Rewiring Our Brains Out of Intimacy Issues

Sex Hypnotherapy

Jerry arrived to our first sex hypnosis session looking sheepish and a bit unsure.

I ask him how he found me. “My buddy Tyson said you fixed his ED,” he said.

“We did.” I say. Jerry waits, not sure what to say next. So I help him out, asking, “What is it you’re looking for?”

Like many of us who seek help for sex-related issues, Jerry was a little uncomfortable. He told me he was looking to grow in size. His erections had been on the small side as long as he could remember.

“Now I’ve found a girl,” he says, his face lighting up. “And I wanna be bigger before we – you know.”

I nod. It’s one of the many sex issues I work with as a hypnotist. Clients come to me for many issues, but ED and enlargement are perhaps the most common.

Then Jerry asks me how it works. Like others, he wants to know if hypnosis is mind-control, or if it’s just a placebo, or if there’s any science to back it up.

It’s a common part of working with a client for the first time. Our society still has so many misconceptions about what hypnosis can do for a person. Read on to find out the truth about hypnosis for sexual healing.

Hypnosis is so much more than just a comedy routine. It’s been backed up by over 150 years of scientific study. It’s used every day to treat issues like anxiety, limiting beliefs, and yes, even intimacy issues.

So let’s break down the myths behind hypnosis for sexuality, because we all deserve the best sex life we can have.

 

 

Myth #1: Hypnosis is Mind-Control.

Forget what you think you know about hypnosis as mind control. We’ve all seen images of Cold-War agents hypnotizing people into becoming trained killers. Hypnosis, by its nature, cannot be mind control. Here’s why:

Hypnosis is a state of trance that the subject themselves creates.

Let me say that again:

The person in hypnosis creates their own hypnosis.

Hypnosis isn’t something a hypnotist DOES to someone else. Hypnosis is a state of mind that a person creates themselves. A hypnotist simply uses proven language patterns to help them get there.

Hypnosis, in many ways, is like guided meditation. Most guided meditations are in fact (unintentional) hypnosis sessions. Even the modern mindfulness movement is linked to hypnosis (https://www.psychotherapynetworker.org/blog/details/1138/what-mindfulness-and-hypnosis-have-in-common).

Like a guided meditation teacher, a hypnotist’s job is simply to use language patterns to help their clients create deep trance. Hypnosis isn’t something I do to people – it’s a state I help them access.

When someone comes to see me for intimacy issues, I’m not mind-controlling them into a better sex life. I’m getting them to a deep state where the change is easy to make, and them I’m using tools from psychology and neuroscience to help them make the change.

Like in meditation, hypnosis is all about reaching a deep level of trance. But where meditation focuses on calm and awareness, hypnosis lets people build in beneficial suggestions during that highly suggestible state.

But just because they’re suggestible, doesn’t mean they’re in danger.

Remember, the sole purpose of your unconscious mind is to keep you safe. By unconscious, I simply mean the parts of your brain you don’t consciously think about. Your unconscious regulates so much of your body, from your liver enzymes, your heart synchronizations, and yes, even your sexual response.

If your unconscious hears any suggestion during hypnosis that it disagrees with, it will wake you up. It’s working to protect you in that moment.

This is why I work with my clients before we go into hypnosis to phrase their goals in their own words. All the suggestions I give are suggestions that we have both agreed upon. Your brain won’t accept anything else.

And that’s the beauty of it. When you come to see me for sexual issues, I’m not forcing my idea of healthy sexuality on you. We work together before the session to craft the exact suggestions to give you your desired result.

 

Myth #2: Science has debunked hypnosis.

Time and time again, science has backed up hypnosis, and it’s time we bring it into the light. Since the 1800’s, science has actually recommended hypnosis as an effective treatment modality.

In 1892, the British Medical Association officially approved hypnosis as a treatment (https://web.wellness-institute.org/blog/does-hypnotherapy-work-the-american-medical-association-and-more-say-yes), saying it was, “effective in relieving pain, procuring sleep, and alleviating many functional ailments.”

The BMA reviewed this study in 1955 and concurred with their assesment.

The American Medical Association did the same in 1957, approving hypnosis as a treatment modality. And in 1961, the AMA’s Council on Mental Health went further, recommending all doctors and medical students undergo at least 144 hours of hypnotherapy training (https://www.rebhp.org/articles/Hypnosis-Medical-Scientific-Article.pdf).

From the American Dental Association to the British Psychological Society, and from the American Psychological Association to the National Cancer Institute, hypnosis has been a proven part of our medical establishment.

So, the question everyone asks: Will hypnosis make me a sex god?

Depends on how far you want to go.

Hypnosis is an incredible tool for changing our sexual lives. From increasing penis and breast size to overcoming impotency, from releasing frigidity to improving the quality of your orgasms, hypnosis is an exceptional tool for sexual healing. When you’re ready to make that change, consider hypnosis. It’s one of the fastest ways our bodies achieve sexual freedom.

 

 

Myth #3: Seeing a hypnotist for sexuality is dangerous.

Just like doctors, hypnotists are bound by HIPAA law. Anything you share with us during your session is covered by confidentiality.

People have this idea of hypnotists as watch-swinging creeps. They think that going to a hypnotist for sexual issues will put them at risk of something terrible.

We’ve already broken down that myth of mind control. Hypnosis is simply a tool to help people achieve rapid results. My clients feel comfortable going to urologists and acupuncturists – they’re real, everyday people. Hypnotists are the same.

In reality, hypnotists are simply everyday professionals. Some are licensed therapists. Others are dentists, doctors, and psychologists. Some, like myself, work with sexual issues to help improve people’s lives.

My clients are sometimes surprised by how normal I am. They log on for our online sessions, and they’re surprised to see me in my professional attire. It’s like part of them expected me to be shirtless, wearing a black vest and top hat.

Hypnosis isn’t a side gimmick. It’s a treatment modality that thousands rely on every year.

What many people don’t realize is that hypnotists are everywhere. Many hypnotists, like myself, prefer to see clients online. There are many benefits from this kind of practice. People can enjoy hypnosis from the comfort of their own home. Those in rural areas can access hypnosis without driving hours for a session. This flexibility helps people benefit from hypnosis across the globe.

This is the reason I see clients completely online. When I discovered just how effective hypnosis was for helping people change, I knew I had to share it with the world. Going online helps me reach people wherever they’re at. And now, this is what I do. I help people overcome sexual issues to get the most out of their life.

 

Now that we’ve covered what hypnosis isn’t, let’s talk about what my clients have achieved with it.

As I said, I see many men for issues around impotency. ED might seem like an embarassing issue, but it doesn’t have to be. I’ve used hypnosis in my own life to overcome my own issues around getting hard. Having ED is simply a hurdle to overcome, and it’s one that hypnosis has helped with time and time again.

Many men also ask about penis enlargement. There are ads for growth pills everywhere, but there’s very little research that any of these actually do anything. Hypnosis, on the other hand, has a long history of penis growth. Some might say that’s impossible. I’d point them to the dozens of men whom I’ve helped to achieve bigger results in the bedroom. I also tell them, if hypnosis can help cure cancer, why on earth wouldn’t it be able to make your dick bigger?

Sex hypnosis isn’t just limited to the guys, though. Women often come in for breast or buttocks enlargement. Everyone wants to look sexy, and hypnosis is an incredibly easy way to do it.

I also see women who want to overcome fears they’ve had of intimacy in the past. Hypnosis is excellent for this. Even outside of sexuality, hypnosis is often used to change past memories and build in new resources. By changing memories of past sexual encounters, we’re able to break up that mental block to give them sexual freedom.

Sexual hypnosis isn’t just limited to the gender binary, either. The LGBTQ+ community often sees the greatest results from sexual hypnosis. Some come to see me to change the hormones their body naturally creates. Some come because they want their body to grow in places they’re not biologically wired for. Some simply work with me because they want to be comfortable in their own skin.

Whatever the case, hypnosis is a powerful treatment modality that shouldn’t be overlooked for sexual issues. It’s effective, affordable, and simple to do.

That’s the truth that Jerry came to discover. I got a message from him a few weeks after our session. He’d been measuring himself in the bathroom every night, and in just a few weeks, he was already a full inch longer.

“My girlfriend’s been enjoying it too,” he wrote. I can only imagine his sly grin.

Hypnosis doesn’t just have to be a comedy show or sex kink. It’s a science-backed tool to make powerful breakthroughs in our lives. If you’ve tried everything else, and you’re still searching for a solution, consider hypnosis. There’s nothing quite like it for making rapid sexual change. When you’re truly ready to step into an awesome sex life, hypnosis can help you get there. So the question becomes – what’s stopping you from achieving your best sex life with hypnosis?

 

With many years as a consulting hypnotherapist and over a decade of being an educator Doug Sands is the Consulting Hypnotist at Anywhere Hypnosis

What Lingerie to Wear on the First Date

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The first date is always an exciting moment because you don’t know what your partner will be in real life. Photos on dating websites may not always correspond to reality. But what if the guy you met on Snapsext or another website is really handsome, and you want to be 100% sure of your attractiveness? Then you should put on beautiful underwear to feel protected and ready for any situation. Let’s figure out what lingerie to wear on the first date.

Spend At Least 10 Mins Picking Out Sexy Lingerie

Many girls can spend several hours looking for the perfect lingerie and end up choosing the bras and panties they see in their wardrobe for the first time. This is fundamentally the wrong approach. As a rule, 10 minutes is enough to choose underwear if the wardrobe is clearly structured. You should pick up a certain number of bras and panties sets before getting ready for your date. This will reduce the selection time to 10 minutes, and you can quickly dress up to surprise your future partner.

Don’t Wear A Boring Bra

Even if you are not going to undress on the first date, you need to wear exactly the lingerie that matches your image and emphasizes your sexuality. It will give you confidence and a sense of desire. Forget about those lingerie sets that you wear in everyday situations. It is unacceptable. You will be much more psychologically comfortable if you wear lace lingerie or other sexual elements to make you irresistible. Even if he does not see it in the evening, he will definitely distinguish the outlines of the lace bra.

Avoid Panty Lines Under Tight Dresses

Undoubtedly the subtle silhouette of the lingerie adds sexuality to your image. But your future partner is unlikely to appreciate the panties that clearly stand out against the background of tight leggings or jeans. If in the early nineties it was considered sexy, now it is inappropriate and even a little vulgar. Even if you are a very frank girl and love and wear some tight thongs or lace panties that will only slightly stand out against the background of outerwear, then you will be really sexy, and your image will not be vulgar.

Express Your Love For Lace

If you cannot choose which lingerie to wear, you should pay attention to lace bras and panties. It is a safe bet that always fits perfectly and allows you to create a sexy look. You will be able to feel stunning and surprise your future partner. This is a great option for a first date because you will look really sexy.

Wear Colors That Pep Up Your Mood

The first thing you need to know is that your lingerie should not look contrasting against outerwear’s background. The rest of the color and style depends on your taste preferences. It is best if you choose those colors that emphasize your mood and make you happier. Then you will feel more confident in choosing an outfit for an evening date. This will be noticed by your Partner, who will pay you more signs of attention.

Do Not Compromise On Fit

Even the sexiest underwear can look out of place if you choose the wrong size. Tight panties or bras will be a real torture for you during a date. Imagine your partner’s surprise when he sees how constantly scratching and adjusting his panties. It will look at least strange and wild. You should spend some time and choose the lingerie that is really comfortable for you only then will you feel more confident and spend a few hours as comfortable as possible.

Don’t Be Afraid To Experiment With Lingerie

Experimentation lifts the mood of any girl. Even if you have chosen the perfect set of lingerie, this does not mean that you cannot combine it with other options. It will be best if you try to pick up panties and bras from different sets. Maybe you like some new elements or push-up effects. Then you can surprise and seduce your partner on the first date. All this will make you more self-confident and more comfortable.

Match Your Panty With Your Bra As Often As You Can

Even if you are not planning an intimate evening, you should always choose a set of women’s underwear or the most similar items to not feel uncomfortable if you still have to undress. You can choose a great set of panties and combine them with several options that you like the most. Then you will not have any discomfort.

These are general tips that will come in handy for any girl. No matter what, you can ignore them or listen to each point. Nevertheless, this is what really works and will make you look irresistible on the first date. Every girl wants to feel comfortable and sexy, which is easy to achieve with the right lingerie. Combine and experiment to produce a stunning effect on your partner.

The Psychology Behind Human Puppy Play

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Puppy play is a sexual practice where human participants take on the role of dogs. Generally, this activity seeks the achievement of sexual satisfaction through submissive/dominant interactions, where an adult adopts the behavior and appearance of a pup and the second adult takes on the persona of a dominant master. While the activity is most specifically referred to a type of a sex game within a couple, there are also group activities with the participation of more pups and a handler, a single pup and multiple handlers, or just a pack of dogs. The practice evolved over the time from an intimate role play between two people to a community phenomenon that is said to foster social interaction and help people relax by escaping the daily responsibility of adult life. In some cases, puppy play does not involve any sexual activity.

What motivates people to engage in puppy play?

People engage in puppy play for several reasons. Studies conducted on puppy play enthusiasts revealed 5 aspects that motivate humans to participate in such an activity. These aspects include:

1. Sexual pleasure

Many people engage in puppy play for receiving sexual pleasure. While some participants associate puppy play with a prelude before physical intercourse, other consider it a direct source of sexual pleasure. The sexual pleasure is generated by the dominant or submissive role that the participant takes on during the scene. For pups, being physically and emotionally obedient to a powerful handler can stimulate their sexual desire and make them feel wanted.

From the handler’s point of view, the fact of gaining full control over the body of the submissive element can be a determinant source of sexual arousal. Being on four legs, the pup exposes intimate parts that facilitate the development of a dominant sexuality for the handler. It can be the exposure of genitals that works as an invitation to the master to begin penetration. To increase the submissive sexuality and make the handler more aroused, many participants use plug-ins and other insertion devices along with straps around the waist and neck.

2. Relaxation

For many participants, puppy play is a source of relaxation. They deem this practice an efficient way to escape the daily responsibilities of adult life. By taking the role of a pup, people escape the adult inside them that comes along with stress and strains at work and personal life, and adopt instead a sort of childish exuberance where they are not burdened with duties and are free to do anything they want without being judged for doing something inappropriate for adults.

3. Playful physicality

Puppy play is not only a psychological element, but it also has to do with fighting your body inhibitions. The participants can engage in puppy-like activities that help them escape their own body and get a better sense of their physical appearance. Running on four legs around the house, rolling the ball with the nose, jumping for joy, spinning crazily in circles and playing rough with other pups as well as other playful activities allow you escape to another setting where, you do not have to behave in a way that it is socially acceptable for an adult.

4. Expressing self-hood

Another factor that motivates people to engage in puppy play is getting a better understanding of who they are and working on developing new personality traits. By playing dumb as a dog, people can see how far they can reach while escaping the boundaries of socially acceptable behavior, testing, in a way, their ability to do crazy stuff. For shy and reserved participants, this practice gives them the chance to learn being more confident and bold in their actions.

Those that take on the role of handler can develop their ability of taking care of others and being responsible for someone’s safety, as they have to keep an eye out for the pups, feed them, rub them and so on. This is especially recommended for selfish people who want to stop being so self-centered.

5. Promoting social interaction

Puppy play helps also create a sense of community, by providing positive interactions between participants. Joyful group activities with the ball and other toys as well as rough-and-tumble play with other dogs allow create strong friendship ties that will be later applied in real life after the scene is over.

7 Things You Need To Know About the Online Sex Toy Industry

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There’s never been a better time to start playing with sex toys. By now, old taboos regarding sexuality and its exploration are almost completely gone. Sex toys are just as common as online dating these days, so there’s nothing to be ashamed of.

 

However, sex toys are nothing new really, it’s just the perception of them that’s changing. Ancient Greeks used what were basically dildo breadsticks (olisbokollikes) to have some naughty fun. At several points in history, vibrators were even used as a cure for hysteria or to relieve muscle pain. 

 

They were one of the first domestic appliances to be electrified. Of course, discretion dictated they be called “personal massagers.” There are plenty of other interesting facts regarding sex toys that we won’t go into here, but you get the idea. Exploring your sexuality with sex toys dates much further back than society dares to admit.

 

As we’ve already said, old taboos are almost completely gone, meaning some of the stigmas still remain. However, as time passes, people seem more and more willing to reject taboos and be more open-minded about the self and the world. 

 

The same goes for the sex toy industry, which has been largely destigmatized. That has led to immense profit for businesses whose goal is to provide the tools necessary for total sexual liberation. Here are seven facts about the online sex toy industry to help you understand it better.

Fact 1 – Everyone Plays in Some Manner

 

Or almost everyone. While sex-related taboos are slowly but surely disappearing, many people still prefer not to talk about their sex toy experiences. Whether it’s due to leftover social stigma or fear of ridicule, it’s hard to say. But the truth is that using sex toys is still not discussed openly enough. (At least not in front of friends and family.)

 

However, regardless of what people claim (or not), the sales numbers don’t lie. Sex toy industry rakes in a whopping $15 billion annually in the US alone. Estimates claim that this market segment will surpass $50 billion by 2020.

 

If the sales figures and projections don’t convince you, this might — 44% of women between the ages of eighteen and sixty have used a sex toy at least once. Most of them were in a relationship at the time, which just goes to show how pervasive sex toys are. Married women are especially likely to introduce toys into their sex life.

 

It’s not just women, though — 42% of men admit to buying a sex toy at one point or another. However, sex toys for men are still somewhat taboo, at least more so than toys for women. That’s why 70% of men say they’d like to be able to buy toys without embarrassment. Whatever society thinks, though, won’t change the fact that the famous Fleshlight sold 400,000 units in 2016. 

 

What all this shows is that more or less everyone plays with sex toys. People enjoy and will keep enjoying sex toys regardless of how much stigma there is.

 

Fact 2 – Do-it-yourself Sex Toys Are a Definite Thing

 

So what happens when people don’t have access to sex toys? They begin to sexualize common household objects, of course. This just shows how strong our urge to explore our own sexuality is.

 

Now, there’s a world of pleasure to be derived from objects found around the house. No one can deny that. Electric toothbrushes, cucumbers, ice cubes, bathtub faucets, belts, and pearl necklaces are only some of the most popular household toys. Don’t forget that there’s plenty of fetishes out there, and different items around the house satisfy various needs.

 

But there’s also no denying that nothing is as safe and valuable as professionally-made sex toys. Non-porous materials such as silicone are far safer and less bacteria-ridden than food or wood. That’s why do-it-yourself sex toys are the real deal, and why you can buy a kit to make your own. Do-it-yourself vibrators are more common than ever, so it might be the right time to brainstorm some cool designs.

 

Fact 3 – Not All Sex Toys Are Made Equal

 

Some go into your vagina, others into your anus. Some you’ll penetrate, and some will penetrate you. But that’s not where the differences between various sex toys end.

 

One of the most important considerations, and quite a serious one at that, is the material the toy is made out of. Indeed, not all sex toys are made equal, and you should know what to avoid.

 

At the top of the list of materials to avoid is jelly. Jelly sex toys contain phthalates in an excessive amount, which is potentially hazardous for your health. Phthalates are chemical compounds that give sex toys (and various other commodities) their flexibility. However, they’re highly toxic and can lead to sterility and even cancer.

 

Jelly is smooth, bendable, and incredibly cheap to make or buy. For the reasons above, however, you must make sure to ask about phthalates before buying.

 

Plastic sex toys are almost as cheap but without the phthalates. That doesn’t mean you shouldn’t check if there aren’t any, though. 

 

The point of plastic is to be hard, rigid, and easy to clean afterward. All of that makes it a perfect material for vibrators.

 

Next up is silicone, the current sex toy industry standard. Softer than plastic, non-porous (unlike jelly), and highly durable, silicone sex toys are a safe bet. Stick to water-based lubricants to avoid damage to your silicone sex toy, and it might even last a lifetime.

 

Glass and metal are top-notch sex toy materials, perfect for temperature play. They also look far more elegant and stylish than all the others and are completely tasteless and odorless.

 

As you can see, you have plenty of choices when it comes to sex toys. It’s crucial to make an informed decision to avoid phthalates, but other than that, everything goes.

 

Fact 4 – Competition Drives Innovation

 

Where there’s money, there’s also competition, and we’ve already established that the sex toy industry is a booming one. It’s also very fierce competition at that, and one that customers are benefiting the most from.

 

As with any other industry out there, competition breeds innovation. And innovation in the sex toy industry has been marvelous indeed. We’ve come a long way from basic, manually-operated tools to intelligent sex robots. Imagine having a sex toy that has the capacity to listen to your body and deliver just the right kind of pleasure.

 

However, the competition and advances in tech should not discourage you from trying your hand at making sex toys. There’s plenty of room to make a business out of it and prosper. A lot of people are looking for the next best design or a unique sex toy to try out. There are already more than hundreds, if not thousands, of custom dildo designs out there, so why not make one yourself?

 

What awaits us in the future of this industry? We already have the kinds of sex toys that were unimaginable only decades ago. Who knows, you might be the brain behind the next Fleshlight!

 

Fact 5 – Sex Toy Shops Are Embracing Uniqueness

 

With almost all stigma gone, there’s nothing stopping sex toy businesses from becoming reputable brands with loyal customer bases. Sex toy shops are embracing that which makes them stand out and relying on their uniqueness.

 

That means that sex toy shops are on equal footing with other businesses, regardless of what they do. Just like any other business, sex toy shops can now take up a unique identity of their own and use it to gain traction among customers.

 

For example, take a look at Bad Dragon — it’s all about incredible, unique designs and textures that add an artistic touch to your sex toy adventure. Its toys even have cum holes! As for ElectraStim, it’s all in the name. This company’s products focus on electro-stimulation to give you the ride of your life.

 

Medical Toys makes “playing doctor” an adult-only activity. Kitten Cream features butt plugs with furry tails — you even get ears for increased roleplay value. As for the Twisted Monk… well, we hope you’re into bondage.

 

Each and every one of these sex toy stores has taken on an identity that attracts specific customers. That’s just an example of all that’s going on in the sex toy industry —  there’s plenty more to come.

 

Fact 6 – Successful Online Sex Toy Shops Are Titans of the Industry

 

Sex toy stores have been dominating the market for a long time, that is until the advent of the internet. Unfortunately for them, they can’t hold a candle to successful online sex toy shops. Online sex toy shops have the ability to reach audiences like never before, and far more discreetly.

 

If you’re new to the sex toy scene and are wondering who those titans are, you need not look further. Here are some of the biggest players in the sex toy industry with an online presence:

 

  • SheVibe
  • The Pleasure Chest
  • Good Vibrations
  • Smitten Kitten
  • Babeland
  • LoveHoney
  • Lelo
  • Lovense
  • Amazon
  • Geeky Sex Toys
  • Etsy.

 

Even if you’re not a user of sex toys, you probably know of Amazon or Etsy at least. It just shows how profitable the sex toy market is when giants such as Amazon have taken notice.

 

The rest of the online sex toy shops on the list are all worth exploring. Each of them has some unique and interesting products to browse. 

 

Fact 7 – The Sex Toy Industry Shows No Signs of Slowing Down

 

As we’ve previously mentioned, the online business format has done wonders for the sex toy industry. There have never been more websites that serve every sexual fetish and every niche desire people might have. Sexual exploration and experimentation have never been easier and more readily available. Don’t expect this train to slow down any time soon.

 

What’s even better is that the sex toy industry has an interesting ability to outlive harsh economic conditions. No matter how hard life is at any given moment, people find ways to have some naughty sex. And now, there will always be companies that are willing to provide the tools that make it so naughty.

 

Conclusion

 

The sex toy industry has gone through an incredible boom, and it has no intention of slowing down. What’s even more impressive, besides the enormous effect it’s had on the economy, is the sexual revolution that this industry enables. Now more than ever, sex toys are paving the way to greater personal sexual liberation and awareness.

 

And that’s exactly what we need as a society. We need individuals who are not ashamed of who they are or what their sexual preferences entail. Explore your literal and metaphorical depths without fear or shame or doubt. We’re all human and we’re naturally very, very, curious.

How to make masturbation even better

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Let’s not even try to pretend that we aren’t all sitting at home and masturbating our quarantine loneliness away. Admittedly, this is a great way to pass the time, especially if you’re single and alone at home right now, but what if you could make self-pleasure even better? Here we have collected a few ways on how to increase your pleasure through various means, from getting virtually realistic with VRporn to improving your techniques with online sex courses.

 

Try some new toys

 

When you masturbate, do you keep doing the same movements over and over because you know they work and you never bother to experiment? That’s a common theme, but you never know what you might like until you actually try it! 

 

Sex toys have been a blessing in the modern world, but there are so many to choose from that it can get a little overwhelming so we just stick to that one vibrator we’ve had for the last 10 years and never try anything new. 

 

If that’s the case, you’ve really been missing out! Maybe you’re the type of person who can only orgasm vaginally but never actually used a dildo, or what if you can feel 10x more if you combine anal play with your clitoral vibrator but you’ve never even thought of trying that? So why not browse for some new toys and have a little fun, it won’t hurt to try (unless you want it to, of course!). 

 

Get realistic with VR porn

 

Porn is a great way to get yourself in the mood for masturbation and now during lockdown, visits to porn websites have increased substantially! Now we’re sure you’ve seen it all before, but have you ever tried virtual reality porn

 

Yes, you do need a gadget in order to watch VR porn, but you can get really cheap ones like the Google Cardboard and trust us, it’s really worth the investment! Have you ever been on a virtual reality roller coaster ride? Even though you know you’re not actually moving, you still feel like you are and it really gives you an adrenaline rush because your brain can’t tell the difference. Same with VR porn, it will feel like you’re actually there and with the help of some sex toys, this is as close to real sex as it gets right now and it’s highly interactive. 

 

Explore your sexuality and improve your skills

 

You certainly don’t need a partner to experience sexual pleasure, so don’t hold back! Explore your own sexuality in any way you like, without fear or judgement. If you don’t know what you like and don’t like, then how is your partner supposed to know? Often we just expect the other person to do all the work, but it’s time to take your sexuality into your own hands (literally!). 

 

Not sure where to start? There are lots of amazing sex classes that can help you, whether online or in-person. Many people live a life disconnected from their sex organs. This disconnect results in numbness, which is one of the main reasons why people don’t feel pleasure and don’t feel satisfied with their sex life. The majority of people simply don’t know how to change their situation, and so they end up giving up on their pleasure altogether. By getting some guidance, you can reconnect with yourself as well as discover some new techniques that you may not have considered before. What you discover may also help you in your future relationships too, and not just in solo-play.

 

Change the mood

 

Why not treat yourself? Set aside 1-2 hours of self-pleasure time one evening and become present with yourself. Turn off your phone and just dedicate this time to self-pleasure. If you’ve never done this before, it can really be a game-changer. Dim the lights, light some candles, put on your favourite music and dive deep into slow and sensual pleasure. 

 

Not in a romantic mood? Then take out your black light, throw on some neon colours and do a sexy striptease for yourself in the mirror! Don’t forget to turn your camera on…

 

Or get some rope and tie yourself up to the bed. Why keep all the good stuff for when you’re having sex with your partner when you can do it all on your own too?

 

Involve other people

 

Masturbation doesn’t mean you have to be alone. If you have a partner, try involving them. You may both get a lot of pleasure either from participating in the action or just observing from a distance. 

 

Are you in a long-distance relationship? Try guiding each other over the phone or via video chat. Give them something to look forward to when you next see them!