A Very Bad Dragon’s Oral Serving

Bad Dragon's Oral Dildo

Anyone that knows me knows that I’m a nerd and that I love dick. So it’s no surprise that I’ve had my eyes on Bad Dragon Sex Toys for a very long time. They’re a company that, from when I first noticed them several years ago, have always seemed to be spoken highly of, had a reputation among my circle of friends and when longingly looking at the products that they stocked would both inspire an awe dropping look combined with profound arousal. For whatever reason though, I kept putting it off and didn’t take the plunge – but when I was asked if I wanted to do a review on a Bad Dragon product, well the speed of which my hand shot upwards would have put The Flash to shame. So what is it about Bad Dragon?

They’re a company that has a solid base in the fantasy community. And this is a community that can amass a cult like following on a lot of things out there. From the BD website, you can read that they were founded in the late 00’s for a love of all things fantasy and through the understanding that there just wasn’t a lot of fantasy themed adult toys out there and that’s true to this day. When you’re looking at dildos and sex toys whilst there’s an overabundance of choice in toys that mimic the look of human genitalia, when it comes to something that looks a little less human or something that stands out from the crowd – there’s a lot less choice.

There was a niche that wasn’t being filled and Bad Dragon was determined to fly in to the rescue. Unlike a lot of other companies out there, Bad Dragon not only offers something that sits outside of the box, but they also offer an extensive level of customisation. So when I was offered the chance to select one I honestly did not know where to start. Not only did they all look amazing, but then they had the options of size, colour, and then firmness!  I absolutely love this attention to detail. It’s not so much of a ‘pick a cock that looks like every other cock from the wall and take it home’ kind of moment. But from start to finish, it’s like you have a direct hand in the creation of this toy, and this is something that very much reminds me of the cognitive thought processes of the ‘Ikea Effect’ – whereby individuals place a high value on things that they have partially created. It’s an amazing marketing POV and it fits right in this niche market they’re filling. Sure, the base design is something you pick – but from that moment of selecting the base design, you can take your dildo to the edges of your imagination and beyond as you customise it to your own tastes. It’s a shit load of fun. Stressful as you try and get the perfect design, but immensely fun.

Fantasy Sex Toy Tongue By Bad Dragon
Sex Toy: Winston’s Tongue

After going through endlessly on their website I ended up selecting the Winston’s Tongue. It appealed to me with its smoothness, the detailing of the jaw, the curvature and the super-hot idea of a dragon tongue on my ass. My complete order was the tongue in Small, Medium Firmness and in blue signature. I wasn’t overly sure about the firmness, and this is one of the things about ordering a toy from an online website – you’re just not always sure what to expect. So I just rolled with it.

Fast forward a week or so later and the box arrived. I was stunned with what was inside. Not only had I been sent the dildo, but I’d also been sent some Dragon Cum Lube in White, Toy Cleaner and a Key Ring. Talk about going the extra leg and really going all out and I was pleasantly surprised.

Bad Dragon’s Cum Lube

Now, before we get to the dildo, I want to talk about the Cum Lube. Because it’s just amazing and it certainly deserves a mention. Whilst I wasn’t expecting it – this is one super fun lubricant and right off the bat, I’ll admit its shot up to the top of my favourite personal lubricants. It’s hot, it’s sexy, it’s messy as all hell but it’s just so fitting.  I was in the shower when I first tried it and the toy and I had streaks of it going left, right and just all over the place. It’s exactly what you’d expect if Spiderman ejaculated into your hand a “sticky” wet mess and what amazes me most, is that its water based. I’ve hated water based lubricants and the only reason that I ever use it is for toys. I hate the smell, the tackiness and it’s just shit. This however, is durable and by the photos it seems sticky and in a way it is, but it’s not tacky. It’s slick, and stretchy and sinuous and I can’t say that I’ve ever had as much fun playing with lubricant as I did when I got my hands on this. A wet lubricant, slick and fun. If you’re considering getting a Bad Dragon dildo because you think the fantasy element is hot, then you’re going to need this Dragon Cum Lube too, because the two go together like butter on hot toast.

Fantasy Sex Toy By Bad Dragon
Sex Toy: Winston’s Tongue With Lube

What I Love About My Winston’s Tongue

Now… the tongue. I chose the tongue because it wasn’t a cock, and I was really looking for something different. This is pitched as an oral expert and a cunning linguist, and it was certainly something that I was intrigued by. I loved the look of it, the colour I chose looked amazing, and unlike a lot of the other variants – this one was smooth. I went smooth because I admit, I wasn’t sure just how the silicone was going to be, and the ribbing on the underside of the tongue looked like it was going to be fun. I have a few silicone toys and whilst some are super soft and squishy, others are hurtfully hard with prolonged use. When I got this in my hands, I was surprised at the flexibility of the toy, the softness and the way it felt. Don’t get me wrong, this tongue wasn’t a marshmallow but nor was it a solid rock and it felt good. I just love the detailing on it, despite the simplicity of it. The top of the tongue has a muscle like groove in the middle which extends towards the tip before petering out. Running your fingers along this, leaving a trail of lubricant behind and you can almost imagine that you’re stroking a tongue of some creature – it’s so cool. Even more so that when you reach the top of the tongue, that it just moves with you. On the other side, the back of the tongue has ribbing on either side of the ‘muscle’. Subtle enough to not be over the top, but not so subtle so as not to be felt. While the shaft is fairly standard, it’s the ‘housing’ of the shaft which really sets this apart in my world, for it’s a tongue, coming out of a dragons mouth. From the flared nostrils of the dragon, to the teeth on either side of the tongue – did I mention that this was hot?

Personal Lubricant With Fantasy Sex Toy By Bad Dragon
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The tongue is, in my opinion, perfectly shaped and curved. The faded blue to dark blue that I ordered simply doing its part in = making the toy look stunning. The tip on the tongue is quite thin, and very, very flexible. They’re dead right in the sense that this has been built with oral pleasures in mind. During one session I lubed up this tongue with the Cum Lube, put the tip against my body and let it ‘lick’ my thighs and worked it slowly up. Between the flexibility of the tongue, and the lubricant not only was it leaving a delightful strand of realistic looking cum that just sits against your skin – but it felt amazing. The way that the tip of the tongue is grooved like a muscle and the way it just ‘responds’ to a little pressure – well, this is fast becoming one of my most used and favourite toys.

About the author: Stephen is a consultant from Oh Zone Adult Lifestyle Centres

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Stephen is a cis-gendered gay male who spends far too much time with his two cats and eating tim tams. A self-identified sex-positive advocate he cares deeply about gender equality, disabilities, sexual education and social issues. Opinionated and bold he isn't afraid to speak his mind and say what others won't. With a yearning for knowledge and experience in all things relating to sex, he is a prolific writer that has developed the content for a myriad of informative Sexual Health and Wellness websites. Stephen's articles and writings tends to focus on social issues, sexual education, queer issues and all things fetish and absurd. He comes qualified with the completion of a double Bachelor degree in Social Sciences and literature, and a Masters in Education.

A Dildo Barking With Pleasure

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One of the things about living in Australia is that when it comes to sex niches, fetishes, and specialized sex toys – they’re difficult to find. Not only does Australia have a small population in comparison to the US and European market but our population density makes fetish play with anyone really, to be exceptionally difficult. So when I was asked if I wanted to review a dildo that had been made with the furry fetish in mind. I jumped on the opportunity.

For those familiar, or unfamiliar with the term – Furries are a sub culture within society which is often grossly misunderstood, which is a trend that continually reoccurs across a variety of different fetishes and sub communities. Part of the problem is the media representation of such groups, and the other part of the issue comes down to simply not having enough knowledge. People thereby make assumptions, in turn perpetuating a mistruth. So in that regard, this review is not just going to be about a product. But it’s going to be about a product, the importance of the product, and why it fits in within a specific community.

Firstly, let’s have a quick look at the furry culture. Furry culture as a whole is often seen as a hyper sexualised state of being whereby humans dress as anthropomorphic animals and engage in depraved sexual activities. The assumption is that furries either want to be animals or have sex with animals. Wrong. The furry world IS interested in dress ups/cosplay/acting as an anthropomorphised animal, whereby you’re giving an animal human qualities, but it’s not an inherently sexual activity. It’s about expression. It’s about identification. It’s about having fun. Most of all, however, it’s about community. It’s about letting go of yourself and embracing something different. This ‘letting go’ aspect, is something which relates to a lot of fetish communities and diverse sexual practices, and can easily be related to the concept of ‘head space’ within BDSM. The idea of letting yourself go, enjoying the moment and simply be in a state of being. So where does the sex come in?

One of the great things about the furry community is the diversity. It’s not a subculture that is limited to a specific sexuality or gender and indeed, anyone can identify as a furry. ‘Furry’ sex, whilst part of the community, isn’t ‘Furry’ at all and this is where the majority of people become confused. Furry culture specifically relates to the roleplaying as an anthropomorphised animal – it doesn’t encompass sex at all. Sex, instead comes under a sub-section of the furry community called Yiff/Yiffin/Yiffy. This is the subculture where you’ll find sexualised porn involving anime with anthropomorphised animals. Yiff porn, is quite popular and in a way related to tentacle porn – yet it often receives a bad rap for being grotesque, weird, and relating to bestiality. In short, it doesn’t. It’s simply about adopting the persona of an animal and role playing that – albeit with sexual intent.

Runt By FurryStyle
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With that in mind, I was super excited to be given the opportunity to provide an honest review on a Yiff dildo. Before we get to that, let’s ask the quick question so what makes a yiff cock? A yiff cock is generally divided into three separate parts; the shaft, the knot, and the base. A yiff cock isn’t necessarily meant to go all the way in, the knot would generally prevent the entire toy from being inserted, or if you’re capable of handling the sudden extra width, would provide that final bit of stimulation which would just make your muscles pulse (Caution is advised – don’t just rush this bit). I’m also very confident that with the right cock ring the majority can be attached to a strap on, and be used as a strap on toy as well. Which then means that the toy can be used within a role play session and used with ‘animalistic pleasure’ at a moment’s notice. If you’re looking at yiff toys, double check this. I know with my one – I could certainly do this.

Going back to my excitement, I was asked to pick a silicone toy from the Furrystyle website which is a brand that is owned by Yiffytoys. It took me ages to narrow down a specific toy that I wanted to try, because they all looked pretty awesome. In the end, I went based on size, and picked the runt which I thought would be pretty reasonable without tearing me in half. I’m really not one for overly large toys.

I sent off the request and eagerly waited for its arrival. When it arrived I tore open the box with excitement and anticipation – and I’m going to be brutally honest – I was a little disappointed. Firstly, let’s talk about the packaging. You’re in a beautifully niche market, with specialised toys and people that would be actively searching for this. I received my toy in a clear packaged bag with a small piece of cardboard attached to the top. It was bland, it was simple, and I thought it very much a wasted opportunity. Furry culture, arguably, has a history in anime and pop culture fiction and artistic works. This would be a fabulous opportunity to create a beautiful box, decorated in anime style and pop culture references that could be used as a collection piece for the toy. Not just a plastic stapled with cardboard and I thought it a wasted opportunity to really set this toy apart within the market. At the very least, the cardboard strip could be decorated or changed from the current plainness without drastically increasing costs.

The point was made that a packaging change would increase the costs of this product and that brings me to a point that I did not mention in the original review and which I’d like to point out. I do take the point that this is an extremely affordable product considering the quality of the material that they’ve used. Currently, other toys that I have cost 2-3 times more than this and the material does not feel as anywhere near as good as the silicone used on the Runt.

Secondly… the size. When I first wrote this review I had noted that there was a slight difference in the measurements between the parent company website and the FurryStyle website with one being labelled in Inches and the other in centimetres. As a result of this – *I* had made a mistake in the maths when working out the size. I fully acknowledge the mistake that I made with the initial publishing of my review and as a result of having the error pointed out to me, I have subsequently changed this paragraph. I would also note that credit must be given to the company which also noted the discrepancy I had pointed out and corrected it – immediately adjusting the sizes on their website to the decimal point, and making the measurements across the two websites to be the same to avoid the same error that I had made. There’s not a lot of companies that actively listen to their consumers and the fact that FurryStyle / YiffyToys took notice and immediately adjusted the website just demonstrates their commitment to customer service and satisfaction. When I first saw the toy I was a little worried about the smallness of the size, granted the toy is called the runt and this was a smaller than my preferred size for toys. But – despite my initial disappointment at the size I really needn’t have worried too much.

For I have to admit. It was fucking hot. Yes, I’d have loved for it to be a little thicker, but when you grip this toy between your hands and squeeze – it felt amazing. It was soft, squishy and I was still really looking forward to lubing it up and going to town. It reminded me in a way, of one of my ex’s. A delightful lad who I nicknamed rabbit – he had two speeds of thrusting; on and off. But most of all, I loved how it was different, I loved that it didn’t just look like a dick and if I’m being totally honest – there was the enjoyment of the naughty/taboo nature of it all. Sparing you all the intimate and hot details of the session – the flexibility of the shaft meant that with just a little tweaking the toy was hitting the right spots very quickly. Again, I’d have loved for it to be just a tad thicker, but I was surprised at how fun this was. I was also surprised with how quickly this brought me to barking with pleasure. Who knew that small things could be so much fun?

Overall, I loved it. I liked the look, I liked the softness and it was thoroughly enjoyable. Despite the size – I have every intention of playing with it again and potentially even upgrading it to one with a little more… Woof

About the author: Stephen is a consultant from Oh Zone Adult Lifestyle Centres

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Stephen is a cis-gendered gay male who spends far too much time with his two cats and eating tim tams. A self-identified sex-positive advocate he cares deeply about gender equality, disabilities, sexual education and social issues. Opinionated and bold he isn't afraid to speak his mind and say what others won't. With a yearning for knowledge and experience in all things relating to sex, he is a prolific writer that has developed the content for a myriad of informative Sexual Health and Wellness websites. Stephen's articles and writings tends to focus on social issues, sexual education, queer issues and all things fetish and absurd. He comes qualified with the completion of a double Bachelor degree in Social Sciences and literature, and a Masters in Education.

The Untapped Pleasure Of Spotty

Nomi Tangs Anal Sex Toy Spotty RC

A little while ago I was extremely lucky to receive a Spotty RC by Nomi Tang. In all honesty, I’d not heard of the brand before I got my hands on the box and I was very curious. At the time, being the curious soul that I am, I opened it up had a look at what it could do and was really excited to get it home and give it a whirl. This, on first impressions, looked different. It looked awesome. And it looked fun!

Let me tell you, that it’s really difficult to get a good prostate massager – and in my time working with toys and as a sexual educator I have tried more than several. They’ve each had their flaws though which after a couple of times meant that they just didn’t work for me, or they were a great shape but were just boring. Times change though, and technology gets better and now, I’m really happy to announce, that I have found one that works really well for me. It’s not perfect – but it hits the spots, it hits them well, and I have enjoyed every single minute of this toy inside me. So for that, I’d like to say thanks!

What’s Included With The Spotty RC

So with that in mind, let’s get this review started. The box is pretty simple, and masculine. Black with silver writing. The box, doesn’t give too much away in the sense that it’s pretty sparse and simple, but you will instantly realise that this prostate massager uses a remote control. Now if you’ve ever had something shoved up your ass between your legs when your hands are lubed up and you’re desperately trying to maintain THAT position where it’s hitting the right spot but you need more power – then you’ll know exactly how handy that remote is going to be. Scrap handy, it’s a god send – and by god send it’ll be an – oh my god send. Or something like that. More on that later on. The box is great because it can double as a storage box as well – but to be honest for my purposes where I don’t have a lot of space, I’d rather put it in my own little bag altogether – I’m still a massive fan of included storage bags and was a little disappointed that there wasn’t one.

First Impressions Of The Spotty RC

You open the box, there nestled among the packaging is the prostate massager, the remote, the cord and a book. Pulling out the prostate massager I cradled it in my hands. It still looked pretty awesome, and now it felt pretty awesome as well. I loved the fact that I didn’t need to be an anal pro and that the insertable shaft was of reasonable proportions. I was a little confused by the handle – I’m still not sure why they all point backwards so you still have to do that whole reach around to grab hold of it – but I liked that that it was made of silicone. I love the silicone material, it wasn’t too soft, it wasn’t too slick and it still had a nice bit of grip to it. Most of all though, I loved the ‘softness’ of the tip. It wasn’t rock hard, it had a little give on it. Which was awesome, because in this little head was the feature that I was most excited about.

It rotated. It moved. It was going to massage my prostate.

For once, I was going to be in a position where I could simply lean back, turn the remote control on, and have the toy vibrate. Not only that, but it was going to massage my prostate as well – and the prospect of that thrilled me. Sure, call me lazy. Call me a starfish – but I move around in sex. I have other toys that work my muscles and work out my PC muscles – I wanted a lazy toy. I wanted a toy that did the work for me – and I’ll tell you straight up – it does that, mostly.

Nomi Tang's Prostate Massager Spotty RC
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How I Used The Spotty RC

So after charging it up – I turned it on and fiddled with the remote. It’s remarkably simple, you press the buttons on the base of the toy – and once it’s on you can control it with the remote. Simples! After fiddling, and playing with and getting accustomed to the settings (and after mesmerizingly watching the prostate massager twirl around against the air and not on me) I couldn’t take it anymore and just had to jump right on it. Lubed it up with my favourite water-based lube – got down and dirty. The silicone, once lubed up, glides effortlessly and I was really content with how easily it slipped it in, and I was even more content with how it sat. Sometimes, you’d slip in a massager and it looked right, and it didn’t sit right and it didn’t matter which angle you were at, it just wasn’t going to work. I liked this. I didn’t particularly like how the angle I was on (on my back) meant that the handle was hitting the ground and changing the position and pressure of the massager, however, a pillow and raising the hips upwards fixed that. I could still be the starfish. Once comfortable, I turned it on and almost stripped the sheets off my bed. It wasn’t the most powerful of vibrators I’d had before – but it was definitely a shock to the system. A pleasurable shock. It felt good. The dual motors were exactly where they needed to be and the vibrations were happily rumbling through my body.

The first part of the prostate massager worked really well – but I was curious to see how the rotating head would work. So, gritting my teeth I cycled through the settings to get where I needed to be. Which, actually, is one of the little issues I have about this product. I can’t control the rotations and vibrations separately and am limited to pre-set functions. Which on one hand is really simple. But on the other, lacks variety. But it’s a small issue – and if they ever decide to upgrade the toy adding another button would be simply amazing. Hint hint, nudge nudge.

After turning on the rotations, I sat there. I must say I was a little disappointed. Whilst they were good – they weren’t as earth shattering as I thought it would be. Having the toy on the rotate only setting was actually pretty dull for me. I could see that if I sat there long enough and wriggled a little bit that I could probably induce a prostate orgasm, but for me personally, the arm just wasn’t quite there. The motor at this point was noticeably louder, but didn’t detract from my experience. It’s not something that I would use if it was late at night and with thin walls, but it’s certainly not a mack truck.

A little disappointed but determined, I flicked the vibrations on and this is where it was again, magical. The vibrations with the little tickle, provided the intensity that I was seeking and after turning up the vibrations again – it wasn’t long before the orgasm hit and the sheets were being pulled off the bed in that oh my god moment. An experience which was momentarily disturbed when I twisted and knocked the handle again which took a slight edge off. But hey – I got there and it was good.

In summary my disappointment with this product concerns two things. Firstly, the shape and direction of the handle and secondly the rotations by themselves.

You can’t wear this sitting down and doggy style on all fours with your ass in the air and letting gravity provide that extra pressure – whilst fucking amazing – takes away from the lazy experience I was seeking. I really dislike the handle and the limitations It provides on the positions I can use it in. The rotations also weren’t my best friend by themselves – but they were an awesome addition when they came to the party with the vibrations. Maybe I just wasn’t being patient enough – or maybe my body just responds well to intensity. I can definitely see that there’s great potential for people that want to sit back, and experience stroke after rhythmic stroke against their prostate that it’ll do wonders for their slow climaxing – but it’s not for me.

Why I Love The Spotty RC

What I love about this prostate massage tool is the vibrations. The strength. The intensity. The way the motors pound my ass into orgasm, screaming and roaring every single inch of the way. I also love the material and the size. It’s perfect for those that aren’t size queens that like prostate play and for me – the perineum arm was well shaped. Once in, it stayed there. For those looking for a new prostate toy that fits outside of the mould, and does that pretty well, then I would definitely recommend the Spotty RC by Nomi Tang.

Please note that this video is of the Nomi Tang Spotty (not the RC).

About the author: Stephen is a consultant from Oh Zone Adult Lifestyle Centres

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Stephen is a cis-gendered gay male who spends far too much time with his two cats and eating tim tams. A self-identified sex-positive advocate he cares deeply about gender equality, disabilities, sexual education and social issues. Opinionated and bold he isn't afraid to speak his mind and say what others won't. With a yearning for knowledge and experience in all things relating to sex, he is a prolific writer that has developed the content for a myriad of informative Sexual Health and Wellness websites. Stephen's articles and writings tends to focus on social issues, sexual education, queer issues and all things fetish and absurd. He comes qualified with the completion of a double Bachelor degree in Social Sciences and literature, and a Masters in Education.

3 Things People Fear About Anal Sex

Two Men After Anal Photo

There’s a lot of fear when it comes to anal play and yet, there’s still much curiosity about it. I was reminded of this idea when a young straight lad came into one of the stores this evening and asked a few questions regarding anal – despite the fear there’s still an abundance of curiosity regarding this type of play. More so, as we slowly move beyond the idea that sex is purely for reproduction and instead focus on the more sex positive attitude that sex is for pleasure as well.  This article is about breaking down the fear of anal play and we will do that by first acknowledging those fears, stripping them back and then talking about the ways to engage in anal play in a safe and comfortable way.

Anal Sex’s Ick Factor

There’s the whole shit on the dick thing. We’ve all heard the story about that one time when so and so’s friend had that awful experience when it came to that one night. This fear is fairly common, and it stems from our upbringing. The studies have shown that when a small impressionable child starts curiously playing with their genitals, and they’re told that that’s a dirty thing to do – then obviously they associate that feeling with their genitals. Some people grow out of it, some do not, and as a result whether we acknowledge it or not, our relationship with sex, sexuality and our bodies stems largely from our upbringing and the way those around us deal with issues of sex.  Our relationship with anal is largely because many individuals associate it with part of the human waste system. It’s an out not an in, is a common phrase which reinforces this idea. Let’s debunk this. Unless the body is just about to pass waste, or has recently done so – then there is actually very little chance of the dreaded shit on the dick factor. The anal cavity actually has a very thorough self-cleaning system which works really well. Yes, there are some risks if you’re playing rough, or you’re dealing with long toys or dicks, but in general the risk is actually quite small. The more you know!

Anal Sex’s Gay Factor

Butt sex, ass play, has long been considered the domain of gay men. There are countless ‘help me’ articles in magazines from concerned girlfriends who are worried that they’re beautiful boy is suddenly about to turn into a drag queen because he likes a bit of finger action. I’m not too sure where this one started, but anal play is not the domain of gay men. What might even surprise you, is that there are a lot of gay men in the world that don’t enjoy anal sex.  In an article by the Journal of sexual health and medicine, a study involving 25,000 gay and bisexual identifying men, stated that over 75% of participants responded with that their most recent sexual encounter involved the receiving or giving of oral sex. Contrast that with 36% of participants responding with their most recent sexual encounter involving anal play. In fact, mutual masturbation, kissing, genital and genital contact is a far more frequent occurrence among gay men.This is actually an issue which is fading over time. As people are becoming more in tune with their bodies, more comfortable in their sexuality and their openness about sex and sexuality – the stigma about anal play is slowly being broken down. Considering that prostate play is some of the most intense orgasmic experiences that a male can feel and massaging the prostate has benefits – then there’s a lot of people missing out on great sex because they think it’s a bit gay. The thing is, that anal play is not synonymous with a sexuality.

Anal Sex’s Ouch Factor

Anal sex can hurt. In saying that, there’s usually a few very select reasons as to why it hurts. One of the main reasons as to why it hurts, is because you think it’s going to hurt.  Consider the first time that you had sex, the awkwardness of it, the way it hurt a little and the way that it might have been over in just a few minutes. Very few first times are awesome, and what happens is they might have a bad experience which tarnishes any future experiences towards anal play. What we generally find, especially with younger partners, is they might rush through anal play for the first time, and this in turn can cause discomfort. Anal sex is not like other variation of penetrative sex. It requires patience, lubricant, and a recognition that the body might take time to adjust. There’s a myriad of different factors that need to be considered, but the main one that’s often ignored – is the fear. The anxiety. Which in turn affects the body’s ability to relax and you’ll tense up and it will hurt.

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Tips for Anal Sex

Anal sex is not necessary. You’re not obligated to add it to your sexual to do list, and quite frankly, the best way to have anal sex is to want it. When you want it, when you’re curious, when you’re relaxed and able to enjoy it is the best time to have anal sex. And, if I’m being honest, when you’re horny as all hell.  This combination of things is going to make anal play so much easier.  Once you’re used to it, you’ll find it much easier to add to your routine.

Patience. Patience is necessary when it comes to anal play. The muscles are involuntary, therefore it will take time for them to adjust to having something there which is not normally so. Lubricate some, put more lubricant on, and breathe.

If you’re really worried about some mess, then you can use a douche to help prepare. But one following the instructions on a douche you will need to wait about an hour before having sex. Also, don’t use that one hour to travel to your playmates house as the water needs to dry up and could end up on your favourite underwear. Douche, wait half an hour, and then start moving.

Follow these tricks will help you in riding that pole like a pro.

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Exploring The Arms of Tentacle Porn!

Pop Culture
When it comes to Asian Popular culture – there are many things in it which the Western World finds strange. Take for example Asian game shows – a variety of which can be found with a simple search through youtube. They excel in oddity and absurdity, and this often transcends through Asian exploration of sex and sexuality. Absurdity in this instance refers to a situation or thing that is deemed to be wildly unreasonable to the point where it comes across as foolish. There are no negative connotations here as absurdity often relies on surreal humour which is a collection of bizarre juxtapositioning, and irrational situations using expressions of nonsense. For these reasons absurdity, and surreal humour are either used to point out irony, or are used to poke fun at things not meant to be taken seriously. Indeed, Asian culture uses this form of humour as entertainment, and for today’s discussion this is a crucial element in understanding Asian Culture’s relationship to sex and sexuality.
Tentacle Fetish
Tentacle Romance
I speak often of the advancements of human communication and technology and how that brings cultures, civilisations, countries and continents ever closer – but not always. When it comes to sex and sexuality, the gap between Asians and Westerners simply is not getting smaller despite profound Westernisation transforming aspects of the culture. There is little discussion about sex when it comes to Asian culture, for the most part when  it comes to discussions of sex, it is largely swept under the carpet – this dilemma is expressed by Carene Chong in her article Perceptions of Sex: East Vs West as she explains her discomfort upon arriving in Australia. She describes how she knew that the Western world was far more open to the discussion of sex – but she had underestimated just how open that the Western World was. In her article she explains how she was unable to reply to her friend when she was asked if she was having sex with her boyfriend and that her friend couldn’t understand her discomfort at the question – as she puts it, to her friend ‘sex was just as common a topic as what she had for lunch.’ Despite her understanding and already acknowledging the differences between the two cultures she was unprepared for the openness, and it is topic that she still describes as ’embarrassing subject’ that she loves to hate. But why is this so? Why is sex considered to be so taboo in Asian culture that it makes an individual so embarrassed that they are unable to illicit a response?
From my own experiences in teaching in an Asian school – there is a complete lack of sexual education at school. The idea of sex is considered to be so taboo within Asian culture that i received an extensive lecture during my induction on ensuring that my teachings and class content was completely devoid of sex. An interesting and unusual perspective as the school i was teaching in at the time had no issues with students sexuality, or the way that they performed their sex such as in drag. To many in an Asian culture sex is a sinful experience and it should not be spoken about, nor should they participate in sexual activity or expression until they have either settled down, or reached an appropriate age.
Now that we have an understanding of Asia and it’s relationship with sex – it’s easy to see why there are sexual practices in Asia which seem strange. From Robotic sex, to cuddle bars, vibrator bars, and  a variety of fetish clubs catering to all sorts of fetishes – there is often a skewed perspective when it comes to how Westerners and Asians view sex and that’s without going into the tragedy and racism of Asian Pornography. Indeed, when it comes to Japan and their relationship to sex – the assumption is often that Japanese people are sexually repressed. In a way, this is partially true and arguments can be easily made pointing to their low birthrates and, due to a preference to be productive members of society and focusing on work, a preference of a single lifestyle. In spite of this, the sex industry in Japan is considered to be the second largest industry in the country and because of a unique perspective, understanding, and a relationship to sex it has allowed the growth of unusual aspects of sex to become almost mainstream within Japanese sexual culture. Certainly, as Westerners, it is the oddities that are most often reported on, and the strange phenomena that occurs in Japanese sexual culture is often deemed as fascinating.


Budding adolescents when fumbling around the internet for their introduction into pornography will search for ‘weird’ things. They are often seen as a staple of the human psyche – anything that sounds absurd we are curious with – we may only look at it once, or be horrified by it, but there is always some kind of morbid fascination with oddities. With the internet, there are no longer walls to accessing this and virtually anyone could share their thoughts, fetishes, fantasies anonymously from behind a screen safely at home. Inevitably someone, somewhere will discover tentacle porn and it will be viewed with disdain and confusion. Tentacle porn is pretty much exactly what it sounds – individuals having sex with tentacles either from an anthropomorphised animal, or some mutant/science fiction being. It is usually portrayed through in cartoon or anime style, though other portrayals do exist, albeit they are rare. Whilst many people will look at tentacle porn with a sense of mockery, it is actually far older than many people realise. The first instance of tentacle porn is often credited to Katsushika Hokusai, a japanese artist that lived in the late 19th and early 19th century. Whilst Hokusai is most widely remembered for his piece ‘Thirty-six views of Mount Fuji’ he is also responsible for the artwork titled ‘The Dream of the Fishermans wife’. The first known example of tentacle porn, it depicts a female engaging in sexual intercourse with two octopi, one which is kissing her and the other which is performing cunnilingus. The artwork is actually responsible for influencing a number of artists later on an impressive list which include;  Félicien Rops, Auguste Rodin, Louis Aucoc, Fernand Khnopff, and Pablo Picasso. Indeed, Picasso painted his own version in 1903 as well as a series of other pieces all of which were inspired by Japanese Erotica and which have been showcased at musuems around the world.
Modern tentacle porn is considered to be a little different. Whereas Hokusai depicts a consensual relationship between the woman and the Cephalopods, modern tentacle porn is often shrouded with forced acts, and rape. This was in part due to Toshio Maeda who is the creator of Urotsukidoji. Credited as being the creator of modern tentacle pornography, Urotsukidoji was developed in 1986 and contained a unique and edgy mix of erotica, dark humour and an exploration of the supernatural. Maeda was commissioned by a pornographic manga magazine and used his artwork to evade the strict censorship laws of Japan. Interestingly, Why is sex considered to be so taboo in Asian culture that it makes an individual so embarrassed that they are unable to illicit a response? the laws do not allow any representation of penis, but does not forbid viewing penetration by any other object, such as in this case tentacles.  Many people are often confused by tentacle porn, and struggle to understand it. In part, it exists as an ode to Japanese culture – fishing is an important past time of Japan and even today despite it being 20 times smaller in land mass than Australia, it has over 3,000 fishing ports. During the Meija Era of Japans history, roughly 100 years ago, roughly 1 in 20 people were considered to be fisherman , that number is dwindling, the remnants of a 10,000 year old fishing culture. As an island nation which relies on fish as a primary source of food, it is little wonder why there has been a keen interest with tentacle porn, fishing is an intrinsic part of their life in a way that many western countries (with far less reliance on fishing) could not understand. The fetish in a modern sense has shifted away from being about the relationship with fishing culture and has become valued largely due to pop culture and for those who find pleasure in the humiliation and subjugation of women by an entity that is not human.
It also somewhat escapes the stereotypes normally associated with Asian porn – a genre of sex toys and porn that is often deemed degrading and racist. Whilst many may view it as something as an oddity, tentacle porn is actually rich in japanese history and culture. Though the question is often asked, why is tentacle porn so popular? Aside from the cultural references it insinuates, tentacle porn is so popular because it bypasses the censorship laws that are in place in Japan.  Thought tentacle pornography preceded the censorship laws, it became far more popular afterwards. Combine that with the geeky context, supernatural and often horror films in a pornographic depiction which reinforces western porn cliches (think degrading women, forced sexual acts and the pleasure of the active participant a opposed to the submissive) then it’s really no different to anything else out there.
Stephen is a cis-gendered gay male who spends far too much time with his two cats and eating tim tams. A self-identified sex-positive advocate he cares deeply about gender equality, disabilities, sexual education and social issues. Opinionated and bold he isn't afraid to speak his mind and say what others won't. With a yearning for knowledge and experience in all things relating to sex, he is a prolific writer that has developed the content for a myriad of informative Sexual Health and Wellness websites. Stephen's articles and writings tends to focus on social issues, sexual education, queer issues and all things fetish and absurd. He comes qualified with the completion of a double Bachelor degree in Social Sciences and literature, and a Masters in Education.