How to have a MMF without including another Male

Fantasies can be tricky subjects especially with something like How to have a MMF when you have a long term partner who might not be as sexually inclined as what you would be. Sometimes if they are not as sexually experienced or sexually mature, your requests to try not so common things can come off as either an attack or something that might be ‘weird’ or ‘unusual’ to your partner. This tends to be a common theme when women ask their partners (most of the time they struggle to muster up the courage because they don’t want their partner to think that they want to cheat on him) to have a threesome that includes another male joining her and her male partner, making it a Male Male Female (MMF) threesome. This idea also plays on the sexual fantasy of Double Penetration which is a female being penetrated both vaginally and anally simultaneously. But how do you fulfil this fantasy when your partner doesn’t want to invite another male into the bedroom? There are a few things you can do to actually substitute the additional male out (although it won’t be the actual fantasy, this solution is a lot better than nothing at all). By substituting another person for multiple different positions and toys, you can actually have more fun for yourself and your partner. So here are a few steps you can take and/or do to get you close to fulfilling the fantasy without another man marching all up on your partner’s masculine territory.

COMMUNICATION

First things first, you have to communicate to your partner about your fantasy. This might be a tough conversation depending on who you choose to lay with. If you have experienced issues in the past when it comes to being open and communicating, then it might be best to really consider if this is the right person for you (Why do you want to be with someone who won’t even hear you out?). However, if you are with someone who is open to listening to you communicate then the first option would be to sit down and express to them what your fantasy is. It is super important in this conversation that you reassure him that it’s not about emotionally involving another man into the equation but rather the physical aspect. Explain that he is more than enough and that this has just always been a one off fantasy. By reassuring your partner that he is more than enough and he provides you with all the pleasure you need, this will heap him hopefully come to a decision to consider inviting another male into the bedroom. Also if he isn’t so comfortable with the idea and says he isn’t interested in doing it, he doesn’t walk away with a bitter taste in his mouth thinking that he isn’t good enough. In the case of the later option, this is where you can bring in a whole bunch of toys to substitute and fulfil.

As we all know, toys are a comrade for men rather than a competitor. They are designed to help increase pleasure for both partners and often help women reach climax. So what type of toys can you introduce to give you that MMF feeling? Well there are 2 different options that I would recommend.

DOUBLE PENETRATION

A double penetration dildo (Please see image for visual recognition). This toy is great for the exact same rhythm that the penis is doing when it comes to anal penetration. How it works is, it is held in place by 2 rings (One goes around the testicles and the other goes around the shaft of the penis). The dildo actually sits comfortably between the shaft of the penis and the testicles. It will move with your body when you thrust, giving the exact same motion of when you insert your penis. There are a vast amount of different positions you can use this toy with including the usual missionary, cowgirl and doggy. To really add pleasure to the experience, have a clitoral stimulator working the clitoris at the same time.

Suction cup dildo’s have always been an amazing addition to any single or couples toy collection. Reason being is that they are the closest toy that can simulate the real thing, especially when you’re using it on walls for doggy or on chairs for cow girl. How can you include it for your MMF experience? By using it on the glass you can either give the dildo oral whilst your partner pounds from behind, you can use the dildo anally whilst your partner is holding you up thrusting from the front vaginally. Switching up the different variants are very fun when it comes to involving both the dildo and your partner.

GANG BANG

These 2 options are fantastic if your partner does not want to include another Male. However, they can also be used if you’ve wanted to experience a multi-person gang bang also. Make sure to always look for ways to increase your pleasure. Have fun!

AJ is a consultant at the Oh Zone Adult Stores

How To Make Yourself Last Longer During Lockdown

last longer during lockdown

What do most men do in their spare time? Masturbate and everyone wants to take the opportunity to Last Longer During Lockdown. We all know as men, that if you have the house to yourself or we are sitting down for a profuse amount of time either procrastinating or doing nothing, our mind starts to wonder and we start to fantasize. We start to get horny which generally leads to us chasing a little dopamine hit by masturbating. However, over the course of our life, most men masturbate as quickly as they can so that they can 1. Get that sweet dopamine hit straight away and 2. Get it over and done with so no one awkwardly interrupts them (Either though the thrill of getting caught is pretty hot). Without even realising it, this simple act of trying to get it over and done with quickly, becomes a habit that can severely hinder how we perform in the bedroom. Ejaculating as soon as you get aroused becomes a habit, which becomes a problem.

 

A major theme that COVID has taught the majority of humanity is to slow down and to embrace the moment, to appreciate your downtown and to use your spare time to better yourself. So how can you use your spare time to improve your sex life and conquor your bad relationships with ejaculating pre maturally? It’s simple. These methods that I am going to provide you will help you without having to spend a single dollar. They will also give you a long term solution rather than just put a bandaid on it for now (The problem with the bandaid solutions as it makes you overthink, especially when you want to have spontaneous sex and the bandaid is no there). So here they are:

Masturbating

less but masturbating for longer periods: One of the most powerful things in this world is the power of self discipline. Being able to control your mind and body can lead you to do some great things and in this case.. Have some great sex! By cutting down the amount of times that you masturbate and picking and choosing when you do, this sends a signal to your mind that you are in charge of your urges. You will not be a slave to your sexual desires. This in itself will play a big role in your ability to control your climax and ejaculation. Why should you masturbate for longer periods of time? Well this all comes back to habit. By slowing down your mastubation process, edging yourself and playing with yourself for a solid 15-20 minutes at a time, for a minimum of 3 month period, will teach your body and your mind that in order to ejaculate; you will need prolonged stimulation. This one habit in itself will play a big role in helping you conquer quickness in the bedroom.

Mantak Chia’s method

Shower scrub method: Mantak Chia is one of the worlds best spiritual teachers especially when it comes to the area of masculine sexuality. In his interview with Brian Rose from London Real, he discusses that in order for men to last longer, we must give our penis constant stimulation to get ourselves used to the feeling. To really feel into our bodies. The best way he explains to do this is, whilst in the shower you have to pull your penis in a downward motion 50 times from the base to the tip of the shaft. Then upwards 50 times in the same motion. To the left 50 times and to the right 50 times. By doing this everyday for 3 months. This will begin to program the mind and the body to sustain continuous amounts of pleasure. The shower scrub method isn’t for the faint hearted. This method is great for men who are not circumcised. See your foreskin actually protects the penis head making it more sensitive. Those men who are circumcised are constantly having their penis head desensitized because it is rubbing up against the underwear all day long. The best way to desentize the penis head is whilst in the shower, get a body scrubber and slowly for 2-3 minutes twist it on the head of the penis. Do not do this hard however do it with enough pressure that you can feel it. By doing this everyday for 3 months you will notice a difference.

 

The pull out method

One of the oldest tricks in the book. The pull out method if you don’t want to do point 1 and 2, if applied right… will never fail you! So this method is used when you’re having intercourse or in the middle of foreplay. You’re getting too excited and heated, instead of ejaculating. You pull out. You bring all the attention back to your partner. Continuing to stimulate them. Continuing to arouse them. Whilst your body slowly calms back down. What this will also do is showcase that you are a generous lover and you aren’t just about your own pleasure. It shows that you can hold your urges and have enough self control to prolong your ejaculation.

 

Using affirmations

The power of affirmations have been promoted for years and all across the globe. Constantly telling yourself a thought will soon implant it into your subconscious and then showcase through your actions. A few great affirmations to say every single day to yourself will help you in the bedroom without even realising it:

  • I am able to always control my ejaculation

  • I am able to have amazing sex for long periods of time

  • I am surging with sexual energy and testosterone

  • I am amazing at pleasing my partner and giving them the pleasure they deserve

  • I am a sexually confident male

 

These 4 methods if applied and completed consistently will not only supercharge your confidence but they will prolong your ejaculation which ultimately will allow you to perform better in the bedroom and please your partner for longer periods of time. I think that is a win-win for both parties.

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A Beginners Guide to Cleaning and Caring for your Sex Toys

Part 2 – Sex Toy Cleaning Continued

Moving on to electronic toys, now there’s not going to be boiling of any kind with these toys for obvious reasons so generally the route you’ll want to go down for cleaning these toys is the ‘rinse then use a toy cleaner’ one as previously discussed. Although you have to be careful with the whole ‘putting an electronic underwater’ thing because you might end up voiding the warranty or maybe even electrocuting yourself (depending on what kind of toy you’re trying to clean). Just about all of your electronic toys will come with an IPX rating, this indicates the level of waterproofing the toy is equipped with the most popular IPX ratings for toys are as follows; IPX7 is completely submersible in water upto 1 metre deep for a maximum of 30 minutes, going down a level we have IPX6 which is protected against a high pressure water stream from any angle so similar to IPX7 you can very easily wash off after use. Next we have IPX4 which is splashproof, so again fine for rinsing off your toy but be sure to avoid the charging port, IPX0-3 have even less water protection than this and you should read the cleaning instructions very carefully before using the toy for the first time. Although it’s important to note that most toys with an IPX rating lower than IPX4 will have a removable portion that is non-electronic for easier cleaning. Overall, make sure to be following the manufacturers recommended cleaning for any electronic toy, especially those with an IPX rating lower than 6.

INSERTABLE

Now onto something a good bit more complex, masturbators (both electronic and not) will generally require a more intricate cleaning routine than your average vibe (insertable or not) due to both their design as well as the materials used to create that supple realistic skin texture.

Some masturbators are made of a silicone, these are generally electronic and don’t involve any type of sleeve or lifelike material, so you’re able to clean them in an identical manner to a regular vibe.

Any type of masturbator that is or has a very soft non-structured sleeve, such as any Fleshlight, will need to be cleaned very thoroughly to ensure bacteria doesn’t grow. After use, first flush the toy out with some water to remove the excess lube and ejaculate, then remove the sleeve from any casing and flip the sleeve inside out. After doing this, rinse with water once again to remove the remaining lube and ejaculate, once the only liquid on your toy is water, allow to dry (still flipped inside out) until only slightly damp. Next spray a toy cleaner, I recommend using one that is foaming to allow for it to more easily get within all the grooves of the materials texture. After the toy is covered in this wait for it to dry fully (it is essential you don’t start the next step on a toy with any moisture on it). Once completely dry sprinkle refresh powder over the toy (pro tip: these powders are generally 100% corn starch), make sure to cover all surfaces including the entrance then shake so all excess powder is removed, leaving only a thin layer. After this is all done, flip the sleeve back and situate it within its case (if it has one), and then put the unit away for storage.

MASTURBATION SLEEVE 

If the soft sleeve of the toy IS structured, like that of the Svakom Alex and Alex Neo, you won’t be able to flip it for cleaning but the tunnel of the sleeve will generally be a fair amount wider and shorter so cleaning remains fairly similar, minus the flipping obviously. You also have masturbators like those from Tenga, that instead of a removable sleeve you are able to just open for easy cleaning, with these follow the same original steps, minus the removal and flipping of the sleeve.

Now the truly difficult toys to clean are your bigger toys made primarily of a lifelike material such as TPE, a lot of these toys will be life size replicas of portions of the female or male body, such as the pubic or chest areas and you won’t be able to remove a sleeve at all, plus the tunnel and entrance will both be very narrow (stretching only during use) so cleaning these is very hard to get right and very easy to fuck up. As with all toys, washing these before using them is paramount to your intimate hygiene.

Madison is a consultant at the Oh Zone Adult Stores

A Beginners Guide to Cleaning and Caring for your Sex Toys Part 1

sex toy cleaning

Whether you’ve just purchased your first ever sex toy or your 100th, knowing how to care for these products is paramount to not only their longevity, but also your intimate health. Make sure to clean your toy thoroughly at least once before using it for the first time.

First and foremost, you’re going to need to determine the material of your toy, considering the large array of options when it comes to this, I’ll narrow it down a bit for you. Sex toys generally fall into one of two categories: soft or hard. By this I’m not referencing the flexibility of your toy, soft toys are generally made of; silicone, TPE, TPR, rubber or some type of hybrid material such as silaskin or super-skin, all of which are flexible on their own but many act as a barrier between you and the motor/internal hardware of the toy. While, in contrast, hard toys are made of materials such as; glass, ceramic, wood, steel (stainless or surgical) or a hard plastic such as ABS, hard toys are a lot less likely to absorb any bacteria and are generally easier to clean, most soft toys will also have a handle made of a hard plastic for increased usability, such as Fun Factory’s entire range.

There are also several other aspects to consider when it comes to cleaning and caring for your sex toys, are they electronic in any way? If yes, are they battery powered, rechargeable or plug in? What’s the intended purpose of your toy? Is it made specifically for anal use? Or perhaps it’s not meant to be inserted at all. Overall, there are a multitude of defining factors that influence what we can and cannot do with our toys, especially when it comes to something as rudimentary as cleaning and storing.

Cleaning

First things first, PLEASE DON’T PUT YOUR TOYS IN THE DISHWASHER, I understand why you’d think that to be a good idea but not only is that where you wash dishes, cutlery and other food related items, it will actually melt or severely compromise the structural integrity of most toys.

Now that we’ve gotten that out of the way let’s begin with non-electronic toys, these products can be made from any soft or hard material, or a combination of both, the main defining factor is of course that they have no electronic or mechanical components. It’s important to note that most poseable and thermoreactive toys will fall into this category. Let’s start with the easiest materials to maintain; steel, ceramic and glass, these toys are both hypoallergenic and non-porous so bacteria is completely unable to penetrate the toy on any level. Because of their extremely high melting point, you’re able to boil toys made solely of this material to completely remove any bacteria, but if you’d prefer to keep your toys out of the kitchen you can also use an antibacterial toy cleaning spray or foaming wash, but make sure to rinse off your toy completely before using these. They are designed to sanitise your toys as well as be both toy and body safe, I cannot emphasize enough that you shouldn’t be using any type of household cleaner on your toys, so please be sure to pick up a toy cleaner and not use Dettol wipes or any type of spray ‘n’ wipe.

After the aforementioned toys, silicone is the most hygienic, and a medical grade silicone is the golden standard when it comes to soft toys. Any toy made of 100% medical grade silicone that is non-electronic, can also be boiled for up to 2 minutes (similar to a menstrual cup), although you’ll find that many lower quality toys will say they’re made out of silicone, be sure to check it’s 100% silicone before purchasing and medical grade before boiling. For lower grade silicone, toys made of a hard plastic and any other soft material toy DO NOT BOIL, the best way to clean these toys is by using an antibacterial toy cleaner (either spray or foaming), after rinsing. Surprisingly enough wooden toys aren’t in a whole different ball park when it comes to cleaning, these products are generally handcrafted and given a medical grade polymer coating or some type of other varnish to ensure the wood won’t absorb any moisture or bacteria. And because of this coating, we can clean them the same way we clean our hard plastic toys.

Part Two Sex toy Cleaning

Madison is a consultant at the Oh Zone Adult Stores.

Condoms for all – Care and storage

condom storage

It is a big and equal responsibility for each of us to do our bit for safe sex these days. Condoms are an easy and relatively safe option for safe sexual practices in this day and age and have been for quite some time.

If using a condom to absolute perfection, a condom can be 98% accurate in protecting against pregnancy and STIs. That’s if you use them to absolute perfection. Catering for human error lets say the margin is more likely 85%. To achieve absolute perfection you need to do the following;

  • Put the condom on the right way (and if you put it on the wrong way – throw it out and start again)

  • Put the condom on before any foreplay

  • If using extra lubricant don’t use any oil based lubricants as it may cause the condoms to break.

  • Pinch the tip before rolling down the shaft

  • Roll all the way to the base

  • Wait until you have removed the shaft from the body to roll the condom carefully off the penis, keeping the semen inside.

  • If possible, tie the condom before throwing it away.

 

As stated above, everyone can carry condoms, in fact it is highly recommended. The best prevention is preparation and you should never expect a date to be packing; bring your own. This is also good advice in case you have any sensitivities or preferences in condoms.

 

But where to keep them?

 

Most of us immediately think of the movies, or the books or even our own experiences of having a trusty condom stashed in a pocket of our wallet for emergencies or on the go – This is in fact a grave error.

 

Condoms should be kept out in cool dry areas and there is nothing cool about the pockets where wallets are kept. Pockets of clothes, right next to the body conduct a lot of heat, add a mobile to the mix and we are cooking. This heat damages the structural integrity of a condom which in itself will leave it vulnerable to breaking.

 

What else is dangerous about wallets and pockets? Keys, sharp things, pens anything and everything that could poke, prod and dent into your wallet and therefore your condom. Seems like a pretty big risk to put on accidentally leaving a potential hole in a condom that you might be using.

 

Also when was the last time you checked the condom in your wallet? One of the biggest oversights with condoms is that they expire. They do last a long time, but you still need to check the use by date. That use by date is also greatly affected by where they are kept, are they kept in the sun? Somewhere hot? Dry? Always check your dates periodically to ensure that you are getting the best use out of your condoms and staying the safest you can be. If you’ve moved house several times and they aren’t stored correctly you might want to rethink that emergency few that you own

 

So where can you keep them?

 

Glasses Case:

A great alternative to your wallet, throw them in your car, your bag, whether it be your reading, your sunglasses any old case will do.

 

A cigarette case:

Go into a smokemart and buy a steel case for cigarettes. This will perfectly hold a couple of condoms, perfect for those emergencies, they’re sleek and slim, so they will fit into your pants or your clutch while keeping those little shields cool enough and making sure that they don’t get poked or damaged en route to wherever the night leads you.

 

A deck of cards:

A particular favourite of mine. Super elusive, ever seen a friend with a deck of cards in their bag that says they play solitaire by themselves or they’re missing a few cards or say they can’t really play group games in their work bag or uni bag? Chances are they may have removed some of the deck so that they can fit a few condoms in their well concealed deck of many things. Under stated and very clever.

 

Container:

Not necessarily the classiest but sometimes the most practical. Tupperware and small plastic containers can be beautiful and fancy little ways to store the odd condom in bags, handbags or cars on the go.

 

At home, keep them boxed in your underwear drawer, in the bathroom, in the bedside drawer but ensure that you check the dates often and don’t use them past the expiration date. And whatever you do, don’t try putting them in the fridge or the freezer for a cooling effect, we have Lubes for that. By putting them in the freezer, you will dry out the condom which again opens you up to the risk of it breaking it.

 

My pick is definitely the Skyn condom range: the non latex range means that anyone can use them without irritation, and without worrying that someone will say I can’t use a condom because I have a latex allergy- Done solved here I have a non latex one I prepared earlier!

 

Another huge pointer is check in with the nominal width of the condom when buying. Brands and varieties differ. The nominal width can make a difference in desensitizing and the feel, finding the right nominal width will have a big impact on how comfortable the experience is for the wearer. But remember-not too loose, you need it to stay on after all.

 

At your Service

Tiffany

Oh Zone Sales Assistant, Sexual health Advocate and Carrier of Condoms.