VIP Interview With Amie Wee Founder And Producer Of Rule 34 Club

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Rule 34

“If it exists there IS porn of it – no exceptions”

In other words, no matter how mundane, boring, weird or whacky an item someone has turned it into porn. Nothing is sacred. Whether you are thinking of hot buttered crumpet, a strawberry milkshake, your favourite TV show or balloons, there is porn out there which features it. This is a rule of the internet which celebrates people’s unlimited creativity and diversity in their sexual lifestyles, it has changed the face of porn. This is the beauty of the internet, that everything can be shared and accessed so freely. Rule 34 is now a famous internet meme. Its origin was started in a web comic by Peter Morley-Souter which made light of his surprising find of Calvin and Hobbes themed porn parody.

In Sydney, Rule 34 club takes these perversions and turns them into a monthly performance art show. Rule 34 club performances are sexy, shocking, surprising, dirty, erotic and so much more. They push through the boundaries and break free of any social constraints that hold people back to deliver amazing performances.  Perverting the unpervertable has never been more entertaining! Props and costumes may include BDSM gear, body stockings, face masks and dildos! Rule 34 club began in 2017 with its popularity soaring, each monthly show has quickly sold out of tickets.

Just look at what other audience members have said about their previous shows:

“When I’m at Rule 34, I feel like I’m in a John Waters movie.”

“What has been seen, cannot be unseen”

This is a VIP interview with Amie Wee the founder and producer of Rule 34 club.

Tell me about the Rule 34 club

Hello! I’m Amie Wee and I created and produce Rule 34 club – a monthly perverted performance art show. Rule 34 club runs once a month in Sydney, plus we also put on parties and make apparel.

What inspires you?

I pick up inspiration from all over the place. I’m especially inspired by people who create stuff on their own terms and don’t give too much of a shit about how their work will be perceived. People who revel in creating stuff that isn’t ‘beautiful’. In a world where there’s so much pressure to beautiful, skinny, sexy and liked by everyone, I’m really inspired by creatives who aren’t afraid to create work that isn’t pretty and freaks people out a bit. But then again, I recently got a cockroach costume for free and it’s inspired me more than it probably should have. Rule 34 is my outlet for my inspiration.

Sexy milk pouring on naked model
Image: Rule 34 club milk

What inspired the creation of Rule 34 club?

Theatre and porn are probably two of my most favourite things to talk about so it made sense to combine them! I always wanted to create a space where anything went and people could feel free to experiment. Plus I’d just turned 30 and thought… fuck it. Let’s just do it.

How did you pick the name Rule 34 club?

Well, Rule 34 is an internet term that means, “if it exists, there is porn of it” meaning that even the most mundane of things can be perverted. The show had a bunch of different working titles in the beginning but the concept of Rule 34 really summed up what I find funny and what I wanted to create. Plus, the name “Rule 34 Club” sounds deceivingly random and innocent… unless you know what it means.

Perverted performance art
Image: Rule 34 club gremlin

What goes into the process of producing a show at Rule 34?

So, I curate the shows. Each month I pick a theme and put the word out to a bunch of different performers and invite them to send me their pitch for a 5-10 minute performance. The themes are always cheeky and open to interpretation. Some of my favourite past themes have included: Size Queens, Hot Mess, Science Friction, The XXXorcist, Objectification… and our next show (11 April) is Shit Happens.

What type of performances can people see at Rule 34?

Rule 34 is a true variety show… but like, a really dirty one. I have a soft spot for shows that are more like skits and scenes because you just don’t see other places really doing that. But there’s also bent burlesque, spoken word, singing, drag, filmmakers and all sorts of other types of performance. As long as it’s Rule 34-themed… it’s welcome!

What mundane things have Rule 34 been able to pervert?

Oh lord, I don’t know where to start. Some mundane things that have been perverted at Rule 34 are: swimming safety, cockroaches, donuts, clowns (are they mundane?), Ronald McDonald, Nutella, ET, Trump, Jesus, roast chickens, Mariah Carey, Britney Spears, cops, JENGA!…

Sexual performance with trump
Image: Rule 34 club Trump

What are the most memorable performances that have occurred at Rule 34?

That’s a difficult one and totally subjective. One of my favourite things about Rule 34 is asking people after the show what their favourite moments were and I always get different answers. That’s what I think part of the appeal of Rule 34 club is… there’s really something for everyone. It’s hard to pick between the possessed vagina dentata and the rubber chicken cocks really… Honestly, my best moments are just watching someone who’s never performed or is anxious about getting up on stage but really wants to, pushing through that, totally rocking it on stage and breaking down that barrier for themselves. Rule 34 really lends itself to providing that safe space for expression.

Why is it important to provide performances for members of the fetish and kink community?

That’s a good question. I don’t really think about Rule 34 club as being about ‘providing’ performances. For me it feels like providing a space for the performers and inviting people to come and watch. I do think that the BDSM world can take things a little too seriously… so it’s nice to shake it up and remind people that what’s kinky is subjective. Except clowns. Clowns are the kinkiest of all kinks.

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Image: Rule 34 club Jeepers Creepers

Are the performances made purely for entertainment? Are there any messages or meanings people can get from the shows?

Sometimes the shows are purely for entertainment, and that’s not a bad thing at all. We all love to laugh. Some of the shows aren’t meant to be funny… some are darkly funny… some you wonder if you should be laughing at them but you can’t help yourself… some are emotional… others are cathartic for the performers. I love how at Rule 34 you can go from watching a funny burlesque act to watching something deeply personal on the stage. Expect the unexpected!

What have you found were people’s reactions after they have attended a Rule 34 show?

People are generally really excited by the show. They love to be shocked. It’s a very fun show and every month is totally different. It’s not uncommon for me to see people at a show and then see them come back the next month with their workmates, brother, sister, Aunty, AirBnB guest or neighbour in tow. I really can’t stress enough how diverse the audience is. We have 18 year old non binary people, couples who make a date night out of the show and 80 year olds who get up and have a crack at our open mic section. There’s this strange cohesion. I think the fact that it’s a show for anyone with a dirty mind over the age of 18. All genders and sexualities welcome.

Splooshing performance art
Image: Rule 34 club splooshing

What can people expect from Rule 34 club in the future?

More shows! We also threw a big party at the Red Rattler for Sydney Mardi Gras called CRISCO DISCO. We’re planning another party towards the end of the year. We’ve also just started designing some apparel… we have a bunch more bizarre event concepts that will be released over time… and we’re planning on touring the show to another state or two later in the year. Really… just come along for the ride and expect the unexpected.

Is there anything you would like to add?

Come and check out the show! Plus, we’re always looking for performers. You can follow us on Rule 34 club on Facebook, Rule 34 club on Twitter and Rule 34 club on Instagram, or visit our Rule 34 club website.

Sexpert is our resident full time sex blogger. Having successfully owned and managed a number of blogs relating to women’s lifestyle, she easily blended into her role as chief blogger of the Adultsmart Blog. She is in a long term relationship with her boyfriend. She also runs Good Girl Guide, a sexual lifestyle blog.

VIP Interview With Dr. Noelle Cordeaux CEO And Co-founder Of SHFT

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SHFT offers life coach training, online group coaching, and one-on-one coaching experiences. SHFT is based upon the concept:

“Rebuild yourself through others”

SHFT stands out from the crowd by offering all of their services online where people, communities and professionals are all able to interact freely in the virtual world. If you are looking for something more, they also offer life events where people can attend carefully constructed annual retreats. The retreats offer people the ability to participate in activities like workshops, meditation and so much more.

I think what is incredibly inspirational is that they have tribes which are online support groups. Where people can connect with other likeminded individuals to find further support within the community. The tribes are focused on individuals building up their personal skills to build their understanding and manage their ideas about self-confidence, purpose, calling, anxiety and much more. What is most vital in these support groups is that they provide everyone with a structured and guided curriculum that they follow with a life coach, videos and interactions with others through texting.

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Image: Online support groups

This is a VIP interview with Dr. Noelle Cordeaux CEO and co-founder of SHFT. This VIP interview looks into what inspired Dr. Noelle Cordeaux to become a sexologist and fuel her passion to create easily accessibly online resources for people from all walks of life to use.

Tell me about yourself

Noelle Cordeaux, CEO and Co-Founder of SHFT; Feminist Coach/Sexologist.  I am a feminist coach who happens to be the CEO of a life coaching company.  I went to grad school for coaching, social work, law, and finally arrived at a PhD in Human Sexuality.  I paused my PhD to take over my company.

What inspired you to become a sexologist?

A lot of things… First of all, the study of sex is fascinating.  Second, it is a rare field that lots of folks need help in. My clinical work was focused on body image recovery, positive psychology, and alternative relationship styles.

What is it like being a sexologist?

It is awesome!  Sexology is incredibly empowering work.  You work with individuals to move from wherever they are a to a place of celebration of themselves and their bodies. It is really beautiful.

What areas of a person’s life impacts their sexuality?

Oh god everything.  It’s how your brain is wired, how you grew up, who your lovers have been, what your hormones are like, the degree to which you like to be touched, your genetic makeup, your unique turn-on template, and so much more.  Not one of us are the same. We all have a completely distinct sexual makeup.

How can people explore their sexuality?

This is a really good question.  It’s not my area and I can only give my personal opinion.  My personal opinion is: go on a quest to discover yourself.  Decide for you what you like and who you like and why and honor yourself at every turn.

How can you develop self-confidence with your sexuality?

I think that the above concept of honoring oneself really applies here.  When you think about how many billions of people in the world there are and every single one of us has a completely unique sexual template, it makes it easier to understand that there is no such thing as normative and there is nothing bad about sexuality.  It’s a huge wacky part of human existence and everybody is on their own journey.  There is so much pressure out there around sexuality but you do have control over whether you succumb to the noise or not.  AND THERE IS SO MUCH NOISE: from body junk, to binary standards, to fat shaming to, LGBTQA rights, to fetish shaming, difficulty for poly folks, underrepresentation of diversity, lack of representation for disability, all of it, is utter and complete bullshit. The good news is that most people are just people, who don’t look like models and don’t have sex like in porn (not knocking porn, porn is great!).  So this was kind of a roundabout answer but you can build confidence by looking at the reality of the world and refusing to give into the BS.

How do people maintain sexual individuality when they are dating or in a relationship?

I think lots of people don’t really share their full sexuality with their partners actually.  Most people are too shy or don’t have the tools to talk about it.  This results in performative sex and dissatisfaction.  If you are in a place where you are totally in tune with who you are and what you want you can maintain that individuality by asking for it and finding ways for your needs to get met.

Why do some lovers end up becoming disinterested in sex?

This would take me a year to answer.  Every single scenario is unique.

What is a normal amount of sex?

There is no such thing as normal.  People exist on several different continuums from how much they like to be touched to the degree to which they are interested. Hormones are involved. Relationship is involved. It’s pretty diverse.

Do sex dreams mean anything?

I have no idea.

Are there any bad side effects to not masturbating?

Not that I know of.

What services do you provide? Where can people find you?

I am just a CEO these days.  I run a company that trains life coaches to work on our media based platform.  We give voice to progressive issues and are working to democratize the experience of behavioral health.  The company is called SHFT.  My training program is the Catalyst Life Coaching Intensive. You can find me at Shft.us

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Image: SHFT.us Retreat

Sexpert is our resident full time sex blogger. Having successfully owned and managed a number of blogs relating to women’s lifestyle, she easily blended into her role as chief blogger of the Adultsmart Blog. She is in a long term relationship with her boyfriend. She also runs Good Girl Guide, a sexual lifestyle blog.

VIP Interview With Abra Lee Founder And CEO Of SuperSlyde

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Abra Lee is the founder and CEO of SuperSlyde, a company that developed a perfect silicone lubricant. Abra was unable to find the perfect personal lubricant himself, so he made it his aim to develop an affordable personal lubricant which would be readily available to purchase in adult lifestyle centres and online adult shops without having to seek it out in niche stores.

He researched what people thought about silicone lubricant and he had found that most of the people he had come across had not tried it and did not know how silicone lubricant could positively affect their sexual lifestyle. With this in mind, he founded the company AARI (Abra Advanced Research International Pte Ltd) alongside his partner Dr. Stuart Koe, Pharm.D who is also the founder of Fridae one of the world’s largest online LGBTQIA+ communities in Asia. Through hard work and determination they developed SuperSlyde which they now sell worldwide.

SuperSlyde is available in 10ml, 100ml, 250ml and 400ml, so people are able to buy it in an amount which suits their sexual lifestyle. Using just a little amount of SuperSlyde goes a long way, so you will find you won’t need to reapply as much as other lubricants. SuperSlyde has been designed to feel like it is barely there, it is tasteless and scentless. This is a VIP interview with Abra Lee the founder and CEO of SuperSlyde.

Tell me about yourself?

Really thanks for inviting me to do this interview. My name is Abra, born and raised in Hong Kong from a humble family. I was a part time and full time swimming coach for 11 years in Hong Kong before I moved to Singapore and started SuperSlyde. When I was 16, I was a studdent and a gay activist; Now, I will say I am a businessman but deep down there is the blood of an activist still running through my veins.

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Image: Swimming Coach Abra Lee

What are your favourite accomplishments of all time working for SuperSlyde?

There are a few, the first must be winning the 2013 Eros Shine Award for Best Lotion & Potion in Australia. I got selected as one of Singapore’s top 65 local brands and received 2 adult industry best lubricant award nominations this year for the 2018 XBIZ Award and the 2018 AVN ‘O’ Award.

Award winning personal lubricant
Image: Eros Shine Trophy

What are your favourite quote’s that inspire you?

“Sutesare in a day success” is a book title of Yanai Tadashi, founder of Japanese clothing brand, UNIQLO. Basically, it means you should only satisfy with your success for today and stay hungry for tomorrow.

How did you develop the perfect silicone lubricant SuperSlyde? How long did it take? What was the process like?

People always thought it would be I was f**king around and collecting data, the answer is far more boring than that… hahaha. We studied all the competitors’ formulas in the laboratory then imported the raw material silicone from Holland and developed a few rounds of formulas in the in-house laboratory of ICM Pharma. We then hired focus groups, who reviewed the formulas which went back and foward for a few rounds, to select our flagship formula.

I am so glad we did the focus groups, at first I personally loved formula A, and the focus group’s results ended up rating formula B as the best and A as the lowest, I almost launched the formula the market doesn’t like.

It took us 18 months to develop the formula that we are satisfied with.

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How did you find Dr. Stuart Koe? How did working with the founder of Fridae impact SuperSlyde?

We met in a Xmas circuit party in Hong Kong, and he found my profile on Fridae, so cliché isn’t it?

When I met him, I was already a level 2 certified swimming coach, less than 3 people in Hong Kong have that at my age. I planned to be a coach for rest of my life, until I met him and it changed my life.

I must admit that it’s an upper hand to launch SuperSlyde after Stuart’s achievement of Fridae, he has connections and a reputation with a great business sense. He is also has a Phr D in HIV medicine. That definitely made things easier.

Silicone lubricant designers
Image: Dr. Stuart Koe & Abra Lee

What are the benefits of SuperSlyde being manufactured in Singapore by ICM Pharma?

First of all, I am proud of it being a made in Singapore product, when almost everything is made in China nowadays. We are aiming for quality, and made in Singapore does send out a positive impression to customers.

And ICM Pharma is one of the biggest pharmaceutical manufacturers in Singapore which provides products to hospitals and army force; SuperSlyde is proud to claim that we follow the pharmaceutical GMP standard, customers can rely on our product’s quality. At the end, it is a product people use on their genitals, better choose something made with a better quality, isn’t it?

How would you describe what SuperSlyde feels like?

SuperSlyde’s personality is daring, sexy, fun, yet competent; we chose colourful packaging because we believe sex is not something that can hide in the dark.

Texture wise, SuperSlyde is specially formulated to be extra long lasting and slippery, enhancing the sensibility to achieve another level of intimacy.

What does your company value the most?

Customers! Always make sure customers come first and cum first! 😀

What are your favourite memories from working with SuperSlyde?

Reading the Google map of SuperSlyde retailers on the world map scale, always made my day, especially after we launched in North America and this year we are starting in Europe, South Africa, Saudi Arabia and more. Seeing People can purchase SuperSlyde from Alaska to Cape of Good Hope, New York to Sydney, is really satisfying. (For today, stay hungry tomorrow)

There are few more though, last year SuperSlyde sponsored 2 events in USA. SuperSlyde sponsored Washington DC Pride at their biggest gay club town, we did a video backdrop that rotated which linked LGBTI history with the brand, East & West. This was my favorite piece of marketing material SuperSlyde did so far.

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Image: Abra Lee at the Washington DC Pride
SuperSlyder sponsored a charity event
Image: Video Backdrop

At the Miami White Party, we were the official lube sponsor. All the revenue of the party was donated to HIV NGO Care Resources. I am very proud of my brand as we did something for the LGBTI community.

SuperSlyde supporting charity
Image: SuperSlyde at the Miami White Party

Also in Hong Kong, we did a charity fundraising edition of SuperSlyde for Big Love Alliance to raise funds for sexuality equal rights that made me proud as well.

Are there any other hidden uses of SuperSlyde that other people have discovered?

There are a few actually. It can be used as a sun barrier, lip balm and as hair conditioner. It can also be applied on the nipples and genitals for cross country running and competitive cycling.

Since SuperSlyde is made with silicone, we find that our customers can also use it for various other purposes. For example, you can safely use it as a makeup primer before you apply foundation. Some people also use it to tame flyways in their hair.

Can SuperSlyde be used safely with different sex toy materials and other adult lifestyle products without impacting the material?

SuperSlyde is safe to use with sex toys, condoms and all, but not with silicone made sex toys. That’s because all silicone lubes contain a solvent that will melt silicone made products, not only SuperSlyde, all silicone lube are the same.

Can we look forward to new products from SuperSlyde?

SuperSlyde is always trying to satisfy all different customer’s needs. So we are planning to launch a formula specific for women, and also a cleaner for people who love to be clean and tidy as much as they love sex.

I have heard SuperSlyde supports charity programs. What charities does SuperSlyde support?

On the other hand, there are a few charity programs under development: A long-term fundraiser for Hong Kong Big Love Alliance for LGBTI community, Shelter for LGBTI youth in Singapore, sponsoring physical challenge/handicapped community NGO in Taiwan and Hong Kong and many more are coming. It is really a big thanks for all those who support our brand SuperSlyde, we can keep our good will to serve back the others in needs.

Sexpert is our resident full time sex blogger. Having successfully owned and managed a number of blogs relating to women’s lifestyle, she easily blended into her role as chief blogger of the Adultsmart Blog. She is in a long term relationship with her boyfriend. She also runs Good Girl Guide, a sexual lifestyle blog.

VIP Interview With William Orban Founder And Artist From WILLO

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WILLO

Body of Art

(Clothing Optional)

William Orban is a Chicago artist that creates digital art based on provided images of people who wish to celebrate themselves for the beautiful being they are. William began his creative career doing illustration and design working with a wide array of clients from the NFL to Playboy. He moved to Los Angeles to pursue a visual effects career which he did for 12 years working on a variety of television shows and feature films. This is a VIP Interview with William Orban and Sexpert from Adultsmart’s health and sexuality blog, which will look into who he is, what inspires him, what he is most proud of and much more!

Welcome to WILLO

https://willoart100.tumblr.com/

What is your focus?

The WILLO focus is to work closely with real people, sex educators and great blogs like Adultsmart to offer every person, no matter their size, age, shape, gender, ethnicity or sexual orientation an opportunity to view themselves for what they are; beautiful just as nature intended.

My thoughts are simple, we are all going to die one day so be proud and celebrate YOU as a body of art. That may start off a bit dark but I believe it is very much the opposite. I wish for EVERYONE to be comfortable with their body and I aim to show that they should be….. one work at a time.

Tell me about yourself

I have been an artist for as long as I can remember which started with a sketch pad as a boy and continues to take me on fun and rewarding ventures. I never had to make a career choice as I always knew it would be creating art one way or another. Even though I was later making art for high-end corporations, the older I became the more I felt I was missing something, so I sought out to have my work make a difference for people more than for corporations.

I have lived in Chicago, Los Angeles, Scottsdale and St. Louis and I am now preparing to get on the road and drive aimlessly for a year around the nation to promote Willo and the beauty of people and sexuality through art.

What is it like being an entrepreneur?

I love the freedom but at the end of the day, it requires three times the amount of work. It is something I am passionate about whether feast or famine. I enjoy doing new things and today for me it is more about finding good in what I do more so than how much money can I make for someone else.

What inspires your creativity?

People, Peace, Love, Sex and Groovy Colors!

What is your creative process like?

For me it is seeing more than thinking. I tend to go into a visual meditative state rather than having a blueprint plan. I guess the best way to answer that is that I listen to what someone likes or dislikes. With that in mind I go into that place until I can feel what I am seeing to get that “ah-haa… that is bad ass” moment.

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Image: Willo Body Of Art Samples

How can people feel comfortable with their bodies?

That is often a roadblock for many. I think ALL bodies are beautiful and I promote acceptance of what you’re working with. We ALL have a hang up one way or another!

I worked with Playboy, with both photography and retouching. As much as I enjoyed to work with them that I later felt it was selling lies to some degree. NOBODY looks like the girls in Playboy, including the girls in Playboy! If only I could show the before and after of the original shots and the end product MANY people would feel much more comfortable with their own image.

Today, I am not trying to build a “perception” of someone… I am trying to show real people they are beautiful and worthy of being the centerpiece, a centerfold so to speak.

How do your clients choose their pictures?

The spouse, friend or partner is usually the photographer and they have 100% creative freedom to choose any photo they would like as long as they are 2mb or higher, the more resolution I have to work with the better the end product. I offer photography but since my clients are all over this it is the best option. I accept images from smart phones etc. I don’t require high-end shoots but I do ask for the best quality they can provide.

I always recommend they pay attention to lighting so I have more to work with, but not to over think it. Many images are snapped in the moment and not staged what so ever. I can work with these since I am applying effects, changing the background etc. The end result rarely resembles the original image anyway.

In short, the better the original, the better the final output and quality.

Are there any limitations to the images you will work with?

No, they can be G rated or anything beyond! It takes quite a bit to offend me and I certainly do not care to judge. As long as it is legal, safe and consenting then it’s all good by me.

The majority of my work is individual pieces created for people for their own use and enjoyment. ALL CLIENTS have 100% discretion. I DO NOT SHARE ANYTHING without prior written consent from the client.

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Image: Willo Body Of Art Work Samples

How do you and your clients decide how to edit the picture?

I ask each client several questions such as what are their favorite colors, ideas and a quick overview of what they like. In many cases, they will point to one of my images and say I like the direction of that one. I have had a lot of success with this model as each is a unique piece anyway.

My clients have control of what they want to reveal in their final image. Some want their breasts shown while others want things to be blended into the work. Some want their faces shown, some do not. I have no rules. I listen to the client’s thoughts and do my thing based on their wishes. My job is to make a product they are proud of.

How do you find people react to seeing their lovers or themselves as works of art?

I have had a very good response and they end up very excited by it. Some people are very timid to hang their bodies on the wall and that can be a hang up so to speak. Many simply want the digital file to enjoy and share or do as they wish. It depends on the person and the subject matter of course.

At the end of the day, I want the client to receive whatever they are comfortable with. In MANY cases I have been requested to create an abstract piece that nobody can see that they are even in the image but rather strategically place them where only they know what is actually in the image. It is a form of subliminal placement in a way.

For example, I did an image of a dog in a suit standing on a window ledge. Outside of the window were green rolling hills. The truth was those rolling hills are the client’s wife laying on her back in a very suggestive way. The observer sees a dog in the window and never notices the details of the rolling hills. Once hinted to look out the window they get a great laugh. Probably my favorite piece.

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Image: Willo Body Of Art Photoshop

What are you most proud of with your work WILLO?

What makes me happy is when a client receives their work and they simply say:

“Wow, this is beautiful. Thank you!”

I find great pride in that.

A woman once told me that she wished she had done nudes when she was younger. I told her she’s still beautiful. She replied that later down the road she will look at this artwork and it will make her feel young again. That makes me happy.

What are your price points?

I want my work to be available to anyone. My price starts at $250 USD. I have done others in the thousands but they were very custom pieces. The $250 price point gives you about any of the work you see here.

Canvas Prints/Deliverables

Each piece is created with printing to canvas in mind. Prints are bright on white canvas material stretched to a wooden frame and certified eco-friendly latex inks for stunning quality and lasting durability.

All clients receive the final resolution digital file to do with as they wish.

Do you only work with nudes?

Absolutely not. I work with anything that makes a person happy. I don’t care if it’s their Harley Davidson, family photo or the golden retriever. Whatever makes a person feel good sexually or otherwise I am open to the client’s wishes.

Please visit my Tumblr page to view more of my work!

https://willoart100.tumblr.com/

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Image: Willo Body Of Art Photo Editing

Have no regrets with what nature gave you! Celebrate it!

“People, Peace, Love, Sex and Groovy Colors to you ALL!” – Willo

Sexpert is our resident full time sex blogger. Having successfully owned and managed a number of blogs relating to women’s lifestyle, she easily blended into her role as chief blogger of the Adultsmart Blog. She is in a long term relationship with her boyfriend. She also runs Good Girl Guide, a sexual lifestyle blog.

VIP Interview With Jaiden Lillith Escort, BDSM Professional And Lifestyle Switch

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Jaiden Lillith is a gentleman, lady, escort, professional Dom/me, educator and a Shibari artist. A BDSM switch who delves into the world of both feminine and masculine sexual identities, the name Jaiden Lillith is divided into two worlds with Master Jaiden and Mistress Lillith. With an open mind and sex-positive views on life, they enjoy the idea of exploring and experimenting with all the facets of a person’s sexuality while placing an important emphasis on the beauty of connection in all the possible ways.

Jaiden can be found in Sydney at Temple 22 or in Melbourne at Fetish House and can be booked for private sessions, lessons and public performances. Jaiden is a sadist, inflicting pain and humiliation for pleasure with experiences that are indepth, seductive, subtle, theatrical and exotic. Jaiden has a large selection of BDSM toys to choose from ranging from crops, whips, ropes, restraint systems and so much more. Most importantly Jaiden Lillith is in complete control of all encounters with years of experiences and knowledge that has been gained from training with the best within the BDSM, fetish and kink community. All professional business is handled with complete discretion.

This is a VIP interview with Jaiden Lillith which explores Jaiden’s inspirations, gender fluidity, BDSM play, shibari and exploring the world of people’s sexual lifestyles.

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Image: Jaiden Lillith at Temple22

Tell me about yourself

My name is Jaiden Lillith, I am an escort, BDSM professional and lifestyle switch, kink educator, Shibari performer and musician.

What inspired you to become a professional BDSM practitioner, performer and educator?

I’ve always been inspired to connect with others and create a unique intimate space in art as a musician, creator and performer, to be able to deeply affect others and to take people on a journey. I’m also a very sexual, passionate and sensual person with a love of pushing boundaries and exploring the edges of the human mind, psychology and desire. Sex work and BDSM have given me the opportunity bring those passions together and to deeply affect, explore and enter people’s minds and bodies on a very intimate level.

In terms of education I love imparting knowledge to people and helping them on their journeys. I get a deep satisfaction from seeing others take the knowledge and becoming proficient with it – their victories feel like my victories. I also feel like I’m corrupting the world, which makes me happy, haha!

What inspires you?

Everything! Talking to my fellow practitioners about their own experiences as well as having the honour to witness them work and play is definitely something that inspires me on a day to day basis.

“Nothing is true, everything is permitted.”

I first read this in William S Burrough’s “Naked Lunch”, itself a great inspiration to me with its mixture of surreality, alien sexuality and evocative language. This quote to me embodies our essential freedom of self and also the responsibilities inherent in that – that we are the creators of our own destinies and are free to explore the possibilities – the only barriers in many instances are only those of our own creation. That always inspired me to seek out alternate means of existence, of connection, of sexuality and ways of thinking – of stepping outside of the codes of morality by majority and the cultural norms.

The same transcendent feeling I get from experiencing great art, and especially the visceral and dynamic nature of music is something I try to bring to my sessions. Jung and Nietzsche have also shaped my philosophies and attitudes with their writings on the subconscious and power dynamics respectively, which gives a lot of meaning to what I do. There is an amazing quote from Dune by Frank Herbert which is something that I think of often.

 “I must not fear. Fear is the mind-killer. Fear is the little death that brings total obliteration. I will face my fear. I will permit it to pass over me and through me. And when it has gone past I will turn the inner eye to see its path. Where the fear has gone there will be nothing. Only I will remain.”

I think there is a lot of bravery involved in submission, and I have respect and empathy for those who choose to truly submit, and honor their trust and gift with the utmost care and compassion, even and especially within the most extreme of sessions.

What is it like being gender fluid mistress and master?

There are different energies and headspaces inherent in whether I am Mistress Lillith, Master Jaiden or Sai Jaiden Lillith, drawing varying amounts of feminine and masculine embodiment – but all of my faces are true, they are aspects that I can bring to the fore as opposed to masks that I wear, like my own spirit animals that I can call upon for their strengths, my others.

There is a history within many ancient cultures of those existing outside the binary norms of gender and identity taking a shaman-like or spiritual role in their society and I like to think that in some way I am a part of that tradition. Being an outsider frees you from many of the societal constraints that identifying with a binary can make you feel compelled to do which is liberating but can also be isolating.

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How does being Gender Fluid benefit affect your BDSM practices?

It gives me a range of interactions and experiences as well as a play partner/client base which I wouldn’t find as otherwise. As someone who has found submission as well as dominance in both masculine and feminine oriented roles, I can draw on from many different perspectives with an understanding of how energy flows in different configurations.

I see a lot of feminisation clients who wouldn’t be interested in a CIS presenting male or aren’t interested in that kind of interaction with a female. They choose me because they can see that I understand in a way that many practitioners don’t from an experiential sense. There are also those who don’t want a hyper-masculine master interaction, but find something enticing and seductive in a biological male who embodies many feminine aspects. Those who feel themselves to be more fluid or identifying as a gender other than they were assigned at birth also find an immediate sense of identification and rapport with me.

In terms of play, my stance, affect, voice, bearing, the way I touch, the way I hurt, it all changes between those selves. It’s not a series of small things that I do consciously, but it’s more that when I inhabit those personas it changes the way I do things.

In a more practical sense, it means I have at least two, if not three entire wardrobes of clothing to maintain….

How did you gain skills for BDSM, shibari and kink play?

I’m an intuitive person and I pick things up very quickly. I’m a big believer in experiencing things first hand – as a switch I’ve experienced the delights and power of submission and I’ve found that that has given me some of the best insights into how I choose to engage. Play parties, learning with people and growing with them personally, on the job experience, training sessions and skill exchanges with other BDSM professionals.

Being an empath, I’m very sensitive to the emotions of others and this helps me to create connective sessions and to keep things safe. I began shibari as a rope bottom, and experiencing the intoxication of subspace was crucial to me in understanding the potential of the rope, and having found that space I love leading others into it and enjoying the energies from the top side of things. I was very lucky to have begun my rope journey with an incredible female rigger, whose style greatly influenced and still influences my shibari.

Attending workshops and being trained by places such as Sydney Rope Dojo, Studio Kink and intensive workshops with international shibari practitioners such as Nawashi Kanna and Osada Steve have also provided me with a swift growth in my shibari skills. I’ve also been lucky to have been friends with, worked with and have drawn on the knowledge of some of the great professional and lifestyle dominants in our local scene such as Tallula Darling, Artemisia DeVine, Penelope Dreadful, Domina V and Mistress Tokyo. There have also been a lot of transferrable mental skills from creative aspects such as being a performer and a musician and composer in terms of creating and holding a space.

I am always learning, always growing.

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Image: Jaiden Lillith and AmirahKitsune at Inversion

What are your favourite memories from working as a BDSM practitioner?

My best memories as a BDSM practitioner are those sessions which take people deep, and leave them (and me) strongly affected. Being with them laughing, crying, holding them, that sense of aftermath is beautiful. Stroking the head of a man who was so affected by their experience that they were thanking me in tears as I stroked their head. Those so affected by the rope that they just lay in my lap smiling for a good long while after the session ended. The face of a man who upon opening their eyes in front of a mirror, was deeply and beautifully affected to find a feminized self-staring back at him. A hardcore interrogation session where all of my electro toys were and a large number of medical implements were used, and a person who embraced their role with gusto so that we had an amazingly fun experience together. An interrogation/sexual training/shibari session where the person who entered the room shy and feeling guilt about their kinks was by the end gleefully lost in abandon. All these moments and more are some of my most treasured memories.

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Image: Jaiden Lillith With Bondage Ropes

Performance highlights would be performing at OzKinkFest – it was an amazing experience to be alongside such great performers and artists like Avalon, Mistress Tokyo and more. I also pushed myself and my rope bottom to the limits during the performance, which is always an intoxicating feeling.

I think the workshops at OzKinkFest have to be the highlight of my educational career so far, especially the Genitorture workshop. It was delightful running through free flowing mini sessions, and the class cheering on as I made my workshop partner electrocute herself on the anus by making her press the button of the shock device was great! That also ranks as one of her favourite memories, by the way.

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Image: Jaiden Lillith and AmirahKitsune OzKinkFest

What do you find satisfying about being in sex work and being a professional dominant?

In both, it is sharing the moments of vulnerability and making a deep connection with them. Being a professional dominant allows me to explore the inner workings of people. It is a privilege having them open up to me, finding their personal blueprints and the road to their desires, the frisson between what they think they need and what they actually need.

Finding that moment of vulnerability, seeing the look of surrender and the intensity of the sensations and feelings, the satisfaction of unlocking someone’s authentic self and helping them find that moment of release. Feeling like I’ve helped someone overcome their own barriers.

Being able to witness and hold people in these incredibly cathartic moments, walking them through these intense experiences, getting to unleash my sadist, parts of myself which could manifest in negative ways but within these contexts are positive is incredibly liberating and affirming.

You are known for your shibari work, what do you find satisfying about shibari?

I love the ropes! They provide a tool of sensual/sadistic/sexual connection that is so versatile. You can wrap someone entirely, embracing their entire being with the ropes. It’s something that you can put together in so many different ways, from the simplest floor ties to the most complex suspensions – I love being able to free form with the rope, being able to flow with them. There is something very personal to me about layering rope, about taking someone deeper and deeper into bondage. With rope I can control an entire body, what it feels, how it looks, what shapes it is making. I am always holding them. It is wonderful and intoxicating.

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Image: Jaiden Lillith and AmirahKitsune at Rope Chill

What have you found that people need to do to be happy with their sexual lifestyles and sexuality?

I think people definitely need to be open minded and open hearted, being open to new experiences is one of the best ways to grow as a person. Being honest and authentic with yourself and others – if something doesn’t cause harm to another person, or irrecoverable harm to yourself then I believe that exploring both sexual/kink worlds and your own sexuality is a great way to be happy and comfortable in your own skin. There is nothing more damaging than hiding a part of yourself, and feeling alone and isolated with that feeling. There is nothing more liberating than being authentically true to yourself, and finding those who not only accept but revel in the same. Society has a way of imposing norms and expectations that don’t always line up with the true self that people are.

Within this freedom though, boundaries become ever more important – finding and standing by what feels ok to you and what feels like it is having a negative impact on your wellbeing, and being able to communicate this clearly and honestly – and respecting those boundaries and needs in others.

An awareness that there are behaviours and ways of thinking which are unacceptable and unhealthy in the everyday world which can be extremely hot and liberating in the kink/sexual world – when it is in a defined boundary and space. Things like consensual non-consent, sexism, role play scenarios can all be deliciously fun and even healing in some situations. It’s only when something imposes negative harm on another that it becomes a problem that you need to address and work through.

What services do you provide?

So many! Haha, my most popular ones would have to be shibari, forced-bi, feminisation, role play, CBT/Genitorture, electroplay, sexual training, and cuckolding.

Visiting my website Fields of Lillith which provides a comprehensive list of such.

I also am a full service escort, providing companionship and intimacies of all kinds from conversation, cuddles, massages to sex.

Where can people find you?

I mainly session through Temple 22, although I do work with other independent workers for doubles sessions like cuckolding, as well as outcalls. I do travel to QLD and VIC as well – in Melbourne I tend to session from Fetish House.

Is there any questions or information you would like to add?

Jaiden Lillith is also an event organiser and promoter for the Sanctuary BDSM club in Sydney, as well as the vocalist and co-writer for the Industrial Electronic band Z(Cluster)

Sexpert is our resident full time sex blogger. Having successfully owned and managed a number of blogs relating to women’s lifestyle, she easily blended into her role as chief blogger of the Adultsmart Blog. She is in a long term relationship with her boyfriend. She also runs Good Girl Guide, a sexual lifestyle blog.