Ask Oz August 2022 – thanks for all the support so far. We’ve had loads of questions, so thanks so much.
Ask Oz August 2022
Q. When do I know if I am ready to have sex for the first time?
A. Deciding to have sex for the first time can be a big decision, and it’s completely normal to have questions and concerns about it.
So, how do you know if you’re ready to take that step?
Let’s dive into some important factors to consider.
Age is just a number
There is no “right” age to have sex for the first time. Make sure that you’re emotionally and mentally ready for such an intimate experience.
Reflect on Your Feelings
What are the motivations for wanting to have sex. Make sure that you’re not feeling pressured by your partner or anyone else. And that you’re making the decision for yourself.
Once you’ve decided that you’re ready, it’s crucial to take precautions to protect yourself from sexually transmitted infections (STIs) and unwanted pregnancy. Talk to your partner about using condoms or other forms of birth control. Both get tested for STIs before engaging in sexual activity with a new partner.
Do you feel comfortable and safe with your partner?
It doesn’t necessarily have to be the “perfect” partner. But it’s important that you trust them and feel respected by them. If you’re feeling uneasy or unsure about your partner, it may be a sign that you’re not quite ready for sex.
Having sex for the first time can be a big step. It’s important to make sure that you’re making the decision for yourself and taking necessary precautions.
Don’t rush into anything and take the time to make an informed decision that feels right for you.
Hey Oz: My partner is a bit of a prude and lately I have been feeling that I want to broaden my horizons sexually. How do I talk to him about expanding our sexual horizons?
A. First and foremost, discussing sexual desires can be a sensitive topic for many couples. Open communication is key to maintaining a healthy and fulfilling relationship.
If you’re feeling the urge to broaden your sexual horizons, approach the conversation with your husband in a sensitive and non-judgmental manner. Start by setting aside some dedicated time to have an open and honest conversation.
Be Comfortable and Relaxed
Make sure that both you and your husband are in a comfortable and relaxed state of mind.
You may want to start by acknowledging the love and commitment you have for each other. How important it is to maintain a strong emotional connection.
Once you’ve established a positive tone for the conversation. You can gently introduce the idea of exploring new sexual experiences together. Be sure to emphasize that this is not about dissatisfaction with your current sex life.
Rather as an opportunity to expand your intimacy and explore new aspects of your relationship.
Be respectful of your partner’s boundaries and comfort level.
If your husband is hesitant about trying new things, try starting small with simple changes or sexual fantasies that you can explore together.
Consider seeking out resources such as books or workshops that can help guide you through the process of exploring new sexual experiences.
Approach the conversation with sensitivity, respect, and an open mind. You and your husband can work together to explore new sexual horizons and deepen your emotional connection.
Have a read of last months blog if you missed it: Ask Oz July 2022
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