3 Things People Fear About Anal Sex

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There’s a lot of fear when it comes to anal play and yet, there’s still much curiosity about it. I was reminded of this idea when a young straight lad came into one of the stores this evening and asked a few questions regarding anal – despite the fear there’s still an abundance of curiosity regarding this type of play. More so, as we slowly move beyond the idea that sex is purely for reproduction and instead focus on the more sex positive attitude that sex is for pleasure as well.  This article is about breaking down the fear of anal play and we will do that by first acknowledging those fears, stripping them back and then talking about the ways to engage in anal play in a safe and comfortable way.

Anal Sex’s Ick Factor

There’s the whole shit on the dick thing. We’ve all heard the story about that one time when so and so’s friend had that awful experience when it came to that one night. This fear is fairly common, and it stems from our upbringing. The studies have shown that when a small impressionable child starts curiously playing with their genitals, and they’re told that that’s a dirty thing to do – then obviously they associate that feeling with their genitals. Some people grow out of it, some do not, and as a result whether we acknowledge it or not, our relationship with sex, sexuality and our bodies stems largely from our upbringing and the way those around us deal with issues of sex.  Our relationship with anal is largely because many individuals associate it with part of the human waste system. It’s an out not an in, is a common phrase which reinforces this idea. Let’s debunk this. Unless the body is just about to pass waste, or has recently done so – then there is actually very little chance of the dreaded shit on the dick factor. The anal cavity actually has a very thorough self-cleaning system which works really well. Yes, there are some risks if you’re playing rough, or you’re dealing with long toys or dicks, but in general the risk is actually quite small. The more you know!

Anal Sex’s Gay Factor

Butt sex, ass play, has long been considered the domain of gay men. There are countless ‘help me’ articles in magazines from concerned girlfriends who are worried that they’re beautiful boy is suddenly about to turn into a drag queen because he likes a bit of finger action. I’m not too sure where this one started, but anal play is not the domain of gay men. What might even surprise you, is that there are a lot of gay men in the world that don’t enjoy anal sex.  In an article by the Journal of sexual health and medicine, a study involving 25,000 gay and bisexual identifying men, stated that over 75% of participants responded with that their most recent sexual encounter involved the receiving or giving of oral sex. Contrast that with 36% of participants responding with their most recent sexual encounter involving anal play. In fact, mutual masturbation, kissing, genital and genital contact is a far more frequent occurrence among gay men.This is actually an issue which is fading over time. As people are becoming more in tune with their bodies, more comfortable in their sexuality and their openness about sex and sexuality – the stigma about anal play is slowly being broken down. Considering that prostate play is some of the most intense orgasmic experiences that a male can feel and massaging the prostate has benefits – then there’s a lot of people missing out on great sex because they think it’s a bit gay. The thing is, that anal play is not synonymous with a sexuality.

Anal Sex’s Ouch Factor

Anal sex can hurt. In saying that, there’s usually a few very select reasons as to why it hurts. One of the main reasons as to why it hurts, is because you think it’s going to hurt.  Consider the first time that you had sex, the awkwardness of it, the way it hurt a little and the way that it might have been over in just a few minutes. Very few first times are awesome, and what happens is they might have a bad experience which tarnishes any future experiences towards anal play. What we generally find, especially with younger partners, is they might rush through anal play for the first time, and this in turn can cause discomfort. Anal sex is not like other variation of penetrative sex. It requires patience, lubricant, and a recognition that the body might take time to adjust. There’s a myriad of different factors that need to be considered, but the main one that’s often ignored – is the fear. The anxiety. Which in turn affects the body’s ability to relax and you’ll tense up and it will hurt.

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Tips for Anal Sex

Anal sex is not necessary. You’re not obligated to add it to your sexual to do list, and quite frankly, the best way to have anal sex is to want it. When you want it, when you’re curious, when you’re relaxed and able to enjoy it is the best time to have anal sex. And, if I’m being honest, when you’re horny as all hell.  This combination of things is going to make anal play so much easier.  Once you’re used to it, you’ll find it much easier to add to your routine.

Patience. Patience is necessary when it comes to anal play. The muscles are involuntary, therefore it will take time for them to adjust to having something there which is not normally so. Lubricate some, put more lubricant on, and breathe.

If you’re really worried about some mess, then you can use a douche to help prepare. But one following the instructions on a douche you will need to wait about an hour before having sex. Also, don’t use that one hour to travel to your playmates house as the water needs to dry up and could end up on your favourite underwear. Douche, wait half an hour, and then start moving.

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Author: Stephen Smith – BA Of Social Sciences, M.EdSave

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Anal Sex Guide

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I recently had a customer come into one of the Oh Zone Adult Lifestyle Centres asking for a good lubricant for anal play. She described feeling “excruciating pain” when attempting to have penetrative anal sex with her partner and was looking for a product so they could do so successfully. Although products exist that reduce sensitivity around your butt, they are not magic cures to make excruciating anal sex feel good. My heart broke a little when I heard her experience as I could relate to her painful attempts to try anal sex and have it become a traumatising event. My early efforts at anal sex were met with the worst pain I’d ever experienced followed by days of discomfort! I feel fortunate to now know that this certainly doesn’t need to be the case!!  I am so excited to share some wisdom I’ve encountered along the way so that your anal experiences can be memorable in the best possible way. I speak from a woman’s point of view however the majority of these tips are appropriate for people of any gender and sexual identity seeking to dive deeper into anal play.

  • Relax and breathe: This is so important. Stress and tension can prevent anal sex from being the incredible experience it is capable of being therefore ensuring you begin with a relaxed and excited head space free of expectations is key. Sex doesn’t need be taken so seriously, make sure you have fun with it!!
  • Anal training and foreplay: Prior to jumping straight into full blown anal penetration, I highly recommend putting time into anal training and foreplay. Rimming and fingering are some great ways to get warmed up to anal sex and having some quality butt toys can make the experience really exciting. The Oh Zone Adult Lifestyle Centres and Adultsmart have some amazing products perfect for getting your butt prepared for anal sex. Like the Fun Factory Bootie Set which includes 3 different sized butt plugs made from body safe silicone. These are great at gradually expanding your bottoms capacity, making anal sex possible, better and pleasurable.
  • What if he pulls his penis out and it’s dirty? Maybe this is too much information but I can tell you I’ve heard this fear voiced so many times by anal curious customers, so much so that I have come up with 2 answers to automatically rattle off.  #1 If someone wants to have sex with your butt, then this is a possibility they must be ok with. #2 Douche!! Cleaning your bottom out before partaking in bootie action will eradicate a lot of this fear however if you or your partner are far from ok with the possibility of mess then this will result in anxiety and tension (Remember the 1st point…not good!). This brings me to my next point…
  • A supportive partner: Whoever you choose to enjoy anal sex with, it is vital that there is a clear line of communication between you both. Being able to voice any discomforts, fears or worries before, during and after anal sex (and any sexual act for that matter) is key to an enjoyable, fulfilling and pleasurable experience. Anal sex can make you feel extremely vulnerable, often bringing up intense feelings and emotions which is why mutual trust and respect is vital.

 

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Image: Pjur Back Door Relaxing Silicone Anal Glide

 

  • Be prepared! A good quality lubricant is really important to ensure comfortable anal penetration. Pjur Back Door Relaxing Silicone Anal Glide is a popular choice, with silicone lubricants my favourites. Unlike water based lubricants that usually feel sticky, your body doesn’t absorb silicone meaning constant reapplication is not necessary. That means less fumbling around for you both and more emphasis put on making the experience enjoyable. Intimate Earth Anal Relaxing Serum is a product I would recommend to people if they need something to relax their bottoms. It includes natural ingredients and doesn’t have a numbing effect like other products on the market. I also recommend keeping a couple of towels handy just in case. Enough said.

 

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Image: Intimate Earth Anal Relaxing Serum

 

  • Clitoral stimulation: Clitoral stimulation can be a really great way of relaxing your body whilst having anal sex. It also means greater pleasure as having your butt stimulated amplifies your orgasms to astronomical heights. A sex toy in your vagina can also be extremely gratifying but it does mean that it’s going to feel a lot tighter which could potentially be uncomfortable. I recommend having a few toys handy in case the desire arises to mix it up.
  • Get to know your own butt through self-exploration: I am a huge advocate of women and men getting to know their own bodies before being intimate with another. It can be a really empowering thing to know what your body’s capabilities are so that the road to reaching greater experiences with another can be shown.
  • Anal sex is pleasurable: Last but most certainly not least, anal sex is a pleasurable experience, not a painful one!! I can’t stress this point enough as I have spoken with countless women who believe that to have anal sex means to feel pain. Pain is your body’s way of protecting you from harm and when these messages are ignored then the repercussions can be horrible. Anal fissures & tears, bleeding, difficulties when going to the toilet, and unnecessary discomfort are just some of the issues that can occur from ignoring your body’s pain signals. During anal play, there may be a tightness or fullness experienced in your bottom which is perfectly normal however if pain is felt and is not going away, then take some time to slow it down or stop all together. Your body will thank you for it.

The staff in the Oh Zone Adult Lifestyle Centres specialise in all things sex and pleasure so if reading this has you excited to try anal sex, come in and speak to staff about some of the products and sex toys that will make your experience as enjoyable as it should be.

Author: Stephanie Curtis- BA NursingSave

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Beginner Anal Play Products

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I have recently had many customers wanting to try anal play for the first time in their lives. Those were mostly straight guys coming into the store with their wives/girlfriends and they were a bit intimidated by the size and variety of anal toys. If they had known about the orgasms by prostate stimulation, they would have regretted that they were being too late for anal play. Better late than never though.

Firstly, if you are sure that you want to experience your first anal play with a vibrating toy this article will not be an answer to your questions. I am planning to talk about three different Anal Play Kits which are non-vibrating from 3 different well-known companies on the market. Of course, we have a wide range of vibrating butt plugs in the shop as well, so either stay tuned for the next articles or come into the store to get informed by our lovely team. The latter is more favourable though. I am not going to tell you how to use the toys, yet I must say that the most important things in anal play are to be slow, get aroused madly and use plenty of lubricant. Otherwise, you won’t enjoy the feeling and will end up having a frustrating experience. We don’t want it to be happening to you. So, if we are happy with those rules, let’s move into today’s staff recommendations on anal play.

1. Beginner’s Fantasy Kit Anal Fantasy Collection by Pipedream
This kit is comprised of 5 different anal toys and 2 auxiliary products. The material used in the toys is a mixture of PVC, ABS Plastic and Nylon. At first glance, this may seem as a drawback, yet the toys are completely phthalate free, body safe and you are free to use any kind of lubricant with them. The distinctive feature of this kit is its variety of the products inside the package anyway. So, let’s have a closer look at them.
  • Classix Prostate Stimulator: This toy is to hit your P-spot very well with its curved bulbous shaped tip and textured shaft. It has 11.4 cm insertable length with 3.8 cm width and a little protrusion aiming for your perineum at the same time. There is a handle at the bottom for easy grip which will be pretty useful for new starters. The toy itself is very firm and not bendable at all which makes the insertion easy.
  • Beads: There are 5 beads having a diameter of 2 cm which are connected to each other with a cord and there is a ring at the end to pull the beads out easily. The cord seems pretty strong so don’t worry about the possibility of rupture.
  • Beaded Probe: Beads are a bit bigger than the previous one (a diameter of 2.5 cm in average) and it is a complete probe this time. It has 10 beads (28 cm) which are in decreasing order in diameter. The beads are firm but the probe itself is bendable enough to find the correct spot to hit.
  • Finger Sleeve: This sleeve is 7.6 cm in length and 2.5 cm in width which will fit either your index or middle finger, at least fits mine perfectly. It has nubs on it, so fingering yourself has not been joyful this much before.
  • Plug: This little plug would be my first choice to try if I bought this kit. It is 9.5 cm in length and 2.5 cm in width. The material is not that firm and the toy itself is bendable enough. Additionally, flared base at the bottom prevents the toy from going further in your rectum.
The kit comes with 2 gloves, toy cleaner, anal desensitizing cream, lubricant and 2 rubber finger sleeves which are almost everything you need to have a happy ending.
2. Anal Trainer Kit Colt Gear by California Exotic Novelties
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Sex Toys: Anal Trainer Kit Colt Gear by California Exotic Novelties
Most parents buy their children shoes or jackets one size bigger to use them in the following year as well till their kids stop growing. This kit reminds me of that due to its gradually increasing size of plugs. The kit includes 3 different butt plugs which are made of rubber but no latex and phthalate free. Each of them has flared base to use them without any hesitation about losing toys inside rectum. The smallest one is 10.25 cm in length and 2.5 cm at its widest point, which is simply the very bottom of the toy. The medium butt plug is 12 cm long with a diameter of 3.25 cm at the widest point again. These two plugs are suitable for new starters for sure as the tapered tip with thin insertion is not intimidating at all for a newbie. On the other hand, whilst the material is firm, the toy itself is bendable enough especially compared to the toys from Anal Fantasy Kit. When it comes to the third one; apparently, this is not for a beginner. The largest butt plug has 15.25 cm insertable length with a diameter of 4.5 cm so I would rather say this plug is perfect for the ones who enjoyed the course Introduction to Anal Play 101 and want to attend the course Anal Play for Intermediates 102 in the second semester for further insertions. The professor at university is the same and the exams will be held anally again. So, there is no reason not to get A+ climax in the following course as well.

2. Anal Explorer Kit by California Exotic Novelties

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Sex Toy: Anal Explorer Kit by California Exotic Novelties
There are two things making this kit different from its counterparts which are the material selection and the douche included in the kit. I think putting a douche into an anal play kit is a good idea in terms of beginners who are afraid of uncleanliness of the area. Shortly, a douche is used to clean your rectum before anal penetration and there are many types of douches on the market for the convenience of the users. The one in the kit is the simplest douche though which is a squeezable bulb and its thin attachment for comfy insertion. Simply, fill it with warm water (not too cold, not too hot) inset the tip into your anus gently after lube it up. Squeeze the bulb so that the water can go into your rectum, hold it for 20-30 seconds then release it into the toilet. Repeat the procedure till the fresh water comes out. For further information, you can refer to other articles on our blog pertinent to this topic.
On the other hand, there are two different butt plugs in the kit which are made of silicone body safe material. One of them is a graduated beads probe with a hook at the bottom which allows you to grip the toy easily and prevents the toy from going further in your rectum. It is 11.5 cm in length and its curved shape aims to hit P-spot perfectly. The other one is a tapered probe with suction cup at the bottom. It has 10.75 cm insertable length and its flared base makes your penetration safe. Both are suitable for beginners to take them to the next step.

After all these things, I should say that I would buy number three if I was a beginner but I am not, and every person is different, so is every arse. Make your own choice freely because you can’t go wrong with any of those products above for sure.

By Goki a consultant from Oh Zone Adult Lifestyle Centres

The A – Z About The Aneros Peridise

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Today I set out with the intention to review an Aneros product which came with prostate stimulation. But I came across the Aneros Peridise which is a unisex anal stimulator. Although it is a sex toy that can be used for prostate play, they’re actually used for something called a peristaltic orgasm.

“Peristatic orgasm is a radially symmetrical contraction and relaxation of muscles that propagates in a wave down a tube, in an anterograde direction.”

I think there is a lot of negative reviews of the Aneros Peridise because people are using these like any other anal sex toy. To achieve a peristaltic orgasm you use your pubococcygeus muscle commonly known as the PC muscles. The pubococcygeus muscle hangs like a hammock between the pubic bone and the tailbone (coccyx) and it has the same common benefits for men as it does women such as better bladder control and stronger contractions during orgasm which in turn makes orgasms stronger, last longer, reduce hemorrhoids, help tone your pelvic region and help delay premature ejaculation. The main function of the Aneros Peridise is that it induces a peristaltic response. A peristaltic response is the same response your body induces when you swallow food and it travels down the digestive tract by self-propelling muscles in this instance your body is trying to evacuate the Aneros Peridise.

Your PC muscles will slightly pull them in and take grasp of the Aneros Peridise. Your anus muscles will involuntarily start to tense and relax repetitively basically massaging the nerve endings inside of you. As your PC muscles are trying to grasp this object and move it along inside of you they end up becoming sexually frustrated causing your body to have Peristaltic Orgasms and Contractions which leads to your full body feeling stimulation which can be enjoyed by any gender.

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The Aneros Peridise is made in America from a medical grade plastic called Acetal which is said to be indestructible under normal circumstances. It is a type of rigid plastic with no flexibility in them at all. Also unlike most other sex toys, you start off with the larger anal sex toy which is the 22mm one and then your work your way to the smaller advanced anal sex toy which is 16mm. They are very skinny on the neck and body with only two much smaller knobs just after the head and just before the wider base.  The device has a hand polished matte finish which gives it the softness of velvet.

Advantages of using the Aneros Peridise

  • It can be worn by all people who enjoy anal stimulation not just those with prostates.
  • Can be used as all day plug! some bloggers even claim to sleep whilst wearing theirs!
  • Comes in 2 or 4 packs so both parties can enjoy wearing Aneros Peridise together during sex or foreplay.
  • for solo or partnered play.
  • Its an exercise regime for the PC muscle with the ability to be used in a graduate program.
  • Made from body safe materials.
  • Provides unique sensations that other toys do not.
  • Increased blood flow to the anus area reducing the likelihood of haemorrhoids.
  • PC muscle strength for everyone!
  • These are completely battery, vibration free and rely purely on your own body.

There are a tonne more things to touch on about the Aneros Peridise but it is a device that takes patience and practise to achieve the results Aneros Peridise has promised but like any exercise regime that is expected, you don’t get a six pack overnight! I’d give this 9/10 honestly due to its functions, I sincerely regret that I have never used this product before and perhaps once I do it will gain the 10th point. To be fair I haven’t fully grasped the peristaltic response concept and I’ve literally been researching for the better part of today, I’ve just read its apparently super amazing yay butts! I also hate researching stuff like this because I now have a wealth of knowledge about the anus anatomy like the hairs in there are white and the skin in our butts needs to be kept moist as they are non keratinized which is why we need lube when doing butt stuff not just to reduce pain or discomfort but because we can cause damage to our delicate internal skin which has special secretions to keep it moist and the insertion of objects removes these secretions.

Authors: Nick and Amy are consultants from Oh Zone Adult Lifestyle Centres

It’s All About The Sport Fucker Jock Lock

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The Jock Lock is a silicone cock ring and an anal sex toy made by the adult company from Los Angeles called Sport Fucker. Sport Fucker company motto is “If sex is your sport, we got the gear”. Their sex toys have been made with a specific purpose with a very masculine feel. Sport Fucker takes regular sex toys and enhances it to a whole new level of sexual pleasure which helps people to broaden their horizons to explore new things. The Sports Fucker Jock Lock takes a regular cock ring and attaches a prostate ball stimulator or anal plug on the end. The cock ring will help to keep the blood flow within the penis, making the penis harder, stronger and last longer so your lover will feel the joy of your erect penis to it’s fullest. Then there is the Sport Fucker Jock Lock prostate stimulator which is designed to reward you with every thrust as the small 45mm round ball rubs against the prostate. You will also be able to feel the vibrations when you penetrate with your penis. You will need to prepare yourself for stimulation overload. The Sport Fucker Jock Lock comes in three colours including blue, green and black.

Unlike the steel version of Sport Fucker Jock Lock, the silicone version will match any body shape and usually hide discreetly between the legs, whereas the steel version is hard and will not bend for individual body shape. The silicone material also means that this product will be easily cleaned and sterilised. Sport Fucker Jock Lock is perfect for boys that want to fuck and receive hands-free anal stimulation, without having the need to lay down or interrupt the rhythm. This moves with you, it plays with you and it is discreet. Just be aware that the cock ring is a 50mm silicone cock ring, so it’s not overly tight and nor should it be overly loose. Very much like the Goldilocks of cock rings, however, be aware that if you use the tighter fit condoms, that this may be a little too loose for you.

Sex Toy: Sport Fucker Jock Lock

 

It is important to mention that anal stimulation does not indicate your sexuality. To reduce homosexuality to the pleasurable experience of anal play is pointless and limiting to people. There are indeed, a lot of gay men that do not like anal play or stimulation and are exclusive tops. Exclusive tops mean they only enjoy penetrating their penis into someone. Furthermore, there are a lot of heterosexual men that like to be fucked by their missus with strapless dildos and harnessed dildos. If a heterosexual man liked anal penetration this is not an indication of homosexuality. Instead, anal play can be about power, control, and sexual pleasure.

The prostate is the most intense part of the male sexual pleasure erogenous zone, and this can be seen with each thrust. Nearly every guy thrusts, or ejaculates, with his dick first. This slight bending of the body places pressure on the prostate, thereby stimulating it every time you have sex. You can also stimulate the prostate from externally by placing your finger on the perineum which is situated between the anus and the penis which I find a lot of straight couples do to increase the level of a man’s orgasm

Still think anal play makes you gay, despite you unconsciously playing with your ass every time you fuck? For many years, the taboo nature of anal play is slowly receding and it is becoming more ‘accepted’ in all forms and types of sexual play. Yes, it requires an open mind to participate and experiment with. Yes, it requires sexual liberation and a comfort with your sexual identity. But for those that engage in it, it opens up new worlds and the majority of the Store in terms of what boys can use for play. Whilst a lot of men center their sexual experience around the cock, you can increase your sexual experience by stimulating the ass at the same time, Sport Fucker Jock Lock is a perfect example of this.

 

By Stephen Smith a consultant from Oh Zone Adult Lifestyle Centres and also a youth counsellor.