Jerry arrived to our first sex hypnosis session looking sheepish and a bit unsure.
I ask him how he found me. “My buddy Tyson said you fixed his ED,” he said.
“We did.” I say. Jerry waits, not sure what to say next. So I help him out, asking, “What is it you’re looking for?”
Like many of us who seek help for sex-related issues, Jerry was a little uncomfortable. He told me he was looking to grow in size. His erections had been on the small side as long as he could remember.
“Now I’ve found a girl,” he says, his face lighting up. “And I wanna be bigger before we – you know.”
I nod. It’s one of the many sex issues I work with as a hypnotist. Clients come to me for many issues, but ED and enlargement are perhaps the most common.
Then Jerry asks me how it works. Like others, he wants to know if hypnosis is mind-control, or if it’s just a placebo, or if there’s any science to back it up.
It’s a common part of working with a client for the first time. Our society still has so many misconceptions about what hypnosis can do for a person. Read on to find out the truth about hypnosis for sexual healing.
Hypnosis is so much more than just a comedy routine. It’s been backed up by over 150 years of scientific study. It’s used every day to treat issues like anxiety, limiting beliefs, and yes, even intimacy issues.
So let’s break down the myths behind hypnosis for sexuality, because we all deserve the best sex life we can have.
Myth #1: Hypnosis is Mind-Control.
Forget what you think you know about hypnosis as mind control. We’ve all seen images of Cold-War agents hypnotizing people into becoming trained killers. Hypnosis, by its nature, cannot be mind control. Here’s why:
Hypnosis is a state of trance that the subject themselves creates.
Let me say that again:
The person in hypnosis creates their own hypnosis.
Hypnosis isn’t something a hypnotist DOES to someone else. Hypnosis is a state of mind that a person creates themselves. A hypnotist simply uses proven language patterns to help them get there.
Hypnosis, in many ways, is like guided meditation. Most guided meditations are in fact (unintentional) hypnosis sessions. Even the modern mindfulness movement is linked to hypnosis (https://www.psychotherapynetworker.org/blog/details/1138/what-mindfulness-and-hypnosis-have-in-common).
Like a guided meditation teacher, a hypnotist’s job is simply to use language patterns to help their clients create deep trance. Hypnosis isn’t something I do to people – it’s a state I help them access.
When someone comes to see me for intimacy issues, I’m not mind-controlling them into a better sex life. I’m getting them to a deep state where the change is easy to make, and them I’m using tools from psychology and neuroscience to help them make the change.
Like in meditation, hypnosis is all about reaching a deep level of trance. But where meditation focuses on calm and awareness, hypnosis lets people build in beneficial suggestions during that highly suggestible state.
But just because they’re suggestible, doesn’t mean they’re in danger.
Remember, the sole purpose of your unconscious mind is to keep you safe. By unconscious, I simply mean the parts of your brain you don’t consciously think about. Your unconscious regulates so much of your body, from your liver enzymes, your heart synchronizations, and yes, even your sexual response.
If your unconscious hears any suggestion during hypnosis that it disagrees with, it will wake you up. It’s working to protect you in that moment.
This is why I work with my clients before we go into hypnosis to phrase their goals in their own words. All the suggestions I give are suggestions that we have both agreed upon. Your brain won’t accept anything else.
And that’s the beauty of it. When you come to see me for sexual issues, I’m not forcing my idea of healthy sexuality on you. We work together before the session to craft the exact suggestions to give you your desired result.
Myth #2: Science has debunked hypnosis.
Time and time again, science has backed up hypnosis, and it’s time we bring it into the light. Since the 1800’s, science has actually recommended hypnosis as an effective treatment modality.
In 1892, the British Medical Association officially approved hypnosis as a treatment (https://web.wellness-institute.org/blog/does-hypnotherapy-work-the-american-medical-association-and-more-say-yes), saying it was, “effective in relieving pain, procuring sleep, and alleviating many functional ailments.”
The BMA reviewed this study in 1955 and concurred with their assesment.
The American Medical Association did the same in 1957, approving hypnosis as a treatment modality. And in 1961, the AMA’s Council on Mental Health went further, recommending all doctors and medical students undergo at least 144 hours of hypnotherapy training (https://www.rebhp.org/articles/Hypnosis-Medical-Scientific-Article.pdf).
From the American Dental Association to the British Psychological Society, and from the American Psychological Association to the National Cancer Institute, hypnosis has been a proven part of our medical establishment.
So, the question everyone asks: Will hypnosis make me a sex god?
Depends on how far you want to go.
Hypnosis is an incredible tool for changing our sexual lives. From increasing penis and breast size to overcoming impotency, from releasing frigidity to improving the quality of your orgasms, hypnosis is an exceptional tool for sexual healing. When you’re ready to make that change, consider hypnosis. It’s one of the fastest ways our bodies achieve sexual freedom.
Myth #3: Seeing a hypnotist for sexuality is dangerous.
Just like doctors, hypnotists are bound by HIPAA law. Anything you share with us during your session is covered by confidentiality.
People have this idea of hypnotists as watch-swinging creeps. They think that going to a hypnotist for sexual issues will put them at risk of something terrible.
We’ve already broken down that myth of mind control. Hypnosis is simply a tool to help people achieve rapid results. My clients feel comfortable going to urologists and acupuncturists – they’re real, everyday people. Hypnotists are the same.
In reality, hypnotists are simply everyday professionals. Some are licensed therapists. Others are dentists, doctors, and psychologists. Some, like myself, work with sexual issues to help improve people’s lives.
My clients are sometimes surprised by how normal I am. They log on for our online sessions, and they’re surprised to see me in my professional attire. It’s like part of them expected me to be shirtless, wearing a black vest and top hat.
Hypnosis isn’t a side gimmick. It’s a treatment modality that thousands rely on every year.
What many people don’t realize is that hypnotists are everywhere. Many hypnotists, like myself, prefer to see clients online. There are many benefits from this kind of practice. People can enjoy hypnosis from the comfort of their own home. Those in rural areas can access hypnosis without driving hours for a session. This flexibility helps people benefit from hypnosis across the globe.
This is the reason I see clients completely online. When I discovered just how effective hypnosis was for helping people change, I knew I had to share it with the world. Going online helps me reach people wherever they’re at. And now, this is what I do. I help people overcome sexual issues to get the most out of their life.
Now that we’ve covered what hypnosis isn’t, let’s talk about what my clients have achieved with it.
As I said, I see many men for issues around impotency. ED might seem like an embarassing issue, but it doesn’t have to be. I’ve used hypnosis in my own life to overcome my own issues around getting hard. Having ED is simply a hurdle to overcome, and it’s one that hypnosis has helped with time and time again.
Many men also ask about penis enlargement. There are ads for growth pills everywhere, but there’s very little research that any of these actually do anything. Hypnosis, on the other hand, has a long history of penis growth. Some might say that’s impossible. I’d point them to the dozens of men whom I’ve helped to achieve bigger results in the bedroom. I also tell them, if hypnosis can help cure cancer, why on earth wouldn’t it be able to make your dick bigger?
Sex hypnosis isn’t just limited to the guys, though. Women often come in for breast or buttocks enlargement. Everyone wants to look sexy, and hypnosis is an incredibly easy way to do it.
I also see women who want to overcome fears they’ve had of intimacy in the past. Hypnosis is excellent for this. Even outside of sexuality, hypnosis is often used to change past memories and build in new resources. By changing memories of past sexual encounters, we’re able to break up that mental block to give them sexual freedom.
Sexual hypnosis isn’t just limited to the gender binary, either. The LGBTQ+ community often sees the greatest results from sexual hypnosis. Some come to see me to change the hormones their body naturally creates. Some come because they want their body to grow in places they’re not biologically wired for. Some simply work with me because they want to be comfortable in their own skin.
Whatever the case, hypnosis is a powerful treatment modality that shouldn’t be overlooked for sexual issues. It’s effective, affordable, and simple to do.
That’s the truth that Jerry came to discover. I got a message from him a few weeks after our session. He’d been measuring himself in the bathroom every night, and in just a few weeks, he was already a full inch longer.
“My girlfriend’s been enjoying it too,” he wrote. I can only imagine his sly grin.
Hypnosis doesn’t just have to be a comedy show or sex kink. It’s a science-backed tool to make powerful breakthroughs in our lives. If you’ve tried everything else, and you’re still searching for a solution, consider hypnosis. There’s nothing quite like it for making rapid sexual change. When you’re truly ready to step into an awesome sex life, hypnosis can help you get there. So the question becomes – what’s stopping you from achieving your best sex life with hypnosis?
With many years as a consulting hypnotherapist and over a decade of being an educator Doug Sands is the Consulting Hypnotist at Anywhere Hypnosis
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