Are Senior Dating Sites Just For Seniors?

Dating Seniors

In today’s world, “seniors” are not who they used to be. People are thriving and energetic in their 50s and enjoying the dating life well beyond even those years. In most cases, these individuals are back to single life after perhaps lengthy marriages. Some lack the confidence or the know-how for the modern scene, especially with the online platform.

 

The mature age group likely went on dates back in their day by meeting potential dates in high school and college. People used to go to parties and see someone across a crowded room and take down a phone number (Cliché, right? But, true.).

 

Or others would start talking to someone at a local pub and give them a call later to ask them on a date. There was actual interaction among human beings.

 

Today, we have digitization – for everything. And in reality, for the most part, it can prove challenging for someone progressing in age to make a connection with a person of a similar age in public with whom they can then socialize. So, dating sites for over 50s is a genuine benefit.

 

Dating Into The Golden Years

 

When you reach a certain age and perhaps were half of a partnership and a parent, you might feel as though you progressed too far in life to begin again.

 

There’s certain insecurity or maybe a lack of confidence that comes with stepping out of the old role into something brand new, especially when dating is not what dating once was.

 

While the online platform is progressive, it might not be for everyone. People well over the age of 50 enjoy going out and socializing, and not all individuals are computer-literate or technologically savvy. That doesn’t mean there’s no hope. There are still ways to find love for people of all ages. Let’s look at different ideas to try mingling in an effort to meet a new mate.

 

Senior Dating Sites: 

 

Though it’s not for everyone and some are truly hesitant, the 50+ age group is among the fastest growing to make up the online dating clients. There are, in fact, niche-specific sites for people of a certain age. The most important aspect of the online platform is remaining safe.

 

Read the terms and conditions for each website you consider. It is worth the money to pay for a good site because if everyone pays, IDs are on file, and no one can be anonymous. Have friends or family assist with your profiling.

 

These people will be objective. They see you in real-time. You will likely have a higher tendency to be harsh on yourself. When asked what you’re looking for, be bold, blunt, and brief. Only disqualify the severe issues that undoubtedly break the deal.

 

Some people do still have a home phone. In these situations, you should only speak to potential dates using your mobile so that it’s untraceable back to your home address. And when it comes time to meet, drive separately and meet publicly.

 

Make sure to use a true and current picture of yourself that shows you in a positive place, not a sour face. Too often, people use photos that are years old and then come to meet and they’re not recognized that’s unfair and awkward. For those looking for males over the age of 50 go to https://m.huffpost.com/us/entry/us_6976670 for suggestions.

 

** Speed Dating

 

The concept of speed dating is one that is relatively new  but one that is becoming quite popular among the mature group and the “Baby Boomer” generation. If you aren’t in a location where you can actively participate in a meeting group, you can do this form of dating online also, but it isn’t quite the same as the face-to-face mingling that it’s supposed to be.

 

The general idea is to meet, get to know, and have a mini date with someone in a timed format. You do this with as many people in the group as you’d like until you find a match.

 

This allows practice with socialization and helps to alleviate any shyness or lack of confidence with which you might be dealing. Speed dating is another platform that you want to thoroughly research before you engage and make sure the group you sign up for is appropriate for your specific needs.

 

A wise move would be to watch a video of how the process works so that you can prepare ahead of time. Even if you don’t find a mate, it’s actually quite a fun way to meet new friends.

 

** Right In Your Own Backyard

 

Sometimes someone is as close as your circle of friends, and you’re not open to it. When you start thinking about the possibility of dating, speak with close friends about your decision.

 

Only those closest to you can see things that you might not be able to, and these people are also the best resources to help you to get out of the house and meet new friends.

 

If you live in a senior community, there are often groups you can join where you can introduce yourself around to the other members. You can take walks through the neighborhood and meet others, enjoying some exercise as you stroll.

 

You could put your name on the board in the community building letting other residents know that you’d be available to volunteer your time for specific purposes like helping out with errands or small tasks. It’s an ideal way to make acquaintances.

 

Family members are always up to the challenge of setting up their relatives with people among their circle of friends. In many cases, these blind dates work out really well. Though you might be hesitant to take that step, it might prove successful.

 

** Sign Up For Classes

 

Whether you go back to college or join some classes to begin a new hobby, this can serve many purposes aside from meeting new people. A lot of mature adults are going back to school to pursue degrees and considering second careers later in life.

 

If that’s not a goal that you have for yourself, taking up a hobby or pursuing an interest to enjoy in your spare time is a fantastic way to find a potential match.

 

Not only will you find pleasure in a new activity to add to your free time, but because the people you meet share these same interests, you’ll have great conversation starters. You can even take the lead by inviting new friends out for coffee after the class.

 

Other opportunities with the same concept are obtaining a part-time job working with other people or volunteering for an organization. Again, sharing something in common allows the opportunity to develop a friendship that can carry outside the professional capacity.

 

Something that people should not fear, whether you’re a man or woman, is taking the lead if you find someone charming and want to pursue that interest apart from class or work.

 

It’s fine when you’re friends with someone to invite them out as a way to see if you want to pursue something further. If they aren’t aware of your intentions or aren’t interested, you’ll stay friends. No harm, no foul. Further tips can be found when viewing this link.

 

Final Thought

 

It seems that the “aged” generation’s clocks are moving backward. This group of people is more daring, confident, and thriving than what some of the “younger” generations are, keeping the over 50 dating sites hopping.

 

A dilemma is, men and women of 20 or 30 want to date women or men 50s and beyond. The attraction for these people is they offer a spirit, a vitality, an assertiveness, and experience in life that makes them desirable partners. And the senior finds a renewed sense of excitement and sees the world in a new light. It’s just curious if these younger people are allowed on these niche sites.

 

In all seriousness, for those who do struggle with joining a site or who lack the confidence to get back out into the dating world, let your family and friends help you. It’s much nicer to meet someone new when you have the comfort of a close friend or family member beside you.

 

It’s a struggle after you’ve lived a life when that was all you knew, and now you’ve got to start from scratch (speaking from experience.) But it does get easier, and you do come to that point where it’s time, and you’re ready. Then, let the fun begin.

The Dating Game!

Dating Online
Its a tough old world out there being in the dating game. Us singles crew really do not get it easy out there. I am 26 years old and everyone always say to me “Awww do not worry, you will find someone good one day”, “You are only young stop worrying, have fun”.
It is safe to say that I have had every strange, unique and weird characters there is out there that have giving me some memorable situations to be in. No one can shock me now with dating with my experiences. I feel like everything that could go wrong i have definitely witnessed it all! But theirs no point in giving up or feeling sorry for yourself. You just got to dust yourself down and get yourself back out there. Mr right is waiting for me I just have to keep looking and kiss a few frogs to find him!
Look, working in an adult llifestyle center has it’s perks but it also open you up to a whole new world of ideas.
I thought i would share a couple of my memorable dates that have had happen to me to try show people that they are not the only ones out there with horror dating stories and to not get so put off as its memories and stories to tell the grand children one day and lets be serious we can all look back and have a good giggle about them.
The lovely old tinder and plenty of fish has a lot to answer for the majority of my top 6 worst dates. They have let me meet up with a lot of colourful characters. Surprisingly the only thing that has not happened to me yet is being stood up but am sure with my luck i have probably jinks my next date. As much as i have had some bad dates it has also opened up some doors to some lovely guys that just didn’t work for me but i have had some lovely conversations and company for the night.
Lets start back to my first ever POF date. It was an Irish man, handsome enough big fella with good banter to chat away to. We had a lovely lunch and left with a cuddle which was nice and simple for a first meeting. I never got much of a spark but thought lets not knock it straight away and maybe try to have a second date before cutting him off. Few days after he messaged me to tell me he was moving to my area, which before our date he had never even heard of or stepped foot in the area i lived. He also at that moment lived around 45 minutes away from me. So yeah was safe to say he started to get a little creepy after that. That weekend i had a girls night out in the city. He continued to harass my phone with constant messages on what i was doing, where i was going. After the 15th message i nicely asked him to leave me alone as i was on a night out and wanted to enjoy it. I had a fun night until 4 am in the morning when i was on the late night bus home and who do i find sitting in the front of the bus. Yep my new stalker!!! After that i blocked him on everything i could and luckily have never bumped into him again!
I went on one date with this next guy. He seem decent enough, not sleazy just a normal john doe. We went to put put indoor golf to just have a bit of fun. I managed to win both games and he went into a massive mood because i had beat him. When he finally got rid of his pouted lip we went for a frozen yogurt. He then decided to sit there and tell me his beliefs and what he didn’t think was right with this country. Now baring in mind I have only lived in Australia for 3 years at this point as i am from over seas. He also told me that his father was born in New Zealand, his mother was Dutch and his grandmother was English/German back ground. So he believed that cultures and countries should not be mixed together and it was wrong. Now I am sitting thinking is this dude for real!! Do not get me wrong am very laid back on peoples beliefs and opinions being their own.   I would never knock anyone on that but i couldn’t understand why he would bother dating me as i wasn’t born in this country and with his background being all mixed i just could not understand him at all. Another blocked and deleted after the first date.
I was starting to get a little bored with meeting the same people so thought i would get out of my comfort zone and start chatting with different people. This lead me to start chatting with an Italian guy. He had a bit of broken English when he typed but i thought ok lets see how this will go. He wanted to make the effort by getting an hour train to meet me so i thought that was a massive effort he was making. I started to chat away to him and he just had no clue what i was saying as i have a very strong accent. That meant any joke i made he just had no idea why i was laughing. It just turned out to be a very dull and awkward date unfortunately. We went to lunch and had a nice meal then went for a little walk about. Now you know people say Italians can eat, well i had never realised this until i meet him. He had ordered two plates on our lunch date and then after the walk he said he was still starving, Really have no clue how they were both massive plates. We managed to find a nearby pub to have a few drinks before he left.  He decided to ordered a family size bucket of chicken wings and totally demolished it in a couple of minutes. He was a total grub and had the sauce half way up his face. It made me want to enter him into eating competitions after watching that. We finally called it a day and were saying our goodbyes when he decided to go in like an octopus and try tongue my face. I kind of panic and put my hand up to my mouth and went “STOPPPP! I don’t kiss on first dates”. Poor guy looked mortified but it was just so inappropriate and bad timing in front of so many people. Guess he couldn’t tell the vibes that i was just not feeling it.
The thing that annoys me the most about online dating is that a few days can go past that your chatting away to someone and think yeah this is going quiet well then boom they just stop talking. Just nothing! Whats with that. Always wondered was it something i said or do they just get bored and move onto another person.
The next guy wasn’t an online man. This one i actually i got to meet in person at a club and he seem really keen to take me out on a date. I had only been here a couple of months and hadn’t really dated much before so thought it would be a great way to just get out and about. He was a little bit older than me so that was a bit intimating to start with. He also had to cancel my first date as he had fell off a roof and broke his arm. I thought this was just a crappy excuse until he set another date up and picked me up with his arm all wrapped up and in the sling. The nervous got the better of me for this date and made me loose my appetite. We went to order and he decided to order every starter i think was possible from the menu even though i had told him about five times already i wasn’t hungry and wouldn’t be able to eat any of it. The starters arrived and he spent 10 minutes trying to force me to eat something which made the date very uncomfortable. Started to feel bit strange like he was my father giving me into trouble for not eating my vegetables. We then got round to ordering our main meals. Now with my chat before i had told him i can’t stand fish, anything about it makes me feel sick and put off. So have a guess what he decided to order for his dinner….. Salmon!! Was safe to say at that moment there wasn’t going to be a goodbye kiss coming anywhere near me.
Had a few guys with fetishes i just couldn’t handle. Now each to your own, like what you like. But when you cant stand anything about feet, someone having a foot fetish just isn’t going to work for me. I had been talking to this guy for about a week but still hadn’t meet up yet thank god. He had been open about his foot fetish and yeah that should of been a red card for me but i explained to him that feet wasn’t ever going to be my thing. He rang me up one day and started to ask me about what would happen if i drove over his little small convertible car with a big 4×4 truck. I said well obviously your would be crushed. His reply was and this was with a very panting voice “Awwww yeah you would wouldn’t you”. It started to click that he also had a squashing fetish and i would say he was actually masturbating over the other side of the phone while i was answering back. Yep another one to be blocked and never to reply to again.
I could tell you so many more disappointing dates that have happened to you but don’t want to scare you off dating too much. Sometimes it can get hard and feel a little like a let down but each male has opened my eyes up to what i am looking for in a partner and what i am not. Not to mention gave all my friends some giggles along the way. Its all about learning to just relax and not take it too serious. Have some fun and explore whats out there. It also gave me so much more confidence with dating and brought me out my shell.
And if in doubt – don’t.  It may be better to stay at home and just play with some of your sex toys.