VIP Interview With Empress Mika Dominatrix!

Dom Mika

Adultsmart community lifestyle blog is proud to have Mika a world famous dominatrix with us for a VIP interview today.  She is a half Korean/American FemDom that we are lucky enough to have explain the in’s and out’s of being a dominatrix.

 

​​I have to ask the obvious question – how did FemDom start for you? 

​That is usually a good starting place, haha. I actually got started in this industry as a non-nude, tease cam model.​ It was here that My natural personality and tease-y cam style attracted a lot of submissive men who then told Me about FemDom and what it was. I knew it was perfect for Me and got started immediately and never looked back.

​​You’re proudly half-Korean. Does your cultural background influence the work that you do, and how do you go about bringing awareness and acceptance of your culture?

​I am, yes. Fortunately, as a clip producer and cam model, I have a large audience with which to spread awareness and proper education. However, ​unfortunately, there are many negative stereotypes that surround Asian culture especially within a fetish environment​ that I do stand up against.​​​​

First and foremost, I do have to clarify that I am, in fact, a Dominant Woman for real and not just “acting” like one. I am not sure if this comes from the stereotype that most Asian women are submissive or if this is something Dommes of all backgrounds deal with, but it is a very common question for Me.

I also use My content to combat negative stereotypes. For example, I have several Coersed Bi clips that feature Asian males with large dick sizes. This shows My subs that there are plenty of Asian males with great dick sizes that are even bigger than them! This point, especially, is very fun to tap into.

​Additionally, one fetish, in particular, I refuse to engage in is Racial Humiliation. ​I truly believe that by not participating in this fetish, can help contribute to these negative stereotypes going away (or, at the very least, not keeping them alive) – not just for Asian culture but for all cultures.

I do have a Twitter thread for fun, to feature Korean-pop songs I enjoy entitled, “Playlist of an Empress”. Although not insanely popular, it is something I have fun updating from time to time to share this aspect of My culture. You can check it out here:

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Twitter Account Mika

​​I absolutely love how you mention elements of consent and negotiation on your FAQ, you acknowledge that it’s important to find exactly what works for the relationship between you and your sub. What kind of things erode that relationship, and how do you go about handling that?

​Yes, absolutely. I think the #1 erosion to a Domme/sub relationship, at least in My experience, is when a submissive comes to the Domme only interested in serving his own fetishes as oppose to actually wanting to serve.

The other common misconception that I find erodes a relationship are those subs that ask Me what it is really like to be My slave, implying that there is a one-size-fits-all. And, there’s not. The relationship I have with each one of My slaves is unique and certainly not an over night process.

For these reasons, in order to handle these issues, I did create a slave school that acts as online slave training for those interested in being My slave. It can be found at SayYestoEmpress.com

​​Reading through various interviews – the word authenticity and honesty keep coming up. You also mention how it comes naturally to you and that you enjoy it. Do you feel that it’s these qualities that make you respected and successful in what you do, and what other qualities are important in this? 

Haha, I suppose that’s true. I think, in this industry, most of the Dommes really create distance and separation between themselves and their subs. I certainly understand this, as there are truly some bad apples out there.

​However, I agree that one thing that makes Me stand out is that I do offer a genuine, honest, real and authentic relationship to those submissives that want to take their submission beyond simply a fantasy via being My slave.

I don’t necessary think My way is better than others, of course. Each Woman and Domme is unique with Her own style and She should do what works best for Her and Her well being and enjoyment. This could be different for each Domme so it’s tough to pin-point a magical formula that guarantees success for every Domme. If I had to try to put a magic formula into words though, it would be for each Domme to just do what is fun for Her.

​​You mention the distinction between ​Domming for fun and pleasure as opposed to sexual enjoyment. How do you negotiate that within yourself and balance what you find pleasurable/arousing to the work that you do? Are they two completely separate things?

For Me, they are totally separate. I am not turned on at all by submissive men nor with any of the Domination that I do. Rather, My Domination and what submissive men do for Me I find very fun, amusing and entertaining.

As well, I enjoy the sexual separation. I think it ensures I remain completely in control of My subs 100% of the time.

​​What’s one of the misconceptions about FemDomme that you’d like people to be aware of?

One misconception that I personally struggle with is that many submissives view Dommes as some kind of bad, evil person. I hear over and over how bad some of their experiences are interacting with Dommes (and vice versa, really) have furthered this belief. This gets further complicated with those submissives that have fetishes they feel they’d rather not have in the first place.

S​o, I suppose I’d like people to be aware that not all Dommes are horrible just like not all subs are horrible. You are responsible for your own interactions. In other words, your experience with FemDom can completely change depending on who you serve and interact with.

​​What’s a moment in your FemDomme career that has really shaped and influenced who you are, and how you do it?

​It was the moment I changed My name from “Princess” to “Empress”. This was a direct reflection of My evolution as a Domme, from someone new to FemDom, to who I am today in FemDom.

​This was sparked by the close relationships I had developed with My slaves. Their relationship really inspired and encouraged Me to simply be Myself fully as oppose to trying to figure out what other subs would like or buy. It made a huge impact on Me, My FemDom style and success.

​​What’s one mistake/learning experience that you keep with you?

I once created a custom FemDom clip that I wasn’t too thrilled about… but I agreed to it because I had never tried it before and it paid well. I also put this clip up for re-sale in My clip store but I told Myself that I wouldn’t do anything like this again. Sure enough, it wasn’t something I enjoyed.

​A few months later, I was on interacting with a trial slave that I just felt really strange about and, for Me, there was a clear disconnect. Somewhere in the conversation, I had asked him what his favorite clip was that I created. Turns out, his favorite was that custom clip I didn’t care for. LOL!

It was here that I learned that I have to only put out content that I enjoy to attract the right submissives to Me.

​​W​hat is your favorite fetish?

​I enjoy most FemDom fetishes and believe I can find a way to make almost anything fun for Me. However, if I had to pick a favorite, it would certainly be Mind Fuck. It is here I can truly challenge submissives to be more of service as well as get extremely creative in My clips.

​I highly recommend My clip entitled Good Boy Reward to dive right in! It can be found here:

Mika Dominatrix
Mika Good Boy Reward

​​You’ve mentioned that FemDomming for you is not a performance, which allows you to better handle yourself. Are there any draining aspects to being a FemDomme and how do you cope with that?

N​o. This job is pretty much 24/7 and not something, at least for Me, that I can turn easily on and off. Therefore, I feel that it would actually be extremely draining if all of this was an act, haha.

​​Financial Domming. I really want to understand it. I get dominating, ​I​ get submission and ​I understand what people get out of that. I also get the idea that Financial Domming is NOT necessarily about taking all of their money and that it is about control. Can you explain this fetish to me, and what a sub and Domme get out of this?

​For My style of Financial Domination with My slaves, I use it an important foundation of submission to Me.

They are using something (money) that could have benefited themselves and instead chose for it to benefit Me. There is hardly a greater form of submission in My opinion.

​With My slaves, W/we go over budgeting together (which is also apart of the SayYesToEmpress.com e-course) to ensure their money is used most effectively to sustain themselves and their life goals as well as their servitude to Me. ​

​​You offer a dick rating service – what can people expect from submitting their dick to you?

​I do, haha, almost by necessity as there are so many submissives interested in My thoughts about their “package”. ​I offer 2 dick ratings, a basic one or a premium one. The basic one is My rating and a few comments. The premium one includes My rating with a more in-depth explanation.

The ratings, along with many other items, are available on My store: EmpressMika.com/store

You also run DommeSource.com. What is this and how does this benefit the FemDom community? 

I do, yes.

Back when I started in FemDom, there weren’t really any resources to turn to so that inspired Me to create DommeSource. It is the ultimate resource site for both online Dommes and subs.

It’s my hope that it helps newer Dommes get started as well as newer subs to have a better idea of what submission is. I also hope it helps bridge the gap between Dommes and subs so that the right subs can find the right Domme.

Mika Talks
VIP Interview Mika

​​Final words and thoughts on FemDomme that you’d like people to know?

​FemDom is getting more and more popular! 🙂 ​I’m happy to see more and more people trying it out and invite you to do the same if you haven’t already.

Thanks for having Me!

If you want more details about Mika why not check her out at her website –

Mika dominatrix site
Mika Online

What kind of SEXUAL DEVIANT have I become?

IQ Test For Bondage

It’s been about 6 months since I took the kink personality test on www.bdsmtest.org and I was curious to see if anything had changed with my results, since there is so much else in my life that has.

 

I think I’ve mentioned in a previous post or two, how surprised I was at the accuracy of the test results in the past. I wasn’t disappointed this time around either. There were a few surprising differences in some of the categories. You’ll have to keep reading to find out what they were.

 

So, for those who haven’t read of my previous posts, there have been some major shake-ups happening in my life since I joined the Oh! Zone family back in February this year. The main one being the making of a tiny human from scratch which virtually halted my deeper exploration of the BDSM lifestyle, since a considerable amount of the things that I would like to try but are not safe during pregnancy.

 

I’m not sure if it’s my change in lifestyle from wild experimentalist to mummy to be, or if it’s the broadening of my sexual knowledge through reflection on scenes that I have played with various partners, blog submissions from my colleagues, researching topics for my own posts or from picking the brains of customers who are already immersed in the lifestyle, that has the greatest influence on the change in my results.

 

If you’re not familiar with the personality test on BDSM.org, you can choose to gain insight in one of three ways: submissive questions only, dominant questions only or the full test (which I recommend taking if you’re a first-timer) which contains both submissive & dominant related questions. The results will then give you a percentage based on your answers to the questions. I have seen everything from 99% vanilla to 100% submissive to 100% sadist.

 

The results summary will give you a percentage on the following: Submissive, Rope Bunny, Experimentalist, Degradee, Masochist, Slave, Non-monogamist,Boy/Girl, Pet, Primal (Prey), Exhibitionist, Ageplayer, Voyeur, Daddy/Mommy, Brat, Vanilla, Primal (Hunter), Brat Tamer,Rigger, Dominant, Degrader, Owner, Mistress/Master, Sadist & Switch.

 

Here are my 5 biggest changes between February when I did my first test and August when I took the test again.

 

  1. Pet +30%

Definition according to bdsmtest.org: “Is the property of their owner in daily life. Sexuality is not necessarily involved. The role often features some form of animal play (puppy, kitten, etc.), although that is not a strict necessity.”

 

What’s changed in 6 months?: I’ve come to see this more as another form of being a  ‘kept woman’. In the beginning of my journey, everything was about not forming emotional attachments and just trying everything with no strings attached. But the further from my last relationship that I get, the more that I crave being ‘owned’ by someone emotionally.

 

  1. Vanilla -26%

Definition according to bdsmtest.org: “Vanilla people enjoy regular, standard sex and relationship models. Nothing wrong with that, as long as you’re having fun!”

 

What’s changed in 6 months?: In all honesty, this is the result that surprised me the most. I thought, if anything, since I have halted kink play while I’m growing my tiny human that I would have continued to have the same stance on vanilla sex. Apparently I have a new-found distaste instead. Maybe it has something to do with the conversations that I have with customers in the course of my work day and picking their brains about things in kink that I had no idea existed before starting with Oh! Zone.

 

Playing With Age
Age Role Player
  1. Ageplayer -20%

Definition according to bdsmtest.org: “Ageplayers lie to play with age as part of their kink. They typically take on a much younger or older age than they actually are, or prefer playing with a partner that does so. Attributes and behaviour changes (such as pacifiers, coloring books, speaking in childlike language, etc.) are paired with this, to enrich the context and make it more appropriate for the played age.”

 

What’s changed in 6 months?: I think that as I get closer to becoming a parent, my tolerance for childish behaviour in myself and other adults has lessened and by proxy, so has the appeal of ageplay… Although I still love colouring books, Disney musicals & cartoons.

 

  1. Slave -19%

Definition according to bdsmtest.org: “Slaves completely hand over the control and responsibilities over their life to their Master/Mistress . They go a step further than submissives in the sense that their power exchange is present 24/7 and in all aspects of their life (except for negotiated exceptions such as their office jobs). Serving their Master/Mistress is their primary focus in life and they rarely have limits for them.”

 

What’s changed in 6 months?: Ok, so I think that most of my changes have been due to my impending motherhood. I am finding that I am more anal-retentive and needing to be a little more in control of myself these days so that I can remain a relatively put-together adult for my son.

 

  1. Primal (Prey) +15%

Definition according to bdsmtest: “Primals ae mainly focused on their natural instincts and they enjoy letting their inner animal out during sex. They key part for primals play is that the participants show their raw, emotional sexual feelings during play. All of the labels, roles, and protocols go out the window, and the prey (you) can become a snarling, growling, clawing animal hell-bent on getting away from its predator.”

 

What’s changed in 6 months?: Maybe I’m just a little more feral than before…

 

Seems to me that kink preferences are developed over time and are influenced by life and its experiences. So, even if you take the test just for fun now, it’s always good to retake it every so often. You might find that the results surprise you.

 

Happy testing xxx

Morgan

 

NEVER Ask A Pregnant Woman……!

Pregnancy Sayings
Ok, so there seems to be a part of our culture that seemingly allows random strangers to ask very personal questions to pregnant women… It’s frustrating! I suppose you think that the fact that I work in an a store that sells adult products makes it somehow ok. Wrong. Please be aware that it makes it even creepier and less appropriate.

 

Some of the questions are triggering on an emotional level and some are just downright rude and gross. Things that you wouldn’t dream of asking a person you’ve just met who isn’t pregnant. Why do some of us think that it’s ok to ask them of a tired, hormonal person who is busy growing another human?

Since I get asked these questions anyway, I thought that I’d just address them publicly and as openly as common decency will allow me to.

 

“You must be horny all the time right now! Your hubby must be getting lots of sex!”

 

I was literally asked this by the last customer who left the store… who also propositioned me for sex after I mentioned that I was going to be a single parent. Dude! Firstly, I work around porn and sex toys. Why would I be interested in going home and playing with myself or someone else? It’s kind of like the plumber’s taps leaking or the builder’s house always needing repairs.

 

Secondly, yes. My (ex)husband is probably having copious amounts of sex… but since I haven’t seen him in over 6 years, it’s not with me. Also, it’s not ok to follow this answer with another question about my relationship (or lack thereof) with the baby’s father. It’s none of your business.

 

“I’ve always wanted to have sex with a pregnant woman. I saw it in a porno once…” said as they stare at the bump.

 

Staring like a creeper is not endearing at all. Just saying. I once saw a porno where a guy was tied up and suspended while a woman penetrated him with a 16” dildo… but I’m not going to say that out loud and then stare at you, so STOP! How would you like it if someone said to you “I saw this documentary about the lady who cut off her husband’s penis… I’ve always wondered what that would be like…” then stare at your crotch? Makes you uncomfortable doesn’t it?

 

“I love how big tits get when women are pregnant…” – Hey dude, my eyes are up here!

 

intimacy whilst pregnant
pregnant sex

Ok, ok. Before I got pregnant, I would have the girls just hanging out when I went out for drinks and I may have also gotten them out on my hens night to raise drinking money, but that was 10 years ago and things have changed. But even though I had them on display back then, it still didn’t make it ok to make comments on them. #sexualharassment. Believe me, I’ll be using these to feed my baby not to attract perverts.

 

P.S. Just in case you were wondering, it’s also not ok to make comments about breastfeeding in public either, especially if you’ve already suggested that I let you fondle my boobs while I was pregnant.

 

“Does it feel any different when you have sex?” or “Does the baby kick when you’re having sex?”

 

None of your business! Also, who says that I’m having sex? Mainly because guys on Tinder aren’t too keen on picking up hormonal pregnant women for one night stands. I’m pretty sure that acid reflux, sore breasts, needing to pee every 5 minutes and excess vaginal discharge are not sexy.

 

And just for the record, my son likes to kick me ALL THE TIME. No internal organ is safe from my tiny human.

 

“What are you having?… Oh you’re having a boy! Are you going to circumcise him?”

 

I really was hoping for kittens, but my ultrasound says that I’m having a normal baby boy. Why does it matter if he will be circumcised, will you be having sex with him? Seriously?! No, I won’t be telling you what my son’s penis looks like. That’s like asking a woman how tight her vagina is. How is that ok?

 

“Wait until it comes out, your vagina won’t ever be the same again”

 

Ummmmm… actually that’s what kegel exercises are for. Again, why does it matter to you what my vagina is like or will be like? Unless you’re my midwife or OB, you won’t be going anywhere near it!

 

So, before you go opening your mouth to ask a pregnant woman a question, throw a comment their way or go to touch them without their permission, stop. Put that decency filter back in place, ask yourself if it would be inappropriate to ask/say to a random stranger on the street and if the answer is yes, keep your mouth shut.

 

Keeping The Rabbit Company!

Spoiled Rabbits

In a world far far away lives the humble bunny, but here in the land of Oh zone lives “the rabbit company” a machine of pure excellence that rivals all bunnies that have come before them. A true master piece of craftsmanship, not only in style, but in vibration power and sturdiness.

I welcome you to THE RABBIT COMPANY

Rabbit company hopped onto the market and made a BANG with its bold colours, amazing power, and incredible designs, reinventing the rabbit vibrator!

Those iconic ears of pleasure have brought a whole new meaning to the phrase fucking like a rabbit. The Rabbit company wanted to bring you a concise collection of the best rabbit vibrators on the market, and they have not disappointed. They spent 2 years of research and development testing vibrators on the market to bring you their goal of developing a range of vibrators that make your knees weak with every vibration, and movement.

Each model of this amazing range boasts outstanding quality, complete reliability, beautiful design and of course they pride themselves on the power they deliver.

The models in their collection are so varied that there is no way you cannot find your perfect fit, no one will miss out, not to mention every single rabbit comes with the following guarantee

  • 5 year warranty
  • Hypoallergenic, non-porous materials
  • Hygienic, FDA-approved, food-grade silicone with a velvety-soft finish
  • Flexible shafts to ensure a comfortable fit for women of all shapes and sizes
  • Intense quality control process ensuring form, finish and function are all set to our high standards
  • 2 powerful, independent vibrating motors in the shaft and rabbit
  • Whisper quiet operation
  • USB rechargeable battery with up to 8 hours of run time

Yes! you read that correctly a massive 8 hours of run time!

 

Another massive quality of this company is their warranty, they really do back their product providing you with an incredible F I V E year warranty! They will in the unlikely event replace your product with the same or similar if there is a defect in workmanship or materials, at their discretion

But keep in mind in order for your warranty claims to be processed they need to be made within 5 years of original purchase and the product must be registered with the rabbit company with proof of purchase. Rules do apply the warranty only covers manufacturing defects, it does not cover normal wear and tear of parts, personal preferences, damage caused by misuse, loss, abuse, or negligent handling.

 

Your hare care guidelines:

As rabbit company is a premium product they suggest your also use premium quality lubricant with their products as well.

ONLY WATER-BASED the reason for this is because silicone-based lubricants are not recommended and can cause damage to the product also never use hand creams or massage oils for your intimate areas.

 

When cleaning your new rabbit it is suggested that you use a suitable cleanser such as the Rabbit company’s hare care cleansing spray, if you don’t have this handy or you have run out, you are able the wash the silicone area of your rabbit with luke-warm water and antibacterial soap. How ever do not use cleaners that contain alcohol, petrol or acetone as these chemicals can damage your rabbit.

Another crucial tip is to avoid  leaving your rabbit in direct sunlight or exposing it to extreme heat.

The Rabbit Company Sex Toys
Rabbit Vibrators

Unfortunately your new rabbit is not waterproof so please do not submerge in water or use in the shower.

The classic rabbit

The classic rabbit crystallised

The G-spot rabbit

The G-spot rabbit crystallised

The Rotating rabbit

The Beaded rabbit

The Come hither rabbit

The Backdoor rabbit

The Beaded backdoor rabbit

The Realistic rabbit

The Rabbit wand

The beaded DP rabbit

The kissing rabbit

The thrusting rabbit

The pink ribbon rabbit

The pocket rabbit

The pocket rabbit crystallised

The rabbit lay-on

The rabbit ears

The prostate rabbit

The classic rabbit XL

The beaded rabbit XL

The realistic rabbit XL

The come Hither rabbit XL

do those sound like they tickle all your desires, why stop at one, why not own the whole collection?

And the packs for that extra bit of wow factor to accompany your new delightfully delicious bunny;

 

The Beaded Rabbit S&M Bondage Set

The G-Spot Rabbit Couples Play Time Set

The Come Hither Rabbit Couples Play Time Set

 

The Realistic Rabbit S & M Bondage Set

morgan x

Holy Shit! I Can Finally Breathe….

Bad Relationships

Yesterday my partner and I were having one of those iconic serious talks about our relationship and the future of it, while we were driving in the car he turned and said to me;

“I’m your first normal boyfriend aren’t I” (it wasn’t a question he was asking it was a statement)

I responded with “yea I guess you are”

which his response was “i know because sometimes you act funny”

I sat in the car thinking, when I think I go quiet and he then asked me if I was OK.

Truth is I wasn’t sure if I was OK, I wasn’t sure what exactly to think, or how to feel, I knew in that moment though and many moments before that he had noticed me and he had noticed my feelings.

 

I guess you could say that was a new experience for me, so later that night, and again this morning I started thinking some more, and I have come to the conclusion that I do not know how to act or feel in a good relationship.

 

There are often times I have over thought the situation, over analysed a comment, a text message, the exact wording, every fine detail. The first thing I learnt entering into my relationship now is that the thing that made me realise just how toxic my previous situations were was unlearning all my previous “habits” for coping.

 

Apologising is my worst habit, which doesn’t seem all that bad, but I apologise for everything,especially if I feel like my partner may not like something I will take blame and apologise, to ensure nothing escalates.  I use to blame myself for a lot of things especially things I knew would trigger my previous partners, now I find myself have to unteach all the triggers and stop being sorry for them.

 

Over compensation is also a huge habit I have, toxic past situations taught me that the love I deserve, I will never get in full. It taught me that love was based on rules and only good behaviour would be rewarded with affection, toxic situations taught me that I would never be good enough and that I had to keep trying.

 

Looking back on past situations now I see that it was very hard to love someone who was basically unlovable and intolerable to love, but somehow I found the good in them, and I didn’t give up. The transition between a toxic situation becoming single and learning  to love myself and now actually being loved has been a huge eye opener. My new relationship may not be what I am use to but it is exactly what I deserve.

 

In the past my best was not good enough, so I tried harder to prove my love, and finally when I am completely comfortable in this relationship when all my walls and down I know I will love this person with everything I have inside of me and it will be good enough.

 

I forced myself to come into this relationship with clear eyes and mind, I chose to love like I give a shit wholeheartedly, even though it was terribly difficult at first, even if I thought everyone had motives, and that everyone lies and hides things. I had to force myself to stop making assumptions about certain situations and then explain to my partner how I came to this wild conclusion, not because I don’t trust him, but because my past situations have taught me every loop hole that causes pain.

 

How can things really be this good? How can he actually have a conversation with another girl without hurting me.

 

Someone who actually respects me, this has to be too good to be true.

 

Pain was normal and it no longer hurt the same as it did at the start, my threshold for pain and my tolerance became impermeable to the point where the things that break up most relationships didn’t seem so bad to me. People often comment  how weak someone is or has to be to stay in a toxic relationship, but for me its quite the opposite. It takes someone very strong to go through what they have and still be able to find the good and not giving up even if that person doesn’t deserve your loyalty and love. It takes  an even stronger person to be able to walk away, and even stronger then that to love again and accept love.

 

Then finally there it is, finally you learn what love really is, its a holy shit I can breathe moment. You don’t wince of flinch when they lift their hand to affectionately place it on your leg. His affection no longer surprises you anymore, and you finally feel this beautiful feeling, a feeling of calm, and you breathe. You are fully aware no anxiety not stress no pain just breathing in that moment.

 

Its OK if your not sure how to navigate a good relationship, its OK if you don’t trust at the start or if your not sure if you should listen to your gut about situations, its OK to be vulnerable and learn because this person will not cause you harm. At the start its hard to navigate how many compliments is too many, or whats a good compliment to give, or even how much you have to pull to not seem crazy or over the top, and you defiantly do not have to think about how much is enough or not enough to give.

 

Because its at that moment the good relationship will happen its at that moment that they will fall in love with you, the vulnerable you, the you that because this way because of everything you have gone through and the you that will now be taught that love isnt manipulation.

 

I am continuously amazed at this guy, and I spend a lot of time staring at him in awe, this is what good feels like.

Trust and Love
Loving Relationship

when you build her back up and love her the way she deserves, a change happens and in return, you get a love so pure, so genuine, and so unconditional. She will heal you in ways you didn’t even know you needed just as you did her”

 

morgan x