Adultsmart community lifestyle blog is proud to have Empress Mika – a world famous dominatrix with us for a VIP interview today. She is a half Korean/American FemDom that we are lucky enough to have explain the in’s and out’s of being a dominatrix.
VIP Interview With Empress Mika – A Professional Dominatrix!
I have to ask the obvious question – how did FemDom start for you?
That is usually a good starting place, haha. I actually started in this industry as a non-nude, tease cam model. It was here that my natural personality and tease-y cam style attracted many submissive men who introduced me to FemDom. I knew it was perfect for me and started immediately, never looking back.
You’re proudly half-Korean. Does your cultural background influence the work that you do, and how do you go about bringing awareness and acceptance of your culture?
I am, yes. As a clip producer and cam model, I spread awareness and proper education to a large audience. Unfortunately, negative stereotypes surround Asian culture, especially within a fetish environment, which I stand up against.
First and foremost, I must clarify: I am a Dominant Woman in reality, not just “acting” like one.I’m unsure if this stereotype comes from seeing Asian women as submissive or if all Dommes encounter it, but it’s common for me.
I also use My content to combat negative stereotypes. For example, I have several Coersed Bi clips that feature Asian males with large dick sizes. This shows My subs that there are plenty of Asian males with great dick sizes that are even bigger than them! This point, especially, is very fun to tap into.
Additionally, one fetish, in particular, I refuse to engage in is Racial Humiliation. I truly believe that by not participating in this fetish, can help contribute to these negative stereotypes going away (or, at the very least, not keeping them alive) – not just for Asian culture but for all cultures.
I do have a Twitter thread for fun, to feature Korean-pop songs I enjoy entitled, “Playlist of an Empress”. Although not wildly popular, I enjoy occasionally updating to share this aspect of my culture. You can check it out here:
I absolutely love how you mention elements of consent and negotiation on your FAQ, you acknowledge that it’s important to find exactly what works for the relationship between you and your sub. What kind of things erode that relationship, and how do you go about handling that?
Yes, absolutely. I think the #1 erosion to a Domme/sub relationship, at least in My experience, is when a submissive comes to the Domme only interested in serving his own fetishes as oppose to actually wanting to serve.
Another misconception eroding relationships is when subs ask what it’s really like to be My slave, assuming a one-size-fits-all. And, there’s not. The relationship I have with each one of My slaves is unique and certainly not an over night process.
Reading through various interviews – the word authenticity and honesty keep coming up. You also mention how it comes naturally to you and that you enjoy it. Do you feel that it’s these qualities that make you respected and successful in what you do, and what other qualities are important in this?
Haha, I suppose that’s true. I think, in this industry, most of the Dommes really create distance and separation between themselves and their subs. I certainly understand this, as there are truly some bad apples out there.
I agree, one thing setting me apart is offering genuine, honest, real relationships to submissives seeking more than fantasy.
I don’t necessary think My way is better than others, of course. Each Woman and Domme is unique with her own style, doing what works best for her well-being and enjoyment. Success can vary for each Domme, making it difficult to pinpoint a magical formula for everyone. If I had to summarize a magic formula, it’s for each Domme to do what’s fun for her.
You mention the distinction between Domming for fun and pleasure as opposed to sexual enjoyment. How do you negotiate that within yourself and balance what you find pleasurable/arousing to the work that you do? Are they two completely separate things?
For Me, they are totally separate. Submissive men and domination don’t turn me on at all.Rather, My Domination and what submissive men do for Me I find very fun, amusing and entertaining.
As well, I enjoy the sexual separation. I think it ensures I remain completely in control of My subs 100% of the time.
What’s one of the misconceptions about FemDomme that you’d like people to be aware of?
One misconception that I personally struggle with is that many submissives view Dommes as some kind of bad, evil person. I hear over and over how bad some of their experiences are interacting with Dommes (and vice versa, really) have furthered this belief. Complications arise with submissives who have fetishes they’d rather not have in the first place.
So, I suppose I’d like people to be aware that not all Dommes are horrible just like not all subs are horrible. You are responsible for your own interactions. In other words, your experience with FemDom can completely change depending on who you serve and interact with.
What’s a moment in your FemDomme career that has really shaped and influenced who you are, and how you do it?
It was the moment I changed My name from “Princess” to “Empress”. This was a direct reflection of My evolution as a Domme, from someone new to FemDom, to who I am today in FemDom.
This was sparked by the close relationships I had developed with My slaves. Their relationship really inspired and encouraged Me to simply be Myself fully as oppose to trying to figure out what other subs would like or buy. It made a huge impact on Me, My FemDom style and success.
What’s one mistake/learning experience that you keep with you?
I once created a custom FemDom clip that I wasn’t too thrilled about… but I agreed to it because I had never tried it before and it paid well. I also put this clip up for re-sale in My clip store but I told Myself that I wouldn’t do anything like this again. Sure enough, it wasn’t something I enjoyed.
A few months later, I was on interacting with a trial slave that I just felt really strange about and, for Me, there was a clear disconnect. Somewhere in the conversation, I had asked him what his favorite clip was that I created. Turns out, his favorite was that custom clip I didn’t care for. LOL!
Here, I learned to only create content I enjoy to attract the right submissives to me.
What is your favourite fetish?
I enjoy most FemDom fetishes and believe I can find a way to make almost anything fun for Me. However, if I had to pick a favorite, it would certainly be Mind Fuck. It is here I can truly challenge submissives to be more of service as well as get extremely creative in My clips.
I highly recommend My clip entitled Good Boy Reward to dive right in! It can be found here:
You’ve mentioned that FemDomming for you is not a performance, which allows you to better handle yourself. Are there any draining aspects to being a FemDomme and how do you cope with that?
No. This job is pretty much 24/7 and not something, at least for Me, that I can turn easily on and off. Therefore, I feel that it would actually be extremely draining if all of this was an act, haha.
Financial Domming is something I really want to understand. I get dominating, I get submission and I understand what people get out of that. I also get the idea that Financial Domming is NOT necessarily about taking all of their money and that it is about control. Can you explain this fetish to me, and what a sub and Domme get out of this?
For My style of Financial Domination with My slaves, I use it an important foundation of submission to Me.
They are using something (money) that could have benefited themselves and instead chose for it to benefit Me. There is hardly a greater form of submission in My opinion.
With My slaves, W/we go over budgeting together (which is also apart of the SayYesToEmpress.com e-course) to ensure their money is used most effectively to sustain themselves and their life goals as well as their servitude to Me.
You offer a dick rating service – what can people expect from submitting their dick to you?
I do, haha, almost by necessity as there are so many submissives interested in My thoughts about their “package”. I offer 2 dick ratings, a basic one or a premium one. The basic one is My rating and a few comments. The premium one includes My rating with a more in-depth explanation.
The ratings, along with many other items, are available on My store: EmpressMika.com/store
You also run DommeSource.com. What is this and how does this benefit the FemDom community?
I do, yes.
Back when I started in FemDom, there weren’t really any resources to turn to so that inspired Me to create DommeSource. It is the ultimate resource site for both online Dommes and subs.
I hope it helps newer Dommes get started and gives newer subs a better idea of submission. I also hope it helps bridge the gap between Dommes and subs so that the right subs can find the right Domme.
Final words and thoughts on FemDomme that you’d like people to know?
FemDom is getting more and more popular! 🙂 I’m happy to see more and more people trying it out and invite you to do the same if you haven’t already.
Thanks for having Me!
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