Fisting!

Fisting is a sexual act often talked about as though it’s a “He who must not be named” or regarded under other categories like extreme kink or contortion-ism.  In some cases it’s even a shamed sexual practice and some countries have made it illegal to perform! At least once a week, I’ll have a customer come in and see this bad boy at the back of the sex store and say “Who the hell would want that inside of them!” or “I guess that’s more of a slutty thing.”. Please for the love of all that is sex related, can we stop slut shaming Fisting! It’s so outdated and so wrong. But hey, that’s a rant for another day! Fisting is a sexual practice which needs to be talked about pre-fist, during fist and post-fist too if it was good! It’s not something you can do without at least a little bit of preparation.

Belladonna's Fisting Sex Toy
Sex Toy: Belladonna’s Magic Hand

 

Steps to Consider When Fisting:

  1. Acquire Consent: Whilst in your mind you might picture your partner squirming in pleasure, it’s probably not the best idea to go elbow deep without at least getting the ‘Okay’ from them first. Being on the receiving end of Fisting can be quite a daunting task so make sure your partner is comfortable and ready. Maybe watch some how to video’s together first with Fisting involved to put their mind at ease. Once you’ve had the a-okay, proceed slowly. (Read below for details on how to “proceed”). It is of utmost importance in any sexual encounter to feel safe and respected within their opinion.
  2. Provide Lot’s of Time: Fisting definitely isn’t ideal if you’re hoping for a “quickie”. You need to be highly aroused and in a position where you don’t have to rush through the encounter. Rushing into a Fisting will cause extreme discomfort and maybe even physically harm the person’s body which is something I’m sure everyone wants to avoid at all costs. So just take it slowwwww. A bad fisting experience can cause someone to never want to go back. The person would rather you take safety precautions then rush into the sexual act.
  3. Preparation is Important: As previously mentioned, Fisting takes a lot of preparation. Working your way up or ‘warming up’ is the most comfortable way to begin fisting. Start by gradually increasing the amount of fingers you’re using, or use girthier and girthier sex toys. You have to do this until the person is physically and mentally prepared for the whole entire fist. Try giving the person a clitoral orgasm first. The clitoral orgasm will lead to more relaxed muscles, or if you want to save yourself, even a massage or warm bath will help your body to relax. Use tonnes of lubricant. I mean it, don’t be sparing. You want it to be as slippery as possible to make insertion as smooth and comfortable as possible. Make sure your nails are trimmed and not sharp. No one wants their internal organs scratched, especially when they’re least expecting it! Good hygiene is paramount. Make sure your nails and hands are clean. If you’re Fisting a non-fluid bonded partner, you should consider wearing latex gloves. They’re safe, and can look hot as hell.
  4. Must Have The Willingness to Admit Defeat: If you’re experiencing a lot of pain, if you feel uncomfortable or don’t feel safe you must ask your partner to stop straight away. It doesn’t matter how excited they were to do it or how excited you were to be fisted. Don’t harm yourself and don’t worry about anyone else’s feelings. It’s okay to try Fisting a few times, after all the more you try the more you’ll get used of the experience. You’ll become more and more comfortable every time. Again, it’s so important to be in a situation where you feel safe and respected.
  5. Have Fun with Fisting: Laugh together and bask in the awesomeness that the human body is. It can fit a whole god damn fist inside of it! The human body is pretty rad.

So all in all if you are an adventurous soul why not go with the flow and give fisting a go.  You never know you just might like it!!!

 

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