Ask Oz – Isolate or Dominate!!

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Hi Oz, I really hope you can help me. I’ve got a very problematic immune system, so as soon as Covid-19 went around, I’ve been forced into total social isolation. Thankfully I could continue working from home on my computer, but there are some things I just can’t do while in isolation.
Because no matter how good my vibrator collection is, no sex toy is ever going to choke me out, tell me what to do, or tie me down. Which is exactly the kind of thing I need to truly get off. What can I do? Please help! – Angela

 

Hi Angela, thanks for your email. I think I might be able to suggest a few things to get you through this time.

First up, the same goes for distance dom/sub relationships/encounters as it does for in-person ones: only do it with someone you trust. Lay out boundaries and safe words. Establish an open communication before the event, get familiar with each other, and certainly try a few video chats together before you get together for a long distance session. Most of the next things I’m about to suggest require the use of app-based control technology, and I would recommend trying these things before that initial playdate, to iron out any kinks (no pun intended).

Next up, it’s time to get some products that could be really useful to be dominated from anywhere in the world. Pick up a set of under-mattress restraints. Edge Extreme Under The Bed Restraints is a great kit that can be extended to fit even under a king sized bed, and comes with six metal loops to attach your favourite sets of binds to. Pornhub’s 8 Point Underbed Kit comes with its own set of cuffs for ankles and wrists, and given the anchor points for these may be even sturdier than the Edge ones.

To go along with your under bed restraints, look at finding some app controllable padlocks, like those offered by Noke. Again, definitely practise ahead of time with these, let your dom lock and unlock them when you’re not wearing them. These are probably the most important thing to make sure they work before using.

For toys, I’d recommend most things offered by Kiiroo. The Pearl 2 and the Fuse are two great classic style vibrators (the Pearl 2 is a g-spot toy, the Fuse is a rabbit style for dual stimulation). Both of these can be controlled remotely through an app, where you connect to the toy via bluetooth and then connect with your partner through the Kiiroo app. But what makes the Kiiroo toys really stand out from other app-controlled toys, is the interactivity on offer.

If playing solo, for example, you can load up interactive content from somewhere like Pornhub and the toy will respond to what is taking place on the screen. Pair this with some VR goggles, and you’re having the closest thing to sexual interaction as one can in a time of social isolation.

However if your partner (in this instance, I’m using a man as an example) has a Kiiroo Onyx 2, he can interact with your toy completely. The Onyx 2 is an amazing rechargeable stroker that offers a great sexual simulation. The inner workers that give the sensation of stroking react to your paired Kiiroo toy, be it Pearl 2 or Fuse, so as your toy enters you, his stroking will match the speed and rhythm you are using. And from the keypad on the Onyx 2, he can change the vibration levels and settings of your toy.

In saying all this, while I think any one of those could really assist with keeping things interactive, in your circumstances I would suggest using the OhMiBod Esca 2. The Esca 2 is also powered by Kiiroo’s technology, so enjoys all the same interactivity as the other toys. But the Esca 2 is a strong little egg that would be far more effective for you to use, considering you may be tied up and unable to hold a vibbrator in place. There is a little tail on the Esca 2 which has a few purposes. Firstly, it allows for easy extraction, and secondly it is also where the signal to link to your phone is based, allowing for a stronger signal than if this sensor was located on the internal part. The tail also has a little light on it which will flicker when it’s in use (this setting can be turned off), so your partner knows that what they’re doing on the app is actually happening to the toy. Being an internal toy, also gives him a greater view of your vulva.

These toys and cuffs and locks mentioned above could be the closest thing you could get to being properly dominated while in social isolation. If you give them a go, feel free to drop me a line back and tell how it all went, so to better assist any others that may be after the same kind of thing. Beyond these things, there could be a world of other possible options out there, since whole houses can now be app controlled in terms of powering on and off. It just depends on how creative you really want to get.

Have fun, play safe, stay safe and visit an Oh Zone Store Soon.

Ask An Adult Lifestyle Consultant A Question! One!

Cunnilingus

Hi Oz,

I’ve been with my partner for over a year now, but I don’t like going down on him. I find it hurts the back of my throat. I would probably just give up all together, but he’s so good at going down on me I really want to return the favour. Can you offer any suggestions? – BM

 

Hi BM,

Thanks for your email. It’s a good question, with a range of possible solutions, and you’re not the only one to experience this. I had a young lady in the adult shop I work at show me the bruises at the back of her throat. It looked like a hickey!!!

The simplest, yet not necessarily the easiest solution, is to talk to him directly about it. This can be tricky, or even feel a little awkward at the time, but the best thing for a relationship is an open channel of communication. Just as you might ask for something harder or softer during playtime, talking about what you do and don’t like is as important, though trickier, when discussed outside of the bedroom.

Alternatively, you could try using a throat numbing spray. Comfortably Numb is a good place to start with both sprays or mints, although Sensuva Deeply Love You have some seriously good flavours, like Butter Rum, Salted Caramel and Chocolate Coconut to name a few. They also have throat coating cream, Lic-olicious, with flavours like Blueberry Muffin, Mocha Cappuccino and Cinnabun. While this help the bruising my other customer experienced, it should remove the pain, or ease it at least.

Another option is to use a toy to simulate the sensation of deep-throating. One of the most popular toys for this at the moment is also super cheap, which is a masturbator sleeve, also known as an egg beater (as it is typically packaged like an egg). Almost all of these are a closed unit, with only one entry point, but as many customers have told me, they simply cut the end off one of these sleeves to have an open-ended toy. They then use this to work the base of the shaft while giving head, but they barely need to get more than the head of the penis into their mouths as the stroker does the rest of the work for them.

For something that will really take the arm-work out of using a stroker, look towards a Fun Factory Manta. This rechargeable, vibrating stroker differs from many others with its ‘open-wing’ style design that allows for a lot of versatility. This silicone toy has an easy-to- hold ring at the base and a good range of vibration speeds and settings. Besides using the Manta on his shaft during oral sex, the two of you can also use it to tease all your erogenous zones.

So that’s the regular options to your issue, however there is an undertone to your email which concerns me. Firstly, there is no requirement to do anything simply because you feel obliged to. If he wants to go down on you, great, if you don’t want to go down on him, just as fine. Sex should always be about pleasure.

In saying that, it sounds obvious in your email that while you are not keen on deep throating, your partner gives a ‘helping hand’ to get you to go deeper. If the earlier advice of talking things through and getting him to not force himself so hard down your throat, then there is another option for you. Pick yourself up a King Cock 8” dildo, and force it into your partner’s throat. See how much he likes it.

Write in your own sex questions and Oz will answer them in his next instalment.

Kink and Couples Cuckold Play with Sir James

Today we’d like to continue our exploration of kink and fetish, and we’re proud to present Sir James from Fetish House in Melbourne. Without giving too much away he has been describes as massive, strong and rugged with piercing brown eyes. Sir James speciality interests include dominance, bondage, manhandling, heavy impact play and BDSM couples coaching.

Sir James At Fetish House

Hi Sir James, thanks for looking at this interview – I have to start at the beginning.

How did your kink journey start for you?

Well Stephen, for me I don’t know exactly what was my first kinky thought, or even that I consider myself kinky. I just love exploring sex and giving catharsis to those who also enjoy trying new sexual or intimate pleasures. If I had to pick a moment that kicked it all off I would say it was reading erotic literature as a teen, imagining what could be done with rope and handcuffs. Luckily for me the stories I read were quite inspired and included healthy consensual BDSM which lead me here.

You work at Fetish House in Melbourne (Australia). Melbourne is one of the few places around with several Kink and Fetish establishments – With Fetish House being on the Melbourne scene for a while now – what makes it different?

Fetish House has a ‘Learning First’ mentality, which I think comes through in the quality of our Service Providers. We have many years of experience to draw on, and many house slaves willing to be used as consenting teaching tools. That sort of atmosphere can only create excellence. I love knowing that if I want to improve my knowledge of needle play or extreme suspension I will be able to watch some masters at work, and if anyone wants to learn from my years of wrestling experience to improve their physical confidence and manhandling I will gladly take them under my wing.

 

Sir James preparing for an impact play scene
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Working at Fetish House – what goes into the preparation for a clients scene?

More often than not there is a short email exchange, to allow us to get a broad understanding of our clients desires and mentally prepare for what is to come. Often if a client wants ball busting, or extreme bondage there is a process of mental preparation where we have to find the right mind set to engage.

After that of course the rooms are cleaned and prepared, stocked with all the gear and more so there is no hesitation. Lastly comes an in person interview before the session, obviously we like to ensure everyone knows their safe words, the expected protocol, safety practices and hard limits and this talk is best done in person.

One of the things that you specialise in is couples coaching – in your experience what’s some of the common things that couples are most interested in when they come to you?

Often couples need to learn how to balance making a scene last so that a bottom can reach a heightened sexual, physical or mental arousal. This means the question couples really end up asking is “how do I take these few tools and sculpt a scene that lasts two hours but felt like ten minutes?” What I end up teaching them is how to build up anticipation, how to correctly bind someone so they can be in place for extended lengths of time, how to edge (delay orgasm), how to spank/paddle/cane for longer. Secretly that’s what every one wants to know.

As a fetish couples coach – what do people frequently get wrong when it comes to kink and fetish play, and how can they correct it?

Most Tops go to quickly for the end goal, they go too hard too early or they don’t tease enough. Inversely most Bottoms have preconceived ideas about what should happen, rather than enjoying themselves. Both of these can be fixed the same way which is to slow down, always taking an extra moment before speaking or acting. All BDSM practitioners either Tops or Bottoms should take their time and think twice before acting.

What’s your go to comfort food?

I personally love a good protein shake with berries at the end of the day. I engage very physically with my visitors and that coupled with my regular training can leave me very drained.

Fetish House is a place where you’ll sometimes work with other staff to create a session such as Cuckolding and Sissy Play Tag Team Scenes. For those that don’t know, what are these two styles of play and what do they mean to you?

These are very different sessions from my perspective. Cuckolding is more intimate, which makes it more thrilling for the client. That savage eye contact which a Mistress can make directed towards a cuckold as I’m entering her is what often will make their fantasy real. It’s important that when we as Bull and Mistress are talking to (or ignoring) the client it is with the express purpose of making sure they feel a certain way. For some it is happy that the Mistress is getting what she wants in the form of greater sexual pleasure, for others it’s the feeling of betrayal (in a controlled setting) which brings out a primal urge which can be very potent.

Sissy Play is more an emasculation. The taboo of being proven to be a lesser man, especially in front of a larger and stronger male, is a massive turn on for many men. Similar to how many clients enjoy being bound because it frees them, I feel ‘sissy boy’ play is similar because you can revel in being controlled by a personification of what you are leaving behind. This means when we talk or act around those clients it is more expressly about taking away pride and forcing them to do what they wont, or can’t, do by themselves.

These types of play often leave clients in a near hypnotic and hyper-sensual state, and the smiles I see on these types of people afterwards is wonderful.

Sir James Engaging with Kink and Rope Bondage
Sir James with Rope Bondage

What’s some of the elements of cuckolding that you enjoy?

Well obviously I enjoy being able to use my strength and power to bring pleasure to people. I enjoy being a person who you do not need to pretend or roleplay with, since often (at a clients request before a session) I will wrestle them into a submissive position and then bind them with rope or chains. This aspect of using my gifts of strength and size to make people feel even more engaged in their fantasy makes me feel very satisfied as a service provider.

On top of this I love seeing people happy. Being involved as a fetish provider is not about your own specific Fetish desires, but instead you have to be able to enjoy seeing others happy enjoying their specific taboo. Luckily for me that is my pleasure, and getting happy emails after every session talking about how much they love what I did to them just makes it all worthwhile.

What’s the most difficult thing when it comes to doing cuckholding scenes?

Watching everything is the hardest part. When you are a Dominant or a Top you must always be keenly aware of the entire room. The safety and the mental state of your bottom is your responsibility and obviously if you are engaged in sex with another provider you must keep yourself pleasuring them and keeping your bottom under observation. Luckily this is no problem for me with my experience, but for those at home I suggest always making sure you are cognisant of everything, which becomes easier over time.

For those interested in exploring cuckoldry – what are three tips they need to know?

1:Go slow, there is always time for going further in the future, and it never hurts to have more places to explore. This applies to all BDSM; from the size of your new buttplug to the difficulty of the rope binds you are using.

2:Talk about expectations and limits before and after. Unless your kink is being cruel and your partner is ok with that, then you should know what your partner finds arousing and what your mutual goals are. Do they want to watch? do they want to listen? do they want to be involved? If you don’t know you are missing out on opportunities.

3: Be safe. Always use protection, find a neutral place to play like a hotel, use fake names. Things rarely go wrong but it does not hurt to be safe, and it can make it more fun and exciting.

Sir James at Scarlet Blue

What’s the best bit about the work that you do that you just couldn’t give up?

The people and their reactions. I am the luckiest guy in the world because people who come to me want something, and I can give them exactly what they want. That is rare, and the grateful nature people have after we are done is perfect.

That said, I can’t lie, when people come to see me I tell them what I expect them to wear and how I expect them to act. This expectation means they put on a show for you. Seeing people in their best make up and clothes, then getting the strip them down and see them naked and aroused as they wait for your touch is the best feeling in the world.

 

Thanks Sir James, i’d like to thank you so much for your time and patience in helping us navigate through this.

 

10 Sexual Performance Boosting Yoga Positions

Yoga for improved sexual function

There has been much talk about the benefits of yoga and what it can bring to the table. Well, you need a pretty darn’ big table if you want to see all of the goods.

First of all, yoga is consisted of natural body movements. Some of them are harder to learn than others, and although some of them may not seem like they are natural for your body, they most certainly are. Once you get the hang of them, learn the basics and start practicing them consistently, other complex movements will come on their own.

Trust me when I say this, your body will be grateful for it! In a short period, you will most definitely feel some good changes. Whether it’s your posture, strength, flexibility, your body will start to change and with it, your mind. Let’s see exactly how big your table should be.

Benefits Of Yoga

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Yoga has various types of movements and exercises that target specific body parts in many different ways. Therefore, yoga is proven to be effective in countering many diseases such as erectile dysfunction. A study from the Journal of Sexual Medicine found that yoga improves some factors in sexual performance including desire, intercourse satisfaction, performance, confidence, erection strength, ejaculatory control, orgasm, and partner synchronization.

Strength

Although it may not seem like it, yoga is actually a pretty good way to build strength. It won’t bring you the bulk look that guys from the gym have, but you can use it for a nice foundation. You can bring your body to the next level and use yoga as “warm-up” for heavy lifting or calisthenics. Mixing those two types is actually preferred.

Mental Strength

Maybe even the most important aspect of yoga, mental training. Nothing will teach you the techniques of staying calm and relaxed in stressful situations better than yoga. It is no secret that yoga has various breathing techniques that, mixed with different body postures, make a pretty effective combo in your mental training. Let’s face it; it’s pretty important and even necessary to know how to relax.

Body Posture

If you had a problem with your back, yoga would be the tool to get rid of it primarily because this ancient practice lengthens and stretches the spine, thus improving your balance and promoting proper alignment of vertebra, shoulders, neck, and the lower back area.

Arthritis

This one is in direct connection to the first point I have made, however, I had to separate them since arthritis, especially knee arthritis, is such a common problem nowadays. Yes, yoga has its ways around this problem also.

Better Sex Life

The very topic of this article and a pretty good method for solving this problem. Yoga improves sexual performance through stress reduction, i.e. making you more relaxed and willing to surrender to pleasure and satisfaction. Plus, with improved flexibility, both you and your partner will want to try out all sorts of positions.

I have only mentioned some of the benefits and look at the list right now; it already seems quite impressive. I will leave the rest of them for you to figure out.

Another pretty important advantage that yoga has over other “workout movements” is that it is cheaper and can be done anywhere. You don’t have to spend your money on the “best male enhancement supplements” that some of them like to call them, anymore. You can do yoga anywhere whether that’s at your home, park or gym. It would be good if you got into a course just so that you learn the movements from a professional, but there are other methods to learn yoga as well.

Alright, now that you have seen and “met” with yoga, we can move on to the main topic of this article, yoga exercises that will help you improve your sex life.

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Yoga Exercises For A Better Sex Life

Yoga does indeed help you with your sex life, but how exactly? It does seem odd when you think about it. We got used to the fact that dietary supplements like Virectin help us improve sexual prowess but it turns out yoga can be a great addition to your lifestyle for better sex and overall health. How can exercises help you with this? Well, I have thought the same way, but then I found answers.

You see, yoga can help you have a better sex life by making your body fit and strong, by improving your circulation and blood flow (which is extremely important because the very own reason why your penis gets erected is that of the blood that runs through it), and by increasing your sensations.

Here are the top ten candidates that could help you with this:

Half Plank

You have heard about the plank. A powerful exercise that targets your core muscles, shoulders and lower back. A half plank is just that half of the regular plank. Instead of going all the way down to your elbows, you should be in a position that is pretty similar to mid push-up position.

Holding your body in this position will strengthen up that core. You see, core muscles are your body’s stabilizers, therefore they are playing a key role in your sex life. With strong abs, you will move better, control your body better and look better.

The Cobra

The cobra is an excellent exercise for your lower back. It is quite similar to the half plank, but your hands should be lower and your body a little bit more narrow. This exercise will make you breathe heavily in no time, which is why it is a good way for improving your breathing techniques.

The Haka

You have heard about Haka. If you haven’t, you can check how New Zealand’s natives are doing it. It has originated from their tribe called Maori, and it has maintained as part of their tradition and national anthem to this day.

This position will put your lower body to the test. Your legs will definitely feel the most impact but guess what your body will release a significant testosterone boost after it.

High Lunges

Now this one is a power builder. You will build your core strength, explosiveness, and have a better range of motion in no time. The move itself isn’t that hard to learn and start doing, but it is extremely effective.

The Crow

Now, this is some new level, right here! The crow will test your limits and most certainly drain your soul out! This is a pretty hard, advance move that is as effective as it is hard. You want to control your body and lift it up with ease the crow is the way to go.

The Bridge

You can almost immediately figure out what this exercise is good for just from the looks of it. It will build your endurance and your leg strength which will most definitely help you in the sack.

Down Dog Knee To Nose

This is an exercise with a medium difficulty grade. It will work out that core and help your hips increase their range of motion. You will feel the gains from this one when you get to bed.

The Chair

The chair is pretty similar to the Haka pose. However, it targets your leg and lowers back muscles in a different way. You can build up your endurance with this one and have pretty strong legs at the same time.

The Corpse

You can figure out how this looks like just from the name. The corpse pose, also known as Savasana, will teach you how to relax your body, be at peace and feel calm while lying on the bed.

The Crescent Moon

And last but not least a standing side stretch also known as the Crescent Moon. A pretty important movement that will help to improve body circulation. This yoga position has you moving your body in a side to side movement. This exercise will activate your hips and improve your range of motion. The exercise is not hard to do at all so you can easily combine it with others or use it as a warm-up. Your call!

Final Thoughts

That would be all of them! Most of them, as you saw are pretty easy and fun to do. My advice to you would be to try every single one of these 10 exercises and make a workout plan that you will follow!

These exercises can be done every single day! If you try an exercise and fail, don’t shy away from the challenge. Keep exploring, do an easier variation of it, or simply do others from the list and then when you feel stronger, try the one that you couldn’t do. That’s what progress is all about.

Remember, a challenge is always good and failure is also good. You wouldn’t be able to learn if there weren’t for failures, so go straight on, face your fears and work you ass off!

Trust me, after a while of doing these exercises, your partner will be grateful and so will your body.

That’s about it. Now you know how to improve your sex life while also improving yourself, I don’t see what can stop you. You can even work out with your significant other. That would be an absolutely 100% win win situation as both of you will gain more endurance and strength, and feel better in bed at the same time!

7 Effortless Ways to Have Mind-Blowing Sex

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Everyone wants to experience intense, orgasmic, sexual pleasure but sometimes we just need something much more than just sex. This article will look into 7 Effortless Ways to Have Mind-Blowing Sex how you’ve always wanted to. It will help you to focus on something more sexual then just physical pleasure.

Begin foreplay before you reach the bedroom:  Foreplay can start much earlier before you even reach the bedroom. You can hint towards something a little more sexually fulfilling through text messages and by sounding sexy when you talk to them.

  • Send your lover a passionate message: Send your lover a passionate message that will leave them thinking that their might be something more. For example “I am looking forward to seeing you tonight xoxo” or “I can’t wait to hold you in my arms.” It will make them feel sexy and wanted in all the right ways.
  • Call them on the phone and talk sultry: Make your lover fantasies and think about sex all day by giving unexpected attention throughout the day. Talk in the sexiest voice possible to let them know you are up to no good.

Massage their whole body: When you are touching their whole body in an intimate massage, take your time to explore each and every single inch. During the massage you can passionately kiss different areas of their body as you go. Take this time to learn everything about how their body responds and you will be able to find all the areas that they will gain the greatest pleasure from. Use this to your advantage and stimulate these areas. If you are able to completely understand your lover’s body, you are also able to develop strong and meaningful feelings of trust which helps to bond the two of you together.

Give your lover your undivided attention and go slow: Ensure that during sex there are no unwanted distractions like TVs, radios and mobile phones. Play music that sets the mood. Take your time to be fully conscious of your thoughts, if you find yourself thinking about the past or the future take a deep breath and focus on the present experience. If you begin to worry about expectations or have negative judgements, try to clear your mind.  Pay attention to every pleasurable sensation you feel during sex and how they affect you. Try having sex at a much slower pace so you can pay attention to every detail of pleasure.

 

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Look directly into your lovers eyes with confidence: The eyes are often referred to being the “windows to the soul”. You can tell a lot about a person by their eyes. When you are having sex gently hold your partners face and directly look into their eyes, don’t look away. This experience may feel quite intense. Here are some reasons why maintaining eye contact helps produce incredibly deep feelings of connection and passion:

  • Allows our bodies to pick up on natural responses: Our bodies can naturally pick up that someone likes us through noticing the dilation of their pupils. The bigger the dilation the more they may like you or the more they find you deeply attractive.
  • Produces a natural chemical attraction: If you spend a long time looking into someone’s eyes, your body will produce a chemical named phenylethylamine (PEA). It is known as the “falling in love” chemical as it enhances the feelings of attraction.
  • Establishes an emotional connection: Looking at a person’s face is more likely to produce feelings of emotional connection whilst looking at their body produces more feelings of physical desire. Art Aron a Behavioural Psychologist at the State University of New York found that when you pair two people who had never met and ask them to look into each other’s eyes without talking for two minutes, the pair gained feelings of bonding and closeness.
  • People in love maintain longer eye connection: Harvard social psychologist Zick Rubin studied couples who are in love and found that they maintain eye contact 75 percent of the time. He found the more eye contact they made the more they had feelings of love. When someone else joined the conversation, he found the couple took a longer time to look away from each other.

Make it hard to look away: When you do wish to look away, take your time to slowly draw your eyes away almost as if you are stuck to their eye contact. This will make both of you, notice the emotional pull within the moment. When you attempt to look back into their eyes, it will thoroughly turn your lover on even more.

Take away your partners senses: If you take one of your partner’s sense away they will be able to focus more attention to the sensations that are available to them. This will in turn heighten their sensation to feel stronger. For example, if you blindfold your partner it will take away their sight their sense of pleasure will be increased.

Delay their orgasm: Spend longer amounts of time providing them with foreplay until they beg for more. You can bring them to the point where they almost orgasm and slow back down which will prevent them from reaching orgasm. The more time you spend delaying their orgasm the more sexually intense the experience will become when they do. Foreplay can be made much easier with the use of couples sex toys.

 

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