What’s Love Got To Do With It?

When was the last time you laid eyes on a person who made the butterflies in your stomach throw an impromptu party by jumping up and down like their lives depended on it? If you can’t remember, and yet you’re not single and consider yourself to be happily married or in a long-term relationship, the answer is probably – the last century. It was so long ago that even if you found yourself single and ready to mingle, you wouldn’t even know where to begin because back in the day no one in their right mind tried to find love online!

Sustaining a marriage or any sort of committed relationship takes plenty of patience, excellent communication skills, and an incredible amount of understanding.  So, what’s love got to do with it? Well, it’s a foundation, and it better be a solid one otherwise all the other ‘stories’ you build on it will come crashing down sooner or later. Today, we’re not here to discuss the foundation but would like to take a look at what it takes to maintain a relationship in this day and age when even the people have become disposable.

#1: The Art of Patience

Every relationship has its ups and downs, and it’s easy to enjoy the good times knowing a difficult period is behind you. But what do you do when you find yourself in the midst of challenging times where the future of your marriage is uncertain, and you definitely can’t predict what tomorrow will bring? Couples who stay together for decades have a common goal – to stay together for as long as they both shall live. This common goal is one of the key factors that helps each partner get through a tough period that threatens to break them up. This is anything but easy, and in most cases, time is the biggest ally because it heels wounds and eventually opens new doors, and it is patience that each partner must have for time to do its job, and bring their relationship back to normal.

#2:  Communication is Key

Getting your message across so that your partner can understand your point exactly is crucial for maintaining any kind of relationship, even long-term friendships. At the same time, listening intently and paying attention to your partner’s body language even when he or she is not talking goes a long way, especially if you take the opportunity to show them you’ve been paying attention when they least expect it. When you run into problems, talk to your partner when the emotions settle down instead of poking each other’s eyes out when you’re each at your wit’s end. Being prepared to compromise on your wishes and desires to include some of your partner’s as well ultimately leads to a happy and healthy life together.

#3: Putting Yourself in Someone Else’s Shoes

Having sympathy for someone is nice, but it won’t get you far. Having empathy and understanding someone else’s point of view means that two people are mature enough to be with each other. Children have extremely narrow points of view and aren’t capable of seeing the world through anyone else’s eyes but their own. As we grow older, we begin to understand that we don’t live on a remote island, are social creatures, and as such must take another person’s feelings, desires and beliefs into serious consideration. Otherwise, a very lonely existence awaits. Couples who are happy in their relationships for years and even decades have no problem putting their partner’s needs ahead of their own, and their partners are more than willing to reciprocate.

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Lighting Up My Lagging Libido With Keto

Eggplants having sex

The past few years I have gone through a few emotional and confidence rollercoasters, and this year has also come with its own challenges. I have never been a big girl, more along to the lines of curvy/chubby, and confidence tends to be a struggle of mine, as I see myself and am worried that I am bigger than I actually am. As well as this I also recently withheld from sex for almost a year which was cleansing at first but nearing the end it actually reduced my sex drive considerably.

I am unsure of when I crossed the line that sex became scary again, like it was something I had never done before, but I feel as though I am in fact doing things and experiencing things for the very first time again. This could be due to my confidence and a new partner or the fact it’s been such a long time. I decided to look at both aspects and how they work with each other and if diet does affect libido, I have never eaten badly although working shift work has had me consuming more carbs than I normally would. I have always struggled with my sleep, it takes me hours to actually fall asleep and when I do I constantly wake up, sleeping tablets for me are not an option I don’t want to fall back into the cycle of prescription medication if I can help it. Another hurdle is my depression and anxiety constantly rearing its ugly and consuming head, I thought there has to be a better option than just medication that makes you numb.

So, after some research I have come up with a plan of attack to knock out all my worries with one solution I plan to lose weight, sleep better, have a happier mind, and increase my sex drive! I have decided to look at my health, lifestyle, body and mind, and so I am discovering the world of ketosis!

Eating healthy for better sex
Image: Food for better sex

Transitioning your diet from carbs to fat is a game changer if all the reviews are true to their word, but will a ketogenic diet cause my sex drive to plummet or is it the ultimate secret to a better sex life? I want to focus on how life choices with diet, exercise, sleep and confidence impact libido. For me this will be the start of a 30-day journey

First things first I want to explain how dietary fat and sex hormones are connected, it’s surprising to learn that there is even a connection between the two, now here’s something to rock your world, high fat diets lead to an increase in estrogen! A small study found a significant difference in the estrogen levels in women who ate a low-fat diet compared to women who had higher fat diets.  Low levels of estrogen can lead to a lower sex drive and some symptoms such as vaginal dryness and interferences in both your sleep and your mood.

Already I am excited for the next 30 days and I haven’t even started yet!

A little background into the world of hormones and just how they work particularly estradiol and testosterone. The main job of estradiol is to develop the female sex hormone but it’s also has a key role in fat distribution and sexual desire. Who would have guessed that the hormone in charge of our sexual desires was also the one that helps us move fat around our body? As for testosterone although typically seen as a male hormone it is just as important in females, as it helps to produce estrogen, it also impacts the libido. As we females age our hormones have a natural decrease so the last thing we want to do is add to that decrease with the diets we put our bodies through by going low fat instead of low carb!

Did you know that high fat diets can improve testosterone in men! Drops in testosterone can lead to low sex drive and erectile dysfunction as well as a drop-in energy, muscles and hair loss! Some men can also gain weight specifically in the chest area which leads to gynecomastia commonly known as “man boobs”.

All this proves that the fat you eat actually makes a difference in your sex hormones and libido. However, I’m not saying to pick up your closest donut or deep-fried treats those are trans fats and they too can reduce sex drive in both men and women. Trans fats can cause abnormal sperm production in men and women may have trouble with gestation.

Its monounsaturated and polyunsaturated fats that you want to focus on that can improve your sex drive, help you to lose weight and also make your mind happier.

My aim in this journey is to concentrate on my confidence and sex drive. The extra weight I will lose will be a bonus! When you look good you feel good!

When you’re a close fit and a little snugger, this not only causes insecurities on the inside but also affects your sexual confidence in the bedroom and you’re less likely to be in the mood especially when you have to bare it all.

Keto is a high healthy fat, moderate protein and low carb diet that tackles all the issues in one go. Losing weight is only the start of the journey. Keto will help improve your hormone’s natural balance and increase your sex drive which your partner will be thanking their lucky stars for because your confidence in the bedroom will sky rocket!

Food for a better sex drive

Food is your best friend with the keto diet and these 11 health foods will help boost your sex drive for men and women!

Keto diet for sexual arousal
Image: Keto diet
  • Blackberries
  • Blueberries
  • Broccoli
  • Dark chocolate (as close to 100% cacao to be low carb)
  • Eggs
  • Pumpkin seeds
  • Salmon
  • Sardines
  • Spinach
  • Steak
  • Tuna

Food that negatively impacts the sex drive

If you’re wondering about the foods that cause your sex drive to decline, then these are the foods to avoid or limit.

  • Dairy
  • Processed foods
  • Sugary drinks
  • High carb food especially food that has been fried

Do you want to improve your sex drive?

Well, what are you waiting for! Come on this journey with me! If you’re new to the keto way of life you will need to give your sex drive some time. But by reducing your alcohol consumption, increasing your healthy fat intake by adding those 11 libido-boosting foods that I mentioned before into your meals and also lowing your carb intake you will be on the path for orgasmic results! The initial stages are always the hardest but keep in your mind the advantages of the end goal to push you through, so don’t kiss your sex drive and confidence goodbye put a little kick in your step and start your keto journey! I’ll be back soon with my results! There is also a wide range of adult products for better sex to help in the mean time!

Morgan x

Author: Morgan is a consultant from Oh Zone Adult Lifestyle Centres

Sex In Public!

Couple Embracing in Photo

Sex Can Become A Chore

When we put a location to the word sex, automatically our minds gravitate towards a mental image of a bed. Single, double, queen or king sized, could even be a bunk bed. What happens when you’ve been in a relationship for a few years, and you’re sick of the same missionary position, the same routine when he begins to kiss you then moves to your neck and then all of a sudden, 5 minutes later he’s finished while you guys were in the same old missionary position.

Sex can become a chore and this will defiantly lead to a decline in a lot of areas In you’re life. When your bedroom life starts to get stale, you need to think of ways to spice things up. Your house is where you spend the majority of your life and it needs constant work. There’s always bathrooms to clean, washing to do, beds to make, dishes to clean and then, once you have done all of that – you might get to enjoy some solid sex in your bed with the same position, the same surroundings, wearing the same clothes that your normally do.

Toilet Sex
Sex In Public

Although it has not been scientifically proven I believe you’re sex life directly affects every other aspect in you’re life on either a positive or negative level. It sets the tone for you’re mood and you’re though process. If you’re having a great sex you will notice that everything else around you will be positively uplifted from these experiences, especially you’re relationship with you’re partner. So how do you change you’re boring routine of pretty much going from missionary to doggy style without any ques from you’re partner because you’ve become so used to his/her sexual patterns?

1 word. Spontaneity which is:

“Happening or done in a natural, often sudden way, without any planning or without being forced”

So that’s what spontaneous means but how can we apply this to our sex life? Well its not that hard. It’s all about switching up the location. Location is the key to spontaneous sex! This is because most couples are used to having sex on a mattress so the thrill of having sex in different places not only heightens the orgasm but increases the sensation for both partners because it takes them both to a new place in their sexual mind. Their sexual mind expands. Changing the place of where you have sex with your partner can change things for the better and make you more adventurous.

With most couples having kids generally a few years into there relationship, this can fizzle out their sex life. There are a lot of places in the house that you can use to have fun and mix up you’re sex life. For example the kitchen sink, dinner table, lounge, the shower (where you can utilize some Bathmate products, for example the handles and foot rest), the backyard, veranda (if you’re home has one). Why  not add a decent vibrator? These are some of the places that you can use it in the house without leaving for example if you have kids. Although some of these places are hard to do various positions, some universal positions that could be used are doggy style, legs wrapped around the waist (if leaning on bench or table) and lifting and raising up against a wall (requires a lot of upper body strength).

Now of course if you are a young couple, sometimes home is unavailable to be used as a sexual hub, however there are a lot of places you can go and things you can do that will not only heighten you’re adrenaline but also you’re pleasure with spontaneity. For example; having sex in a new venue can bring a whole new world of experience. Take for example having sex with your partner in an elevator. This is perhaps the most adventurous place where you can do it provided you don’t get caught. Public restrooms are great places to start off with foreplay and possibly get into action once you find a rest room that is unoccupied.  What about in the office? After your boss and colleagues have called it a day and gone home, the sexual is the most exciting place to fulfill your sexual fantasies provided you are careful not to be locked in the office or get caught.

Have Sex Under The Harbour Bridge

Especially if you’re younger and still living at home, you may need to consider being adventurous in order to keep things going and more so if you can’t afford to get a cheap hotel room for the night. Whilst it’s perfectly fun to have some adventurous fun, you do need to be respectful and mindful of your surroundings. Having sex in a park surrounded by children is not ideal, and it’s really not okay to do things like that. So long as you’re aware and mindful of your surroundings, as well as the time frame there is nothing wrong with some harmless outdoor fun. There’s some amazing stories out there from sex underneath the Harbour Bridge, to Blow Jobs on mountain trails with beautiful panoramic views – the world is your oyster and it’s certainly an awesome way to get some nature back into your lives. You could even consider going camping, and having a playful romp in the middle of nowhere underneath the stars. Or, a quickie in a deserted underground car park late at night (watch out for the cameras!) Secluded rooftops are also an amazing place of having sex as well as on the road or in the swimming pool. The common thing about all these venues is that they are able to spice and liven up your dying and dull sex life.

Can you instantly recall a few places outside the bedroom where you’ve had sex? Late night industrial area carpark, play equipment at the local park, on the train, the end of the pier in Darling Harbour overlooking the city, a flight to Brisbane, on the highway coming back from Newcastle, in the car on the way to Canberra, the change room at Ralph Lauren in Myer or just parking at the end of a dirt road. I can recall all these places instantly off the top of my head. Why? Because they were wild, and exciting, the sex might not actually have been that phenonomal but they were certainly memorable just for the fact it was sex outside the bedroom. The thrill of being caught, the delight of being wickedly naughty, the open breeze against your skin, the giggles as you struggle to maintain a position in a tight spot both passionately and discreetly. Can you instantly recall the times you’ve had sex in the bedroom? Probably not, aside from a few sensational moments. Public Sex is fun. If you’re stuck for ideas, try it for yourself.
Couple Having Sex in Car
Photo: Public Sex in Car

Here we have listed some of our favourite public locations to have sex:

 

About the Author:  AJ is a sales consultant at the Oh Zone Store, Caringbah.

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