The Seduction of Dance

There are many ways for animals in nature to seduce the one they want. For example, a peacock displays his massive eye-spotted tail as part of a courtship or a female bonobo monkey hits male’s body to show her enthusiasm for having sex. I strongly recommend you watch attached video below, especially between 1.30 – 2.00, just to understand what I mean and also to have a little bit of fun.



Just a little reminder: Scientists say that our closest ancestors are not Bonobo Monkeys but Chimpanzees so please don’t try to excuse yourself to hit your mates after watching this video above.

When it comes to homo sapiens; we mostly prefer to say “You look beautiful/handsome” as a starting point since we invented alphabet or even wearing some seductive lingerie or clothes. Of course, there are numerous other ways to exhibit your deepest desires for them, yet there is a unique way taking place at every moment of the history of humanity even in prehistoric era, dancing! Imagine some people from a hunter-gatherer society (see the extracted image from a cave painting below; yellow and green circles respectively) sitting around a fire 40000 years ago; something already gave two guys a boner (red circles) and they are trying to get their mates attention by waving their arms (the ones in purple circles are our guys’ mates). Although the one on the far left seems a bit unhappy with the situation, you can see another couple having further intimacy (blue circle). Whilst this is just my imagination, I believe that there is a high possibility for the things to be like this even ages ago. You know that sex was one of the most powerful driving force for humanity in the past and it will be the same in the future as well.

People are doing the same thing in clubs and bars in the 21st century instead of around a fire to impress the person they want to have sex with. Having had a kind of similar idea years ago, I enrolled in a class and learned how to perform 5 different latin dances for whole year. Only two weeks later, I was embarrassed by what I thought about dancing earlier. There were 5 different characteristics for each of them and those characteristics made me feel the passion in dancing day by day and associate dancing with sex, or vice versa; so picking up someone came as a bonus afterwards.

Cha Cha Cha: When marimba rhythms start to play it is time for cha cha. If you are in a ballroom and planning to ask the one you like to dance, “Sway” will be a good choice to start with; preferably Michael Buble version, I wouldn’t mind though if they played Pussy Cat Dolls version. Cha cha is perfect for the first time of couples (or one night-stands, doesn’t matter) it is a cheeky, flirty dance. 1..2..3..cha cha The girl tries to attract him with her showy moves and the boy chases her correspondingly; this is the teasing nature of cha cha. In the course of the dance, both parties will be learning something about each other even if it is in a challenging manner and they will be happy in the end, for sure.


Samba: Whilst cha cha is to carry your lust from dance floor to home with its effective and sharp movements, samba is all about excitement, in my opinion, as I always associate it with foreplay; all night long, like in a carnival in Rio. By the way, I would like to disambiguate between samba and salsa as most people think that they are pretty same. Samba is a dance originated from African people in Brazil who brought their culture to Latin America and can be danced solo or as a couple, on the other hand, Salsa is emerged from Caribbean and needs a pair to be performed. Salsa needs specific choice of music, but samba is pretty easy-going if it is the case. That’s why I find samba pretty suitable to foreplay, just as you want it to be according to your instincts.


Paso Doble: It means double-step in Spanish and on the contrary to popular belief, the traditional couple paso doble was commenced in France, then Iberian Peninsula has adopted it. Basically, this type of dance represents bullfight and many different variations of the music “Espana Cani” is used during this representation especially in ballroom performances. The man is in the role of the matador in this dance and the woman can be anything but the bull such as the cape, the shadow of the matador so on. Although masculinity is not my cup of tea, I can’t help myself thinking how sexy movements paso doble have and it reminds me of the beginning of an intercourse after a long foreplay; captivating, a little bit of brutal but ecstatic.


Rumba: This is the slowest one in all latin dances, don’t be fooled by its rhythm though; believe me, posing and maintaining the choreography are really hard to achieve in slow motion. It is said that Rumba is the dance of love; it doesn’t necessarily have to show a couple’s fantasy or steps to the bed though, it can also exhibit a tragic love between two. The main point is emphasise the tenderness between lovers which perfectly fits my perception of the second stage of an intercourse. After an intense start to intercourse, some people want to have a kind of break to lower their heart beat, to recover their breath but they don’t want to get the sweat dry, so there is nothing better than rumba rhythms to keep playing; slow, tender but lustful enough to be prepared for grand final.


Jive: And finally, here is my fave! Jive is originated from African-Americans in 30s in the States and it is the fastest one among five international latin dances. There are some similarities with samba in terms of pace and partying, yet the music is so different that whilst samba seems like you are having fun with your drink in a street festival, jive feels like you are going to have a more decent night with your lover. Jive is generally performed in the end after other 4 latin dances in dance competitions meaning that “We still have energy to dance even at the fastest pace (176 bpm)” to show the prowess they have just like most people having sex with thrusts as fast as they can just before reaching climax.


It is widely known that dancing can have the following benefits:

  • Increases your muscular strength,
  • Gives you weight management,
  • Gives better coordination and flexibility
  • Improves condition of your heart and lungs

The benefits of dancing are almost similar to the benefits of sex, exercise or even using sex toys and as a result of these; Dancing helps you improve your general and psychological well-being which leads to better social skills. Additionally, it is a perfect way to fix the problems of a couple losing their lust by the help of its intimate nature and not limited only for straight couples for sure, there are many dance studios in Sydney where same-sex couples are more than welcome.


Couple Seduction Dancing

By Goki a consultant from Oh Zone Adult Lifestyle Centres

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