Inner Personal Thoughts Of A Sexologist

Studying sexology

What the hell made you want to become a sexologist?! I get asked this regularly and it’s a very difficult question to answer simply. As a young women with hopes and dreams for my future, I could never have imagined that I would choose this path. It has been an interesting and fulfilling journey so far, with numerous factors leading to my choice to become somewhat of a “sexpert”.

A sexologist and sexpert
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In my former life before becoming a sexologist, I worked as a mental health nurse. Despite sounding vastly different, there are skills I learnt in this job that I will carry with me in my career as a sexologist, in fact skills that are transferable in every area of my life! I entered the mental health field as a new graduate with big desires to help others. People fascinate me and to offer my compassion and kindness to others in times of need felt like the right thing to do. Being a mental health nurse exposed me to an often isolated and somewhat condemned part of humanity, working with so many people who were in the midst of deep crisis. People who were so distressed they felt killing themselves was the only acceptable option. People who were so detached from their bodies and “reality” that they could not function in our world. People from all walks of life, at the extreme ends of a spectrum that we all fall on in one way or another.

Sexologist who talks about sexual problems
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Initially, I felt privileged to be in a position where I could be a healing part of these people’s lives. I knew that so many others could not “handle” being around people in acute states of mental crisis so a part of me (ego probably) was proud of myself for stepping into this work. I would hear it all the time that it takes a certain kind of person to work in the mental health field and after experiencing it I know this to be absolutely true. Working in an environment with people in acute stages of mental illness causes you to be in hypervigilant state as a safety precaution. You are constantly watching over your back, on high alert in order to keep clients, staff and yourself safe from harm. This is not something that can be switched off just by walking out the door at the end of the day. We have this idea to “leave it at work” and forget about it when we go home however work is our life is it not? I found an attempt to separate the two led to more harm than good and realised that I wasn’t living authentically or in integrity working in this job.

My dreams for something different kept getting louder and louder. I realised that caring for others should not come at the expense of our own wellbeing or be driven by desires to help others for a sense of external validation. I believe to truly be in service in this world is to do the things that make us feel alive, following our desires towards what lights us up and gets us excited. For me, that had always been sex. Human sexuality has always fascinated me in so many ways. I have always been curious to understand why sex is such a massive part of our lives and not just used purely for procreation. Why are people sexually attracted to one person over another? Why is there an increase in people buying BDSM, kinks and fetish products? How can we be having more fulfilling sex in our lives? And why is there such shame and stigma around something so pleasurable and beautiful? These questions and a host more constantly had me intrigued so working in a field where I could explore sexuality was completely aligned with my passion and values.

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As well as my passion for learning about sex, I had found myself to be someone who people felt comfortable talking about their intimate lives with. I recall a moment years ago where a woman I knew shared with me a deeply personal story about her sex life with her husband, something she had never shared with anyone else before. Feeling the trust she felt in me to open up this way, I knew that I had something special to offer others. It warms my heart and makes me feel so grateful to be alive when I can create a space for people to feel confident and comfortable with their sexuality. I feel excited and full of joy knowing that the connection I have with my sexuality invites others to feel beautifully connected to their own. It truly is a gift knowing that I can play a part in creating a much needed sex-positive shift in our society, no matter how big or small that part may be. Sexual health has been a far too neglected area of our lives so to do this work is so important. I am new on my career path but hope that the topics I post about and the people who welcome my support in sessions benefit from what I have to offer. It feels like the beginning of an extremely fulfilling and enlivening career path, stay tuned for what’s to come…

Author: Stephanie Curtis, Sexologist

VIP Interview With Zoe Stone Resident Blogger Of IMTOY’s

Sex blogger Zoe Stone

IMTOY is a luxury sex toy and sexual health product manufacturer that was established in 2012 between the cities of Las Vegas, USA and Shenzhen, China. Their products promote personal well-being, fun and pleasurable stimulation that will entice you to unbelievable measures. Their carefully crafted products take into account the hardware, user friendly designs, application compatibility and above all a high attention to quality.

IMTOY’s product ranges include Zoo, Forbidden Fruit, Luxeluv, Piu and Candy. You should keep an eye out as their product ranges continue to grow! So much so they have been featured in the media in Cosmopolitan, Marie Claire, Elite Daily and many more. This is a VIP interview with IMTOY’s resident blogger Zoe Stone which looks into her inspirations and what makes their products go above and beyond.

Tell me about yourself

I’m Zoe Stone and I’m in charge of filling IMTOY’s blog full of sexy, fun, and useful content! I like introducing myself by saying I’m not what people usually expect from a sex writer (or at least, I’m not what I would expect from a sex writer)! Right or wrong, I always thought that to write about sex you had to be a wild, experienced unicorn, who’s sexually fulfilled on a cosmic level. But hey! Now I’m a sex writer too and I’m here to disprove the myth!

The way I see it, we’re all on our own individual journeys through pleasure, and what I’m interested in writing about is the bliss and the struggles, the out-of-body experiences and the epic fails, and all from a sex positive and body positive point of view.

Raunchy, relatable and empowering – that’s what I’m going for!

What inspired the creation of IMTOY?

IMTOY sits at the confluence of sex toys and tech. Our vision was to focus on designing intelligent sex toys and sexual health products that promote intimate well-being and provide life-giving pleasure! Our tagline is:

“Engineered for Ecstasy”

That says it all really!

What inspires you?

As a writer, books are my jam! I’m always looking for those magical moments when an author captures and communicates something deeply real. They tend to access those moments of universal truth by really focusing in on the details.

It takes guts to get up close and detailed when writing about sex – it’s such an intimate topic. We’re really vulnerable in that space. But I’m a big one for taboo-breaking, and there’s been such silence around sex for so many of us. Only good things can come from opening up and being real.

That’s why I really admire outspoken women. Some of my favs are active in the sexual space, like Elena from The Yoni Empire, or journalists Mona Chalabi and Mae Ryan who made The Vagina Dispatches. I’m a fan of anyone who’s out there, speaking up about issues that affect women, sharing information, and empowering others.

Tell me about IMTOY’s product range?

IMTOY has got so many goodies on offer. Our pride and joy is The Zoo Collection. Each of its six silky soft silicone toys was inspired by and named after an animal. Did I mention that they’re all millennial pink with rose gold accents? They really do deserve a proper introduction:

DOLPHIN

Couples sex toy IMTOY DOLPHIN
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The Dolphin was engineered with innovative partners play in mind. It’s a C-shaped vibrator that targets the G-spot and the clit. The insertable part of the vibe is designed specifically to leave enough room for a penis to slide in behind the toy. Dolphin fits snugly in place for hands-free fun during penetration.

RHINO

Rabbit vibrator IMTOY RHINO
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Yowza! The Rhino is a powerful little number! This toy gives you everything you need – inside and out. It has two rumbling motors. The G-spot seeking curved tip ensures internal pleasure, while the toy’s horn (a classy reimagining of the traditional rabbit) delivers intense, direct clitoral stimulation.

I’ve heard the Rhino has popped a few internal orgasm cherries!

MANTA RAY

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The Manta Ray is our wild card. When people first look at it they’re like, “WTF?” but it’s simple once you realise what to do with it:

  • For people with a penis, all you need to do is wrap the super flexible silicone around your erection, or sit on it to externally pleasure your P-spot.
  • For people with a vagina, Manta Ray’s textured and extremely pliable design makes for an incredible lay-on vibe.

GAZELLE

Body wand IMTOY GAZELLE
Image: IMTOY GAZELLE

Wands tend to be pretty hefty toys. We wanted to design a wand that’s smaller and more slender than most, but still packs a punch. Enter the Gazelle! The tantalizing tips of its horns are an absolute treat for the clit, and thanks to its adaptable head, you can swap between horns or a smooth head. A major upside to its slender design is that it can be used on the clit during penetration without getting in the way.

GIRAFFE

G-spot vibrator IMTOY GIRAFFE
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Ah! The Giraffe! My first love! The Giraffe is a really thoughtful take on a classic shape. It’s simple, it’s ergonomic, and boy does it deliver! It really is the perfect toy for a beginner who’s looking to try a penetrative toy for the first time and doesn’t want anything too girthy. It also makes for an amazing clit vibe too!

WHALE

Massager IMTOY WHALE
Image: IMTOY WHALE

The Whale is our other C-shaped vibrator, targeting both the G-spot and clit, but unlike the Dolphin, this toy’s curvaceous head is designed to fill you all up. We like to think of the Whale as your silent, sneaky sidekick – designed to be taken (or worn) anywhere. Hand over the app to a partner and you’ll be sure to have yourselves some cheeky fun!

As for the rest of what IMTOY has to offer, there’s…

PIU

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This is our high tech male masturbator. Using its very own app it synchronizes your pleasure with erotic movies. The vibrations actually interact with scenes and motion!

CANDY

Personal massager IMTOY CANDY
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Candy is a super soft, body-safe kegel ball. It connects to your smart device so you can follow a professional training course. Candy’s app lets you track your progress, reach new milestones, and stay motivated.

Recently IMTOY started housing other brands too like:

LUXELUV

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Luxeluv has a tempting collection of cosmopolitan toys that goes by the name of The Destination Range. Each toy in the collection is named after a different city. Why not find out where desire will take you next? There’s Vegas – a versatile vibrating cock-ring, Havana – a rabbit-style vibrator with a twist (its shaft can curl in a “come hither” gesture), and the Santiago – an ultra-discreet finger vibrator with a powerful kick.

Men's stroker IMTOY Memphis
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The craziest toy in the collection has got to be the Memphis. It’s a masturbation sleeve that doubles as ac Bluetooth speaker! You can even set it to vibrate to the beat of your favourite song!

What are IMTOY’s best sellers?

The Dolphin, Whale and Rhino are our star products!

What materials are the sex toys made with?

Let me break it down:

THE ZOO COLLECTION, PIU & CANDY

These toys are made with high quality silicone, durable tungsten alloy motors, and lithium batteries. Piu’s outer shell is made from ABS plastic, making all these toys entirely non-porous and super easy to clean. Candy even comes with its own UV light sterilisation storage unit. They charge using a magnetic USB charger, so they’re 100% waterproof, and the special silicone we’ve made them with is dust-proof too, making them as ready to dive into the bath as they are into bed!

HAVANA, SANTIAGO & VEGAS

These vibrators from Luxeluv’s Destination Range are made with silicone. They’re also waterproof, using a simple but effective design that protects the jack where the charger plugs in, but they’re not completely sealed like The Zoo Collection, so these toys require some caution when cleaning around the jack.

MEMPHIS

This masturbation sleeve also doubles as a high quality Bluetooth speaker (super sneaky, right?). The outer shell is made from ABS plastic with a squeezable silicone grip in the centre. The skin-soft inner sleeve is made from TPE and has a vibrating bullet fitted into it that can be popped out when you need to wash the sleeve.

What is silken silicone? How would you describe the feeling of the silken silicone?

The silicone we’ve used for The Zoo Collection, Piu and Candy is our secret weapon. We worked hard to find the perfect balance between pleasure and durability and the end result is toe-curlingly soft to the touch! When Wetlandia reviewed the Gazelle she said:

“I want to hold (it), and run my fingers over it, and touch it all day long. I want to live in a magical kingdom where everything is made of this silicone.”

It’s pretty dreamy stuff, but to really know what I’m talking about you’ll just have to try it for yourself! ;P

How would you describe the feeling of the vibrations delivered through The Zoo Collection?

The six toys in The Zoo Collection have 16 vibration patterns, which range from rich and rumbly to OMFG-this-is-AH-MAAAZING!

What is the Zoo app? Are all of IMTOY’s products compatible with the app?

No, the Zoo app was developed specifically for the six toys in The Zoo Collection. Once you power up your toy it can be paired via Bluetooth with your smartphone. Once it’s connected, the toy can be controlled by the app, which unlocks extra vibration modes and fun features like voice, video, music and kinetic interaction, randomized vibration, and an option to draw your own vibration.

What do the shake, bomb and rocket functions feel like?

The shake function works like this: When your Zoo toy is connected via Bluetooth to its app, you can turn on a function that makes your toy vibrate in response to any movement of your smartphone. If you shake your phone, the toy gives off powerful vibrations. If you move it gently, then the toy rumbles and shudders. It’s a really fun feature for tempting, teasing power play.

The bomb function makes your toy produce randomized vibration patterns. You never know what’s coming next! It’s a great way to start slowly and build yourself up until you’re ready to explode.

If you can’t take the edging any longer, that’s when you hit the rocket button which takes you straight to the highest vibration strength, blasting you off into orgasmic outer space!

What are the best ways to use the music and speaking feature of IMTOY’s products?

We sent the Rhino over to Cosmo to try out, and this is what they had to say about the the music feature on the Zoo app:

“Our favourite feature, however, is the ability to sync the app (and the Rhino) to your iTunes library, giving a whole new meaning to the term ‘beating off’. Ha ha. But seriously, if you’ve never experienced a vibrator pulsing in time to the dulcet tones of Bad And Boujee, then you simply haven’t lived, my friend.”

Our advice is find your favourite boudoir beats and sync your toy up for the experience of a lifetime.

As for the speaking feature, the more you make noise, the harder the toy vibrates. If you’re a little shy, but you want to learn how to be more vocal in the sheets, then this is a really fun reward system for living your pleasure out loud!

Meet The Newest Member To The Adultsmart Blogging Team – MORGAN!

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I had a considerably privileged childhood growing up, a loving family, incredible opportunities and a perfect education. I was your typical A grade student all through school, I excelled in everything I did and was a perfectionist. I was passionate and diligent with everything I did, whether it was writing, art, music or sport I achieved in every aspect of life.

I started young, crawling was clearly something I just didn’t have time for as a baby and decided to start walking at 7 months with some shock to my parent’s as I was their first child. Life had some hurdles for me though and I was quite a sick child, I had my first operation at the age of two but during my hospital visits I enjoyed wheelchair racing around the ward.  Throughout my younger years I was involved in athletics, state swimming, soccer, netball, tae kwon do, karate, Oz tag, keyboard, and always loved art. I would spend hours reading books, drawing, painting anything creative.

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Blogger Morgan

During school I was passionate about studying vet science, but due to my fear of cracking bones I decided that a life in medicine wasn’t for me. I then changed direction and followed my passion for design; I completed my studies in interior design, and product design.

Trauma has defined and shaped my life, I am far from normal when it comes to injuries, I mean most kids break a bone, I tend to surprise doctors with my medical adventures, but seriously

who wants to be “normal” or “average” anyway!

During the beginning of year 11 (2008) I was assaulted, that tore me apart and considerably changed my view on life and relationships. I went through major depression Post-traumatic stress disorder, anxiety and a condition where I had little to no facial expressions. I entered into a very abusive relationship after that both emotionally and physically, but I survived! Every event in my life has changed me and made me stronger, I have never given up! 2017 has been another wild year with my partner of four and a half years and I having a miscarriage at 13 weeks in January.

I have always kept my emotions and feelings to myself until a few years back when it was doing more harm then good, I chose to express my feelings and hurt with artwork on my body. I am now the proud owner of many large tattoo pieces, and much to my families horror I keep adding more! Every single tattoo on my body means something and shows my journey through life, I don’t regret any of them! I am open minded, kind, caring and I don’t take life too seriously anymore, as laughter is the best medicine!

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Morgans Tattoos

It’s the small things in life that create the best memories and you never know how strong you are until being strong is your only choice you have.

With a tough year I decided to change my life, I quit my previous job took a month off work to sort my head out and I ended up coming in for a job interview at Oh Zone!

I have never been “open” about my sexual life

but it’s not all about that here, its much, much more! Every rule has its exception and I found Oh Zone to be that exception, its not just an “adult shop” it’s a safe place, a place to boost confidence, a place to express yourself in any which way, a place that’s is always willing to listen and help and a place to take a journey.

Thanks for reading!

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VIP Interview With Marie Rebelle The Founder Of Rebel’s Notes

Marie Rebelle From Rebel’s Notes

Marie Rebelle is a sex blogger who founded Rebel’s Notes and an author who openly and honestly explores her escapades and shares them to the world. Marie has published books including:

  • Flight LU-365: Flight LU-365 shares the background stories of the flight passenger’s adventures in love and lust.
  • Tie Me Up: Tie Me Up is a binding collection of erotic tales which explores the world of BDSM.
  • Identity: Identity is an Eroticon anthology that talks about the personal stories of 26 different bloggers, sex writers and erotic fiction authors.
  • The Big Book of Submission: 69 Kinky Tales is a collection of 69 short stories that range from straining in bondage, taking a spanking or being put on display.
  • South Bank Seduction: An anthology of stories of delegates that attended the sex bloggers conference, Eroticon, in 2013.
Author Of Fiction And Non-Fiction Books
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Tell me about yourself?

I was born in the conservative South Africa, 50 years ago, where I went to school, to university and was married for the first time. I emigrated to Europe when I was almost 30, where I met my second husband but the marriage lasted only 4 years. In 2002 I met the love of my life, who I married in 2005 and I am still very much in love.

I am a hard worker and I love people. At the same time, despite loving people, I don’t like crowds and I can be quite shy. I have to feel at ease with a group of people around me before I can totally be myself. I second-guess myself frequently. I have a high productivity and when I put my mind to it, I can make a success of things, like I think I have proven with my blog, and all projects I have around it.

Besides my blog, Rebel’s Notes, I also run a Dutch group for erotic writers, where I also organize a writing marathon, which has been running for the fourth consecutive year.

In my personal life I am a wife, a mom of three adult children and a grandmother of two beautiful boys. I also see myself as ‘head’ of the family, the one who is supposed to have the wisdom, as my mom sadly passed away in July 2017.

When you were younger did you ever think that you would be someone who would openly share their thoughts on sexuality for the world to see? Did you have a different thinking pattern? What moments in your life encouraged you to express your sexual lifestyle?

I grew up in a conservative community and a conservative family. Sex wasn’t something that was openly talked about, but there was enough to go around. I caught my parents having sex one night and saw nude images of my mom when I was 10, as well as the nude posters my dad had in his closet. It was in the same period that I was abused by a house friend, something I never experienced as a trauma.

Back then, and later when I had some interesting sexual experiences, I never consciously thought about writing about sex. I was about 14 when I wrote my first novel – entirely handwritten as we didn’t have computers back then – and it had a bit of eroticism in it, as much as a 14-year-old dares to put in writing. In my early twenties, I wrote some erotic stories, but never knew what to do with it.

Coming to live in the Netherlands was one thing that started changing my thinking pattern. Where in South Africa I always felt like I didn’t fit in, that I was the odd one out, I didn’t feel like that in this little country. People accepted me like I am. It was an eye-opener, but still it took some years to get to the point where I started a blog. My thinking pattern didn’t change from one day to the other. It was a process I went through. A process where I had to start accepting that I am a sexually expressive woman and that I want to tell the world about it. It started by posting images of myself, but deep in my heart I am a writer and I wanted to put words to paper. Or, on the screen, because I wanted to be read.

I started Rebel’s Notes in January 2010, put two stories on it and then left it at that until September of the same year. It was then I realized what I missed – readers. I wanted readers, but I didn’t know how to get them. I posted more on my blog, images too, but still had no readers. The next step was to search the Internet for other erotic blogs. I found some and then discovered Twitter. This was a turning point. I started promoting Rebel’s Notes and as they say, the rest is history.

What does sex mean to you? What do you love most about talking about sex?

Sex is a way to connect, to express myself.

Expressing myself can either happen physically, when I have sex with my husband or one of the men my husband has allowed into our life, or it can happen on the screen, in words or image. I love talking about my sex life – the good and the bad – because I believe that my words can help others out there. Any problems I might have are definitely not unique. Others out there might have them too and by writing about them, I might just be able to help someone with their way of thinking about themselves, in a positive way. Also, talking about sex feeds my exhibitionist nature, but more about that later.

 

Marie Rebelle From Behind
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How did you learn you were a submissive? What does it feel like to be a submissive?

I actually never ‘learned’ that I was submissive. You see, it is an inherent part of my personality. I only learned that there was a name for it, back in 2011. Before that it was just who I was. I never questioned it, never wondered if I was different from others. I knew I was different, but it didn’t bother me. It was just who I was.

Because it is so much part of who I am, it is difficult to tell you how it feels to be submissive. What I can tell you is that it is liberating to be able to be me, to be accepted for who I am, whether I am the strong leader at work or the strong woman kneeling in front of my husband. Once I knew that there was a name for the feelings that came to me so naturally, I read more about submissives and dominants. The recognition was immense. I wanted to learn more, wanted to experience more, wanted to be an ‘active’ submissive, within the boundaries of our relationship.

How would you encourage other women or men to be more accepting of who they are, their bodies and sexuality?

This is difficult. I myself had problems with my body and my (bi)sexuality. I accepted my sexuality a lot quicker than I did my body. Even though I was told over and over again that I am beautiful just the way I am, acceptance gradually came with age.

I believe the only way to encourage other people is to keep on talking about it. Being more accepting of oneself is something that needs to come from inside. It’s a process, and positive vibes from outside definitely helps.

What is it like being an exhibitionist? Are you a nudist as well? How does it make you feel that there are photo’s posted on porn sites of you?

I am an exhibitionist, but at the same time I am shy. I will never show myself in to people who might not want to be confronted with a naked someone, but I do tend to wear short or low-cut dresses to show off my legs or my cleavage. There was a time when this made me feel self-conscious, but it has become a natural part of me. One place where my exhibitionist nature flourishes is in places where it is accepted to be nude, such as on a nude beach or at the spa. I frequently go to the latter and I really don’t mind being looked at. In fact, I want to be looked at, want them to notice my nakedness – men and women.

There was a time when knowing that others look at my nudity on the Internet, made me feel self-conscious and any negatively-sounding comment would leave me feeling uneasy. However, since I have started my own website and posted images there, things have changed. The sex-blogging community is wonderfully supportive and the comments I get are uplifting and always positive. Not once have I received a negative comment. Knowing that my photos are enjoyed is quite exciting, in more ways than one.

Have you ever been curious about the secret sex life of a person behind closed doors?

Oh yes! I look at people around me and wonder what their sex lives are like. Who’s the dominant one, even if they are not in a power-exchange relationship? Do they try several different positions or is missionary their preference? Is their sex life a pure ‘necessity’ or do they really love sex; love to be intimate with each other? Do they have sex toys? Do they have sex with people outside their relationship? Do they visit swing clubs?

When I sit at a restaurant, I look at the people around me, how they interact with each other, if they talk, if they make eye contact, if they seem to distance themselves from each other. Watching them, my mind creates stories about them, about their sex lives, their love, or lack of it.

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What do you love about wearing butt plugs and nipple charms?

It’s been quite long ago that I have last worn any nipple charms. There was a time when I wore them every day. They made me feel sexy, made me feel as if my nipples were on display all the time; like everyone could see I was wearing nipple charms. It fed my exhibitionism, knowing what I did about the charms under my clothes and hoping – deeply longing – that someone might notice.

Where nipple charms seem to fuel my exhibitionist nature, wearing butt plugs definitely feeds the submissive part of me. I love anal stimulation, and only for that I would wear a butt plug every day. However, I will never wear a plug off my own accord. I only wear them when my husband decides that I should. He orders me to wear it, whether it’s for an hour, a day, a night, at home or while running errands.

Tell me about your books and blogs? What is it like being an author and a blogger?

It’s fun! It’s hard work!

I have been published in several anthologies and my debut novel was published in 2016. I started my blog in January 2010 but it was only towards the end of 2010 that I knew in which direction I wanted to take it and when I started blogging in all earnest. Being an author and being a blogger is just like having a regular job, but then a bit different. It is hard work. I cannot concentrate only on my blog, because then I will never get to write my second novel. I cannot concentrate only on my novel, as I will lose all readers on my blog, I have to keep a balance between the two, and then balance that with my family and my paid job. I am not making much money with my writing at the moment, but hope to change things in 2018.

What do you enjoy about writing? What is your writing process like?

What I enjoy the most is to have a blank screen in front of me and an idea in my head. I start writing and sometimes the story turns out more or less like I had it in my head. Other times it has unexpected twists and turns and never gets to the ending I thought it would. I love that my characters can seem to live a life of their own.

My writing process is nothing more than that. I have an idea, I sit down and I write. This is with shorter stories. When a story has several chapters, like when I work on a novel, I make an outline of each chapter – just an idea and a couple of keywords – before I start writing. I never edit during writing. I write from beginning to end and only then read it again and start editing. The longer the story, the more times I edit. Before my novel was published in 2016, I edited it a total of nine times.

What articles would you recommend people read from your blog?

I have several stories that ran for quite some week, such as the two I have written with a close friend, Katie & Steve and The Instructor. Stories that turned out totally different from what I had in mind when I started writing, are:

There’s a lot to be found on my website Rebel’s Notes Erotic Fiction, as I have written my fair share of fiction and stories about real sexual encounters over the past years.

What are your favourite moments in your career as an author and a blogger?

Highlights were our visits to England, attending Eroticon, meeting other writers and bloggers and like-minded people. Another wonderful moment was when I started my Dutch writing group and met other erotic authors, giving them a platform to show and discuss their work.

Of course, having my stories published were great moments too, as is each and every comment I receive on my blog, whether it’s for my writing or a comment on an image.

Are there any new projects you are working on?

Yes! I have recently started a new website – Smut Marathon – and in 2018 I will run this competition – a writing marathon – for the first time. It’s a competition that goes on for 10 rounds and as the marathon progresses, people are eliminated from the race. It’s a marathon for the writers, the readers, the jury and for me, organizing things behind the scene. I have run a Dutch writing marathon for 4 years now and am using all experience I have gained with that to make the Smut Marathon a huge success! Let’s hope my dream comes true!

I have been blogging for close to 8 years now, and I hope for at least another 8 successful blogging years. I am not ready to stop yet!

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VIP Interview With August McLaughlin The Founder Of Girl Boner

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Girl Boner® is the brand that was founded by August McLaughlin, which includes a website, podcast and forthcoming book. Her Girl Boner blog series began in 2011 and entails a wide range of articles that are created to positively inspire women’s sexualities. It is “Where good girls go for sexual empowerment”! This blog has been ranked within the top 10 of Kinkly’s 100 Sex Blog Superheros list.

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Website: Girl Boner, Where Good Girls Go For Sexual Empowerment

Girl Boner Radio was established in 2014 and made it to the starring role of iTunes’ New and Noteworthy list for 7 whole weeks! To this day, it is still within the high ranks of iTunes’ What’s Hot list in the sexuality category. August is recognised throughout the media and she and her work have been featured by Sexual Health Expos, World Sexual Health Day, Cosmopolitan, Huffington Post and Dame Magazine. Most notably she had attended the United States of Women Summit by the White House and was a speaker of a TEDx conference about surviving an eating disorder.

August McLaughlin is also the author of a novel named In Her Shadow, a thrilling story about a woman who meets a series of unfortunate events including the tragic passing of her parents. As she is coping with her eating disorder she comes across the secrets of her families past.

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This is a VIP Interview with August McLaughlin the founder of Girl Boner.

Tell me about yourself. What would you like people to know about you?

What people perceive about me online, in public and on my show tends to be pretty accurate of me in “real life,” too — or so I’m told! I really value authenticity.

What is it like being able to run a podcast, blog and write books? What do you enjoy about each aspect of your work?

I love having multiple platforms to freely explore sexual empowerment related topics, and to connect with lots of different people. I enjoy writing more than most anything, but thrive on interaction as well. And the variety keeps things fresh and fun for me. The chance to shed light on needed and often taboo topics is probably my favorite part across the board.

What inspired you to talk about sex?

You can learn all about that here: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=V5mZu3-UMSY

Embracing my sexuality also helped me heal from an eating disorder and more. I share a lot more about that in my Girl Boner book, which will be released by Amberjack Publishing in 2018.

What stories have you heard that have moved and inspired you?

Far too many to name! Stories are such a powerful way to learn and teach. I share many — my own and those of others — on my show and in my forthcoming book. One of the most powerful stories I’ve heard recently came from Girl Boner Radio guest, Tika Thornton, who survived sex trafficking in Los Angeles. She’s one of the most inspiring people I’ve ever met, and that episode is one of my favorites.

What problems do you find people face with sexuality?

Shame is probably the biggest, and underlies countless other challenges.

Do you feel that people can talk about sex more openly these days? How do you wish it would change?

I have seen a great deal of progress, but lots of work remains, too. I’d love for no individual to ever feel ashamed of their body or sexuality.

What would you say to someone who is struggling with their sexuality?

You’re not alone or (even remotely) broken, and there’s a ton of hope to be had.

What do you wish people would know about sex?

It’s wondrous and beautiful, but not everything.

What are your favourite sex tips of all time?

Explore your own body, prioritize pleasure, and when you’re with a partner, aim to be present.Save

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