Vaginal Dilator Exercises for Psychosexual Therapy

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Although these plastic sets are called “vaginal dilators” the name is not ideal, as nothing is being dilated (expanded) when you use them.

Often dilators are recommended for a combination of reasons. They can help retrain the soft tissues in and around the vagina to behave more normally. This may include improving scar tissue after childbirth/surgery/radiotherapy, or to help train the pelvic floor muscles to relax and lengthen as part of a structured program. Dilator use can also help to reduce vulval and vaginal hypersensitivity to touch.

Exercising the pelvic floor is essential to help to improve the strength, flexibility and control of the pelvic floor muscles. For penetration to be pain free, the pelvic floor muscles need to be able to relax fully and lengthen around something in the vagina. Dilators can help you to practice this.

Plastic dilators provide a pathway, allowing you to practice relaxing your pelvic floor muscles around something, increasing in size gradually, under your control.

If the smallest dilator is too big to slip into your vagina, you may need to start with something smaller, such as a cotton bud.

Dilators come in a set of various sizes. The smallest is the size of a slim finger, or a medium to large tampon. The largest is the size of a large erection. It is worth noting that an average erection is about the size of the 4th dilator in a set of 5. Dilators with a tapered end are often easier to use than those with a blunt end.

A plain lubricant is provided with most dilator sets. You will need to use lubricant for all these exercises. You can use any lubricant that you know suits you. Advice on lubricants that don’t contain many of the ingredients that irritate genital skin is available from your doctor, physiotherapist, nurse or psychosexual counsellor.

Sometimes they are available on prescription, or they are easy to order online or from your local chemist.  Dilators are available on prescription from your GP.

The exercises

It is best to practice little and often. 1 minute (building up to 5-10 minutes), 5-6 days per week is best.

Each step is likely to take weeks. The aim is to progress slowly and steadily, being comfortable with each step before moving on. If you go too fast and provoke lots of pain then you are likely to trigger muscle spasm, vaginal tightness and therefore more pain.

If you are unable to progress up the steps after weeks of trying, see your doctor, nurse, physiotherapist or psychosexual therapist. They may refer you on to someone for a more detailed examination and advice.

You will need to set aside some time each day to be relaxed and take your time with this process. Our minds and bodies are linked and if your muscles are to relax you need to feel relaxed and not rushed. How you think and feel about using dilators can affect your experience. Try to approach it with positive, optimistic attitude (even if this doesn’t come automatically). Last thing at night is not ideal,  as it is easy to put it off when you are tired at the very end of the day.

Please remember: the idea is to do what you can without causing pain. You may feel a little discomfort when first starting the exercises.

  • Start with the smallest
  • Prop yourself up semi-reclined on a bed/chair/sofa. Bending your hips and knees a little may
  • To prepare, you could try actively relaxing your pelvic floor muscles using your breathing (see our separate information leaflet – Pelvic Floor Exercises for Psychosexual Therapy).
  • A helpful first step can be to practice resting the tip of the smallest dilator at your vaginal entrance and using your breathing to keep your pelvic floor This will help you to overcome the reflex you may have developed, where your pelvic floor tenses up at the prospect of something entering your vagina.
  • When you think your pelvic floor is relaxed, take your time to gently slip the smallest dilator (covered in lubricant) into your vagina. Most vaginas slope up and backwards towards your tailbone. It may help to focus on your breathing, to reduce any physical and mental tension. The dilator doesn’t necessarily have to be fully
  • Leave the dilator in place for 1 to 10 minutes, keeping your pelvic floor You will be able to increase the length of time gradually with practice. If you stop noticing that the dilator is in there this is great– you are really relaxed! Repeat daily until comfortable.
  • When using the dilators, try not to get too caught up with thoughts or focused on emotions. Instead, bring your attention to your physical sensations as you use the dilators, or to the sensations of your breath in your body.
  • When ready, try the next size up from the one you are using. You may find it helpful to try 1 minute of the size that you are comfortable with before using the larger size immediately after. Continue in this way until it is possible to insert the larger size straight into your vagina.
  • Gradually increase the size of dilator you are using, remembering you should be comfortable with a given size for up to 10 minutes, feeling the muscles are fully relaxed around it, before you move on to the next.  If these exercises cause bleeding, or if you have difficult thoughts or feelings about using the dilators, which you feel are getting in the way, please discuss this with your doctor, physiotherapist, nurse or psychosexual counsellor.

Cleaning the dilators

Dilators should be washed in hot soapy water and rinsed thoroughly after each use. They do not need to be sterilized. They can be stored in the case provided.

Why Everyone Should Own A Realistic Dildo

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There is simply no denying that technology is changing everything. Heck, just look at what it has done to the Internet and online gambling. And, look at what technology has done for the automotive and manufacturing industry.

 

Simply put, technology has transformed many areas of life for many individuals. Well, it has not only changed these fields, but it is changing the sex industry as well. That’s right, thanks to technology, you can now get your hands on some of the most realistic and life-like sex equipment that you’ve ever seen. And, you’d be surprised to learn all the benefits that come along with owning a realistic dildo.

 

What Exactly Is A Realistic Dildo?

 

Most adults are probably familiar with dildos and other sex toys. They might even be familiar with realistic dildos, but do you truly understand what the term means?

 

A realistic dildo is simply a dildo that is phallic in nature. These models tend to be modeled after the basic shape of the male penis, characterized by a fairly uniform shaft and pronounced head. There are additional features to give the device a more realistic look and feel. These would usually include but not limited to veins, balls, and sometimes color, which comes down to the preference of the buyer.

 

Now that you know and understand what a realistic dildo is, it is time to look at how you can benefit from owning one.

 

Lifelike Sensations

 

Not only does new technology gives these dildos the ability to look more real than ever, but they’ll feel more real as well. When using the device, you’ll get a more natural feeling that what you would receive with those zany models currently available on the market.

 

There is nothing wrong with the shapes, styles, and design of these other models, but sometimes the human body craves something more natural, right down to the very touch, and that is where realistic dildos come in handy. The natural feeling offered by the devices lends itself to fantasies and imaginary scenarios that you normally wouldn’t be able to achieve with lesser models.

 

Simply put, these models will make the fantasy and experience of masturbation all that more pleasurable and life-like.

 

All Genders And Body Types Can Take Advantage

 

Another wonderful thing about these models is that they are inclusive. Literally, anyone and everyone can take advantage of everything that they have to offer.

 

That being said, most of the time these models are used for vaginal purposes, but this is just one of the many ways that a realistic dildo can be satisfying. They can provide a whole realm of other pleasures with unlimited possibilities.

 

This is if you buy the right model. While there are tons to choose from, not every model on the market might be suited for your exact needs. Hence, make sure you read many realistic dildo reviews before blindly buying a model.

 

They Are Versatile

 

Not only can anyone take advantage of these toys, but they can be used for a wide range of sexual activities. You just learned that most models available today are used for vaginal purposes, but that doesn’t necessarily have to be the case at all.

 

These models are versatile and can be used in a variety of positions to satisfy a variety of unique fantasies. Solo, BDSM, couples play, or pretty much whatever you could think of, you can use these items.

 

In addition to this, these models come available in a wide range of styles and features, so finding one for your specific needs and desire shouldn’t be a problem. It might take a little bit of research, but finding one won’t be a problem.

You Can Still Flirt – CaronoVirus

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Well as you all know we are still trading both online and in-store.  Supplies from wholesalers for adult store have been effected both on the web and in brick and mortar shops, but at this time we are still well-stocked to meet the product ‘needs’ of adults forced into isolation or social distancing.

As many media have reported panic buying in supermarkets for long shelved item has now switched to adult toys, lubricants and condoms.  Many are realizing that as adults being cooped up with your partner for 6 months in pretty much self- isolation there needs to be something to break the boredom and ad some zing.  There can be plenty of zing when exploring sexuality and sex toys.

As Flirt Store Owner Mr Oliver in Bathurst says in the western advocate report

“We’ve been selling a lot of hand sanitiser products and lubricant that people are buying in bulk,” he said. “Never in my wildest dreams did I think that an adult store would be helping to prop up the country. “Adults are concerned that if they get locked up they are not going to be able to get their adult lifestyle products.”

There is a global shortage of condoms with Singapore being the first nation to ‘sell out’ because of the coronavirus, followed by the UK and now with shortages in Australia.  The Chronicle reports

‘Meanwhile, a woman has shared a picture of a store sold out of Durex condoms. The woman shared the photo to the Ryde District Mums Facebook page, asking what was going on. Across the country people have reported empty shelves of toilet roll as people stock up amid coronavirus panic.’

But do not despair – adultsmart online store and our adult lifestyle centres still have plenty of stock of condoms and all the other necessities to get you through this crisis.  A health crisis does not mean that it should carry over to a sexual crisis.  Self isolation does not mean that you have to practice celibacy.

Whether you are single, in a hetro or same-sex relationship we have the gear to get you through.  Our in store stringent safety standards will ensure that you can shop in the safest environment possible or shop online to get pleasure products delivered discreetly to your door.

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Sex Toys Are Jigsaw Puzzles For Adults!

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In Australia the CoronaVirus is having an impact on us all.  Social distancing laws, social gathering restrictions reduced to two persons in a public space has made it impossible for many businesses to continue trading.  The public health advice is to stay home unless for shopping for food or essential items.

The Australian Prime Minister was asked:

JOURNALIST: So what is the rationale in that case for keeping shopping centres, apart from food shops, open?

PRIME MINISTER: Well, what we’ve said today is you should be only going out to shop for things that you actually need and you should be doing it on an irregular basis. I’ll give you an example. Our kids are at home now, as are most kids, and Jenny went out yesterday and bought them a whole bunch of jigsaw puzzles. I can assure you over the next few months, we’re going to consider those jigsaw puzzles absolutely essential. It’s important that parents and families and households can get the things that they need to completely change the way they’re going to live for the next six months at least. And so what we’ve done is sought to be practical about these issues. I mean, people are buying sporting equipment at the moment, gym mats and things like that so they can exercise at home. These are things they’re going to need. 

So for all those people out there getting ready to be isolated, jigsaws are things your children are going to need.  SEX TOYS are things adults are going to need.

SINGLES DATING

Lets face it online dating will become just that – as to ‘hook-up’ is no longer a safe option and you cannot very well meet for dinner, at a cafe or for drinks.  Meeting someone new is going to be a virtual romance.  AND even if you do – bearing in mind the 1.5m social distancing rule, kissing is out and unsafe.  So far no-one has reported getting the CoronaVirus from sexual intercourse but with no foreplay I do not think that is going to happen.

Sex toys – especially those that run from an app may be the way to consummate a new relationship.

COUPLES DATING

No longer can you take your partner (married or not) out on a romantic date.  That is a thing of the past and will be for many months to come.  There is some humor that at the end of this pandemic the divorce rate will soar as couples realize that they can no longer stand each other, whilst also at the other end there will be a baby boom as those that do, will.

But 6 months with your partner – we need to spice that up!!!!  And what better way than introducing sex toys into your relationship.  There are sex toys for couples, male pleasure products and of course vibrators for women.

Adultsmart online sex toys store will remain open for business hopefully throughout this pandemic so take advantage of the amazing range of adult products that are ready to make your isolation not just bearable BUT FUN!!!

And for the moment you can still visit one of our stores which by the Prime Ministers own example is considered essential shopping for adults.  Sex aids and products will enable you to stay at home, breaking the monotony or isolation in the most pleasurable way.  So if you are not ready to buy online then visit one of our Adult Stores that are open for business FOR NOW!

Our Penrith location is: 1/478-482 High St, Penrith 2750 NSW (02) 4732 4475

Our Caringbah location is: 1/322 Kingsway, Caringbah 2229 NSW

Our Kogarah location is: 12 Production Ave, Kogarah NSW 

Our Canberra location is: 127-129 Wollongong Street, Fyshwick ACT 

Something About Sensuva!

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Sensuva Deeply Love You- Throat Relaxing Spray

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Sensuva has a much larger range of products than those listed above including personal moisturizers, lotions & balms. Check out your closest Oh Zone store to discover & try the Sensuva range for yourself!