Sex, Sexuality & Genders of The Future!

DNA modification

The other day I was reading a book and a question was posed are people a product of their genes or of their environment or as the academics put it Nature Vs Nurture and I wondered how that applied to many things including sexuality.  With science rapidly improving we are able to dip into and alter the gene pool and genetically modify everything from crops to humans.  In 2015 scientists altered the DNA of human embryos, genetically modifying them using a method called the Crisper technique.  Welcome to the Brave New World where science fiction written in 1931 is becoming a reality.

With the technology available today scientists and doctors are now be able to change a person’s physical, intellectual and possibly even mental capabilities through this engineering.  It will allow in the future the riddance of many hereditary diseases and allow man to play god.  Regardless of where your stance is ethically on this it does pose some uncomfortable questions like –

Under What circumstances could this genetic engineering take place?

Who would qualify?  Would it be only used to correct ailments and deformities or would it be optional for parents to choose the color of there to be born child’s hair or eyes?

What controls will be put in place?

Will it be used to improve intellectual abilities of the masses?

Gender Positive
Gender Profiles

But what about SEX?

The sex of a new-born child can be genetically engineered to that of the parents, or viewing into the future, the buyers/creators choices.  So that is all well and good but how about sexuality and sexual preferences.  With sexual revolution in the late 60’s and early 70’s tolerance between sexual preferences, now being politically correct genders, was practiced by most.  It was still accepted that there was a man and a woman but the expectation that relationships be solely between a man and a woman were broadened and there were the straights (some being closeted straights) and the LGBT community was formed which stands for Lesbian Gay, Bisexual and Transsexual.

In the 90’s the LGBT acronym was expanded to LGBTQ the Q standing for Queer or Questioning.  In the year 2000 this new gender equality world there were 63 accepted variations of gender rather than that of a man and a woman.  The question of gender equality was raised and debate began as being a sex positive community what additional genders should be included and in the United States the acronym became LGBTQQIP2SAA whilst in the United Kingdom it became LGBTIQCAPGNGFNBA.  This has been expanded further still and some acronyms carry 26 letters which is just absurd, sensible gender accepting people now simply use LGBTQ+.

List of Genders
Gender Issues

In Australia we are currently in the middle of a plebiscite for same sex marriage.  Controversy has raged with many members of the public who thought that the vote was to allow a man to marry a man or a woman to marry a woman. Many are still not aware that there that included in this vote are over 100 genders and the vote is for the legal right for one human being to marry another human being regardless of sex, sexual preference or gender.

Now, don’t get me wrong, I will vote ‘Yes’ and I am an advocate in same sex marriage but even I struggle with a gender that is described as a ‘Feminine Male That is Attracted to a Bisexual Hermaphromale’.  In any event different strokes for different folks and certainly in principle, and in practice.

So where am I going with this?  If we can genetically engineer the sex of a child and there are now over 100 gender identities where does the future of sex lie?  Will government regulate what gender preferences there are available?  Will there be scope to tailor make and custom build your future child’s gender?  Will gender society become more fragmented in the Brave New World that can be a reality and there become gender exclusive communities, or cities or will we come back to strict definitions of a man and a woman.

There is nothing natural about genetic engineering but is it possible that nurture may overcome genetic engineering?

Scarier still the technology to clone humans already exists – however difficult it may be.  So why has a human being not been cloned officially? Who knows what has occurred off the record?  Your baby boy has just died, would you not love to have the exact human clone produced from his DNA?  It is not easy to clone primates but with enough money and resources it would be.  The reason is that commercially it is not viable to clone a human, and some would throw in the ethical argument.

Most humans have 23 pairs of chromosomes that are basically identical and found in almost every cells nucleus.  The differences between humans are caused by genes that segments of DNA that make each human being unique.  However as this DNA is passed down from mother and father to offspring there are traits will be unique to them which allows for DNA testing.  Believe it or not DNA testing will accurately test for family ancestry for at least 5 generations and if the gene pool is strong enough up to 700 years.  So we are not all from the same gene pool.

Livestock cloning is business and successful. Intrexon a bio-tech company has been cloning sheep, cattle, pigs and pets for years.  The average price to clone your recently passed canine it about US $100,000 but that is a small amount when you consider cloning a successful race horse.  Buying one that is bred can cost millions of dollars – however will the racing authorities allow you to put a cloned horse on the track?  Well perhaps not!  However in 2013 Polo star Adolfo Cambiaso rode on a cloned horse, their team winning the Argentine Polo Open.


So what happens when in the future if we start cloning human beings?  Imagine the same scenario as before but rather than just losing your baby boy you also lost you sweet daughter.  You were a nucleur family – husband and wife with son and daughter.  You are distressed beyond belief and in your despair look at cloning as an option but because of the cost involved you can only afford to create one.  You cannot make the choice so you choose to use DNA from both.

Forget about the moral and legal injustice that a clone is not born so therefore cannot be considered a human being.  Cross-cloning can be done between the same species?  Theoretically most experts agree that the result could only be female in sex.  But hang on a second, cloning creates an embryo.  Scientists genetically engineer an embryo to make changes, including sex.  Do you see where I am heading with this?

Let us hope that we do not enter this brave new world, but if we do what will it mean for sex, sexuality and gender options?




Rick is the owner of the Adultsmart, an online sex toy shop that stocks over 13,000 products. He has been involved in the adult lifestyle industry for more than 25 years. Rick is an active sex blogger who provides a wealth of information and experience. He is an advocate of equality for gender and sexuality.

Adultsmart Blog Welcomes Sexologist Stephanie Curtis To Our Team!

Sexologist Steph Curtis

The Adultsmart Blog loves to provide quality content to our readers and this is only made possible with the help and dedication of our team of experts that create unique and interesting articles for you to read.  We are blessed to have quality human beings writing for us that hold degrees in Human Sexology and Psychology, Double Bachelor Degrees in writing and science, Masters In Teaching, Marketing, Business Development and now we are pleased to introduce you to our newest member of our blogging team.

Adult Smart Expert
Sexual Health

Stephanie Curtis is currently doing a graduate diploma in sexology and is a registered mental health nurse with a background in nursing and extensive studies of sexual health.  And we could not be prouder to have her on board.  Already you can read through her 40+ published articles and we cannot wait to read more from her.  All her posts have been extremely popular and many are a fantastic addition to our sexual health and wellness categories.

Stephanie uses a range of unique life experiences along with a wealth of knowledge to empower others to become sexually empowered beings who embrace pleasure as their birth right. Explorations in the world of Tantra and conscious sexuality as well as interests in BDSM and Fetishism give Stephanie a very broad level of understanding of human sexuality. Working as a Sexologist, she hopes to inspire greater openness when it comes to the conversations around sex in society-placing a strong emphasis on pleasure, self-love and self-acceptance.

Stephanie has fantastic credentials to create authoritative posts completing a Bachelor of Nursing at the Southern Cross University in 2014.  Her caring attitude and outlook on life directed here into the vocation of mental health nursing.  She extended her Nursing Credentials by completing a Course in Sexual Health Nursing in 2015 learning about HIV and Other Sexual Health Diseases and Infections with the ASHM.

Her interests in spirituality and the Tantra led her to expand her learnings and completing Spiritual Sexual Shamanic Experience training at the International School of Temple Arts during 2016 and 2017.  Her interest in human sexology only increased in 2017 her desire to educate herself more fully in all facets found her studying for a graduate diploma in Sexology at the Curtin University that she will complete this year.  Obtaining this diploma gives her qualifications to become a Psychosexual Therapist and/or Sexuality Educator.  We believe she is a sexual educator already with the inspiring and compelling writing she delivers time and time again.

Stephanies interests and passions are –

Tantra/conscious sexuality, BDSM, fetishism, conscious relationships/polyamory, Shibari, Sexuality education, personal growth & development, nature, horse riding, animals.

And she states  –

I see humans’ ability to express our sexuality as a gift that deserves attention. I am fascinated by all the different ways by which people choose to explore their unique sexual desires, believing that all people should be equipped with the skills to develop healthy relationships where we feel safe and free of shame around sexuality so that we can explore them in a positive way.  

Read more about Stephanie and her works at the adultsmart blog!


Rick is the owner of the Adultsmart, an online sex toy shop that stocks over 13,000 products. He has been involved in the adult lifestyle industry for more than 25 years. Rick is an active sex blogger who provides a wealth of information and experience. He is an advocate of equality for gender and sexuality.

JoyDivision BIOglide Making Love Naturally – A Different Type of Review!

Water Based Lube

Chapter One – The Stitch Up!

Thanks JoyDivision for sending this product for review – somehow I got wrangled into receiving it as a bit of a stitch up.  Yesterday morning I walked into my office to see a cute little tube of BIO Glide on my desk with a post it note attached ‘Product to Review – Minimum 800 words’.  Heck I write a lot, I write articles for other blogs, I write content for websites, I write product descriptions and I send out products to our reviewers who will then look, feel, see the product and write an instructive review.  Up until now though, I have never been given or taken a product.

As I picked up the cute little tube I could see across my desk Stephen having a bit of a chuckle – possibly at my expense!

I said, ‘Stephen who put this on my desk this morning?’

He said, “Your wife.”

I said, “But Stephen this is not my wife’s writing.”

He said, “Oh Yeah, it was Belinda and Maria.  They were laughing whilst they were doing it.”

I said, “Right, Ok then.  I had a bit of an argument with Maria last night.  Hmmm.”

He said, “I thought it was something like that the way they were laughing.”

Hmmm, I thought!  As I picked up and looked at the bottle.  My eyesight is not that great anymore and I could not read the smaller writing so I asked, “Is this a personal lubricant or a massage lotion or both.  I can see it is water-based but if I am to do a review of the product, I guess I should know where to use it.”

Stephen took the bottle from me, examined it and said, “It’s a personal lube.”

I thanked Stephen and carried on with my work until the early afternoon when Belinda entered our office with a big smile on her face – making a surprising impression of a Cheshire cat.

I said, after picking up the BIO glide, “Did you leave this on my desk?”

She said, chuckling, “Mrs. V asked me too.  She said it is something that she would really like as it is made organically”

I said, “I have no problem doing a product review and will make sure it is over 800 words but obviously you are aware that Mrs. V and I had a bit of a spat last night so I am not sure if this is the right product that either you or she wants reviewed at this particular time”.

Belinda laughed and we discussed issues relating to business.

My wife is a lover of all things natural, organic and holistic – however those words to me often mean more expensive, deceptive and no better.  That is not to say that some products that are produced in their purest sense do not have health or other benefits but generally there is little oR no difference.  The body naturally produces toxins that will kill you.  There are over 75 chemicals that are approved to use on certified organic foods and eaten by free range animals.  Of all the certified organically produced there are basically none that have not been in contact with pesticides or chemicals, however these pesticides and chemicals are restricted to a standards list both in Australia and the United States.  Organic foods generally will not be processed using irradiation, industrial solvents or synthetic food additives.

Sorry I went off on a tangent then – but basically as far as foods are concerned there is little evidence to suggest that eating organic is better for you in fact Associate Professor Samir Samman, from the School of Molecular Bioscience at the University of Sydney, says

“there is little evidence to suggest that organic food is nutritionally better than conventional food, especially in relation to fresh fruit and vegetables.”

In a major study that has been accepted for publication in the international scientific journal Critical Reviews In Food Science And Nutrition, Professor Samman and his team

“surveyed the international literature and critically evaluated the results”

and they aren’t heartening FACTS that the organics industry wants to hear.

In fact reviews and tests have shown that many non-organic and even synthesized products contain more vitamins, are more nutritious than their ‘organic’ counterparts.

Ethical lube
Natural lube

Chapter Two – BIOGlide Lubricant

So after Belinda left and with the word organic running through my mind I decided to do a bit of research on BIO Glide.  This product is made by JoyDivision, not the English Rock/Pop Band of the 70’s, but the German sex toy company that has been around for over 20 years producing products for great sensuality.  JoyDivisioin takes the manufacture of their products seriously and dermatologically and clinically test all their products before release to ensure they are body-safe and skin friendly which is good to know.

Presently they have over 250 premium products in their brand that are sold in over 60 Countries worldwide.  Positive social and environmental impact is at the forefront of their mission statement and they are official members of Unicef, Aidshilfe and Terre Des Hommes all organizations that ethically try to better the planet.

So the first thing I noticed on the bottle was a label saying CO2 Neutral sticker.  Mmmm, this is one I had not seen before so a quick bit of research informs me that this is a voluntary commitment by a manufacturer that due to unavoidable CO2 emissions made in the manufacture of this product that they will compensate by supporting a climate protection project in Bolivia.

-Rick thinks to himself!!!- (you gave this product to the wrong person Mrs V and Belinda).

So I research this further and the only reference to this project I can find is on the JoyDivision website from which I quote –

“Sustainable trading and a voluntary commitment to preservation of the climate are a matter of course for JOYDIVISION. Unavoidable CO2 emissions from manufacturing and transport are compensated by a climate protection project in Bolivia.
JOYDIVISION is investing there in the reforestation of native species of trees with an added social and ecological benefit. This benefits not only the climate, but also the biodiversity and the local people.”

So the CO2 sticker basically means that the manufacturer voluntarily is sending an undisclosed amount of money, or resources to reforesting Bolivia.  OK, I guess that’s nice!

BIO products are said to be made of the highest standard being a 100% natural vegan lubricant suitable for vaginal and oral intercourse (am not sure why it cannot be used for anal sex?).  It is safe to use with all sex toys and condoms and is highly effect – the catch phrase of 90% of all lubricants –

“with a little going a long way”.

What is interesting is that it is naturally certified by the BDIH.  To give you a bit of a background there were all sorts of certifications going around for sex toys and lubricants but in 2014 the German Institute of Dietary Supplements and Cosmetics developed the ‘Natural Product Standard’.  This certification offers the consumer a guarantee that the product is natural and also makes BioGlide the first lubricant classified as a ‘natural medical device’.

Additional information about BIOglide lubricant is that it is pH-optimized, developed with no animal testing, has no synthetics or chemicals in it.   It has supposedly won first place in Men’s Health magazine but I could not find out what the competition it won or anything related to BIOglide’s win online and a search on the Men’s Health site for bioglide came up with no results.

Best Glycerin
Why glycerin

So let’s get to the ingredients of BIOglide.  All water-based lubricants main ingredient is glycerin which is made from animal or vegetable fats.  This is the main ingredient of BIOgllide and the others are

Aqua – Water

Sodium Lactate – Saline

Xanthan Gum – Food Additive and Thickening Agent

Levulinic Acid – is an organic compound with the formula CH₃CCH₂CH₂CO₂H. It is classified as a keto acid. This white crystalline solid is soluble in water and polar organic solvents.

Sodium Levulinate – Is the salt produced by Levulinic Acid and used as a preservative and for skin care.

Lactic Acid – is an organic compound with the formula CH₃CHCOOH. In its solid state, it is white and water-soluble. In its liquid state, it is colorless. It is produced both naturally and synthetically.

So now I had researched the product and the claims that the manufacturer it was time to do the touch taste so I removed the seal and placed the lubricant between my thumb and other fingers.  It was soft and silky the way a personal lubricant should be.  Having worked in the adult industry for close to 30 years now I have tested a few and this one felt really good.  Then I dabbed a little on my tongue and it was slightly sweet – not sickly so – and certainly not unpleasant.


The next test I find the most important and that is rubbing it away with a paper towel.  If it is a good lubricant there still should be a residue and surely enough the residue remained so it certainly ticks the boxes in those three tests.  So there I was looking forward to going home and as soon as we put the kids to bed taking BIOglide on a road test with Mrs. V.

Chapter Three – The Train Wreck

Getting home at 6.30pm I made a bit of an event in asking my wife how her day had been and letting her know that I had taken home the product that I had been told to review.  Intimating how exciting it would be to road test a new lubricant.  We had dear friends and their family over and it was Pizza night.  They left about 8.20pm and we then powered through ‘The Block’ having pre-recorded it -for those readers not in Australia it is a type of home renovation series and by 9.40pm the kids were doing zzz’s in bed.

Excitedly I reminded Mrs. V about the product for review and she replied, “I’m too tired. Going to bed!”

Train Crash
Train Wrecked

With a quick peck goodnight, I poured myself another drink and watched the idiot box for another hour or so and then went to be as well.


So unfortunately Belinda and Mrs. V I am unable to present you with a full product review at this stage but await in anticipation to be allowed the avenue to fully test it.  That will make Chapter Four of the BIOglide review for the adultsmart blog.

Chapter Four – The Pre Test

So the following night – having presented Belinda and Mrs. V with my half-completed review via email I returned home after work at about 6.15pm in the evening.  Dinner had been prepared and was awaiting serving in the oven,  Mrs. V was with a friend on the balcony and I said ‘hello’ to them both giving my wife a quick peck on the lips.

I began walking back to the lounge-room when Mrs. V called out, ‘I have been getting phone calls from people telling me to read your review.”

I said, “Well you would have received a phone call from only one person as I only emailed the non-complete review to Belinda and you.  So what did Belinda have to say?”

She said, “That I have to read it!  I haven’t had the chance as I have had people with, all day.”

I said, “No drama.”

I played with the kids, and then we had dinner about 7pm. Just for some irrelevant information it was oven baked Chicken and baked lemon potatoes.  Actually quite yummy.

After dinner and washing up Mrs. V said, “I read your review. ”

I said,  “Did you like it?”

She said, “Sure, I guess we better road test the product so you can complete your review!”

I said, “That sounds like a plan.”

Chapter Five – The Road Test

After we put the kids to bed we lay on the couch and watched a mind numbing movie that Mrs V for some reason enjoyed.  It was called Due Date with Robert Downey Junior and the guy from Hangover.  I was not a great fan of the hangover series of movies and found this one even less impressive, but the wife liked it, so I tolerated it as it gave her some joy and laughs.  It finished at 10.30am and we then sat on the balcony and chewed the fat for about 30 minutes and then went to bed with my trusty container of BIOglide by my side.


After doing the mandatory brushing of teeth and other functions for hygiene and the body we went to bed and I asked, “Have you got one of your friends handy”.

lube test
testing lubricant

Look, I am a firm believe in sensual foreplay, giving a gentle erotic massage, some passionate kissing, exploring each others bodies so that both our desires are raised when the actual act takes place.   However, this we do when we have an hour (or a couple) to spare and explore each other to become more connected.  Sorry, after 11pm, and after a hard days work I am not that romantic person and will call in the big guns to help in the foreplay department.

Incorporating sex toys into our foreplay and love making techniques allows us to have fast sex without it feeling like a

‘wham bam, thank you ma’am’!

So Mrs. V grabbed one of her favorite Romant toys.  I grabbed the BIOglide and liberally applied it to the toy and gently lubricated her.  Maria likes mostly to use sex toys externally and is not big on inserting them, so my mate Romant went to work whilst I enjoyed the show.  After she was suitably turned on I applied the BIOglide to myself and we were intimate with each other.

Personally I am not a big fan of water based lubricants and I will tell you why.  Recently I read the results of a survey – it revealed that men that orgasmed during sex in under 4 minutes are said to have premature ejaculation problems.  Those that lasted between 4-12 minutes are considered normal.  Personally, I very rarely ejaculate in under 12 minutes and when we have time (and are not tired) enjoy have marathon sessions.

That being the case most water based lubricants dry up within a ten minute period and need re-application frequently thereafter.  As you reapply it dries quicker and becomes sticky, a feeling I find a total turn-off and to be quite honest quite disgusting.  We tend you use silicone lubricants as they

“last and last, and a little goes a long way”

as most lube product claim to – silicone actually does. But I have digressed again.

On application, like my previous test it was silky smooth – and to be quite honest was almost as good in feeling as a silicone lubricant.  It felt good and natural on the skin and it was all thumbs up from the starting point.  Unfortunately come around the 8 minute mark it began to become sticky and glammy and by the 10 minute mark we were re-applying.

This is a perfect lubricant for those that want to be intimate for 10 minutes or under.  For anybody that likes longer sessions I rate it 3 out of 5 because of the initial feeling and it is what I have come to expect from the majority of water based lubes on the market..

Mrs. V comments were, ‘It was really sticky – I don’t rate it.”  So I guess she is a harsher critic than me – or she has been spoiled too long with the use of Silicone lubricants.  Surprising though as it was ORGANIC!

Rick is the owner of the Adultsmart, an online sex toy shop that stocks over 13,000 products. He has been involved in the adult lifestyle industry for more than 25 years. Rick is an active sex blogger who provides a wealth of information and experience. He is an advocate of equality for gender and sexuality.

Dangerous Lilly Unplugged – True Story of A Sex Toy Reviewer!

Sex Toy Reviewer Interview

Dangerous Lilly has an extremely successful blog site that has a loyal following since 2008.  She is a sex toy critic that delivers candid, true, unabridged and uncensored sex toy reviews from her individual point of view.  Lilly has managed to gather an almost cult following with her reviews and the no holds barred approach she delivers.

Lilly Blog Dangerous
Dangerous Lilly Blogger

VIP Interview With Dangerous Lilly

Hi Lilly, thanks to much for agreeing to and taking the time to participate in this interview.  We have been a fan of your work for quite some time.  Can I start with the obvious question?  How did the Dangerous Lilly concept begin?

I started a sex blog in 2008 because I wanted to be able to review sex toys but at that time review-only blogs weren’t a thing – all the sex blogs were “sexy” blogs. I happened to be at a different place in my relationship and sexuality so finding sexy things to write about from my real life wasn’t difficult and it brought me the readers that the retailers and brands wanted to see for sex toy reviews. The reason for my change in blog content and focus is a long story but the shift has been drastic from the content my early readers saw.  My reviews and guides grew to matter much more to me than any other aspect of my blog and based on reader emails were life-changing to many people. It was a natural progression to expanding my sex toy focus to include that level of education and activism.

Almost a decade now running a highly successful blog.  How do you do it?

It’s a mixture of luck, hustle, and sometimes obligation to keep me going through the down times where I’m burnt out by repetition, drama, or life getting in the way.

Is this your full-time job?  Can you make good money by blogging?

This is not my full-time job. There were a few years in the middle where it was my only job but I’m back to working full-time because my partner and I now own a house and need as much income as possible. Plus the income from blogging feels too tenuous – my commissions vary and I just don’t feel comfortable putting all my eggs in that basket. I think that you can end up making decent money as a blogger but it means your blog has to be unique, you have to be a great writer and have a head for business. The few bloggers I know who earn a decent amount put a lot of time and effort into it, all aspects – selling banner ads, sponsored posts, working the affiliate angle, building social media followings, and writing articles for other websites. This isn’t a cushy, easy job and I don’t think it’s something that someone should go into expecting to earn them enough money to live off of. You have to do it for love not money.

How would you best describe how you review sex toys?

I don’t have a system per se. Obviously I use the items multiple times and often I pull out other, similar items to be able to compare similar sex toys. I do a lot of research. And then I write what I would want to know as a customer – I focus on

“does it do it’s job well” and “is it worth the cost”

, primarily, but I also pay attention to the manufacturer’s marketing claims. I usually try to figure out why I like it, why it works for me, so that I can better inform people who don’t have my particular set of needs. Obviously a good review needs to be both subjective and objective but I no longer strive to find “the good” in a mediocre sex toy – especially when the price is high.

You are known for your candid honesty with your reviews and guides.  Has there ever been a time when you have held back?

In my first two years of reviewing I was harsh on the less-expensive sex toys and more tempered on the expensive “luxury” sex toys because, at the time, I thought the problem was me – not the sex toy. The real problem was that no one was really making rechargeable, silicone vibrators with rumbling, powerful motors in 2008 – and that’s what I need in a vibrator.  It took me time to figure out what my body needed and it took the market time to start creating more vibrators like that.

Has your approach scared off companies providing you toys for review?

I’m sure some brands feel that way, but they haven’t told me. I am lucky enough to have partnered with a few retailers over time, currently SheVibe, who are very supportive of honest (even brutal) sex toy reviews.

What is the best (and worst) product that you have reviewed and why?

I’ve always had a hard time picking “favorites” and “bests” in my life because it’s more complicated than that, and this extends to sex toys. The sex toys that have worked the best for me are not perfect products – they have their flaws which, for some, are deal-breaker flaws. Plus when something comes along later it changes my past views – “Oh wow I can’t believe I thought THAT was as good as it gets, no this is WAY better!” sort of thing.

And with the worst?

Well, I can’t pick just one. Me and Epiphora are the SheVibe “cover art” for September and in our interview for them we talked about our saltiest reviews and it was hard for me to even narrow it down to the 6 products and 1 brand I chose. Again there’s so many factors to making something terrible (the value, the quality of construction, does it live up to the marketing promises, does it cause bodily harm) that I simply can’t pick one!

You are well-known for your brutal honesty when doing reviews.  Have you ever been offered incentives by companies to write a positive review on products that were poor?

No because that goes against FTC guidelines and would be illegal. Plus if they spent enough time on my site they would know that any offer like that would be made public by me, as I’m not afraid to call out companies for lesser things.

Your blog has been in Kinkly’s top 10 sexy blogger superhero list in 2013, 14 & 15.  How does that make you feel to be recognized for the work that you do?

This is a loaded question for me because when I was chosen as Kinkly’s #1 sex blog for 2016 I had mixed feelings and just didn’t feel like I deserved #1. My ranking on their list has changed drastically up and down over the years because after their first list, popularity on social media and a person’s ability to get votes became a factor and sometimes it seemed like it was more of a factor than actual content. I personally don’t think my content has changed much over the years but my ranking with them has.  But when a list like the one Molly now runs puts me as #2, that means something. That feels like recognition to me. Molly has made her judging process extremely clear and I know she is looking at many aspects of a blog.

Adult Blogger Rankings
Mollys Daily Kiss

I don’t support Kinkly anymore and won’t be a part of their lists in the future, and have asked to be removed from their directory due to their unflagging support of Lelo’s Hex condom despite blogger pleas. Lelo isn’t a company that many of us support, for many reasons. I don’t want to negate any good feelings that others on the Kinkly list would have but I also can’t ignore my feelings and opinions on it all from their decisions on the companies they support to the way they run their ranking list.

People for the most part like competition – I do, too! But when I witness the hurt of excellent bloggers who didn’t rank high, the list makes less sense to me. I have been trying to create a directory site that starts with the Kinkly list of blogs and digs a lot deeper – there’s no ranking, it’s not about competition it’s about content and helping readers find blogs that focus on the topics they care about. It’s a tough project, though, with programming needs beyond my capabilities and requiring time commitments I simply can’t make right now, despite my desires. I also envisioned a new kind of blogger awards, judging not an entire sex blog but particular posts that fit into light-hearted categories. But I’m one person and haven’t been able to make these huge projects into a reality on my own.

What do you feel is your greatest achievement through your blog?

I think it’s the posts I’ve written, extensively, about the problems with porous sex toys, or toxic sex toys and lubes, because people usually start off assuming good – they assume that if these sex toys and lubes are for sale then they must be safe! Why would a company be allowed to make products that go in our bodies if they’re not safe? That is their line of thinking and so they are shocked when they have to research why their vagina is burning, why their dildo has black spots or has changed shape, etc.  I’ve received so many heartfelt thank you letters over the years and those letters keep reminding me why I do what I do.






Rick is the owner of the Adultsmart, an online sex toy shop that stocks over 13,000 products. He has been involved in the adult lifestyle industry for more than 25 years. Rick is an active sex blogger who provides a wealth of information and experience. He is an advocate of equality for gender and sexuality.

Why My Sex Toy Material Is Better Than Yours

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With an overwhelming selection of sex toys to choose from, you need to ask an important question – What is the difference between the materials that sex toys are made with? Answering this question could make all the difference when  purchasing a product. This is a complete guide which will inform you all about CyberSkin, Elastic, Latex, Plastic, Rubber, Jelly and Glass materials.


Mens masturbators are now made from a material which is commonly known as CyberSkin, it feels extremely lifelike and my god it’s amazing. If you have a Fleshlight or any other product made with this type of material, you should know how good it really feels!  Adult Lifestyle Company Topco Sales originally used CyberSkin in their “Average Joe” product range, who accredit its discovery to an injection molding machine that was originally made by NASA the National Aeronautics and Space Administration! I mean how is cool that? The main ingredient that goes into the making of this material is Polyvinyl Chloride and Silicone, these ingredients are what it feel elastic and human like. Since CyberSkin is made from Silicone it is recommended to use it with a water based lubricant such as Wet Stuff or a sex toy friendly lubricant like SuperSlyde.


Elastic is an extremely broad term since there are numerous elastic mixes available which are used to make sex toys. Dildos are often made from elastic since the material provides a solid and tough structure which helps to keep it erect. On the off chance that you see the term “regular elastic” printed on a sex toy box, the term is another name for latex which originates from plants like the Elastic Tree. Elastic is easy to clean, you can use some mild soap and warm water or you can use some antibacterial spray. Elastic can also be phthalate free and is available at different prices.


Sex toys which say that are made from latex, normally have a layer of latex covering the surface of the sex toy whilst the interior of the sex toy is made from a different material like foam. They often feel exceptionally smooth to the touch but when you squeeze the sex toy in your hands it will feel squidgy. It is known as an extremely solid material which is why it is used to make condoms and surgical gloves. It is recommended to use sex toys made from latex with water based lubricants. They should also be cleaned thoroughly after use with antibacterial cleaner.

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You will be able to find a lot of sex toys which are made from Plastic. Plastic sex toys often feel hard and rigid but they do make a decent hypo allergenic alternative.

Rubber And Jelly

Rubber and Jelly sex toys were originally mass produced since they are extremely affordable to make which is one of the reasons why they were so popular.  Although they are budget friendly, they use chemicals to make the material soft, flexible and clear. Some of the chemicals which are used include phthalates which are not safe to use with the body since they are toxic. In fact, some of the toxins have been banned in the United States Of America and in Europe. If you decide to buy a Rubber or Jelly sex toy, it is recommended to place a condom over it so it does not get in contact with your body. These materials are considered to be porous which means they can trap harmful bacteria within its pores, these products will need to be thoroughly cleaned after each use with antibacterial cleaner.


The glass which is used in sex toys is strong, hypo allergenic, non-porous and can be easily cleaned. These sex toys can last you a lift time if you take care of them. Pipedream Products has designed a glass sex toy product range which is called “Icicles”, these products are made from tempered glass which means if you drop it or use it, it will not shatter. Glass is very resilient and 1 inch glass can hold 3,000 pounds of pressure so you never have to worry about it shattering while inside your body. I’ve dropped one on tiles before, it didn’t even chip the toy but broke a tile instead.

Glass is great for temperature play as you can easily heat it up in warm water before you use it, I love using glass sex toys on cold nights. During summer you can also place the sex toy in a fridge or freezer to cool it off before use.

These days it is common to find sex toys that are made to feel soft, luxurious and velvety. With advancements of technology and information about what products are body safe, there is now a huge range of high quality sex toys that are available to purchase from online stores like Adultsmart and physical shops like Oh Zone Adult Lifestyle Centres. If you buy only at Adultsmart, they offers discreet shipping worldwide. They also regularly offer special discounts so that you are able to find yourself a bargain!




Rick is the owner of the Adultsmart, an online sex toy shop that stocks over 13,000 products. He has been involved in the adult lifestyle industry for more than 25 years. Rick is an active sex blogger who provides a wealth of information and experience. He is an advocate of equality for gender and sexuality.