The G-Spot – How To Find It & What To Do To It!

The elusive G-Spot is one of the most debated topics when it comes to women’s sexual health. Some of you may be thinking this part of the vagina is a total phantom, you’ve never found it and you’ve never experienced a G-Spot orgasm. On the other hand, some of you may be gasping in confusion thinking then why is that spot always the killer to helping me reach orgasm? Like anything, there’s always going to be conflicted arguments and if you prefer your sexual dilemmas served with a facebook analogy, let me tell you “it’s complicated”.

What is the G-Spot?

If you have experienced a G-Spot orgasm, then maybe your closest comparison would be similar to when Harry Potter goes for his first ride on Buck Beak the Hippogriff in the Prisoner of Azkaban (for you Harry Potter nerds). The G-spot is often described as being about roughly 2 inches inside the front wall of the vagina. With that description it makes it sound like the G-spot is something that is physically inside the vagina and part of the vaginal tissue. This is not the case, according to many sexuality educators and researchers, the G-spot is a collection of ’spongy’ erectile nerve tissue that surrounds the urethra, commonly called the para-urethral ducts, blood vessels and glands.

This tissue, which is comparable to the prostate in men, it becomes engorged with fluid when a woman is aroused. When the tissue fills with fluid, pressure on that area can feel pleasurable to some women. However, since the para-urethral sponge is an internal organ, like the prostate, it’s not possible to touch it directly. You can indirectly put pressure on this area by pressing upward on the front wall of the vagina, since the urethra is in front of the vagina. For some women, putting pressure on the front wall of the vagina at exactly 2 inches inside, with fingers at exactly the 12 o’clock position, might really ring some chimes. But since everyone’s body is different, some women might prefer shallower or deeper penetration, light pressure or firm pressure, gentle stroking or hard rocking.

What do Medical Professionals think of the G-Spot?

Many sexual medical care providers do not fully embrace the concept of the ‘G-spot’, so if you were to ask your doctor this question, he or she might say “no.” In fact, a recent British study claims to have found no hard evidence that the G-spot even exists. So, depending on where you seek your information, you will receive different answers to this question.  Personally, I fall straight into the boat of sexuality educators who believe that there is, in fact, a G-spot, and that much of the gossip about its existence is due to the fact that our society is some-what not used to the idea of women’s sexual pleasure, and that our research and medical care reflect this. However, just because all women have a G-spot this doesn’t necessarily mean that all women actually enjoy having it stimulated.

Does Penis Size Matter?

A common misconception that some woman have is that the longer the penis the easier it will be to “reach” my g-spot hence why so many women tend to gravitate towards longer vibrators and women ultimately believe that a man with a small penis wont be able to satisfy them. Now I’m sure you have heard of the saying “its not about the size its about how you use it” but then also have the corresponding argument saying that “size does actually matter”.  Pleasure can be obtained in so many different ways both internally and externally, to know if your actually hitting the “g-spot” is actually a lot more difficult than you would think and how would you know if you actually getting pressure from this mysterious erogenous zone or some other sensitive spot inside you. This said “g-spot” is said to be closer to the front rather then the back so for people who claim size does matter might be actually experiencing a completely different pleasure that isn’t from the g-spot, but because the g-spot is towards the front also explains why men with average or smaller sized penis can still make their woman go crazy.  So why do some woman say that they get no pleasure from small dongs and dicks? Maybe it’s because the guy doesn’t know what he is doing but could it be that not all woman have a g-spot?

 

Where the G-Spot is Located
Diagram: The G-Spot

 

How Do You Find The G-Spot?

We all know that there are sex toy’s out there shaped and designed to hit that magical G-Spot, but how are you supposed to know where it is if you don’t have a feel for yourself? When you’re aroused, more blood rushes to your pelvic region and the spot becomes raised and rougher then the rest of the inside of your vagina this increases your chances of finding the G-Spot. If you’re not aroused, it will be near impossible to find this area. Once you’re all hot and bothered, insert two or three well lubricated fingers into the vagina, palm faced up, about two inches in. Curve your finger gently towards your belly button. Feel around for that rough patch, it will feel different from the rest of your vagina. It will feel more textured and raised. Bear in mind, it can be as small as your pinky fingernail or as large as a dollar coin. So take your time and just relax.

Once you find it, congratulations this is the spot of wonder for sexual pleasures all year round! Use firm rhythmic movements including stroking motions, circular motions or come hither motions on the area. The G-Spot isn’t located directly on that front wall of your vagina. It’s something you can feel through the wall of your vagina, so you might need to apply more pressure then you initially thought to get that magical orgasm. The problem most people experience is that they think it is on the fleshy area but it is slightly deeper then that. So massage gently until you feel that tingle of pleasure.

Then try using a curved dildo or vibrator to explore stroking, pressing, or rocking back and forth against the front wall of the vagina. Vary your depth, speed and pressure. Some women find that light pressure on the lower abdomen, above the pubic bone, can also stimulate the G-spot, so don’t limit your exploration to the vagina alone. Enjoy exploring your/ your partners body, and don’t put too pressure on the need or expectation of a particular type of reaction. Even if the G-spot doesn’t turn out to be a hot spot, you may discover some others in the process.

What If I Can’t Find the G-Spot?

Even though every woman does have paraurethral glands, that doesn’t mean that this is a site of sexual pleasure for all women. I think of it as being somewhat comparable to anal sex. Everyone has an anus, but not everyone enjoys anal play. Does that mean that there’s something wrong with folks who aren’t into backdoor play? Of course not. It’s just not their cup of tea, and that’s perfectly okay. One of the negative consequences of all the media attention that the G-spot has received over the past couple of decades is that women and their partners feel like there’s something wrong with them if they can’t “find” the G-spot or don’t experience pleasure when the area near the G-spot is stimulated. If that’s the case, the G-spot may not be their thing, and that’s fine. Concentrate on what is pleasurable for you and your partner, and keep exploring to find new erogenous zones that you do like. 

Do not fret!! You’re not abnormal, alien or missing a body part. To put it to you simply, just as some people are stimulated from only clitoral stimulation, that area of the vagina may not be an erogenous zone for you. No one person reaches orgasm the same way as the next, everyone has certain spots which when stimulated feel better then others. This doesn’t mean you need to file out a complaint form to your parents for creating you without a G-Spot, I promise.

Sometimes, it can also take a lot of time and experience to find it. The body can feel quite unfamiliar especially when you are starting out. So you might find it with given time depending on how your body wishes to work. If you simply won’t take no for an answer, maybe you’re just getting frustrated and making it impossible for yourself to find it. Make sure you’re relaxed and in an environment where you almost “accidentally” stumble across your G-Spot instead of frantically trying to find it like a needle in a hay stack (sorry in advance for the imagery). So take your time, relax, light some candles, and learn from yourself and your body.  Happy G-Spot finding!

 

About the Author: By Chloe and Brandon  consultants from Oh Zone Adult Lifestyle Centre

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