying is if it feels good and right and is not illegal then why not!

7 Cunnilingus Secrets To Make A Woman Cum!

Performing cunnilingus skills
Polishing the floorboards, munching carpet, eating out, – whatever you want to call it, cunnilingus is a key aspect of lesbian sex… to be fair, any sex involving a vagina!  Cunnilingus can be defined as oral stimulation of the vulva or clitoris. Easy peasy. Or not…It is a well known fact that turning on a female as opposed to turning on a male can be a much tougher task, generally speaking that is. Cunnilingus can be a daunting task for some or a turn on for others but definitely a crucial aspect of achieving orgasm with most women. Good Cunnilingus is an essential tool for anybody to have in their… box. We all know that no vagina is the same but do not fear! I have a few basic tips to help you get well on your way to being a cryptologic Cunnilinguist. (I totally just made up that word and am so proud).

Look before you eat

You totally wouldn’t attempt to eat your dinner without at least glancing at your plate before putting food on your fork, or glancing at your fork before placing it in your mouth… nor would you attempt to piece together a puzzle in the dark – so why go down on your lady before you get a decent look? Sure, in scenarios where it may be a one time thing, or at the beginning of the relationship getting a decent look may be awkward, but you can get around this by making the situation LESS awkward. Brownie points for telling her that her pink canoe looks pretty! So how are you supposed to do your thing and do it well if you can’t even see first where everything is situated.

Converse

How does she like it? Where does she like it? Does she like direct clitoral stimulation? Dual stimulation? All I know is, the more you know, the better you’re going to provide! Discuss what feels good and don’t be ashamed or afraid to say what doesn’t! Communication is key when it comes to consent and pleasure.

Listen to the cues

It’s not just the act but also being present and completely in tune with your partners responses and cues. As previously mentioned, listen if your partner gives you direction, and when to never, ever stop.

Use your hands

Just because it’s called oral sex, doesn’t mean you can’t use your hands! Some women need dual stimulation to orgasm, some like the teasing aspect, some women need G Spot stimulation…. again, COMMUNICATE!

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Image: Cunnilingus

Communite non-verbally

Ask her to hold your hand or head and tap, squeeze, or loosen the pressure when you like something, don’t like something or what more of it. You can develop your own types of non verbal communication, to make Cunnilingus that much easier.

Remember

Sometimes you have performed Cunnilingus that many times it should come naturally. It is most important to remember, what she likes. When you have time, write down the moves that have worked best. Before you have Cunnilingus you can read the list and build open your skill set.

Don’t be ashamed to bring tools!

Sex furniture or items such as the ‘Wedge’ by Liberator, are described as a serving platter for your meal… It literally is just that. It props up your butt so you can have easier access and maneuver other wonderful toys whilst you go to town  (I won’t go into detail as this is going to occur in a review to come from Amy). Bring along a versatile vibrator, like the Lelo Mona 2. Mona can produce amazing G Spot orgasms in one hand while your tongue focuses on the clitoris. Combined with the wedge, you’ll be able to have much more freedom. Buy some flavoured lube! Flavoured lube is both fun and one of the best inventions of all time. Like coffee flavours? Try Wicked’s Mocha Java lubricant. Like sour? Try ID’s sour watermelon lubricant. Like sweet? Try Wet Stuffs caramel flavoured lubricant. There is literally a flavour for everyone. So pick away and enthusiastically eat (lick, please) your partner.

A willing giver, paired with a few of the tips previously mentioned, will be sure to graduate as high achieving cryptologic cunnilinguist. Be sure to also check out the complete guide on deep throating.

Author: Chloe is a consultant from Oh Zone Adult Lifestyle Centres

Jennifer works marketing at Adultsmart an online sex toy shop. She has a non-judgemental approach to sex, sex toys and sexuality. Her favorite saying is if it feels good and right and is not illegal then why not!

When It’s So Broke You Can’t Fix It

Broken hearted

That toxic kinda love, you know the one. Yes, that one where you have a regular ritual based on tit for tat, where yelling is your second language and cussing is your foreplay. That toxic kinda love that is met with paranoia over cheating and continuous accusations. That love that consumes you to the point where the intensity of how you feel for each other is only matched with your underlying resentment and disdain for all the shit you’ve put one another through and no matter how much you feel drained you can’t put it down even if it is slowly killing you.

You lose a part of you and what you always encompassed.

That glow in your eyes is fading and that part of sassiness you were once known for is slowly being extracted from you.

All the rules of independence you religiously followed no longer apply.

Your spirit is beaten down from day to day battles, and so is his too.

Not good enough because you don’t meticulously play by his rules even though you try,

You love him but you hate him at the same damn time.

This type of relationship makes you question what really is love?

You may even be yearning for a deeper spiritual and sexual connection.

Why can’t you put down the pain and relinquish happiness in your life? Why do you settle for only part time compassion from the one who’s meant to love you the most.

You use to be so head strong, so full of gusto and now you’re a mere shell of the former you!

You panic when you haven’t followed a time frame with full accuracy, you begin to feel guilty for things you haven’t done and worry whether there will be fall back from the things you have done irregardless how big or small they are.

Your health is up and down, blood pressure dangerously low and you sometimes struggle to breath. Your soul is riddled with sadness and you begin to wonder if you’re ever going to be able to find the old you again.

Broken relationships
Image: I hate you

THE WHY?

So why do we do it?

Why do we open our hearts to the idea of being madly in love with someone who treats us like dirt rather than gold?

Why do we start off like a miraculous tale one of those stories you would read out of a romantic novel and then it quickly transcends to a nightmare.

I guess to get to the core of this question you have to look at you and your significant other in a very analytical, almost microscopic way. After all it takes two to tango right. You could throw many theories in the mix when trying to conclude just why so many of us are drawn to toxic love.

For some it is almost in their DNA to accept and even feed from other’s abusive tendencies. All it can take is growth in a family home where such behaviour is acceptable, condoned or even encouraged and then that inadvertently trickles down for future generations to adopt and reformulate. Not to say it always will be but the likelihood is pretty high.

Although studies have shown that those subjected to witnessing abuse throughout childhood are often at a much greater risk of succumbing to similar patterns through adulthood, it doesn’t mean that it is the only theory of possibility.

The need for the love of an abusive or co-abusive relationship can also stem from low self-worth and not holding yourself at a value high enough where you feel you deserve full respect.

Low self-esteem has a lot to be said for and can spiral destructive traits into overdrive.

Panic attack
Image: Panic attack quote

THE HOW.

To love and be loved in a toxic way is more than just yelling or screaming at one another constantly. It is a mental game built on panic, paranoia, determination to one up the one who supposedly matters the most. It is having a fight or flight type of view on life and letting it seep through the foundation of your relationship.

It is carrying the burden of the hurt and scar tissue you hold from your previous relationships and procuring it with your current. It is both mental and sometimes physical, however mental scars are never quick to fade. It is allowing your emotions and disdain residue to completely trump any euphoria that your partner may bring you. It’s a battle in your head and that battle is transferred between the both of you until one person is brave enough to say enough is enough.

Abusive relationship
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WHEN YOU KNOW IT’S OVER.

You simply cannot bury pain forever, when it’s all said and done. You no longer have the sex or material treasures to compensate the hardships you both have endured at the hands of one another. It’s safe to say that time won’t heal and there’s no shame in loving and being burnt, but there is a lot to be said in staying in a loveless relationship.

See you may think that love is about sticking it out to the bloody end. But when it’s at a cost of your mental and emotional health time and time again then that is not love. Love is understanding, accepting, embracing and holding your partner to a value of equality to yourself, nothing more nothing less.

How we express that to our significant other falls in with who we are as an individual ultimately. One thing you can never forget is your self-worth because that is something that cannot be brought nor bartered, and when it’s all said and done that is who you are and will continue to be. Who knows? You may be writting a thank you letter to your ex sooner than later!

Love quote
Image: You didn’t love her

Channelle xo

Author: Channelle is a consultant from Oh Zone Adult Lifestyle Centres

Jennifer works marketing at Adultsmart an online sex toy shop. She has a non-judgemental approach to sex, sex toys and sexuality. Her favorite saying is if it feels good and right and is not illegal then why not!

You Put What In Your Vagina?

Woman in panties

I love modern technology. More specifically, I love the technology that allows me to search the strange, dark depths of humanity (AKA Google). Human beings manage to do some incredibly bizarre things to their bodies, with their posting about it online giving me an opportunity to amuse myself for hours on end.  Recently, I came across a forum detailing the strangest things women have put in their vaginas! It may seem like an odd subject to research however my curiosity was great and found me on some interesting websites where I read some freaky and crazy stories. I felt this information was too shocking not to share so below is a list of some of the things women have either placed or had placed in their womanly parts:

Popsicles and ice blocks

These people must not be aware that their vaginas are not equipped with taste buds. Sugary sweets like this can seriously mess up the pH balance of the vagina. If you’re ever seeking that cool sensation, I suggest you put a glass dildo in the fridge instead!

Popsicles used for sex
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Bike reflector

I don’t know what kind of hazards they were seeking to avoid but this is just confusing.

Phone and money

A man put these objects in his girlfriend’s vagina after they had sex. Don’t even get me started on how dirty money is let alone the ridiculousness of placing a phone in such a precious body part.

Money used for sex
Image: Money sex

Pork Loin wrapped in condoms

I felt strange reading that one. She really needs to invest in a real feel dildo instead of using a piece of dead pig to get off!! All I can say is, at least she covered it with a condom.

Clay

I think this woman needs to get herself a Clone-A-Pussy kit if she really wants to replicate her pussy.

Different vagina types
Image: Vagina statues

Bottle cap

Now, I’m not sure if this woman was successful at opening a bottle with her vagina or if she just felt she had nowhere else to throw it out. Nonetheless, this is not recommended.

Panty meme user card
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Glow stick

There’s certainly a party in this woman’s pants…

A piece of rusty metal

Has this woman not heard of tetanus?! I really think she needs to come into the Oh Zone Adult Lifestyle Centres to pick herself a clean, polished surgical steel dildo if she’s really into this.

What is perfectly health to place in your vagina?

Ok so now you know what isn’t a great idea to put in your vagina, I thought I’d make it crystal clear what is perfectly healthy to place in your precious body part.

Fingers

Self-pleasuring with your hands or having a lover do it for you is one of the greatest gifts a woman can bestow upon her vagina. Ensuring whoever’s hands come near your genitals are squeaky clean will ensure the experience is memorable for all the right reasons.

Fruits and vegetables

Phallic shaped fruits and veggies are a hit among many women. Bananas, cucumbers, carrots, zucchinis-these are perfectly healthy to have in your vagina, just be sure to place a condom over them before use (Oh and keep the banana skin on).

Using vegetables as adult toys
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Penis

This one is probably way too obvious as of course this is how children are conceived. Sexual intercourse makes many women’s vaginas feel ecstatic and blissful so feel free to keep this one on the to do list. Just be sure when having penile/vaginal intercourse with someone, it is important to be aware of both parties’ sexual health statuses. Using condoms is great however it does not protect against all sexually transmitted infections.

Sex toys, dildos, dongs, vibrators and more

The variety of different sex toys on the market is ginormous. Ensuring you use high quality sex toys made from materials such as silicone, ABS, glass and steel will ensure your vagina stays healthy and happy. I certainly recommend brands such as The Rabbit Company, Fun Factory, We-Vibe and LELO if you’re after a toy that your vagina will love and appreciate.

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Image: Different sex toys

Kegel exercisers

To ensure your vagina stays toned and terrific, completing Kegel exercises regularly is highly recommended. Like with sex toys, I certainly recommend only using Kegel balls and exercisers made from high quality silicone or ABS plastic. Kegel exercisers such as Elvie, LELO Luna Beads, Je Joue Ami and We-Vibe Bloom are some amazing products worth investing in.

Ok so this next one is still on the drawing table, with more research needed to ascertain whether it’s a healthy thing to put in one’s vagina.

Metal chain

This is one I’ve only just recently become aware of and I am yet to find out the appeal but it is certainly featuring in my fantasies as of late. A length of ¼ inch link metal chain about 2 feet is placed slowly into the vagina. Think putting it in to create a feeling of fullness and heaviness then pulling it out link by link, almost like you would with anal beads. Some recounts of this make it sound like a mind-blowing experience but like I said, I am yet to know for sure as to whether it is a good idea. So if you’re reading this thinking it sounds like a good idea, best to keep it as a fantasy and do your own research on mastering the art of fingering.

BDSM chains for sex
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Jennifer works marketing at Adultsmart an online sex toy shop. She has a non-judgemental approach to sex, sex toys and sexuality. Her favorite saying is if it feels good and right and is not illegal then why not!

Selling Guaranteed Orgasms – Satisfyer Pro

Satisfyer oral sex toy advertisement

“Press pleasure”

Ladies, it’s safe to say that they have finally found out how to package satisfaction. It’s almost as if the manufacturers have been listening closely through your bedroom wall. Feeling every desire that goes unattended that sums up your despair. It is none other than these considerate people at Satisfyer that are attuned to how to guarantee you better satisfaction. Their
livelihood depends largely on your pleasure, giving you the power to be rid of despair with this magnificent toy that they have attentively and expertly came up with.

Ideal for nights away at home, it is one of the most convenient toys to travel with that is currently available out in the market. Whether you are looking to substitute your lover for a while, add some spice to your bedroom antics or are just looking for some variety to add to your sexual experience – this will cut your search for satisfaction short. They know It gets lonely on the road away from your lover, the simple need to just be touched quickly escalates to the need of having a powerful sexual release. Having this compact Satisfyer Pro Traveler will make you forget all your woes and bring you into the present moment with its climax-inducing vibrations, you will lose track of time along with your sexual inhibitions. Let’s review this orgasmic device.

Be warned: This is for only those who are looking for explosive orgasms!

Satisfyer oral clitoral stimulator
Image: New Satisfyer Pro Traveler

Benefits of the Satisfyer Pro Traveler

It’s 4.85 inches of dynamite! Use the Satisfyer Pro Traveler to stimulate powerful orgasms, this wonder of a device is compact and easy to pack away conveniently in your travel bag, or even a purse. To save you the mortifying situation of having a vibrator turn itself on at the wrong time, the device is equipped with an ensuring travel lock which makes it the perfect
companion to go on a long business trip with. It snuggly rests on the vulva and works effectively on the clitoris. It will make your eyes roll back and your toes curl non-stop. The Satisfyer Pro Traveler is easy to operate with an ocean of orgasmic waves that can take you to sexual Utopia. There are 11 settings that toggle through just two buttons. You get the utmost control for a variety of experiences, alternate from gentle stimulation to very strong stimulation for your tender region.

Claims of the Satisfyer Pro Traveler

This will make you tap out! It is engineered to stimulate your clitoris to an instant orgasm – the team at Satisfyer certainly know how to light a fire in between your legs.

The best feature of the Satisfyer Pro Traveler

You can use this vibrator in the water as you shower or take a bath. It has a waterproof function that doesn’t disappoint in maintaining the same efficiency as you would experience otherwise. Convenient to use for when you have to smuggle in a quickie before you leave for work with a clearer head. For those who prefer to use it at home, it is ideal to use it on yourself or with the help of a lover as you relax into a well-deserved long bath after a long day making all your cares float away.

Low noise

Worrying about the buzzing noise that comes from most vibrators in the market is a thing of the past. Satisfyer motor is super quiet, ensuring that you engage in self-pleasure without any self-consciousness. Further increasing your guarantee of reaching climax very easily as you lose all your inhibitions and let waves of orgasms easily rush through your body.

Features of the Satisfyer Pro Traveler

  • 11 operational settings
  • Magnetic USB cable
  • Waterproof
  • Skin friendly silicone
Satisfyer oral sex toy
Image: Satisfyer Pro Traveler

Caring and cleaning the Satisfyer Pro Traveler

Caring and cleaning your Satisfyer Pro Traveler is a very easy task to fulfil. You can wash the toy with tmild soap and warm water. To get the most out of your efforts use sex toy antibacterial cleaner.

Who is the Satisfyer Pro Traveler for?

Although taking matters into your own hands is a one-woman job, you don’t have to always be a lone wolf when it comes to using the clitoral stimulator. It is a major turn-on for men to part-take in the experience and even use the toy on you from time to time. The clitoral stimulator is a great way for men to get to know their partner’s erogenous zone and what intensity level their lover requires to reach orgasm. When it comes to receiving a helping hand, it is always helpful to share your toys especially when it comes to receiving realistic oral sex from a Satisfyer.

Cons of the Satisfyer Pro Traveler

Size

The vibrator can do with a bit of an improvement when it comes to its dimensions. A little bit of length would make it more popular with the ladies. At least, seven inches in length is the ideal size to tickle a lady’s fancies.

Color

There should also be a spin on the variety of the colours. Black and white are not really trendy when it comes to a toy that you will get excited by just looking at it – this dehumanises the whole experience.

Pros of the Satisfyer Pro Traveler

Size

The compact size of the vibrator is the most convenient feature of the Satisfyer Pro Traveler. You can easily just pack it in a bag and take it with you anywhere.

Low vibrating sound

It is almost impossible to hear the vibrator buzzing away as you use it. This works well for keeping away the thought of being embarrassed that someone can hear you as you use the clitoral stimulator on yourself – thus hindering the ultimate experience.

Usability

Perfect for use in the shower and bathroom. Playtime is not just limited to the bedroom like most clitoral stimulators. You can soak in the benefits while adding an extra advantage of not needing any lubricant to heighten the endeavour.

Conclusion about the Satisfyer Pro Traveler

The phrase “if you want something done, do it yourself” has never been truer. The Satisfyer Pro Traveler is the closest guarantee to an orgasm that you will get at this price – if at any price at all. Control over your experience is what you gain the most with the user-friendly settings – with just two buttons. You can’t put a price on pleasure, get this now.

Enter the Satisfyer Pro Traveler giveaway!

Adultsmart has partnered up with Satisfyer to bring to you this latest giveaway. If you want to find out what the Satisfyer Pro Traveler is all about, enter the giveaway for your chance to win a Satisfyer Pro Traveler!

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Be sure to stop by Adultsmart to buy a Satisfyer clitoral stimulator so that you can have one of your very own today!

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Jennifer works marketing at Adultsmart an online sex toy shop. She has a non-judgemental approach to sex, sex toys and sexuality. Her favorite saying is if it feels good and right and is not illegal then why not!