Experts Tips In Breaking The Fear Bubble In Trying Anal Sex For The First Time

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Whenever sex topics are talked about, almost everyone is willing to share their first time in bed. However, take in mind that most people often refer to vagina and penis penetration. For some, anal play or anal sex is still taboo, and only a few individuals are open with their anal play engagement.

 

But did you know that heterosexual anal intercourse is not an uncommon sexual activity? Women and men with ages ranging from 25-44 had experienced anal intercourse. In numbers, 35% of women and 44% of men engage with the said activity.

 

Yet, even with the numbers are increasing over recent years, some are still afraid of trying anal play for the first time. A lot of speculation and fears lead them to overthink how the entire experience will go. If you’re reading this, you might be interested in anal sex. Read on and let the experts clear your thoughts about anal sex. Maybe, after reading the article, you might find yourself relieved and excited to try it out with your partner.

Anal Sex Is For All

Contrary to what you hear or think, anal sex is definitely for everyone. Whatever gender orientation you have, you can enjoy anal sex with your partner. And one good thing with anal play is everyone has anuses, so you can either receive or get one, depending on your heart’s content.

 

You might be wondering how a woman can treat her partner (women to women or women to men scenario) during an anal play. You might be thinking that it’s kind of impossible before. However, these days, it’s easier than ever.

 

Thanks to many types of sex toys, it can now be done. Popularly referred to as pegging,  women can now treat their partners, either men or women, with an anal play through this sexual activity. Women can wear a strap-on dildo and penetrate the anus of their partners.

 

What’s even better is that the entire anal play can be improvised to add intensity to the experience using other sex toys. Moreover, couples can also share stimulation by using a strapless dildo. With this, the female partner can have her clit stimulated while pouncing her partner through their anus.

 

But all of these strange yet sexy sexual repertoire might come off a bit awkward for beginners, and we would like to break that awkwardness. Now, let’s read on what sex and relationship experts have to say about how a couple or an individual can break through the fear of anal sex.

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According to sex educator and CannaSexual founder, Ashley Manta, our anus, made up of the sphincter and the rectum, are teeming with nerve-endings that, when stretched and filled in, give off a fantastic feeling. Feeling ecstatic yet? Hold on for a while. As per Luna Matatas, a sex and pleasure educator, you can’t directly dive into the whole anal play right away. Foreplay is a must.

 

That’s why treating your partner with a pleasure oral sex stimulator and other sex toys can be a great way to heat things up. It’s best to go slow and steady first. However, if you and your partner are already utilizing sex toys during intercourse, it can be a good start to introduce sex toys designed for anal play.

 

Certified sex therapist and a licensed psychologist, Rachel Needle, Psy.D  advise couples to always communicate with their partner. If your partner is having fears and doubt with anal sex, try to take things slowly. If you’re on the side of the relationship who does have more experience, discuss this new sexual activity and make sure both of you are on the same page.

 

Use lubricant as more lubrication means better and enjoyable anal sex. Remember that unlike the vagina, the anus doesn’t produce its lubrication. That’s why many women are naturally scared of what’s getting in there. You can also use water or silicone-based condoms.

 

Don’t hesitate to use anal sex toys. It’s highly suggested, and you don’t necessarily need to insert it to your anus right away. A little vibration can add a lot of new stimulation in the area. It can help you get acquainted with the new and strange sensation, as per sexologist Jill McDevitt.

 

Like masturbation, you can also introduce anal play on your own. This is best advised for individuals interested in trying new things on their own before trying it with someone else. It gives an individual a sense of freedom-, the liberty to experiment with new things on your body.  According to Alicia Sinclair, a sex expert and the woman behind b-Vibe,  that’s not a bad thing to do. It’s only natural that you want to explore the intricacies of your body by yourself.

 

Learn your most comfortable position. Whatever you read on any sex magazines or hear advice from friends, you always need to learn what position you and your partner are most comfortable with. If you are on the receiving end, it’s easiest to be on your back or stomach. Take it from Dr. Zhana Vrangalova, an NYU professor of human sexuality and also a LELO sexpert. However, comfort differs from one person to another, so take the time to figure out your most preferred position.

 

And to give you peace of mind, anal sex won’t stretch you out. If this factor scares you, don’t be. As per assistant clinical professor, Alyssa Dweck, MD at Mount Sinai School of Medicine, your anus will bounce back to normal after it accommodates a penis or sex toy entry. Thus, don’t worry about incontinence and enjoy the experience.

Takeaway

Anal sex or anal play has become a trendy sexual repertoire, so it’s not surprising that individuals and couples engaging with the activity are increasing. However, there are still individuals who are afraid of doing it. However, proper research, preparation, and communication with your partner can lead to enjoyable anal sex. These experts’ advice and tips can significantly help anyone interested in exploring their behind and enjoy the experience.

 

Author’s bio:

Belinda is a 42-year-old married mother of three who lives in Naples, Florida. While staying at home to raise her children, she began to write articles and blogs for various outlets. She was raised in a strict, Christian home, but has since found more peace with a more spiritual approach to life and health. A strong believer in natural and alternative medicine, energy healing, and total wellness, she stumbled on the health benefits of the female orgasm quite by accident. Since then, she has often written pieces that help inform others about the benefits she discovered. Belinda also enjoys taking care of her home and family, and often jokes that she is a bit of a Stepford wife… with a wild side. In her free time, she loves to spend time at the beach with her family, host parties and BBQ’s, and work outside in one of her many flower gardens.

What Are You Doing With Le Wand!

Le Wand Sex Toys

Today I will be reviewing one of the newer products that have just landed in our Oh Zone Adult Lifestyle Centres, the Le Wand Petite. If you have been in our stores or on our website before then this product may already look familiar to you. Last year Le Wand released their first wand which was a bigger version of the petite and won the Xbiz Award for the luxury brand of the year. With their luxurious packaging and gorgeous designed wand, there is no doubt as to why they are now one of the best selling wands on the market.

Le Wand Petite 

I honestly like the Petite much more than the original. I personally prefer a vibrator that isn’t a massive effort to keep a hold of, I find the bigger wands always need two hands for better control and I am not about that life. The petite fits nicely in one hand and you can still press all the buttons with that same hand. There is a plus, minus, and function button. To turn on your the Le Wand press the plus button once and to turn off hold down the minus button. By pressing the middle button you will go into function mode where you will find 6 different patterns to choose from and you can also increase and decrease the vibration patterns by playing around with your plus and minus buttons. There are 10 different speed options. Le Wand also offers a travel lock option which you can activate and deactivate by holding down your plus and minus button at the same time for 3 seconds.

Le Wand has a flexible high-grade silicone head for easy control and a nice soft touch. To clean, Le Wand recommends spaying the head with toy cleaner and either wiping it off after with a cloth or simply washing it off with some warm water. This toy is shower proof for your shower time fun but they do not say anything about it being fully submersible so I would not try using it in a bath tub unfortunately.

Wands can be used for solo or couples play. Make sure to give it a try when giving your partner a full body massage as they are great for knotted backs!

Petite has 2 color options, a metallic purple, and a beautiful rose gold.

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Le wande massager

Unboxing  The LeWand

Let me just start with the actual box itself before getting to what is inside of it. When a company puts a lot of effort into their packaging like this one does you have to acknowledge it! All of the basics that you need to know about the toy is written for you on the sides of the box. When looking at our wand wall their products stand out from the rest and that is because they have put in those extra miles to make their products unique.

Inside your box, you will find your Le Wand and its charging cord. Le Wand does not supply a wall dock but you should make sure to always use one when charging rather than using a computer. You will also find a beginners guide and a manual for your toy, which I always recommend having a read of while you’re waiting for it to charge up for the first time. It is a good thing to know all about your toys so that you get the best experience with it and know everything it has to offer. Last but not least the company also supplies a nice little carry pouch for you to store your wand in when not in use.

Charging 

Yes, this is not a corded wand like most others on the market. Unfortunately, this does mean that the toy will need a break between charges as it will not work whilst being plugged in but I think this can be a good thing because toys do need a wresting time so that you don’t end up blowing the internal motors. There aren’t any cords getting in the way during play though, so I think this is a massive positive!

Your Le Wand needs approximately 2 hours of charging for a full charge and can last up to 1 hour in play depending on the settings that you are using. When charging the lights with flash and when complete the lights will go to a still. If you are using your wand and the lights start rapidly flashing this means your toy is telling you that it needs to be charged.

Warranty 

Le Wand offers a one-year manufacturing warranty.

Extra Info

Le Wand also has attachment options that we also stock that are sold separately. They have 3 different texture sleeves that you can put over the top of the head of the wand for a different feel. There are also 2 different internal, silicone attachments for either g-spot or anal play.

Have fun and be safe ❤

Elliana

Consultant at the Oh Zone Stores

VIP Interview with b-Vibe creator Alicia Sinclair

Alicia Sinclair Portrait Photo

Alicia Sinclair is an influential woman within the adult lifestyle and sexual intimacy industry. She has been the Director of Global Sales for Baci Lingerie, the Vice President of Worldwide Sales for Jimmyjane, a Resident Sex Expert for The Womanizer and the Founder of b-Vibe. This is a VIP Interview with b-Vibe creator Alicia Sinclair and sexpert from The Adultsmart Health and Sexuality Blog, which will look into her favourite accomplishments throughout her career.

Tell me about yourself?

I have more than 15 years of experience in the Sexual Intimacy Industry. Through my extensive work in the adult space, I have led many training programs teaching people about being sex positive – an attitude towards human sexuality that regards all consensual adult sexual activities as fundamentally healthy and pleasurable, and encourages sexual pleasure and experimentation.

I am a Certified Sex Educator, Certified Sexuality Coach, and a member of the World Association of Sex Coaches. I am the instructor of the expert course “Sex Toys in Today’s Market” at Sexology University.

On a personal level, I enjoy traveling to new places, going to concerts, enjoying a glass (or two) of wine, dinner with friends and family, a nice run on the beach, cuddling with my partner and watching a movie.

What are your favourite quotes?

“In the end the love you take is equal to the love you make.”

I enjoy this quote because I believe that the amount of energy and effort a person puts into something is returned to them.

What are your favourite accomplishments?

This year I won the XBIZ Exec Award for Businesswoman of the Year.  I feel so honored to be appreciated by my peers.  Such a cool accomplishment.

What is the story behind the inspiration, creation and development of your company and product range?

I’ve been selling, marketing, and branding pleasure products for almost 15 years. I’ve visited thousands of adult stores all over the world. During my travels, I noticed that the anal play section of almost every store is the same – black products in dark packaging. I also found that there was very little innovation in the products created for anal play. Everything looked and operated in the same basic manner. This inspired me to rethink the category. My goal was to create a new, fresh approach to anal toys and to also offer exciting innovations that create a truly satisfying user experience.

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Photo: b-Vibe creator and designer Alicia Sinclair

Where is your company located?

Our office is located in New York City, which is a wonderful advantage due to the close proximity to mainstream publications and excellent adult retail boutiques.

What does your company values the most?

Our company mission is to provide sex positive education, decrease social stigmas, and elevate the anal play category.

How does your company define and measure success?

The consumer experience is extremely important to us, thus we measure success by product reviews and direct customer feedback.

What do you love most about your brand compared to other companies?

How much we care about the design of products, mission to provide sex positive education, and inclusive marketing and branding.  We are also the only company 100% dedicated to creating butt stuff.

Tell me about your product range?

We currently have four different products. They are all premium, rechargeable, remote control anal play products that arrive complete with a beautiful travel case. Each plug is geared towards a different user type.

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Sex Toy: b-Vibe Novice Fuchsia

b-Vibe Novice Plug

Our Novice Plug is a small, beginner-friendly size plug that is about the size of a finger and features a slightly tapered design. It’s an ideal product for anal play beginners because of the small size and easy to insert tip.  This plug arrives with a copy of “The Guide to Anal Play”.

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Sex Toy: b-Vibe Trio Purple

b-Vibe Trio Plug

The Trio Plug is a flexible, medium size butt plug engineered with the strength and versatility of three powerful motors.  The Trio Plug has eight levels of vibration strength and 9 vibration patterns. The versatile vibration strengths and patterns satisfy a wide range of intensity preferences and users. Choose from gentle, soft pulsations to fast, and powerful. On the highest setting, this plug feels like it is pulsing in and out.

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Sex Toy: b-Vibe Rimming Teal

b-Vibe Rimming Plug

The Rimming Plug is our most popular adult lifestyle product because it is the first, and only, butt plug to incorporate rotating beads in the neck of the plug for a “rimming” sensation, with powerful vibration in the tip of the plug. The combination of rotation at the entry to the anus and vibration of the interior anal canal results in exhilarating dual stimulation. This is a large size plug that is geared for more experienced users looking to try something totally different.

What are your best sellers?

Currently our best-selling product is our Rimming Plug.  I feel that this item sells best in our range because it’s been on the market the longest and offers a totally unique and different experience that any other butt plug on the market.

If you could pick just two pieces from your product range, what would you choose and why?

My personal favorites are the Trio Plug and the Triplet Anal Beads.  The Trio is an exceptionally strong plug, that is the perfect size for me, while I love the sensation of the removal of anal beads.  As the beads are removed, they arouse the sensitive nerve endings of the double ringed sphincter muscle. This stimulation creates a series of pleasurable sensations similar to having a muscle massaged.

What are the most memorable quotes that you have heard about your product range?

“We filled a hole in the market.”

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