Lighting Up My Lagging Libido With Keto

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The past few years I have gone through a few emotional and confidence rollercoasters, and this year has also come with its own challenges. I have never been a big girl, more along to the lines of curvy/chubby, and confidence tends to be a struggle of mine, as I see myself and am worried that I am bigger than I actually am. As well as this I also recently withheld from sex for almost a year which was cleansing at first but nearing the end it actually reduced my sex drive considerably.

I am unsure of when I crossed the line that sex became scary again, like it was something I had never done before, but I feel as though I am in fact doing things and experiencing things for the very first time again. This could be due to my confidence and a new partner or the fact it’s been such a long time. I decided to look at both aspects and how they work with each other and if diet does affect libido, I have never eaten badly although working shift work has had me consuming more carbs than I normally would. I have always struggled with my sleep, it takes me hours to actually fall asleep and when I do I constantly wake up, sleeping tablets for me are not an option I don’t want to fall back into the cycle of prescription medication if I can help it. Another hurdle is my depression and anxiety constantly rearing its ugly and consuming head, I thought there has to be a better option than just medication that makes you numb.

So, after some research I have come up with a plan of attack to knock out all my worries with one solution I plan to lose weight, sleep better, have a happier mind, and increase my sex drive! I have decided to look at my health, lifestyle, body and mind, and so I am discovering the world of ketosis!

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Transitioning your diet from carbs to fat is a game changer if all the reviews are true to their word, but will a ketogenic diet cause my sex drive to plummet or is it the ultimate secret to a better sex life? I want to focus on how life choices with diet, exercise, sleep and confidence impact libido. For me this will be the start of a 30-day journey

First things first I want to explain how dietary fat and sex hormones are connected, it’s surprising to learn that there is even a connection between the two, now here’s something to rock your world, high fat diets lead to an increase in estrogen! A small study found a significant difference in the estrogen levels in women who ate a low-fat diet compared to women who had higher fat diets.  Low levels of estrogen can lead to a lower sex drive and some symptoms such as vaginal dryness and interferences in both your sleep and your mood.

Already I am excited for the next 30 days and I haven’t even started yet!

A little background into the world of hormones and just how they work particularly estradiol and testosterone. The main job of estradiol is to develop the female sex hormone but it’s also has a key role in fat distribution and sexual desire. Who would have guessed that the hormone in charge of our sexual desires was also the one that helps us move fat around our body? As for testosterone although typically seen as a male hormone it is just as important in females, as it helps to produce estrogen, it also impacts the libido. As we females age our hormones have a natural decrease so the last thing we want to do is add to that decrease with the diets we put our bodies through by going low fat instead of low carb!

Did you know that high fat diets can improve testosterone in men! Drops in testosterone can lead to low sex drive and erectile dysfunction as well as a drop-in energy, muscles and hair loss! Some men can also gain weight specifically in the chest area which leads to gynecomastia commonly known as “man boobs”.

All this proves that the fat you eat actually makes a difference in your sex hormones and libido. However, I’m not saying to pick up your closest donut or deep-fried treats those are trans fats and they too can reduce sex drive in both men and women. Trans fats can cause abnormal sperm production in men and women may have trouble with gestation.

Its monounsaturated and polyunsaturated fats that you want to focus on that can improve your sex drive, help you to lose weight and also make your mind happier.

My aim in this journey is to concentrate on my confidence and sex drive. The extra weight I will lose will be a bonus! When you look good you feel good!

When you’re a close fit and a little snugger, this not only causes insecurities on the inside but also affects your sexual confidence in the bedroom and you’re less likely to be in the mood especially when you have to bare it all.

Keto is a high healthy fat, moderate protein and low carb diet that tackles all the issues in one go. Losing weight is only the start of the journey. Keto will help improve your hormone’s natural balance and increase your sex drive which your partner will be thanking their lucky stars for because your confidence in the bedroom will sky rocket!

Food for a better sex drive

Food is your best friend with the keto diet and these 11 health foods will help boost your sex drive for men and women!

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  • Blackberries
  • Blueberries
  • Broccoli
  • Dark chocolate (as close to 100% cacao to be low carb)
  • Eggs
  • Pumpkin seeds
  • Salmon
  • Sardines
  • Spinach
  • Steak
  • Tuna

Food that negatively impacts the sex drive

If you’re wondering about the foods that cause your sex drive to decline, then these are the foods to avoid or limit.

  • Dairy
  • Processed foods
  • Sugary drinks
  • High carb food especially food that has been fried

Do you want to improve your sex drive?

Well, what are you waiting for! Come on this journey with me! If you’re new to the keto way of life you will need to give your sex drive some time. But by reducing your alcohol consumption, increasing your healthy fat intake by adding those 11 libido-boosting foods that I mentioned before into your meals and also lowing your carb intake you will be on the path for orgasmic results! The initial stages are always the hardest but keep in your mind the advantages of the end goal to push you through, so don’t kiss your sex drive and confidence goodbye put a little kick in your step and start your keto journey! I’ll be back soon with my results! There is also a wide range of adult products for better sex to help in the mean time!

Morgan x

Author: Morgan is a consultant from Oh Zone Adult Lifestyle Centres

Going Beast Mode With Breast Worship

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Did you know just how incredible breast really are? Most of the population are already averred multi taskers but did you know that breast were also absolute beasts at multi-tasking!

What happens to the breasts during sexual arousal

During sex your breasts go into full beast mode and are bomb multi-taskers let me tell you how, they may just change your whole view that breasts can only be visually amazing.

During the throws of passion and penetration your breasts actually increase in size, approximately 20-25% to put a figure on it. Basically, they swell in anticipation of orgasm… say hello to a natural boob job, just when you thought you were at your max sexiness.

As does your areolas! Not only will you see a visible change in your breast size but also the size of the areola which eventually gives you erect nipples. Your breasts also become more firm and well-shaped just when you thought your body couldn’t get any better your body turns it up and turns it on.

Increased sensitivity is your best friend, trust me. When you become aroused your breasts become super sensitive, every little touch gets ramped up when you’re aroused and guess what those tiny goose bumps don’t mean your breasts are cold it means they are actually turned on!

Your breasts are like little or not so little antennas and send signals to your brain, when your breasts are touched or fondled with they send those signals to the brain to release oxytocin in abundance! For those of you who don’t know or haven’t read the 100’s of blogs on our site that speak about oxytocin which is popularly known as the “love hormone”, this is what helps you and your partner bond better during sex, and also a few other cool things which I’ll talk about in just a bit! So really it doesn’t matter about the size of your breast you have them to thank for the increased attraction your partner now has for you. If you want even bigger breasts or nipples, you can grow in size with breast pumps.

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Your breast create a natural perfume, yes you read that correctly! During sex your breasts release some scented sweet pheromones. The only downfall is that you won’t be able to consciously smell it yourself, but your partner definitely will and they will feel more attracted to you in the process.

They are the bodies chameleon, they actually change colour, don’t get freaked out though they won’t turn purple or green, but you might be able to see a pink rash underneath or on the sides while having sex. This is caused because of a mixture of estrogen and the stimulation of blood vessels. However, they might have a blue tinge to them but that will only be your veins becoming more visible due to arousal.

Sexual confidence, it doesn’t take a rocket scientist to realise that with these changes it can actually make you feel sexier and gives you a confidence boost. That’s why they call it sex appeal.

They bridge the gap, literally! There is an actual neurological link between the stimulation of your nipples and clitoris. Even more incentive for your partner to be multitasking or you to play with your breasts while they are exploring other parts of your body.

A kinky fetish for breasts and bodily fluids

Now for something a little different for all those fetish lovers, have you ever noticed that the breast secretes liquid, does it turn you or your partner on? Since we have all just learnt about just how much goes on with breast during sex and the fact that sexual arousal releases a hormone called oxytocin are you also aware that this is the same hormone that is released during breast feeding.

Because of this oxytocin surge, sometimes during sex women’s breasts will either leak or squirt breast milk, while being aroused, experiencing orgasm or by squeezing or stimulating the breasts- your vagina isn’t the only body part that can squirt. This is nothing to be embarrassed about, it is completely normal but if it does bother you just keep a towel handy.

For some this is a huge turn on and a fetish within itself many people have a fetish for body fluids and within that realm of fluids is breast milk.

I think everyone has been curious about the taste of breast milk at least once in their lives lactophilia is an attraction to a lactating breast and breast milk, throughout evolution breasts have been a symbol of fertility, sexuality and nourishment there is something about breasts that men and women throughout the ages have found so incredibly desirable.

What is erotic lactation?

Erotic lactation is being sexually aroused by the thought of, viewing or participating in breastfeeding.  For some it’s drinking of the milk that their fetish lies, for others it can be watching a woman lactate or the art of the breast milk squirting out of the breasts. There is no umbrella rule for lactation play, even the exact part that is arousing is different for all but one thing that is constant is the fact that involves the breasts and the liquid that comes from them.

The difference between breast worship and a lactation fetish

Many people are sexually attracted towards breasts but there is a difference between breast worship and lactation fetish, an example is the difference between someone who is attracted to buttocks and loving anal sex compared to someone who is aroused by someone defecating and the idea of defecation.

The reasons why people are attracted to and turned on by different fetishes are all individually different but there are several factors that can explain an erotic curiosity in breast milk. One thing that is certain is that anything and everything should always be done by two consenting adults it doesn’t matter if they are in a platonic, romantic or a kinky BDSM relationship, not every person has the same kinks or fetish’s, and some don’t even know it’s a kink of fetish for them until it happens.

Morgan x

Author: Morgan is a consultant from Oh Zone Adult Lifestyle Centres

Penis Envy In A Nutshell

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I have recently come to notice a pattern of mine that surfaces whenever male masturbators such as the Tenga Flip Zero with vibrations come into the Oh Zone Adult Lifestyle Centres. A rush of excitement followed by envy overcomes me as I remember the fact that I will never know what it is like to use one of these adult toys. I love being a woman and I would not change it for the world yet I do imagine (probably, way too often) what it would be like to have a penis. I have spoken to countless women who agree that they are envious of men due to the fact that they have what seems to be such amazing genitalia.

From talking and working with countless men, I have discovered that in some circumstances being a man in this day and age with a penis is not all it’s cracked up to be. Here are some of the difficulties that many men encounter when it comes to their bodies, sexuality and gender identities:

Penis size

I have never met a man who hasn’t at least one time in his life felt insecurities around the size of his penis. Pornography, which happens to be many young men’s initiation into sex, portrays an unrealistic expectation of the size of an average man’s penis. This, along with the constant influence in the media saying that to have a small penis means you cannot properly please a woman means that many men feel that they are not good enough in the size department. Penises come in such unique shapes and sizes that to compare any penis to the ones you see in porn really is quite wrong.

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Performance anxiety

Many men are taught to please women. They must kiss, lick and f**k their woman right or there is something wrong with them. Being a great lover is so much more than performance and by getting caught up in the idea that they have all these things they need to do to make a woman happy in the bedroom means they can actually miss out on the experience. Connection, presence and respect just some of the qualities of great love making happens when a man is embodied. It doesn’t happen when he is in his mind, worrying about his performance and in his mind thinking about what he needs to do to give her multiple orgasms. Besides, thinking that you’re the only reason for your woman’s pleasure is disempowering to her and big headed of you… just saying!

Inability to disguise their turn on

As a woman, I take great pride in the fact that I can walk around turned on with no evidence except for a cheeky smile and glowing face. Men on the other hand have to deal with the fact that they have something reminiscent of a tent pole reaching out of their pants when they are very aroused. This, along with the fact that it can “strike out” at any given moment means they have something to worry about that us women could never comprehend. I’m not saying that there is anything to be ashamed of if this was to happen to you gentlemen, I just mean that having a penis with sometimes a mind of his own can be extremely vulnerable and exposing.

I know I’ve mentioned a few points that may seem like having a penis is a burden however plenty of men appear to get so much pleasure and enjoyment out of their genitals so it would seem that the benefits certainly out way the difficulties!! You should definitely have a read of amazing facts about the penis that’ll blow your mind to get to know your body more!

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So how does a woman get to experience the totality of what it feels like to have a penis?

The answer is you could never experience it fully but there are some ways you can come to understand what it’s like to have your genitals so exposed…enter the strap on!!

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I have recommended women try on a strap on sex toy at least once in their lives to feel what it’s like to have a cock bobbing out between their legs. It is such a bizarre feeling to have it all hanging out compared to female genitals which are neatly tucked away. When you wear a strap on, you can gain an understanding of why many men are so driven by sex… they have a constant reminder of it all day every day!

It may sound silly but I really feel women can gain a great deal of insight into what it is like to be a man by the simple act of wearing a strap on. To take it one step further, perhaps the special someone in your life would be happy for you to try it out for real… I’m sure you’ll come to agree that men make hip thrusting seem so much easier than it actually is!!! And feeling the power to penetrate that comes with having a “penis” truly is not something to take lightly. I believe more compassion for men can come when we really get what it feels like to have a penis even if it is made from silicone.

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Author: Stephanie Curtis, Sexologist

Bisexual’s Bi-curious Facts And Figures

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In this article, we are going to talk about the question “what is bisexuality?”.

What is a bisexual?

A bisexual is a man or woman who is sexually attracted to both sexes. There are varying degrees of bisexuality. People can find out they are bisexual at different stages in their life.

Is bisexuality common?

Bisexuality is extremely common nowadays. You will find many bisexual people around you without even knowing it. In the United States of America, 9 million Americans (3.5%) identify as lesbian, gay or as sexually promiscuous. Around 19 million Americans (8.2%) have reported that they have participated in same-sex sexual conduct and about 25.6 million Americans (11%) have some same-sex sexual fascination. There are additionally about 700,000 transgender people in the US.

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In Australia, 11 in 100 people are diverse in their sexual identity or gender identity.

 

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Is it wrong to have sexual desires for both sexes?

It is not wrong to have these desires or engage in bisexual behaviour. It is actually very normal and many people do – even people who consider themselves to be straight. It is not a crime! You have the full right to enjoy your life in any way you like as long as it is not at the expense of others! Some people suppress their sexuality due to what they have been taught through their families, friends, religion and society.

Why do people explore their bisexuality?

Many people will explore their bisexuality to find out their true sexual identity. It is better than living in the closet. Bisexuality can add an excellent spark in your sexual lifestyle. If you consider yourself as a bisexual, you can explore your bisexuality in a number of ways.

Many people are not aware of their bisexuality

Sexual thoughts can be confusing especially if you don’t have a lot of sexual experience. Many people have secret desires to experiment and experience intimacy with people of the same sex. Some people view themselves as a straight person who can get turned on by the same-sex. Some straight people even watch gay porn, bisexual porn and lesbian porn. Many people fantasize about having a threesome and some actually do it. Threesomes are considered to be a bisexual fantasy even if both the lovers you are with are of the opposite sex.

It is not like homosexuality, where you slowly discover that you’re attracted to the same sex but it can be even more confusing. Bisexuals do not get a clear cut definition of who they like and don’t like, rather they experience a blurred landscape whereby they discover that they have feelings for both sexes and they struggle to identify with this. Some people do not know whether they are bisexual or not.

Is there a test to identify a person’s sexuality?

The Kinsey Scale rates people from 0 to 6. A rating of 0 means that a person is exclusively heterosexual and a rating of 6 means that a person is exclusively homosexual. People are also able to rate in-between these numbers. The Kinsey Scale determined that sexuality is not only situational but there is no standard sexuality. The Kinsey Scale is also known as the Heterosexual–Homosexual Rating Scale.

Some bisexuals conceal their sexual identity

Most bisexual people do not want to bring attention to their sexual identity. In fact, they tend to conceal their sexual identity and make friends in general social circles. This often presents enormous pressure when a bi person gets to know a person more intimately as they then have a dilemma as to whether to tell their new friend their sexual identity. If two bi people live together with each other then they can better understand each other and they also can support each other whether they are in a relationship together or not. But bisexuals often try to hide their true selves, they often fail to find the perfect partner for them as a bisexual person.  It is really difficult to find the perfect bisexual partner when often they do not know whether a person is bisexual or not. Normally people say that to find the perfect partner is very difficult but finding a bisexual partner is even harder than that.

It is important to keep in mind that there can be many issues when someone comes out with their sexuality which is one of the reasons some people do not talk about their sexual preferences. One of the other reasons is that most of the time a person’s sexual identity does not come up in day to day conversation. Although times have changed with the raising of awareness of different sexual identities and the legalisation of same-sex marriage almost all around the world!

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How to meetup and date other bisexuals?

A quick and very useful way to find and make bisexual friends and lovers is to use adult dating websites and applications. Once you meet up, you both have the opportunity remain friends, become lovers or move on and find someone completely different. When trying to find a dating match you should be patient and meet up when the timing is right. Love who you are and your sexuality, share your love with the person who you choose is your best match. If they see you trying, they may try just as much as you do.

Bisexuals and long term relationships

Some people are afraid that if they had a relationship with a bisexual that there would be relationship problems. People are often scared that a bisexual may leave them for a person of the same or opposite sex as there is more people that they can choose to date. Some people are scared that may never be able to fully satisfy a bisexual. Some people also struggle to understand that someone can be attracted to multiple types of people. There are many myths about bisexuals.

The truth is, many people get through life, believing that the person that they have married is the love of their life, but they inevitably realise that there is something missing within their lives. Some people act on this, either in the form of threesomes or with an extramarital affair, and others will simply ignore this and move on.

Many bisexuals can have a monogamous relationship with just one long term partner even though they have an inclination to be with a person of the opposite sex to their partner. If you are married or in a committed relationship and you are planning on exploring your sexuality, it is recommended that you honestly communicate with your partner your sexual needs.

If you intend to build a serious relationship with a bisexual person then you will need to accept the idea that your partner may find people of both sexes attractive. Remember, a leopard cannot change it’s spots no more than a bisexual can change their sexual desires. Take your relationship slowly, be as open and honest when you’re dating. If you create a foundation of honesty and trust, you can build a healthy relationship.

Bisexuals and sex toys

There is now a large range of sex toys for bisexuals including strapless strap-ons, strap-on dildos and harnesses.

Are there any bisexual celebrities?

There are a lot of celebrities and YouTube stars who are bisexual including Drew Barrymore, Angelina Jolie, Amy Winehouse, Lindsay Lohan, Shane Dawson, Lady Gaga and Marlon Brandon just to name a few who come to mind! Below I have included a video of the YouTube star “Shane Dawson” who has over 16.4 million subscribers on his YouTube channel.

Why do people love bisexuals?

Many people love bisexual people as they are conscious of their sexuality and needs within a relationship.

9 Hot Ways To Spice Up Your Love Life

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If you have been married or dating for a while now, you probably would not describe your sex life as being what it used to be.  Chances are, it’s not quite as exciting and fulfilling as it used to be.  Though your sex life might have started out as hot as a habanero pepper you have likely ended up in the pepper range. However, the good news is you do not have to stay in this range.  You can add some heat, excitement, and fun to your love life.  “Dinner and a movie” is the classic date, but that doesn’t mean it doesn’t get boring. Whether you’ve been dating your partner for weeks or for years, it’s important to make sure to spice up your relationship every once in a while.  Even if you’re just friends with benefits, you can look to one of the below suggestions to help keep things spicy.

Get Out of Your Comfort Zone

Always doing the same thing? Try something that you both have never done before, like scuba diving or even a painting class. It doesn’t have to be something scary like sky diving (although that’s a great option!) but anything out of your normal routine will be exciting and feel sexy.

Repeat The Past

Remember your first date? Of course you do, and you probably remember all of the feelings and emotions that went along with it. If you’re trying to keep things interesting, why not repeat that first date? It obviously worked at the time, so who knows how much you’ll enjoy it now.

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Change Something

Most spouses fall into a habit of doing the same old thing all the time, for instance, having sex in the bedroom.  This is not good, repetition gives way to boredom, mix things up.  Every time you have sex, change something, perhaps the location.  You don’t have to go to a hotel, you can have sex in the dining room or on the floor!

Introduce New Sex Toys

If you’re stuck in the same routine in the bedroom you can get really bored and introducing something different like sex toys can really spice things up.  You don’t have to jump straight into whips and chains but start somewhere.  Buy a vibrator or a dildo and test it out.  Just have a play with it, make it fun.  Buy a fantasy costume like a nurse or French maid.  If it’s with someone you trust, why not try some fluffy hand cuffs and let the other person do whatever they want to you (within reason obviously).

Make Sex Fun With Public Play

Vibrating panties can be a great way to spice things up.  Vibrating panties allow you to have your partner control a vibrator that’s hidden in your panties either via a remote control or a phone app.  That way you could be in a park or anywhere public and your partner can give you an orgasm.  I wouldn’t jump straight into this though, test out some vibrators and dildos before you move on to something a little kinkier like vibrating panties.  To find out more about vibrating panties, check out Vibrating Panties – The ultimate guide.

Talk About It

This might be hard but it can bring you closer together to open up and talk about your sex life.  Poor communication has been the source of many problems in a marriage.  So don’t go bottling things up, let your partner know how you feel and what you think.  This will show them that you value the marriage as well as your sex life.  Also, listen to what they have to say. It is not good to assume what the other feels.

Channel Your Inner Artist

Feeling creative? Picking up a sketch book and some pencils makes for an inexpensive date, and you already have the best looking model at your disposal.  Taking turns posing for a sketch is exhilarating and will definitely open up the rest of the day to more fun.

Do Some Reading

Looking to keep the passion alive? There’s no harm in picking up some spicy books to inspire you and your partner.  From steamy romance novels to sultry how-to guides, there’s a whole world of reading out there for the two of you to enjoy.

Pretend To Be Strangers

Perfect for the couple who has been together for a while – pretending to not know each other. Dress up and arrive separately at a bar with pseudonyms and back stories already created. There, you “find” each other among the crowd and allow your alternate personalities to hit it off.

No matter which one of these date ideas you decide to try, spicing things up if you’ve been together a while is important.  With these simple tips, you can get the ball rolling.  Remember all these cannot be accomplished by only you, it requires your partners help as well, what you can do is take the initiative and as I said talk about it!