Sex Toys That You Will Want For Christmas

Xmas sex

With Christmas just around the corner, you may be looking for some presents for your partner, whilst jewellery or the latest games console are good fall back presents, what if you want something to help with your intimacy?

In any case, sex toys are a sure fire way to bring a bit more fun or spice into your sex life, then sex toys are the way to go.

As a generation, we are much more open to talking about sex than every before, and sex shops are no longer called ‘private shops’ they are well known brands, with store fronts on most high streets.

However, sex toys remain something that many people are embarrassed about, so let’s go through some tips on buying the right sex toy for you and your partner.

 

Talk To Your Partner

The best thing you can do when thinking about adding sex toys into your life, is to have an open conversation with your partner about what you both like, and what you’d be open to.

This doesn’t have to be an in-depth, therapist type conversation, but it should be as open as you can be, with some discussion about what you both would like.

Sure, it can feel a little embarrassing, but the more you talk about it, the less embarrassed you will be, and you will find yourself enjoying sex even more – if that’s possible!

 

Solo Toys For Women

You may want to start looking at some solo toys to give to your partner, for the times that they are alone, and want to have some fun.

There are so many different types of toys out there that it can be a little confusing.

Some of the more well known toys are the rabbit type vibrators, which are penetration devices, with different vibration speeds and those well known rabbit ears for clitoral stimulation. These toys are the classic ones, and were probably the first sex toy to become fashionable and start people having more honest conversations about sex.

The massager wand type is another classic, beloved by many women around the world. This toy however, is not suited to everyone, as it can be a bit more on the forceful side, so choose the model with care.

There are so many newer types on the market now, including some which even claim to imitate oral sex, the Lelo Ora 3 review gives a good overview on this highly praised toy.

There are different types of clitoral stimulators available that work in different ways, such as the bullet types, some of which come in waterproof varieties.

 

Solo Toys For Men

If you are looking for a solo toy to give to that special man in your life, there are many options too for them.

The most well known solo male toy is probably the fleshlight. These toys have played their part in  making male sex toys less taboo, but they are falling out of fashion now, in their place are the far more discreet and just as pleasurable newer designs of mastrubation sleeves.

Cock rings are available in many different varieties. These can be used solo, to provide extra vibration, or when with a partner, as they are bound to enjoy the vibrations too!

Prostate massagers are also very popular these days, and many come with a remote control to allow you to fully enjoy a solo experience.

Butt plugs are another classic, and much safer than inserting a non-sex toy into this are – always use a flared base! Butt plugs have also expanded their varieties. The bog standard ones are still available of course – everyone loves a classic. But, newer vibrating designs are available, some with a remote control to make everything a lot easier.

 

Toys For Couples

Many of the toys we have already gone through can also be used with your chosen partner, or partners, but there are some toys that are specifically geared towards couples.

We have already discussed vibrating cock rings, that give pleasure to both parties.There are also some toys that can be used whilst giving or reciveing a oral sex, such as the BlowYo which is a silicone ring that covers the bottom portion of the penis, that makes oral sex feel much more, well, orgasmic.

The WeVibe, and it’s imitators, is a toy beloved by couples. One end rests against the clitoris, whilst the other inserts into the vagina providing G-spot stimulation, as well as vibrating against the penis shaft.

If you are away from your partner, there are even toys that can be controlled via an app, so that you can come together even when you’re apart.

Whichever toy you decide to go for, remember to be safe and enjoy yourself, and always discuss consent.

The Lovense Domi 2

lovense sex toys

So ever since I’ve heard of the brand Lovense, I’ve wanted to try it, when I found out it’d be coming into the store, I almost lost my mind and the second the order dropped in store I bought the Domi 2, no questions asked. Lovense has thought of anything and everything when it comes to online sex work and the toys to come with it, the ability to let others play, the ability to connect other toys, but my favourite part: the ability to make money and play games with your fans on camming sites.

 

Now Lovense has a wide range of sex toys to choose from, the Lush, which is an internal wearable vibrator (yes, the one in all the pornos) this comes as the Lush original an the Lush 2, the Hush; a vibrating buttplug that comes in 2 sizes a 1.5” and a 1.75”, as well as the Edge which is perfectly shaped for males to get prostate stimulation along with a good vibration on the perineum (taint, gooch, all that goodness). The Ambi which is a cute little pink bullet, but with the added benefit of a little handle to hold onto and two sides that give different stimulations, a small side that gives incredible pin point vibrations and a larger side that has its power more spread out.

There is the Osci 2 which is a beautiful g-spot toy that, rather than vibrating like most, actually oscillates (fancy word for moving back and forth) to give you a whole new level of pinpointed g-spot stimulation. Of course, we cannot forget the Max 2 and the Nora which are a male masturbator and a rabbit style vibrator respectively, these are great for solo play but the best part is they are completely interactive with each other from anyway in the world, making long distance relationships a hell of a lot easier.

Now, I got the Domi 2 because I’m a wand girl through and through, there’s not much that does me better than a wand will and I will die on that hill.

What won me over with this bad boy was a few things, but childishly enough it was the ability to customise the led that shows you what power level you’re at… This automatically comes set on multicoloured but you have the option of hat, red, pink, yellow, green, turquoise etc. But my all time favourite colour is green, it’s plastered throughout my car, so the second I realised this was an option I basically threw my money at it.

But back to the actual tech things that people care about. This wand can be hooked up to your phone (as can any of Lovense’s products), you can control the speed, the patterns, create your own, and invite partners to play. The built in text messaging system helps to build the mood as you can message (bit of dirty talk anyone?), photos, and voice memos. This is an awesome build up to anything you’ll be doing later 😉
You can also voice call and video call through the app as well, making long distance (or camming) a lot easier!

The wand can be used on it’s own with built in speed settings and patterns, a WHOPPING 370 minute max run time, and absolutely no vibrations felt in the handle, it is by far my favourite product I have bought in a long time. Even being on the lowest setting it’s one of the stronger wands I’ve felt in this size. The head of the wand in slightly bendable so you can make it work for you no matter what.

 

The app boasts some of the best connectivity I’ve seen in an app controlled toy, with absolutely no issues I’ve come across. You are able to completely customise your experience, creating your own patterns, hooking it up to music, making it so it vibrates in time to whatever comes through the microphone, it’s brilliant the things you can do with this one, they have thought of almost everything with this range.

Not only does Lovense boast amazing inclusivity with the instructions reading “he/she/they” when discussing those who use it (yes that made my heart melt when I read it), but they are also really going above and beyond for online sex workers.
They have a separate app that will help you with all your camming needs, including vibrations set off by tips, a little tip based Keno game, and many more exciting features that blow most other app controlled toys out of the water, but they’ve created a 3rd app for computers that make it so that you can set vibration patterns for videos you make and that way anyone who has a Lovense toy can feel included in the video.

 

I had high expectations going into buying this toy and using the app for the first time and they have absolutely blown me away, I’m so excited to continue to use their products and explore their camming options once I get a few more exciting toys. Let’s be honest, I say the Domi 2 is for work, but it’s mostly for me!
The advice I will leave you with is this: even if you think you don’t need Lovense in your life; YOU DO!

Things to Consider When Choosing a Monkey Rocker or Sex Glider

Gliding Sex

If you want to introduce some new toys into your arsenal when it comes to solo play or sex with partners, then one fairly versatile option that will have something to offer for most women (as well as men who enjoy being penetrated) is a monkey rocker or sex glider. These come in many forms of complexity, but in most cases are devices you ride that you use your own body movements to control (though options with machine-powered penetration capabilities are also available).

Pros and Cons of Monkey Rockers and Sex Gliders

Here are some of the major advantages and disadvantages of this type of sex toy:

 

  • Pros:

 

  • Generally silent, unless vibrating or machine options are used
  • Offer ways to play on your own or with a partner
  • Comfortable
  • Easy to use
  • Low maintenance
  • Can be used with a wide variety of dildos for vaginal or anal penetration
  • Can also be used for face sitting with a partner
  • Most models accommodate a wide range of weights

 

  • Cons

 

  • Take up space – most are also difficult to really disguise as anything else in your home
  • Can be expensive

If you are looking to buy a monkey rocker or sex glider, Badum Tish has a great comparison of some of the leading options here. Here are some things you may want to think about when choosing what type of product is best for you.

Aesthetics

The look of these toys can vary widely from minimalist, cheaper products to more luxurious ones that can look like high-end gym equipment, with leather padding and aircraft-grade metal parts (though the dildo is still going to make it look very much like what it is). If the aesthetic is important to you, for instance, you are looking to fit out your own dungeon or pleasure room and want beautiful looking items, or you simply find using higher-end-looking stuff more arousing, then this is definitely something to factor into your choice. If you’re more about function than form, however, and plan to have the toy put away out of sight when you’re not using it, then the more basic looking toys tend to be cheaper and so could be a good option.

Versatility

There are a lot of things you can do with many of the models, and these usually include using them solo for vaginal or anal penetration, using them while also with a partner, for double penetration with just one partner, or removing the dildo and having your partner position their face under the seat for comfortable face-sitting. Different models will be better than others for each of these things when it comes to comfort and design, so think about what you’re most interested in when using the toy for while you’re shopping.

These are just some of the things you should have in the back of your mind while you’re making a decision about which new sex toy to invest in! Have fun choosing yours!

101 Menstrual Sex For Men!

Menstruation 101

From puberty until menopause, the menstrual cycle is a fact of life for every woman. However, the monthly visit from Aunt Flo needn’t put a dampener on your sex life. In a nutshell, all aspects of a fantastic sexual encounter can be enjoyed all month long.

 

Education

Men typically don’t really understand menstruation, and while their high school sexual education probably had a lot to do with that, there’s also a huge stigma surrounding the menstrual cycle. However this is slowly changing, as the male dominated world begins to listen to others (we’re looking at you Scotland, ready to offer free tampons and pads to women of all ages, we salute you!)

Talk to your partner about having sex while on your period. Let them know that you don’t think it needs to interrupt your sex life, and that while bleeding once a month may seem completely odd to a man, it is in fact a natural, and essential, part of life. Demystify it for them. In saying that, if either one of you are uneasy with sexual encounters during that time, the usual rules of consent apply, and no pressure should be applied.

 

Preparation

As with any sexual activity, menstrual sex should be clean and hygienic. Take a shower first, both of you, and really, you could even start things off together in the shower. If showering together, maybe give her a minute or so before or after you join to look after her intimates.

Lay a towel down on your bed. It’s far easier to clean than having to change the sheets. Strongly suggest against white towels here.

 

Intimacy

Above any of the below options the easiest, and possibly nicest, is simply to be intimate together. Kisses, cuddling, hand grips of wanton lust, even dry humping through clothes, are all amazing choices to kick things off with, or even be the all and everything. Sex doesn’t necessitate penetration, nor should it be the end all and be all of sexual activity.

 

Handiwork

Hands can touch, tickle and stroke every inch of a body. Gentle strokes along a back, a heavy hand gripping hips, not to forget breasts and their wondrous punctuation, nipples. And of course, the clitoris. Educate yourself by checking out the biology of a woman’s sexual organs, and you’ll find that the clitoris (the external part) is miles from her vaginal opening. Keep your focus here, she’ll probably prefer it anyway.

 

Oral Sex

Cunnilingus is always on the table. Even at ‘that time of the month’. As mentioned above, the clitoris is a perfectly safe distance from any possible flow. You could even relish her labia majora, her outer lips, or should you both feel comfortable enough, even her inner lips, the labia minora.

Listen to her directions, if you can hear through her thighs pressed against your ears. Devour her, savour her, let her know you’re man enough to handle a little potential blood. Worship all that a woman is and let her know how amazing and gorgeous she is to you, with nothing but your tongue.

 

Penetrative Sex

A period most definitely doesn’t mean that penetrative sex is off the table. It just takes a little preparation. Both of you shower beforehand, lay down a towel, and enjoy the extra lubrication nature has provided this week.

If the bleeding really is a concern for either of you, there are heaps of ways around this. The most common one is to keep sex within the constrains of a shower. Shower sex is great as the clean up is far easier, regardless of the time of month, and that rushing water is such an aphrodesiac.

However if having sex in the shower, make sure you use silicone based lube, as it’s far more resistant to washing away. Look to fantastic brands like Super Slyde or Pjur Original.  Somehow, despite all that water, shower sex can really dry a vagina out, so lube is always a great idea.

To avoid being one of the nearly quarter million Americans admitted to emergency every year from falling in the shower, maybe invest in some Sex In The Shower suction cup handles and footrests. Nothing will kill the mood quicker than a concussion. Trust me.

If you much prefer to lay down in your bed for sex, as mentioned above, a non white towel will be your best friend. On top of this, you could look at wearing a sponge. Working women live by them so they can work all month long, and given the texture of a sponge, most people would never suspect that one is being worn.

Condoms should always be used to prevent the spread of STIs, especially since a menstruating woman is more susceptible to STIs, but if the man is wearing one simply to not get blood on his penis, it offers no protection from the blood that absolutely will gather on his scrotum.

It should also be noted that period sex should not be used as contraception. Sperm can live for up to five days inside of the uterus, and should you have light periods or have intercourse towards the end of your cycle, it is still possible to fall pregnant.

 

Solo Play

As mentioned above, the clitoris and labia are all fair game during menstruation. Using an insertable sex toy also follows along previous guides. If looking for self love in the shower, look no further than a completely waterproof and submersible toy like the Fun Factory Stronic G. Although if you’re going to use a good quality silicone lube, look towards a 100% silicone toy by Evolved or Adam & Eve, as their toys are silicone lube friendly.

In the bedroom, you can always roll a condom over your favourite insertable toy to ease cleaning. Although using an antibacterial toy cleaner will do the trick just as well, something you should be using before and after every toy use regardless of the timing.

 

Menstruation need not be the killer of a sex life. Be safe, be hygenic, and with a little preparation, you can enjoy a healthy sex life all month long.