9 Questions That Make You Kinky?

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Many dictionaries define kink as being

‘an unusual or eccentric idea’

and there is a lot of stigma when it comes to defining ones self as being sexually kinky or a kinkster. There is nothing unusual or eccentric about kink sex – indeed it provides an outlet for many individuals that feel otherwise constrained within ‘vanilla’ sex. The issue here is the term kink and its definition in being such a broad statement that it’s little more than an umbrella term and therefore subject to gross misinterpretation. Whilst kink does incorporate the more out there sexual preferences inclusive but not limited to;

puppy play, nappy play, erotic asphyxiation, suspension play

and the like – many people forget that kink play can also be simply restraints on the bed, outdoor sex or even dressing up in a particular way. The definition of kink and its boundaries have become so blended that there are no longer clear distinctions when using the term.

So, with this in mind it is therefore extremely common to be into kink– it just depends on the type of kink that you are into. I mentioned earlier that kink provides a sexual outlet – and when you reduce many of these ‘kinks’ to their basic levels they essentially come down to very specific terms of power and control, individual expression and escapism from everyday life. It’s no coincidence that many individuals in high profile positions that require intense decision making often have a fantasy and sexual outlet of being completely submissive. This can work towards providing balance within their lifestyle.

Kink can provide intimacy on many levels within a couple. Firstly, emotionally as you reveal secrets and thoughts whereby you, in most cases, become closer with each other. Sharing is a huge part of being a couple. Secondly, as you explore each other’s bodies in new and exciting ways. Simply restraining your partner to the bed and teasing them with the sense of touch can be highly erotic as you focus more on aspects of foreplay. Kink is a world you should explore, and you can venture out as far or as little as you and your partner want to. The limits and boundaries are entirely up to you – it’s a fantastic way to spice things up or even add a new dimension to your intimacy.

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In saying all of this the world of kink can be a tricky minefield as it sometimes seems overwhelming when you first start out. This is why staff in sex positive adult lifestyle centers can be helpful. We know our products; we don’t know your fantasy. The best suggestion when first starting out is to talk to the staff, give them a sense of what you’re trying to do and we can guide you in a particular direction. What usually ends up happening is that we both learn from each other – not everyone thinks the same and you might be using a particular product in a way that we ourselves hadn’t considered, and this is entirely okay. So do you now know what is kink?

The interesting thing is, we have all done something a little bit kinky! A playful light slap to your lover rear end to let them know they are doing a good job. You may have even used a little bit of rough or aggressively sex especially after a lover’s quarrel. Maybe you even did something like blindfolding your lover to let them experience the sexual sensations. Sometimes people also restrain their partners with ropes or bondage gear to be in full control whilst your partner is being submissive. Here are some kinks that you may have done but you are not aware of yet:

  1. You pulled your lover’s hair for pleasure
  2. Injured or shown aggression towards your lover’s neck or other parts of the body
  3. Used pressure,push and power for domination
  4. Played out a fantasy concerning a specific role or scenario
  5. Placed both hands around your partner’s throat
  6. Performed degrading acts to your lover for pleasure
  7. Commanded your spouse to do something you find humiliating on you
  8. Advised|your partner to execute certain love making acts on you
  9. Called your lover awkward or humiliating names

Author: Stephen Smith – BA Of Social Sciences, M.Ed

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10 Fetishes You Ought To Know!

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Many people don’t have any idea about Fetishism or Fetish.  Erotic fetishism or sexual fetishism is a kind of sexual arousal that a person receives from physical objects or from specific situations. These objects or situations are referred to as a fetish. The person who has a fetish for that particular object is known as fetishist. Sexual fetishism may be done by an individual but is often interlaced with another person or persons that share that common fetish.

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The people (whether they are men or women), who like erotic fetishism, can be aroused by unusual parts of the body, or activities as well as objects that are usually not used in regular sex. Its desire is so strong that some people may not get fully sexually satisfied without using a fetish object, imagining fetish objects or creating a fetish scene that can encompass a whole range of role-playing or locale. This often makes the fetish scene seem underground and bizarre yet in truth it may be different but is no more unusual or bizarre than the BDSM scene.  Some fetishes are non-sexual too and may be as simple as dressing up as animals ‘furrys’ or as your favorite action character  ‘cos play’.

There are various kinds of sexual fetishes each different from the other yet all  have their own way to get erotic pleasures. Some people concentrate on parts of the body such as legs, feet, bottom, hair, armpits along with various other parts of the body. In contrast to that, some people involve sex by creating certain kind of scenarios including bondage, spanking, dominant / submissive role playing, trampling as well as cross-dressing. Along with these people, there are many others, who like to wear certain kind of fabrics or clothing for stimulation including rubber, latex, leather or even angora sweaters. Thus there are an unlimited number of scenarios and objects that are used.

There are many people, who have considered sexual fetishism as a sin as our society labels anything  that differs from conventional sex as perverted or deviant. These kinds ideas are narrow minded and in all probability those purporting to have these ideals have hidden fetishes themselves. There should be no boundaries (except legal) in how people wish to express their sexual freedom and who want to enjoy their sexual life in non traditional ways with their fetishes. according to their sexual needs and requirements. People who don’t fulfill their sexual needs will be frustrated and unlikely not be sexually fulfilled that has equal importance in the people’s well-being as many other things like fitness and diet. One should not compromise and be explore their fetish as otherwise there will be something missing in their life and may make wrong choices in order to fulfill that void.

Some fetishes include:

  • Babification – Adults that dress up, act as and wanted to be treated as infants. children are those people that appreciate being an infant once more. They may appreciate relapsing mostly or totally, partaking in the demonstration of wearing diapers, being looked after by a grown-up, sucking on an infant container or pacifier, dressing up in infant garments, crawling as opposed to walking and talking in “infant” talk. People inspired by infantilism in all probability appreciate not having responsibilities at home and many are often in high pressure occupations away from.

  • Swinging – is generally when a married couple or those that have been in a very long-term relationship wish to experiment sexually with other people (mostly other couples also in long-term relationships) whilst remaining together.  They will often gather at swinging parties where they may wife swap or allow the other partner to have sex with another whilst watching.  It is essential to note that the relationship of the swinging couple must be strong prior to venturing into this fetish as if the reason is to make it better it will generally be the demise.
  • Water Sports or Urolagnia –  is the demonstration of being turned on by pee, whether it is the sight, feel or smell of it. It might include the fulfillment or demonstration of washing in pee also. Regular sorts of Urolagnia include: wetting one’s self or the perception of someone else wetting themselves while completely dressed, watching the demonstration of somebody relieving themselves in the washroom or going about as a human urinal, otherwise called accepting or giving a “golden shower”.  It might include the craving to urinate out in the open or watch another person do as such. What causes this sort of interest? Nobody truly recognizes what causes this and necessities to end up held up in our brains, however people that are into this sort of obsession portray sentiments of freedom when urinating in broad daylight and satisfaction when someone relieves themselves on them.
  • Cross-Dressing – People that cross-dress wear clothes and adornments of the “opposite sex.” Cross-dressing is more normal than you may might suspect,  influencing mainly hetero and gay men – although some women will cross-dress as men too. There are an assortment of explanations behind cross-dressing; it might be that the individual does not feel the sex they were naturally born with fits who they are. It might be that they are excited by the radical thought of wearing something “prohibited” to them. It might be that they just appreciate the distinctive part of design not normally accessible to them in public. Cross-dressing has turned out to be more accepted by society in recent years with shops and online boutiques showcasing particularly to cross-dressers.

  • Foot fetishism –  is a common one.  It is the most well-known fixation of the non-genital body parts. Sigmund Freud offered the clarification that individuals build up this interest because of the way that the human foot looks like a penis. Regardless of what the reason, foot worshiping is a well known interest with 90 percent of the fetishists being male. It can include the foot alone, or feet, shoes and socks or leggings. Maybe it has to do with how we are wired, with our brains responding to various delight focuses on our bodies. People that are not into this fetish may  still appreciate having their toes sucked every so often.
  • Sado-Masochism – Spanking a butt can bring about excitement for some individuals.   More severe discipline may take us back to our adolescence, make us feel loved and cared for, which many people find a turn on. It can likewise be a piece of mastery and subjugation with the master or mistress directing the spankings taking control of the subordinate/slave. Whatever it is that we appreciate about punishment its a regular and common fetish.
  • Exhibitionists/Voyeurism – People appreciate watching sex or uncovering themselves in broad daylight. Men are more voyeuristic than ladies with 12 percent of men being stimulated while watching sexual acts contrasted with 4 percent of ladies. As shown by statistics from the sex industry, 80 percent of people watching porn are men. Exhibitionism is an alternate story however and almost all of us have done it.  It is not just about taking off all your clothes but wearing something more seductive, showing a bit more leg or opening the shirt button a little extra.  Doing anything for the purpose of showcasing our bodies is a form of exhibitionism and who has not been guilty of that?

  • Rubberists -this fetish is demonstrated by those that either get sexual satisfaction from wearing or having someone wear rubber, leather, latex, vinyl or other material. They are colled “rubberists”. The tight material goes about as a sort of sexual servitude. For a few, the odor of elastic/latex/cowhide may likewise be a turn on. The interest can extend from wearing the more traditional sorts of things, for example, a cat suit to something more extreme like a gas mask.
  • Role Playing -Sexual role playing scenarios includes two or more people carrying out various parts to create a sexual situation. It can be any kind of sexual fantasy. Couples could role play in a certain place,  or during a certain activity or a certain way.
  • BDSM – This stand for bondage, domination and sado masochism so entails a great deal.  BDSM is a general fetish that in itself contains hundreds more and may be any on or all of these words.  Generally it is accepted that those doing Bondage play have “an arrangement of practices, traditions, and customs including the giving by one individual to another individual control over them”. It includes punishment and domination but between two consenting adults. This can be as a one-time event, occasional practice or always in their relationship.  Many times couples reverse roles in different sessions.

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