Different Vibe’s For Women!

Times have changed, and every lady in Australia needs a sex toy stashed somewhere in her room. You can now achieve intense orgasms with something other than just the fingers. Enter: the vibrator.

 

Types of vibrators for women

 

The most common question people ask when shopping for a vibrator is, ‘what is the best vibrator?’ Well, every woman is unique and orgasms differently. For that reason, you should go for one that can help you reach sexual bliss easier. Here are some of the most popular…

 

Rabbit vibrators

 

Rabbit vibrators are perfect if you want to achieve both external and internal orgasm. This is because they come with both a clitoris and g-spot massager. Its features include a vibrating, pulsating, and a rotating shaft.

 

You will never find two vaginas that look the same. Some girls have their clits a few inches from the vagina, whereas others have them pretty close. Regardless, the rabbit ears stimulators are quite flexible and can be adjusted to give a good build-up and fantastic climaxes.

 

Avoid silicone-based lubricants, massage oils, or hands cream because they can damage the rabbit vibrator. Instead, use only water-based lubrication. Also avoid cleaners containing alcohol, acetone, or petrol. Do not expose your rabbit vibrator to extreme heat or direct sunlight. The rabbit is also not waterproof and should not be submerged in water.

 

Clitoral vibrators

 

This can work well for women that can orgasm easily with clitoral stimulation. The small size of clitoral stimulators makes it possible to use these in navigating other erogenous zones of a woman’s body too. Most are waterproof to allow hassle-free clean up afterwards. The waterproof feature also gives you more play time options, for instance, you can stimulate the clitoris in the shower or the bathtub without ruining your sex toy.

 

Clitoral vibrators are easy to introduce to a new sex partner. Their small size makes them portable enough to carry along with your makeup bag on a dirty weekend away, a steamy night out, or to spice up your business trip. Whatever the adventure, don’t forget the batteries, charger or the remote control.

 

You can choose between rechargeable and battery-operated vibrators. Notably, bullet vibrators use batteries but can still give surprisingly intense vibrations. Clitoral stimulators possess different vibration speeds and vibration patterns. You can try them out until you find the intensity that works perfectly for you. As much as clitoral stimulators should not be used for anal penetration, it can help ease the discomfort that may come with it.

 

G-spot vibrator

 

Every woman is physiologically different, which makes finding the g-spot a little tricky. A c-shaped vibrator or a vibrator with a slight curve can help you find the spot, but patience is of the essence here. When you locate your g-spot, you are likely to moan, wiggle, or squirm.

 

Textured shafts have bumps and ridges that can increase sensations while pleasuring the g-spot. Massaging beads come with g-spot vibrators and can send waves of vibrations inside the vagina to enhance the orgasm. If you’re into water play, consider getting a waterproof g-spot vibrator and enjoy it anywhere; in the shower, the pool, or the bathtub.

 

Make sure you are relaxed when using a g-spot vibrator. You can begin with clitoral stimulation before introducing the g-spot stimulator. In case you fail to produce enough natural lubrication, consider complementing it with a good lube. Insert it slowly, turn on the vibrations, and move it around until you find the ultimate spot. Work it like it owes you money and enjoy yourself.

Using your sex toy

 

Solo play

 

Masturbation is an excellent way to immensely pleasure yourself when on a long-distance relationship with your partner. With a sex toy for women, you can make yourself orgasm anywhere. You can carry it in your little bag and even use it over your lunch break to enlighten the rest of your day. You can fantasize or watch porn to intensify your orgasms further.

 

Sex Toys For Couples

Sex toys for couples

 

Sex toys can significantly spice up your sex life. Who doesn’t want to try out new, fun stuff in the bedroom? Sometimes, your lover may not be in the mood for sex. However, masturbating with a toy as your partner watches can end up in a mutual naughty time.

 

Mutual masturbation using toys can help you and your partner bond and enjoy multiple orgasms. Most women may think that it might be intimidating to masturbate in front of their partners. Quite the contrary, most people are dying to see their significant others in the throes of ecstasy. Your lover may have been fantasizing to see you pleasurably ‘doing yourself’. You may realize that you enjoy being watched as you masturbate. Your boyfriend or girlfriend may just learn a few new tricks on how to pleasure you more.

 

 

Find your perfect vibrator

 

Every woman’s anatomy is unique. Thus, there is no script for picking the right sex toys. You’ve got to explore your body until you find what works perfectly for you. There are several types of g-spot and clitoral stimulators and vibrators, sexy lingerie, and other bedroom essentials. Try it today for all your sex life needs.

Rick is the owner of the Adultsmart, an online sex toy shop that stocks over 13,000 products. He has been involved in the adult lifestyle industry for more than 25 years. Rick is an active sex blogger who provides a wealth of information and experience. He is an advocate of equality for gender and sexuality.

VIP Interview With Ayzad – A Sex Scholar!

I’d like to thank you for agreeing to do this interview. As mentioned, I actually have come across your website a few times, and one of my favourite things are the posts of “Inexplicable moments in the history of sexuality”. Those keyhole posts are always so frustratingly good! I also love the subtle, yet important distinction between sex blogger, and sex explorer as well as the reasonings and research behind that. So let’s introduce you first as Ayzad, A Sex Scholar and sex explorer, owner, curator of ayzad.com where you explore unusual things about sex, sexuality, kink and fetish. You’ve written several books and articles. You hold workshops and lectures, and you also do personal coaching all from your base in Italy. There’s certainly enough there to keep you busy! Did i miss anything?

Thank you for your appreciation! The Inexplicable Moments series began as a joke when I found a few puzzling pictures online: I would have never expected it to grow so large, but it is now over six years strong and I keep stumbling on this sort of material on a weekly basis, so it might go on for a while yet. I love the wonderfully odd ways people have of distorting the very idea of sexuality… After the first laugh, those images make you really wonder about our fellow humans and ourselves, don’t you think?

About my strange job, you may have missed the training of kink-aware professionals among psychologists, sexologists and law enforcement, and organizing the largest BDSM party in Italy, called Sadistique.

 

I have to start with the basics. You were once a “traditional” journalist – how did you move into talking about sex and sexuality?

The short story is that around the year 2000 I was hit by a nasty combination of insolvent clients and a market crisis in the local publishing industry, so I took a sabbatical to nurse my business wounds and I ended up using the time to write BDSM – A Guide for Explorers of Extreme Eroticism, a book meant to collect what I had learned about erotic domination and submission games and pass it on to the kink community. To everyone’s surprise, it became a mainstream best-seller instead. Besides sparking a few interesting collaborations in the field of sexology, the result was receiving lots of letters and messages from people who thanked me for having opened their eyes onto the fact that their sexual preferences weren’t sick or “wrong”. Many readers recounted how my book saved their marriage, or pointed them to meet the partner of their dreams.

At that point I had to make a choice. Go back to a normally paid job of indoctrinating the masses into buying stuff and being scared and hateful for the fear du jour, or continue giving people the kind of information that could make them happy with their lives? The latter meant becoming financially insecure, but any decent human being would have had no doubt – and having a very understanding life partner with a serious corporate job to support both of us if I was unsuccessful made the jump definitely less scary. Almost twenty years later, the messages keep pouring in and I am still happy with that decision.

You’ve often stated that you began exploring BDSM at 18. How were your experiences when you were young in comparison to now? Has the community changed much in your opinion?

This is a great question that I actually ponder upon rather frequently myself. In many ways, the Nineties (and – ahem – the Eighties) were much darker times for kinksters. Information was rare and questionable; most people didn’t really know how to deal with their own kinks; finding play partners was a feat made even harder by the lack of digital tools to connect with each other; toys were impossibly expensive and often of very low quality… but having to overcome all of these obstacles also meant that the fewer people into unusual sexualities were also extremely committed to their play. In fact, I recall many of them recoiling when I used that word: to “old timers” BDSM (or ‘sadomasochism’, as it was known back then) was ‘work’ – a pretty serious endeavour you couldn’t treat as child’s play.

I feel that in these days the very idea of erotic power play has swung far off in the opposite direction. For all the good a better kink culture has done, people tend to treat BDSM like just another opportunity to fill their free time with, on par with Netflix or dining out. The raw emotion seems to be mostly gone, so much so that I long damned myself over this lack of transcendence. Also, always blessed be the Internet, but online dynamics frequently play a big role in shooting the community in its own foot.

So, besides the fact that on the brink of my fiftieth birthday I am young – or I do feel like that at the least – the matter is, as always, a mixed bag of good and bad. I hope that this wild swing between too much self-importance and too much mindless post-50 Shades fad will eventually settle on a nice middle ground. I am kinda seeing the early signs of that process now.

Sex is so open. There are a myriad of different experiences, genders, identities, interactions. Many people tend to use labels as a form of identification and identity – what are your thoughts on such labels? Especially when it comes to BDSM, Kink and diverse forms of sexual expression, do you feel that we’re approaching/using labels in the right way?

I’d say that labels – or better: strictly defined roles or approaches to sexuality – can be a useful starting point for newcomers to get their bearings around the immense map of pleasure. Knowing, for example, that someone else has already elaborated an attraction to the owner/pet dynamics into something structured that many people agree upon calling ‘pet play’, with all of its rituals and specialized knowledge, allows you to avoid a series of basic traps and dead ends if you harbor a similar inclination. The bad part of this compartimentalization of kink comes when you unwittingly forget your individuality and play into becoming assimilated into a certain pre-packaged view. After all, every one is different and evolving, which is why I am so keen on the notion of “sexual explorers”.

Also, I have now seen a few times the rise of true fads initiated by literal labels. The latest was probably when Fetlife added ‘primal’ among the possible profile descriptors, and so many people jumped on the bandwagon without even having a clear idea of what the word actually meant. A few years earlier the same happened with ‘brat’, and earlier still with the whole ‘daddy/little girl’ subculture. And don’t get me started on furries. I mean, trying new shoes on to see whether they fit you is fine and healthy; committing to a narrowly defined role just because all your online “friends” are doing that doesn’t sound too mature instead, does it? Oh, wait: I am playing into the role of the ancient wise curmudgeon…

With the diversity of sex, expressionism, and identity – what do you personally find to be the most fascinating in unusual sex?

This is easy. It’s the continuing quest for honesty and authenticity. Even just contemplating unusual sexualities opens your mind to boundless possibilities – and forces you in a nice way to deal with your own repressed facets, fears, desires and sense of identity. By hook or by crook, kink stimulates critical thinking and questioning yourself – which is a great path to growing up as a person.

Oh, and I also love how sex things are rarely about sex itself, so when you study them you end up learning lots of interesting facts about the world in general.

What’s something not many people know about you, that you’re willing to share with us today?

Er… that I am a collector of Japanese robot toys from the Eighties? That I am a member of Mensa? No, seriously: I can’t think of anything especially meaningful that you can’t read in my posts on ayzad.com already.

I live in Australia. With a smaller (and more centralised) population than what’s in the Americas, Europe and even Italy. It can be often difficult finding people with similar interests where you can get together for parties and events. You’re involved with Sadistique – what can you tell us about that?

Sadistique is a monthly BDSM party I have been organizing in Milano since 2005, and the spiritual sequel of an earlier endeavour called Revolution. As it happened, my kinky friends and I had been lamenting for a few years the lack of proper kinky events in Italy: we used to meet at such parties all over Europe, and it struck us as absurd that we had to travel abroad for that. So, since nobody else seemed to be willing to set up such a thing in our country, we did it ourselves. It started very small, had its ups and downs, and it finally established itself as a beloved institution for Italian kinksters.

Besides a cool steampunk-ish play space, every month it features a different workshop on various aspects of BDSM; a kinky art exhibition and a professional photo set. In addition to that we occasionally host interesting performances, book presentations or showcases of kink artisans. You should come over and see, should you happen in Milan!

On that question – there’s a dizzying array of fetishes, sexual interests, erotic interests ranging from standard to the unusual and even bordering on absurd – when one is having trouble finding connections for their kinks – what do you recommend they do for their contentment and satisfaction?

My frequent suggestion is to stop searching and making yourself findable instead. Do you recall the Kennedy quote about «Ask not what your country can do for you…»? Unusual sexualities suffer of the same misunderstanding: the kink community can actually do heaps for you, but you are supposed to serve it at the same time, even if just by participating in a constructive way. Most enthusiasts unfortunately behave like vampires who demand their particular needs to be satisfied without giving anything in exchange, whereas there are countless opportunities to contribute and make the scene better – and to shine while doing that, attracting lots of potential partners in the process.

You’re an Italian and you’ve travelled both physically and within your research. Do you think that the engagement of fetishes and fetishism depends on where we live? Does culture influence our carnal/erotic desires, or are we all just kinky and perverse beings?

I did detect a bit of geographic influence, but I believe it to be mostly a function of the different local cultures. An extreme example can be the Chinese interpretation of BDSM, but of course stereotypes and generalizations don’t help any serious analysis. The Internet is sorta flattening these differences, though.

One fun quirk remains true throughout the ages, though: whatever place and time you pick, you can be sure that locals were sure that in a different, faraway country, people were having so much more sex cultivating exotic, wonderful practices. Never underestimate the power of fulfillment fantasies!

What’s your go to comfort food?

You know that, in order to retain citizenship, we Italians are contractually obliged to talk about food at least six hours a day – so please sit comfortably and thank you for your question! No, seriously: I can be a bit of a foodie when the opportunity arises, but I am pretty forgiving on the subject. Which is a way of saying that I could list hundreds of answers, so I won’t go beyond a diplomatic «anything made with true love».

If you could change one thing about peoples engagement with sex – what would it be?

Oh. A tough one, indeed. I guess it would be erasing that lingering idea that sex is an unwieldy burden, and exchanging it with the concept of sex as a boundless opportunity for fun, pleasure and growth. That’s the principle beyond The Sexual Explorers Manifesto, isn’t it?

You do workshops, seminars and educational events. What’s one thing that comes up frequently that you wish didnt, or what’s something that isn’t brought up often enough at these events?

Education opportunities are privileged environments whose participants enter with a beautiful, unusually open mindset. The worst that I have experienced there is a tad of judgement against whatever doesn’t fit with one’s personal view of sexuality, especially in more mainstream milieus. I strive to transmit the concept of «your kink is not my kink but it’s ok», as they say, but it is not always easy – don’t forget that Italy is still a province of the Vatican, in many ways.

In that capacity, most of the true problems I have experienced so far came even before the events themselves. I am sorry that you’d have to suffer through its occasionally atrocious Google Translate rendition, but you may want to have a look at the laughable year-long ordeal I had to go through when the media and a couple of politicians attacked me… for having accepted an invitation to speak at a major university. The level of political manipulation was astounding – but it also was an exception, not the rule.

On the other hand, the one missing thing that really bugs me is the awareness about the dire need for a comprehensive education to sexuality as  part of the school curriculum, starting as early as possible. The decades-long case history of the Netherlands proves how such approach is extremely beneficial for the indviduals and society as a whole, and yet everyone seems to prefer #MeToo–like horrors to the (wholly imaginary) embarrassment of admitting that sexuality is part of life, and teaching the children about it. Mind you, this is not a matter of teaching how reproduction works, but to also address everything surrounding it with a special focus on respect, consent, diversity, sentiments and so on.

You do personal coaching. What’s involved in that for you and the client?

My own brand of personal coaching is about helping people to identify their issues related to unusual sexuality, and to plot a strategy together to solve and overcome them in the most efficient way. The key is often some information they are missing and which I have encountered in my three-decades long exploration of kink, so I am happy to put my experience at the service of the client. This is basically done through a series of face-to-face or Skype talks, so there is nothing saucy to it if that was what you meant. I would say personal coaching happens halfway between a talk between friends and a session with your therapist.

You’ve been doing this for over 15 years. What keeps you going and what’s the best part about the work that you do?

On the one hand I am fueled by my curiosity: I still keep learning new things every day, and this sort of intellectual stimulation is invaluable. I would lie if I didn’t admit that all this fun comes at a financial and social price, so of course there are times when I feel like I’d better get into something more grounded like selling bricks, for example. Those are usually the moments right before someone reaches out to thank me for how my work made their life better, though, and that makes every effort more than worthwhile.

Ayzad Sexual Scholar

Any final thoughts that you’d like to share?

I can only thank you for the opportunity to talk. This was fun and I hope your readers have enjoyed the interview too. You now know where to find me, so let’s keep in touch, shall we?

I can pore your brain all day long. Reading through interviews that you’ve done previously, and your books, and exhaustive amount of blog work on your website – it’s just absolutely fascinating. I’d like to thank you for the work that you do, for shining a spotlight on what many people find strange and odd and for the presentation of that work with humour, grace and precision. It’s been an absolutely pleasure asking you these questions and i just can’t wait to see what’s next.

Thank you again: it is a delight to interact with such a passionate fan, and – besides the usual weekly posts – I can tell you “next” is going to be a whole book about education to sexuality, but it is such a messy subject that writing proceeds way too slowly and it will take quite a long time yet.

Rick is the owner of the Adultsmart, an online sex toy shop that stocks over 13,000 products. He has been involved in the adult lifestyle industry for more than 25 years. Rick is an active sex blogger who provides a wealth of information and experience. He is an advocate of equality for gender and sexuality.

VIP Interview With Mistress Couple – A Guide To Bondage!

The adultsmart community blog is honored to welcome Mistress Couple the Head Mistress of La Domaine Esemar the world’s oldest BDSM training facility.  Mistress couple is also the author of The Ultimate Guide Series and most recently released her book titled The Ultimate Guide to Bondage: Creating Intimacy Through The Art Of Restraint from Cleis Press.

Welcome Mistress Couple.  Let’s get straight into it – how did you first get involved in the BDSM scene?

When I was 24, I was involved in what I considered to be my first adult sexual relationship. My partner at the time was wonderful at communicating about his fantasies and boundaries, and our chemistry was the best I had experienced up until that point. For my 25th birthday, I got up the courage to ask him for an over-the-knee spanking — something that I had been fantasizing about for a long time. He agreed to the act, but after we got home from a lovely birthday dinner and I bent over his knee, he panicked. “I just can’t hit a woman,” he said. I was crushed!!! The next evening, I went out to a bar for a “Ladies’ Night” with some of my girlfriends. They all knew that we had this birthday spanking planned and asked how it went. When I told them that my partner was unable to follow through with it, many of them commiserated. At the end of the evening, my little sister’s best friend waited until everyone left, and walked me to my car. “You know,” she said, “if you’re serious about that spanking I know somewhere you can go.” That friend is now a world renowned dominatrix known as Mistress Blunt. At the time, she was secretly training at La Domaine Esemar. She brought me there for my first BDSM party, and by the end of the first night, I knew that La Domaine was to play a major part in my personal and sexual development.

You are now known as a world renowned Mistress – but that was not always the case.  You entered the scene as a slave.  How did you make the transition?

By my second day at La Domaine Esemar, I felt a deep connection and bond with Master R and Mistress Collette. I offered myself to them as a slave, and they accepted me. However, before they did, they told me that they saw that I had a great capacity for dominance and asked if I wanted to be a Mistress-in-Training. At the time, I was very naturally submissive and had a very hard time seeing myself as a Domme. It was because of the duality that they saw in me that they named me “Couple.” At the time, I was a professional ballroom dancer, and I was told that just as I learned the follower’s parts before the leader’s parts on the dance floor, I’d do the same in the dungeon. When ballroom dancers go into competition, we all wear numbers on our backs to identify us to the judges. My complete slave name was “Couple Number 69.” Through the course of exploring my submission, many misconceptions that I had about Dominance were dispelled (primarily that it was all about punishment or being mean). Eventually, I found myself attracted to a woman who was more submissive than I, and she was able to draw out my inner dominance. I soon realized that I was going to need a lot of help in growing into this role, and at that point I became a Mistress-in-Training at La Domaine.

Domme Couple

What is your definition of a slave and how they prepare for that role?

First of all, I think that it is imperative that people understand that a person should only be called “slave” if they choose the title or consent to it. In BDSM, a slave is someone who offers their autonomy to their Dominant. Each Dominant has different goals for their slaves, so preparation for the position varies depending on the couple. I require that all of my slaves strip naked upon entering my home, that they don’t wear perfume or deodorant that will cover up their natural scent, and that they practice a series of mantras and training positions so that they’re able to serve me efficiently. Many of them also have sexual assignments such as edging or chastity training.

How do you define your role as a Mistress?

I would define myself as a leader, healer, caregiver, and mentor. I like to call myself a shamanatrix , because I help my submissives to reach altered states of consciousness and learn about themselves through the exploration of BDSM. The most common comment that I get in response to people finding out that I am a dominatrix is “But you’re so nice!!!” I think that’s a common misconception that people have—that you cannot be nice and also be a good Dominant. Another common misconception is that Mistresses should always punish and never reward their slaves. People are always telling me that I’m too kind to my slaves. I think that’s ridiculous. If they were never rewarded for good behavior, why would they want to serve me? To me, without the appreciation, the rewards, and the positive reinforcement, BDSM just turns into abuse.

You are now the Head Mistress of the world famous La Domaine Esemar featured in press such as Cosmopolitan, Netfilx, The Huffington Post, People, and so many more.  An esteemed position – how did you manage to secure it?

I think that I was always meant for this position. Three years prior to becoming the Head Mistress of La Domaine, I had a premonition about it during a meditation session. At the time, I was still very submissive so I pushed it out of mind and dismissed it as merely a fantasy. I’m still not quite sure how the rest happened! Sometimes life takes you on unexpected adventures.

La Domaine Chateau

You are also a pretty good dancer and hold a degree in choreography.  Do you incorporate that in your role playing?

Oh yes! I absolutely love working dance into my training in as many ways as possible. Be it position training for submissives, a trampling tango CBT session, feminization or sissification ballet classes, learning to walk in heels, etc. My experience as a ballroom dance instructor has also proven to be incredibly useful in couples instruction or BDSM coaching sessions. It’s all about learning to communicate clearly and with ideal intent.

You have invented a ‘new form’ of dance called the ‘Tangle’.  What can you tell us about that?

Tangle is not exactly a new form of dance. It’s a class that teaches tango through the lense of power exchange and bondage. Early on in my professional ballroom dancing career, I noticed that the traditional gender roles for leaders and followers did not suit everyone. (Go figure!) This class gets rid of the gender binary and allows all folks who identify as Dominant to be leaders, and all folks who identify as submissive to be followers. Believe it or not, people learn to dance much more quickly when they’re in the role that they identify with! Some of the class activities involve learning non-verbal leading and following through leash training, practicing the tango rhythm by spanking each other, using blindfolds to establish trust, and binding the bodies together in order to reinforce connection. The class definitely makes a wonderful date night activity.

You have recently completed writing a book.  What inspired you undertake this task?

Honestly, a magical moment. I was on vacation in New Orleans, which is my spiritual/social second home. I was at breakfast with some friends and casually mentioned that perhaps now that I was 30 years old it was time for me to write a book. I didn’t think anything else of it, but at 3 PM that day, there was an email from Cleis Press in my inbox, asking if I would be interested in submitting a proposal for The Ultimate Guide to Bondage!I was flabbergasted. I saw it as a sign from the matriarchs of New Orleans, submitted my proposal,  and never looked back.

Available December 11, 2018

There are many BDSM and bondage guides and books available.  What sets yours apart from the rest?

This book really is the “Ultimate Guide.” In today’s BDSM community, there is a surplus of rope bondage and rope suspension images, instructors, workshops, etc. Unfortunately, what I have found is that knot tying can be incredibly intimidating to novice bondage practitioners. I’ve seen countless people have one frustrating experience with rope and decide that bondage isn’t for them. There are so many other forms of bondage, from mental bondage, which requires no equipment at all, to fashion bondage such as corsets and hobble skirts, mummification using bondage tape or even saran wrap… and many of them are covered in the book. I would say that only about 20% of the book is about rope bondage, the rest of the book contains information about safety, theory, the psychology behind why people are attracted to bondage activities, exploration of various types of bondage, and even some wonderful erotic essays that lend insight into participating in bondage activities.

Having looked through the book there were many pictures or images that really made it easy to follow.  Did you oversee the imagery?

I am so glad to hear that! Yes, I oversaw the imagery which was created by two of my very talented friends. Emily Dorr did the beautiful illustration, bringing some of the concepts of the book to life. I think that the first time I saw the images that she created was the first time that I thought “Wow—this is going to be a REAL book!” The photographs in the book were taken by my friend Kiki Vassilakis. That photoshoot might have been the most fun thing I have ever done! For 2 nights, we turned the La Domaine dungeon into a photo studio. I invited over about 25 of my friends, broke them up into teams, and assigned each team a few of the tutorials. We listened to music, ate great food, and created some amazing images! Creating these images together was incredibly inspiring, and having a variety of perspectives allowed us to think outside of the box and create some groundbreaking bondage images. After the photoshoot, I stopped calling The Ultimate Guide to Bondage “MY book,” and started calling it “a book that I created with the help of my community.” I am so grateful to all those who participated.

What are you most proud of in writing this guide?

Finishing it. This project was certainly the biggest undertaking of my life, and I was still running La Domaine Esemar, hosting, teaching, and sessioning while writing it! I am also very proud of some of the new ideas and perspectives on bondage that I presented. I hope that I’ve made some valuable contributions to the understanding and acceptance of bondage enthusiasts.

Is your book aimed at the newbies to give them insight into BDSM or the hardcore participants?

This book has a little something for everyone. The tutorials are simple enough for a beginner to complete, but unique enough that they might pique an expert practitioner’s interest (balloon encasement, predicament bondage, and even ice locks are covered). This book covers 10 different areas of bondage (Japanese Rope Bondage, Device Bondage, Objectification Bondage, Mental Bondage, Costume Bondage, Sensation Bondage, Sensory Deprivation, Fetish Bondage, Physically Stressful Bondage, and Self-Bondage). Even if someone is an expert in one or even a few of these areas, there are still a variety of new approaches and applications for them to explore.

What do you most enjoy about power play in BDSM role play?

To me, BDSM is not role play, it is my sexuality and an expression of my personality. The thing that I love most about power exchange is that by choosing to assume or relinquish control with a trusted partner, people can access the deepest, most secret and sacred parts of their sexualities. I have gotten to know myself much more than ever before through practicing BDSM.

When you get stressed or tired – what is the downtime activity that grounds you?

This depends on whether I want to be in a Dominant headspace or a submissive headspace while I am relaxing. If I want to be in a Dominant headspace, I cook. Cooking requires a lot of executive functions such as organization, problem solving, and multitasking, but it also gives me the opportunity to engage my senses. By smelling, tasting, feeling, seeing, and even listening to my food as it is cooking, I am honing the same skills that I use to read my submissives during a BDSM scene. I find it to be a relaxing, meditative, and incredibly sensual activity. If I am in a mood that precipitates a more submissive approach, I go out social dancing in the role of a follower. I just turn off my brain, and let the music and my dance partner guide my body around the room. It really is sweet surrender!

As well as offering [play] sessions at La Domaine, there are training sessions, too.  What does a training session incorporate?

Training sessions are for individuals, couples, and polycules up to 6 people. These sessions are instructional in nature and cover a variety of BDSM topics from relationship structuring to bondage to impact play, and beyond. They can be talk-based or technique-based.

There are many fetishes that fall under BDSM.  Are there any that you would not personally explore and what is your favorite?

There are plenty fetishes that I would not personally explore, but I’m not going to put them on blast because there is so much shame and stigma associated with fetishes and I do not want to contribute to that. As far as my favorite fetishes go, balloons, shoes, feathers, and leather are at the top of my list. To learn more about my balloon fetish, check out the erotic essay portion at the end of the book!

To purchase the Ultimate Guide to Bondage by Mistress Couple click on the book image above!!!

Rick is the owner of the Adultsmart, an online sex toy shop that stocks over 13,000 products. He has been involved in the adult lifestyle industry for more than 25 years. Rick is an active sex blogger who provides a wealth of information and experience. He is an advocate of equality for gender and sexuality.

Power of A Female Gaze!

One of the most striking details of a woman’s appearance, according to men – is the eyes.

Eyes can convey the whole range of feelings inherent in a person where love, disappointment, sadness and joy, delight and pain are neighbors. The look of a woman excites, intrigues, attracts men.

Therefore, eyes in self-presentation, which should radiate happiness and confidence, languor and bliss, are so important. It is with your eyes that you can show your sympathy or express your anger.

The person’s eyes reflect his or her spiritual beauty, as they say:

“The eyes are the mirror of the soul!”

And the living expressive eyes with sparks are the true decoration of the woman’s face. The view has many varieties: changing, languid, secretive, studying, glancing a man from top to bottom, intimate and prolonged directly in the eyes.

Your gaze should be open to communication, and not the coldly alienated view of the Snow Queen, which is then approached terribly.  Men do not tolerate arrogance, they have a protest in their blood to submission. The size, color, shape of an eye, framed by flirtatious eyelashes – favorably emphasize the female individuality.

A narrow strip of hair above your eyes gives a variety of looks. After all, eyebrows strengthen this game, as if shading and beautifying the eyes, give mobility to facial expressions. The fact is that a raised eyebrow makes the eye large and meaningful, giving an intrigue and expressiveness.

The same eyebrows give the person a unique charm, create an expression on a face and on them depends the impression that women produce on men. For example, breaking the eyebrows at the bridge of the nose, gives the look of mystery, and of a woman’s unpredictability in deeds.

Not expressive, lifeless eyebrows extinguish sparks in the eyes, reducing their depth.  Therefore, lovely women remember that when you play with a form of eyebrows, you not only update your image, but also attach spontaneity and unpredictability to your image, which fuels the hunting instincts in a man. Face is important, yet if you are one of those busty bikini models, you may have a different set of skills. When you “draw” your face in front of a mirror in the morning, play with your eyebrows, feel them.

However, unobtrusive movements of the nose in the context of the general facial expression mask the signals of your mood. Wrinkles of the nose, can express bitterness and rejection, no matter how you smile, and your eyes do not spark the brightest colors of love, these wrinkles will ruin the whole picture.

The general impression is already greased, the conversation is not glued together. You think that you have said the wrong word, you start to be embarrassed, but it’s all in the nose. Inflating the wings of the nose, intense inhalation can express both rage or excitement. In a certain context of conversation, it can be perceived as a sexual signal.

The visual contact serves as a hint of your openness for acquaintance and further meetings with a man. When your eyes meet for a moment with a man’s gaze, the “spark of emotional empathy of a man and a woman” flares up.

You both signal to each other about your readiness to establish a romantic relationship. The duration of the “conversation with the eyes” is extremely important, the specialists determined that it takes several seconds for the birth of a stable visual contact. If you take your eyes off before the spark breaks out, you will show that you are not ready to continue your acquaintance, and all the more so to establish any kind of relationship.

Otherwise, both you and the man lower your eyes only after

soulful eyes

“the spark pierces your soul.”

Rick is the owner of the Adultsmart, an online sex toy shop that stocks over 13,000 products. He has been involved in the adult lifestyle industry for more than 25 years. Rick is an active sex blogger who provides a wealth of information and experience. He is an advocate of equality for gender and sexuality.

Popular Sex Toys In Australia!

Just recently, a major online sex retailer based in the United Kingdom, and currently extending its business deals mainly in Australia and United States, found out that women in Australia purchase more sex-toys compared to men.

A recent survey carried out in Australia this year during the National Masturbation Month shows that out of 472 women and 715 men, 65% of them prefer sex toys during masturbation, and 23% owned more than 11 sex-toys in their home. In addition, the research indicates that over 50% of all Australian citizens possess more than 5 sex-toys and only around 2% of them have never bought even one.

Another research conducted at Sydney University showed that self-masturbation can prevent various diseases including diabetes, cystitis, and prostate cancer. They found out that ninety-four percent of men confidently admit that they do masturbate, as compared to eighty-five percent of women – the thing babies usually do even before they are born!

Due to a great many benefits of masturbation, which range from preventing UTIs (Urinary Tract Infections), relieving stress, and being able to last longer, the use of particular sex toys has become very popular among the Australian people.

The following features the most frequently used Sex-Toys-in-Australia and the reasons behind their taste.

#1. Rabbit Vibrators

A rabbit-vibrator is very different and unique kind of vibrator compared to the initially used penis-shaped vibrators or dildos. What is even more lovable about this vibrator is its ability to simultaneously pleasure the clitoris while being inserted into the vagina using the internal stimulating shafts that are almost shaped like rabbit ears. Possibly, this is why most people in Australia have fallen in love with these unique devices.

People use these vibrators most frequently due to the fact that they are able to stimulate the g-spot and the clitoris at the same time, combining orgasms. You can hardly find the vibrator that can combine all these tasks together. That’s why rabbit-vibrators tops to this list.

Rabbit-vibrators are a necessary requirement for every sex-toy collection. They come in different varieties of features, colors, and sizes, and so there is a high chance of finding the one that suits you.

#2. The Bullet Vibrators

Bullet-vibrators are one of the most frequently used sex-toys in Australia today. They are created using either metallic or plastic material. In general, they are shaped like a real bullet, and they are very powerful when being used.

Much like egg-vibrators, bullet-vibrators form the basic necessity of almost every adult in Australia. These vibrators are quite popular and usually affordable. They are mainly designed to stimulate the clitoris and

They are designed to short and narrow to improve portability and people cannot easily notice them when carried in public. Most of them are water-proof, rechargeable with a long-lasting battery, and can be cleaned very easily – with just water and soap. Moreover, they can fit perfectly into anyone’s arms, and their performance is excellent.

Also, most bullet-vibrators can be disguised easily as mascara or lipstick. Their popularity falls in all these features.

#3. Dildos

This type of a sex-toys have been used since the historic times. Possibly, they are the first sex-toys to be used in the whole world. Still, dildos are as frequently used as ever today. Some people find them boring, but they don’t have to be.

Today, dildos are designed in many different varieties. They come in different shapes, materials, colors, sizes, and texture. Generally, they are made specifically for internal stimulation. The quality and design of today’s dildos are quite impressive and this makes them very popular.

Majority of couples go for dildos in situations when they want to introduce a sex toy into their relationship. Others go for them when they want to have a little fun when their boyfriends are away or when they are far away from the country for business trips. Still, other people go for these toys to survive a break-up and indeed, they make a very good couple.

In Australia, operated-dildos (work without batteries) are more popular since they are discreet and not noisy. They include realistic, ultra-realistic, unicorn, king cock, and beginners dildos. It’s fun to play with a perfect dildo no matter what material it’s made of. They closely feel like a real thing when being used.

Dildos are created to perform specific purposes. For instance, G-Spot dildos are curved at the tip to enable them to touch the g-spot for a powerful sensation every-time they’re being used. Anal-dildos are designed specifically for anal stimulation and are made in such a way that they are safe to use for the anal.

This are many other reasons makes dildos among the most frequently used sex-toys in Australia.

Australian Sex Toys

#4. Strap-Ons

Strap-Ons are not only used by women but also men. They are designed to give both vaginal and anal pressure. When purchasing these sex-toys, one need to buy a dildo that is made of a non-toxic material and a harness that is free from phthalate. This ensures that one is kept free from cancer and hormonal disruptions.

One of the major reasons why strap-on sex-toys are very popular in Australia is because they create great sex-positions, suitable for prostate massage, allows for hands-free and double penetration, and even makes it easier for people to masturbate. They can be used to manage erectile dysfunction in men.

These sex toys are mostly preferred by women when they want to have oral, vaginal, or anal sex in absence of a male partner. Men can also use them either anally or orally in absence of a female partner. And both of these parties can use them for masturbation. Men use then, particularly for prostate massage.

Strap-Ons can also be used alongside other sex-toys when masturbating for improved sexual orgasms. They can give pleasure to both parties at the same time and there is physical body contact during the action – improving sexual intimacy.

#5. Egg Vibrators

These tools are similar to bullet-vibrators but they are smaller, more round and discreet. They have a tear-drop shape – a shape that looks like that of an egg. Mostly, they come with a remote connection wire or simply wireless.

These vibrators are easier to handle and move about directing vibrations to the parts you want. The devices, no matter smaller in size, are very powerful and usually focus sexual sensations better as compared to some other sex-toys.

Egg-vibrators perform many other functions including vaginal stimulation, anal use or even clitoral stimulation during masturbation or sexual intercourse.

In Australia, many adults use these kinds of vibrators and other sex-toys.

Rick is the owner of the Adultsmart, an online sex toy shop that stocks over 13,000 products. He has been involved in the adult lifestyle industry for more than 25 years. Rick is an active sex blogger who provides a wealth of information and experience. He is an advocate of equality for gender and sexuality.