My name is Kenneth and I am 38 years old and I am a paraplegic. I lost movement and feeling more than a decade ago when my spinal cord had significant damage done to it as a result of a motor-cycle accident. It was the most traumatic event of my life that I still deal with daily both emotionally and physically and has left me mobility impaired.
To say that it changed my life is an understatement and many things that previously I had taken for granted were now extremely difficult if not impossible to achieve. The most life-changing factor was independence and mobility. Before the accident I was a young man that was actively social and sexual living independently in an apartment in the city. The apartment was rented and share with a friend of mine.
After the accident, my parents god bless them, modified the house they lived in at Windsor to be paraplegic ‘friendly’ with ramps, L Brackets, Grab Bars and more. However, nothing could have prepared them or me for how much this was going to impact on our day to day living. At hospital things were much easier as everyone was trained and the place catered for the mobility impaired. In any event I am getting off track from the purpose of this letter but wished to validate who I am and how I came to be here.
My thoughts and desires are the same as any other ‘able bodied’ man however I just do not have the capacity to do the same physical things. Approaching or just reaching my middle age I still desire the touch of a woman although since the accident this has been something that has been very few and far between. One of the things I loved doing before the accident was shopping for sextoys as I liked to watch my partners playing with toys and then joining in once they had cum in front of me.
After the accident I thought my sex-life was a chapter of my book that had closed on me. I found little support or information out there of what or how to have a sex life with my impairment and became an internet junkie – researching and learning what I could on the internet. It opened up a whole new horizon and outlook and organizations like Touching Base provided valuable support.
I researched how I could actually ‘have sex’ again
and explored methods like penile implants and more but the thought of surgery on my young-fellow after so many months in hospital just did not appeal to me. Then I learned about penis pumps or vacuum devices and ordered one on-line together with an adjustable cock ring. Having read that it was possible for me to cause an erection via a penis pump and then maintain that erection by using the cock ring to restrict the flow of blood back down the shaft.
After a number of practices I found that I could get it to work.
NOTE: As I have no feeling in my penis and other para’s and quad’ may be in the same boat it is important that you do not over-pump your penis as you can cause damage and also not to restrict it for more than say ten or fifteen minutes at a time as again you can do yourself some damage.
Anyway just the knowledge that I could now get and maintain an erection was a revelation to me and lifted my spirits immensely. Having desired sexual intimacy for so long I hired a Taxi to a brothel at Chatswood that was referred to me that both had wheelchair access and catered for the impaired. Having not experienced this for so many years it put me on top of the world – although I did not tell my parents about it as I was fearful they would object. For the past eight months, each month I visit Chastwood and must say it is something I look very much forward to and enjoy. But now back to the main purpose of this letter.
For months I have been looking for an adult shop in Sydney that caters for mobility impaired people as one of my favorite fantasies is to see a woman playing with herself with various sex toys. Mentally this is a real turn on for me and I wished to incorporate it with my monthly Chatswood visit. I also wanted to get a better penis pump than the one I had, but to my dismay all the adult shops I called were on the first floor and did not provide wheelchair access.
I began researching this on the net as when purchasing something so intimate I wanted to look and feel it. To get advice from someone that knows about the product so that I could make the right choices but there was nothing out there until finally I googled and found out about Oh Zone, Kogarah that is advertised as a mobility impaired accessible adult store.
This weekend just gone I took the trip (just on an hour) to go to Oh Zone at 12 Production Avenue, Kogarah to see what was up at that shop. I got there and sure enough there was a ramp from the road to gutter and no curbs or bumps to overcome. I entered the shop and was amazed at its size – I asked Belinda there and he said over 450 square meters of retail space. All the aisles were wide enough for easy wheelchair access and maneuverability. The first display with all the vibrators on it was the right height for people in wheelchairs to touch and feel and operate.
It was, as claimed a wheelchair friendly establishment. Brandon, the salesman there was friendly and let me know if there was anything that was out of my reach to ask him and he would bring it down for me to view. I stayed in that shop for over an hour and probably would have stayed more – having picked up the goodies that I wanted. I told Brandon I would write a letter indicating how great I felt the shopping experience was and that there was an adult retailer there that considered mobility impaired people as real customers rather than a liability. As promised I am going to email some of my other ‘gics’ that I know are looking for an establishment like this.
So thumbs up to Oh Zone Adult Shop for catering for mobility impaired. May doing so bring you all the success in the world and you have a loyal customer in Kenneth here.
Stephen is a cis-gendered gay male who spends far too much time with his two cats and eating tim tams. A self-identified sex-positive advocate he cares deeply about gender equality, disabilities, sexual education and social issues. Opinionated and bold he isn’t afraid to speak his mind and say what others won’t. With a yearning for knowledge and experience in all things relating to sex, he is a prolific writer that has developed the content for a myriad of informative Sexual Health and Wellness websites.
Stephen’s articles and writings tends to focus on social issues, sexual education, queer issues and all things fetish and absurd. He comes qualified with the completion of a double Bachelor degree in Social Sciences and literature, and a Masters in Education.