How I turned my sex life from vanilla to a caramel swirl with sprinkles

Caramel Sex

For the last 4 years of my life since I lost my virginity at 17, my sex life has been pretty average. I mean, I never really have had any wild stories, or crazy threesomes or orgies or really we just hit it off at the club and I ended up back at her house type of tails. It was always like, missionary, then cowgirl then most likely doggy. I never really explored with my ex girlfriend (we were together for 3 years from 18 – 21, she was my first and ended up cheating on me). When she broke up with me, I went into a downward spiral. I lost all my confidence, I was a 5’10, tubby guy who slouches his shoulders, heart broken and not really much sexual drive for life. I stopped trying to talk to girls after the first 5 I tried to talk to rejected me. I would masturbate about 2 times per day. I was a mess. Just existing through this vortex called life.

 

For some reason I was drawn to this adult store in Caringbah. I walked in because I was looking up masturbators and this young guy was there. He was pretty cool, looked very presentable, smelt good, had a bubbly smile, shoulders pulled back. He was confident in himself. For a second I thought I was ready to swing to the other side. We started talking and he was asking me questions if I’ve had a masturbator before, what I’m into and then all of a sudden we got onto the topic of my ex girlfriend and I literally blurted out all my life problems to him. He just sat there extremely attentive and listened, absorbed, gave me a response here or there but really just sat and absorbed and took in everything I was saying.

 

He said “What’s your name man?”,“Chris” I replied. “Chris, Nice to meet you. My name Sunny and I know it might freak you out because you’re in an adult store but I’m going to give you some practical advice that is going to change your life forever if you apply it.” I think this was my Great Gatsby moment. When he gets to travel around the world and gets called “old sport”. “I’ve been around the world, I’ve seen it all, been through it all and have had my fair share of experience with women. I’ve fucked, made love, and been fucked. I’ve had orgies and passionate love making sessions for 5 hours. I’ve had times where I cummed in 15 seconds. I’ve had times where I didn’t cum at all.” I was just in aw. I didn’t know what to say. “You seem like you could use my advice. What do you think?” “I definitely do” I shot back eagerly.  OK “I’m going to give you 10 tips about life, sex and women, that will change your life forever. Here they are”

 

  1. Firstly, stop the masturbation. The masturbation takes away your hunger to hunt. All the testosterone and hormones you are getting rid of when you ejaculate. You can use that and turn that into power and drive to hunt. Stop masturbating!

  2. Start exercising and weight training. Confidence within self gives confidence out to the world. Cleaning your body and ensuring that you feel the strength that your body truly has to offer will give you a total boost of confidence.

  3. Stop talking to women to just have sex with them. That isn’t what life is about. Focus on being you. Have fun. Enjoy your time out and watch them come to you. If you put on a fake confidence and try to speak to them, it won’t go so well.

  4. Sex is supposed to be fun. Don’t sit there and think that it’s just missionary the whole time. When you finally find a partner to have fun with, have exactly that… FUN! Communicate with her, ask her what she likes, what she doesn’t like, what she’d be interested in trying, what is a turn off. Tell her your answers to these questions also. Women love a man who can communicate openly.

  5. Pull your shoulders back to speak with and show assertiveness.

  6. Set some goals and be relentless about chasing them.

  7. Always look to work on yourself. Working on yourself is one of the greatest tasks and journey’s you will ever go on.

  8. When you do have a partner, sex toys are a must. Come in and see me and I will show you around what you have to do!

 

For some reason, my whole life seemed to change after I had my encounter with Sunny. I listened to everything that he said and applied it like it was gospel. 6 months later my body is the best it has ever looked, my shoulders are constantly pulled back. I’ve got goals so big that If I looked at them I would of thought I was crazy. I now have a stunning girlfriend who is fun, confident and knows my love language. Our sex life is insane. And yes I went back and saw Sunny for some toys. We bought a WeVibe Chorus and Womanizer Premium, all I have to say is wow. Who knew that a minor encounter could lead to major life re adjustment. Thank You Sunny.

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Adult Games – Why They are Good for You

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We have heard all about how sex is a valuable part of our lives and our relationships. There are so many studies proving that a healthy sex life leads to a healthy life in general. Further on, we understand how important it is for our romantic relationships. It’s 2020, and I’m pretty sure that nobody has any doubts anymore about the significance of sexual intercourse. Here’s some additional info on that.

What Happens You Are Alone?

Okay, we get it already – we need to have a partner and we need to fulfill our sexual desires. But, what happens when you can’t? What happens when you don’t have anyone to get freaky with? Does that mean that you should just let all the tension build up and then relieve yourself only and only when you find someone who’s DTF?

Well, that would be a bummer, wouldn’t it? Imagine yourself walking around with a boner, while everyone is looking at you and making calculations about how long it’s been since you last got laid. And, ladies, you’re not safe either. I’ve got some news for you. Every time you get horny and think that nobody can notice it, the truth is – everybody can notice it.

Thank God for masturbation, am I right? It could save you a lot of embarrassment. With a myriad of adult content out there, it’s even easier for you to get down to business when you are alone. And, hey, some people like to watch porn with their partner and pick up new skills together. Even though that’s not what we’re talking about today, that’s certainly one way to go.

Here’s why that might be a good idea: https://www.huffpost.com/entry/5-reasons-why-watching-po_b_2766968

Why Adult Games Are Good For You?

As I have mentioned above, we’re not going to talk about watching porn with your significant other. Or, others… it’s a free world. In fact, we’re not even going to talk about watching porn. Today, our topic is adult games and their role in your life. If you haven’t tried these out by now, I suggest you do, IMMEDIATELY. Wait, no, you should read this first. So, keep it in your pants for a while longer.

There’s an obvious reason why adult games are good for us. Is it really necessary for me to explain this? Let me put it simply. You’re horny – you need something to help you please yourself. So, you find an adult sex game, build your character and fulfill all your desires – even the hidden ones – through that character. While “on-screen you” is getting greasy, the “real-life you” is getting down to business as well.

But, this reason above is more an answer to the question of “how adult games can help you”, then to the question of “why they are good for you”. So, let me give you a couple of simple, straightforward and truthful reasons for engaging in these games. Here we go.

Say Goodbye To Stress

Sexual tension is not the only thing that needs to be relieved. Are you getting stressed out with something day after day? Well, this might sound silly to you, but I suggest you find a private space, visit Sex Games HQ and find the game that will help you blow your load and blow some steam off. You’ll start releasing serotonin and your stress will be washed away.

Say Hello To New Skills

If you have been trying to up your game, there’s no better way to do it than by playing adult sex games and experimenting with your character. You can try a few things out and get some great tips and tricks. Both men and women want to be great in bed, and that’s impossible if you do all the same things every single time. And can you think of a more fun way to improve than by playing sex games?

Being Single Is No Longer That Lonely

As I have already mentioned, when you are single, you need to find a way to please yourself without anyone’s help. And that’s exactly what these games offer you. However, that’s not all. When you start playing them, you can join some communities and get in touch with like-minded adults who have similar preferences. Hey, who knows what might happen.

That First Night

That first night
As she drove a smile came across her face.  It was quite surreal thinking about this man she had only met a couple of times – she was now driving towards.
There was no denying the butterflies 🦋 she felt in her stomach and the mind chatter in her head, but her gut told her this was going to be something special.  She caught herself in the mirror and began to chuckle looking at the goofy grin that spread across her face.  Shit who would have believed that the thought of a broom closet would make her feel happy and desired.
She thought back to the first time they met, it was a paradox really.  This big muscular guy touting new age and spiritual stuff – more than that it really felt like he believed in it.  She blushed thinking about the thoughts when looking at his beefy arms.
They had shared some stories and those stories had evolved into word porn, and oh how she wished those words will become a reality.  It was not long now and she would find out.  The time for acting like giggling teens was over.
That silly mind of hers was chattering again.  What if? Should I? As the kilometres clicked by and anticipation brought fear…
There was no way to return now.  The things she had felt just by them creating their own written erotic fantasies had made her wanton with a craving that could only be satiated by this union, this connection.  He made her feel things without even being there. Omg the thought of it becoming made her wet again…..
Everything was ready for tonight. Dinner was prepared and laid out, the candles lit, the incense burning and the soft sensuous music playing. A smile played upon his lips as he closed his eyes and inhaled, capturing the memory of her scent. Mmmmm God she smelt good then.
But then it had been at least 6 months since he had last seen her….. That hair, that smile and those eyes!! Ohhhh the effect they had on him!!  He began to wonder what she looked like naked, and not for the first time either. In fact, in the erotica they created together, she was always unclothed.
The thought of her standing naked in front of him made him hard. ‘Patience’ he told himself. But his staff had a mind of its own. He chuckled hoarsely to himself.
Turning to walk up the stairs, he still had to check the bedroom. Looking around the room he was overcome by nerves. What was it going to be like? Well! If there erotica was anything to go by it was going to be fucking amazing!
And then he remembered the last time she was in his room. God knows he wanted to possess her then. Just to carry her onto the bed, restrain her arms and have his way with her. But they both behaved like silly giggling teenagers and then he had to walk off his arousal after she had left.
He checked the time again for the tenth time! Right on 7. Any minute now she would be arriving and for him there was no turning back. This is what he wanted and with all his instincts he knew she wanted this too.
This connection they have, it’s definitely sexual, carnal, erotic and pure desire all rolled into one. It was also a spiritual connection that somehow intensified his yearning for her.
Tonight her thought, it’s on!! , smiling with satisfaction.
She pulled up.  It was warm and safe in the car.  It was cold and dark on the street.  Those butterflies were turning and churning.  She put on the interior light and checked herself one more time.  Silly really as she knew it would not be long before makeup and clothes would be irrelevant.
Bracing herself she got out of the car and the coldness hit her – right to the bone.  She could feel the wetness between her legs turn to ice and did a quick check to make sure there was no embarrassing stain.  My god, she had not been so horny since…. never she thought.
Walking towards the front gate she wondered what he was doing inside at this particular moment.  Pressing the bell at the gate she could not help shiver- unable to tell the difference between cold or excitement.  She waited for what seemed an eternity until the huge door slowly opened.
There he stood.  An imposing figure – she had forgotten how tall he really was.  As he ambled towards the front gate the trepidation she felt was quickly disarmed as he smiled warmly and said, ‘well hello there my sexy librarian.’
As he opened the gate she was lost in what to do, but then became lost as he embraced her.  He was so warm, and solid, the coldness immediately leaving her.  She raised her head and pursed her lips towards him.  He moved them so slowly just out of reach.  Why was he teasing her when all she wanted was to put her tongue in his mouth, taste him and he taste her.
She moved her lips closer and he gently kissed hers and moved them away.  This time she grabbed him on the back of the head and thrust her tongue in his mouth.  She was having none of this teasing – she was insatiable with lust and did not come here to get teased……
She probed her tongue into his mouth and he tastes the sweet nectar. He picks her up off the ground as he embraces her and she giggles, squeezing him harder. He sets her back down on the ground and she purses her lips towards him again but he playfully plants kisses underneath her ear, on her neck and she gasps.
The wetness from his kisses chill on her skin from the cold air. Bright lights from an approaching car distracts them momentarily and before he knows it, she has sidestepped him and run for the front door. An invitation to a chase!!
Very cool and very collected, he closes the gate, smiling at her. She is inside the house at the front door, jumping up and down and giggling wildly saying “C’mon already!!” She makes him laugh. Tonight she would be his and he was going to take his time with her.
Her playful lust was sizzling in the air around her and it was tangible in the air around him. He continued towards her slowly, purposefully. He feels her watching his body as he moves, caressing his arms and legs and chest with her eyes. He feels a heat rising underneath his skin, which is reflected in the blush on her face.
“I want you so much” she whispers with a huge grin on her face. Just before he gets to the door, she turns and runs again to the stairs. He could have caught her easily, but he was enjoying her excitement and her growing insatiable hunger for him so much.
As he walks up the stairs to his room, his heart skips a beat as it dawns on him that finally this fantasy, this erotic tale of theirs was unfolding out of the ether of their minds and shared desire. This reality of their sexual desire was drawing closer with every step he took.
At his room now, she is across the way. He can hear her heavy breathing as she stands there. Her breasts rising and falling with every breath. She was so turned on and he felt his body respond to the call of hers. He could smell her strong desire and his desire rose with intensity.
Before he takes a step towards her, she raises her hand and says “stop”. Never taking her eyes off his, she begins to unbutton her blouse, slowly revealing the peaks of her heaving breasts. She is not wearing a bra….
Her nerves dissipated with that first passionate kiss.  God he tastes and felt so good.  The butterflies had turned to euphoria as her natural love 💓 drugs kicked in.  She felt a longing in the pit of her stomach.
The only way to describe it was like her first crush, that innocent and all consuming desire to be with someone.  But this was different, she was not trying to steal her first kiss.  She was a woman, a mother and had experienced life.  The feeling now was instinctual, raw, a primal desire that she felt in her gut and the tingling, wetness of her pussy.  She wanted to be filled by Rick, be consumed gently and then ferociously.  She wanted him to fuck her with all her being.
She broke the kiss and ran to the front door.  She could sense him watching her, taking her in, she could not help but glance down and see the bulge in his pants so knew he wanted her too.
Oh so casually he approached her and she blurts out, ‘I want you so much’.  Where the hell did that come from she thinks as she turns and runs up the stairs.
She is sucked into a vortex.  Time is distorted as she runs up the stairs and into his room.  Her body is overcome with desire as she hears him approaching and she starts to undress even before he has entered the room.  She has never done it like this before and there will be no denying the wetness and hunger that continues to grow between her legs.
As he walks in she has unbuttoned her blouse and her breasts are exposed.  He looks at her and takes her in and says, ‘well you are full of surprises missy’.
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VIP Interview Amory Jane – Educator, Podcaster, Influencer

We are pleased to welcome Amory Jane as our VIP Interview of the week.  She wears a number of hats including sex educator, comedian, event producer/organizer, pod-caster and variety show host.  Just recently she has added a bundle of joy, Elliot, to her extremely busy life.  Thankfully she found the time to answer our questions and we hope that you enjoy reading her answers as much as we did!

In one of your recent podcasts you were mentioning not just the event that you were podcasting from, but several events that you’d planned to attend in the near future. How do you fit it all in and keep your positive outlook on life?

Most of my podcast episodes that are currently online were recorded before I was a parent or even pregnant, so it was much easier to find time for sex-positive events then! Since I am a full-time sex educator and entertainer though, hosting and attending events is a big and necessary part of my career. I am able to fit it all in partly by being good at organization and scheduling, but mostly through having a supportive community. They help me coordinate my larger events or pitch in to make them run more smoothly, volunteer as demo bottoms, or (nowadays) babysit so I can take naps or teach workshops. 

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What does Sex Positivity mean to you?

A sex-positive culture is one that empowers people to explore their own identities and desires with openness and self-acceptance. Sex positivity is about undoing/unlearning shame and is heavily focused on consent plus accurate and comprehensive sex education. Being sex-positive, to me, means celebrating pleasure and sexual diversity and seeing sex as something that can be healthy, bonding, spiritual, and enjoyable instead of as destructive or just for procreation. 

When you say sex positive household, what are some of the memories / experiences that you have of growing up that has helped define you as to who you are today?

In my home, “sex” was never a banned or dirty word and we were allowed to ask questions. There were always age-appropriate books to read about puberty and sexuality and we were not shamed about exploring our own bodies (just taught that it was a private solo activity). I was raised by a feminist single mother and my grandma, and they were both accepting and encouraging of me being a curious and geeky child who wanted to understand everything I could about humans. 

You mentioned that family counselling was emotionally taxing and draining which you attribute to your shift to sex education – what are some of the negatives and positives that you experience when you’re talking about sex positivity and sexual health?

Being an empathic person has some major pros and cons. It certainly made being a counselor difficult and draining. However, I got to have some really wonderful moments on the job answering questions my teenage clients had about sex and relationships, talking to families about consent and shame, and helping couples have breakthroughs. It made my path to becoming a sex educator very clear. Now that I’ve been in this career for over seven years, I am happy to say that most of my experiences have been really positive. Talking about sexual health and seeing how it can change lives is rewarding. The only negatives have come from narrow-minded people judging me and my work or from men assuming that since I’m a sex educator, it means I’m automatically interested in them/game for sex. The stereotyping that comes my way can get annoying, but the joy of helping others and changing society for the better makes it easier to handle. 

What’s your go to comfort food?

Crunchy peanut butter – on toast or just eaten off of a spoon. I also really love pickles and salt + vinegar potato chips. 

What’s one of the most common misconceptions regarding sex and gender do you experience from ordinary people within your line of work?

The biggest misconception I hear is probably just the idea that genitals = gender. This isn’t true, but it is something that plenty of people are confused about or have really strong opinions on for whatever reason. I also get a lot of people who assume that everyone with similar genitals (for example, everyone with a penis) all feel pleasure in the same way or from the same things, but that it false. People are different and there is no “one size fits all” approach to pleasure and sexuality. 

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You have run hundreds of workshops in sexual health, what’s one experience with an attendee that’s stuck with you the most, and if there’s one thing you’d like them to walk away with after a workshop what would that be?

I once had someone tell me that I was their “vagina’s angel” because of what I taught them about lubricants, so that obviously stuck with me! They had been getting chronic yeast infections and having pain during sex until they switched to a different lube at my recommendation. After they started using a lube without any parabens, glycerin, or fragrance, everything improved.

In general, I just want my workshop attendees to walk away feeling more empowered, much less shame, and like they have a new skill or helpful bit of knowledge that could make their sex and/or love lives better. 

Sex is often thought to be shameful, embarrassing and hidden behind closed doors where no one talks about it. How do you make sex education fun and accessible?

Comedy and storytelling are two tools I use that I believe set me apart as a sex educator. Humor helps put people at ease and allows them to have fun and open their minds instead of being nervous and guarded with shame. As for the stories, being candid and transparent makes me vulnerable, which I think folks appreciate. My personal anecdotes double as being both entertaining in an educational way and helping people feel understood and less alone. 

What processes do you go through in your own sexual development and learning? It’s one thing to have researched sex education and become a leader in your field to the point where you can teach sex, sex education, but how do you keep growing and learning from that point?

I feel like I am always learning and developing because I am someone who tries to live boldly and constantly grow as a person. My identity has gone through some major shifts in the past few years, and along with that, so have my needs and desires. I have had to navigate many unexpected changes, which means I’ve done lots of experimenting with my relationships and sex life and have had to follow my own educational advice or seek out other educators in my field. I believe we are all works in progress (even “experts”), and should never stop trying to learn more and be better lovers, friends, and human beings.  

You have a podcast called – Sex on Brain with Amory Jane which is available on Itunes and Stitcher. Which episode means the most to you, and which was the most fun?

The episode that means the most to me is actually the one I have planned to record this week, which is about polyamory and parenthood. Specifically, my polycule and I talk about the changes we’ve experienced as individuals, within our partnerships, and as a community since I gave birth in June. We also discuss how polyamory has been a blessing when it comes to being new parents, and how it has been a challenge. 

The most fun I ever had recording an episode was the one called “Live from the Femme Sex Party.” You can probably guess why that is the case. 😉 

On your podcasts you often talk about people’s sex toys, as well as your own. As we’re approaching a more sex positive society – in what ways do you think sex toys could be improved and made more accessible?

I have seen the industry improve quite a bit from when I first started working at a sex toy boutique. More and more consumers care now about sex toy materials, which means more companies are making and carrying body-safe products that don’t contain phthalates. I think getting rid of harmful materials altogether is the next step toward improvement, as well as making toys that are based on actual customer and sex toy reviewer feedback. I also hope that people will continue to talk more about sex toys on blogs, and in television and movies, to finally get rid of any stigma that still remains. 

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You mention intimacy and the importance of touch in your of your recent podcast episodes. Do you feel in such a tech-savvy world, where dating is often delegated to apps and online profiles, that we’re forgetting the importance of intimacy within relationships, and if so how would you advise people to reconnect with each other?

I think touch is extremely important and many people are touch-deprived and out in the world feeling lonely. I don’t think technology is the enemy though – I think it can be used for good to help connect people. However, I do believe that intimacy is something tons of people struggle with, and always being on our phones and computers can make it even harder to be present when we’re face to face. I would advise people to make time every week where they tuck away technology and turn in toward each other. Focus on open and vulnerable communication or interesting intellectual conversations. If you don’t know what to discuss, search online beforehand and print off or write down prompts, and then really listen to each other. I also highly encourage non-sexual touch while talking, like holding hands or cuddling. If you’re with someone where sex is an option and you’re feeling connected in that way, sensually exploring each other’s bodies (without a goal of orgasm) can be wonderful for building and maintaining intimacy. 

You’ve just celebrated the recent birth of your child, what kind of things are important to you as he’s growing up and understanding and learning about sex-positivity?

Consent is going to be taught and demonstrated from the beginning, self-exploration will be normalized instead of shamed, and questions will be answered honestly in age-appropriate ways (and we will make sure to always have good resources available if kiddo is feeling shy about coming to us directly). Sex-positivity and body-positivity will be modeled by everyone in the family, meaning we will not body-shame or slut-shame ourselves or others. We hope to create an environment that teaches empathy, boundaries, respect, and self-love.